Memo to Trump: Tani exemplifies the American dream - you categorically do not!
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Tears to my eyes. As an immigrant myself, so proud of the family sticking to what is right and not be tempted by the money. Thank you to everyone who offered to help.
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Thank you Nicholas for a very enlightening and more importantly uplifting story. Full credit to you for pursuing such stories , which give us necessary and helpful guardrails that will enhance our quality of life. Your story , rather than column, illuminates the altruism demonstrated by the family and community.
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In a world with Kardashians and Olivia Jades, be a Tani.
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Pure JOY! I admire the sterling character that the Adewumi family has so beautifully exhibited. It's so refreshing after the recent news about rich kids cheating to get into college. (And shall I mention Trump's Foundation, used to buy himself portraits of himself? ) Anyway, Tani, I see you have a very large heart and an incredibly bright future ahead!
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Someone (Melania?) needs to sit the donald down and read this story to him! Even if he doesn't respond to it there will be still be an impact from the public knowing that he has the info and still persists in ignoring what the history of this country really is.....it's not about the expertise and largesse of the rich, it's about the waves of immigrants to these shores looking for AND creating a better life for themselves AND others!
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When I was a child in America, born in 1954. We moved constantly for my father’s work. We were always on the road – my mother was afraid of flying so it was always by car. Three children and a cat. I remember a trip to Alaska in winter on the gravel icy two-lane road and someone had given us a hand, a stranger. My mom told us “you should never forget a favor, a helping hand. You might not be able to reciprocate that needed help to that person so you must pass it on. It all comes around in the end.”
I think better words were never spoken.
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So much for Congressman Steve King comparing his rural piece of Iowa residents to those in New Orleans and their spirit to help each other. It just underscores the total ignorance of how some people understand the world.
At the same time, Congressman King will make sure that his district gets every penny of FEMA assistance due, while the President takes the same aid away from Puerto Rico to build his wall. Yes, real equality and spirit.
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Though I think the family's decision is admirable and noble, I fear that young Tani will grow up in a poorly funded public school (let's hope he continues to rise above) where many classes are not on par with those at the elite academic institutions his parents turned down. Having taught high school in an underfunded public school years ago, I found both the best teachers imaginable (they thrived in the daily challenges) and the God awful worst teachers ever produced who could work nowhere else. Tani's chess teacher would probably be an exception to the ladder.
A top private school can offer radically different and life changing opportunities. After my 5th grade year in public school, my parents had the means to put me into a top private academy with great resources and phenomenal educational opportunities (theater, arts, athletics, engaging classes, etc.,). I am keenly aware of this privilege and seemingly unfair life advantage. It is almost impossible to share the radically different the learning environment and quality of teachers that were provided at Sew. Academy years ago.
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Thank you Nickolas! I (We) needed that. And Good luck Tani and family!! And for all the other families, and strangers, and homeless and .... The Same.
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Wow, Nick! If you ever doubted that your column makes a difference, you have just been shown otherwise! Congratulations for picking such important topics to write about, and for writing well about them.
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May we soon live in a country that is back on the path towards its finer goals.
The freedom to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness means assuring housing, education, and health care for all. Tani’s family already understands this and how good luck must be acknowledged and shared in a country that once promised to set a light on a hill. I ask myself why, in America’s current fractured, inequitable, cruel, and backwards state, do people still want to come and join our experiment or believe that promise? My heartfelt thanks that the Adewumis chose us, and I will do everything I can to repay their remarkable faith.
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The feel good story of the year!
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Thank you for sharing this story. We need more of these, especially in days like these. I hope this kid will make it big time!
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Dear Mr. Kristof,
Thank you for sharing the story of Tani and his family with your readers. I’m a BIG fan of yours. We take the Sunday Print edition, so I wasn’t aware of the ‘Go Fund Me’ account. I’d like to contribute to Tani and his family, but I’m not sure if there is something tangible or should I add to the GFM account. I’ve never contributed to one before. Any suggestions? Blessings, Marianne
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Great story, inspirational. But is it appropriate to call this young man “Our chess champion” thereby appropriating (and co opting) his success? Like the museum that hangs the artist on the wall, or the yoga mom referring to “my carpenter” ?
Let him have his own achievements, please. And how is his brother feeling about all this?
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@Dan Whittet
His brother is probably feeling like any other sibling would feel given the circumstances. Probably happy for him and jealous at the same time. Pretty typical feelings really.
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Another example of an unfortunate truth about people in general and Americans in particular. The outpouring of generosity for an individual promoted by the media is truly amazing. The plight of the thousands in similar situations or the millions in worse circumstances, on the other hand, is just another statistic and provokes very little response, if any.
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I am weeping for all of the many thousands of children and families who remain homeless while Tani and his family rightfully rejoice. EVERY child deserves a home, and a six-figure bank account should not be a pre-requisite to living a decent life.
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And this is why we need immigrants.
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Thanks for such an inspiring story, it brighten my day.
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This may be one of the best stories if read in years. It makes me reflect on the number of Us citizens who acted out of generosity to help Tani. More outstanding was the return of generosity that the family who has next to nothing until now is showing to others who are struggling. And yet we may deny this family citizenship and I ask myself why? They exhibit every quality that would make me proud to call someone a friend, neighbor or fellow citizen.
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Dear Mr. Kristof,
PLEASE send a copy of this last article by you about Tani and his family, to the occupant of the White House. Perhaps this very moving document of generosity, compassion and filling an obvious need with what one can do, will inspire someone to look differently upon immigrants and what they have to offer US, with their humanity and sincere desire to help those who are in need. What a beautiful example for all of us. Thank you for your part in this as well...and do carry on!
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For those wanting to make a donation to an organization very involved with this community and disadvantaged children in general, please consider Sheltering Arms. A wonderful organization who work hard to help all New Yorkers in need...especially children.
Please see their website - shelteringarmsnyc.org
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"... anonymous donor paid a year’s rent on a two-bedroom apartment near Tani’s current school"
Aaaannnnnd my faith in my fellow Americans is restored.
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What actually Makes America Great: Tanitoluwa Adewumi, the extraordinary values of the entire Adewumi family, P.S. 116 Principal Jane Hsu and Russell Makofsky (who oversees the P.S. 116 chess program and waived fees for Tani) and school chess teacher Shawn Martinez, the generosity of Kristof column readers who donated and organized to transform the life of Tani and his family for the better, and, of course, the extraordinary humanitarian and true journalist Nick Kristof.
It is a normal human reaction to respond to a specific case like Tani and his family with the spotlight brought by Tani’s remarkable chess championships & Kristof column - we can have immediate and tangible results. As Kristof points out, it is harder to respond to the literally millions of other Tani’s of this world.
At the start of 2018 based on UNHCR (The UN Refugee Agency) data there are:
68.5 million forcibly displaced people worldwide - 40 million internally displaced, 25.4 million refugees, 3.1 million asylum-seekers. Over half of the refugees - more than 13 million are children like Tani.
Based on US State Department data: in 2016 (Obama policies): 84,994 refugees and 20,340 asylum grants allowed in US; in 2017 (Trump): 53,716 refugees and 26,568 asylum grants in US. Note that in 1980, US allowed 208,220 refugees/asylum grants (combined). Trunp wants lower numbers. Trump wants a wall.
Support organizations like UNHCR, International Rescue Committee/HRC and HIAS (“welcome the stranger”).
Vote in 2020
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Making America great by example. No red hat, rally or wall required.
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What a talent, and from a family from what our president labeled a "s**t country." Bet this kid could beat the Trump brats in 6 moves.
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Your article made my Sunday!
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This article brought tears to my eyes.
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This is a wonderful story and elegant example of charitable giving to worthy individuals breaking the gloom of the normal news cycle. This is the better terrain for Nicholas Kristof until an unfortunate end to this ray of light in closing paragraphs leading again to darkness and missing the generosity impact; because he does not fully comprehending the moment of helping another and the aspect of selflessness.
“Tani thrived because everything fell into place: a good school, a dedicated chess teacher and devoted parents committed to taking their son to every chess practice.” In truth, nothing fell into place. It was all self-directed.
“The challenge is to replicate that supportive environment for all the other Tanis out there with public services and private philanthropy alike.” None of this helped Tani nor will it help others. Individuals help lift other individuals.
The problem is one of ideology as Mr. Kristof’s belief is in programs and not actual people. As such, he misses his own forks in the road and creates the need for this lesson to continually reappear as he has not yet understood. He remains on the other side of the river, missing the actual flow of life.
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@Grant
Yeah programs are terrible. What the heck is Social Security about anyway? Old people should lift themselves up, save for old age or quit whining. Either that or some "individual" can come save them.
It will probably make them feel more enlightened and allow them to be witnesses to the "flow of life."
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What a wonderful story about an amazing family! The family is extremely generous in donating all the money received through its Go Fund Me site. May I suggest that whoever sets up the trust creates a provision that allows Tani's family to draw on this trust in the event of an emergency. For example, what if Tani's father has an accident and can't work? I think that it would be a good thing for them to have an emergency cushion so they don't end up homeless again.
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Kindness, Integrity and Goodness win. I am so inspired to know of this wonderful family....maybe they are not rich in dollars but they are very rich in their character......
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Just another success from the futile effort ( it isn't) of saving all the starfish. We saved THAT ONE didn't we? They already are giving back. This is the cycle we need to replicate.
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Tears in my eyes. And with thanks to all the Adewumis for who they are, to all the generous, wonderful people for their contributions and humanity and to you, Nicholas Kristof, for highlighting goodness in a time filled with so greed and hate.
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This is a wonderful counterweight to the dominating college admissions fraud story, and shows that greed, arrogance, entitlement, and corruption don't always carry the day.
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I hope their lives are going as well for them a year from now when their housing gift is finished. Please visit them from time to time Mr Kristoff and let us know.
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Unfortunately the truth is, if the boy had not been a chess prodigy, this story would not have happened. It is much harder to espouse and write about ending homelessness on a national scale than doing a feel-good story about a one-in-a-billion kid!
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I want a country where two parents do not have to work three jobs to barely get by.
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PS116 is my neighborhood school and emphasizes chess as being important to its school. program and it had a chess program in the summer Tani and the school are lucky to have each other in their world and the NYC Bosrd of Ed should look at how the the school functions and bringing it to schools that are failing.
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All wonderful, heart-warming, etc. The next question is:
How do we contribute to the fund so it can become truly effective and reach the greatest number of those in need?
