My parents have been divorced since I was a baby, and they each do so much to provide for me and make sure I have a good life. They both have certain areas in which they shine, and some not as much. When I was growing up as a kid I spent a lot of time with my mom- mostly because I looked up to her as a young woman and she was the role model I most wanted to be like and become. She would always be the one to take me to school, buy/make my lunches, help me get ready in the morning, and basically assist me with all my tasks when I wasn't at school. I regret not giving my dad enough appreciation because even though he wasn't paying for my activities or getting all my clothes, he was the one that really enjoyed spending time with me and wanted to make sure i grew up a good person who knows my worth, my capabilities, and how to strive to always be a good person and succeed. Don't get me wrong, my mom did all of that as well, but I think that is the area my dad really shines in. The author mentions how mothers continue to take most responsibility in parenting, white fathers do little to none. She backs this up with data stating “ Mothers still shoulder 65 percent of child-care work.'' Even though my dad doesn't do all the tasks my mom does, I am fortunate to know they will both always be there for me and each help me get through struggles. They each have different ways of parenting and different ways to contribute, but I am so grateful for them.
My mom does most of the in house chores – cooking, cleaning, helping the family, etc. While my dad does the bigger projects like yard work, plumbing, and grilling. I don’t think their division of labor for the family is completely equal, however they both work hard to support the family. My mom works parts time so my dad is the main provider of money for our family. For some things only my mom can help me and for other things only my dad can help me. My mom helps me with planning and cooking food. My dad helps me with homework and prepares me for when I’m out of the house. Both of my parents help me in their own ways. On the other hand the article talks about “male resistance” and how couples thought they would split the parental responsibilities. The article says, “It is happening, instead, with relatively progressive couples, and it takes many women — who thought their partners had made a prenatal commitment to equal parenting — by surprise.” I feel that this happens in my family a lot. I believe that both my parents agreed to help each raise their children, but my dad wasn’t around as often due to his job. This left my mom to pick up all the responsibilities of the house and child care. She would take me to school and my other extracurriculars. Now when my dad is asked to take me somewhere he complains, but my mom does this all the time with no complaints.
Growing up my father was a bigger part of my life then most. My dad was the one who woke my sister and I up for school, who made our lunches, did our hair, and took us to school. As we got older those became our responsibility, but every morning since my first day of Kindergarten my dad has been there making sure I get to school. My father in the evenings comes home later than my mother but he is still the one who does the dishes and makes dinner. Before my sister and I were able to drive my mother would pick us up from school. My mother used to do the entire family's laundry—but as we got older that was again something that we were responsible for. My father and mother plan vacations together with small amounts of input from my sister and I. In the article the author talks about her as the mother having a majority of responsibilities, while her husband does little to nothing at all. I was very fortunate to have a dad who was very involved in my life and takes the responsibility of being a parent seriously. I think most dads like the idea of being a parent yet are not prepared or willing to take on the actual responsibility. Most men fall under prepared because of society's past in letting mothers be solely responsible for raising children. Some men may have even learned the hands off approach to parenting from their own parents. As men and women we have a responsibility to ourselves and children to be more involved parents.
In my house my mom is the main source of income, of course my dad has a job hers just pays higher. My dad is a teacher which is long hours and he also coaches a middle school soccer team so during that season he Isn't home a lot. Normally my dad cooks dinner and he cleans and takes out trash as well. My mom packs lunches and cleans too, she works from home so it's easier for her to help around the house. When my brother still lived with us-he's in college now we would split little chores to do around the house. Now though it's mostly my mom that cleans and my dad cooks. When the article states, "it starts to almost pressure the couple into this kind of division of labor,.." I think this pressure is more of an agreement, because house chores and taking care of children has to be done regardless so if one person is never home or if both adults are home. In the end it is what both or either parents are capable and willing to do to help around.
When I was younger it was mainly my mom who would do the house work with my dad doing the cooking and all of us doing the cleaning together occasionally. Now it is about 50/50 when it comes to cooking and I do the majority of the cleaning with the help from my parents sometimes. I am currently happy with the situation, but I feel that growing up my mom could have used some help getting me and my sister ready for school in the morning. The most unequal when it comes to division of labor would be when she needed help getting us ready for school or when my dad needed help with helping us with our homework. I wouldn’t say that this is the most important equality issue, but it is still important when it comes to a healthy marriage.
In Korea, housework is mandatory for women, but not men.
So, even when both mom and dad works, housework is only for mom.
I think it should be corrected urgently
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In my case, it is difficult to specify because I have never been living with my both parents together before. My aunt and her husband rose me since I was eight-year-old until I was eighteen years old. In my aunt's house, she was the boss. If we wanted a permission for something, we had to ask her. She has a strong character and her husband is more docile. My aunt used to wake us up in the morning to go to school and do our breakfast. Her husband used to take us to school and pick us up too. He used to help us with our homework and my aunt bathes us and brushes our hair. I do not know who did more because both of them helped us a lot and sometimes they used to switch roles.
I born in a nuclear family, with my father and my mother, I am the older of my two sisters. In my house, my grandma was who took care of me when I was just born, because my mother got pregnant at the age of eighteen and she was in the first semester of the University and my father was Military, so I could not saw him time enough. When I got 2 year my mother got pregnant again, so she stopped her classes and started to take care of my sister and me. My father just took care of the economy and my mother was the head of the family taking care about my sisters and me. My father all the time was working and the days that he could rest, we could do some family activities. I wish the things could have been different, because in my opinion both parent must work and take care of their children, such as have fun with them because a family is supposed to be a team and supported each other with patience and love.
In my case my parents never have been share an arrangement about my brothers and me. My mother was always behind everything. She took the whole responsibility. In fact, I’m thankful the way of my mother did for us. It could have been better if my father was there for us but I cannot complain. There are many things that could change if parents has an arrangement. Things can be easier for all of us.
Actually, I am living this process at home, I saw how my parents never stopped working, so both had the same routine and the same responsibility, my father always helped my mother with my sister and me, obviously they had an extra hand for our attention as my grandmother, she cares for us while my parents work and she lives in front of our house, so it was easy for them, now, we are in our society with the same process in this country, women feel more responsible at home, but unfortunately we still live in a macho society and this will take a long time to change.
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Every parent have a very different role in each family. Most of the times the father is the one who supports the home and the one who’s always working and never have time. In the other hand the mother is more sensitive and the one who cook more. My opinion is that both parents have very hard and unique responsibility And both of them work hard to give the kids a better future. Every parent knows how to educate their child. Every parent is different
Parents play different roles at home with their children. As a mother of three daughters I have many difficulties every morning when I have to prepare everything before they go to school. In addition I do the laundry, make appointments, and plan any family trips, all while attending school full time. I think it is not fair when I have all the responsibilities with my children. I understand if a father is not at home because he is working, or he is doing something else, but if father is in the house he must help with the labor in the house. I think if both parents are at home, both should help each other. In my case my husband does not help me so much because he is busy getting ready to leave, but I try to show him how he can help me with them. Finally, I hope one day to have equality in the tasks with our daughters.
