i can relate to this prompt because it is hard to be in a relationship with this pandemic because all you wanna do is be able to hang out with them. It honestly is not the same when you text them or call on the phone because you want to be able to hug them and just enjoy their company.
I relate to this prompt because i am in a relationship as well and i understand the struggle of not being able to see your boyfriend/Girlfriend. I think this is actually a good prompt because not many people tend to share how they feel about relationships during the pandemic.
I can relate to a couple of things in this article for example, I have two of my childhood best friends that I miss and want to meet together at a certain place which is my fifth grade school or the place we went together and became friends, of course, because of quarantine and the rule to always wear a mask with the staying away from people within at least 6 feet apart rule, it makes it very uncomfortable and burdensome to meet. I can't disagree with my parents because also I admit the I'm scared of catching the corona virus and I wouldn't risk the chance of getting it and being separated from my families and friends. I don't have any girlfriends and I'm not a couple, but I do have advice for teenage couples out there that are separated, make a planner, plan for what you're going to do with your girlfriend or boyfriend and plan what time you're going to talk and have time together, don't make the planner too complicated, add your hobbies and rest time so that you guys don't argue for annoying each other for calling, have an app that keeps you guys together and have fun like watching a movie that can make you invite your friends and your boyfriend or girlfriend, don't be worried about getting the virus because the more worried you get the more stressed out you will be which could end bad for your relationship, and lastly, don't take your time together as granted, do whatever you want while you still have the time together and have fun, or go to the beach together or workout.
In this article, this writer talks about how people don't want to social distance and how they just want to go out with their friends and live life out of school everyone dreamed. I kind of related to that because I missed everyone so much but then realized I am not the same and I am not being fair to everyone else staying inside their homes.
One of my closest friends has a boyfriend during this time, they have been dating for 2 years, and right when the pandemic started and the shelter in place, their relationship went downhill. They would get into so many fights, the boyfriend would sleep all day and the girlfriend would be up just waiting for him. Then she realized, this was all wrong, she couldn't be waiting for something that always gets her mad. By what the article says, now that we are forced inside our homes some people don't care or gave up. Quarantine has made such a huge effect on us but I believe we are seeing people's true colors. Who texts us and calls us first, who leaves you on delivered or read because they don't have an interest in talking to you. During a time like this, you see a person's real friends and that to me is a blessing and curse because I hate losing people, but I also don't want to keep the friends I was so oblivious to, they caused the negativity in my life.
In the article, I can relate to seeing some people not respecting social distancing, and being jealous. As somebody who respects social distancing and has a family who does so as well, it is hard for me to watch other people hang out like it’s no big deal. If I was a parent, I would not let my kids see any of their friends during lockdown because that would be so selfish. It is more than just protecting yourself and your family, it is about protecting everyone else around you. There are rules for social distancing for a reason, and they cannot be broken with little to no thought.
I don't have a boyfriend, but my friend that lives in the US does. Sophia and her boyfriend Michael have been dating for 5 months. She texted me a couple of days ago and said that up until then, they had had almost no fights, and their relationship was basically perfect. But she texted me and said that lately, they had been getting in fights over the smallest things, such as whether the Twilight series is better or the Harry Potter series (I stayed outta this, I love them both). She said that not being together because of quarantine has been making them drift apart and fight more often. I was so sad to hear this, and I had to create a group chat with the three of us to make sure that their relationship stays strong like they want. Quarantine is taking a toll on all of us, but it's especially bad for teen couples and friendships.
To the couples, I would say not to give up on each other and even though we are in a pandemic to just lay low, as far as the parents I think they have every right to say whether they want their child to go hang out with people or not. We are in a weird time right now and honestly nobody knows what’s going to happen, the parents are just trying to protect the children.
I thought about the advice for the teenage couples while I'm reading the entire article. They would have to discuss their health first. Because they will see each other again. It is also my experience, I grew up having to move out many times and had to distance myself from my family and the ones who I love. I was sad and then wondered why I had to keep distancing from them when I was young. Now I realized that distance makes the heart or bonds grow. I know it is not easy for them, but there will always be ways to see each other. Well, I personally am not in a relationship, but they need to communicate about lockdown because of the coronavirus. They need to talk about their expectations, how to avoid bad things, plan to do something fun together, and tell lovely words to each other to make them feel better. That'll be better for them and I know because I've been through it… Also as one last time, I'm saying they have to keep their families safe, discuss expectations,what to do if bad things happen. Lastly, make good memories.
I cannot relate to teenage couples currently struggling through quarantine but I’m sure it’s agonizing being separated. However, if I were hypothetically in a couple I think I’d choose to be separated from my boyfriend/girlfriend for the safety of both of us.
I have not seen my boyfriend who I've been dating for a year for two months. If I beg my mom enough, she may allow it. However, I keep in mind whose life I am risking when I decide to hang out with my significant other. Even with both parties self-isolating, there is always a chance one person contracted it from even a simple grocery trip. Is it hard? Yes. However, if you are unable to live without seeing your significant other for a couple of months, I believe you are showing dependence on your partner a little too much. As someone who suffers with anxiety and needs interaction with other people, this has been especially difficult. However, I know what I am doing is for the good of society, and I feel happy that I am not contributing to this terrible pandemic spreading. So, if you are deciding to break social distancing, remember that someone's life is more important than a dinner date with your boyfriend. FaceTime your friends, read a book, or spend time with your family. Use this time to let yourself grow, not your relationship.
It was actually very convenient for quarantine to happen for my boyfriend Eli and I. Both of our parents were willing to have us around each other constantly. Aside from not being able to have dinner dates and go to the movies we were able to do anything together.
If you and your significant other can make it through a quarantine apart and come out stronger on the other side, then that relationship can stand up to so much more. Hold onto that person, they’re the one for you.
If I was a parent, I would WANT my child to see their significant other. Being in a military relationship, Eli and I don’t get to see each other in person very often, so I know how hard it is to be apart when all you want to do is see their face and feel their hugs.
I am not dating anyone right now and probably won’t in the future. One reason for it is because of my parents. Another reason for it is because I don’t want to date right now since I’m still like too young and that dating might affect my grades. One of my friends used to date, but we never discuss about it unless she or I brings it up. To me there’s no point in dating when you have friends that you can hangout. I do miss hanging out with my friends during school time. My parents allow me to go outside if I wear masks and that I won’t take it off, but I don’t know if my friends’ parents allow them.