Thank you, Nicholas, for bringing this all to light.
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For those who want to DO something; look up your local homeless shelter - especially those that serve homeless families with children - and donate, volunteer, or get involved in your community's homeless programs. Go visit and learn first hand why no family should be reduced to living in a shelter. Ask people their story.
You will be rewarded by the lovely people you meet. You will find that 'these people' are probably just like you. Some just got a bad break and here they are. Few want to live there.
Then go home and count your many blessings. Then make a habit of continuing your donations and other assistance.
It is the right thing for us as a society to do.
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While I agree that more should be done in general to help poor and homeless families in desperate need, I think an individual case allows a lot of people to engage and give for the first time and can lead many to open their hearts and wallets further in the future. Inspirational stories are still a very effective way to reach a larger audience about a wider-an typically very overwhelming—problem.
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Thank you for sharing this family’s story and for making the point that individual donors can’t address the systemic problems that make it so difficult for poor children and families to thrive. I wish you’d gone one step further and laid out the evidence-based policies that we know can support families including universal childcare, increased state and federal funding for schools and increasing the minimum wage to really reflect the cost of living. As a society we all, including the very wealthy and large corporations, need to pay for these services through state and federal taxes.
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What a wonderful outcome for this family. One thing Tani had going for him from the start (in addition to his family) was a public school that encouraged him and provided opportunities for him to excel. There are many schools and teachers doing the same everyday across the nation. You can support them by going to donorchoose.org and donating small or large sums to support their classrooms and their students. This winter I bought warm gloves for new American students. Right now at donorchoose you can help teachers send another student to chess classes, buy softball equipment or send a child to science camp. Good public schools make a difference.
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Wow — the Adewumis are truly amazing. America is so lucky to have them here. Thank you for sharing their very inspirational story. It makes me want to be a much better person.
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I hope this inspires people to donate to the school as well, and to all struggling public schools in NYC. Next step is changing the laws that govern funding to schools, now that we have ended the republican controlled democratic caucus, things are starting to change.
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I'd be interested in learning why the family was homeless when both parents had jobs. Is it because they weren't making enough money or because of some other reason? Did their uncertain immigration status make landlords unwilling to rent to them? If so, then that's a big problem that needs to be fixed.
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I taught poetry for many years to poor children of color in a poets-in-the school’s organization that I founded. The public schools I taught in were woefully underfunded. Many of the children were homeless, which is a disgrace in this wealthy country. But what was interesting was that the children and their families tended to be much more generous and empathetic than the affluent children I have taught and the wealthy donors I tried to persuade to donate to my organization. This family’s decision, while remarkably altruistic, doesn’t completely surprise me.
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This is an amazing family, even without a chess prodigy. Their hard working ethic, generosity and over all understanding of the situation they and their peers are in is an inspiration. These are exactly the folks we want a permanent residents and citizens. Just one question, do they have any relatives who'd like to come to the U.S.A.
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Thank you for sharing a story on which is so remarkable many fronts. In these ragged times, we all need conformation that most Americans are still very decent and generous people.
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So great to read this gives me hope for America's future. We will be able to return to the things that make America great. People!
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Beautiful story, uplifting too - and necessary uplift for all of us who, as the comments show, are breathing a sigh of relief that we, the US, are still a beacon of light, still a land of freedom and opportunity for people around the world. On this note, I am struck by the self-referential nature of the comments: helping this young prodigy helps us, we become stronger and better etc. We should however remember that our gain is Nigeria's, and by extension, Africa's, loss.
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I have worked with children and parents at Children's hospitals for several years, and one thing I have learned is that the most amazing and considerate children have amazing parents.
Tani's parents are responsible for the gift to us of a brilliant, loving boy. They are the heroes of this story.
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Thank you so much. It strikes me that is a nation of so many good people, surely we could put together an immigration policy that includes departments to see resettlement through to a promising conclusion. We do not need to waste people. We need to build them up and then to become positive citizens as I am sure these wonderful people will be.
Thank you again.
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Grit and Humility.
This is a story because not many of us can claim these traits and we are inspired.
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"God has already blessed me,” Mr. Adewumi told me. “I want to release my blessing to others.” This was the most inspirational quote in the whole article. If only just a small fraction of people in the world were to follow his words, imagine what a better place it would be for all of humanity.
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What an inspiring contrast to the headlines recently about rich parents paying millions to cheat their kids into the “right” college. And, according to a Washington Post article, now paying prison consultants to help coach them in preparing for jail time and on how to reduce their sentence upfront.
This incredible family returns the confidence of a public school that believed int their son and passes on cash to those who need it more. They are what makes America truly great.
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Mr. Kristof, I love the story of Tani and his family. I've heard it before. But this time it reverberates with joyous celebration from the rooftops of Tani's community and into your column. Instead of the nagging refrain, "What's good enough, ain't I good enough?, there's genuine nurture, happiness and hard work--the recommended diet for every child.
There are countless trophies waiting for the Tanis of our communities to have their names inscribed on them and hoisted to the rooftops in joyous celebration. They live next door and down the street. They are the promise of nurtured talent and hope.
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This is us.... the love, kindness and grace of this family is rarely seen in our world....
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Tani's parents are to be commended, but one wonders if they are a bit over generous, lacking understanding that the largess which has been bestowed upon him is a one-time thing. Once out of the public eye, publicity is fickle. You only get your 15 minutes of fame.
They should take what they have been given and be glad for it. Tani would benefit from the increased educational opportunities from a better school. He should undoubtedly go to a private middle school (and on to one of NYC's elite public high schools).
Strike while the iron is hot.
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@Dejah. Maybe their material comfort will disappear again, but they know what that struggle is. What they will have is their integrity and commitment to their values. Which is remarkable in this age of cynicism. It inspires me to live more generously.
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I'm sorry you think he needs to go to a private middle school. Perhaps it's because you live in a red state? NYC has some of the best public schools in the country. We should work hard to improve public schools everywhere, so great education is available to all - at all levels, including colleges and universities - and not just to the wealthy and those eligible for scholarships & charity. Our entire society would benefit.
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Or, use your luck to try and help others as well, and model modesty and loyalty to your kid, rather than just treating good fortune like the lotto and grabbing as fast as you can.
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I read this and couldn't complete the article without stopping multiple times to dry my tears. What a wonderful story. I am going to read it again.
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Thank you for the story. We needed a small sign of hope. I only hope such stories were more common not only for refugees but for all people who have decency and integrity within our borders.
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Notably one of the things that fell in place was support from their church. Many horrible things happen in the name of religion, but also many wonderful things.
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What a beautiful story. What a spectacular result. The sad reality, however, is that our president was elected precisely because he hates people like this and promises to build walls to keep them out. Their success shouts out his failure, both as a president and as a human being.
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I am in tears, this just made my day!
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Writing this with tears in my eyes. The decency, generosity and morals of this beautiful family are a staggering joy to behold, especially in these times. G-d bless the readers who came forth with donations so that this family and this brilliant child might have a fighting chance in their new country.
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Wonderful that a deserving family gets its opportunity to have a home and safety for their children
Now if only this compassion could extend to the homeless 78-year old woman who was mercilessly attacked on the subway last week.
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By ‘paying it forward,’ Tani will be enriched far beyond what money could bring.
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This column, even 'better' than 'the original one' about Tani and the Adewumi family, is the best one, telling the best 'story' that I will read today or tomorrow -- and, not unlikely ... EVER (if I 'discount' the possibility that I might get to read one reporting that ... DOJ 'protocol' be damned ... trump is to be indicted 'presently').
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The values of the Adewumi, newly arrived in the United States are so beautiful. If only such values could replace those we see in so many of the immoral and 'faith' leaders of the country.
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Mr. Kristof, you are the change you want to see in this world. Thank you.
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@davidgluek Maybe a computer and a coding class for Tani's brother too! Tani's story has certainly inspired me to up my monthly contribution to the Khan Academy -- they educate children worldwide.
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These are the people that Trump's MAGAs do not want into our country.
The Adewumis and their ilk are precisely the type of people who make America truly great. The people that make you proud to be an American.
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I have been playing chess since 1961 when I was 12 years old. I always knew chess is a wonderful thing but I didn't know it could be this wonderful.
Wellcome to America Mr. Tanitoluwa Adewumi.
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This is a far cry from our dear leader's portrayal of refugees - they bring drugs, they bring crime, and all the rest of that vicious nonsense.
Tani and his family brought something that trump and his circle will never understand - their values.
19:20 EDT, 3/23
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Good for Kristof, and the last two paragraphs. And for those of you flipping out about immigration and your fantasies of replacement, wubbawubba.
This, this is America at its best.
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This story is a little antidote in the times of Trump.
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my god these people are black and talented IT MUST BE FAKE NEWS , white - nationalists and their leader Mr.Trump will see that these people will deported, we did not need people like this , that is why Trump wants to build this wall, and Mr.Adewumi said, GOD HAS ALREADY BLESSED ME I WANT TO RELEASE MY BLESSING TO OTHER, but Mr.Trump knows better it is a fake god and fake news
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NYT readers: “Support your neighborhood public schools!!”
NYers: “Support your neighborhood public schools!!”
Payoff: Helping more students like Tanitoluwa Adewumi will help us raise a more literate engaged and capable citizenry!!
Donate time: offer to read, do math practice or lead art explorations in your local school.
Donate basic necessities: copy paper, paper towels, tissues, pencils, art supplies, games, etc.
Students just tens of blocks away from where Tani goes to school (PS 116) are in need of a chance to have their potential unlocked!!
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It's great that this family now has a place to live and admirable beyond words that they'll use their unexpected wealth to help others. They are wonderful people and role models for the rest of us.
If you want to learn more about homelessness and what it's like to be homeless, take a look at this Washington, DC, newspaper that focuses on homelessness and contains the writings of people who are or have been homeless:
https://www.streetsensemedia.org
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I’m not crying, you’re crying.
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Immigrants make America great. Period.
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Our president and the Republican Party could stand to study this family for a lesson in what role models look like.
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If Trump and his sycophants in Congress had any measure of decency or common sense, they would find a way to ease these remarkable people through the immigration process as expeditiously as possible within the bounds of the law. No country should pass up the opportunity to snag them as citizens.
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This is what character looks like.
God bless Tani and his family. ❤️
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What a beautiful, generous, hard-working family.
It shows that the American Dream is still alive, and that the true spirit that made America great still exists, despite all the attempts by the worst right-wing / fake-religious demagogues to turn this great country into a bigoted, close-minded, selfish, uncaring dystopia. Maybe we can still win this fight.
