‘At 5 P.M., a Woman in a Mechanized Wheelchair Is Loading a Dryer’

Jan 19, 2020 · 68 comments
-ABC...XYZ+ (NYC)
I still think of the story of 5yr old Abcde from last year mocked by 'adult' airline agents after passing thru the boarding gate - I wonder what she is doing now? how her mother is faring with her life@age 6?
John Madison (North Carolina)
"Southbound" saved the day. Otherwise, meh!
Cathy (MA)
The laundromat story made me a little teary. Kindness upon kindness.
Jack (FL)
Mr. Craft, if you're looking for company, I would love to Strand with you, albeit in my imagination, for nowhere in this mildewed prairie is there -- or ever will be -- anything like the aromatic mustiness of the old tomes found in that funky downtown New York institution you so poetically describe. Do we have a date?
Sondryne (Boca Raton, FL)
One of my favorite diaries of all time. So poetic. Ani's is my favorite for this week. But Lou, you've outdone yourself. FANTASTIC poem.
Kyle M (Morgan Hill, Ca)
My oldest daughter has moved to New York, and with her, my heart. I love reading these and feeling a part of the City, a part of her.
steve (detroit)
This week's column is the best in soooo long! NYC magic - the people's and the City's rhyme and rhythm in simple gorgeous poetry and prose. People caring for each other; some frail, others strong beyond any physical impediment. I'm a 5th generation New Yorker; knowing my home is 115th St & Riverside Dr no matter where we live.
Michelle (Sydney, Australia)
Loved the "bus to Miami" story
Doug Terry (Maryland, Washington DC metro)
In regard to Southbound, when was the time New Yorkers, especially jews, started to head to Miami more or less en mass after the age of 65 or so? When did it stop? Where do people from New York go now? Everywhere, especially if it is warm there in winters here?
Freddie (New York NY)
@Doug Terry - the herring from Zabar's reminded me of the classic moment on "Bosom Buddies" where Sonny said something or other, just to set up the gag, and Amy with her food said "My herring is bad," and Sonny says "Oh, what I said was " and at the top of her lungs shouts into Amy's ear the same thing she'd just said. I had a moment like this with my mom when I had told her about a Neil Simon tribute that the critic Jesse Green had written, and she was sure I'd said Shecky Greene had written the Neil Simon tribute, and she mentioned Shecky lives somewhere in Florida. This really happened while we were in the car riding towards the Beltone hearing aid place in Miami, and it seemed logical that Shecky might have written a Neil Simon tribute.
Paul King (USA)
Some of the best I've seen in this column. I'd say breathtaking.
Benni (N.Y.C)
Mitchell Jacobs, I have written this before. I like taking the bus because of the drivers who think they are stand up /sit down comics. Must have made your day!
Kathryn (NY, NY)
I was riding the Hudson line to our upstate house in Beacon, NY. I had my two teeny white dogs - a Maltese and a Bichon/Shitzu - with me, and not in carriers. They were experienced train riders and slept quietly on the Northbound train every weekend. No conductor had ever complained, as they were so well-behaved. This time, though, I was riding at rush hour at night. There was only one seat available, next to a VERY elegant, middle-aged man decked out in a gorgeous suit. He had a fine briefcase and well polished, expensive shoes. I said, “I’m so sorry. There are no other seats. Do you mind if I sit here? I’ll keep both dogs in my lap.” “I don’t mind in the least,” he said. So, I sat there with the two dogs crowded on my lap. After a while, I got out my book and got absorbed. Suddenly, I realized that my dog, Daniel, had moved off my lap some. Looking down, I saw that he had stretched out and was sleeping with his head in the man’s lap. “Oh, good grief, I am SO sorry. I wasn’t paying attention,” I said. “Please don’t move him,” the sweet man said. “This has been the best part of my day!”
Mireille (Montreal)
@Kathryn A story as charming as those in the column.
Kathryn (NY, NY)
@Mireille - Awwww. Thank you! And, all true. Daniel slept in that man’s lap for about forty minutes! Thank goodness my dogs are clean and non-shedding!