Imbalance in parenting is a problem in different cultures around the world. In most of homes the mother is the main responsible for taking care of the children. For nature, women have the innate ability to care for their children. However, in modern times, women work outside the home almost the same time as men. They need more equality in the division of labor in the home, and our society doesn’t reinforce this kind of inequalities. In additional, in the majority of countries many women work like housewives and this job doesn’t receive payment and these women won’t have a pension in their old age either. I think the governments should encourage companies to hire housewives and single mothers to do online jobs from their homes. I believe the solution to involve the men in raising children is in the hands of mothers. They should teach their own children from a young age the responsibility of this task as an obligation for both in a couple.
In my case, it is difficult to specify, since I was a child I lived with my grandmother because my parents lived in another country. However, my grandmother was the one who had more responsibilities with me, she cooked me, washed my clothes, helped me with my homework, she was always with me when I needed help with something. I do not share many parenting responsibilities with my parents, but I have my responsibility as an older sister. I clean around the house, I go to the laundry, to school and to work, but I think my responsibility as a sister is the way I help my parents the most.
When I lived with my parents, the greatest responsibility was mostly from my mother at a general level. Currently, the relationship between parents and children has changed and there is a lot of feminism, something that seems good to me at home with family and responsibilities. I think that the inequality of work will always exist and not only in the family issue. I think the ideal is to commit to a person who respects gender equality. The division of work is very important in the family home because we must help each other, because a relationship is two people, not only one, and this includes everything. Personally, I believe that campaigns should be carried out worldwide to promote gender equality in home and make it clear that men should assume that they could do the same as women at the family level. Currently many women work outside the home and financially supports the family and men are the ones who take care of the children, but it is something that is not often seen.
In my case, both of my parents have always been very responsible with me, however when I was younger, my mother was the one who had more responsibility with me. My mother always cooked for me and for my father, she washed my school uniforms and my clothes almost every day and was always by my side helping me with many things. My father also remained much focused on the things I needed.
Division of responsibilities in home is one of the most important gender-equity problems nowadays. It is important to share duties because if only the wife takes the control of home this can be stressful. When I was child my mom took care about me and my siblings, she checked that everything was well as cleaning, planning vacations, cooking and helping us with the homework. My father went to work and gave us the financial load. However, things change. When I became a mother, my husband and me share the responsibilities about my daughter. My husband brush my daughter’s teeth and prepare her for bedtime, because is good idea that she feels her father involved in her care. Now I am responsible of the rest of duties in our home, and when my husband does not work he helps me to prepare the food. We want our daughter be successful in her life.
In the past, the responsibilities of parenting was divided just on two labor. Women only was working in all housework while men went to work outside and their collaboration were to support economically the house. They told that women would be commissioned on each home task such as to cook, clean the house, do the laundry, wash dishes, take care children and be attentive on every homework. However, when feminism appeared in the last 60’s, women started to participate on other activities outside their home. As a result of women’s liberation, parents was pushed to take participation and they start to divide all the home tasks and responsibilities. Nowadays, many men are doing homework while their wives are working outside. Both men and women are cooperating with economy support and care of the children. For example, the husband pays some bills such as, rent, insurance and food, and the wife pays the others such as water, light and phone receipts. It is important for parents to be involved not only on paying the month’s bills but they also have to encourage the children education. When parents work each other on pursue their family purpose eventually they will achieve them. Furthermore, the most important is that they are giving good example to their children.
My parents share the responsibilities of being parents. Although it is not an easy task if both of them work. My parents are always there, like when my mother was going to work to the hospital, my father always stayed with us and he slept us while she was working. Also my mother in the morning prepared us breakfast and took us to school. The responsibility of being parents is knowing how to raise and educate your children first and foremost and that is what my parents have taught me to about good values. We know that in our society there are inequalities in the home because mothers are always taking care of the children and being a housewife, and that the father is dedicated to work. But that cannot be done because the parents have to share or divide the responsibilities.
My parents have not only the legal rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority but also the responsibility and the right to make decisions about care for me. My mother is kind, caring, energetic, but also an extrovert and straight forward. Every family is different. In my family, both of my parents worked, but my mom worked inside of house. My dad worked outside and with my dad carrying all of the financial load. Both of their responsibilities are difficult and different for our house. In my case, I manage my child’s life and work outside. I think, some women have to multi-task if they have a job. They have to care for the children while simultaneously caring for their career. This is pretty unfair to women. Men should also take some responsibilities in their home. I don’t blame my husband, but sometimes I wish he would spend more time with our child. So they could build a strong bond. I believe men should spend more time with their children (especially when they are still young) and do some work in their house. In my opinion, parents should be careful because children follow their parents’ footsteps.
my parents share the responsiblities by having my mom clean the house and my dad in in charge of grocery shopping. they switch off on who makes dinner everynight. my parents typicially switch off giving me ride to the places i need to go to. they both do and help out in different ways. i like the arragement of how things are going because i think that theyre fair and equal that they both share the responsibilities.
Should Parents Intervene Your Interest
Parents always want children to be successful and give them some advice about their life. Sometimes parents may force children to do something they don’t like and sometime may intervene in children interests. I do not think this is an appropriate way to help children. It is no easy for children to find interest. The interests that students have now can help them develop their major in college and what they can do after graduation. Some students find interests so they know the goal for themselves and they can work on it for a long time. What’s more, doing somethings that are interesting to children can make their life become enjoyable, meaningful and interesting, it can also give people hope, do not feel upset and they would know exactly what to do. If parents try to intervene with their children, their children may against the parents and caused a negative mentality. And children cannot find a goal and motivation to progress.
Equality is flourishing. However, how long does your pa take care of you? Vice versa, how long does your ma do that? It’s simply unbalanced for most of the cases, and noticeably pas often take less of children-caring. Lots of activists have figured it out and provoked people to solve it. However, personally speaking, I think the parity of responsibility of take caring of children between a couple of parents currently is not a necessity.
It’s really hard to balance the responsibility. How to compare between one hour of take care of children and one hour of washing their cloths? It’s hard to determine who is more hard-working. Besides, there is always one in a couple who is more busy in business than another. It’s not even namely parity but annoying when the busy one has to do the job as same amount of time as another one. Though reluctantly, I have to point out that the traditional way of distributing the role of a couple of parents is reasonable. That’s the reason why this phenomenon even exists among lots of gay or lesbian couples.