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Better to light one candle.......
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A child will lead us.
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Young Tani is wise far beyond his years.
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Some people claim that God sent Trump to change the US and make us a better people, but I think God sends the Tani's and Adewumis of the world to make us understand what is really important in life and how to share our blessings!
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Finally, an immigration / asylum story we as Americans can be proud of, notwithstanding every effort by Steven Miller, Kristen Nielsen, and Donald John Trump to the contrary. One kind and gentle reminder to Tani: Don’t sleep with your head next to the air conditioner! It only leads to head colds!
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Heartwarming story!
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Thank you for this story. Mr. Adewumi and his family’s kindness reminds me that all is not lost. There are good people in the world and life does not have to be a zero-sum game. I will work to remember the lessons from this story and try to use some of the blessing that I have been given to help others too.
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Fantabulous!
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I agree. Nick Kristof has the very best readers.
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Good story. Thanks.
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Exactly the type of people we need in this country! I hope they get freelanced asylum.
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Thank you Nick Kristof! Journalists like you make a real positive impact in this world.
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A wonderful story like this flies straight in the face of republican's core beliefs.
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While I am happy for the Adewumi's
what of all the other Poor Citizens of America
who are just as desperate ?
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Here is proof positive that America is great.
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I didn’t mind waking up with tears running down my face this morning. Some thoughts. The Adewumi family is so wealthy they don’t need money to prove it.
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What an incredible antidote to the Trump nightmare.
An immigrant....a person of color....from one of those "----hole" countries Makes America Great Again because of opportunity and catching a break from grinding poverty.
This is the real story of America; hard work, smarts, a housing shelter, great parents, a public school that helped produce a great student and a public that gives a hoot about the poor and the underprivileged.
AND....the great freedom of the American press that allows the Gray Lady to employ its own resident Jesus Christ, Nicholas Kristof, the guy who just keeps saying "No !" to the world's injustices, tragedies, war, misogyny and all that is rotten in the world.
Bill Clinton said this of Kristof in September 2009:
"There is no one in journalism, anywhere in the United States at least, who has done anything like the work he has done to figure out how poor people are actually living around the world, and what their potential is. ... So every American citizen who cares about this should be profoundly grateful that someone in our press establishment cares enough about this to haul himself all around the world to figure out what's going on. ... I am personally in his debt, as are we all."
Thanks to Nicholas Kristof for introducing America to Tanitoluwa Adewumi....and for reminding all of us about the magic of human opportunity...and the beauty of immigration.
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Let's make sure Donald understands this is an immigrant family that shows the world what America can be at it's best: a welcoming and generous nation that celebrates diversity. And they aren't even Norwegian.
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This is wonderful for Tani and his family. I am extremely happy for them.
Now, the moral that I draw from this story is another story!
As a society we are blind to the suffering of the less fortunate until someone takes their story and decides to print it in the newspaper patronized by the wealthiest and most powerful in the country.
These powerful people feel bad and have tears in their eyes as they read the beautifully written prose by a Harvard graduate and decide to indulge themselves in charity. Tani and family are saved in a week tops!
When I was in graduate school I became aware of John Rawls and his Theory of Justice. The one sentence summary of the magnum opus of 20th Century philosophy is: create a society where everyone goes to bed not knowing who they will wake up as the next morning and be indifferent to it. The society takes care to maximize the welfare of the minimum among the maximizing the welfare of the rest.
In such a society there is no need for Saint Kristof to take care of Tani and his family. They are already taken care of.
I was amazed that Rawls was alive and well at that time. He was teaching pretty much next door where I sat in classes before I took my oral exam. I don’t hear his name mentioned often. Fancy people don’t need to read philosophy these days.
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My comment suggests that Rawlsian justice while being is societal needs government to administer it because of its huge scope. Otherwise it does not have a chance.
This is the problem with our nation. We produce John Rawls but ignore his message.
The old eras produced Jesus of Nazareth but ignored his message.
The passage from the Grand Inquisitor from The Brothers Karamazov depicting what would likely happen if Christ came back is still so accurate. In the US more than ever. Unfortunately.
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@Blunt (my correction to the text)
When I was in graduate school I became aware of John Rawls and his Theory of Justice. The one sentence summary of the magnum opus of 20th Century philosophy is: create a society where everyone goes to bed not knowing who they will wake up as the next morning and be indifferent to it. The society takes care to maximize the welfare of the minimum among THEM BEFORE the maximizing the welfare of the rest.
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@Blunt
(The corrected version didn’t make it to the “picking”. Below is the corrected paragraph.)
When I was in graduate school I became aware of John Rawls and his Theory of Justice. The one sentence summary of the magnum opus of 20th Century philosophy is: create a society where everyone goes to bed not knowing who they will wake up as the next morning and be indifferent to it. The society takes care to maximize the welfare of the minimum among them before the maximizing the welfare of the rest.
In such a society there is no need for Saint Kristof to take care of Tani and his family. They are already taken care of.
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Never underestimate how powerful a tool for good the press is, for kindhearted people writers like Mr. Kristof.
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Wow. What a blast of fresh air. We need a first family like this.
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Look at this outcome of accepting this family who sought asylum in the United States. Imagine if they'd come last year. These children would have been separated from their parents and locked in cages. It goes to show the difference between people who understand American law and civics, who are not afraid of the "other", who posses genuine faith, not politically convenient faith a la the phony "religious" right, and who know that kindness is always better than dehumanizing other people.
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@Virginia I certainly don't approve of children being locked in cages.
But there's one difference. This family entered legally. There was never a risk to them that their family would be separated and their children locked in cages.
However, it's sad that we don't have more of an "intake" program for refugees to make sure that a capable family with great potential has enough basic supplies to get started.
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@Virginia
Do we want to universalize the Tani story or let it stand there by itself while we quote the wonderful Saint Kristof in our cocktail and dinner parties?
Vote Democrat. Vote for Bernie and Liz (in whatever order) in 2020 and beyond.
We will have millions of Tani stories then.
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@Moishe Pipik. Wrong. Those people were seeking asylum, which is legal.
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This made me so happy.
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"an invitation to meet President Bill Clinton."
I thought I misread and read it a second time. It is not from the current president. I wonder, why!
First Jacinda and now Tani and his parents. There are good people in this world after all, despite so much evidence to the contrary.
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The Adewumis are truly altruistic.
Thank you Mr. Kristof for writing about people such as the Adewumis.
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I think that Nicholas Kristoff
Is the conscience of America.
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Rorschach test for the media here:
Do we see this immigrant boy as the best that LEGAL immigration can bring to the country?
Do we see this as an example of liberals pouring money into a cause the feels "virtuous" while ignoring the poverty and homelessness right under their noses?
Do we see this a a media attempt to conflate the successful prowess of a single immigrant with the notion that unrestricted immigration will be great for our nation and anybody who opposes it is a bigot?
Do we see preferential treatment given to immigrants of African descent as opposed to south or central American?
I just see a smart lucky kid living in a system that gives him more opportunity than any other country on the planet. This is a place were equality of opportunity exists even if outcomes vary.... as it should be. That's America!
This is what America needs to grow and prosper
People like that family make us all winners
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What a model the Adewumis are for all of us. I very much hope their asylum application is successful - they are the best of America, and we are better for their being here.
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"…we need comprehensive systems in place to support (the) needy…"
True, however, the heartless (R)egressives, like the gone-and-unlamented, empty-suit Paul Ryan, begrudge every penny not spent on their pluto-corporate owners.
It's more likely that Nick will have to write 550,000 more columns about the back-story of every American Homeless Citizen, than that the (R)s will support a reasonable societal safety net. Sad!
What a contrast between the Adewumis and VeryGoodBrain and his spawn.
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I hope that some wealthy individual continues to watch over this family's fate and provides a safety net if their luck turns. Life is tough, and something could go wrong. I understand the desire to give away the money, but someone who understands the pitfalls of this country needs to keep watch.
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The Big Brothers and Big Sisters were critical to my children. My children were not immigrants, nor was I, but I had divorced and now we all lived well below the poverty level. There were no men involved in my son's life because of ...blah, blah, blah. Then some one told me about the Big Brothers and I applied. My son was accepted and found a match. About a year later my son's councilor asked why I wasn't interested in a match for my daughter. I hadn't ever thought about it. After all, she had me! But then I did think about it and applied. My daughter interviewed and short time later made a match.
The Big Brothers and Big Sisters were a gold find for my children. My son benefited the most, probably because he had his Big Brother the longest. My daughter also benefited but didn't have as long.
Until I no longer worked I made sure that $260.00 each year went to the association that support Big Brothers and Big Sisters. I still sent an occasional gift although it is a bit more difficult to do now.
I know there are going to be a lot of people who detest what I am going to write now but, oh well, maybe they don't understand they need because extensive family already meets it. Hillary Clinton once said "It takes a village to raise a child." I guarantee you, that if the village is involved the child will be so much better prepared for adult responsibilities than if it is only a divorced single mother trying to be both father, mother, both grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc.
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@Susannah Allanic
The "village" no longer exists because everyone is at home, talking to each other from their computers. Raising a child remains the responsibility of the parents.
If they exist in today's world, "villagers" are supplemental. And by the way, Hillary Clinton has nothing to do with it.
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@Susannah Allanic
You are to be commended for getting Big Brother and Big Sisters involved in your children’s lives. Further, you are very kind to continue to support these charities to help them continue the good work that they do. It does indeed take a village, sometimes a village of strangers, who are caring people. May you receive many blessings for your continued generosity.
SP
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@Susannah Allanic
"Hillary Clinton once said "It takes a village to raise a child." " Ironic that you connect this ancient idiom with her, given that:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/It_takes_a_village
"The proverb has been attributed to African cultures. In 2016, NPR decided to research the origins of the proverb and was unable to pinpoint its origins, though academics said the proverb nevertheless holds the true spirits of some African cultures.[1]
Examples of African societies with proverbs that translate to 'It takes a village …' include the following:[2]
In Lunyoro (Bunyoro) there is a proverb that says “Omwana takulila nju emoi,” whose literal translation is “A child does not grow up only in a single home.”
In Kihaya (Bahaya) there is a saying, “Omwana taba womoi,” which translates as “A child belongs not to one parent or home.”
Kijita (Wajita) has the proverb, “Omwana ni wa bhone,” meaning regardless of a child's biological parents, its upbringing belongs to the community.