Olenska (New England)
Lou Craft’s poem and Mitchell Jacob’s bus driver story remind me of the Diary of old - smart, snappy and hilarious. More, please!
skevin (Staten Island)
I was once a frequent denizen of the Strand. Many factors drew me away. The one that sticks out is a copy of the Collected Works of Hart Crane that was published while he was still alive. It was pricey, so I had to save up for it, all the while hoping that no one would snatch it off the Strand's ample shelves. When at last it was mine, I took it to all the places Hart wrote about, reading quietly out loud his poems about the subways while actually riding the subway, for example. Unfortunately, this was not good for the volume's frayed burgundy cover or it's yellowed pages. Now it rests forlorn on my bookshelf. I dare not touch it, lest it disintegrate. These days, I stick to electronic texts. I'm an unworthy custodian for the Stand's treasures.
common sense advocate (CT)
Finding pearls inside every oyster, Finding all of the parts of ourselves. That's kind of how I feel reading these diary entries... kind thanks, csa
Sondryne (Boca Raton, FL)
@common sense advocate : Beautiful.
Naomi (NYC)
The poem about the Strand is glorious. My feelings exactly.
PNP (USA)
Love it - the most human picture of NYC I've seen in awhile. It reminds me of Armistead Maupin's "Tales of the City" .
Buttercup (Jersey)
These fell flat with me. Editing please.
Paul King (USA)
Maybe someone could help explain the simple beauty of these. It's very simple.
Mireille (Montreal)
@Buttercup What ? Surely you must see from the comments that a lot of readers thoroughly enjoyed these stories so how about being happy for them and looking for something else to read ?
Ted (London, Ontario, CANADA)
I lived in NYC on-and-off for about 7 years . . . .the Metropolitan Diary stories transport me in an instant. As much as I love the NYTimes, this has become my favourite, because there's only one place on earth to find authentic New Yorkers!
SC (Seattle)
I have never lived in NY! Love it when I’ve visited. Like taking the subway and walking the streets. Love the humanity if it. And this column has also become one of my favorites. I have to read it every week. I know I don’t get it like a new Yorker, but I always love the humanity if it.
Fromjersey (NJ)
These were heartwarming and lovely entries, along with the illo's as well... love, loved Lou Craft's poem about the Strand!! Thank you 💛
Viseguy (NYC)
Metropolitan Diary makes the quantum leap into Metropolitan Poetry. If there's an internet in the afterlife, this feature would be reason enough to subscribe. The "Southbound" entry reminded me of the Twilight Zone episode "A Stop at Willoughby". As a nine-year-old kid who was just allowed to ride the subway to Manhattan on his own -- helicopters had nothing to do with parenting back then -- I was thrilled to find that the opposite exit on the DeKalb Avenue Station in Brooklyn was to … Willoughby Street.
PrairieFlax (Grand Island, NE)
@Viseguy Next stop!
yl (NJ)
Speaking of Twilight Zone, "On the Aisle" sure fits the bill. Alone in a train car past midnight. A woman "floated down the aisle." Some dream-like whispering. And finally woke up alone on a train with engine off and door closed. Spooky...
Andrew Lee (SF Bay Area)
A number of us original East Coasters oft contemplate returning, and are always asked why. Really, the only rationale is captured always in this column.
Alison (Brooklyn)
@Andrew Lee I left Minnesota for Manhattan the day after I graduated from college 50 years ago. I love the Midwest and the West Coast, but NYC is my ongoing love affair. You probably know Dave Frishberg's (St. Paul!) poignant song, but if not: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r01WqYc96Xo@Andrew Lee I left Minnesota for Manhattan the day after I graduated from college 50 years ago. I love the Midwest and the West Coast, but NYC is my ongoing love affair. You probably know Dave Frishberg's (St. Paul!) poignant song, but if not: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r01WqYc96Xo
Susan (British Virgin Islands)
@Alison check out the version by Susannah McCorkle. It always brings a tear to my eye.
Alison (Brooklyn)
@Susan, Thank you! It's quintessential McCorkle. What a singer. I miss her.
Brad (Oregon)
Bus to Miami?! very funny. I'm a senior citizen runner and was "running" uphill in my neighborhood, when a school bus stopped just next to me and opened the door as if it were inviting me in. I laughed and continued on.
Ira Gardner-Smith (Mumbai)
Ha ha! An elderly hippie - a wonderful human being but burly and hirsute - braked alongside a man running on a country lane and opened the passenger seat door. “Get in!” he said, cheerfully laconic... as they approached a fork in the road, the friendly bear asked “Where do you want me to drop you off?” “I wasn’t going anywhere,” said a plaintive voice. “I was out for my morning jog. I thought it was a hold-up!”
