Slumber Parties

Feb 11, 2020 · 68 comments
Connor McAuliffe Block 4 (Hoggard High School)
Unfortunately, I was never invited to slumber parties and I never had many friends when I was younger so I've never been to one. BUT instead of friends, once a year my cousins come to visit or we visit them for around 2 weeks in the summer. We are like best friends because we are all in the same age group and we have had a sleepover every night since I was a toddler probably. One of my favorite memories was when the parents were out doing something our oldest cousin watched over us and when they came back we were supposed to be asleep but we couldn’t really sleep so we snuck out and grabbed little doughnuts except for one cousin who was snoring and sleeping. The parents caught us up and we claimed we couldn’t sleep because the cousin was snoring too loud and since then sleepovers have still been amazing and I'm ok with the fact that nobody invites me to sleepovers because I always have my cousins sleepovers to look forward to.
Sydney Pugh (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
One of my favorite parts of childhood were sleepovers. They used to be the big event, the thing I would lose a night of sleep for just because I was so thrilled for the event to arrive. I’d lay in bed thinking of what I was going to pack, the games we were going to play, when we would huddle around and share secrets with each other. My best friends were practically my family, and spending time together meant the world to me. Some of my best memories come from those sleep overs, and I wouldn’t trade the world to erase those memories of mine. Unfortunately, all good things must change, and as we grew older sleepovers didn’t have the same thrill as they used to. We were teenagers now, and after years of seeing each other everyday, and spending every waking second we all could together the words left to say were growing quite few. Rather than making memories, all we could do was reminisce about the ones already created until there were few left to reminisce about.
Connor McAuliffe Block 4 (Hoggard High School)
@Sydney Pugh I understand how sleepovers can be boring after some time. You just have to become creative sometimes and it changes the entire dynamic of the sleepover.
Mya Ferguson (Hoggard High School, in Wilmington NC)
I think that sleepovers can be very fun but they can also be very unentertaining. Sometimes it depends on the number of people that you ave at a sleepover. When you have three people at a sleepover, it's very easy for one person to feel left out. So in order to have the best sleepover possible, just make sure everyone feels included.
Mya Ferguson (Hoggard High School, in Wilmington NC)
I believe that sleepovers can be super fun, but also super unentertaining. Depending on how many people you have at a sleepover, things can go south very quickly. If there were to be three people at a sleepover, one person might feel left out. In order to make a sleepover successful, you ave to make sure everyone feels included.
Paul Macdonald (Hoggard High School in Wilmington,NC)
Sleepovers is personally one of the best ways to grow closer with your friend/friends. You spend a lot of time with let's say a few friends and the way you can grow so close so fast is because if you’re just sitting in your room and you’re not doing anything, it takes second to spark up conversations and its interesting cause all of one deep conversation you learn a lot more of their life experience and wisdom as well as maturity which off of your own personal preference, can be very helpful when growing closer with your friends and sleepovers portray exactly that factor. But even beside that fact your with friends for probably the whole day so making memories based off of whatever you do can be such a great experience. Not to mention I've had some friends who’ve struggled socially and to be laughing having a good time with those friends, seeing it front hand is such an awesome thing to see cause you're seeing a positive change in someone's life and thats what I love about sleepovers and I think no matter the age its memories like that you make from them that you can always look back at.
Hannah Krier (Hoggard High School , Wilmington , NC)
I still enjoy sleepovers. I think they are a good way of making a closer bond with our friends. I do think that sleepovers lose their value when you get into your teen years. When I was younger it was a big deal to spend the night at others peoples homes and now its just a thing that is normal to me. Now that i'm 16, my favorite thing about sleepovers is getting to stay up late and talk with my friends and watch movies. I will always enjoy being able to have sleepovers even when I get older.
Ashlyn Barnes (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
I still find sleepovers really fun. It's a good way to get together with all your friends and talk about everything and catch up on what's happening. I like sleepovers because when I started high school, my friends and I got split up and had to go to different schools which was really hard because the school we went to was elementary through middle school so we had been friends for over ten years. So when we started high school we had sleepovers almost every weekend to stay in touch and talk about our schools and how our lives are going and we have fun like we were never apart. That's why I think sleepovers are so good no matter how old you are.
Cole Noberini (Hoggard High school in Wilmington, NC)
Sleepovers are great. I remember the excitement I felt when my parents mentioned the word. I mean, how could you not? It’s a play-date, but three times longer and you can stay up all night long messing around and getting sick from eating too much candy. Even today I like sleepovers. Me and my friends like to play a game called Jackbox, which is basically a bunch of party games on the T.V (there’s no alcohol) that make us laugh for hours. We also mess around and sometimes play games outside like manhunt and hide and go seek. It’s also a good time to talk about things you wouldn’t normally talk about to people. Sometimes it’s fun and a good thing to talk about stuff with your friends. I have lots of great memories from sleepovers and I don’t feel like stopping anytime soon.
