I wonder why she didn't turn up for work on the Tuesday/Wednesday. (she was seen in NYC on cctv in Wednesday)
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My deepest sympathies to her family and friends. A heartbreaking tragedy.
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Something just doesn’t sound right about all of this. To have said she was so terribly afraid someone was going to kill her lead she me to believe SOMETHING ahead happened that maybe she didn’t want to trouble her mother with....or she was getting some kind of intuitive premonition. The fact that she showed up in NYC the following day, without having called in to tell her employer sounds a bit odd, as well. It sounds like she was a well regarded employee so it doesn’t make sense that she would just not show up to work. I wonder what led the police to know to look at that NYC bank ATM surveillance video? I guess maybe they were checking them all...but it all just seems like everything came together so neatly and quickly. I see or read about so many families who wind up suffering, often for years, waiting for resolution. I’m sure the family and friends are great for closure, and for the expedient way things went....but something just doesn’t feel right to me. May she Rest In Peace, and I pray her family and friends find some comfort knowing she isn’t suffering.
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Ms. Reyes' resemblance (at least in this photo) to Sade is remarkable. One less bit of light and beauty in this world. Very, very sad. Condolences to her family.
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The young woman's right to life has been taken away from her in a cruel manner. Liberal societies will need to realize that tracking, restricting potential criminals and punishing effectively, serve to safeguard the basic right to life of innocents. To that extent a greater amount of power needs to be conceded to the policing agencies and the judiciary ( with safeguards though). Here was a young woman whose life was snuffed out by a criminal ostensibly for no reason other than that someone could just do it.
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Near the end of the article I realized some aspects of the woman's death reminded me of the death of Cindy James. In June 1989, the quiet Vancouver, British Columbia, suburb of Richmond was shocked when a body was found lying in the yard of an abandoned house. The victim was a forty-four-year-old nurse named Cindy James. She had been drugged and strangled, and her hands and feet had been tied behind her back. The Royal Canadian Mounted Police believed that her death was either an accident or suicide. Over the course of a number of years she believed someone was out to get her but the police were skeptical. The cause of death was an overdose of morphine and other drugs, the case has never been solved. I recall working with the wife of a local police officer at the time and the woman said that despite surveillance there was never any evidence that anyone was following her.
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@S Sm how could the other murder you’ve referenced have been a suicide if her hands were tied behind her back and her legs tied together?? And then you say it was a drug overdose? I guess I’m confused.
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Did no one suspect anything seeing her at the bank that early? Are they checking their database as well as others for similar crimes? Will there be updates on this particular story. I just find it extremely uneasy how she had a feeling in her and the feeling was technically right due to her being murdered. What are the police going to do trying to find this person? The U.S murder rates alone for just women have gone up 21% since last year. To me that seems like an alarming rate and even 93% of those women might actually know their attacker. We as people should not have to live in fear or look over our shoulders every few minutes. Police systems need to be updated or better database systems to identify or even find the killers. Something has to be done better so then we will not have to have such gruesome and terrible cold blooded killings. (Not saying that it wont happen just will not happen as much.) What will change or more importantly WHEN will our crime rates change.?
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As a father of a daughter who will soon turn 20, I feel so sorry for this young lady and her loved ones. May she rest in peace. May all the demons in this world who murdered young women senselessly be brought to justice. May we one day be able to live in peace and love, not hate and cold blooded killings.
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Gavin DeBecker's, "The Gift of Fear" is a book that tells us to pay attention to our feelings and instincts. If you feel or sense that you are in danger, don't hesitate to reach out to police, or friends or neighbors. If someone has approached you who seems "creepy" or "weird" then seek help. Don't be by yourself, if possible. What a horrific event for the young woman and her family. Maybe it couldn't have been prevented, but perhaps if she had left her apartment and gone home, maybe it wouldn't have happened. Bless her and her family.
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@Jean there have been 2 distinct times in my life when my instincts were 100% correct. Once I had been in summer school and my mom had told me a ballilion times before that if anyone ever came to pick me up at school or anywhere saying my parenta sent them, to run. So this particular summer day, againts my parents wishes, I walked out of school and decided to wait for my mom to pick me up outside at the corner of the block the school was on. As I walked to that spot I had an overwhelming fear that something bad would happen. As I waited a car with two young men pulled up in front of me. The guy driving says my mom asked him to pick me up, I said no thanks so the guy in the passenger seat opens his door and I took off and ran as fast as I could back to the school.