Yes i am allowed to see my girlfriend due to the fact that both are families have been in isolation this whole time not being exposed.
it been really hard not seeing my girlfriend i get to her almost everyday since this happen now i don't get to see her i love her and all i want to do is spend time with her we did so much and it make me happy but i get why my parents don't want to get me sick and bring it home because that would be bad but i feel that i cant get because she not going anywhere and i'm not going anywhere outside the house but i get why but something would always happen so i'm glad that we have phones and ft
I feel we should be able to see our other half. For one we would be more happy because we wouldn’t feel so far apart from each other and we can still feel that are relationships are strong. Being together is our one way to be connected instead of being apart we lose that connection sometimes.
sadly I am not dating anyone. I actually broke up with my very first girlfriend less than a month before this all started, so maybe it was for the best?? (Still sad about it ngl.) but other than that I really miss my friends like I’m sure everyone else does.
Try to imagine you’re two young lovers who are forced apart, but you secretly write letters to each other to keep in touch! Just a cute idea. But honestly just take a deep breath. Relationships are hard, so think of this as a challenge that you and your partner can try to get through together! And parents. Let them see each other, even just for a bit.
Yes I would make sure my kids could see their partner! I would make sure they wore masks, washed their hands, stayed clean, etc. It would be torture for them, and they’re teenagers! They’re still practically children and probably don’t know how to deal with such a big bump in their relationships.
Most likely she does to a certain extent, it’s difficult to fully understand a person, no matter how close they are. She probably feels like a monster because she “has” to say no. I think it's probably difficult for parents when they’re children become teenagers. They’re still young, but they're growing up and there’s nothing to prevent that. My parents are pretty laid back, so they probably wouldn’t mind as much, but still, it’s difficult to get through these times.
Personally, I haven’t really experienced anything like that, only because both of my parents are pretty laid back. Although I’ve been far away with family for a while, if I were home I think they’d let me do things.
Find alternatives, while facetime isn’t always the best, it can help while times are tough. I understand both sides, while I would be losing my mind if my parents didn’t let me leave I also see why parents would be concerned and not want their children doing things.
I would, but only if I knew they couldn’t put anyone at risk. In my family, we have all just stayed together through this. My dad's girlfriend has been working at the ICU in Wisconsin and they see it as long as we are being safe, that's all that matters.
I think she understands her son's emotions. These times are tough for everyone and I think we all need to be like her and put things in everyone else's perspectives too. We can’t be together physically, but we can all come together mentally. She feels guilty because she can’t change the outcome. She worries for her son and she can’t make his hurting stop.
My advice for these couples would be to always engage with each other even though you can’t see each other. The more you engage the more you'll be comfortable with each other when you can hang out. This pandemic can make your relationship much stronger because you can see how you guys react to not seeing each other for a long period of time. For their families, I would say they should definitely ease the restrictions on their child because keeping them locked in the house can cause some other significant problems too.
Would I let my child go out?
I think I would, if it was me the only thing I would be concerned with is my child's safety, and to protect him or her I would make them take precautions and show me proof of the precautions they took.
During the pandemic I have been able to see my significant other. At first it was hard because everything was being brought to the surface about the corona virus so our parents were a little on the edge about letting us see each other so for about two weeks I couldn't see my girlfriend which was hard and frustrating but I think in the end it made the relationship stronger now our parents are okay with us seeing each other whenever as long as we're being safe.
If I was a parents I would let my kids see their friends and significant other because I wouldn't want my kid going insane because I am forcing him to stay inside the house 24/7 for multiple days in a row.
I think Ms. Valeii understands her son’s emotions and that’s why she feels like a monster because he son is probably begging to leave the house because she isn’t letting him because she wants to protect him at all cost.
During the pandemic I have been able to see my girlfriend. It was a slow start as always both of our parents were skeptical, but recently I have been able to see her. Our parents have slowly become knowledgeable that we don’t see any friends, and barely seeing each other they have let us hangout once a week. I do have to mention that everytime I come home, I have to walk straight into home, take a shower and wash my clothing, but it's okay!
If I was a parent this time, I wouldn’t limit my kids on seeing people. I would enforce to be outside all the time, and to only see friends once a week and maybe seeing your girlfriend/boyfriend twice a week. Because I do not want my kids to go insane during this hard time, that they don’t have full knowledge on the situation at hand.
I feel that she does know her son’s emotions to a certain extent. Kids these days hide what they feel, and I know myself that I hid myself from going insane, trying to keep my mind busy. I feel that she thinks that she is a monster because she is restricting her son from seeing people because she herself doesn’t want to get the virus and that she wants to not expose her son to the virus and never knowing if he could die or not. I know that my parents' rules are to be outside most of the time, this reduces the impact of the coronavirus, and that facetime is the way to go. Staying to yourself is bad during this time, and it's always great to vent to someone how you feel because it will help ease your mind.
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Although I am not in a relationship. I do miss hanging out with friends, I mean I still do hang out with them but not as much as I did before quarantine. And I have disagreed with my parents about this situation because I mean I am obviously going to be careful, so I don't see a reason why I can not go places. For teenage couples a advice I have is to communicate tons during this quarantine. And parents should be letting their kids visit each other. Yes I would because I know if I had kids they would be careful and try not to get infected.
@Arsh i miss hanging out with my friends too and i really miss my girlfriend and i really miss seeing her and all the fun time we had but since this happen i been doing alot of thinking and you really don't need to haul with friends for a bot like we have so much we can we can play the game and do thing in online with the boys then i think what about the girls and how they have really nothing to do if they got a game but a lot of then dont s there at home doing work with schools and things that make it boring so what do you because over this hole thing i been playing the game doing school and a lot of thinking and i think it's fine because i been a home body so this was nothing to but yea i think the hole thing was fun something new for all of us and sad that we got no grad or prom but it's on to bigger things
@Arsh i miss hanging out with my friends too and i really miss my girlfriend and i really miss seeing her and all the fun time we had but since this happen i been doing alot of thinking and you really don't need to haul with friends for a bot like we have so much we can we can play the game and do thing in online with the boys then i think what about the girls and how they have really nothing to do if they got a game but a lot of then dont s there at home doing work with schools and things that make it boring so what do you because over this hole thing i been playing the game doing school and a lot of thinking and i think it's fine because i been a home body so this was nothing to but yea i think the hole thing was fun something new for all of us and sad that we got no grad or prom but it's on to bigger things.
Although I am not in a relationship. I do miss hanging out with friends, I mean I still do hang out with them but not as much as I did before quarantine. And I have disagreed with my parents about this situation because I mean I am obviously going to be careful, so I don't see a reason why I can not go places. For teenage couples a advice I have is to communicate tons during this quarantine. And parents should be letting their kids visit each other. Yes I would because I know if I had kids they would be careful and try not to get infected.