Absolute equality is merely a dream, but it’s people’s struggles which account for it. On the way to the absolute equality, we are going to reach more and more satisfying situations. However, it’s not possible to get to the absolute equality directly now. We should consider about reality while striving to make it come true.
I feel like my dad does most of all the work and my mom also works but not as much as my dad. So i think he has more responsibilities than my mom. My sister has responsibilities for when she goes to college because she has to get everything ready for when he leaves. My responsibility is to go to school and focus on my photography and classes and grades. My little siblings responsibilities is to go all to school and make sure to stay safe and focus on what they are learning.
This article accurately my parents. Both my parents work all week, so they split the financial load, but on weekends I often see my mom taking care of many of the chores around the house while my dad relaxes. And my dad can do all the chores that my mom does, but he doesn't step up to do it in her place, and my mom is too polite to ask him to do them himself. So it doesn't seem like it will change soon.
One example the articles describes is laundry. My dad can obviously do laundry, and does his own laundry, but my mom is always left to do my laundry. I don't know why this is, but there obviously is need for change to lift the load off of my mother.
But when it comes to my schooling situation, mine is not as bad as the situation described in the article. The article describes couples where the father didn't even no when their child'c spring break was, and didn't ever bring them to school. But I always keep my dad up to date with school, and he always asks if he can help me with anything with school. I'm happy that my school situation is at least better than other family situations described.
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My mom is a stay at home mom. She chose this when my older sister was born almost 24 years ago. She was making more money than my father was at the time. They thought about having my dad stay at home, but my mom decided she’d be happier if she could spend time with her children and pick them up from school if they were sick or drop them off something they forgot. It was completely her choice.
Because of this, my dad doesn’t spend as much time with us. He is busy providing for my family. The article points out “Mothers still shoulder 65 percent of child-care work.” I mean sure, my mom cooks dinner every night and makes sure my siblings and I get to school on time, but I feel like my dad pitches in also. My dad has certain things he does with us that my mom doesn’t want to do, like garden or play sports. He also makes sure he's involved by going to all of our events. He is my only family member to have gone to every single cello concert I’ve had, sometimes eating in the car in the parking lot so he can make it in time. He tries his hardest to be involved, even with his job.
One thing my dad does that my mom doesn’t is my dad puts me to bed every night. This is by my choice. It gives my dad and I the opportunity to talk about our days and to catch up with one another, even though I’m usually busy. My dad also tends to be the one to drive me everywhere. My dad and I spend our car rides just talking about what happened with the pets every morning.
Discussing a topic like this, you will recieve a diverse pool of responses, because every family is different. Some moms work while dads stay home, or vice versa. In my family, my mom and dad will alternate weeks, being on point with the kids, making dinner, etc. But no matter whose week, both parents are actively involved in the functioning of our family.
The articles states that “In academic journals, family researchers caution that the “culture of fatherhood” has changed more than fathers’ actual behavior.” In some cases, thid may very well be true. But times have changed, women have risen to meet the men in the middle, both taking equal responsibilities in the best cases. Don’t write off every father, because without them our lives would be very different.
Being raised for the past couple years in a split household by parents roles have changed dramatically. No longer does my mom have dinner ready and all the laundry done when my dad brings me back from soccer practice. Being the oldest of 3, I was the one who absorbed the others role now that they are gone. In the beginning it sucked. My mom had always taken care of planning dinner so I had to step up and kind of fill in when I was with my dad. Just as with my mom, my dad wasn’t there, so someone had to do the dishes. Guess who was assigned that job? Me.
The article explained similar situations in my parents relationship, making it seem more normal. But, I never have thought so in depth about just how much their duties were scheduled.
My mom has always been more laid back about everything and easier to talk to an confront, she wasn’t the type to really ever get mad. My dad on the other hand, complete opposite. They are still this way, which I am happy about because they are both so extremely opposite it is like they balance each others parenting styles.
This new increase in responsibility on my behalf originally felt like a burden, but I have begun taking it for what it’s worth. It is not that bad, and it am grateful for this opportunity to prepare myself for life. For this I applaud my parents the most.
In my family, both of my parents work, with my dad carrying most of the financial load. My mom works for a friend that just pays her like an average job but it is way better than what she was doing before financially which was stay at home mom. Like the article mentioned my mom gets us ready in the morning and usually cooks and cleans up although my dad often grills. My dad also takes care of me and my brother’s sports. If we ever need new cleats or pants my dad always handles stuff like that along with teaching us stuff we need to know to succeed in the sport. My dad is also the brains of the family so he always has to help my brother and I with our homework. Both my parents take me to school on occasions that is convenient to them. The “division of labor” is pretty equal among my parents I’d say. Both of my parents work every hard in often different aspects life for our family. I am so thankful for my family a
@navreet It's interesting you say that your dad is the "brains of the family" What makes you think this? My cousin's dad helped him with his homework until high school, then when his mom started helping him with his advanced science classes.. he learned she had a PhD in biochemistry...
My mom is a stay at home mom, and she takes the burden of most of our household chores. My dad works as a parts and services manager at Jeff Gordon Chevrolet. Both of their jobs are difficult and vital to our house.
I am very happy with my present arrangement. My parents can both be there for me when i need them, come to my games, help me with homework, and I really wouldn't have it any other way.
I personally don't agree with the statement that "men need to stop resisting." Women posses the ability to give birth to a child, nurse the child, and these are qualities that aren't possessed by men. There is nothing wrong with raising children. Stay at home moms have the privilege of raising the next generation, a generation that will go on to discover and do what previous generations couldn't do before them.
Most of the people taking shots at the working fathers have no right to do so. These father are bringing in income for their families and doing what they can to provide. Children are a product of how their parents raise them, and though I believe that equal division of responsibility for children is important, I don't understand why people are trying to push men out of the workforce.
For the most part, I think my parents share the responsibility of parenting my little brothers and I. My dad has a full-time job at the hospital doing medical sales, but that does not limit his availability to parent. My mom is a registered nurse, but she chose to be a stay at home, when she had my youngest brother because she wanted to be with us, and keep us in line with getting our homework done, getting us to and from school, preparing dinner, and cleaning the house. My dad did not ask her to stay home, she didn’t need to, but she chose to. She may start working again soon, but she enjoys being involved and knowing everything that’s going on within our lives.
Typically my mom handles me more with volleyball since that’s a sport she played, also because we are the only girls in the family. My dad is always there to give me advice and support, but he’s more involved with my brothers since they are boys. My family is pretty tight, so my mom usually tells my dad things vice versa, but it’s easier for me personally talking to my mom.
I agree that there’s not always equal parent contribution in families, depending on the circumstances, but luckily for me, I’ve seen equal parent contribution in my family.