Passion for Peaches (Left Coast)
I enjoyed Lou Craft’s poem (chuckled at, “And I don’t want to browse smelling quiche”), but he didn’t name enough women writers!
David (Seattle)
Thank you! This is wonderful. I was born in New York City, and left when I was 7. It seems the only authentic place left to me, perhaps. Thank you.
Expat (London)
Oh God, the Strand! What memories! I used to live in the East Village as a youngster and it was where I spent my weekends, looking for used text books for my college classes and where I tried to sell them back at the end of the school year. Also the 3 for $1 racks (money used to go far!) of paperbacks and their treasure trove of hard-cover fine arts books. I still go there on my annual visits to New York - always find something thrilling and unexpected, like a treasure hunt.
Roth (New York)
The poem by Lou Craft is wonderful. So well informed, clever, humorous, beautifully written.
Grumpy Dirt Lawyer (SoFla)
Cloister...oyster. It took some real wordsmithing to set that one up. Thanks, Lou.
maeve (boston)
Lou Craft's poem is really special. It lilts; it sweeps you along; it takes you into the physical world of books. What better way is there to spend a morning, a day, a lifetime? Many Saturdays when I was a child, my father would take my brother and me to a used bookstore in Springfield, MA. I still have many of the books that I bought, but far more important is that love, which I have to this day, of the feel and smell of books, of the excitement of opening one randomly and being immediately drawn in … or not. The 'or nots' remained on the shelves, but even they were part of the experience. There is nothing quite like a bookstore!
Sheryl (London, Ontario Canada)
I miss this city with an ache. There is no place like it, yet every place is like it, if you really want to see it. It's the people.
Allen (New York State of Mind)
Three of Agnes Lee’s charming drawings this week took my thoughts, interestingly enough, to J. D. Salinger’s classic “The Catcher in the Rye.” The two women curled up asleep on the train—although I wondered Kendall Bates whether you had dreamed up the young woman who took the seat beside you and perhaps the entire episode before you yourself awoke—brought to mind the memory of Holden Caulfield aspiring to protect everybody in his keep and insure their safety. This is also the way I thought about Lou Craft when I saw that in Ms. Lee’s sketch the reader is utterly lost in thought in the Strand Bookstore in a situation fraught with peril. Gazing intently at the book held in the left hand while also listing dangerously off in that direction, unaware that the top two books held by the right hand which have slipped off the stack of nine and are heading directly for the reader’s head. I want to shout “WATCH OUT LOU” and race over and snag those two books before they can conk you on the head. Stay safe Lou, and thanks to you and Ani, Kendall, Juliana, Mitchell, and the always wonderful Agnes Lee for today’s transporting Metropolitan Diary.
Dean (Connecticut)
I'm trying to think of some words or short sentences for today’s Diary entries. Number 1: “Gentleness,” “kindness,” and “compassion” could describe the interactions in and around the corner laundry. Number 2: “Two punctuation marks in search of a sentence” might do for the two people on the subway. Maybe?? Or maybe not!! Number 3: “Always make time for reading” as we waltz down to the Strand with Lou Craft. Number 4: “The Land of Nod” is what we have on the train bound for Port Washington. Number 5: How about “wisecracker” or “jokester” for the southbound bus driver? Dean Jan. 19, 2020
els (NYC)
@Dean I so enjoyed this week's MD entries--each was a word gift of spare, minimalist beauty, a frozen few moments in time so appropriate for these cold, forlorn, late January days. And so, Dean, I think you've hit exactly the right approach in your minimalist description of each. "Gentleness, kindness, and compassion" combined certainly describe our "lady of the laundry" -- I suppose an earlier century would call those qualities "grace." And you've certainly captured the quiet poetry of escapist sleep for our city's subway and train riders. As one who has "retrieved" sleeping relatives countless times (often with pajama-clad children in my Jeep's back seat) from the last stop terminal of the Port Washington line late at night, I can truly say your "Land of Nod" is the most apt description. And who would not want to "waltz down to the Strand" to the magical lyrics of Lou Craft--I feel quite like Ginger Rogers in her dress of white feathers. Best, Elissa
Dean (Connecticut)
Thank you for your kind reply, Elissa. It’s Thursday morning, and I just went back to the MD to read the latest comments. The MD entries and particularly Lou Craft’s poem are soothing balm, especially as we listen to the impeachment trial of King Donald the First. I fear for our democracy, but I am an optimist, and I trust that something positive will eventually come from all of this. As Allen would say: Be well. Dean
els (NYC)
@Dean Dear Dean, Usually I am an optimist as well, but the current situation is just so deplorable that I have such a great sense of despair. Alas, Lou Craft's charming poem can't lift my sense of foreboding about the outcome of this Senate trial. And watching it just raises my blood pressure, so I've been cooking all day to help forget--eggplant kookoo (a Persian frittata-like dish), then Mexican stuffed peppers, extra-spicy, and key lime pie for dessert. It is about 8:00, and we are about to have dinner--by candlelight tonight with absolutely no tv/radio set on cnn. But after, I plan to binge watch all of The Young Pope, another, albeit fictional cynical political story. Perhaps it will ease the actual reality show playing out now in DC. I am reminded of Matthew Arnold's poem Dover Beach that ends: "And we are here as on a darkling plain.../Where ignorant armies clash by night." Elissa
Dorothy Parker
Dear Lou Craft, will we find more of your writings at the Strand? I do hope so. With best regards, a former Brentano's employee.