In this article I relate to trying to find different ways to keep communication going, specifically FaceTiming during the day, to keep myself entertained. I am dating someone, we actually started dating during quarantine, which was a very different experience. We were eventually allowed to start hanging out, now we see each other every few days, which has really helped boost my mood. Although I have disagreed with my parents a select amount of times about certain situations during this pandemic, over all they’ve been just trying to make sure that I’m safe and still limiting what I can do.
I am not dating someone at the moment, so I don't know if it has changed that much. I do know that my neighbor sometimes has his girlfriend over, or he goes to her house. Our stay at home order does not have a punishment. Well, not that I know of. So people go to each other's houses.
I also know a friend in New York and I know that they have it far worse than my town. He doesn't go to his girlfriend's house nor does she goes to his house. They mostly facetime each other and use snap chat.
In conclusion, I believe it depends on one's mentality and where they live.
I am not dating someone so I don’t relate much to the point of trying to hang out with a significant other but I do relate with the fact of not going out to hang out with friends and such. It is hard to say I agree or disagree with parents, because it really has affected each place in the United States differently and some parents are okay with different circumstances. This is really all out of the parents control for the most part, they are just trying to be safe.
I don’t really have much advice as I am not in a relationship but would say just keep doing what works and what you like but at the same time, try new ways to interact with one another. Your families will soon come around and let you guys do normal things but at the same time you have to respect the distance and get through this whole pandemic.
Not at the start, I would've waited until states start opening up, but I would probably break at some point as I would want to do things that aren’t at my home either. like I said, it is probably best to wait until authorities give us the go-ahead, but it is a big judgement call as a parent so I really would have to be there.
It has been hard not seeing my girlfriend every day like I used to at school. We stay in touch by snapchat, facetime, and texting back and forth. I agree with what my parents are doing because there is very little risk of our family getting the virus.
@Conner, I am not dating at the moment, but a close friend is. He lives in New York. As you probably know, they have it pretty bad up there. He also uses facetime and Snapchat to communicate with his girlfriend. He is a smart man so he knows he should stay home, but he would rather spend time with his girlfriend. But his parents tell him he should stay home. If it weren't for his parents, he would go out and see his girl.
I can relate to this article because I originally hadn’t seen my boyfriend in over two months and I was used to being with him every other day. I barely left my house and seeing him or any of my friends had been extremely out of the question. Since the stay at home order was extended again, surprisingly, my mom agreed to let me see him. My advice for other couples would be that if you still value your relationship as much as you do apart than you do together, then just wait out the storm. I didn’t really know when I would actually be able to see my boyfriend but we made it work. If you aren’t able to see your significant other at all then just find ways that you guys can stay connected until you can see each other in person again. I think any relationship can make it through this tough time if both people are trying and giving the proper effort.
I would say just do what’s best for your family. If you’re still living at home you probably need to follow your parent’s rules and hopefully it will be over soon!
My parents and I had disagreements at the start but ,they have relaxed a little. I am currently allowed to see my girlfriend every other week.
During quarantine it has been hard for me to see my friends because many parents are saying no to their kids. I see a lot of couples that are hanging out during quarantine and I think they are basically like your family and you can go and see them. The advice I'd give to couples and their families is to be cautious.If I were a parent I would let my kid go out as long as they're together and with nobody else. I think Ms. Valeii does understand her son’s emotions. I think that she seems like she is a monster because she is the one that has to tell him that he can’t go and see his friends. I feel like my parents don’t feel the guilt because I can hang out with my friends and still keep in touch over social media.
I can relate to the fact that teens are being cooped up at home with nothing to do. It gets boring not being able to go out and do the things we were normally able to do before this quarantine started. It is sad not to be able to see your friends as well, or even go to school and see everyone.
My advice for the couples in these articles is to power through this hard time. it made be hard but you can do it. My advice for the parents is to allow them to see each other because it is unfair due to this quarantine, you're only a teen once, let them enjoy it.
If I was a parent I would allow my children to see their friends and significant others, as a parent I would still have rules for them but they would still be able to go out and have fun. Also if my child did have any friends that were sick, I wouldn't allow them to hang out with them.
i can't relate to having a significant other, but i do miss my friends, they are the only rocks holding me down in this terrible time we are all enduring my advice would be for couples to try as much as they can to make it the best they can. As this lockdown won't last forever. And for families it's ok to be scared, but chances are it wont get into your home unless you live in new york or some place very densely populated. I would let my kid go out to see his/her friends and significant others, but I would require they have gloves and a facemask just in case someone starts coughing all over the place. Freedom is what this country was based on, and I wont lock my kid down because of a sickness, besides, sunlight is good for fighting sickness
I am single and not dating however i don't need to be with someone to tell you that not being with your significant other sucks. However, as long as you love yourself first then your relationship will be A-OK. because you can't love others without loving yourself first.
During the beginning of this whole world wide pandemic I was seeing someone. At first the distance and not being able to see each other was hard but we were able to work though it. We both did not think that quarantine was going to last as long as it is. Our parents would not let us see each other even after a 3 weeks of not being able to see each other. As time went on they finally let me drive over there and say hi to her. Overall quarantine made the relationship hard and at the end we chose to end things. not just because of quarantine but that played a factor. It also showed how strong the relationship had to be by not being able to see that significant other.
It is kinda hard to be in a relationship when you can’t see each other everyday. That they need to stay by each other's side, and don’t break up because of this. Yes, but they would need to be at someone’s house, and not outside wondering around. If they are wondering around they should wear a mask.
I can’t relate to this article because I am allowed to meet in person and do what I want but I can’t go to places because they have been closed. Just don’t dwell on what is going on and focus on the future. Do as much as you can to communicate daily like texting or facetime. For the families I say you should allow for the kids to communicate as much as they can. I would allow my teenager to go out because I don’t think it is that serious and that they should do what they need to do.
I would not let my teen go out during the quarantine because it is not worth the risks. The stay at home orders are meant to lower the amount of cases and seeing other people raises the possibility of continued spread of the virus.
I am not in a relationship with anyone at this point and time but, I do have friends who are still going strong in their relationships. by being allowed to be with their significant other or they get to facetime and communicate all the time so they never are really alone. What I recommend for students or people in this situation is to do everything in your power to maintain the relationship, talk every day, find different ways of communicating, or hanging out. And ultimately make a decision that everyone involved can get behind. depending on the location of that student and their significant other, if they are in a city or state that is highly affected then take more precautions on what you do to maintain the relationship.