In Swahili, the proverb “Asiye funzwa na mamae hufunzwa na ulimwengu” means roughly the same: "Whomsoever is not taught by the mother will be taught with the world.""
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A homeless family donates $200000 to help others, and elects to keep their gifted child in public schools. Meanwhile, rich people panic at the thought of having their kids have to mingle with such folks or of having their kids actually work for what they have. Seems about right — it’s like our world encapsulated in one little story.
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@JMF and some rich people resort to lying and cheating to ensure their kids get into the ‘right’ schools for fear of losing face or losing out.
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PS 116 is my local school in midtown Manhattan and most of the parents who live here are middle to upper middle class and the children of these families choose to keep their children in
this solid, effective school.
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In a little over a week we have 2 international examples of how we may live our lives individually, collectively and as leaders.
1. In New Zealand we have an amazing young woman Prime Minister Jacinda Adern, not yet 40, showing all leaders a fine and uplifting example of how to be a leader. It’s not so much about the politics as about the best of human qualities.
2. As individuals and as a family we have Tani, his parents and brother. Fine examples of more human qualities of excellence, wisdom, perserverance, compassion, humility. More leadership for us all at a personal level.
3. The New Zealand people Maori and Pakeha. As a society they have shown us something extraordinary this last week. They looked after each other, reassured each other, nurtured each other and gave strength and comfort to each other. On Friday they formed human chains of interlocked people surrounding mosques, to protect those inside at prayer. Inspirational. No matter what is your faith, in NZ you are safe. The Maori and Pakeha did haka in respect of those killed and those grieving - children, teens, adults singly and in groups and crowds, and bikers, did the haka for their fellow New Zealanders.
There are those who say Trump was ‘chosen by God’.
We could say ‘Here is God’s answer.’
A leader.
A people.
A child.
A family.
A public school.
Faith.
Working together.
Compassion.
Wisdom.
Humility.
Strength.
Generosity.
Generosity of spirit.
These things sustain us and grow us.
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@Gracie
Well said. I have been so moved by the Prime Minister of New Zealand and her response to the tragedy in her country. The people of New Zealand have moved me to tears by their support of the Muslims.
They have epitomized generosity of spirit.
So has Tani’s family. These are two such inspiring stories.
I heard a Michelle Obama speak last night in a Edmonton. She spoke of the basic humanity that people all over the world display.
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What struck me first about this story is how so many people were willing to help this boy after he became a chess champion. But how many would be willing to help someone without such talent. This boy is very lucky, he has a good family, a great natural talent, and support from his school/community.
As noted, everything came together for this boy.
But what about the many other boys for whom nothing has gone well? They often find themselves angry and hurt; on the wrong side of society, with no help, but instead condemnation. These unfortunates need much more help than what we have given to the chess champion. A much needed, heartwarming story.
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the chess championship was only the cherry on top. people respond to individual stories, because of you look at the big picture you get overwhelmed so easily. my wife taught at Boston Public Schools and at least 40% of her students lived in shelters. we donated books, cloths and lots of love, but you don't make a dent. if in any class only one child comes out if her shell, one kid starts writing, one kid starts to believe in himself, you made a big difference.
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So well said. Thank you.
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A lovely story, one that, among other things, demonstrates the hollowness of claims -- that often appear in the NYT comments section -- that the United States is no longer a beacon for the oppressed, that we are a laughingstock, that - heaven forbid -- some of is are "ashamed" to be Americans
Our country is a nation of its citizens, NOT of the administration that currently sits in power. For now, my friends in the foreign service tell me visa lines remain long at Embassies around the world.
We are and will remain a light unto the world, because that is our melting-pot nature.
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@Frank J Haydn
"a light unto the world"? I don't think so when MOST immigrant children are ignored at best and vilified (by those in positions of highest authority) at worst. One snowflake does not make a blizzard.
Hint: There are lots of kids out there who can use help.
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Here’s how I help: inquire at your local schools for ways to pay tuition for extra-curricular activities for kids from low income families. Each year I sponsor a high schooler’s trip to a drama workshop at Ashland’s Shakespeare theater, an elem student’s participation in the animal shelter’s day camp & many summer sports camps. Only school staff know. My reward for building these expenses into my budget is knowing I’m contributing to a kinder, more just world for kids. As the years go by, I wonder if that fabulous adult on stage or in the university vet program or maybe the latest college sports recruit is one I sponsored.
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@Ange What a fanstastic idea! Thank you for sharing it.
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So happy to start my Sunday reading this follow up (even though now I am crying). Thank you and best of luck to Tani and his family. They, and everyone who assisted, are inspirational and reflect the best of America.
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This story IS a big deal, and I thank Kristof for it.
Last week, I read it as, "a child prodigy gets discovered and rewarded for playing chess", which is nice. But it did nothing to help the non-prodigies children out there who need help just as much. Being really good at chess ought not to be the price of a decent place to live.
But this week, I find that the family actually understands that fundamental moral truth, and have used their newly acquired money to help other families in similar straits find some success. Not only is Tani a genius, so apparently are his parents. And Tani understands this as well.
This family's drive and goodness are blindingly impressive.
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"But it did nothing to help the non-prodigies children out there who need help just as much. Being really good at chess ought not to be the price of a decent place to live."
And I yearn for the day when "GoFundMe", "the US", and such basic needs as housing and medicine stop having to be in the same sentence.
Maybe someday this'll be a developed country.
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@SJL
"Being really good at chess ought not to be the price of a decent place to live." Amen, amen!
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Is it correct to laud chess prodigies, mere children excellent at the game, which is to say is chess an activity in which future champions can be so reliably predicted years ahead of time that we need expect no remorse from showering praise and expectation on children excellent at the game and can confidently watch them grow into the champions they in essence already are, or is chess an activity like so many others where some achieve excellence when young only to fade in the "stretch" to other players who may have started out slowly but continued growing into adulthood excellence and genius at the game?
If the answer is the former then obviously chess excellence is a profoundly innate activity, so innate that we need not so much teach it but simply look out for the children who are good at the game and then provide them with not only instruction but immediately the highest levels of instruction, in fact they are so promising and can bypass so much instruction that we are willing to laud them as the future adult champions at the game, but if the answer is the latter, why would anyone put so much pressure on a mere child, why would anyone try to force a seed to grow into that which we are not certain it can ever become? What exactly are the biographical histories of great chess players? I hear math, physics, music, chess prodigies sometimes become future geniuses, but what exactly is the record of all that? A clear record would help before pressure on a child.
I am so glad that Taninand his family have a home.
I wish they had set some money aside in case the father gets sick or injured.
Let’s have more stories of wonderfully talented homeless kids.
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This is a great story; I'm happy for this family and hope they get asylum, but what would happen if Tani was just a regular kid? Most of us don't have "special" talent.
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This is an incredible story, and Mr. Kristoff’s conclusions about the need for systemic, rather than ad hoc, support, are right on the money. This story begs a comparison with the recent college admissions scandal of the rich White families attempting to cheat their way to a still higher rung on the ladder. The vast moral divide between them and Tani’s family is astonishing. Perhaps one of those families has had their own moral reckoning and was one of the donors.
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What a great picture of the boy sprawled out on the bed daydreaming. It captures all of the carefree innocence of childhood. Thank you.
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This is like saving the whales. It made a great, photogenic story that gave people the warm fuzzies while helping. Homelessness, structural economic inequalities, racism, refugees, worldwide migration/economic disruption due to anthropogenic climate change, the collapse of the ocean biosphere, destruction of 20% of the planets coral reefs? Doesn’t make for a good tee shirt.
I cried so much reading this wonderful story that I had to put it down twice! These wonderful deserving people are not greedy. They are loyal, empathetic, kind. It makes one wonder how often that is true.
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Leadership begins with inspiration. Thanks to the Adewumis and to you for the inspiration.
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Wonderful story about a gifted young boy but also the recognition by people with good intentions who recognize that such talent needs to be nourished and supported!
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What a splendid family. Thank you for bringing them to our attention, both in your original article about Tani and this follow up. I hope they're granted permanent residency here. We need more families like them.
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I hope this story will inspire and also enlighten people that it is almost impossible for poor individuals without everyone's help! Thank you for helping this family and may we continue to help others!
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what a wonderful way to start my Sunday. God Bless the people who shared their blessings, and God Bless this amazing family. Thank you for doing this story.
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What a very beautiful story. I hope it all continues along the same track. A very good point about structural supports.
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These are just the kind of immigrants that this country needs and actually depends on to keep our country vibrant and strong. These are also the very people that Trump wants to keep out.
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Tanitoluwa must have a rating, but unless it is listed, it is difficult to tell how much of a prodigy he is.
@Gene Venable. The boy’s chess rating was shared in the first article. But that’s not the point at all. The story here is the grit that the boy and the family show in dire circumstances and then the humility when they are rewarded for their grit.
But since you are curious, after 1 year of playing ‘His rating is now 1587 and rising fast. (By comparison, the world’s best player, Magnus Carlsen, stands at 2845.)”.
Amazing what some well spoken words can still do when coming from the right place!
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Wow. We are lucky to have people like this want to live in our country.
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Thanks for this beautiful story of a family that is willing to pass the good they have received forward to others who are in need.
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Dear Mr. Kristof: Thank you very much for sharing both stories with us. But I think your job here is unfinished. Please follow this deserving and admirable family's quest for refugee status so that we can be ready to help further. I am concerned that, in the current climate, Tani, his brother and his parents will be turned down. I think your job as "angel" is not complete. And neither is ours as "deputy angels." We need to be ready to step up and exert whatever influence we have to clear the path for these folks and others like them.
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Even Canada is rejecting Nigerian asylum claims based on Boko Haram. So unless they have other grounds, their chances in the United States seem poor. Refugee status isn’t based on talent or popularity. You need to gather evidence and satisfy a list of specific criteria to prove your claim.
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You have the best readers because you have the best stories. Memories of your child trafficking and brothel stories still bring tears to my eyes. This one, too, is a keeper. And I’m sending it to my children (12, 14, & 16) for inspiration and to send to their friends. Thanks, from a child psychologist who has been on the front lines of feeling and healing the pain.
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I can see why sometimes people would like to donate to a particular story. You know or feel that the money you donate will get into the right hands. Donations to larger organizations sometimes leaves you wondering if it will be spend fairly.