Mia Kennedy (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
Wow. Sleepovers. I guess I just never really thought about them too much. I mean I have sleepovers with my friends quite often, they’re so fun! I love sleepovers because for me personally, that’s making our bond closer. It means a lot to me at least. It means I’m comfortable around you. As a child I struggled to sleep out sometimes because I didn’t want to be away from my family. I’m not like that anymore. I mean yes of course I love my family but I can have sleepovers with friends and not be sad because I want to go home. During sleepovers, my friends and I talk and watch movies. Sometimes we bake or cook other times we order food out or buy it at the grocery store. I always have fun with my friends at sleepovers.
Laura Arbona (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
I still remember my first sleepover. I was in the fourth grade and my best friend decided that instead of a regular birthday party, she would invite a few people over to her house to spend the night. I, of course, was thrilled. I thought that I finally had the chance to prove to my parents that I was mature. The date for my friend’s sleepover was drawing nearer and it seemed as though every few days one of the girls invited would suddenly cancel. This happened for a while until I was the only girl, out of the 8 that my friend invited, that was actually attending her party. The day of the party, however, I got all nervous, freaked out, and then ended up cancelling too. I didn’t talk to her for weeks after the incident because I was so embarrassed at having bailed on her without a good reason as to why. My friend and I worked it out though, and we’re still pretty close to this day. After that, however, my love of sleep overs dwindled down to a somewhat apathetic/apprehensive feeling. I have managed to attend various sleep overs throughout the years, but I’ll never forget the horror of my somewhat first one. I definitely prefer them now, as opposed to when I was still in elementary school, because there’s a bigger variety of activities available for us to do. The last sleep over I went to we ended up walking to a strip-mall nearby and buying coffee (which I’m surprised my mom allowed me to do now) and walked around her neighborhood.
Kamila Irsalieva (hoggard high school in Wilmington, NC)
I really do enjoy sleepovers with my friends. I think that on sleepover you can get closer to the person even if you know them for a long time. Sleepovers are always fun as long as you not just sit in front of each other having a phone in your hands. I personally prefer to be with people most of the time so I like any option which somehow connected to the idea of being with people. The best way you can improve relationships with your friends is spending more time with them. Usually most of the best memories I have are happened on sleepovers. Especially the time between 2am-4am. A lot of interesting things happening this period of time:))
Michael Rossi (Glen Ellyn)
Sleepovers back in the day were the best. The elementary days and middle school days were the prime of sleepovers. As you get older in my opinion I like to be in my house in my bed doing what I want until I go to sleep. The thought of a sleepover with my friends at this age is always great but when it actually happens I always wanna be in my bed. At sleepovers you don’t have all the freedoms you do at your house, especially when it comes down to going to sleep. Sometimes at a sleepover everyone wants to stay up late and party and stuff while you might have had a long tiring day and want to go to bed. Sleepovers as a kid were the best but as you get older things change.
Victoria Fey (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
@Michael Rossi I completely agree, while sleepovers are fun, sometimes you just want to be by yourself or go to bed early, especially with how much busier our lives are now than they were in elementary and middle school
Kaydence Jusseaume (Orlando, Fl)
I have always enjoyed slumber parties and I probably always will if I am being honest. My first sleepover was when I was eight years old because my mom was extremely hesitant on letting me go over to anybody's house overnight at an age any younger than that. Luckily, it was a very good experience, as it was one of best friends birthday and I knew everyone there which made me feel more comfortable and positive about my first sleepover experience. Since then I have had a countless number of sleepovers mainly with my closest friends, which is probably why I have had such great experiences with slumber parties. Some of the things that I have done at sleepovers are pretty generic and basic like, watching movies, talking, playing games, and putting on makeup and painting each others nails. I feel like having sleepovers have brought me closer to my best friends and other potential friends. Also, people who don't like or haven't had sleepovers should try them out because I feel like it's a good way to involve yourself socially.
Malachi Clark (Glenbard West HS, Glen Ellyn, IL)
Reflecting back as a kid, sleepovers meant that I could stay up until 3 am, eating snacks, watching tv, and playing games with friends. Now, sleepovers mean that me and my friends don’t have to drive home at 2am and can spend the night binge watching “You” after a hockey game. There’s no major difference in how sleepovers developed in my life but they seem to have kept prevalence while growing up. Most of my memories with friends branches from these moments so I appreciate what sleepovers meant in my adolescence.
Matalin Bloomfield (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
I have so many warm, comforting memories that occurred at slumber parties. Watching Clueless and gorging ourselves on Swedish Fish. Trying not to fall asleep in an armchair while sharing stories. Building a fort with twinkle lights. Playing hide and seek in the dark. Staying up all night and watching the sunrise. However, I've also had a few negative sleepover experiences. One of my friend groups had an urge to gossip about people from our ballet studio. They would play a game called "Guess Who", in which they would say derogatory things about someone they disliked as the others tried to pinpoint who they were mimicking. I was never one to join in in these kinds of attacks, but it was easy to get pulled into the drama at that age. I knew that I didn't want to be that kind of person, so I began to disassociate myself from them. I'm sure I became a short-term target in my absence, but I know I made the right choice. I still have great memories of those girls, but I think it's important to watch what you do, even in private. Remember that what you say, no matter who you're sharing it with reflects as a part of your personality. Don't tear someone else down to make yourself feel better.