I related more to the parents who allow their children to go see friends and others during this quarantine, but with limits. I have been allowed to have a friend over every once in a while and also my family and I visit my mothers’ friend who lives a short drive away. Most of the couples we read about were either relatively young in age or young in the amount of time they had been together. So I feel as if they might be in a honeymoon phase and allowing their heightened emotions take control of logic. One of the couples lived in New York City, the most COVID-19 affected state in America, which I would hope would lead them to have more caution while in quarantine. I believe if I was in a low risk area of the United States I would be confident in letting my child go see friends or a significant other. The biggest worry I would have is where these meetings are happening. Say if one of the friends has a grandparent living in their home and the kids want to go to that house, I would not allow it because I wouldn’t feel comfortable putting that elder at risk. But if the meeting was happening in a parking lot where no one was at I would feel more comfortable knowing they are not surrounded by others who are at a higher risk of catching the disease.
I relate to missing social interactions. Many times I am unable to hangout with people because there parents do not allow it. If you are dating someone you should be able to see them. Assuming both people were social distancing, the risk is very low. My advice is just call the person you are dating. If someone is not able to hang out, it isn’t the end of the world, but rather a temporary separation.
The only advice that I have for couples that are struggling is that this will pass, and that their parents want the best for them and their health as well as the health of those they would be coming in contact with. The short term struggles you may face will provide the better outcome for not only yourself and your family but also those you wish to see.
I am not currently dating anyone at this point and time, but I do miss my friends which I have been able to see since this pandemic abruptly ended school. Although isolation has been hard for me, I could not imagine not being able to see one who is special to me for a long period.
I would recommend that their family make a decision that is best for them. If they are in a state/city that is heavily infected with virus cases I think they should not let them hangout. But, if they are in a place with few virus cases they should limit their restrictions. If they are gonna let them hangout make sure they are somewhere safe and not just wondering around. All in all, they should consider both sides.
I am currently in a relationship and have gotten used to seeing them weekly, and while I do perfectly fine being without him for a period of time, it was surprisingly tiring being separated for months. If I were a parent during this pandemic, I would wait until more information on the fatality or necessary worry of the virus is announced before allowing my kids to see their significant others, while also doing my best to help them through it without any negative outcomes.
As someone in a relationship I feel very sad to be apart from the person I am used to seeing almost everyday. It has been hard to say the least. At the beginning I couldn’t see him at all. It was upsetting to know that the only way I could see his face was through a screen. Both of our parents were weary about when we could see each other and it made it challenging to keep waiting around for the day when we could finally see each other in person. After a lot of convincing I saw him after a month of isolation from him. It made me feel like life was still somewhat normal.
I am not dating anyone currently so I don’t relate to the relationship part. But if I was, my mom wouldn’t let me visit them because of her job, working in healthcare. I had disagreed with my parents about staying at home in the beginning but I learned that keeping myself at home was keeping others safe. Despite not having a boyfriend/girlfriend my mental health has definitely taken a toll on me during social distancing, I have been really struggling with my anxiety and not being able to take my mind off things. Not being able to do the things that I would normally have been doing is a big change in my life, working around things has been difficult at times especially not being able to see friends and relatives.
Yes, because I've been to stores and back with no problem and other places so i'd definitely let my kid go to a friends house if i know the household is healthy.
I don’t relate too much in the article because I haven’t dated in a while. But I fully understand how hard it is for couples that have to spend this time apart. My only advice is to stick it out until the outbreak is over. If you can it may be beneficial to convince your parents to see your significant other, but if not, then just hold tight. I would let my kid see their significant other. I believe dating in high school is very beneficial, whether it works out or not. I believe Ms. Valeii does understand her son’s emotions. I think she feels guilty that, even though she’s doing the right thing, it is hard to hold your kid back even though they did nothing wrong. I think that the quote means that it's hard to travel to point a to b when there are risks involved. I believe that my parents enforce the rules almost completely identically.
I don't really relate to any of these kids because I'm not dating anyone. I do kind of sympathize with them because if I was dating someone, I would be sad if I couldn't see them. I do relate with the fact that some of them can't drive so they can't go anywhere. Because I can't drive either, so I only leave the house to go to work.
I can relate to the fact that there is no way to get out of the house to just breathe. You are stuck inside with all of your family and sometimes you just need to leave to get peace and quiet. I am not in a relationship but if I was, I would not be allowed to see them. I have definitely disagreed with my parents multiple times just because I needed to get out of the house.
I think it is a good balance if you don’t see each other everyday. In my opinion, If you hang out with your loved one everyday, it is nice to take a day off from hanging with them. Then the next time you see them, it’s even better. For the parents that their son or daughter that is in a relationship, you’ve got to let your kids visit them. It’s who your kid cares about.
I would’ve let my kids go out during the quarantine to see friends and significant others just because high school is arguably one of the best times of your life and you only live high school once and you should not let a pandemic stop that.
I hope that these couples remember that distance does indeed make the heart grow fonder. This is only temporary, and when it is all over they will be more in love with each other than ever before. I hope that their families take into consideration how they are feeling and understand that this is extremely hard for many kids, not just their child.
I personally can not relate to this article tons. This is because I am not in a relationship with anyone. Also, I have a job that essential so I have still been leaving the house to do my job. The one thing that I can relate to is not being able to see my friends as much as I could before this all started.
I am not currently dating anyone so I don't relate to what they are saying but i understand. It is hard but even though it’s hard that doesn’t make it okay to break quarantine all the time to see them. The hardest times are really what shows everyone's true colors and intentions. Everything happens for a reason and I believe that teenagers in a relationship need to remember that. I see on social media people breaking quarantine to see their friends/significant other, I am guilty, but doing it constantly (everyday) is not okay and that is what I see all over snapchat and instagram. This time is scary and hard but you need to think about others before you do what you think is just best for yourself.
I don’t relate too well as I still see my girlfriend a lot and haven’t really disagreed with the situation that much. My advice for couples and friends split up right now would be, go ahead and see them and if you get it you get it oh well.
I am not in a relationship and I can not relate to these people who are separated at the moment. I have disagreed with my parents about letting me see my friends and that moment is about right now when we should no longer be under lockdown. My advice to these teenage couples is to honestly grow up. For example for the high school couple Kai and Gabby I guarantee there is more at stake then your high school relationship. Stop worrying about it, move on right now there is no need to complain about not seeing your girlfriend/boyfriend. My advice to the families is simply keep to your best judgement. I have learned over the years that parents really do know best in almost all circumstances. Not at first I would not let my teenager go out and see their friends or significant other. Towards the end like when we should not be under lockdown anymore I will allow them to only see others who I trust and have been in quarantine.