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I think I’m going to use Tani’s dad’s name for my write-in vote in the 2020 Presidential election. These are truly good and decent people and for the second week in a row now, they’ve brought tears to my eyes. Thank you, Adewumi family, for reminding this old heart of mine, that hope and love are still alive and well and that kindness and decency will always be the currency of good people.
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@MM Q. C. I truly believe we can vote for whomever we choose, but this attitude is why Trump is president--letting perfection get in the way of not disastrous.
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Toni’s dad is amazing, maybe Vice-president, but please don’t write in a name, vote for the democratic candidate!
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@MM Q. C. -
Why would you write in the name of someone who is ineligible to hold the office?
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I hope all of us reading this story, particularly those of us commenting, now go and do something for those who are homeless and needy near us.
It’s not enough to just enjoy the story.
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Wonderful story! It's a special set of parents though.
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" ...talent is universal, even if opportunity is not"
This article is a reminder of what truly makes America great again.
On every level.
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When I first starting reading this wonderful article, I worried that Tani's family might fall into the same trap that winners of big lotteries do. They spend it all quickly and are right back where they started ---impoverished---before long. But, then we read that Tani's family is donating the money to others in need and are opting for modest accommodations. I hope the movie people leave this kid alone. It is appropriate that former President Clinton reached out to him. Sadly, no apparent word from President Trump. Still, this story stands as a powerful palliative to the greed of the Trump years. I feel blessed.
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@Susan
Seriously, would you even want the current occupant of the Oval Office to be aware of this gifted child and his wonderful family? Keep them safe.
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Thank you for publishing this follow up report.
Anything other than the Mueller report news would have been refreshing this Sunday.
This has been heartwarming as well.
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This story and the original has made my day. Thank you.
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What a wonderful ethos this family has, one not seen often any longer, and completely missing now in the highest office in our country. I find myself hoping someone in this family runs for president some day!
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@Virginia perhaps a grandchild. I hate to be a downer but only natural born citizens can run for POTUS.
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Wonderful! Thank you for telling this story.
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The story is great and so are the comments. Thank you, everyone!
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Incredible!!! Tani and his family. Their lack of selfishness, modesty and hard work is truly inspiring.
Mr. Kristof thank you so much for sharing such a wonderful story and continuing to do good in the world.
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This story is a jewel in a time of such ugliness. Thank you, Nicholas, for your great work which shows us the power of journalism and I hope inspires many young people to join this noble profession.
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Wonderful story. Many thanks. I can't help comparing how Tani and his family turned money around to help others with the parents that cheated to get their children into competitive colleges.
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Thank you for writing this story. It made me cry this morning.
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Take the rest of the week off, Mr. Kristof, you deserve it. The power of your words helped initiate positive change in the lives of countless people around the world for generations to come.
Can't wait to read about who's next in your spotlight on good deeds.
Thank you!
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THIS: “One challenge I face is that readers often want to donate just to a particular individual I write about, without addressing the larger social problem. So it’s thrilling to see Tani and his parents use their good fortune to help other anonymous kids in need. In that, there’s a lesson for all of us.”
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Hopefully this personal story will help to encourage our elected officials to legalize the dreamers and create better immigration laws. I still think Tanitolua should challenge not only President Trump but also Mark Meadows to matches. The stakes would be his own citizenship and that of the Dreamers. I am sure he would win.
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@Daniel Salazar
Based on the results
Trump would be deported
@ Daniel Salazar - I’m not being cute here but DT doesn’t no how to play chess nor is it required that he should and he’d lie about his prodigious chess skills at age 9 anyway because there’s no proof either way and that’s how he’s gotten away with his crimes prior to Jan 21 2017.
This is a genuine story revealing not just a very bright boy but a story of loving and grateful parents humble in their new monetary circumstances but showing reverence to their community (and homeless shelter) their sons public school and teachers and their faith (whatever God they pray too).
Also, Nigeria is a fake and repressive democracy. They (government) raid their people’s treasury and send their children off to British educations and elite American colleges.
Nick K, do a piece about that African oil rich nation- but don’t as they like to drop corpses on one’s door step as a warning threat.
This piece was indeed full of happy tears.
Dear Nick -- how beautiful of you to tell us Tanitoluwa's story last week, and because of your words a week ago, you are the good-hearted Samaritan of blessings for Tani's family today! A homeless Nigerian family has now found a home and a new life in New York City through many benefactors who read of the dire situation in your story, and gave so generously from the goodness of their hearts.
The story of Tani and his family is soul-nourishing in this frightening time of American history. Alternative facts, technology over human communication and unhealthy social media mark our society today. Wish you would throw your hat in the ring for the 2020 presidency. You'd receive the popular vote! Thank you for showing us the triumph of blessings and human beings caring today.
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And thanks as well to that anonymous donor who paid a year's rent on a 2 bedroom apartment.
In NYC, that's better than gold. An outstanding contribution to the Adewumis' living circumstances.
We are the world
We are the children
We are the ones who make a brighter day, so let's start giving
There's a choice we're making
We're saving our own lives
It's true we'll make a better day, just you and me.
From down under - in appreciation of those around our world who did make a better day.
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Such a wonderful story.
Much respect to Tani, his family, his teachers and coaches, all the generous donors, and Bill Clinton.
And thank you, Nicholas, for using your column to inform us about this and so many other important stories going on in the United States and other countries.
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This is the America that makes us all proud.
These are the values that makes America great.
These are the actions that imbue the goodness of others that give feelings and empathy toward others without looking for a return.
This melting pot has many difficult challenges today but this story of life 101 gives hope to all.
Life's lessons available for me to learn and live better as a human being.
Nicholas Kristof, you are a mensch.
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This is the best thing I have heard of in years. I hope that movie gets made; I would definitely go to see it. And the best argument for support of immigration there could be, the un-bigoted truth.
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@Douglas Spier Actually, a superb movie (Disney made it I believe) is called 'The Queen Of Katwe' tells the story of a poor girl in Africa and how chess lifts her. Recommend all see it
Thank you for the followup. Which documents an ongoing process and story which goes beyond, beginning, middle and end; its many diverse people, including unnamed menschlich readers who...And sites which became havens for growth. Thank you for your caveat. This is not just a tale-about-Tani and his various identities; including but also going beyond chess-champ. This is an Ode to Menschlichkeit, made possible by...This article is a non-RSVP invitation. A description, and a caveat,to risk choosing to make a difference. Whoever, and whatever each of US is. Is not. Yet? May BE come, if... Wherever we are. By choice or not. Choosing to make a much needed, sustainable difference! Choosing to DO; beyond just words. In a toxic WE-THEY violating culture nourished by complacency. Infected by complicity. (Mis)led by elected and selected policymakers who choose to be personally unaccountable for their words and deeds. What they wouldn't do for $200,000. For themselves. For their party. For their "chair" of misused-virtual-power. Thank you, Tani. For your BE ing. For your choices. For clearly, and simply, pointing out choices and accountability can, and do, co-exist. Thank you Nicholas Kristof for your sharings. For your being a light during these dark, confusing times. There are surely other Tanis to "uncover." Additional "Fail better," to enlighten your readers with. Ranges of options of accountability to note. Awaiting quests, inherent in needed questions, to query. Thank you!
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Except the family’s asylum claim is almost certain to be rejected. They’re claiming refugee status based on Boko Haram violence in northern Nigeria during 2017. Nigeria is a geographically large country with a population of over 200 million people. Only part of the country is affected by Boko Haram. Most of the country including the major cities is unaffected.
It isn’t enough to be internally displaced. Granting them asylum would basically be an invitation for millions of Nigerians to relocate to the United States. And then hundreds millions more from other nations with internal conflicts. Unless they have more, it’s unlikely an immigration judge is going to grant them asylum.
Even with this new wealth and legal representation, immigration law on asylum doesn’t care about how well they’re doing now. It’s focused on the conditions in their home country and if they’re actually in danger. This child’s chess skills and this columnist’s advocacy are immaterial to that.
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@H I wonder if they are aware of that. I think it would have been valuable for the author to have pointed this out in the article. Thanks for doing so.
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@H
Perhaps Tani can get a Genius visa.
He's surely worth keeping.
A good , refreshing story especially the part about the Adewumi family ready and willing to spread and share the blessings that have been showered upon them.
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Sherryll is correct. A national safety net for when life hands you big problems. Here's one idea:
Right now we have a collapsing middle class--two major causes: automation and technological change (~80%) and globalization (~20%).
First: When a person loses their job due to automation, etc., the organization that is going to benefit from pay reductions must pay 50% of the savings into a government managed fund for two years that can only be accessed by the job loser (JL). The JL also gets two years of unemployment.
Second, when globalization results in job losses, the same process applies except that it is for three years and the same two years on unemployment.
Third: All recipients are offered opportunities to learn new skills and trades through their local education systems. They pay a reasonable tuition along with taxpayer and govt. support to the institution. Details to be worked out.
Fourth: All recipients are offered opportunities to move, with some support, to better job locals.
In all cases, they continue to receive half their original straight time wages/salaries and unemployment. When they do get a job, the unemployment is halved until the end of the two-year term.
Lots of details to be worked out but these are the kinds of systemic support systems we need to resurrect opportunity, especially for the bottom 50% of the population, in financial terms. Something like this might reverse the despair of White males who are now committing suicide.
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"One challenge I face is that readers often want to donate just to a particular individual I write about, without addressing the larger social problem."
Psychologically humans can get their emotions behind an individual; however, as the individual becomes a larger group, our emotional connection diminishes. It's as if our empathy gets overloaded by too many subjects of empathy, shuts down, and our callousness takes over.
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@james sadly this is true.
There is something distinctly “un-American” in the actions of the Adewumi family: this is a country where we so often place the personal above the communal, where status is achieved through wealth, possessions and purchasing power — what we get, not what we give. It is rare to find folks who live by the motto “Enough is as good as a feast” — the belief that wealth comes not from money or the things one can buy, but from having enough to satisfy one’s needs, and then sharing one’s bounty with others less fortunate. As a nation of consumers living on trends, buying (and wasting) more than we could ever use or appreciate and “Marie Kondo-ing” our environments to try to make sense of our superabundance of useless stuff, it’s refreshing to see a family taking so little and giving back so much. This needs to be the new trend if we wish to create a healthy, more equitable society and a more sustainable relationship with the planet...
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Bob Dylan wrote a song about the Adewumi’s. It’s called Dignity.
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Very good to see the outpouring of support for this family.
But why does it take the notoriety of a young chess champion to bring about this help?