Olivia Tank (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
I absolutely adored slumber parties as a kid, and I still love them to this day. Any utterance of a “sleepover” and I was immediately filled with anticipation and excitement. Even as a child I was extremely busy, so I valued every bit of precious time devoted to friends. With a sleepover, there is far more time to take advantage of and endless possibilities for the night’s plans. Leaving time to drive home and eat dinner elsewhere wasn’t an issue, so we could play until bedtime. Often we would start with some games outside and in the surrounding areas. Games of “extreme hide-and-seek tag” were a personal favorite. I think the best bonding I ever had was with my friends late at night while watching our third movie that was getting a bit boring or in hushed whispers when we were supposed to be asleep. As a teenager, I don’t play outside as much, but we still have our moments reflecting the child still in us. We’ll spend hours perfecting a ridiculous dance that we made just for the fun of it. We’ll laugh at ourselves as we slowly say sillier and sillier things as we get more and more tired. We still stay up late far past we should, watching movies we’re only half paying attention to. We still share those barely audible conversations when we should be fast asleep. I certainly think these slumber parties brought my friends and I closer and continue to to this day.
Skye Solomon (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
Sleepovers. When you were a kid, slumber parties were an amazing thing. Staying up past your bedtime, eating all the junk food you want, and hiding with your friends from their parents in the morning when they came to pick them up. Sleepovers have changed drastically since then, but they haven’t become any less enjoyable. My friends and I still stay up all night, but that now means at least until 3 AM. In that time we watch tv shows together, play all kinds of games, take pictures, and talk about literally anything. Sleepovers are one of my favorite ways to relax with friends, and even if we run out of things to do, as long as I’m with them it’s never boring. And now that we are mostly old enough to drive, there are even more options for our late night fun.
Hope Heinrichs (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
@Skye Solomon, I wish I was able to enjoy slumber parties as a kid. My parents were super protective, and my options for a slumber party were limited. In my younger days, the closest I ever got was sleeping over at my grandparent's house. But in all honesty, I despised sleeping over with a passion. I would always end up calling my parents to tell them I wanted them to pick me up. As I've grown older, I do love a good slumber party. Though I've never made it to three am, I enjoy playing games with my friends and just chilling. It's a great way to create a bond with people because you can always say, "Oh yeah, remember that time..." You made a good point that driving opens up the floor for ways to have a good time.
Mia Kennedy (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
@Skye Solomon I love how you described sleepovers and honestly mine are just like that! It's so fun to just relax with your close friends and talk about anything without it getting boring. Having our licenses makes it 10X more fun because we're able to make late night runs to wherever we want!
Lyss Resendiz (Glenbard West HS, Glen Ellyn)
As a teenager, I still enjoy sleep overs with my friends. It’s a pass from curfew, getting to watch movies until 12 instead of needing to be home at 9. It’s dodging that sleepy drive home, and getting to swaddle yourself in big blankets in a cold blanket watching Disney movies. It allows the perfect time to allow the dumb games or things you want to try, ie. Bloody Mary in the mirror, trying to stack on each other’s lap in a square (you know, where nobody is carrying all the weight?) It’s getting breakfast in the morning together, and getting those extra hours in seemingly short weekends.
Mya Ferguson (Hoggard High School, in Wilmington NC)
@Lyss Resendiz I love what you said about weekends seeming longer with sleepovers. I never really noticed that when I’m with my friends, the fun seems to stretch out the time. Really focusing on your time with your friends or family can make life’s moments so much more important.
Jessica Griffin (Glenbard West HS Glen Ellyn, IL)
As a kid, sleepovers meant staying up past your bed time, getting to hang out with you friend longer than your parents would've ever allowed, and telling your friends your deepest darkest secrets, which were always silly things like how your crush waved back to you at recess. My favorite memory as a kid was when my friend and I spent over 48 hours together: we had two sleepovers, one at each of our houses. While the idea of having a slumber parties in high school sounds silly, I am still fond of talking with my friends well into the night and watching our favorite movies. Also, they're so much more fun to plan than a simple hang out, as you can make dinner and breakfast together, and you know you have time to do anything and everything you could think of. This past weekend my friends and I had a sleepover, and for dinner we had a potluck. However, none of us are master chefs, so my one friend brought sandwiches from Jimmy Johns while the rest of us each brought a dessert. After a sleepover, I always feel like my bond with my friends is even stronger, and it's scientifically proven that if you fall asleep near another person, you feel closer to them. Maybe it's because of this, or the endless memories I've made over the years - painting nails, baking, making up dances, and more - that I have will forever love having sleepovers.
Grace Robertson (Hoggard High School Wilmington, NC)
@Jessica Griffin I totally get what you're saying. When we were younger, we would play games of pretend in the yard until dark, eat dinner together, and then stay up so so so late (midnight, maybe) giggling about that recess crush you mentioned. Now the whole experience is different, but also not. Now we come home, eat a ton of crap, possibly play Wii games from 2011, watch chick-flicks, and talk about anything, anywhere. Sometimes what we say are crazy things that give birth to permanent inside jokes, other times it's the deep stuff people magically open up about almost exclusively at 3 AM. The same anticipation is there, and I can't help but think that feeling will cause me to continue to have sleepovers with my close friends, even when I'm an adult; the thought that anyone could outgrow these kinds of experiences is silly. These experiences not only make me smile as I record the memories here, but I know they've brought me closer to the people I've had these nights with.