Advice for the teenage couples I have is just think of how much stronger your relationship will be after all of this. I believe if you can get through this and still have a happy and healthy relationship, then nothing can break the special bond the two of you share. For families I just highly recommend them recalling all the times they were in love as a teenager, and try to be more understanding of what they are going through.
My advice for the couples in the article is to step up and not get depressed about the situation. That could lead to gradual separation in the relationship and would likely lead to break up. The internet has many capabilities to stay connected with others you are not able to see in person. Though it cannot fully replace seeing each other in person, it nevertheless helps and is a better alternative than being completely shut off from each other.
I believe she does understand her son’s emotions by the fact that she sympathizes with the fact that they were not given any time to prepare with quarantine’s stipulations and rules. She feels like a monster depriving the want of her son being with his significant other. My parents are very easy going with the quarantine rules in regards to staying at home since I have been all over the place doing landscaping jobs and running errands as per usual though with some inconveniences along the way. Though they get the importance of doing clean and hygienic behavior to prevent chances of contracting the virus.
I do not relate to anything in this article because I am not dating anyone and I do not miss anyone. I see who I want to see when I want to see them, quarantine does not affect me at all. My advice would be to let them hangout because keeping them from each other is bad. : I would let my kids go out during quarantine because the pandemic is not as bad as it seems and a super majority of the people who have died are older than 65 years old.
I relate to not being able to see my friends at all. If I was dating someone I feel like my parents would let me see the person. Try to find new hobbies you haven’t tried before or play board games or any game with your family to have fun. Most of the times I would probably say yes, but it depends on how bad the virus is going around and the amount of cases. I am saying that for their safety to not get sick and get this terrible virus.
I would probably let my kid go out but within reason, they would wear a mask and such to be safe when they go, just so they aren’t kept as home being driven insane like everyone else.
I can relate a lot to this article because I have a girlfriend that I love to hangout with a lot, but since the pandemic is going on.It is really hard for us to hangout. Even though I'm 17 and can drive. It is still difficult to hangout but you can’t touch each other. Yes our parents lets us hangout, but we have to stay 6 feet apart. Also I have disagreed with my parents about the pandemic because originally I couldn’t see her at all, but since the pandemic has been going on for a while my parents started to be more cooperative.
My advice that I want to give for teenage couples in this article is that once this gets better. You will be able to see each other and be so happy that u can finally hug and hold each other's hands. Also think about how lucky you are to have each other because some people might not have someone to talk to or to social distance with. So even though the crisis is still going on just stay calm because this will be over sooner than u know it. Also all the families out there. I pray for you like if you are struggling with having no money and that god will help you. He will always find a way to help anyone out.I f I was a parent. I would let my kids see their friends and to just tell them that they have to be careful and to make smart decisions.
I can't really relate to the teenagers mentioned in this article, as I'm not in a relationship, and I still see my friends often. I do however still sympathize with them because it is an unfortunate situation for anyone to be in, regardless of the circumstances.
What are things you can do as a parent to try and make the kids experience better in their dating life?
My advice to teens is that if you actually really do like your significant other that a little space shouldnt affect it. Advice I would give to their families would be to allow them to hangout unless they are putting someone at risk who may have respiratory issues or is immune compromised. I say this because some people can be very dependent on others and keeping them apart just may not be worth it.
I cannot stand not seeing my girlfriend, although I understand the quarantine, I think that it is sometimes too strict, especially where I am. I want it to be over or at least loosened on how strict it is.
@Reid Alder What are things you can do to make you feel like your with your girl friend because what most of the kids and me have been doing is on face time all day talking about things that we wont to see get better in the relationship we sit there for hour just talking about how life was and the things were going to do with each once this end. you have to think what if someone you love got sick you would be like the rest of the world telling people to stay inside and don't go see people i know what it like the person you love you cant see and its hard but do thing that both of you can do if both have netflix you both can watch show togather and play phone games with each other. do things to were you both are having fun and talking everyday till you can see each because the more you talk the more you learn about that person and keeps loving them so call and tall to her every day all day and do things with her on the phone.
I don't have a significant other but lots of my friends do. I know they some of them do whatever is possible to stay in touch during this time and make the most of their relationship while others cannot. One of my best friends her boyfriends parents will not let them see each other because their dad has a problem, and while I agree it keeps their dad safe I disagreed with their decision because my friend had also stayed quarantined the whole time so if they just included her in theirs there would be no issue, If I was a parent I would allow my child to see their friends as long as they promise to follow the social distancing guidelines and being safe.
I myself am not in a relationship, I cannot imagine going months without seeing my other half. If I were a parent during this, I personally would let my kid see her other half once a week maybe twice a week.
I don't have someone I am dating but I do have a best friend who I have seen at least once a week. I have never been told that I couldn't go to someone's house. I do disagree with my family about masks. Keep up the positivity this is just testing your relationship. For the families, let them at least see eachother once a week or once every 2 weeks. Yes I would let rhythm. I think it's not fair because if you isolate yourself when we are all aloud to go do things it will be bad for our immune systems.
I personally found that relationships are practically unless while in “quarantine” because at the beginning it was enforced very well, and as time went it it became less extreme. I couldn’t see my girlfriend at all during the beginning so after about a month into quarantine I ended it because it wasn’t worth trying to keep it alive over the phone when we couldn’t see each other.
Personally this time it being used for self improvement physically and mentally.
My advice to those teenagers who are currently dating is to continue to talk and check in with their boyfriend or girlfriend. Making sure that they are staying safe, and not losing their minds being stuck at home. Although facetiming and texting can get repetitive, you can use that to cherish the times you had together and the later memories you will be able to make. For the teenagers whose parents aren’t letting them hang out, try to have a civil conversation with your parents and show them creative ideas to hang out that still follow your states guidelines.
I do not relate much as I am still able to see my significant other in fact she is currently sitting next to me.I do not disagree with my parents as they have me take precautions when I see her and they still allow me to frequently see her. I would say as long as they are taking the necessary precautions let them be together. To the people that can't be together I would try to do as many things over the internet or phone as you can. Yes as long as their parents were taking the necessary precautions. Teens need to be able to see their significant other as it is very good for their mental health in these pressing times.
I have been able to see my boyfriend a lot during this quarantine. My mom at first made us only see each other for 2-3 days out of the week but now she doesn’t really care. My advice would just be if you can’t talk to them in person just call and text them and if you need to see them try to convince your parents to let you do things while wearing masks. If I was a parent I would let them see each other but maybe just a few days a week to keep the risk down.