All over America your neighbors are struggling with poverty, homelessness, hunger, addiction, etc.
Help the people who get no publicity in the NY Times.
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Wonderful. Wonderful. Tear-inducing wonderful. Can we extend that wonderment to broader society? Can we create a system where we all pay our fair share of taxes and can we have an efficient and fair government that uses those taxes dollars well, especially for smart and progressive social welfare programs? Can we make education and healthcare the national priorities? Can we cut the defense budget and grow the State Dept budget to be more constructively and positively engaged with the world beyond our borders? Can we take the lovingly generous example of the Adewumi family and turn it into a national mindset, where such stories become way more the norm than the exception? I believe we can.
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It is lovely that so many readers were so generous but what we need is for everyone to be happy to pay enough tax to take care of the kids who are not chess geniuses who also live in shelters and don't have access to the kinds of after school activities and don't have such exemplary hard working parents. Then truly everyone will have a chance.
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I can only hope to be same kind of inspiration to my own two young children.
There's a parenting book here waiting to be shared. Someone get the Adewumi's a book deal!
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It is so easy to be generous to a single family with faces and values and even genius. And I'm very happy with the material gifts bestowed on this kind, close immigrant family. I hope to read of Tani's accomplishments in future years.
But it's difficult to understand the good we can do for whole classes of people who need help. They don't have faces and personalities to us, so are just a tiny fraction of a big, big number.
Lovely story with a terrific outcome, and one that keeps on giving. Perfect ending.
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Incredible goodness abounds in this family! How fortunate the US is to have them! They embody all that is needed to make their American dream come true. Thank you, Mr. Kristof for making this wonderful story possible. Many blessings to them.
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Thank you for this wonderful story. I have the good fortune to work with immigrant children. I have interacted with hundreds of families who leave me in awe when I see how hard they work and how much they sacrifice to help family and friends. Contrary to what we hear from the highest levels of our government, these are the people who make America great.
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A great story that is sorely needed these days. What fine people. I hope Tani goes on to great things in chess - he has a huge future ahead of him.
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Thank you Mr. Kristof for sharing this story and by doing so, helping this family get a place to live.
What a terrific young man Tani is. Of course, Mr. Kristof, you are correct that this family's story is but one shining example of why immigrants/asylum seekers like this family has so much positive to contribute to the betterment of our country. Yes, even those from Nigeria, despite the racist rants of the Trumpster. It is also a shining example of how folks living in poverty can still excel and that supports helping them get out of poverty so they can excel even more.
Steve
Steve
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Good work, Nicholas. We owe you.
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I don't know if you play chess, Mr. Kristof, but I do. I have for more than fifty years and I'm pretty good at it. But this kid's rating is higher than mine. You were right. This story did make me smile.
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What an amazing family! I would find it very difficult to be so principled at such a difficult time uprooting your entire family across an ocean with not much more than the clothes on your back and the willingness to succeed. Now if only somehow we could all remember and recapture this pioneering spirit and community focused action that makes America great..
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It seems Tani has a wonderful family. His chess win is an incredible accomplishment, but his family's values are even better.
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Thank you, Nic. You are bringing awareness to the plight of those who are victims of circumstance. Thank you for making the point about the problem going beyond an individual. We need a national safety net that can accommodate those who come to us as well as those who are born here.
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Re:
Tani thrived because everything fell into place: a good school, a dedicated chess teacher and devoted parents committed to taking their son to every chess practice. The challenge is to replicate that supportive environment for all the other Tanis out there with public services and private philanthropy alike.
Exactly, and well phrased too. The principal challenge
is that there are only a few Tanis. Many are not "extraordinarily gifted", either with truly exceptional parents or off the chart talent. How do we manage to help many of these kids to thrive as well?
Our collective attention and inner desires to help are limited,
so there one finds the needed role of private and public partnerships that have to be committed with the needed
resources to nurture all the other kids.
And not just in NYC too! Such stories surely exist throughout the country. The need is national.
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@bl
Wonderful comments. Yes, such potential stories surely exist throughout the world in every economic, social, and cultural demographic. You are right; creating opportunities for young people to make such stories realities - in many endeavors - needs to be a top priority. Tani is certainly unusual, but talent is more common than we often suppose; opportunities to develop it are, alas, often less common.
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This is the America that flies the red, white and blue flag. It doesn’t have to allow every foreigner entry, but it will frequently hold out its hand to help those less fortunate.
Sadly, I feel like that flag has been forgotten; replaced by a uniform that asks for conformity, intolerance and allegiance with no compassion. This is not great.
We are great when we lead morally and with kindness, not when we tolerate brutality and inhumanity for the sake of riches.
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Thank you Mr. Kristof for writing about this inspiring family. It's a comfort to know there are people like this in our world. In the long run they are our guardians as they lead the way to what is right and true.
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“One challenge I face is that readers often want to donate just to a particular individual I write about, without addressing the larger social problem.”
Charitable organizations know that a picture of a single child will elicit far more donations than a picture of a group of children. That’s just how the human mind works.
And “addressing the larger social problem” is a lot of work. It takes a big time commitment. It takes much more money. It can be daunting, far more than the effort required to help a single child.
Still, this story of Tani Adewumi and his family raises social awareness. In that sense, it breaks a big problem down into a much smaller and more manageable one. We need to take these problems one at a time. That is a noble thing to do. That is progress, and it will lead to more progress.
This is a wonderful column about the good we can do in the world when we figure out how to do the right thing.
Now if only we could figure out how to do the same for all the children and their families in shelters, even the ones who have not yet managed to become champions.
Consider volunteering at and making a donation to your local shelter. Bring your kids along. You will be doing a world of good.
Who is smart enough to judge another based simply on where that person was born or the color of their skin or their economic background? I would say that none of us are. And that certainly includes our current president.
Follow the money?
Follow the golden rule.
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@Blue Moon - outstanding comment! and volunteering at public with very high percentage of students who receive free lunch who have homeless students is another way to help...
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That was a beautiful story, and a great picture of a wonderful family. They will make an excellent addition to the American family.
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Kudos to Tani and the Adewumi family--and also to the many generous people who reached out to them, and are still reaching out.
But let's not forget to thank Mr. Kristof for bringing this to light.
Nicholas knows what the phrase "bully pulpit" means. (And certain others, who shall remain nameless, and who constantly deride journalists as purveyors of fake news, do not.)
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We need to open our doors and hearts to more families seeking asylum on these shores. It's the only way to make America great again.
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Now this is the America which was the magnet for my Southern Italian grandparents at the turn of the 20th Century and for my husband's parents fleeing Eastern Europe during WW 1. This is the America that heeds those words, "Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses." You, Nicholas, and so many of your readers are true Americans whom during this Trumpian Era I almost forgot about. The compassion is still there; the love of the "other" still emanates from so many. This essay has given me hope again that our nation can be reborn.
To Tanitoluwa and his family, I say welcome. We are so happy to have you join our "family." It is because of good people like you that our nation grows, matures, and can become once again a beacon of equality, of freedom, of a thriving democracy.
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My grandparents were from southern Italy too, and came here at the turn of the last century. They came here looking for opportunity and the freedom to determine their own future, their own success or failure. They didn't expect nor did they receive any charitable donations of any kind. There were no homeless shelters, Medicaid or food stamps. Through their hard work and self-reliance, 2 short generations later the American branch of our family is incredibly successful.
The fact that this Nigerian family was able to be successful here in one generation is a testament to our country. They could have immigrated to other countries, but, even though not perfect, opportunity abounds here.
To me, this story is much less about a chess prodigy, and much more about the drive and determination of the parents. This story is also a testament to them and how they have dealt with challenge and success. The 2 parents are working 3 jobs and expressing appreciation for the charity and assistance they received, including their public school. What an example to their children. With parents like these, these children would have had a very good chance of success with or without any special talent.
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@Kathy Lollock
Great point! This story also reminds me of the stories of my immigrant forebearers, especially those from Italy.
As best I can, we try to keep those "working class values" of pride with humility, hard work, and yes, community spirit and interconnectedness strong even though my family is in a very different socio-economic spot now than it was generations ago.
Even though my children are growing up as "a doctors kids" I try to tell them the stories I heard as a child so they might to some degree learn the same lessons.
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@Marc McDermott Our daughters are now young women. Both sets of grandparents continue to be a source of pride with them. They embrace their ethnicity and roots and could not perceive a life without such close links to another place and anotther time.
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Wonderful story...beautiful family/ but I think the Story about why they left Africa...and what can be done about making Africa every bit as desirable to Live in is something that really Cries out for attention!
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Great story!
Would love to know how to contribute a gift for big brother Austin -- maybe also a computer or other device of his choosing?
I can see from the photo that he too is full of hopes, dreams and plans.
Thanks from Oakland...
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The whole family shows a lot of class. Thanks for the followup.
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wow. this has been such a wonderful story from your initial column to now. Thanks to all who offered help and support and now this family is going to help others too.
once again, Mr. Kristof has done a wonderful thing and given us good news to sustain us.
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Mr. and Mrs. Adewumi are in possession of a handsome family, and thanking them for setting an example of how to share good fortune among others.
When they have settled in to their home and with Spring soon in the air, it is the season of new beginnings and a time to celebrate.
Tani will be able to enjoy his mom's cooking again, and so will his dad and brother. It would help the family to have a computer, and Tani might enjoy watching 'In Search of Bobby Fisher' where another young boy shows a talent for the chess board. This 'wood-pusher' is still in admiration that he exchanged a bishop for a pawn.
Thanking Mr. Kristof for keeping us in the loop, and while we have miles to go in helping others who are living in hard times, this is a step forward where the words of Ranier Marie Rilke come to mind "It is Spring again. The earth is like a child that knows poems by heart".
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What a beautiful comment, @Miss Ley, just beautiful.
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@common sense advocate,
Thank you, and it is from the heart.
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It's so easy to be engulfed by cynicism and hopelessness these days. I felt such relief bawling through both of your columns on this remarkable family. But for you, we would have missed this beautiful, happy story. Thank you.
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Mr. Kristof spotlights wonderful stories about the best of America - and Tani and his family are truly the best of our country.
Reading his column today, I realized something t
unique about Mr. Kristof that makes the New York Times feel like both a smaller and larger community at the same time- is how well he knows his readership: he knows that his readers want to help so he included the link to support Tani and his family in his first column, and he knows his readers are passionate about knowing the outcome, so he followed up straightaway with the happy results of his reader support- and a heartfelt thank you.