Thomas-Shadi (Glenbard West HS Glen Ellyn, IL)
I never had any sleepovers as a kid. My parents just didn't let me. I think it was because they didn't trust me to be by myself in someone else's house. But, earlier this year when I asked if I could sleepover at a friend's house my mom actually said yes. I was extremely surprised because this had never happened before. I think we did typical sleepover things. We played Mario Party and Super Smash Bros on the Nintendo switch and some board games as well. We stayed up super late and ate breakfast in the morning. For my first sleepover, I really enjoyed it. I don’t know if we forged stronger bonds as friends but we all had a fun time.
Reilly Johnson (Hoggard High School, Wilmington, NC)
@Thomas-Shadi Sometimes I wish that my parents could be reminded about all the good times they had at sleepovers and with their friends. Many parents have this idea that sleepovers are a privilege and you have to deserve them, at least my parents believe that. Being with my friends is when I am the happiest and enjoy life more. I think this article would be very beneficial for parents to read, so that they can see a different perspective about friendships and sleepovers. Some parents don’t seem too informed about the benefits that come from being with your friends, even if you are playing video games or watching a movie together. Many adults seem to focus on the fact that teens aren’t going outside and being active, but they ignore the fact that we are laughing and socializing with each other, which is something that all parents want for their children- to be happy and have good relationships.
Maeve (Glenbard West HS, Glen Ellyn IL)
All throughout my childhood I enjoyed a having sleepovers with my friends. However, as I grew up my parents began to say “no” whenever I asked to stay at a friends house. I was confused as to why because I had never done anything to betray or lose their trust. I loved sleepovers because of the new memories I would make with every friend. But, now that I am older I can see where my parents were coming from. They didn’t like the idea of me staying up all night watching movies in front of a screen and not getting any sleep, which is definitely understandable. So, now I only have occasional sleepovers which actually makes them more enjoyable because it is not an every weekend type thing.
Ani (Glenbard West High School)
Where to begin?! I’ve always loved sleepovers and for the past three or four years I’ve had a ‘slumber party’ birthday. There’s really no bonding quite like getting buzzed on sugar and getting slap-happy with exhaustion with your friends. No matter how close you are with a group of friends, sleepovers are a sure fire way to really open up around them. I have so many spectacular memories from sleepovers and it’s always worth the sleepy hangover the next day.
Jack (Glenbard West High School, IL)
I do enjoy Sleeping over but at the same time I don’t enjoy sleep overs. The reason why I don’t enjoy sleep overs is mainly because I miss my bed, I’m the most comfortable sleeping in my bed then sleeping on someone else’s bed. I enjoy sleep overs because they are fun and random
Kate M (Glenbard west high school Glen Ellyn)
While I do enjoy the occasional sleepover and the fun memories that come with them, as I’ve gotten older I’ve come to enjoy them less. The staying up as late as possible and waking up super early is too draining, and I always find myself suffering from exhaustion the next few days. I love spending the priceless time with my friends but sometimes I wonder if the fatigue is worth it. Sleepovers are also unappealing to me as I tend to fall asleep the earliest and suffer from the ruckus of my friends as I try to sleep. And even though now I tend to skip out on sleepovers, I appreciate the memories made having sleepovers when I was younger.
Debbie R (Glenbard West)
I love when I am able to have sleepovers with my friends. I started having sleepovers back when I was in middle school and have continued to have them up until high school. Every sleepover is different, but most times it just leads to having interesting conversations and just relaxing with each other. Now since I’m older, we have more freedom so we tend to go out and do something fun and then come back together to someone’s house where we eat and stay up late. I believe sleepovers are very fun but also relaxing and is a great way to spend time with friends. It is harder now because of everyones’ busy schedules but my friends and I usually make it work.
Stacia Gregule (Glenbard West High School Glen Ellyn IL)
I absolutely love slumber parties (though for the remainder of this response I will be calling them sleepovers). A fairly common occurrence i would say that for the past 5 years I have been pretty consistently having AT LEAST 1 sleepover a month. At the Jr. High level it was almost as often as once a week that I was begging my mom to spend the night at a friends house or begging her to let my friends spend the night at mine. As we all get older and our schedules got busier, obviously the availability for a sleepover became more and more limited, now I am lucky and ecstatic if I get to spend a whole night with my friends once a month. At sleepovers everyone is different, but there is no doubt that they bring you and your friends closer together. Starting the night fairly sane theres always a sense of “cmon guys lets like actually do something” and everyone replied “okay what?” And no doubt that person will reply with “Idk”. Most commonly it results in a card game similar to “Cards Against Humanity” or “ For the girls” theres bound to be some game that invokes some fun.
Stacia Gregule (Glenbard West High School Glen Ellyn IL)
@Stacia Gregule As the night progresses the sanity levels drop and around midnight everyone starts to get extremely talkative and giggly, immense amounts of junk food are likely to already be consumed and its pretty much guaranteed that someone has almost peed their pants and 50% of attendees have used the bathroom with the door open and still talking to the rest of the group. Overall around 3 am theres not an ounce of sanity left and everyone makes their way to bed. By 5 am everyone is bound to be asleep or almost asleep, but still the ridiculously crazy memories will live on and on and on and stories will be told over and over and over cause there is never a dull moment when you are with some of your best friends.