My mom works as a nurse educator at our local hospital and online, and this summer will be graduating with her doctorate in nurse practitioner. My dad retired after more than 20 years in the military in 2016, and now works as an accreditation manager for our university's police department. I'm proud of both of them.
Personally I don't like this question. Most, if not all couples, are in differing situations. Some are married. Some are dating. Some have children. Some do not have children. Some are financially secure. Some are not financially secure. All of these differences, lead to how many responsibilities are to be had, and how the workload needs to be separated.
My dad handles finances because that is what he's better at. My mom handles vacation planning because she is great at making plans and finding things to do. My dad mows the yard because he likes to do so.
I'm the one who gets my siblings up in the morning. All of us get our own breakfast. Me and my parents cook, and all of my family pitches in on cleaning and helping each other with homework. In our household, everyone pitches in with work with the house. I'm fortunate in this sense to grow up in an environment where I learn, and have learned from an early age, that if I work hard, I can be rewarded.
Some families are different from mine, and that's fine. I love my family and am forever proud of how both of my parents have raised me, my brother, and my sister and handled their even amount of responsibilities.
Just like how the author stated when it comes to spliting the responsibilities as parents it’s pretty sexist. It’s mostly the women that has to manage and take care of the children’s lives. Due to this some women may multi-task if they have a job. They have to care for the children while simultaneously caring for their profession. This is pretty unfair for women, men should also take some responsibilities in parenting.
In my household, I use to barely ever get to see my father. Whenever he came back to visit us, sometimes he was like a stranger to me. I don’t blame him, but sometimes I wished he would spend more time with me so could built a strong bond. Men should spend more time with their children especially when they are still young. children follow their parents footsteps. If the man isn't there for them, how are they supposed to get impacted from them.
My father being a firefighter and my mother working from home the roles were shared pretty equally. My father, now being a captain for the fire department, works a twenty-four hour shift and is off for the following four days. He is mostly in charge of mowing the grass, fixing the house when needed, and fixing our cars. My mother was in charge of taking care my sister and I. Which included taking us to school, getting ready for school and bed, and she also had to clean the house. My parents mostly follow the parenting stereotype. My father does the "manly" work and my mother does more of the "motherly" responsibilities. Now as a sixteen year old most of the responsibilities are on me, but I'm happy that during my childhood both my parents helped us and equally giving their all to help our family prosper.
Honestly, I think that this question is flawed, because their using the word equitable as if it were the word equal. So in response to the question, yes, my parents do share an equitable amount of parental responsibilities. While they are divorced, they both do their best to take care of their kids. I live with my mom, and my 2 older siblings are both at college. My dad is a very successful lawyer and is able to support them.
Though, I still have a problem with the question, because it seems to paint the picture that dads are not doing enough to take care of their kids outside of providing the income. I don't see why what has worked in the past doesn't work now. My dream in life has always been to get a job that allows my wife and kids to live comfortably. Call me old fashioned, but I don't think that women should work if they don't have to. If I could choose, my wife would be free to do whatever she pleases during the day, and then we both chip in during the afternoons. I've always wanted to live the life that it is movies, where dads take care of the yard and making furniture, and other things like that. And my wife can maintain the house, decide where the furniture goes, and other things of that nature.
I think that people nowadays want to change social norms just for the sake of changing it. But as my grandfather used to say, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
In my family, both of my parents work, with my dad carrying most of the financial load. My mom works for a friend that just pays her like an average job but it is way better than what she was doing before financially which was stay at home mom. Like the article mentioned my mom gets us ready in the morning and usually cooks and cleans up although my dad often grills. My dad also takes care of me and my brother’s sports. If we ever need new cleats or pants my dad always handles stuff like that along with teaching us stuff we need to know to succeed in the sport. My dad is also the brains of the family so he always has to help my brother and I with our homework. Both my parents take me to school on occasions that is convenient to them. The “division of labor” is pretty equal among my parents I’d say. Both of my parents work every hard in often different aspects life for our family. I am so thankful for my family and parents.
As a sixteen-year-old from a military family, I have experienced, first-hand, the idea of “unequal parenting.” My father was in the Navy for a few years, and now works as an airline pilot. Because of his career, he is seldom home during the week, and might only be here for the weekends. However, he is not gone because he doesn’t want to share in parenting; he is gone because he wants to work to give our family a nice home and lifestyle.
I would never say that my father is a “bad parent.” For the time he is home, he is very involved in my life; he cooks family dinners, helps us get breakfast before leaving for school, and attends any events we feel are important. For these reasons, I believe that all families have a different division of parental responsibilities, but it is not always negative. In my case, my mother is more involved, but my father loves my brother and I just as much, and always tries to put a significant amount of time toward being a part of our lives.
When I was younger my mom would work once a week on Wednesdays, and my dad would work almost everyday. I saw my mom way more than my dad, but as the years went on things changed. I started playing travel volleyball, which costs an arm and a leg, so my moms once a week job turned into an everyday ordeal. I started seeing my dad way more than my mom. He would drive me to practice, make me dinner, take me to tournaments. My mom was always at work so my dad took over the typical "mom roles" of our house.
I think it's empowering to know that Dads are starting to take responsibilities that, according to this article, usually go to your Mom. I would also like to point out how in the article where it says something about the women's husband going to brush his own teeth before helping with the kids, my dad would have never done that when I was younger. I'm pretty sure we all brushed our teeth at the same time. It was a family thing.
Maybe in the 18th century mothers were the only parental figure, but that is not true in my 21st century life. Both of my parents have crazy schedules, so depending on the day of the week, my father, mother, or my brothers and I are in charge of daily household tasks. My mom’s schedule fluctuates less, so typically she picks us up from school, but I can always depend on my dad for a ride in the morning.
I wouldn’t say that an uneven level of parental responsibility is due to sexism- it really just depends on the schedules of both parents. If there is a week where my dad is busy at work, I’ll see my mom more- but it’s not abnormal for my dad to be home cooking dinner every day instead of my mom.
I would say I'm one of the lucky ones when it comes to my parents. They both cook, they both clean, they both do laundry, and they both make time for fun with the kids. Both of my parents work at home, for the most part. My dad has one big job that he does as vice president of a company in a different state, but my mom has three separate jobs that she's always working on.
But when it comes to disciplining us, my parents differ. My mom is usually the "bad guy" and my dad is always the "hero", at least that is the way my mom sees it. It's not that my dad doesn't try to punish us, he does, but he is too nice of a guy to follow through. He has never even taken my phone away. My mom on the other hand, she's not afraid. She'll throw away every toy in the house away before you even think about talking back. My mom does it all out of love, of course, and she reminds us of that.