To readers who want to help encourage many students who have a passion for learning, and come from families without money- please consider donating to public schools that have high percentages of free lunch-eligible students. Their parents can't subsidize their schools with the half million dollars or more that wealthy school PTAs donate for extra after school programs, assistant teachers, and other resources. Let's help foster the talents of lots of Tanis!
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@common sense advocate I am so proud to be one of Nicholas K’s readers. He is our Times’ humanitarian. Time and time again he tells us stories about beautiful people like Tani and his family. He makes me realize how small our problems are here in America, how petty we can be, and how ashamed too many should be over needless and cruel bigotry and racism. Thanks for giving a shout out in behalf of our public schools. If only more people would realize the importance and necessity of supporting them.
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@Kathy Lollock - my feelings exactly! I hope that, like you and other readers, people see Tani as an example of what a child of lesser financial means can do in a public school-and get involved. Donating money, volunteering their time to tutor or help with special afterschool programs - helping to show these students that the world is wide open, unlike the ugly messages from Washington.
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“I want to release my blessing to others.”
What a wonderful philosophy of life!
A strange paradox of giving is that the more you give the fuller you can be as a person.
This family seems to be truly amazing. America is blessed to have them want live in America and become citizens.
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What a great story to alleviate the anxiety producing front page political news of last two plus years. Thank you, Nick Kristof
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Such an uplifting story, yet at the end I am still left wondering about all the other human beings still lacking shelter, food, medicine, opportunity all due to artificial scarcity of capitalism and hording of 1%. It is awesome that kindhearted people have come forward openly and charitably to better the life of this family. It is sad that such things depend on charity and the luck of exposure, and are not basic guarantees of anyone living within the domain of such wealthy nation as this.
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Bravo. Terrific, heartwarming piece.
Thank you.
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What a wonderful story and a happy turn of events for such a deserving family. What also touched me was that those who have more stepped up to help this family in many creative ways. This is a heartwarming story on so many levels, but most of all it restored my faith in human kind and especially, in these days of Trump greed, that there are still many willing to share--just as this family is doing now. We're all in this together. Well done--EVERYONE!! Let's keep it going and where can we contribute to Tani's foundation?
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Mr.Kristof,
My Salutes to you.
Without your writing this wouldn't have been possible. Thanks for unearthing this wonderful kid and family and making us feel that there are souls with heart like you who did the best for those in need, and the thousands of donors who helped this family !!
God Bless this real America !! This is the Real America !!
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My heart is filled. As an immigrant, I have always felt blessed in my adopted country. A country that allowed me to reach the pinnacle of my education, and allowed me to help my family. That is the reason I donate to so many charities.
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I can't help myself from comparing this family to the Macy/Huffmans, Loughlins, etc...
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what about all the kids living in shelters
who have neither chess skills nor good
parents? it's inspiring to read about
a child like this,but it is also sobering.
good luck to him, but let's not forget
that this city,under this so called
progressive mayor, has placed kids
in rat and roach infested apartments
where hope dies very quickly.
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Kudos to all, the family, the school, the donors, and the journalist!
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With all of the garbage that bombards us daily it was so incredibly heartwarming to read this story and how yes, there is decency, love and care still out there. Tears of joy for this wonderful, selfless family and for the countless nameless folks with big hearts. This is what makes America great! Thanks Mr. Kristoff.
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"And a little child shall lead them". Kudos to Mr. Kristof for shining this light that is so needed in our troubled and broken world.
Diane Barnhill
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What wonderful news. Garry Kasparov, a chess player himself, wrote a beautiful story about Tani in the Washing Post today. And this story just put icing on the cake. Congratulations to Tani and his family.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/the-heart-warming-tale-of-the-8-year-old-chess-champion-is-quintessentially-american/2019/03/22/7a2fdf92-4cd9-11e9-b79a-961983b7e0cd_story.html?utm_term=.70726b202e03
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This is a wonderful story, but what about the other families, just as deserving, about whom Mr. Kristoff could not write a column?
I don't mean to begrudge the Adewumi family anything. But let us not forget, or ignore, the thousands and thousands of other families out there that are still in the shadows and out of our hearing. What will we do for them?
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@JJM,
For those of us willing and caring about the plight of those unheard and out of sight, we can give a donation to humanitarian relief agencies working around the clock and on a long-term basis, to implement programs in the field of child nutrition, vital goods, education, water resources and environmental changes.
UNICEF is advocating 'The Power of U', and it takes good fortune to be able to play a small part in the above.
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@Miss Ley We can also vote the GOP out of power so, as Mr. Kristof points out, they do not have to rely only on the "kindness of strangers" but have a social safety net to help pull them up.
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@JJM
What are you doing for them?
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These gifts could go to no better family that this humble one, who has in their hearts a desire to help others. I hope you will visit the Adewumis, say, once a year to see how things are going for them--and how their foundation is helping others.
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Nick, while I have always appreciated your support of international groups and individuals, I am extra glad to see you writing about our issues here in the US. Yours is one of the few columns in the NY Times and anywhere else which offers readers the chance to do something rather than read yet another depressing article with no opportunity to change what we are reading.
In fact, I just heard of a new crowd-funded paper called The Correspondent which has as one of its tenets that they will always offer a chance for readers to easily act. It's also great that they will not be receiving any outside funds that would influence their reporting. I'm going to subscribe to them as well as the NY Times.
One of their first columnists is Rutger Breman, a Dutch historian who talked about taxes on the wealthy at Davos. I hope you are able to interview Mr. Breman: he brought up some ideas which I have never encountered before and which might help alleviate poverty worldwide.
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I was both incredibly impressed & inspired by the initial story about this 8 yr old. Reading this follow up today has helped restore my faith in humanity. From the donors to Tani's family's decision to recognize those who helped him with his start in chess & choice to help others shows the majority of people are inherently kind & caring. That's the America I remember until the horrific change in leadership 2 years ago. We were always a country others strived to be part of & for the most part,we welcomed those looking for a better life.
There are so many other Tani's in the world just waiting for a much needed break.
If only our current administration would recognize this country is great because of millions of immigrants & their contributions, rather than ostracize those desperate & deserving of an opportunity.
Thank you, Mr Kristof for your enlightening stories. The follow up is just as important as the story itself.
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@SJ
Thank you for your post - very well said.
So beautiful. Thank you for sharing Tani’s story. I applaud his parents decision.
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When I read Tani’s story I was moved to tears. He is representative of the hope I have for a better America. Your readers have strengthened my feelings. I and my husband will donate to Tani and his new foundation. May he continue to inspire more immigrant families. The United States is a country comprised of a loving people.
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I really can't recall the last time I read something that made me feel this good.
Maybe I never did.
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Wonderful story. The family portrait tells a lot about who they are and how they feel about themselves. I see so much pride and dignity.
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@Firemonkey
I’m seeing dignity, strength, self-assuredness, yet humility and gratefulness.
Pride is not such a useful quality.
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@Gracie - I absolutely agree that arrogance is a negative trait, but I think pride can be helpful for kids growing up with lesser means, especially if, unlike Tani, they aren't feeling it from their families. I tutor fourth-graders in a nearby city school who haven't mastered single digit math yet. Getting them to feel proud of the incremental accomplishments we achieve together - that they can point to and say, I'm proud that I did that- gives them a boost to keep practicing, to keep working. In this week's sessions, when I bring back the multiplication game boards that they designed and made and I had laminated yesterday - I can't wait to see them look "proud" of their creations so that they practice at home hundreds of times!
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A very uplifting story that was much appreciated in a time when narcissism and self-interest emanate from the top of our government down.
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I am a former professional chess player. I would love to help Tani train (at no cost) for the National Chess Championship.
How can I do that?
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There was a story a while back about this former very wealthy fund manager who started an elite chess school (basically prodigies only) with housing, etc, in St Louis. The guy that just lost the World Championship finals goes there. I wonder if this young man would qualify?
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@Sandra
I have played chess since I heard about Capablanca, at age 8
Chess should be part of the middle and high school math requirement... it has been very helpful, in the last 57 years... to recognize a lie ( and the reason for the lie ) .. the moment the words are uttered ...
This is my imaginary friend chess piece, the fib
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What happens in politics this week can just happen. I'm going to ignore it all because I have something better upon which to reflect: Tani and his amazingly smart family.
I am now satisfied that the world is in fact peopled with good and generous folks regardless of their class or heritage. Perhaps they can offer a You Tube class on how to make good decisions and resist greed.
What a rational and healthy family Tani is growing up in. No matter where he attends school or what interest he pursues, he will be a winner.
Thanks for the cheering tale.
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These wise and wonderful refugees brought their admirable values with them from Nigeria.It should make us realize that refugees come with life lessons we can all aspire to.Thank you, Mr.Kristof and thank you to the Adewumi family for the inspiration of their wisdom and generosity.
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Thank you, Janet Michael. I want to like your comment one thousand times. This family of refugees came here with their Nigerian values. Refugees and migrants come with a wealth of values, including deferring short-term gratification in the hope of benefiting in the long-term from much higher returns on their sacrifices, which I hope they will not lose as they attempt to assimilate in the US.
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Tani and his family are so grateful for their blessings and are willing to help others with their 200K. What a lesson for us all about greatness that haas nothing to do with fame or riches.
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That young man has fine parents.
But how sad it is that in this country the family was homeless even when the breadwinner was working two jobs.
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What a wonderful story, hopefully humbling for those of us that grew up perhaps with more benefits than this family of refugees, enriching these United States with diversity, and that is adamant in sharing the pie, a strong sign of solidarity we crave so badly in these Trumpian times. Insofar 'charity' is concerned, you are right of course, we ought not count on it for desperate cases that our odious inequality leaves behind. Justice is what we need, and urgently; without it, peace shall remain a distant dream.
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The world is still full of wonder. Tani and his family are magnificent examples to us all. Mr. Kristof, thank you for a column that brought joy to so many of us!
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There have been some wonderful offers by folks wanting to get Tani a computer. How about Apple, Microsoft, and a carrier et al, getting this kid set up properly, with the programs he needs, funding for internet access, etc.
Just a wonderful, wonderful family, and I wish them all the best.
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I hope this kid gets set up. But there are a lot a poor kids that could also use the help. These companies got a huge tax windfall last year and for the most part used it for stock buybacks. They can afford to spend on the left fortunate people.
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@Roncal, I absolutely agree with you.
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This story brought happy tears to my eyes. I wish the family all the success in the world.