The 2nd time I was on a tour bus, on the way back home froma hotel resort. This lovely bus picked up a couple of stray passengers on the side of the road and the se passengers, since the bus was full used buckets in between rows to sit down. Well this guy sat next to me and my friend and I right away felt contempt against this guy. But I was tired and while I suspected the guy to be up to no good I was fighting against my sleepiness. Suddenly I started thinking well I dont know this guy maybe he's not bad after all. So I laid my phone across my chest and fell asleep. When I woke up the guy was gone and so was my phone. Never again would I doubt my instincts after that.
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Reminds me, eerily of a woman's body found in a suitcase in Mamaroneck (also on the sound shore, between New Rochelle and Greenwich) some years ago. I hope the police are looking into similar crimes.
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There are three women killed in the US everyday. We don't lose that many people to border walls or ISIS militants. Where are the priorities?
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Could a patron of the book store have been stalking her over a period of time?
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I am sorry to say but these kind of murders take place primarily in our country. There is something seriously wrong here. Children are killed in schools, malls, theaters , trains. There are serial killers about whom we hear almost every week. Young girls are kidnapped and kept for years and abused. I can go on and then I hear politicians telling us this is the greatest country in the world. Is it?
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@Eraven by many standards, not at all.
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Depressed people are extremely vulnerable.
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When I was 17, I was a hostess at a restaurant. One night, I finished my hostess shift and left the restaurant late at night.
No one walked me to my car that night.
As I walked to my car, a good looking guy appeared out of the darkness and asked me for help with something in his car - he wanted me to bend down in the passenger seat floor and shine a flashlight up under the glove box. Supposedly he couldn’t have done this without my assistance.
So...despite all the advice my mother had given me up to this point - and it was a LOT - I did what he asked.
After about 5 seconds, literally every hair on my body stood straight up and abject terror came over me.
A voice in my head told me to run. And that’s exactly what I did, dropping the flashlight and hightailing it across the parking lot to my car.
I don’t have proof he meant any harm but I know it in my bones.
I’m grateful to that voice and believe it saved my life.
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@(not That) Dolly ....OMG!!! My heart is literally racing as I am reading this in bed in the safety of my home with my husband in the next room!!!! Thank God you followed your instincts.....but I am upset that you didn't act immediately!!! That was really a close call! So glad you got away! Wasn't Ted Bundy really good looking?
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Other media outlets are reporting that Ms Reyes took her iPhone, iPad, clothes, and bed sheets with her when she left her apartment on Tuesday Jan 29.
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Cameras are virtually everywhere now. There must be video of someone carrying that suitcase.
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Hope her premonition at least allows her murderer to be found--public interest raises chances of adequate investigation. Murder clearance rates very low in some cities for people of color/minorities. If you care keep up pressure or have tip--not much crime in Greenwich. https://www.greenwichct.gov/348/Detective-Division
http://www.city-data.com/crime/crime-Greenwich-Connecticut.html
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Advice to women: carry a firearm!
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@scythians That is a very bad idea. In New Orleans, the crime capital of the U.S., carrying a gun is a bonus for the robbers whose M.O. involves multiple attackers who knock the victim down and search the pockets for a wallet, cell phone and the occasional gun which is worthless in an ambush.
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What about the clothes and bedsheets she took with her on Tues Jan 29? See report on Lohud.com
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@Sharon
perhaps the assault began in her apartment that night...
This country is NOT the best. Violence is encouraged and condoned by the highest officer in the country. We are living in tragic times. I am losing hope for things to get better. So very very sorry for this young woman and her family. I agree with
the person who said:
"There are three women killed in the US everyday. We don't lose that many people to border walls or ISIS militants. Where are the priorities?"
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Very strange story. What is the message here? If you feel for no particular reason you may be murdered, you will be?
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@Purple Spain
Strange how the victim's premonition stands alone with no other background or justification. How did that premonition even get reported without any other clue? Boyfriends, ex boyfriends, social media connections, what have you all have a snippet to tell.
Suitcases hold a lot of history and physical evidence. I hope this story gets follow up.
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@Purple Spain Events don't necessarily contain messages other than the facts.
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The NY Times seems to be editorializing this story.
This is is a tragic story about a young girl who seems as innocent
As a victim of this extreme violence could be. Yet The NY Times opens the article
With a photo of a girl lounging on the precipice of a fatal fall. I think the photo
Is in bad taste under the circumstances.
