No, I do not agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics because I feel that parents should be responsible for their children. The American Academy of Pediatrics has their beliefs, but that should not mean that they can discipline any children by the way they feel is best. Spanking was a last resort as I was a kid my parents believed that talking was better but if it resolved to a spanking they would not hesitate. I think that the best way to discipline children is to know how to deliver the message you want across and make sure that it sticks. When I am a parent I will spank my children to show them that they should have a tiny bit of fear of me.
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I believe the way parents discipline their children correlates directly to the future relationship they want to have with their children. When children are physically punished consistently they tend to become constantly fearful of the consequences for their actions. I believe this creates a child with no freedoms or personality, they are constantly worried about the results and turn some what robotic.
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I think that we have the right to choose discipline for our children. It is important to inculcate some values and rules for the future of our children because without this, it is easy to go wrong.
Concerning spanking, I think sometimes it's necessary even if you don't want to hurt the child. It's just a sanction.
The way that you choose to discipline your kids should be completely up to you. The American Academy of Pediatrics is very out of line with this comment in my opinion. If you believe that you need to spank your kids in order to teach them right from wrong then I say go ahead. Some children will not learn from parents constantly verbally reprimanding them, and will start to not take their parents seriously. Also, if you were to hit your children too much, or in any other area such as the face, they may become scared of their parents and be reluctant to ask for help in their time of need. This could hurt the relationship between child and parent. Or if you hit them a lot, they could start acting out as a way to try and get back at you. My opinion on this story is that yes, you should be able spank your kids, but only if you have good reason to.
How you discipline your children is a delicate situation because if you discipline to much they will want to rebel but if you don’t disciple enough then your kids will think that they can get away with anything and never listen to you because they think of you as a pushover. The way that my parents used to discipline me is to mess with my mind and scare me in to thinking that if I ever did something wrong that I should be ashamed of myself of doing something so stupid. While it sound like that would damage my psyche forever but it worked. The only problem is that I might of worked for the short term now that I am older it has caused me to cry over spilled milk, everytime I make a small mistake I go into an extreme panic because I have an extreme fear of my parents finding out and making me feel like the stupidest person because of a mistake I have made.
When asked the question, how should you discipline your child, It’s a very tough situation. I feel that yes, it is semi-violent and is not an effective way of disciplining your child. The article says, “The group, which represents about 67,000 doctors, also recommended that pediatricians advise parents against the use of spanking, which it defined as “non injurious, open handed hitting with the intention of modifying child behavior,” and said to avoid using nonphysical punishment that is humiliating, scary or threatening” (Gonchar, 2018, para. 5). I definitely agree with the statement said here that you should not punish your child in a physical way. The article also says, “One of the most important relationships we all have is the relationship between ourselves and our parents, and it makes sense to eliminate or limit fear and violence in that loving relationship” (Gonchar, 2018, para. 6). I think that our relationships with our parents are definitely one of the most strongest relationships that you will have. I’m not sure if I think that it’s child abuse, but I don’t think that spanking is effective. When I have children, I will do my best to keep their punishments nonphysical. Physical punishment just simply is not effective and doesn’t work very well.
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Spanking children is not a good way to discipline. Parents who agree with spanking their child believe that it will teach them not to be spoiled when they grow up, nothing else works, they want to be respected, they want them to have self control or they want to set standards.Parents who spank their kids may make them straighten up and may seem alright to do for them but they don’t realize it has many negative outcomes. Spanking children can cause a bad relationship between the parent and child, can lead to anti-social behavior, depression, increased aggressive misbehavior, low self-esteem, mental illnesses, and anxiety later in life. Adults who were spanked as children are also more likely to use that same punishment or worse with their own children. Parents who spank their kids may make them straighten up and may seem alright to do for them but they don’t realize it has many negative outcomes. Spanking children can cause a bad relationship between the parent and child, can lead to anti-social behavior, depression, increased aggressive misbehavior, low self-esteem, mental illnesses, and anxiety later in life. Adults who were spanked as children are also more likely to use that same punishment or worse with their own children. Spanking children isn’t a good way to discipline.
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What is the right method of parenting? This question is asked very often, and most parents are likely to use methods that they grew up with. There are many different methods, but corporal punishment is one of the most common. It used to be very popular in the earlier years, but the popularity of this practice is gradually decreasing. “Spanking is not recommended by psychologists as it reduces a child’s ability to socially interact and get along with peers”(Carroll). It also only resolves the problem at the moment, but doesn’t do anything good for the child long-term, and in fact, it increases and contributes to bad behavior (Johnson). You need to be able to think back on your childhood and think about the things your parents never did for you, so that you can provide that for your child. Every child has the right to have a parent by their side to go through the journey of learning with them and guiding them as they make mistakes.
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Johnson, Christen A. “'We Now Advise Parents Not to Spank Their Children': Pediatricians Tighten Stance on Corporal Punishment.” Chicago Tribune, Chicago Tribune, 5 Nov. 2018, www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/parenting/ct-life-pediatricians-spanking-1105-story.html.
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Corporal punishment has been used by parents for decades, but recently, pediatricians and finding that it is an ineffective way in disciplining your child. The American Academy of Pediatrics are correct in their ruling that spanking should not be used to to discipline children. Dr. Robert D. Sage, an author on the statement, said that “one of the most important relationships we will all have is the relationship between ourselves and our parents, and it makes sense to eliminate or limit fear and violence in that loving relationship” (Gonchar, 2018, para. 6). When a parents spanks their child, it teaches them that the people who love them will hurt them. It may also ruin the child’s relationship with their parent, or make them more violent in nature. Although spanking may be an easy way to discipline a child, there are hundreds of other ways to do it that won’t leave a long lasting effect on children.
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In the article it states that 67,000 Doctors are against spanking. I believe that parents shouldnt spank there kids. There are many reasons why you shouldn't, in the article it also says thats makes sense to eliminate or limit fear and violence in that loving relationship. If you spank your child the can grow up with trust issues or be fearful . It's important to have a good relationship between parents and kids , I believe that spanking is not going to create that relationship. That relationship can mean so much more than anything else, That can save them from making some regretful decisions. I know people who have had issues because of their relationship with their parents, It has caused them to make mistakes impacting their life. If I were to have kids I probably wouldn't spank them because of the impact it could have on them later in life and I don't want to hear them whine.
Spanking has been a part of discipline as long as history has been written. But now, more research indicates that spanking should stop, as it is not only ineffective, but actually be harmful in the parental task of getting your child in line.
When a child is spanked, it’s usually because they have not followed instructions, or are showing defiance to orders given to them by their parents. A study decided to see if spanking was effective in getting the child to follow orders. The children were either only placed in time out with not consequence for leaving, or were spanked if they strayed out of their “time out area” before the timeout was over. They were than give thirty instructions by their mothers, and their compliance was recorded. The study showed that spanking had an effect on if they child complied or not.
Another study in 2002 examined the correlation between corporal punishment in the forms of spanking, and physical abuse.(beating, burning, kicking, hitting with an object somewhere other than the buttocks, or shaking a child aged<2 years) It found that mothers who reported spanking their children were 2.7 times more likely to also report physical abuse. Mothers who use an object while spanking are actually much more likely to report abuse.
Research has shown that spanking has no effect in getting children in line. Society should rid itself of the demon we call tradition, and instead turn to the angel called change.