Doug (NJ.)
A very sweet column today & I like it ending with a joke "bus to Miami" indeed...
Freddie (New York NY)
@Doug - I guess as I near 60, I'm falling right into stereotype, having been in Miami Beach in early November, Tampa the week before Thanksgiving, and Miami/Aventura during Hannukah/Christmas, and eaves time it hit me that, while the travel took a long time by hours on the clock, it somehow felt lest effortful that getting to Westchester or Long Island. Each time, I appreciated the hubbub of New York getting back, but I see why getting old and experiencing what the snowbirds see in Florida, even as they look forward to getting back after having had enough of the peaceful feeling.
On a bus bench (Berkeley, California)
While I was sitting on a bus bench (when I was a college student in the 1970s), waiting for my bus, someone passing me on the sidewalk asked whether I was waiting for the bus. "What a ridiculous question," I thought to myself. "Of course, I am; why else would I be sitting here on the bus bench?" The passerby informed me that there was a student riot on my university campus, and that the busses along that street were taking an alternate route to avoid the rioters and police near the campus. So, I walked toward and across the campus toward my home, missing the turmoil, which had subsided. Thank you, Dear Passerby, for informing me; otherwise, who knows how long I would have sat on that bus bench!
Daria (Los Angeles CA)
@On a bus bench Fantastic, thank you for sharing. During a bus strike in Los Angeles, circa 1992, I pulled over to ask an Asian lady at a bus stop if she needed a ride. See, the buses were running very odd hours, and she had just missed the morning run. She sat there dejected as I drove up...and asked if she needed a ride. She looked me over, my 9 month pregnant belly prominently on display, my two young daughters in the back seat. She decided we were a safe ride and got in, fastening her seat belt. I don’t speak Chinese, she did not speak English, but I understand the words, “big chicken, big chicken”, and took her directly to where she needed to be: a poultry company in Los Angeles Chinatown section, with a 12 foot rooster atop. We can, when we want or need to, understand each other’s needs. To this day I remember her an giggle when I drive past the “big chicken”.
On a bus bench (Berkeley, California)
@Daria I hope that the Asian lady found a ride home with her big chicken(s)!
Lucy (Ohio)
Waltzing Down to the Strand is a great accompaniment to the Book That Changed My Life article and its comment section that was in the Times last week.
Freddie (New York NY)
Does Lou Craft read here? If so, Lou - Will there be an album or demo recording of your show?
Fromjersey (NJ)
@Lucy I felt the same exact way! :)
Allen (New York State of Mind)
Dear Juliana, Your Diary entry provided just what I was hoping for this morning—a story of people exchanging smiles, looking out for one another, graciously providing small kindnesses complete with the words “please” and “thank you,” and you yourself holding a door open for others. You wrote of a card gratefully extended as a gift, but the real gifts in your story are the good natured and gentle acts themselves. You close your entry with two thank yous. May I add a third and thank you, so much, for providing a lovely and gentle tableau of New Yorkers exemplifying a spirit of civic good will in the most simple words and gestures. Stay well Juliana. Allen
Freddie (New York NY)
@Allen, it is so simple but beautiful and a little "pay it forward" too. This has been a news weekend that makes you feel the political people on both parties might sell each other out for their desire to woo the voters, that they want to serve us not for us but for themselves. The story and your explanation to focus it are so welcome, Allen.