The bad thing about this sort of arrangement falls on my dad. My little brothers know that they can scream at him and boss him around for putting milk in the wrong cup, but my that doesn't happen to my mom.
I sometimes forget that in the stereotypical household, the mom does all the labor because my parents have set such a great example for me of how the house should run. It's interesting to see another house's perspective and how it functions.
Every household has a different routine and different responsibilities each person shares. When it comes to parents, they should have somewhat equal responsibilities. However, my household does not do a very good job of keeping it equal, especially between my parents. My mother is usually the one to do all of the cleaning inside the house, while my does all of the work outside of the house. That seems pretty fair, but when it comes to discipline, my mother does all of the work. My father doesn't really get involved with any of the conflicts and it is always my mom disciplining and punishing. This isn't a good thing because it creates many issues that could have easily been avoided. It leaves my father clueless most of the time and it ends up causing my parents to disagree with their different opinions. Parents should be a team and make decisions like these as a "united front".
In the article, Ms. Lockman says that "division of labor in the home is one of the most important equity issues of our time.” I agree with this statement because many marriages have suffered just because of this one reason. I think that if everything was equal between two parents, the household would overall be much happier. It keeps everything in line and prevents chaos. Personally, my household would be less crazy if my parents had equal division of labor as well.
My parents represent the lifestyle that has been the norm for centuries: the wife stays at home to take care of the kids while my dad works to support us. My mother doesn’t have what people call a “real job”, she’s said to me more than once, “Taking care of my kids is my job.” She’s the one who makes sure we’re doing well, but her life doesn’t completely revolve around my siblings and I. My mom loves to exercise and a typical day for her would be running in the morning, doing abs, then going to the gym all before eleven. She’s the healthiest person I know.
Since my mom is a stay-at-home-mom, she usually does most of the tasks that need to be done. This means that she is the one to take care of us instead of my dad doing it. But this doesn’t mean my dad stays completely out of our lives. In the morning, he’s the one to wake my siblings up and make sure they’re getting ready for school. When my mom is busy, he’s the one to prepare dinner. They have a system that works just for them.
Darcy Lockman says that, “If anything is going to change, men have to stop resisting. Gendered parenting is kept alive by the unacknowledged power bestowed upon men in a world that values their needs, comforts and desires more than women’s.” I believe that this case differs from family to family. Sometimes men do need to step up more, but it’s all about finding a routine that works for you. Families need to be able to function in a positive way that helps everyone.
I personally agree with the author, Darcy Lockman, and I believe that parenting should be weighted “evenly”, but I do think “evenly” is different for every single individual family. For example, growing up I would say I had a pretty average family life. I have one older brother and then my mom and my dad, my dad worked a lot and worked out of town for a few years so at that point my mom mainly took care of my brother and I.
Now my brother is twenty-one, in the army, and not living at home, so pretty much it is just me. But one more thing, now my parents are divorced, which really changes the dual parenting dynamics. I go to my moms for a week, then my dads for a week, then back to my moms, then back to my dads. They both parent me, just not together anymore. I am sixteen and think that if I was younger when my parents got divorced, it would be a lot more difficult.
Overall I found this article very interesting, seeing how other families and households function. Seeing not every family is like your own, and that people want change. Darcy Lockman definitely feels like she is carrying the parenting of the family, which needs to change for her family. Now for other families I think that dynamic might be perfect for the. Everyday new humans are born and others go off to heaven, yet not one the same. Not one person or relationship or family the same. Do what is best for you and your family, not just what everyone else thinks you need to do.
Honestly, I believe the reason why people believe that the weight of responsibility of the parent is unfair is because in the 21st century people are wanting to see change. Throughout history, we are taught to do everything our parents do and grow up to like them. For example, the girls are taught how to cook and clean and then boys were taken out to go work with their dad; granted that was in the 1800s.
My mom definitely does the heavy lifting when it comes to taking care fo the kids, driving them to sports and doing the laundry but it is just as unfair to say that my dad does not deal with the lifting as well. He may come home very tired but he makes an effort to try and help with my mom and her jobs. Whenever he is off of work he tries so hard to be involved with helping out my mom.
Overall, I really believe that this situation is based on your morals and not what everyone else thinks because one family may have it down to a tight schedule while some are having trouble finding a balance between work life and family time.
I agree with the author, Darcy Lockman when she says in the past mothers were practically the only parental figure but in today's time I would disagree. Sexism is only in your household if you allow it to be. Women have the same rights as men and at some times life can be unfair but in your own home you should have control over parenting abilities.
In my own home, my mom worked part time v.s my dad who works full time 8am-9pm. My mom naturally became the more pronounced in our childhood lives because of work. Not that my dad didn't want to be a fatherly figure, he was taking his own responsibility in parenting by providing and support the family.
Both parents have important roles in the family and every family is unique with their own situation.
I personally do not do very much in my household. All I do is wash the dishes and do my laundry. I don't know what other kids my age do as chores but I would assume it's more than I do because I don't do that much at all.
My parents share the responsibilities of parenting very evenly. In all honesty, my parents don’t even have designated jobs or duties. For example, in the traditional households of many cultures, the women tend to the children, cook, and clean. However, this is in contrast with how my parents work, because both my mom and dad cook sometimes; this is the same with all the other obligations of parenting my parents face such as cleaning, or other housework chores. It doesn’t matter what time of the week it is; the parenting of my parents follows whatever is most practical or pragmatic for them. Whoever can cook dinner cooks dinner, whoever is free to clean the house cleans the house, and etc. In addition, my parents run a business together which means that there isn’t a main provider of our household. Apropos to actually raising me as a person, the responsibility is still equally split. I spend time equally with my dad and mom. Although I live in a pretty basic functioning family, I must admit that the one suggestion I have to parents or couples in general is that communication is key. I am a firm believer in the idea that “miscommunication is the route of all problems.” If you feel that your spouse/significant other isn’t fulfilling their responsibilities, whether it be parenting or simply supporting the ménage, try communicating with them; healthy relationships require you to communicate clearly in order to be able to work together after all.
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In my household, my parents try to share the housework evenly. I Feel like my parents are good at the roles that they play and I wouldn't want them to change whatsoever. They all manage time well, and they both are very fluid in a sense. They work together well and they help us equally, such as for homework, my parents boh know how to do a lot of school topics, so they help me equally. As with watching my siblings and I, they make changes in their day to benefit each other, so they can do what the want, for example, if my dad had to go to softball practice, my mom would take us to our grandmas house and cook dinner at home while we are gone. I agree with this statement because one parent can be watching tv or whatever the want, living the leisure life, while the other is doing everything, which is causing an unbalanced workforce within the household. With an unbalanced workforce, the house usually can’t stay clean because the one parent can't keep up with the children and everything else, causing a giant mess. Though I've seen many non hands on dads, I know now that many dads are starting to become very hands on. It could be within my family, but I am noticing that many dads are doing many jobs that would only be considered for women, in their time. But for over 75 years for it to happen? I strongly disagree. By then, if we still exist, men would in majority be hands on for sure.