I can relate to the article because I am dating someone and for the first two months we were not allowed to hangout. We are allowed to meet in person now. And yes, my parents and I have disagreed, but now we are on the same page. The advice I have for the teenage couples is to hold on, things will get better. You can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Stay strong and stay safe. Personally I would. To most the virus will not affect them. I believe the quarantine should be for the people who are at risk or have underlying health conditions. It should be the person’s decision to go to work or hangout with friends.
Although I am not in a relationship, I can still closely relate my situation to that of the teen couples referenced in the article. When the stay at home order was first put in place, my parents (like many others) would not allow me to hang out with my friends (for good reasons). I argued that we were all staying safe and that we were taking quarantine seriously. Through the power of music, my parents finally let me go jam with my pals, staying six feet apart of course.
I’m not dating anyone currently, but I do miss my friends a lot. I used to ask my parents to let me leave, but the answer was always no. I don’t disagree with my parents because I know they are trying to keep me safe.
I am not dating anyone right now but I can relate to the fact that in the beginning, my parents would not let me hangout with my friends at all. I mostly agree with my parents that it is to keep us safe but I think that we should limit our contact with other people outside our family but not eliminate it completely. Now, and in the recent couple weeks, my parents have slowly started to let me hangout with my friends. My advice to teenage couples is to be patient and don’t let this quarantine end the good relationship that you have. You can use facetime or practice social distancing to keep in contact with each other. I think that at the very beginning I would have kept my teenager home and not allowed them to hangout with friends or significant other. But after a few weeks, I would have let them, limitedly, hangout with friends or significant other. I say this because it is not healthy to stay inside for that long. As long as they are being safe and following precautions, they can see their friends or significant other. I think she does, for the most part, understands her son's emotions. I think she says that because she can see the effect it is having on her son but she is keeping him safe. I think she means that she is afraid that she might be doing the wrong thing in this situation but right now, it seems like she is doing the right thing. I think my parents do feel the same way because they have recently allowed me to go hangout with friends.
I can’t say I relate to missing my significant other because I don't have one, but I do miss my friends and I haven’t seen any of them since school abruptly ended. Surprisingly, Isolation is pretty isolating and I get how it would be very hard for someone to not see their significant other for such a long time.
I am not currently in a relationship so can’t relate to the teenage couples going through this tough time. I know some of my friends and their significant others have broken up because of lack of communication through this time. My parents have been very laid back on how many people I hang out with, which I am very thankful for. I have hung out with my friends a lot, which has been good for my mental health. I even went on a first date with a guy last week. I think it is Important for teens to still hangout with their friends, loneliness is addictive after a while, which can lead to teen depression.
The only advice that I have for the teenage couples that I read about is to continue doing what they are doing. Although it’s very hard and can seem impossible at times, the best you can do is try your best to make each other as happy as can be. If that means writing letters to one another or sending your significant other food, or whether that means bringing them flowers and gifts in person, doing the best you can and putting in the effort goes a long way.
I am dating someone and if you are truly a person with a significant other i do not think you should be stopped by your parents they should actually be there for you and encourage you to see the person you are with if they make you happy
The only thing I related to from this article is that my parents don’t let me do anything like some of the kids from the article. I’m not dating anyone but I have friends who are struggling not being able to see their significant other.
I am not dating anyone but my brother is and her parents, as well as mine, allow her to come over and her parents sometimes come over as well. My parents also allow a family that lives a couple of houses down, which I consider my second family, to come over. My parents have tried to keep the number of people we bring into our house small to keep us all safe but as well as keeping the family sane. I feel like my parents are doing a great job of keeping social distancing as well as having friends over safely. With my dad and I both still working and having contact with many people it increases the stress of the virus in our family as well as the people who go into our house.
I am not dating anyone right now but i can relater to not being able to see my friends. If I were a parent, I would let my children see their friend or significant other. I don't think that it is good for relationships to only talk over the phone or computer. You need to be able to see that person.
I am dating someone and I haven’t been able to see him for quite a while now. He already lives an hour away, so it was hard to see him before quarantine started. I haven’t been able to go out and see any friends or my boyfriend in over 2 months. My parents aren’t letting me go out of the house except sometimes I will go and bring groceries to my grandparents. I don’t fully agree with my parents about not being able to see my boyfriend because my brother’s girlfriend comes over quite often and stays the night, and even though they have been together for a few years it is not completely fair. I wish I could go out and see my friends but I understand my parents worries and why they don’t want me to. They are doing what they think is best for me and our family to try and keep us safe.
I am currently dating someone and I am allowed to see them but only for a certain number of time. My parents are not that strict about but they do have to follow some of the rules that go with this. But if I was a parent in this situation I would allow my kids to go hangout with their significant others or friends. But I also believe the parents are doing the right thing by having their kids stay home to keep them safe.
My parents did not let me have friends over at first and their parents did not either. However, now that they realize that this is a pretty insane reaction to a virus smaller than the flu, I have been having friends over all the time. I think people need to stop watching the news and being brainwashed by sources like The New York Times.
I am currently not dating anyone but I miss seeing my friends and I have seen a couple of them during this quarantine. My parents really never said I couldn’t meet them but just not in large groups and I agree with their decision. My advice would be to just hang out once and awhile to be careful and safe. I would let them meet just one on one not in groups to just me safe. Because it is more safe and careful than meeting in groups.
I am dating someone and I am allowed to see them because my parents don't care about the social distancing rules. My advice for them is to listen to their parents and these rough times will pass. If I was a parent I would let my kids see who ever they wanted as long as the other parents are alright with it because it's important for kids to interact with people and not be trapped at their houses this whole time.
I am currently not dating anyone but I can relate to this my friends. Me and my friends hangout occasionally and we don’t worry about masks or anything. We really aren’t worried about this pandemic. But my parents have told me before to be extremely careful around my friends because they don’t want me to get Corona.
I am not currently dating anyone so I can’t really relate specifically to this situation. At first I wanted to go do things but my parents didn’t let me and I didn’t agree. But now that I see the scale of the situation I understand them more. I would say for the couples that you just have to wait because this quarantine won’t last forever. You can connect in different ways like facetime. I believe the parents are doing the right thing to protect their kids and their family. I would probably let them see their significant other and maybe a few friends. As long as they are taking the right precautions I think it would be okay to have some freedom.
I am dating someone however I am not allowed to see her, I do not disagree with them however I wish I could see her. My advice for them is to let their parents be parents, they are not in charge so they should trust their parents' decision. They may not like it but their family is just trying to protect them. I probably would do the same as my parents and not let my kid see anyone during the quarantine. It is not because I do not want them to see anyone it is simply because I would want them to be safe.I believe that she does understand her son’s emotions, I feel like she says she feels like a monster because she has to uphold the rules and not let the two of them see each other. My parents feel that upholding the rules is necessary however they let one of my friends come over because he stays home 24/7.