Caleb Moorhead (Glenbard West HS Glen Ellyn Illinois)
Sleepovers are rare for me and my friends because of all of your busy schedules, but when they have them it is a time where we can relax, talk, and do dumb stuff. Me and my friends normally get together for the night, get some food, then do what ever we want. We have freedom, causing us to feel relaxed, but also excited to do stuff. These are my favorite memories I have had as a kid and still having as a teenager. I hope to be able to get together with my friends for a sleepover every weekend, but this tends to not be able to happen because of school and sports.
Isaiah Chavez (Lubbock, TX)
Sleepovers are one of the best things that I can remember with friends. It is a time to grow bonds and create a brotherhood with each other. My favorite times were getting pizza, a ton of snacks and drinks, and playing video games late into the night. I feel like i have no worries when I’m with friends at a sleepover. The only thing I’m worried about is when my next turn is fro the game, or when the pizza will be there. All in all, sleepovers create such good friendships and spending time with the people that make you happy.
Dave (Glenbard West HS Glen Ellyn, IL)
Sleepovers are one of my favorite things to do with my friends, something about the slow progression into chaos as everyone starts to suffer from fatigue induced slap-happiness makes me feel so much closer to them. Even when I was first starting to become part of a new friend group, and I was scared of being too weird or annoying, having sleepovers where everyone was tired and giddy made opening up to them so much easier. Now I feel so much closer to them, and despite the fact that they all left for college, we still make plans to see each other during breaks. When I’m with my friends I want to spend as much time with them as I can, and having a sleepover means we have so much more time to hang out and bond.
Faith Beene (Lubbock Cooper High School)
As much as I hate that my first instinct when someone says ‘sleepover’ is to squeal and jump up and down, it’s the truth. Now, I don’t know what other friend groups do at sleepovers, but my two best friends and I tend to have a fun time at these events-in ways you wouldn’t expect. We tend to start off our night with a movie: either one that we haven’t seen but are dying to watch or one we’ve seen a thousand times that we can quote by memory. Then Brooklin makes coffee and does somebody’s makeup, Brynnan takes a power nap and then plays with a ball for the next hour, and I eat many snacks and laugh at absolutely everything. By the end of our night, we’re huddled in blankets, talking about the meaning of life, how ancient this one teacher must be, the last time we cried, and whose personality is similar to toast. Finally, at different times, my best friends and I fall asleep surrounded by trash, some weird sound, and most importantly-each other.
Ema Thorakkal (Glenbard West HS IL)
When I was younger, I was only allowed to have slumber parties over the summer. This was a way to waste time and have a blast with your friends. I enjoy having sleepovers now rather than when I was a kid, because it is a way to bond with friends even more. With the busy life students are experiencing due to the amount of school work and stress, it is a nice break from their chaotic life. It is a chance to enjoy yourself again with friends, and empty your mind from all the activities in your life. I think sleepovers have brought me and my friends closer because it gives us a lot more memories fo look back on when we just sit back and think about our friendship and how far we have come.
Madalynn Larson (Hoggard High School in Wilmington,NC)
When I was younger I used to love having sleepovers. We would always have games to play and were so carefree. As I am getting older I still enjoy the thought of having sleepovers, yet I don't necessarily want to do them. When I'm having a sleepover at somebody's house I always have fun until it comes to the part where we actually sleep. We talk, dance, watch tv, eat food, try scary games and do most things you'd expect from a teenage girl. I've never been able to get comfortable when in bed and my friends always want to stay up late even though there's nothing to do. Then after i've finally fallen asleep and get up i have to be back at my house by 11 and no later. So basically i like the build up to the sleep over but not the actual “sleeping-over” part.
Laura Arbona (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
@Madalynn Larson I totally agree with you! The "hanging out" part of the sleepover has always been, in my opinion, more appealing than the "sleeping" part. Something always seems to go wrong just as you're about to finally fall asleep. Whether the air mattress you're resting on is deflating throughout the night or the sushi you ate earlier in the day decides to make a reappearance, I've never made it through a sleepover unscathed. It's gotten to the point where I'd rather not leave the comfort of my room at all.
Cole Noberini (Hoggard High school in Wilmington, NC)
@Laura Arbona Even though that is true, isn't it all part of the experience? I personally think that you shouldn't look at all the negative parts of a sleepover, the good ones are what matter the most. Now's the time to make memories with your friends. So don't give up on sleepovers!
Alexander Jacaruso (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
Every weekend, either Friday or Saturday, the boys get together to party all night. It seems that every weekend is something new. We go from hanging out with girls to playing video games. Even sometimes playing video games with the girls. We keep ourselves occupied playing basketball at 2 a.m. at a nearby school playing 2 on 2 and H.O.R.S.E. I wouldn’t trade these nights for the world. Being with the boys is he only thing that gets through the 5 days of the week that we have to go through the pain and struggle of school.