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Hi. It is so interesting how differently we can respond to images. As a former rock climber and hiker, I responded this image immediately as a picture which tells a powerful story about who Valerie Reyes was: alive to the beauty in nature, willing to challenge herself and clearly physically fit. She appears a bit proud of her daring, a very young woman testing the limits, feelings I remember well as a young woman.
I didn’t respond to this image at all as foreshadowing - because it was not - her death had nothing to do with that happy and yes, possibly dangerous moment of her own choosing.
So much writing (including fictional crime shows) about murder reduces the victims to cardboard cutouts, emphasizing only the ways in which they were defiled or destroyed. It’s kind of disgusting to me because the victim is a plot device to tell the despicable murderer’s story.
The writer of this piece and that powerful image made it easy to see her as a real person and make a stranger in another country grieve her loss in the middle of the night.
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I live in Brooklyn. Years back I would take the train home after waiting tables always around 11 pm. For at least 6 months I had the dark feeling, a relentless nagging thought, that one night I'd be mugged. Then as I was getting off the train one night, still on the platform I had a knowing that that would be the night. I dismissed it. I walked about 2 blocks from the train station when a tall man approached me from behind and grabbed me by the ears - gently. It was so gentle I actually thought it was someone I knew, like how someone comes from behind and puts their hands over your eyes. He had a hold of my hoop earrings and popped them off my ears. He told me he had a knife. He then draped his arm across my shoulders and told me to get out my wallet. I complied. At that point, he tried to drag me down a dark block where I knew there was an empty lot. I could see a couple of people across the street and gratefully, something in me - some courage - welled up and I began to yell: NO NO NO NO. It frightened the guy, he ran off and I ran home to my apartment, only about a half block away. I'm incredibly grateful for my intuition and how it forwarned me. I do pray Valerie's story saves women's lives and encourages all people to listen to their intuitions. They are not rational pieces of information, but they are powerful and can be life-saving.
My deepest sympathies go to Valerie's mother, family, and friends. No one should endure the nightmare they are living through.
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I'd like to think that there were a series of coincidences or bits of information that her subconscious mind recognized which led her to believe that she was being stalked or was in danger even if she could not consciously put it together. Maybe there was conflicting evidence in her mind which let her to ignore certain information that told her she was in danger. Is it also possible that there is information that law enforcement is withholding in order not to spoil their investigation. Maybe there's more information that she relayed to her mother than we know of?
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This tragedy, and the article about women big wave surfers and the way they're treated by men, is so discouraging and depressing.
Just don't understand how and why so many men are threatened by women to the point of constant verbal and physical harassment and then, in far too many cases, murder.
I live in Indian Country and there are literally thousands of native women across the country who have disappeared. Nobody, tribal governments included, seems to care at all.
Then some Greenwich town employee stops to take a picture. That's his instinct in this situation, his first reaction. Wonder if he planned on selling it to TMZ? Unreal.
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@Lou Good
Nowhere in this article does it say the town employee was male, nor does anyone know what gender the murderer is.
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@Lou Good
Is there a chance the employee thought the murderer may return for the body prior to police arrival? I’ve never seen anything this horrible in my life; to be honest, I don’t know how I would react. Maybe I would take a photo so that if it disappeared I could still help the authorities.
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@Lou Good-America needs a national accounting similar to Canada's commission looking into crimes against native women and girls. President Obama signed a bill targeting crime on Indian reservations, where is this today?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Native_American_policy_of_the_Barack_Obama_administration
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May her memory be a blessing.
There are really no right words for this.
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I think there is a disproportionate risk to very pretty girls like this girl. I wish television was used on one station just as a safety instruction station. If girls would carry in their hand, pepper spray in problematic transitional spaces, I think that little thing would lead to more escapes by such girls....not in their pocket books...in their hand at the ready e.g. going from workplace to their car.
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@william f bannon Except that, in many places, carrying pepper spray is illegal.
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@william f bannon I think maybe if men just wouldn’t rape or murder women in transitional spaces, that would solve the problem. Not pepper spray.
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@william f bannon
Being "pretty" is not a known risk.
Being female is.
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There is a huge difference between paranoia vs. instincts telling or warning you of danger.
A few times in my life I listened to my instincts and firmly believe in my heart that by abiding by those instincts, I kept myself from a dangerous situation.
I cannot stress enough to listen or feel those things that seem "not right". I cannot explain why or where these warnings originate from, but instincts are real and they could save your life.
I do not know what Valerie Reyes could have done to keep herself safe from harm, but my heart breaks for her and her family because she truly felt terrified and those fears were not unfounded.