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Parents have many different ways of teaching children, but one question about parenting that most frequently comes up is “should parents ever spank their children in order to teach them what is right?”
Parents can definitely come up with other methods of parenting because spanking is not the way to go.
Spanking can create all sorts of problems for children. According to Psychology Today(1), children will slowly stop trusting their parents if their parents repeatedly hurt them. Spanking could also cause children to stop trusting other people and not just their own parents. If a child gets spanked many times by their parents, they could start to develop aggressive behavior towards people, because they are so used to their parents behaving the same way.
Spanking can also create health problems. Aha! Parenting (2) says that if a child is constantly being slapped by their parents, they can eventually have health problems, like depression. These children will also become afraid of other people. Spanking can keep children from being able to control their emotions. A study has been shown that most of the children that are hit by their parents will hit their own children too.
Using spanking to discipline children is also not very effective. Most children learn manners from their parents. Children with hurtful parents could develop the same hurtful way of doing things.
Instead of spanking, parents should be patient yet firm,but not aggressive. So parents should help without hurting.
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Although it seems like the easiest way to discipline your kids, Corporal Punishment is not the way it should be done. Using force against your kids separates the bond that kids should have with their parents. It makes the children hesitant to ask the parents for help because they fear a beating for saying wrong. "There's no benefit to spanking", Dr. Sege said, MD, Ph.D., and a past member of AAP Committee on Child Abuse and Neglect. "We know that children grow and develop better with positive role modeling and by setting healthy limits.”
Rather than using corporal punishment to discipline your kids, parents should punish immediately and consistently, but not frequently. Change your approach from one of reacting to undesirable behavior to one of planning for appropriate behavior. Look for ways to encourage your child to succeed at positive behavior, and promptly reward his or her attempts. ¨Watch what happens just after a problem behavior¨, says Sheena Carter Ph.D. Emory University School of Medicine.
Even though there are so many things wrong with corporal punishment, lots of people still use this technique. According to PMC. PubMed Central®, approximately 2/3 of parents in the United States use this technique to discipline their kids. Despite evidence that it harms kids, it is still legal in many states.
Corporal Punishment harms kids and ruins the relationship between kids and parents. There are no positive effects of this, so why do it?
I believe mental disciplining is better than physical disciplining.Physical disciplining includes spanking, beating, or causing harm to the recipient's body. Physical disciplining can also cause serious harm such as Depression, unhappiness, and use of drugs(Durrant).Mental disciplining is where you do phycological things to cause discomfort to the person.For example, hiding things they enjoy, giving them a lot of homework, or causing them to do something they don’t enjoy.I feel that physical disciplining should not be used because it causes the family´s structure to break up(Bassam).The child sees themselves doing nothing wrong and you just are hitting them.While in mental discipline, they are doing something bad so you make them do something they don’t like and they feel like they are the cause of the punishment.Mental punishment is very effective, but it can leave lasting mental wounds.So try to not overdo it.You should do try other things before you go to it.First, you should tell them off and if they do something good you reward them.Then you start mentally punishing them by hiding what they enjoy.All these reasons are why I believe that physical disciplining is worse than mental disciplining.
Durrant, Joan. “Physical Punishment of Children: Lessons from 20 Years of Research.” NCBI, NCBI, 2012, www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3447048
Bassam, Eid. “Corporal Punishment of Children: Discipline or Abuse?” NCBI, 2018, www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6022237/
I think that giving your child an incentive is the best way to get them to do something, that they will do out of habit later on in their life. Although most parents think that hurting their child in the current moment will make them understand that what they did was bad ensuring they won’t do it again, it will give them a bad image of you and won’t be in their best interests. The idea of spanking or hurting a child to get them too stop doing the wrong thing works but also results in thousands of kids being “harassed” by their parents.
Giving your child an incentive is the best way to get them to do the right things, studies from research show that if you get your child to do the good things happily then it will most likely stay with them throughout their life rather than if you force them.
Spanking unlike incentive doesn’t positively reinforce your child's thoughts about you or about doing the right thing. Research shows that if a parent spanks their child the child is more likely not going to remember to do the right thing than if the parent gave the child an incentive.
Although your parents would rather use their money on something other than incentive, because you would rather use that money somewhere else since you know you can get your children to do without using money. Giving an incentive will actually be better in the long term to give your children an incentive.
When I was younger, more wild, I would never want to practice my piano. My parents would give me a quick slap on the butt, thinking it would make me know to listen, but it taught me nothing. I just went off happily playing with my toys. If my parents had given me a lecture however, I would probably started practicing. Not only can spanking cause mental disorders, it is ineffective, making the spanking unnecessary pain.
In one study, children at age 3 who were spanked more than twice a month were far more aggressive at age 5. At age 9, they still showed negative behaviors and weren't as open minded. Stress hormones are increased when a parent spanks, yells, or shames their child.(AAP) According to HealthyChildren,using spanking as a form of punishment can increase aggression, will impact negatively on parent child relationship, risk of mental health disorders. These outcomes are the same as children who experience physical abuse.
Increase of aggression can lead to fewer friends/loneliness, anxiety, fewer job options, trouble with concentration and attention. You may think that you are doing the best for your child by “teaching them a lesson”, but really in the long run, you are making things much more difficult for them.
There are multiple ways much more effective than spanking to discipline your child. The point of spanking is to get them to listen and realize they are doing something wrong, but in reality, it is ineffective, and causes unnecessary pain.
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“It’s my pow, followed by his wow,” how awful does that sound? The spanking strategy is flawed, and shouldn’t be used when kids are growing up and in their most impressionable stage of life. Dr. Robert D. Sege said, “One of the most important relationships we all have is the relationship between ourselves and our parents, and it makes sense to eliminate or limit fear and violence in that loving relationship,” and I completely agree.
When a young child is learning what is right and wrong, they don’t need to be physically abused to be taught. Often times, the kid won’t even know what they did wrong or why it’s wrong; they may just think they are just getting spanked for no reason. This can create an unhealthy relationship between the kid and the parent. A child should grow up trusting their parents and being taught what is right and wrong with words and rewards, not wooden spoons and stinging skin.
I work with kids weekly, multiple times a week and for a great portion of my summers. So, I get the opportunity to spend time with kids from one-years-old to thirteen-years-old. And never once have I had to spank a child. It wouldn’t be my place to do so anyway, but I am always able to just talk to them and not have the problem again. And with a healthy relationship, parents can do the same thing.
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In every child’s life, there will be mistakes. To correct these, a loving parent does not look to instill pain within his or her child, but to kindly teach lessons which will not be forgotten. For such silly things, it would be simply unimaginable to beat a child. Children are innocent in their ways, and therefore the punishment they receive for their mistakes should reflect this, as children “‘need to know that [the parent has] their best interests at heart’” (Caron).
Responsible parents should, however, know when and how to discipline their children. Firstly, parents should refrain from physically disciplining their children while emotionally heated. After all, contrary to Fitzhugh Dodson’s perspective, the physical discipline is not employed to relieve the parent’s, “tension”, but to convey the message that whatever behavior the child showed was not acceptable (Caron). Another important point of disciplining children is to explain just exactly why they are receiving a punishment, as the explanation itself is the lesson and not the discipline -- that is just reinforcement. This method of correction was certainly not carried out properly in the cited study, “of 23 [teens] who had repeated exposure to harsh corporal punishment” (Caron). All this mistreatment resulted in was, “reduced gray matter… of the prefrontal cortex”, leading to lower cognitive development and ability in life -- these are the dangers not of corporal punishment, but of poor parenting (Caron).