The only part I really relate to in this is that I’m unable to see my friends in person. I’ve never dated anyone, but there is still a certain amount of sorrow to be experienced when you have only minimal interaction with your closest friends.
I say that they should just go with the flow of events. Don’t try to force anything to happen too quickly, but also try to avoid falling into total non-contact, as that is likely to be detrimental to your mental health. I don’t have much personal experience, but lots of keen observation suggests that this is the best course of action.
I think she understands her son’s emotions, I think she feels like a monster because she wont let her kid go out and that kid doesn’t get the consequences if he were to go out. With the line given, I feel like she is afraid to have the protection but then her kid gets really mad at her and not have a relationship with her kid. I do feel like my parents were this way at the start of the pandemic, but not as much now. They would let me see my other half even with the difficulties of social distancing.
I'm not currently dating someone, but id do connect with this article. My family has moved states a few times throughout my life and I have chosen to continue my past friendships with people that now live hundreds of miles away. Long distance relationships are possible, they just require a lot more work and intentionality than regular friendships.
During quarantine it has been hard for me to see my friends because many parents are saying no to their kids. I see a lot of couples that are hanging out during quarantine and I think they are basically like your family and you can go and see them. The advice I'd give to couples and their families is to be cautious. I think that it is fine if they see each other as long as it's just them and they are cautious. If I were a parent I would let my kid go out as long as they're together and with nobody else. I think Ms. Valeii does understand her son’s emotions. I think that she seems like she is a monster because she is the one that has to tell him that he can’t go and see his friends. I think that she is afraid to break the rules but also afraid of wrecking their relationship. I feel like my parents don’t feel the guilt because I can hang out with my friends and still keep in touch over social media.
@Gavin Keen
I think that it is a hard time right now to remain close to friends, and especially hard for couples. In my experience, in the beginning of quarantine my parents were super strict, but now after i've worn them down asking to hang out with small groups of people, I finally am able to see some of my friends. Like you said, I think there is a balance between following the rules and doing right by your children. I think that quarantine should be the first priority, but if couples want to spend time together they should be allowed depending on the situation. Personally, I think as its just them hanging out that its fine.
I personally am not in a relationship at the moment, but I cannot imagine how hard it would be during this time to see your significant other and to maintain that steady relationship. The virus has really affected many of us harshly, but imagine not being able to see your other half! painful. If I was the parent of a child going through a relationship at the time, I would allow him/her to see them a few times a week, as they are crucial to them and they need to maintain that relationship that they hold dear to each other.
@Summer Schultz I as well are not in a relationship, but I do agree with what you're saying. Not seeing your loved ones in months is hard
Through quarantine it has been hard to get together with all my friends because like in the article all parents are on different pages and most of them say no. I have seen many couples hanging out through quarantine and in my opinion as long as you keep hanging out with the same people all the time, I don't see the harm. Also for the families I would recommend practice staying healthy but get outside and stay active. If I was a parent I would let my teenagers out because as long as they are together and keeping away from others I don't see the problem in hanging out unless my teenagers have friends who have health issues and are at high risk of the virus. I think Ms. Valeii understands her son's emotions and also feels guilty for not letting her son hang out. She's afraid of breaking the rules but also ruining a relationship. I feel that my parents do not feel this guilt because for the most part they let me hang out with my friends.
I cant relate to the article because i haven't been in a relationship where it was long distance.I am also not the person to go to when it comes to a relationship because i haven't had that much of an experience but people still ask me for advice and they say im really good at it so on that note. honesty and being together in a relationship is very important. I don't think it would safe.
Am i currently not dating anyone at this time but me and my close friend Matt, wanted to hang out but since the pandemic it stopped us from hanging out with each other. I agree with my parents about not going anywhere since this has started.
Face time each other, using the zoom app or Skype, to see each other. Or going somewhere but sitting 6 feet apart from each other. Wear gloves so they could hold hands. Yes, because they would feel sad, and frustrated that they cant see each other or their friends.
When there was no stay-at-home order, my boyfriend and I were together almost every day during the first week of quarantine. Then the governor put the order in place and ever since then, seeing each other is rare. My boyfriend and I held out hope to see each other on April 1, when the stay-at-home order was meant to be lifted the first time, but it continues to get extended. Our parents were both cautious at first, but as time went on, they became more lenient. Now the weather is getting nicer as well so we can do things outdoors. While we do see each other every once in a while, we still find other things to do like watch netflix shows together (All-American) and we call each other every night.
My advice is to do as much as you can with your significant other virtually and find new things to do with each other, because not seeing each other can be very hard on any relationship. For the parents, I would say that they should realize this is already hard, and by preventing their children from seeing each other, makes it even harder. I believe everyone should have the right to leave their homes.
I definitely relate to not being able to participate in usual activities and sports because I have not bowled in a tournament since February because of the shut down. I also can relate to not being able to see friends or my girlfriend because most of my friends' parents have not been letting them go anywhere, my girlfriend’s parents especially. Before quarantine, my girlfriend and I saw each other just about every day outside of school, but as soon as quarantine started, my girlfriend’s parents did not let us see each other for over a month, and have only just recently let us start seeing each other a couple times a week. My parents personally have been very relaxed about the entire issue though, so that has been nice.
I've been hanging out with my friends for a couple weeks which is what should be allowed. I think we should be able to make decisions for ourselves and that we can't stay stuck at home forever. My parents agreed on that after a while that we need to start going back out and making things more normal again
Young relationships are not worth it, Its not worth your time or money. Yes it may be nice at the time and have a small chance to last but at the end of the day you will be wasting your time and affecting your chances to success in the future.
“There is so much goodness waiting for us all at the end of the tunnel”, that’s what my boyfriend always reminds me. It’s important to stay safe and you must remind yourself that you are protecting your significant other and their family.
My advice for any couples is to stay in contact by any means necessary, even just a simple good morning text means a lot to your partner. Most importantly you need to just have hope and stay strong, just think about the special moment when you get to see your partner again and how happy you will feel. As for the parents I say at least allow them to come over, even if that means not going anywhere.
I can't really relate to any of it. I'm really not the person to be giving out dating advice but if I must I'd say that physical contact is important so don't be afraid to give your partner a big hug. I'm honestly not sure what I'd let my kids do. It would depend on their age, physical health, and how much I like who they're hanging with. So i'm gonna go with no to be safe.