My parents try to split the work equally in my household, they both take turns giving us rides to and from school and sporting events. But with my dad working, my mom ends up spending more time working in the house and planning for family events. I would say that the work ends up being split pretty evenly. I don't think it's fair for the article to blame the discrepancy in male vs female child raising time on sexism. On average, the husband is more likely to be the breadwinner of a family which leaves him less time in the house. The lack of male parental time makes sense when you look at it in the context of average hours worked and not simply how much time each parent spends with the kids.
My parents have given each other different responsibilities when it comes to maintaining a stable home and making sure my sister and I are safe. It’s also like their responsibilities are on a scale. For example, my mother would make the meals that we would eat, while my father would buy the groceries for those meals. My dad would also be responsible for watching us in the afternoon, while my mom is home in the morning. With this even balance of responsibilities, it makes it easier for them as a couple, and for me as a child. I don’t have to worry about many things because at least one of my parents have them covered. But, sometimes the division of labor can be complicated. Since my parents have different education levels (my mom with a bachelors and my dad with a masters), whenever it comes to things, like homework, I usually go to my dad since he’s...smarter. He also makes more money than my mother, so I usually go to him for more things. My parents have good salaries, but when one of them makes a little more, you’re more than likely to ask for more things from them.
In my family the closest I come to parenting being a role model for my younger sister. Like many siblings, we fought over small insignificant things that would lead to one of us getting her, which usually her since I was older. Before in my life I never really had to help my younger sibling. She confided in my parents, told them her secrets, problems, needs. Meanwhile, I minded my own bessnus. However, recently, probably due to both of us maturing, I’ve become more of a role model for her, and it's hard.
As a brother a lot of the problems she has with her friends don’t make sense to me. I finally knew what my parents felt when we come to them with problems,”not prepared.” I found myself scrambling trying to find an answer that I could not provide. More questions kept rising continuously, as I attempted to put myself in her situation. Finally, I looked for outside help, which was answered by one of my friends, who went through a similar situation that my sister was going trough. I connected the two together and they talked endlessly for hours, which lead my sister to a solution that solves her problem.
I don't share very many parenting responsibilities with my partner, but I do have my responsibility as a brother. Of course I clean up around the house, mow the lawn, but I think my responsibility as a sibling is how I help my parents parent the most.
My parents share the responsibilities of parenting as my mother takes care of my brother and me, while my father is the main source of income in my family. The division of labor in my whole household is fairly uneven during the school year as it's usually done by who even has free time, but this is if my mother is busy as she usually takes care of things around the house. During the summer, I usually do it with my brother and father so it's evener.
With work my dad travels every week meaning every Monday- Thursday, sometimes Friday, he is out of town and not an active roll in my daily routine. So my mom is pretty much in charge of everything, from picking me up after school and coming to my sporting events. Sometimes I’m glad not to have my dad home 24/7 because he has different rules then what I’m used to with my mom, but at the same time, I wish my dad was home more than he is. As I have gotten older, I feel as though I have become another parent, because during the week I help my mom around the house just so she doesn’t have to do everything.
I’m not saying that my mom should work any differently, I just personally think that she should have changed to a halftime job to be able to be off work more. When I get older and have kids, I want to be able to spend as much time as possible with my kids, from attending every awards ceremony to watching them make life-changing decisions. I want to be a part of that as a parent, I’m not saying this to throw my dad under the bus because I know he tries to make all of my events, but sometimes if they happen during the middle of the week, he has to miss them.
My life is filled with event after event and always keeping myself busy. I’m always on time and it mostly has to do with routines I have set in place for myself. This life of rountains and keeping myself occupied is just what I do. If I’m sitting on the couch doing nothing I feel guilty that I’m not doing something else. And I have a feeling that this mindset that I’ve had ever since I can remember will not only follow me into my adulthood but, also into my parenthood.
When I do have kids I hope that the person I marry isn’t like the men in this article. I hope we can share responsibilities 50 - 50 and that I won’t have to be the bad cop all the time. I hope that I’m not the only one planning our childs playdates and driving them everywhere but, rather have open communication to where we can split the load equally.
In my life I see the experiences that are talked about in the article. My mother is the one who planed all my play dates, drove me to school, and made sure I did my homework. My dad is a huge part of my life and is there any time I have or will need him but, when it comes to everyday things my mom is the one to go to and my dad is just the substitute for when my mom can’t do it.
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My household is very typical, my mom does most of the household chores like cooking and cleaning and of course I help her as well. Both my parents work but, my mom doesn’t work in the afternoons and weekends while my dad works all week other than Sunday’s sometimes. Even though my dad is the one who brings in the most income to the household he still cooks dinner sometimes when my mom’s tired and helps tidy up.
Both my parents split their responsibility as parents pretty evenly. My dad drops me off at school in the mornings and is the one in charge of all my school stuff while my mom picks me up in the afternoons and takes care of all my appointments. Both of them make sure to spend time with me, especially my dad since he works more.
I don’t agree with Lockman’s essay when he says it’s all based on the sexist society because both my parents work and split responsibilities based on the time they have. My mom likes cooking and so do I, It isn’t due to a sexist society. I’m greatful to the wonderful parents I have and everything they do for me.
In the article, a mother states “I can’t trust him to do anything, to actually remember,” And her husband responded with “I just don’t think these things are worth attending to.” This is a terrible excuse from the husband, but unfortunately, many other husbands use this same excuse.
The husband has this misconception that these tasks aren’t necessary because he has never seen what happens when these tasks aren’t attended to; his wife picks up his slack, and he doesn’t realize how much she does to take care of the house and kids, so he sees these tasks as unnecessary to do.
The wife not being able to trust her husband forces her to pick up the slack because she knows that the kids and house have to to be cared for by someone, and if her husband refuses to do it then she has no choice. This is extremely unfair to the woman because she also has a job and now she has to do most of the housekeeping as well because her husband is not being responsible.
There are plenty of ways to remember to do something, such as set a reminder on your phone, write it down on a calendar, etc., so there shouldn’t be the problem of a husband not remembering to do his part. The other issue of a wife not trusting the husband to do something right can be easily solved by the husband taking five minutes to learn how to do it right; if the wife can do it, then the husband can learn how to do it too. Nothing is preventing them from being able to learn these basic tasks; except excuses.