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In my opinion, the best way to discipline children is whatever you believe in. Some parents believe in spanking and others believe in timeout or any other kinds of punishment. I do think different approaches should be taking at different ages and with different temperaments. I think for toddlers you should speak calmly or give a timeout. 6 or older, spank if you think that is how you are going to get your child to listen or send them to their rooms. When they hit their preteen and teen years, I think the appropriate thing to do is ground them. I think you should sometimes try not to spank your children “Avoid using nonphysical punishment that is humiliating, scary or threatening”(Gonchar, para. 2). I agree with this because nowadays spanking as seen as child abuse. A lot of parents can take spanking to far and actually hurt their child. You should always try to avoid spanking because people can see it as you not loving your child.
Yes I agree with american pediatrics. I don’t think spanking should be used on a child when they act out. I think there’s better ways to communicate your issues with the child rather than physical abuse, whether injurious or not. Just as Dr. Sege said “Certainly you can get a child’s attention, but it’s not an effective strategy to teach right from wrong.” (Caron, 2018, para. 6). There will always be a much better way to teach your child right from wrong rather than putting your hands on them. Spanking is not used in my family, i’m very close with my parents and the main reason for that is they’ve always established a strong relationship base of love and attention. Spanking your children causes a sense of fear they wouldn’t have and will be problematic for future issues.
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In my opinion, the best way to discipline children is by spanking them, but not in an abusive or harsh way and not in a way that will embarrass the child. These are the type of spankings that lead to long term consequences; therefore, were i to become a parent, I would spank my child. I know of many people who were spanked as a child, including myself, and they all became good people. I believe that the “harmful effects” of spanking aren’t caused by it, but by a combination of other parenting techniques and spanking is made out to be a scapegoat.
In my opinion the best way to discipline your children depends on different ages they’re at. Say I have a four-year-old and they are not behaving, spanking them would just teach them to hit, they need to learn the difference between right and wrong. Making them go into time out is a good idea to me, it teaches them to think about their actions and they will soon realize that it was not okay, and they will learn that if they want to avoid consequences, they won’t do it. With a totally different age like ten, since they are too old for a time out, grounding might be the best solution. It’s basically the same idea, just more of a consequence since they are older, and they should know basic rights and wrongs. In the article they provide an important fact, “The American Academy of pediatrics which is made up of 67,000 doctors, also recommended that pediatricians advise parents against the use of spanking, which it defined as ‘noninjurious, openhanded hitting with the intention of modifying child behavior,’ and said to avoid using nonphysical punishment that is humiliating, scary or threatening.” Parents who are spanking their children defend themselves by saying it’s harmless and is used to just fix behavioral issues. Finally, if I become a parent one day I will not spank my children.
I do not think that spanking should be used to discipline kids. I was spanked as a child but not often, and it didn’t stop me from doing what I was doing, it just made me angry at my parents and in no way I felt like I learned something from it, sometimes I would even do something as bad or even worse just to make them mad. Now I have a very good relationship with my parents, I tell them almost everything and I cherish that. Now I don’t want to do anything to disappoint them, when I do something that gets me in trouble we sit down and talk about it, no shaming no yelling just a normal conversation about why I did what I did and why I won't do it again, of course if I do the same thing over again then there will be consequences which there should be. I think this is a very effective way to discipline your children. If you act like there friend or mentor and not there boss they will look up to you more and don't want to disappoint you. Just like a child’s favorite celebrity, if they say not to or to stop doing something there not going to do it, because they look up to them and respect them and don’t want to disappoint them, and a lot of the time the kids have never even met them!. Same with their friends, they would never want to disappoint their friends or make them mad, again it's because they think there cool and they like them and nobody wants to upset someone they like. I think this creates a great relationship between the parent and the child.
(Part 1 of 2) In the excerpt of “Spanking Is Ineffective and Harmful to Children, Pediatricians’ Groups Says,” Caron touches upon the concept that spanking as punishment can be scary or humiliating, and as the title says, harmful and ineffective. While this is certainly a good first step, the vast negatives of corporal punishment, such as physical and psychological trauma, are much more complex. Many children would agree that being hit is just about the worst way to teach children a lesson. On the other hand, many adults today advocate for its use, arguing that it is the only way to effectively punish a child. The gap in the mindset, here, is the purpose of discipline. Punishment is not an effective way to teach children.
Sure, corporal punishment is something undesirable, yet the main problem I see with the view of the AAP is that it deems children equal to their parents in the context of the family. This is false. Children (for good reason - they have little to none true life experience) ought to be submissive to their wiser parents. Kids, especially teenagers, are ignorant and idiotic. Most teens would object, but this is the truth. Most couldn't tell you the difference between east and west, let alone the President before George Bush. So, corporal punishment ought to not be the primary option, but if it is necessary in ensuring a child fulfills his submissive role to his wiser parents, it is a necessary evil.
I agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics that spanking should not be used to discipline children because I personally believe that spanking tells the child that they did something wrong but with unnecessary pain included. Just telling the child that they did something wrong and that they should not do it again and possibly grounding them should be enough to get the point across that they did something wrong and should not do it again. “One of the most important relationships we all have is the relationship between ourselves and our parents, and it makes sense to eliminate or limit fear and violence in that loving relationship (Gonchar, 2018, para. 6)” This quote states that parents should be making positive relationships with their children and spanking them is preventing them from wanting to build that positive relationship with their parent(s). If I were to become a parent one day, I would discipline my children by lecturing them about what they did, why it was not okay, and how they can potentially not do it again and if necessary, ground them. “which it defined as “non injurious, open handed hitting with the intention of modifying child behavior,” and said to avoid using nonphysical punishment that is humiliating, scary or threatening. (Gonchar, 2018, para. 5)” This quote says that punishments should be non injurious and not cause any pain to the child so the child does not feel threatened in any way whatsoever.
@Zoe can you lecture a one year old and if you could how would you make them listen to you? Also, how is a kid suppose to know that what they did was wrong if it has no negative effect on them? For example, if the child was to lie how would they know what they did was wrong if they only reaped the benefits of lying?
(Part 1 of 2) I agree that spanking should not be encouraged as the first approach to child discipline, however depending on the child’s behavior and way of coping with punishment, spanking should be used sparingly. I understand that many believe that spanking is a punishment that is “humiliating, scary or threatening,” but if used in the right manner, spanking can influence a child to have a well-disciplined and principled future in a humane way. When a child is old enough to make her own decisions (approximately at age 3-4), a parent needs to guide her in what is right or wrong; however in order for this to be effective, a relationship of trust and compassion must be established so that the child will be willing to receive the message. For example...
For example, my mother was always showing her affection and generosity to her children, and her kindness built a sense of awe that was necessary when we needed to learn a valuable lesson. When I started to misbehave (especially in public), my mother bent down, held my chin to meet her face, and gave a stern “No.” She hesitated on spanking as a first approach because she didn’t yet know how I would react and take away from the experience, and my sense of respect for her allowed me to make the right decision. However, when I began to ignore her authority and threw tantrums, non injurious open hand action was needed to set me straight. Sometimes spanking is necessary, but it is the parent’s responsibility to judge when, where, and how often it should be used. To ensure that a child won’t be scarred from physical disciplinary action, open communication is required of the parent, along with a trustworthy and harmonious relationship.