Faith Beene (Lubbock Cooper High School)
As much as I hate that my first instinct when someone says ‘sleepover’ is to squeal and jump up and down, it’s the truth. Now, I don’t know what other friend groups do at sleepovers, but my two best friends and I tend to have a fun time at these events-in ways you wouldn’t expect. We tend to start off our night with a movie: either one that we haven’t seen but are dying to watch or one we’ve seen a thousand times that we can quote by memory. Then Brooklin makes coffee and does somebody’s makeup, Brynnan takes a power nap and then plays with a ball for the next hour, and I eat many snacks and laugh at absolutely everything. By the end of our night, we’re huddled in blankets, talking about the meaning of life, how ancient this one teacher must be, the last time we cried, and whose personality is similar to toast. Finally, at different times, my best friends and I fall asleep surrounded by trash, some weird sound, and most importantly-each other.
Soen McCormick (Hoggard High School in Wilmington,NC)
Saturdays are for the boys. It's statistically proven. Every Saturday my friends and I hangout and we tend to walk around and have a good night. One time, we climbed onto this ladder that's on the back of books-a-million and chilled out at the top of the building. We had the cops called on us but that only made the night more exciting. After that we went to Harris Teeter and bought a bunch of coke and mentos and went to the back of the supermarket to launch them into space. It was so much fun we even attracted some random guys in their car to stop and watch is shoot these rockets into space. After that, we headed home and talked about deep conversations. We try to pull all nighters, but we usually fall asleep after we eat and drink everything. Life would be a lot less happy if I didn't have these Saturdays with the boys.
Alexander Jacaruso (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
@Soen McCormick Saturdays are for the boys and Soen you have made great points in this comment. I applaud your bravery in telling us what you indulge in on Saturday nights.
Victoria Fey (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
When I was little, sleepovers were the biggest deal, and everyone would always have at least 5 girls sleepover, and there would be lots of games, the parents would be super involved, and we were usually asleep before midnight. Now that we're in high school and we have a bit more freedom, sleepovers are so much more fun. I usually just invite 2 of my closest friends to sleep over and we'll hang out, sometimes make our own dinner (which is always interesting), gossip, watch our favorite TV shows or movies, and then we'll talk for hours about anything and everything, which is my favorite part about sleepovers. Talking to people after midnight unlocks a whole other side of them and the conversations we have are always so interesting. I love sleepovers because they give me and my friends a way to be closer with each other, and it's a fun alternative to going out or shopping.
Mackenzie Wernicke (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
@Victoria Fey I think it's interesting to see someone who enjoys every aspect of sleepovers, especially now a days. I find sleepovers to be stressful to plan, coordinating a time that all your friends are free, and then finding something to do! I think the worst thing that can happen at a sleepover is for nothing to be happening and everyone being bored. My point is not that I think sleepovers are bad, I do enjoy staying up with my friends and talking for hours, but it's everything that comes before that is usually difficult.
Uma Volety (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
It's one o'clock in the morning, an empty container of Ben and Jerry's is sitting on the table with two spoons in it, and Keira Knightley Pride and Prejudice is on the TV. My best friend, Grace, and I are sprawled out across the couch half asleep, half talking about boys/school/life. There's no doubt that I very much enjoy sleepover's, especially with some of my closest friends. What I just described to you was my best friend and my's usual sleepover. We get clowned by our friends saying that we are boring, but, come on. Ice cream, Keira Knightley, AND quality friend time? What could be better? Sleepover's are definitely a must for many of my friends and I. They give you time to relax, not stress about homework, gossip about whatever boys you like, and just enjoy each other's company. With how busy we all are with our schoolwork, any time that we can spend having fun is greatly beneficial to us. Sleepovers are the best for me because they allow me to relax while getting closer with someone important to me.
Marisa Maisano (J.R. Masterman)
As a child, I loved sleepovers, as they felt like such a privilege. They were a privilege because, for my 8th birthday, I had a sleepover with 3 of my friends, and we were naughty. Because of that, my parents banned people from sleeping over my house until I turned 12. I think sleepovers are very fun because you stay up. Usually, I will play Just Dance, watch a movie, or play some board games. As an only child, I think sleepovers are much more exciting for me compared to kids with siblings near their age since, for them, it is almost like every day is a sleepover.
Sadie Krumrine (J.R. Masterman, Philly)
As a kid I enjoyed sleepovers, and I still do. When my friends come over for a sleepover, we don’t make a big deal out of it, and it’s usually only one or two friends who I’ve known for years. My friends and I make our own dinner, and just stay up hanging out and playing Minecraft. I definitely think that sleepovers brought me and my friends closer together.
Taylor Tomlinson (Lubbock, TX)
Growing up I was a social butterfly, so I absolutely loved hanging out with my friends and staying the night at one another's houses. We would always do fun things like go to Target, play fun games, watch scary movies until we had to change it to a comedy, do each other's makeup, and just have fun laughing. Now my sleepovers have changed quite a bit, but they are still so much fun in different ways. Almost all of us are able to drive, so we like to go to the mall, go get some food, and then come home and do whatever spontaneous things we can think of. I think that having sleepovers at a young age helped me to develop the ability to be close with those around me now.