I hope one day down the road, Ms. Reyes' family finds some comfort and some peace.
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@Marge Keller You're right about listening to those sorts of instincts. I like to think of them as based on both experience and whatever instinct for safety that we have left over from our ancient ancestors. Sometimes when we feel something isn't right it's because we might be seeing little indications that something is off in a given situation, that it is different than usual (our usual experience) in a small way, and we can't even verbalize it, but it's off.
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I agree. I once heard a former FBI agent say that humans are the only animals that ignore or override an instinct to flee or leave. If one is typically not fearful, then these feelings are coming from something, even if the source cannot be logically explained. Our senses are complex. As posted, uncertain this poor woman could have done anything to save herself. A tragedy for everyone.
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@Marge Keller There is a good book on this very subject: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gift_of_Fear
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"She told her mother: “I feel like somebody’s going to murder me.”
This beautiful, young woman had a terrifying premonition of being murdered. After sharing this these fears with her mother, she goes missing and then her body is found eight days later.
There are no words to describe such horror nor the frightening and painful tragedy Ms. Reyes' mother, family, friends and co-workers are feeling.
I hope the three police departments involved will be able to solve this murder and bring the individual(s) responsible to justice quickly.
Sincere and profound condolences to Valerie's family and loved ones.
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This is just heartbreaking. Such a beautiful young lady in the prime of her life, working hard for her future and then this. Words can't express the grief for her family, friends.
Too many young and vibrant women are becoming victims of violence lately. What on earth is going on in America.
I have faith however, that the police and the FBI will eventually find and bring this hideous perpetrator to the justice they fully deserve.
God Bless.
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Why isn't the FBI involved? Multiple murders? Kidnapping involving banks? Kidnap victim transported across state lines? This screams for FBI jurisdiction. Why have they not assumed jurisdiction? It is their job.
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@Bob Disappeared in NY, body found in Connecticut. State lines.
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Lord God Jesus Christ please help the family during this time of grieving and extreme sadness... That’s why I am very protective of my children. I will show them this article later after I pick them up from school.
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@Nikki
Please don't make a point of showing your children this story. It will only make them needlessly afraid. Just give them sensible advice about being aware of their surroundings and to not be afraid the "make a scene" when they feel threatened.
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"Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them". I read Margaret Atwood's quote shortly after I emailed a friend how there is more public outcry about political correctness than on the frightening number of women abducted and usually murdered. There's a passive acceptance, a normalization of these tragic events. It appears to be routine now.
I'm sick of what women have to face. Solitary walks or jogs on rural or less populated roads or hikes in the woods are out of the question these days. It's fitting with today's male viewpoint that a public works employee, ie. male, took pictures. What else would anyone expect?
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@Kathy
Those words from Margaret Atwood are chilling...and will be true as long as men don't understand why the two genders' fears are not at all equivalent.
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@Grennan
This murder is a senseless tragedy. Disgusting and terrifying. Something to consider in reading comments though: I don't see where in the article that the highway worker who took photos was a man... or a woman for that matter. It sounds like a bias to assume it was a male, which by the way, I also am biased to assume.
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@Kathy
You do know that men are much more likely to be murdered and be victims of violence right? Where is your outrage about this?
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Article says on Wednesday she was in NYC but her body was found on Tuesday ? Also She spoke to her mom and never showed up to work meaning she didn't call out.
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@Samantha I believe it was the following Tuesday. She was missing for about a week.
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@Samantha her body was found Tuesday, 8 days after the phone call, so the next week.
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Terminate the employee taking photos. Disgusting and unethical and may violate work policies.
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@426131
There's also the possibility the employee was documenting the scene in good faith, as first-on-the-scene. Their supervisor may have placed them on leave to demonstrate the boss' own due diligence, because of the risk that the pictures might be inadvertantly disseminated.
I offer this as a possibility, not a certainty, as opposed to your immediate judgment from limited facts.
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@426131
Gotta investigate him first. May be selling photos, may be collecting souvenirs.
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@Len Arends It's confirmed that he did disseminate them.
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She was a beautiful person inside and out. The perpetrator is out there, someone must know something. Just the fact that she said she felt like she was going to be murdered is a sign that something was wrong in her environment. Was she being a focus of someone's attention she didn't want. Was she being preyed upon. Did she say anything to anyone about a wierdo.Did anyone at work see anyone hanging around?
looking at her too long
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All is just speculation, but although the idea that she had a psychic premonition plays well in the press and makes for a good story - in journalistic terms - I can't boy it. There are plenty of reasons not to tell your mother something specific. The idea that she would have OF COURSE have told her mother ignores the reality of human relationships. The man knew her is what I bet comes out, or alternately she knew she was being stalked.