I’m generally in favour of the AAP’s policy that spanking shouldn’t be used. As noted in the article, spanking increases hostile behaviour in the future, as well as not actually reinforcing positive behaviour. Spanking simply provides the attention that their psyche craves and thus the behaviour is likely to reoccur. Furthermore, it increases aggressive tendencies in both parent and child, and can be a conduit for those unscrupulous fellows who may be abusive. (While most spankings are not abusive, when it comes to frequent, bruising, spankings, it may become more abusive.)
Spanking was used seldomly, and as a result of behaviour. Speaking from firsthand experience, the spanking taught me… nothing. My parents simply did it then sent me to my room, which meant I was thinking “oh that hurts but that’s it.”
I believe that the best way to discipline children is to express what they did wrong sternly. Then establish the consequences, such as time out, being grounded, etc. Ensure they understand what they did is wrong, they apologize to whomever was wronged. This approach must be modified as the child grows and according to what they do.
I’ll probably use an approach similar to what I just outlined. I found that I never really understood what I did wrong when I was young. As I got older, sure, but when I was young, the consequence was painful and just made me cry and want it to be over. So I want to make any prospective kids know that they did was wrong.
I believe that spanking your children is a perfectly fine type of punishment. Obviously parents don’t need to just hit their children whenever they feel like it, but spanking for punishment when doing something wrong works. Growing up my brother and I would get spankings if we did something bad and we aren’t scarred or traumatized. Many parents use spanking as a form of punishment because it works. Now my brother is older and has a child. The child listens to my brother because he has been disciplined for what’s wrong and knows what he should do. On the other hand, my nephew walks all over his mother because she believes the best way to discipline a child is by time out. He learns nothing from timeout and knows he can just easily get away with stuff with her. Spankings are a good way to teach your children what’s wrong and what’s right and there isn’t anything wrong with that.
I think its okay to spank children if they're misbehaving. But its not okay to go overboard with it. Everyone is saying that if you spank your children then they will become crazy in life. But there's people now that have been spanked and they turned out fine in life. I think its okay to spank children that's younger if they're misbehaving, but if a parent is spanking a kid over the age of 13 or 14 then that's getting out of hand.
I agree with the concept that parents should nit use spanking when punishing their children. Some children would take it differently. The last thing a parent would want to do is damage the relationship between them and their children. Some children would not like getting hit for a punishment even if they know what they did was wrong because there is different type of ways to handle things like that. If a parent was to spank their child to me it would depend on what they did. Now if a parent is spanking their child for every little thing that he/she does, then I feel like that shouldn't be allowed.
I believe it should be allowed but, not just on purpose. Many kids misbehave all the time and yelling or getting them in trouble wont cut it. Spanking should be appropriate when your kid has not stopped doing what you've asked them to stop . if you stick to yelling at them sometimes it wont always work and its a good way to show them discipline.
I don't think spanking should be allowed,because some parents might think that it's okay to hit my child and since they have been spanking their child for so long their gonna get out of hand and start hitting them with stuff more then their hand and their belt.
1)I agree in some ways with the American Academy of Pediatrics that spanking should not be used to discipline children, but I also believe they are wrong in a way. Different families have different methods of disciplining their children, sometimes when kids go overboard and are not listening at all spanking may be the only way to get them to listen. There should be major boundaries between spanking and going overboard and abusing your children. 2) Spanking was used in my family growing up, when it comes to black or hispanic families sometimes spanking turns into much more and there is a thin line between spanking and abuse, different parents cultures are used to different methods of disciplines and sometimes they go too far. 3) In my opinion spanking in my family would not really be used to discipline my children unless it was absolutely necessary and my child was not listening to anything at all. I feel like the older your children get the less you should be spanking your children it gets to be too much when their 14- any age it’s unnecessary. 4) If I become a parent one day I will try my absolute hardest not to spank my children or constantly yell, growing up and still to this day all my mom does is yell, probably because she has bipolar disorder, but still I wouldn’t want to be like her when raising my kids. I don’t want my kids to be afraid of me.
@Laila LeFlore I totally agree with you 100%
I believe that spanking a child is not okay under any circumstances because it has been shown to greatly harm the well-being of children and reduce their social cognition. Although discipline is necessary to teach kids right from wrong, most kids do not and will not learn from corporal punishment. Of course there are exceptions where spanking may work for children, but for the vast majority it does not.
In my family, spanking has never been practiced. Other methods have been used, including soap in the mouth and raised voices, but corporal punishment has never been used on me, my siblings, or any of my cousins.
The best way to discipline children, in my opinion, is to tell them how disappointed you are in them. This only works up until a certain point, where children do not begin to care if they disappointed you, but my family is very close, and by disappointing my grandpa, mother, or anyone else in the family, I make sure it will not happen again. If children grow out of this phase, then I believe gradually raising one’s voice is effective, because children will be shocked and will not know how to deal with it.
When I raise my children, I will use the “shame” method described above. I may or may not use the soap in the mouth, since I personally found it disgusting, but it did work. I will definitely raise my voice if it is needed, because it has worked well on my siblings and I, especially when my father does it.
I do not agree with this viewpoint because sometimes kids need the physical reinforcement to understand some things. I wouldn’t go as far as using a belt or a spoon, but I would spank them if they repeatedly do the same thing.
In my family spanking was always used. I grew up with my grandma and she told me that my mom and aunts used to get spanked and I would get spanked whenever I did something bad. This helped me because it made me afraid of getting spanked so I stopped doing bad things.
In my opinion, the three strike rule is the best because it gives you a chance to talk it out with the kid, give them time to think about what they did and if they do it again, they face the consequences. I believe you do need different punishments based on the age and temperament of the child. You’re not going to spank a teenager, but instead, you take their phone and electronics away.
If/when I become a parent I would give my child the three strike policy. The first time something happened I’d talk to my child about why it’s not okay and give them a warning not to do it again. The second time, I would put them in timeout and the third time they’d get spanked.
@Rachael V I didn't really agree with spanking unless it was absolutely necessary, until I read your comment. I really like the three strikes your out rule.
I believe that spanking children for discipline isn’t a bad thing when it used in the right way. When I was little I got spanked too. Not that many times though because I wasn’t really a bad kid. If I ever did anything really bad or continually didn’t listen to something my parents told me to do is when I got spanked. It was always used as a last resort and it did make me stop doing whatever was wrong.
However, people should not used spanking all the time because it might then train your children only to respond to that type of punishment. I happen to babysit all the time. I have always loved kids and been good with them but it makes things a lot harder to get them to listen to you when they don’t respond to reasoning and telling them why they can’t do whatever they got in trouble for.
When I have my own kids I do think that I would use spanking. As I said before my parents only used it when they had too. And a lot of the time they would say it as a warning. So, I would use them like that, as a last resort. I do see some good points in the article explaining how spanking can be a bad thing and I totally agree with them. Spanking should not be used in a mean way to take out frustration on kids at all. I would never want that, but if used in the right way I do not have a problem with it.
Spankings has been used in my household but sometimes the discipline from spanking works but sometimes it gets carried away.
Firstly, I find it ridiculous that the author chose to use Fitzhugh Dodson's quote as if it represented all parents who spank. "...it's good for her, because it releases her tension." This sounds like abuse and it's not an accurate representation.