Allen (New York State of Mind)
Dear Freddie, Thank you for your kind words. Yes, the headline news makes one recoil and seek out other stories highlighting what Lincoln termed “the better angels of our nature.” Happily the writers of the Metropolitan Diary entries and the good people who visit this space reliably provide the needed comfort. Stay well Freddie. Allen
Linda Miilu (Chico, CA)
@Allen What I remember about New York and the people who live there goes back to when I commuted in from CT to a job in the South Tower. One morning I was about to walk over a steam grate in high heels; an arm reached out and pulled me around it. It was a young man who saved me, nodded as I said thank you, and went on his way. I remember a windy snowy day when a man held my arm and we both made it to the entrance of the So. Tower. As we walked toward an elevator, we noticed an elderly man in a faded elevator uniform. He was talking to his reflection in a shiny door; he was lecturing himself about not being late again. The man and I looked at each other and smiled; we hoped he would not be late again. However, we would love him anyway for making us smile on a wintry morning. New Yorkers are neither cold nor uncaring. They see what is going on around them, and step up to help when they can. It was a fellow book buyer in the Tower who introduced me to the Strand. I was a Berkeley transplant; he introduced me to the NYC replacement for Moe's on Telegraph Ave. He knew about Moe's. My favorite overheard conversation was a young man with a Brooklyn accent telling someone on the other end "I shoulda been there!" New Yorkers have been there; I learned 'there but for the grace of God go I' from life in NYC.
Rob D (Rob D NJ)
Every one of these stories made me smile. Thank you.
Matt (Ct)
This collection is a keeper. Thank you.
Sivaram Pochiraju (Hyderabad, India)
There are a number of wonderful habits of Americans, which have almost become customs. One of them is keeping the door open for others, doesn’t matter whether it’s a car door, entrance door or an exit door of a laundromat, which rest of the world needs to implement especially by us Indians. I thank Juliana Francis Kelly exclusively for this gesture. By the way she has written the story Corner Laundry sweetly too. It’s very nice of a woman employee in the story Corner Laundry to have helped the kid in inserting the laundry card and in selecting the requisite temperature so that washing gets done smoothly since the kid has accompanied a lady in a wheel chair. I found all employees of the Laundromats very cooperative and friendly when we were in America, which is a huge plus point. I thank all the Americans wholeheartedly, who have helped me in some way or the other. I love the poem Waltzing Down to the Strand, which is beautifully written by Lou Craft. I agree fully with the writer that online procurement of books is no thrill but going through countless books physically is the one to experience. The story On the Aisle has made me recollect amusing story of my eldest maternal uncle, who most of the time used to wake up at a wrong Railway Station far away from his destination while travelling. However in this story Kendall Bates is kind enough to wake up the lady in time as per her request.
Freddie (New York NY)
@Sivaram Pochiraju - "However in this story Kendall Bates is kind enough to wake up the lady in time as per her request." A thought that sometimes it's better to stay with what's your head, and there's no more to what is said than what is said, especially when everyone is too sleepy to be in touch with reality. If they ever meet during the afternoon, who knows? Maybe that will be for a second chorus happier chorus - "When she spoke, it was barely more than a whisper. 'Wake me before Manhasset, please,' she said." Tune of “Wake Me Up Before You Go Go” (Window seat! Window seat! Window seat!) There on the choo-choo, A.M. at one. I was alone, and that did not feel like fun. Window seat was just okay. But then you took a seat just one row away. I hoped for a connection but I Realized we both needed shut-eye. Nighttime daydreams in my head And I heard Strange rhythms in the words you said. Wake me up before Manhasset I’m really fading, but I can not pass it. Wake me up before Manhasset. Give me a nudge so I won’t pass it by. Wake me up before Manhasset. Means nothing more than that, no, nothing tacit. Wake me up before Manhasset, please And when we say goodbye, It may just mean goodbye! - (maybe a happier second chorus???)
Oliver (MA)
@Sivaram Pochiraju I wish you were my neighbor.
Sivaram Pochiraju (Hyderabad, India)
@Freddie : I love the way you have put it. It’s a beautiful corollary to On the Aisle story written by Kendall Bates. You are an excellent writer. May you continue to write for decades to come.
Ariel Briesse (New Orleans)
I loved the poem about the Strand. Oh, to be stranded in the Strand With some many thoughts about! I find a mysterious Penny- I'm A Better Man for it. Now I've an incentive To leave for a coffee shop With a plump chair, a bagel, and a book. No longer stranded. Still I'm hooked.