It's just a horrible crime. I'm reminded of the Kavanaugh accusations. What if Christine Ford had been accidentaly suffocated during the game he and his friend were playing? Would she have wound up in a suitcase on a road in a town like Greenwich? Possibly. We just don't value young women the way we should if we still put people like Kavanaugh and Trump in power _ men who send the message that they're for their entertainment and desire. Lots of people don't want to connect the dots between the violent crimes at down below and the violent attitudes from above, but they're always there.
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@Arthur
A guy i knew in 2006 told me three days before he died "I'm going to die soon. I can feel it".
Some ppl know. Idk how or why
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@Arthur
My first thought was that she had some more specific fears than she felt comfortable telling her mother.
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@DW
Mine as well.
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I'm so sorry this has happened to this family. I can't imagine having that conversation and then having it come to fruition. So many "if only" I did this or that thoughts even though it's not their fault at all.
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Gavin De Becker, who is in the news for being hired by Jeff Bezos, wrote a book called The Gift of Fear, which points out that intuition, and often that unexplained feeling of fear, should always be heeded. This is heartbreaking to read and plays out far too often. If there is a reason to declare a national emergency, violence against women should be at the top of the list.
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@Joanne, should be required reading for everyone. Especially women, but men too.
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@LTBoston
In complete agreement. A close friend of mine walked home from school in the rain when he was 16. A man in a car stopped and asked him to get in because he would take him home. My friend got a very bad vibe off of the stranger who was offering help and declined the ride. A few years later he recognized John Wayne Gacy as the man who offered him a ride in his car. To this day, my friend's story still sends chills down my back.
I think true evil is ever present and sometimes, for whatever reason, people pick up on it.
Heartfelt condolences to Ms. Reyes' family.
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@Joanne my sociopathic ex (a social worker) let me borrow that specific book The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker when we started dating. I didn’t have time to read it because I had just moved to NYC to start school. We continued to date and during that time he put a pillow over my head and asked me to play dead like he said him and his mother used to do (I was nervous and played along) then he asked me if I liked Thanksgiving and tried to put couch stuffing down my mouth. I panicked and grabbed my clothes to get dressed and then he threw trash down my back while laughing and told me he was a sociopath and that he was trying to WARN me about him by giving me that book to read! I’m pretty sure he could have killed me. When you mentioned that book I got chills remembering what happened to me that night.
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Could she have been abducted, threatened, and forced to get cash from her acct? She may have been so frightened because she knew someone was watching her, but she didn't want to alarm her Mother that much?
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"All of these murders of women". Why no mention of this in the article re: other recent murders that may/may not be connected.
Doubly chilling having recently watched the Ted Bundy documentary. Psychopaths in our midst.
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@Jimd I wrote the story and spoke to Valerie's mother, and I came away with the impression that she was not referring to any murder or murders in particular, but just a vague fear of the concept. Her mother said she kept asking Valerie for details and specifics, and got none. If I learn of any possible connection to another case I will definitely follow up.
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@Michael Wilson
I read in other articles & posts that she was last seen at the New Rochelle train station. However, your artilcle states the Greenwich train station Pls confirm which train station as that is a BIG difference would certainly assist LE in a correct timeline of her whereabouts.
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@Ct mom Yes. What CT mom said. I am confused, too.
What a tragic story, and how awful for her family.
On a side note, what kind of society have we become that a public works employee wants to take photos of that?!?! For profit? For instagram/TV notoriety? Just gross and disappointing.
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The article is missing information on the murders she was in fear of, which are clearly relevant
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@Jacomodi I'm the reporter who wrote the story, and Valerie's mother gave me the impression that Valerie was not referring to any murder or murders in particular, but just a vague fear of the concept. Her mother said she kept asking Valerie for details and specifics, and got none. I'll be watching the case and will follow up when new leads develop.
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@Michael Wilson. Thank you for the clarification Michael! I had the same question.
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@Jacomodi
I wonder if she was watching the Ted Bundy series and was hearing about those murders for the first time. Further, I wonder if the current attention to Ted Bundy is inspiring copycat murderers.
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How brutal. No words. All love to the family.