When I'm about to do something that shouldn't do, the first thing I think is "What would my mom do if she found out?" Now if that answer were to be "A stern talking to about what was wrong with my decision" or "she's going to take my phone away", I'd commit that action in a heart beat. This is exactly why this generation is the way it is, parents are trying to be best friends with their kids.
Using physical punishment for child discipline is inefficient for a long term behavioral change. Typically this form of punishment is used on younger children, which I think is especially negative for their development. It simply instills fear in the child .As they grow out of being unable to fight back against physical punishment, it becomes less effective with time - if an older child is too big to be punished physically anymore, what would be stopping them from making future poor choices?. However, rewarding good behavior and promoting growth from mistakes will create a longer-lasting impression in the child, so that they make better choices in their future. I don't disagree with any parents who do decide to use physical discipline, as it may work in their circumstances, but I feel as if this other punitive measures is more efficient. It also allows for a more trusting, close parent-child relationship since there is no barrier of fear. I think that at all ages, growth from mistakes should be emphasized and rewards for good behavior should be present but varying in magnitude at different ages. I think there should be more rewards (not necessarily physical, even as small as a “good job”) for younger kids, and less rewards for good behavior as age increases. Personally, I think punishment for poor behavior should become more strict through age, since it would have already been taught that mistakes are acceptable, so, any negatively outlying behavior becomes obvious.
Discipline needs to be in a child’s life, not only to show them what is right from wrong but to also to shape them into a better person in their future. When the question comes up about what is a good punishment for a child I instantly think about giving them a spanking. Am I crazy for thinking this? Nowadays I guess I must be. I disagree with with what the American Academy of Pediatrics has to say.
Giving a child a spanking is not a crime. A little pop here or there is just showing a kid that there bad actions will have to face consequences and that is just apart of life. Teaching kids at a younger age about discipline is a very important part of their life. If your kid thinks he/she can get away with anything without being punished that is a scary thought. As a child I was spanked as a punishment to be shown that I was acting in a disrespectful manner and I had to be taught what is wrong from right. My parents would only give a soft spank but I still thought to myself “ Whatever I just did wrong I do not want to do it again.” My parents also came from a generation that everyone spanked their child. The article states that “ 67,000 pediatricians advise parents to not spank their children” but do you know how many people would spank their children before all of these new studies, I can tell you a lot. I am not trying to say that the only consequence that a child should have is a spanking i’m just saying it doesn’t hurt a few times.
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I agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics that spanking should not be used to discipline children. Instead of instilling positive coping mechanisms in a child when they do something wrong, spanking reinforces the idea of never doing anything wrong, since the child doesn’t want to be subjected to physical pain. In my family, spanking is never used to get kids to behave. Instead, my parents talk to us firmly and express their disappointment, which I believe to be the best method of parenting children. I believe children need to be able to learn from the mistakes they make, without feeling shameful about their error. Mistakes are inevitable in human society. Yes, they can be grave, and result in potentially harmful events, yet they must be reflected on in order to see the lessons woven in their transpiration. Therefore, the best methods of disciplining a child would be to discuss their misbehavior, and evaluate what they did wrong in order to prevent it from occurring in the future. Once this is done, the parents should give an appropriate revocation, like the loss of an electronic, responsibility, or trust, in order for the child to understand the consequences that do, and can, result from making mistakes or misbehaving. The methods that I just previously described are those that I want to enact if I become a parent in the future. I will definitely not spank them, as that creates a negative relationship between the parent and child.
In the modern world people, in my opinion, have started to worry too much about issues that aren't really up to them. I feel like it is up to the parent of the kid to find a way to discipline their children and it is not anyone else's job to do that. If a parent wants to spank their child in order to discipline them then they should do it. That is as long as they think it is the best way to discipline their child. And if parents want to not hit their kid and discipline them in some other way then they should also be entitled to this opinion and allowed to do it. I do feel that people should not judge these parents though. Parents should not be made to feel bad about the way they discipline their child (As long as this method of discipline is working and is not abusing the kid in any way).
In the passage it says “one of the most important relationships we all have is the relationship between ourselves and our parents, and it makes sense to eliminate or limit fear and violence in that loving relationship”. I think that this line is very much incorrect. As a child I was spanked and that did not stop me from loving my parents. But it did stop me from doing bad things because I knew what would happen if I did. If children aren't fearful of their parents at all then they are going to act up and not even think a single thought about their parents doing anything to them because of it. People would grow up and be undisciplined and this would harm society.
In my opinion, I agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics that parents should not use spanking as a way of disciplining their kids. Any physical form of disciplining should not be accepted as it causes harm to the child. spanking can hurt the child both physically and emotionally. When a child is hurt or spanked by a parent they will most likely lose trust in them and it will cause a divide in their relationship. These kids will grow up distant from their parents and as well as in fear of them. Kids who grow up in fear will raise their kids the same way if they have kids and the cycle of fear will continue. There are better alternatives to spanking like grounding your kids or taking things away from them. Discipline does not have to be physical to be effective. Grounding teaches kids that there are consequences to their actions and they certainly will not do it again if they get their games taken away and can't see their friends. If I have children I will not spank them because I think it creates a bad family environment and will cause more stress than good.
In my opinion, the best way to discipline children is to teach them that actions have consequences. What I mean by this is parents need to give their children clear boundaries, and if the child does something like break a boundary, they shouldn’t be punished with a spank unless it is absolutely necessary. I say this because of what the article said, “ one of the most important relationships... our parents, and it makes sense to eliminate or limit fear and violence in that loving relationship. "For example, if a child was to take another kid’s lunch at school and the other child bites them in response to this that child should lose their toys or TV time for a day at most, because the child is young and time is measured very differently. Also, the parents should explain what that child should have done instead. Now, the child who got bit should not get any sympathy for getting bit because that child did something bad to another child and something bad happened to them; this does not mean however that the child who got bit should get the bite looked at or cleaned. It just means that the child doesn’t get “oh poor you, are you ok,” instead the child should get “well that’s what happens when you do mean things to people.” This goes back to the whole actions have consequences thing, and I think this rule should apply to every child at every age, however the consequences should be different depending on the age and what the child cares about.
I believe discipline is a necessity for a kid to learn from their mistakes, and I also believe it should be up to the parents on how they choose to punish their kid. I disagree with American Academy of Pediatrics because I think spanking teaches the kid that doing wrong has bad consequences. Some say it’s child abuse, but when I think of child abuse I think of a parent that doesn’t care for their children and beats on them for no reason. When a parent spanks their child for misbehaving, they care for them and don’t want them to make that same mistake again. The bible also says “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.” - Proverbs 13:24 . I see so many kids disrespecting their teachers and parents, that makes me think either they aren't punished at home or their punishment isn’t severe enough. As a kid, the thought of getting my phone taken away is nowhere near as bad as getting spanked. Over 67,000 pediatricians say spanking a kid is ineffective and harmful. I don't think its ineffective from personal experience, as a kid my dad would spank me if I did something that was unacceptable in my household. I knew that if I did that same thing again I would get spanked so I didn’t do it again.I believe that I have grown up to be a more mature and respectful person. I don’t think my parents did me any harm in spanking me they made me a better person and I’m thankful for that.