Brooklyn Harcrow (Lubbock, TX)
I feel like sleepovers as a kid were not as fun as my sleepovers are now. As a kid I liked throwing sleepovers, because I didn't really like being away from my parents. I loved when we would do makeovers and fashion shows!! I feel like sleepovers as a teenager are kind of opposite. I love staying with my friends now, especially since we are older and we have a lot more freedom. I feel like i have a better time now then i did while i was little. I like being away from my parents now, and having more time to myself!
Jonah Smith Posner (J.R. Masterman)
I think that slumber parties are still awesome as a teenager. I think that slumber parties are a great way to get together with your friends. When I was 12, I had a slumber party with 4 or 5 of my friends and it was amazing. I think that slumber parties shouldn't just be for kids.
Sam McNamara (John T. Hoggard High (Wilmington, NC))
"Dude, we're so listening to DJ Khaled and playing Minecraft all night." And so we did, about one football game and about twelve hours later. This is just one example of the many antics I've been up to over the years while having sleepovers with my friends. I know, it sounds really dumb (and I would be lying if I said I think that was the best way we could have spent our time), but it gave me a chance to do nothing but relax and enjoy time with a friend. When I see the clock hitting one and two in the morning and me and my friends are still going about our business like it's three in the afternoon, I feel like it's me, my friends, and not another person in the world. Parents aren't going to bug us because they've gone to sleep long ago, our other friends aren't going to text us because they're resting, and I have the privilege of thinking about absolutely nothing but the people I'm with. Especially when it gets late into the night, people start to get tired. When they get tired, their true colors show, and that's when you can learn so much about a person. Perhaps someone can wear a mask for a regular 8:30-3:30 school day consistently, but no one can sustain that for a full day. I've had some incredibly telling, insightful, and awesome conversations during sleepovers and they always bring me closer to my friends. Not only are sleepovers a great way to spend quality time with friends, but also a means to build stronger, more significant relationships with those around us.
Carter Osborn (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
@Sam McNamara Your comment describes my sleepovers too. Usually dumb, but I don't care. I like spending my nights this way with my friends. I have to play student for five days a week, and when it hits 3:30 on Friday afternoon, I'm free to be who I truly am. I can be a teenager, and I can live my life to the fullest. Also, I agree with you in the fact that late night conversations can really show you who your true friends are. I could not tell you the amount of times I have had late night conversations with some of my best friends and thought to myself, "Man, life is good.". Sleepovers are a main part of life, and they are a main part of happiness, especially as teenagers.
Charlotte Todd (Hoggard High School)
A group of friends that you feel comfortable having fun with and talking to is one of the best things you can have. Me and my friends all see eachother so much with practices and school, we go out on the weekends, go out to dinner together and hang out before games.Slumber parties however are a whole different world. At sleepovers you get to stay up all night, and do literally whatever you want, even go out. You're not just going out to eat, talking in class, or hanging out for a few hours. Sometimes you learn more about one another at these slumber parties than you will in a month of hanging out. I'm not sure why but when you're with all of the people you are closest wit it just happens, talking can go on for hours because there are no time limits. So we talk and laugh and get to know more about each other than anybody else does. My friends and I do this thing where we go out at night and then the next morning go out to breakfast where our friends work so we can talk to them too. I love having sleepovers with my friends before cheer and dance competitions. We all have to do the same thing the next day, we are all nervous, and yet somehow we take that stress away. We still stay up late, go get food, play “for the girls” and talk. Once we finally go to bed we get to wake up and get ready together. I think that's what I like about slumber parties not just the fun we have, but waking up and knowing all the memories you made the night before.
Watson Pope (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
@Charlotte Todd I feel the same way that you do about sleepovers. They are a whole different world, when you are with your closest friends, it is almost like everything stressful that is going on just melts away. Sleepovers are great ways to get away from the stressful guidelines that are put on us by high school. I also agree that one of the best parts about having a sleepover is waking up the net morning cherishing the memories that you made the night before.
Reynah Rattliff (Julia R. Masterman)
I’ve always enjoyed slumber parties and sleepovers. I only had these parties with my cousins when I was younger, but the older I got the more my parents would allow me to go over friend’s houses. We usually do things like karaoke, tag, hide and seek, and all-nighters. We watch Netflix, eat popcorn, and ice-cream. I only ever played board games with my cousin, but that’s also when I was younger. Now, all we do is jump around, yell, and go on our phones. I don’t watch the movies that play at sleepovers because it makes me very tired for some reason. I either end up falling asleep or doing a completely different thing. I think sleepovers have brought me and my friends closer because it gives us a lot more memories to look back on when we just sit back and think about our friendship.
Brycinea Stratton (J.R. Masterman)
During a sleepover there is usually very little actual sleeping. We’ll stay up late doing random stuff like baking cookies around midnight. We’ll sometimes watch Netflix, or Youtube for a while. When we wake up, we will eat a very unhealthy breakfast, and we enjoy doing that. Dinner is usually more controlled by parents, so it's usually more healthy. Sometimes we’ll play random games like “Never Have I Ever” or “The Game of Life” and we sometimes learn new games. I think during sleepovers I have grown much closer to my friends.