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I agree with Lockman when she says mothers do 65% of child-care work. I feel like kids gravitate more towards mothers though. Their attitudes and expressions are softer, more welcoming to young kids. Kids model after their parents, and everyone seeks normality. I feel like this is another part as to why parents dive up the child care the way they do. Its not really based off sex, more the generations before and the mother’s personality.
One way my household differs from Lockman’s essay is both of parents work. My mother makes almost as much as my dad, and my dad runs his own business which does very well. My mother and father also split up child care duty, with my mom planning more things while my dad acts as a free uber. However, now that I have gotten my driving license I have taken the brunt of driving duties for my younger brother. In place of driving, my dad has been learning how to cook, and recently started cooking dinner once he got home from work.
While in most households the work is probably more on the mother, especially at younger ages, I feel like my household is proof that equal work is possible. My mother is the boss of my house. My friends will constantly tell me to ask my dad if I can do this or that. My response is that my dad is not the person I have to clear it with.
So basically my parents are your average strict parents who love you and only want the best however they both have their own roles. My dad is the one who teaches me lessons on how to be a man,the responsibilities and things about stock markets or economics. My mom is the one who teaches me lessons about friendship, how to deal with people, or problems. Other than that I spend a lot of time with my mom going on runs or watching show but with my dad I help out in the yard or building my basement. If I can put it in kid context it would be my mom is like my best friend and dad older brother. Besides those statements my parents both were together to get my sublingual and I are needs and a lot of what we want. They both make a commitment working 10 hours a day, driving us to activities, and making dinner.
In my family, there is a relatively equitable distribution of the burden that is childcare. My mother and father each cook, clean, and participate in the miscellaneous duties of parenting on a regular basis. Both of my parents run businesses and are incredibly busy, so there is an informal understanding that whoever is present at home will be charged with taking care of me and siblings. The task of raising my siblings and me has been viewed as a communal effort, and the distribution of this effort has been deemed to be completely arbitrary by my parents. While this unspoken system inevitably results in one parent carrying more responsibilities than the other in certain instances, the imbalance is always rectified within the next few weeks, when the situation is flipped.
However, I can say without a doubt that the balanced approach to parenting that exists in my family is not an effort to rectify the parenting imbalance described by Darcy Lockman’s opinion piece, “What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With.” My parents share their duties because it is the best way for them to cope with the immense duty that is raising children. My parents’ system is a natural evolution of their needs and experiences, and I am certain that every family finds an (admittedly often unequal) balance between both parents, based on their specific situations.
I feel like this “issue” boils down to far more than just simply sexism. While it is entirely true that the father is often less involved in their children’s day-to-day activities, this does not automatically label them as sexist or a bad parent. I also do not see the traditional parenting style in the same light as the author. We have moved far beyond the point where the mother stayed at home while the father is out working. These mothers have options and can do what they desire.
One thing the article fails to tackle is the intrinsic motivation of a mother to actually want to involve themselves in their child’s life as much as possible. The author is treating raising a child as a chore rather than a task people genuinely enjoy. Many of the points the article makes revolve around the moms performing more of the everyday tasks than the fathers, which isn’t entirely negative. Personally, I know for a fact that my mom loved to care for me and my sister growing up, and preferred to do a majority of the “tedious” parental work. I don’t think it is fair to pinpoint this as a sexist issue because that fails to include the countless number of parents who see their kids as people, rather than items on a checklist.
My parents have rolls similar to the last generation, their parents. My father works daily and fixes things in the house, while my mother cooks most of the meals and plays a more active role in the kids lives. That isn’t to say my father is ignorant or apathetic, just that my mother was instinctively “parenter.”
The parental baton will be shared as it is now for a very long time. Aside from woman's naturally superior child care, it’s been the norm since the first human beings. For the most part, my parents compare what they are doing to their mother and father. Kids end up being a lot like their parents and often model after them.
Personally, as a man, I don’t think I could manage as a house husband. It’s a big task that I don’t see myself being great at, even with my job as a kids camp counselor. My sixteen year old self has almost entirely experienced families with the classic caretaker mother and breadwinner father.
Throughout history, there has been a consistent theme of mothers being the primary caretakers for children. This standard is not only found in humans, but is a biologically sound quality in most species.
Throughout my childhood, it has been fairly obvious that my mom takes on more kid-related tasks than my dad. My dad still contributes greatly, but as far as laundry, cooking, and things of that matter, my mom tends to take the lead.
However, unlike Lockman's essay, this is in no way due to a sexist societal standard. Both of my parents work, and both are doctors. However, like many of the couples interviewed, my dad works far more. While my mom has off every Tuesday and Friday, as well as the weekends, my Dad only has off every other Monday.
Finally, similar to what was mentioned in the article, there is a large difference with how my parents do things. My dad tends to take problems as they come, dealing with them one step at a time. My mom on the other hand make lists, often pages long, of things to get done, even if they are not necessary for weeks. This is part of what makes their child-related work load uneven.
Regardless of who does what in the household, I am still very appreciative for both my parents, and I am thankful for what they do for my siblings and I every day. They are the ones who help us be successful, whether or not one does more than the other.
My dad leaves for work very early in the morning and gets back late at night, so you could say it is impossible for him to do his fair share of his work. Also, he is usually very tired after a long day of hard work so he is really not in the mood to do anything but eat and go to sleep. On the weekends though, my dad does do his fair share of the work. I am happy with the present arrangement, because the rest of my family is comfortable with it. There are some cases were my dad does less than my mom, and this is with planning my sister's and me's schedules. My mom is always making the calls and writing in her agenda what has to be done when, even on the weekends. If and when I have a family I want to make sure I do the fair share of my work, but I still want to go to work because I want to attain my dream job. I do believe this is a real issue, but it should be resolved with time.
At home, my mom is the one to shoulder most of the traditional parenting work. She would do the laundry, walk me to school, make appointments, and plan any family trips, all while having a full time job. However, my dad works in film and my mom is an audiobook narrator who works at home. My dad had weird hours when he had a steady TV show job, and now his work means that he isn't even living in the same state as us most of the year. So you could argue these arrangements make sense.
Now that I'm older, and it's just my mom and I at home, I do everything myself. I haven't really had to think about the parenting dynamic in years, and now that it's finally irrelevant to my life, I feel like I am able to understand it. My mom would do domestic chores because my dad is a notorious slob- but isn't that just an excuse? It wouldn't have taken much effort for him to clean up a bit and change his bad habits. While some things made sense for the way our family runs, other things now seem like slacking.
But to me, the big problems are societal. Every family has their own personal and specific limitations and circumstances, but the trends of wages and labor mentioned in the article are very common. These things start early- right after birth in fact. Women are given meager maternity leave, and men are given less, if any, especially compared to other countries. This sets a standard from the very start that women should stay home and lose out on opportunities while men earn the money.