I think the best way to discipline a child is to never hit. Yes, a spank here and there when the child is a toddler is acceptable but too much physical abuse can cause the child to become aggressive and develop anger issues. As children age into their teen years hitting turns into grounding and restrictions, like taking their phone away or not letting them spend time with friends. People I know that have very strict parents are usually very rebellious and do things out of spite. I think the best way to discipline your children is to teach them and talk to them, not to hit them or ground them. Teaching your kids lessons and talking to them about their mistakes or wrongdoings is far more effective then slapping them and taking their phone or social life away. Studies show that kids in high school now have the same anxiety and stress levels as mental patients in the 50’s. Adding pressure as a parent and staying on top of them is only going to add tension, which can cause kids to do things they might not have done if they had less stress and more freedom. I think the best way to discipline your child is to punish only when necessary and when the same mistake keeps being made not when they do something wrong once or act out here and there, no one is perfect. I'm not saying to never punish your children and let them do whatever the want, I'm just saying sometimes to much punishment can backfire and create a bigger problem and worse behavior.
In my opinion, the best way to discipline children is to teach them that actions have consequences; if they do something bad then they have a negative consequence if they do something good then they get a positive consequence. What I mean by this is parents need to give their children clear boundaries, and if the child does something like break a boundary, they shouldn’t be punished with a spank unless it is absolutely necessary. I say this because of what the article said, “ one of the most important relationships we all have is the relationship between ourselves and our parents, and it makes sense to eliminate or limit fear and violence in that loving relationship.” I think the actions have consequences rule should apply to every child at every age, however the consequences should be different depending on the age and what the child cares about.
I was spanked back in the 60’s. My parents had not read that 67,000 doctors recommended not to spank. Hey, my middle school had not read it, either. Yep, I was spanked in school too.
My sister spanked her kids. Her kids spank their kids. People in WalMart spank their kids. Now, hear me out. What I see in Walmart is way different than how I was spanked and how my nieces were spanked and how my niece spanks her daughters. Well, I do remember my mom being angry at times, but my sister wasn’t and my niece isn’t.
I watch my niece talk to Tilly before she spanks her. Tilly knows it’s coming too. As soon as her momma says, “Tilly, we need to have a talk and then I need to spank you” she starts crying crocodile tears. And my niece makes a red mark. And I hate it when she does.
I don’t like to see Tilly spanked and I have mixed feelings. I won’t do it. But I do see Tilly shape up and I don’t think she is going to need therapy because of having her leg stung by her momma’s hand. Tilly’s father doesn’t spank her and I get it. Girls shouldn’t be spanked by their dads, but here’s the thing: If it’s wrong for her father to spank her then what makes it right for her mother to? There are other ways to discipline: time-out, no treats, etc.
If I were a mother, I wouldn’t spank. I just don’t get how physically hurting a child makes any sense.
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I do not think that spanking should be used in today's society. When I was a kid, it was used often by all parents across the nation but nowadays it is different. Kids are still growing a hitting them can do physical, and emotional harm. Back when I was little parents didn’t know what else to do when their child was acting up.
When I was small and would get in trouble, my mother would often spank us softly but at the same time hard enough to make us not want to repeat the bad behavior again. She did not really know any other way to get us to stop the bad behavior. If she took a toy away from us, or put us into timeout we would just be even worse. I can remember when I used to get put in timeout and I would sing and yell to annoy my mother and father until they let me out.
In today’s society there is a lot more information on how spanking is useless, including how 67,000 pediatricians advise parents not to hit their children as it is ineffective and harmful. Besides, parents can take a lot more away from a kid considering all of the new technology that has come about, from cell phones, to Xbox’s and high tech computers.
When I do have children I do not plan on spanking them, as I don’t want them to get hurt and still disobey the rules. I don’t really see why a parent would even want to spank their child. I just don’t think that it would cross my mind to hit my own child or any child of that matter.
Discipline is necessary for a child to learn from their actions. Deciding what type of discipline is crucial. Not all children learn from being talked to nicely, but not all children react in the way it was intended when being spanked. I agree that children should not be spanked as a form of discipline. Spanking teaches children that violence can be okay. If they are able to see that their parents use this form of violence to get what they want out of them, they have the potential to mimic their parents’ behaviors in other situations. Spanking was not used in my house when my brother and I were younger. We were either talked to and given reasoning for the wrongness in our behavior or we would get things taken away. In my opinion the best way to discipline children is to take things away. When I was younger, my brother and I would get things taken away such as video games or our phones. For the most part, this would prevent us from repeating the action. If my parents were to take something away as a way of discipline at my current age, depending on what it is, I would not be as upset as I would’ve been when I was a child. Therefore, different approaches may be needed for children at different ages. If I were to become a parent one day, I would use the same method of discipline that my parents used. I was able to experience the effect it had on me as a child. Children are still learning so if they grow up learning then spanking is okay, it will have an effect on their mindset.
I agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics that children punishment should not be by spanking or any physical abuse. When children misbehave, yes they should be disciplined. But they should not be physically abused. This does not teach kids to behave better, and it does not teach them what they do wrong. All it teaches them is to be afraid of the person beating them. They eventually will not act up because of the fear, but that is not effective. They should not act up because it is wrong. Although your kid may do something, no matter how bad, they do not need to be hit or beat to get the message across that they should not do it again. There are numerous ways to punish or discipline kids for their actions without using physicality. The act of hitting your own child does not positively affect them, it just creates tension with someone that is supposed to care for and love you.
I agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics and their opinion against the idea of physical punishment in the home. As stated in the article, a parent-child relationship is very important and instilling fear and violence into that relationship is unhealthy. There was a time where physical punishment was even allowed in school, but it is clear that society has moved away from that norm as it is now seen as unethical. Although some may argue that physical punishment is an effective way to change children's behavior, they are many others way to achieve the same purpose in a civilized way. Physical punishment can cause long term damage on the child depending on its severity, as well as introduce the idea to them that violence is an effective way to handle a situation. I believe that physical punishment in the home should be ruled out with no question.
In my opinion, I agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics that children punishment should not be by spanking or any physical abuse. If a child were to behave disrespectfully towards their parent or any adult, I believe it is in no way fair that their parents should be allowed to discipline a child physically. Growing up with two parents and a step-dad who all shared an equal say in my life, they never once found physical abuse as a punishment. I believe that it does not really teach the child what they have done is wrong because they wont remember why they were punished, only that their parent hit them. So now I propose this, when is it really okay to abuse a child? The answer is never, no matter what the circumstances, children deserve to be treated with respect and care. If you think about it and put yourself in the child's shoes would you want to spanked for something you did, or would you rather by explained to why it was wrong.
I do not agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics statement that kids should not be disciplined with spanking. I my opinion spanking kids makes them fall into line. I was spanked as a kid when I disobeyed my parents and I learned to not disobey my parents. I am not saying that parents should spank their kids every time they misbehave, but under certain circumstances I believe it is good. If you don't discipline your children, they won't ever learn how to act respectively around people. When I am a parent I will discipline my kids and spank them if the situations arises.
I agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics opinion that spanking is wrong and should not be used as a form of discipline on a child. Spanking a young child may lead to trauma later on in a child's life or a developed fear of the parent who is carrying out the spanking. Instead of establishing a respect to their parents, a child could be afraid of them as a result of being hit, which may solve the problem of discipline, but only creates trust issues. A child should not have to fear their parents and be scared that if they make a mistake, their consequence is that they will get hurt. Respect, trust, and loyalty are the key components to a healthy relationship, and being spanked surely isn't a way to earn those things. However, parents do need to be able to discipline their child in some ways so that they do not act out or grow up thinking that they can do whatever they want and that there are no rules. If a child is not taught rules, then they will inevitably won't be prepared to deal with the real world, where they have to listen to others and do what they say sometimes. Parents should be able to find ways to teach their child the right things to do without using physical punishment, and there are many ways to discipline a child without using spanking. In my opinion, spanking is an easy way for parents to stop their children's bad behavior short-term, but it will not have any positive lasting effects long-term.
I agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics that spankinking should not be used to discipline children: Spanking has negative effects and should not be acceptable. I believe this because there should be a trusting and loving relationship with parents and not violent. The article stated, spanking will get “attention, but it’s not an effective strategy to teach right from wrong.” While children still need punishment, there are alternative options than violence. It can affect their mental growth and confuse the ideal right from wrong. When children are punished violently, they may believe being violent is acceptable. If verbal punishment such as “nonphysical punishment that is humiliating, scary or threatening” should be used that is more effective. If I am a parent one day I will punish my kids when necessary but not physically. Trust is needed in a parent-child relationships and it is not going to be built through violence. If there is mutual trust, we will both live peacefully and respect each other. Violence can and will ruin that trust and respect. Spanking and violence with children is not a beneficial punishment method.
I agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics that spanking should not be used to discipline children. I do not believe that it is effective and instead, it is traumatic. Spanking is never used in my family to get kids to behave. Adults should be teaching children that violence does not solve issues and that they should learn to communicate with their words rather than their hands. Especially when children are at young and impressionable ages, parents should be using different methods to get their message across. Other tactics such as time-outs and losing privileges for the day can be just as effective and cause less short-term and long-term harm to the child. Children should not be taught to resort to violence when someone does something that they do not like. I think that punishments should be based off of the children losing privileges, a lesson that will be carried out throughout their life, especially in school. This type of punishment is closer to reality than facing physical consequences. Parents should try their best to maintain a close and loving relationship between themselves and their children. Children should not have to fear physical punishment from the people they are supposed to feel the most safe with. By punishing children with violence, they are proving that it is okay to treat others with harm. One of the most important lessons to teach children at a young age is the opposite, that they should solve issues verbally, and not physically.
I strongly agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics idea that spanking should not be used to discipline children. I think spanking a child doesn’t make them fully comprehend what they did wrong, it just makes them fear the person that is spanking them. They focus on the pain and the person rather than the act they did wrong. I think the best way to discipline a child depends on their age. For instance, you would not punish a 3 year old the same way you would punish a 15 year old. I think if the child is on the younger years of childhood then a time out would suffice, depending on what they did wrong. On the other hand if the child was on the older half of childhood then I think a stern talking to and then maybe taking their phone or revoking their tv/netflix time would be good. Different aged children react and understand things differently which is why you would need to punish children based on their age. If I become a parent in the future I think I will punish my kids according to what they did that was wrong. I don’t want to be the parent that always grounds their child but if my children are not listening then I would ground them but only as a last resort. I would most likely threaten to take away certain privileges that the child really loves to show that I am not to be messed with.
After reading "What's the Best Way to Discipline Children?" I don't think parents should spank their children. Kids often misbehave and there should be punished. For example, take away their electronics, limit their abilities or ground them, however I don't think you should ever feel the need to hurt them. Spanking is sadly a normal in many homes. There are so many long term issues tat can form from being spanked as a kid. Children can become afraid of their parents after being spanked. Overall, spanking is not a good punishment.
I strongly agree with the ideas of the American Academy of Pediatrics. I think that children should never be spanked as a way to influence them to behave. I think it is inhumane for anyone to cause pain to any other human especially your own children. Even if most parents don’t mean these actions to appear too malicious, I believe that hitting your children is terrible in any form. For young children especially, they need to be treated with loving and caring actions so as they grow up, they will experience those feelings starting from a young age. I agree with the comments in the article which explain how any actions that inflict fear or violence on the children because that will put a huge dent in one of the most important relationships a person can acquire. Spanking causes children to feel threatened by their parents or guardians who are supposed to make them feel safe and comforted. Spanking was never used as a method of discipline in my own house but my dad has told me how when he was younger his parents used to spank him to get him to behave. In my opinion, I believe that the best way to discipline children is to scold them in some way that they are able to understand their actions and why it was wrong. I feel like spanking your children when they misbehave only causes them to associate bad things with pain and that is what causes them to not want to misbehave again instead of understanding the reasons why it was wrong.
There were times when I was younger when I did not behave as I should. Only once in a blue moon would that warrant a spanking, and as time went on, they became more and more rare. I turned out rather melow, and how realize that it was likely due to the punishments handed out by my parents. I no longer do good deeds because I expect good things to happen as a result, I do good deeds because it’s wrong not to. My parent’s parenting style wasn’t ever harsh. I never saw it as malicious in intent, even as a young child. For minor punishments there was often a time out, for good behavior there was a “good job” said but never a reward. I genuinely believe that that caused me to be a good citizen. My little brother, was not punished as often as a child, and my father would often reward him for not behaving badly, he didn’t even have to be good. Now, he has caused many more problems for my parents than I ever have. Reading this article shocked me, and sure it comes from a believable source but it completely contradicted my experiences with corporal punishment. I had previously believed that the best way to discipline a child would be occasional spankings that would decrease as time went on, along with time outs for minor infractions, and slight positive reinforcement for good behavior. Even after reading this article, I will discipline my children the same way that they disciplined me.
After reading this article, my opinion remains that spanking or physically hurting children is not a good method to discipline or shape the behaviors of children to be kind and respectful. Inflicting physical harm on a child will not only hurt them and the loving relationship, but it will teach the child that violence is okay. In turn, these children will grow up to be either terrified of their parents and home environment or hostile towards others around them, mimicking the brutality inflicted on them at home. To correctly discipline children in a safe and effective manner, parents should verbally explain behavioral boundaries and define what is right and what is wrong. As children grow, their refusal to discipline will also grow, requiring for the enforcement of stronger punishments. Punishments may include prohibiting them from going out or taking away something that consumes their time and interest. However, no matter how strongly they refuse or rebel against punishment, physical harm shall never be justified. If the scenario become unmanageable, social services should be contacted for additional assistance with the child. I strongly agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics and their new policy detailing methods for disciplinary parenting skills that are recommended and encouraged. This will allow help for those who are unsure on how to appropriately parent their children in a safe and effective way while also disciplining them to be well- behaved.
To me, spanking children at a young age could be really affective when they grow up. I’ve been spanked all the way into 3rd grade because I did some dumb things that wasn’t allowed in the house. I think spankingis just a way of discipline as a lesson for kids who don’t behave well. I’ve learned my lessons, and now, my relationship with my family is great. People don’t know the value of spanking their kids. Spanking is more efficient when it comes to discipline. A talk for discipline, is weak, and children can just ignore that. Spanking is a good way to teach a good lesson to children, to me. Children who don’t get spanked will just be one of the bad kids anywhere: whiny, spoiled, disrespectful, and seem like they weren’t taken care of correctly.
When I read this article, I think, do some people not spank their children for discipline?