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I love this story and it is wonderful example of the great positive power of Mr. Kristof's writing.
Notice something important in this group?
Two parent family that values education.
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@kevin
Not to nit-pick but single parent families can value education as well. Wouldn't it have been nicer to state that he has parents who value education instead of making this a back handed condemnation of the single parent household?
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@kevin Your underlying contempt for single parent families runs counter to this family and the article. I hear dog whistles, too.
@sharon No, because children from two parent families are statistically much less likely to get into trouble and have considerably more success in life. It's not putting down single parents, just stating facts.
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Oh, thank you, Mr. Kristoff. Didn't I need to read such good news on this day.
Tani and his family.....what a class act. With parents such as his, how can he and his brother not thrive? I truly hope he gets his computer before helping everyone else, though.
The picture that accompanied the original story is so fine. Seeing that kid's focus, intelligence and intensity just blew me away.
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LOVE those parents, and how they are teaching their sons what it means to be a moral human being! (Now, is there anyone out there who just happens to have an extra computer lying around?) Thanks for these marvelous articles -- along with so many others you've written over the years. You bring humanity, your own and the people you write about, into the bright sunshine.
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@Katherine
Mr Kristof, your own small town of Yamhill should be very proud of your efforts to shed light on both the miseries and victories of under-represented people of the world. The worst thing the current WH occupants have done is try turn people against the legitimate journalists and newspapers. We need people to alert us to what is happening both here and in the rest of the world without fabrication and cover-ups.
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With all the bad news in the Times and elsewhere these days, all I can say is HOORAY for Tani.
May his good fortune and home, coupled with his great talent, lead to years and years of happiness and success for him and his family.
Thank you Mr. Kristof for both of these stories.
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Thank you thank you for such an uplifting story! l needed it!
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@Cheryl, we all needed it, in a world of selfish parents and school admissions.
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What generosity of character and role models those parents are. They are instilling values in their children as they believe in them and do their best in a strange country from all they have known. Money is not their primary source of worship.
We could use many more immigrants with such values. They are fully deserving of our embrace. Thank you, Mr. Kristof!
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@J. M. Sorrell We could use many more American-born citizens with such values.
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@J. M. Sorrell
We could also use many more citizens of the United States with such values, don't you think?
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@Kim Derderian To you and Froxgirl, who do you think responded and donated to this cause? Plenty of American citizens. There are plenty of people who share these values here in the U.S.
Heartwarming for sure and also a reminder that there are a lot more Tanis and their families out there who could also use a hand-up. I admire the family for choosing a modest home, hopefully one they can afford to live in after the free rent expires, rather than a fancy home.
Kudos to the family for sharing their good fortune rather than spending all the money that was given. They are making the world and America a better place through their generosity and wisdom. I wish I could give them all a hug and shake their hands.
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Important insight that we need to pitch in to solve the big problems behind this story and not just react emotionally to one kid's triumph, however inspiring.
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Such a beautiful and heartfelt story!
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Thank you for presenting a positive story. So much of what is printed or broadcast has a negative story to tell. Good will overcome bad. Thank you, Nick!
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a remarkable, heartwarming series of events...
and thank you for drawing the appropriate moral,
"There’s a risk that a triumph like this leaves the impression that charity is the solution rather than a way to fill gaps: Fundamentally we need comprehensive systems in place to support needy kids. We would never build a bridge or subway with volunteers and donations, so why entrust an even more urgent cause — homeless children — to charity?"
The necessary role of government in the creation of social justice in a capitalist economy was established during the Great Depression. It was decried as socialism then, and it has been the goal of the GOP ever since to roll back this evil socialism. All of this is marketing jive from the selfish elements of the wealthy class, and their successful brainwashing over the last forty years is bringing USA to ruin.
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What a wonderful family. I wish they would keep some money for kids' college, but cannot argue with their charity and open-heartedness.
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@Peyma. They agreed that Tani will stay in his public school through elementary school. Middle school and onward will be decided at a different time, and schooling options are being offered.
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@Sara Hopefully the older brother is being supported and encouraged by his family and others. He may not play chess, but perhaps his role in the future will be equally hopeful.
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Thank you for this uplifting story and update. This immigrant family illustrates true American values, giving back to others to help them help themselves. I am in awe of this family, their school, teachers, and chess coach, and all the generous people who want to help them realize their dream of becoming good citizens. They are all what’s right with America. With the political maelstrom and illegal dealings by people in power which are sorely testing our democracy, it’s heartening to find our moral compass in the actions of Tani and his family.
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In a country with so many self serving citizens it is hard to separate the generous from the selfish. Many thanks to Mr. Kristof. This story is the epitome of pay it forward. It not only enhances the receiver but also the giver. It teaches us once again that when we help one another we help the universe.
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Unfortunately, the one thing that government can't provide is supportive parents. Funding can provide good teachers and resources, and good chess teachers, but ultimately Tani's parents were willing to sacrifice to get him to practice and give him the best possible environment for practice. New York state provides free test prep classes, but parents need to take their kids to the classes for it to help them.
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@Diana Perhaps many parents working two jobs just can't.
I just keep wondering how many more young talented children there are among the homeless, destitute, or politically oppressed of the world whose circumstances will prevent them ever having the opportunity to fulfill their talent. Helping these people is not charity; it is a duty. Feed the hungry, clothe the naked, care for the stranger in our midst. These are fundamental values.
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@M.i. Estneru. Unfortunately, the GOP disagrees...wouldn't it it be outstanding if the Trump family (and other wealthy Americans) agreed to match these donations dollar-for-dollar?
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@M.i. Estner
OK. I don't think "people's presidents" should have $70,000,000 Netflix contracts, make them give the money to the Salvation Army. Ditto, "socialists" with $600,000 summer homes, make them sell.
Waiting ..
“One challenge I face is that readers often want to donate just to a particular individual I write about, without addressing the larger social problem. So it’s thrilling to see Tani and his parents use their good fortune to help other anonymous kids in need. In that, there’s a lesson for all of us.”
I fully agree. Your reader’s responses are similar to those of the marvelous 16-year Greta Thunberg’s strike for climate - many congratulate her or say she inspired them to become vegan - certainly worthwhile actions but without addressing the bigger societal and structural issues on a national and global scale. She is striking in front of her nation’s parliament primarily as her own way to influence large scale and immediate political action - to address the larger social issue.
It is challenging to affect the larger social problem. I work with youth empowerment organizations seeking to support young people contribute to community changes they identify as needed. I can now use the example of Tani’s family’s actions in addition to those of Greta Thunberg as everyday people making a difference in their community and world.
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@Louise. How awesome! I come from an abusive environment, which included molestation, and was fortunate in high school to have a school psychologist who recognized my intelligence and drive to better myself. Now that I'm retired (63 and on SSDI), I'm attending online college with the goal of mentoring troubled teens. A youth empowerment organization dedicated to supporting young people will be exactly what I'm looking to do! I also pledged to pay it forward.
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As is pointed out, private charity is not the answer. A great many schools do not have chess clubs or other activities that match the talents of a particular child, and even if they do, there are fees and things that must be purchased, such as sports equipment. That keeps many children from reaching their potential.
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@mj take a look at https://chessintheschools.org/
An incredible organization that gives city kids access to this game (and all that it can offer). Great group to give $ to.
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Wonderful, happy and inspiring update. Blessings all around.
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Everyone is a winner in this story! Thank you for showing the value of immigration to our country in such a heart-warming way.
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When I read the column last week my eyes flowed with tears and they are again as I write this comment.
Tani, his siblings, and his parents are what's right about America. They are what must never change about America. They should make every single American, irregardless of the color of their skin, the religious faith they believe in, the language they speak, or the country they were born in, proud, and beaming and radiating with pride.
We sadly have had a President the past four years who has tried to divide us by our skin color and religious faith and from the moment he first announced his candidacy began demonizing immigrants.
We don't have to make America great again. America is already great because we have accepted Tani and his family, and millions and millions of people from all around the world to join us in weaving this wonderful mosaic we call America.
Diversity is our strength. America is not a superpower because of the size of its economy, the number of tanks and planes and aircraft carriers it has, nor because of the size of its military. America is and will only remain a superpower by how it treats all those who live here and those who have come to our shores for the same promise our ancestors did, and that is to make a better life for themselves and their families.
If we really truly want to make America great again we can do that by turning out in record numbers in November of 2020 and ousting Trump and embrace the diversity he has wrongly disparaged.
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@Mark Jeffery Koch
Your comment is one of the BEST ever posted on any site! It brought tears to my eyes and hope to my heart for our future. Much needed in these dark times. Thank you.
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@Mark Jeffery Koch
Thanks. We are the majority, tough many have lost their way.
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Great column. It DOES feel like four years, but I think the USA has been suffering this monster for two years :(
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Thank you for recognizing that while individual stories inspire giving, solving the underlying issues together is key. Tani’s reaction to his new home reminds me of an often seen reaction at Habitat for Humanity home dedications. I am a supporter of their work in my city!
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“Thank you for recognizing that while individual stories inspire giving, working to address the underlying issues together is key.”
Well stated, I agree.
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Please keep us updated on the status of the Tanitoluwa Adewumi Foundation. $200K is a great start but they will need to continue raising funds to help more people. I'd like to be able to contribute there once it's established instead of through a Go Fund Me account.
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Last week's story was amazing and then it got even better! Please keep us updated!
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What a blessing! So happy for him and his family!
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Nick,
Can I buy Tani a computer? It would be a great honor. I would also fund a coding class if Tani is interested.
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@David Glueck
Coding is a wonderful skill for those whose passions direct them towards computer science. Tani's talent and passion are directed toward becoming a young Grandmaster, and that's where our assistance should be directed. Your generosity is marvelous and I'm sure you'd be willing to channel it toward helping Tani achieve his goals and dreams.
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@David Glueck, perhaps Tani's brother would be interested in coding.
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That is a wonderful story. Thank you, Mr. Kristof. Best wishes always to the good-hearted Adewumi family.
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Thank you for your brilliant writing and the heart you put into all that you do. Highlighting the goodness in the world is the balm we need. I am a firm believer that more good is happening than bad. We just have to wade through so much to get to these stories. Felt good to shed some happy tears today. I'm so happy for this family and all the support that has been inspired by this story. Keep it up, Mr. Kristof. We need you!
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@Kristine Mossinghoff
I read this from my country (France) and I totally agree with you Kristine.
Indeed, as you say we need Mr Kristof and more people like him.
Have a lovely sunday
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