Shani (J.R. Masterman)
When I was child I loved sleepovers and I still love them now. As a child and still now I am a very clingy person and sleepovers give me the chance to see and spend time with people who like being around me. At my sleepovers we usually would play truth or dare and that tends to lead to some pretty interesting things happening. We also would play games such as just dance and would eat ice cream chocolate and if it’s family and friends at a sleepover then they would make mini games for us to do to keep us off technology as much as possible. Sleepovers have kept my friendships stronger and showed me their true colors because I get to see what they do at night.
Elina Chen (J.R Masterman)
I’ve only ever been to a sleepover once. It was the last day of summer camp and we would sleep over at the school. I was really excited, since I had never experienced a sleepover before. To be honest, it was really fun. We played games and ate cup ramen and ended up not sleeping. I think that is the one downside of sleepovers, you kind of just end up not sleeping. It was sort of hot and uncomfortable, and my friends and I just ended up talking through the whole night. However, what I experienced was most likely not a true “sleepover experience”. I think it would be amazing to just stay at a friends house and play around until it was bright out again.
Avery Lemley (Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC)
Well it's a good thing scientists and researchers have now discovered that friendships and bonding with groups is incredibly important to our well being. This should have been evident all along if not for our cultural binders. Our culture has always reflected the importance of family and bonds within, but now friendships hold just as much importance in our everyday lives. Our friends are the family that we get to choose and it makes that bond so special.We form those strong social bonds to one another through whatever activity we choose. Just as the author alludes her sons bonding to those of the monkeys grooming one another. Why does it matter how we choose to spend our time together, especially if it's just doing things like staying up late or playing video games. Your kids aren't getting into any trouble and they're just doing normal teenager things. I know it's important to have responsibilities, but teens are young and this is their time in life to do what they want and discover who they really are. The article states how a Harvard study determines that the best predictor of how happy and healthy a person at 80 is not their wealth or professional success, but the strength or their relationships at 50. Those friendships are set in place well before 50 and will last long after. So let them stay up too late with their friends, because those are the friends and the memories that will last them a lifetime.
Annie Feazel (Glenbard West HS Glen Ellyn, IL)
When I was younger, slumber parties were just a way to waste time away and have fun, more in the summer. Now, I enjoy them even more because it brings my friends and I closer together. As a kid, we would stay at someone’s house, usually jumping on a trampoline or walking to the local pizza parlor. Now, we have traditions with every sleepover. We always take a trip to Sonic, play a cards game, and end up cuddled up on the floor of someone’s basement talking about life. As a kid, we would try to hang out with boys and play truth or dare. Now, our late night rants build our trust and love for one another. There are a lot of similarities of sleepovers now and then as well, such as gossiping and making stupid videos. Sleepovers have changed a lot since grade school, but in my opinion, they have changed for the better.
William Hohe (Glenbard West High School, Glen Ellyn IL)
As a kid and when I was younger, I loved sleepovers. I thought they were so fun, exciting, and something that seemed so taboo and “older,” making me more mature in the process. Yet, going along with this theme of growing up, I’ve come to the conclusion that sleepovers are merely, for me, to end up with an unhealthy lack of sleep. Maybe I sound annoying but every time I go to a sleepover, I never get sleep. Regardless of if I try or not, I wake up the next morning like a zombie and go home after the sleepover only to find myself sleeping all day, if I have the time. Though in the moment watching a movie or just talking with friends is something I do remember and have fond sentiments relating to it, I think that the whole “sleepover” idea is overrated. I like hanging out with friends late in the night, but once I get home, sleeping in is much more enjoyable than waking up the next day, exhausted, in a house that isn’t your own! Call me old-fashioned or just old, but I think we should all take our sleep a bit more seriously, especially in today’s world when high school homework and activities keep us up half the night already.
Mason Evans (Hoggard High School Wilmington, NC)
@William Hohe While I can see why you see lack of sleep as an issue for sleepovers, I don’t think that is the action itself’s fault. Instead, I think it is just how you are experiencing sleepovers. My parents go on business trips all the time or go to look for retirement houses, and that leaves me in a sleepover with my best friend all of the time. This includes school nights, where sleep is imperative to success in school. I always monitor my sleep while I am at a friend’s house, and that leads sleepovers to be simply a convenient place to stay when my parents have other things they need to do. I also respectfully disagree with you when you say that sleepovers are overrated. Sleepovers are when I get to talk about deep concepts and connect with my friends in a way that I cannot in everyday life. You get one-on-one time with a friend, and that one-on-one time should be treasured. If anything, sleepovers are underrated.
Ellie Short (Glenbard West HS Glen Ellyn, IL)
When I was younger and hanging out with my friends, when there was about 30 minutes left before my mom was scheduled to pick me up, my friends and I would call my mom and beg to turn our “late-over” into a sleepover. If my mom eventually caved, we would stay up unnecessarily late and normally make a bunch of video star videos. Today, I still enjoy sleepovers but not as much as I did as a kid. Typically, I only like sleepovers after big events like school dances or concerts when it was planned in advance. This is because as I’ve gotten older, I’ve begin to cherish my sleep on the weekends in my own cozy bed. Sleeping on the floor is not always the best way to get a good nights rest.
Madalynn Larson (Hoggard High School in Wilmington,NC)
@Ellie Short I feel the same way, sleep plays a very important part in my day to whether or not i will be able to do my work