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My parents pretty much split up the labor of parenting evenly. Usually, the way it works out is that my dad and my brother usually do things together, because they have similar interests, while my mom will hang out with me. There’s also a lot of time where they work together or take turns doing things, like dinner. My mom’s a much better cook than my dad, so she usually cooks while he cleans up and washes the dishes. Especially after school some times when my brother and my dad are out at sports practice, it is really nice to walk into a meal already made and waiting for you. My brother and I also share the tradition of eating food before bed. Sometimes my mom will cut and peel the apples, sometimes my dad will. Sometimes I cut and peel the apple for myself. But, most of the time they alternate each night. I am happy with the current parenting, and I would only want it to change if my dad spent more time with me. Then again, the only reason we don’t do a lot of things together now is that he likes sports and I don’t. That’s why my mom and I would stay home and watch a movie while my dad and brother went to a sports game. Experiences, like cooking dinner, helping me with homework, and reading together, are all fulfilled by my mom. My mom is usually a stickler to rules, while my dad doesn’t care as much. All in all, I love the current arrangement of the division of responsibilities of parenting.
My household is a modern household as opposed to a traditional household. For starters, both my parents work, so neither of them are doing housework during the day on a weekday. My dad gets more time off than my mom, as he works as a teacher and gets off during the summer, which is great, because we get to spend summers together! My mom and dad are really good about splitting up their work around the house, be it parenting or chores. They stress that basis of our household. When one of them takes a break, both of them usually take a break.
In a more traditional household, one like my mom and dad experienced, the father would go to work during the day, and the mother would stay home and do the chores and housework. When the father returns home, the mother would cater to his every need, as he is the one doing work to bring home the money! I’m not saying that everyone with this type of household should change their household situation, because it had worked for a very long time! All I’m saying is that you should note that households are changing!
Parenting is not equal in my home, most likely because my mother is a stay-at-home mom, and my father goes to work every day. It was her choice, but I still don't understand why my mom became a stay-at-home mom in the fist place! When I asked her about it before (thinking maybe it was because my dad was making more money than her at the time) it was quite the contrary. Apparently, she was making more money, so to me, it would be only sensible that she would be the bread winner. And no, it was never her dream to become a stay-at-home parent, but it was just sort of more of an unspoken agreement. Once I was born, being the younger of two children, my mom stopped working. When my older brother was born, she was still working (just like my dad), but she was the major care-taker of him. The past is sexist, and although people tend to claim feminists are ridiculous now, we obviously still need them, since this is just an unfair social norm so many women and girls still stay silent about.
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Parents play different roles in each of their children's life.As a child of two wonderful parents, i can easily say that i go to my mom and my dad about different things.Both my parents help me out with different obstacles that i face throughout my life.Having different opinions from both my mom, and my dad keeps me at a positive balance when making decisions.
Those roles parents play usually come from there own personal experience I remember getting into my first argument with my friend, skylar. Because me and skylar were so close, getting through the difficult time period in our friendship was hard.When i was down, i would always go to my mom because i felt as though an experienced girls opinion would help me through this time more than my father would.Never to say i don't go to my father about anything, it was just during those circumstances i needed another girl to uplift me.
We need our parents for different circumstances in our life.In “What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With,” Darcy Lockman writes,“When my husband and I became parents a decade ago, we were not prepared for the ways in which sexism was about to express itself in our relationship”. In this she is explaining that as a soon to be parent she didn't know the her and her partner would play such distinct roles.Although some may look at finding separate roles as a bad thing, I've always thought it was good.After all, having two sets of parents gives you more options to pick and choose from.
Although it is an era of progressiveness, in most households including the one I grew up in, men and women still withhold the traditional roles we are all familiar with. My mom was always the one who made dinner or woke me up in the morning etc. where my dad was more of the "fun" one who took me to the beach or for a run or to kick a soccer ball.
I believe the issue on whether this is sexist or equal rests within the couple themselves. There should not be any set rules of what a mom or dad should be doing around the house and that is honestly something private, personal, and subjective that should be discussed and changed within each marriage.
In my eyes, I was A okay with how things were not because that's how it should be but because that is how things worked. The few times my dad had cooked dinner or taken me to school, the pasta had been overcooked and I had ended up late. My mom and my dad had both recognized their strengths and weaknesses and they shared parenting responsibilities according to that.
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it looks like 2 parents one is holding weights one is holding weights with baby faces on it it kinda looks like a cartoon
@briar Interesting, do you have any opinion on that? Try to put something like a reaction in your future comments instead of just noting something!
what I think is going on is a visual what is parents feel like when the have kids the first time I say that because there is 2 baby faces and they are holding them up.It looks sorta like a cartoon.
I think that parenting is not really split, I think it is more that I just have certain things I do for myself, and then they do all the parenting things. I do think it works well because I get to have some freedom, while they still parent me, but I don't have to parent someone, I just have to look over myself. I think the division of labor isn't as big of a deal as it is made out to be, I think the amount done is by preference of parents, and in my case isn't very high, I just have to do the things that I need for myself, and I need to go to school. Which isn't very bad and I can easily manage. Now if they were to put all the work around the house on me, I could still do it and there would be no big deal, I would just have no free time. I don't think that my views are swayed very much I do believe no matter what circumstances it can be worked out to go anyway, and all the work will get done. In the future, I think that the way I am growing up is the way I would try, because I think it is important to not clog a child's day with work, and never give them free time, but it is also very good to teach them how to care for themselves, so the things that they need for themselves they should do, and get a taste of the real world.
In my house, my parents split their parenting rolls equally for the most part. That being said, my dad is constantly traveling for his job so he is not home all the time, which puts a ton of stress and pressure on my mom.
But, when my dad is home, he does help out a lot. He takes my brother and I to practice, he cooks, he folds laundry, and he helps with basic routines around the house. Most people could see as though my mom is doing all of the work because she is almost always the one primarily home.
While I do agree that some fathers do not do a ton of things around their house, but why are the numbers so high? I'll tell you why, because all of these people juist complain and complain, but never do anything to change it. Sure, you talk about it with your husband, but that's all they do, and they say they've done everything? Yeah, okay.
People need to stop dogging fathers because they "don't do as much work as the moms." Well guess what people, YOU ALL ARE NOW FOLLOWING THE "SOCIAL NORM!!"
Most of ya'll talk abotu the change you want to make in society but all you do is talk, but never take action about it. Instead of complaining about it and taking statistics,maybe you should do something about it. If you have done everything you can, then I won't say a word, but you haven't.
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@Riley Manning
I agree that most working parents do travel occasionally, and while it may stress out the stay at home parent, it is all ofr the rest of the family.