Seriously what is 'ghosting' ? And 'concurrent ghosting' ?
From the Urban Dictionary:
The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just "get the hint" and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested. Ghosting is not specific to a certain gender and is closely related to the subject's maturity and communication skills. Many attempt to justify ghosting as a way to cease dating the ghostee without hurting their feelings, but it in fact proves the subject is thinking more of themselves, as ghosting often creates more confusion for the ghostee than if the subject kindly stated how he/she feels.
The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just "get the hint" and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested. Ghosting is not specific to a certain gender and is closely related to the subject's maturity and communication skills. Many attempt to justify ghosting as a way to cease dating the ghostee without hurting their feelings, but it in fact proves the subject is thinking more of themselves, as ghosting often creates more confusion for the ghostee than if the subject kindly stated how he/she feels.
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Maybe the entire point of this to show how the dating game has changed. The technology component isn't necessarily a choice, but a must, in order to keep up. This obviously has resulted in a disconnect of emotions & commitment. The dozens of dating apps show there are thousands of young hopefuls trying to find something true, but the endless options have become mental warfare by always thinking there is someone better with just one more swipe.
A hallmark of stupidity is continually repeating a behavior that produces negative results. I hope the protagonist of this vignette has wised up since this over-sharing and is now working towards adulthood.
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I thought a quote attributed to Albert Einstein said it best: Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
However, in the age of social media, oversharing is the norm. Most Millennials share their entire stream of consciousness with the world at large.
However, in the age of social media, oversharing is the norm. Most Millennials share their entire stream of consciousness with the world at large.
A very sad and boringly empty exchange.
Maybe try chatting enough to see if you have anything in common on your next first date. Makes all the difference.
Maybe try chatting enough to see if you have anything in common on your next first date. Makes all the difference.
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Does this belong here or the Sex Diaries in New York Magazine?
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NYC ... one of its many virtues is how great a place it is to be if one wants to remain anonymous.
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Millennials need to GROW UP and talk to one another. What's this world coming to?
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An especially good way to remain anonymous is to write about how you detest the "9-to-5'dom" of your job and wish to feel numb instead of thinking about your work, under your full name in The New York Times.
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People all over the world read this newspaper. What are they to make of this post? And what is "ghosting?" Not everyone is a millenial, and not everyone is a New York hipster. On the other hand, everyone knows about, or has heard about, getting drunk and high.
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Millennial and hipster. Two words I utterly despise, shallow and vacuous are much more appealing for that generation.
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I agree with you. I used "millenial" and "hipster" precisely because of the shallowness and vacuity of both terms and those to whom they apply.
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You detest millennials, an entire generation of young people?
I can understand not liking hipsters, but to detest millennials as a whole makes you sound like an old codger.
I can understand not liking hipsters, but to detest millennials as a whole makes you sound like an old codger.
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'No strings' never seems to be 'no strings' after all.
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Maybe not getting drunk at every opportunity would help these young folks see things more clearly.
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Tune of Just The Way You Are
Don’t go ghosting to try and leave me
I’m sure you’ve done this trick before
Don’t imagine that I’ll move elsewhere
And I won’t see you any more
We know we traveled in the same circles
Though our romance did not get far
The only trouble is you’re unbending
You can’t adjust the way you are
(bridge)
I came to know that you will never be
The someone I could come home to
So I’ll ghost you while you are ghosting me
It seems the modern thing to do
I wrote no email, no tortured letter
No tearful break-up at a bar
We really should have been so much better
You can’t adjust the way you are
(musical break, then:)
We know we’re over, and that’s forever
And saying nothing leaves no scar
You take the East side, I’ll take the West side
We can’t adjust the way we are