To me, spanking is not a form of abuse. I’ve been spanked a lot in my younger days, and I’ve learned A LOT ever since my elementary days. Spanking is usually when you do something that you’re not supposed to do, but you do it multiple times. That is the only time spanking should be allowed. Some parents give talks, while others go deeper into discipline as a lesson for bad children.
In my personal opinion, spanking children should be illegal as a type of abuse. This form of punishment is poison for a successful parent to child relationship. A child is most likely to become fearful of their parent or guardian after abuse such as spanking. Imagine being hit by someone who is responsible for you, and having to live through that. On that note, hitting is an established form of abuse, so why would spanking be okay. In addition, the one doing the spanking, the parent, is quite stronger and larger than the child who is receiving the punishment. Is this fair? Some may argue that is important for their to be a balance of discipline and friendship between a child and their parent or guardian, in order to the relationship to be healthy. I do agree, but we all know that there are other means of maintaining this relationship than spanking or even other physical abuse/discipline. A good way to discipline children is to take away privileges, take away their phone, or just simply talk to them. These are ways I hope to treat my children in the future, fairly and like an adult. There are other ways besides physical punishment to get kids to follow the rules.
I unquestionably agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics with their statement that children should not be spanked by their parents. Spanking or physical abuse is never used with in my family and my house. My parents verbally communicate messages across to my sibling and I instead of spanking us to have us learn a lesson. In my opinion, the best way to discipline children is to take away something of value to them. For example with teenagers, an approach can be taking away their phone or a video game that they enjoy playing. However, with younger children, parents could take away their favorite toy so they know that they can not do whatever they did again. Parents can't have the same discipline methods for a teenager and a toddler because they have different temperaments. In the future, I plan on becoming a parent. Under no circumstances would I ever use physical abuse to my children. I would communicate with them and punish them by not letting them go out or not letting them use their phone or watch tv that night. Children and parent relationships are one of the most important bonds in a child's life. The use of spanking or any type of physical abuse will lead to psycho dynamic problems in children.
After reading the article written by the American Academy of Pediatrics, I absolutely agree that children should not be spanked while being disciplined by their parents. The relationship between parents and their children should be one that is loving and caring. Parents should not be physically punishing their children because they will be scared of their parents and the child may display aggression as well. They should be comfortable with their parents and should be disciplined in some other way. In my family, I do not recall spanking ever being used to discipline. Depending on the child's typical behavior and their age, different forms of discipline should be applied. Some children happen to be very obedient to their parents, and all they need is a stern talking to in order to set them in place. Although some other children may not be as obedient as others, they still do not deserve physical punishment. You can simply punish them by telling them what they have done wrong and take away one of their belongings for a period of time. If I do become a parent some day, I will not discipline my children through the use of spanking or any violence. I will attempt to discipline using words, and if necessary, there could be a punishment of taking away some sort of belonging. I would discipline them this way because I would not want to see my child grow up to be violent or even fear me, I would want my child to be comfortable talking to me and coming to me with any of their problems.
Personally, I do not agree with those who think that spanking is an effective form of punishment. Physical discipline is proven to create psycho-dynamic issues between parent and child in the future. As children who were spanked grow into adults, they tend to slowly remove their parents from their lives due to abusive relationships. Not only this, but there are many other healthy forms of discipline other than physical. For example, a parents could take away valued items of the child and or even imply chores for the child to do. By doing this, you are still implementing a negative reaction which will punish the child, but in a more healthy way that maintains a close relationship between parent and child.
I think spanking is a good idea. I was spanked as a child and it helped to understand and set me straight. Not spanking your kids will only make them weak. I see how some kids behave and I'm baffled. Of course, as they get older, you use different methods that will be more effective, because over time spanking looses it fear.
After reading the New York Times prompt "What's the best way to discipline children" when I become a parent I'm not going to discipline my child a lot. Yes, I'm going to take their phone away if they have bad grades. I'm also going to make them do chores. But other than that I wouldn't do much to discipline my child. Well, if they do something really bad there will be different consequences. But, I'm only 12 and I have a long time before it becomes a reality. Obviously things might change in the future.
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I disagree with this statement. It is more beneficial to discipline children with spanking. Now kids are more hesitant when it comes to doing something that could get them in trouble.
I disagree with the statement overall. I think it is actually more beneficial to discipline in this way. Kids often are better motivated in fear more so than reward. When I was a kid, I was consistently bouncing off the walls and I found that spanking really put me straight.
@Kellen
as a parent your job is to protect your kids from fear
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@joshuaa
If they keep doing over and over and over again, you gotta teach them a lesson with a spanking or the belt.
spanking was definitely used inmy household and I can assure you when i knew my dads hand was coming id be scared as hell. this would automatically make me not want to do whatever got me in that situation, again. this is seen as disciplinary and not abuse, making it legal so there is nothing wrong with this.
I think that parents should disipline their children in a way that makes the child understand why they are in trouble so they do not do it again. I also think that parents should do whatever they feel is necessary to make sure that the child does not misbehave.
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I disagree with the American Academy of Pediatrics because I feel like spanking when done correctly and in conjunction with other forms of punishment is very effective. Personally, I think spanking for a child creates an idea in their mind that whatever they did shouldn't be done again.
I do not think spanking should be used in household either. I also think there needs to be an authority figure to say what is right or wrong whether it is harsh or not but when punishment becomes physical, it affects a child's mind along with their body. I do agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics.
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@Pippa Thank you for your comment. Who do you think the 'authority figure' should be? A parent, someone who is standing in place of a parent if none are there?
Do you think the government in some form, child protection officers, teachers, etc. should make the rules (laws).
Thank you if you can reply.
Yes, I agree because if a parent spanks their child, I believe that it will instill fear within the child. This will lead to a worse relationship between parents and children and creat a type of tension that is not needed. I think that the best way to discipline a child would be to ground them or take something meaningful away from them for a certain period of time. Even as simple as a timeout will work better than physically disciplining your child.
I think there is no reason to strongly discipline your child but I think they need to understand what they did wrong when they misbehave and make sure they learned
I feel that when it comes to disciplining your child there are many different ways you can go about it. People should most definitely not be rough with their children and rather find more assertive but not aggressive way. Children will not learn from aggressive action, it is better to teach them the lessons rather than being irrational.
I do not think spanking should be used as a punishment against children. I think it is too aggressive towards children and spanking can lead to other types of violent acts towards children. You also don't want your child thinking that that type of action is okay to do when someone does something wrong because if a kid on the playground with them did something they didn't like you wouldn't want your kid to go to up them and spank them. Rather they should just put them in time out until they have really learned their lesson.
I strongly believe that spanking is not a smart or effective way to punish children. Having a strong, trusting, and caring relationship between parents and children is important in growing up. Learning realistic consequences to their actions is so important for the development of children, and more the most part being spanked is not a real-world consequence. Using timeouts, taking away things they like, and even scaring them can be as or even more effective than physical punishment. If your child steals something from a store, punishing them with a timeout or publically making them give it back especially humiliating them is much more effective and applicable to the real world than a spanking.
I think that spanking a child when they miss behave is not the best way but its one of the most effective ways. In my opinion this could only really work if the child is young because as the child grows up he'll actually be able to hear and listen to what you are saying. When the child is little, he or she will not understand you seriously so by spanking them the child will see how serious or mad the parents are. Its more like an action that shows/tells the young child how the parents really fell about what they did.