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I'm impressed that the police determined the whereabouts on Jan. 30 of a victim from New Rochelle through use of a surveillance video at a Chase Bank branch near Radio City Music Hall.
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@Charles Chotkowski
I’m scared of a police department that has this reach at a time no crime has been established.
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@Charles Chotkowski she no doubt used her debit card which is instantly traceable.
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@Charles Chotkowski
I assume they checked her bank accounts and saw ATM use, so would have easily had location and time her card was used. Maybe thinking the video would show the assailant.
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The poor family, dealing with not only a sudden death of a young person, but a violent, inexplicable one.
One that suggests that perhaps she actually was being menaced or stalked, because this wasn't simply a street assault. I wonder if the 6:30 AM withdrawal at an atm nowhere near her home, was done under duress.
Terrible.
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The comment section (Including this one) Should be closed. Nothing anyone can add here will help anyone. And the usual speculation and wild theories will just be harmful. Thank you.
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@Fighting Sioux: Even though I wrote a comment (and am actually right under you), I was surprised that there were comments allowed on this story. I'm hoping her family will know the deep sadness and human sharing of suffering from these comments.
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I disagree. The comments section are a helpful way for the larger community to struggle with the ongoing mystery of this case, and the collective fear and sadness. I take solace in reading what others have to say, and to know that I am not alone in my fear and sadness around this case.
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@Fighting Sioux
I agree. The WaPo allows comments on local crime stories and they always devolve into vengence and wild speculation. No value for the family or the community IMO.
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My condolences to Ms. Reyes' family. As a mother, the thought of what her mother is going through just makes me crazy. I can't imagine the grief, I'm so so sorry.
She had a premonition. How terrible that it came true.
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My God embrace this family and answer their prayers of justice for their beloved family member. My upmost condolences Ms. Sanchez. I have two daughters and cant imagine this nightmare. Dios la guarde.
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What a lovely photo.
Condolences to Mrs. Sanchez and all the family.
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Wishing her family much peace and strength.
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Terrible beyond all reason. I'm a little confused about the timeline though. Ms. Reyes talked with her mother on Monday. Missed work on Tuesday. Was seen at a train station, we don't know when. Was seen in New York City Wednesday. The body was found in Greenwich the following Tuesday. Nobody knows who or what happened in the interim. There's a big gap, both in time and distance, to this story. What was Valerie Reyes even doing by Radio City?
Most 24 year olds don't travel from New Rochelle to Radio City alone for no reason without mentioning it to anyone at all. I'm going to suggest there's more to Ms. Reyes' life than this accounting can tell us.
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@Andy
This article confuses things more by saying she was last seen at the Greenwich train station a week before she was found dead. All other media reports I've seen say she was last seen at the New Rochelle station, which makes a little more sense.
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@Andy Oh yes, blame the women for her misfortune! No one deserves to be killed and put in a suitcase except the man that put her there.
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@AC
She did not go to work or call them, which is unusual for anyone who had a stable life, which apparently she had.
Something caused this abrupt change in her actions, which is a fact, and needs to be discovered.
The phrase "there's more to (this)" implies deliberately hiding something dark, illegal or shameful.
This family needs support, not speculation.
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I raised my daughter to listen to her gut instinct when out in the street and anywhere else, simply because, as I explained to her, that instinct is there for a reason and should not be rationalized away.
That's a part of reading people.
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@Ronn
Is this subtle victim blaming? Because violence can happen despite one's gut instinct.
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@Left Coast
clinging to the idea that instinct or gut feeling will give women power back over this kind of insidious, determined violence gives us the illusion of control, where there is none.
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No. It’s about self preservation.
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Deepest condolences to her family and her friends. We hurt with you--many people realize that what the family and friends go through must be among the most extreme forms of suffering that one can be forced to experience.
Godspeed to the detectives.
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When will women be believed. We are told trust our instincts but then when, as in this case, we are fearful, we are told to be calm. So sad.
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@Denise:
Your question, "When will women be believed," suggests that Ms. Reyes was disbelieved by some unsympathetic man. But it appears from the article that she was told to calm down by another woman, her mother.
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@Charles Chotkowski Her comment makes no such suggestion. Denise's comment quite simply reminds us that women are not always believed. The social condition encouraging us to disregard women's fears is social conditioning we experience regardless of gender. My sympathies to the family of Ms. Reyes and to her friends for their terrible loss.
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@Denise, Kate McGuire
There is no disbelief in this story, so the question, though important, is not relevant.
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