In all honesty I have disagreed with my parents about going out and being able to see people, but we've come to common ground about going out. I go out occasionally to hang out with friends but I do think that it is a little overkill with how this is playing out in Michigan. I don't think it's necessary for everything to be closed, and apparently the rules only apply for people that aren't mayors or governors. For example, Governor Whitmer's husband recently wanted to go boating, getting very impatient he stated he was the governor's husband and wanted to go to the front of the line, but everyone sent him to the back instead. This is not only showing that these rules are somewhat corrupt, but those in charge as well. It seems to us that the people that have power can do what they want, almost as if the rules only apply to those that are "below" them. Although, in reality what I want to do isn’t more important than the safety of those closest to me.
I relate to this article because my parents have been really strict with letting me see my boyfriend and my friends. I have seen my boyfriend 7 times in the past 2 ½ months which I am grateful for, but going from seeing him every other day to this has been a very hard transition. I understand why my parents are limiting our time together, but I wish I could see him more often. I have heard of many couples failing on each other during this pandemic, but others have become so much stronger. Advice I have is to just keep pushing through because those who do are keepers, and truly care about you. For families on the other hand, do what you think is right, but also take into consideration how hard this has been on teenagers and how big of a change it is! If I were a parent right now I would allow my kids to be with their friends and significant others because I know how it feels to be trapped in the house and isolated from everyone as a teen, and I would never want my children to feel like this.
If i was a parent, i think no friends allowed but i think i would allow them to see their significant others at least a few times a week to keep some social relations in their lives normal, especially one so important.
@Emima Yes!! I completely agree with what you are saying, as seeing your other half is crucial to maintaining a happy and healthy lifestyle during this quarantine time. I personally think that this is a wonderful way for people to see their significant other- as long as they are staying safe.
This article is mostly about couples not being able to see each other during this quarantine, but I relate to not being able to see any of my friends because I am not dating anyone. My advice for the teenage couples is to be calm and, I know it’s hard, but we need to stay home. Because the sooner that everyone stays home and is prevented from being exposed to the virus, the sooner the quarantine will lift and everyone will be able to see their friends and significant others once again. If I were a parent, I would not let my teenager go out during the quarantine because we need to stay home to prevent the spread of the virus so we can, hopefully soon, go out again and see everyone.
I can relate to this article because I am in a relationship with someone that lives in my town, but we are only allowed to see each other three times a week due to social distancing rules and our parents rules. At first I really disagreed with this decision but I understand why these rules are in place and I follow them because I know that other people have things a lot worse than I do. I also follow these rules because I know my parents want to keep me safe and healthy.
My parents have not been strict about the stay-at-home orders, so I have been able to hang out with friends. However, a couple of my friends have been stuck in their houses since the start of quarantine, and it’s been hard not seeing them for so long.
I would just say stay safe. Still connect with each other and spend time together, but be smart about what’s going on around you.
I would do the same thing my parents are letting me do; let me go out and see my friends, but only a small group in a safe area. I think if you are aware of the risks and are smart about it, you can spend time with other people.
I think Mrs. Valeii understands everyone’s emotions about the pandemic, and how we are all discouraged by current issues. She says that she feels like a monster because she has to enforce the rules on her son, even though they both want him to spend time with his significant other. I think most parents feel the same way - at this stage of our lives, we want to be spending our time with the people we love and cherish, but they have to enforce the rules.
I think parents that are keeping their kids at home are just being cautious and that kids should listen to their parents because they are just trying to protect you. I understand the hardship of being away from people you are close with, because we are all going through it, but we should think about others who are in more danger during this hard time.
I am not in a relationship currently however, I understand how important quality time and social interaction are in relationships. I would tell the teenage couples to not give up, and continue what they are doing. States across America are already starting to open up once again and are starting to lift quarantine orders. I would continue to do what they are already doing with, facetime, netflix watch parties, etc.
I do currently have a girlfriend, it is a little hard to talk sometimes however I am able to text her all the time. Neither of our parents are letting us hang out however we face time sometimes and we still text each other. It is hard to not be able to hangout with her but it isn't impossible.
I am not dating anyone at the moment, but I can imagine how hard it must be to those who are in a relationship during this crisis. I believe staying safe is important, but I also think you should be able to make your own decisions regarding Covid-19. Staying inside and away from others is your choice, but going out and seeing the people you love is also very necessary to one’s mental wellbeing. Whether or not your parent’s agree with letting you go out, they should understand that maintaining a relationship with your friends and significant other is very important.
During the first month of quarantine i had been in a relationship and it was extremely difficult and unfortunately throughout all the stress our relationship had fallen apart and we eventually broke up. if i was in their situation i would be sure to facetime or call each other frequently or at the least send heartfelt letters. during the beginning of the quarantine i probably would not all ow my son/daughter go out to se friends but now that we have been in quarentine for quite some time i would let them go out and spend time with friends /significant other. I would just ask for them to be cautious and at least keep mindful of handwashing and distance.
I don't have a girlfriend, But I got to hang out with the boys this past weekend and it was dope. My parents were very strict about the whole social distancing thing in the being of all this happening. But it was hard for them because I work at Taco Bell and I probably have a high risk of getting COVID-19. I have been taking all of the precautions that Covid-19 has brought us. It is also getting really annoying at work because every time I walk into the building I have to take my temperature. Social distancing has also helped me improve my mental health and evolve myself as a person. But like everybody else in the world, I have a life and I need to live it.
I do have a significant other and it as been very hard not seeing them for the past few months. I get that social distancing should be implied everywhere but I think that quartine has also gone on way longer than necessary. Recently my family has gone out more because we believe that it's time to go out and get some fresh air instead of locking ourselves in all day.
I am currently seeing someone who is very very special to me. I start to get separation anxiety if i do not see them so at the beginning of corona virus pandemic it was definitely hard. but we stayed in contact and finally my parents started to get sick of having us home all the time so i finally got to go out and see him. Thankfully my parents have been okay with me leaving. But i think we are all in agreement that once the government stops lying to us, then we will start to listen but until then i will see whoever i want. I have a life to live.
I am not in a relationship with anyone but I can relate to the article by trying to hang out with some of my close friends. My parents have relaxed on the idea of hanging out now but towards the beginning of this whole pandemic, it was a definite “No”. Some advice I’d have for couples of my age going through this, is everyone else is experiencing the same thing you are, and it isn’t going to last forever. If I were a parent, I would most likely let my kids go out and see their friends. Probably not as often as they would usually but just enough to help the quarantine blow over faster. Responding to Ms. Valeii’s essay, I would agree when she says that it’s hard when you’re being pulled both ways, one by the government and one by your kid. I have no doubt that my parents felt and same and probably still do.
I don’t have a girlfriend, but not until recently was I able to see the boys. I still am not able to go to any of my extended families houses or friends houses but my a few of the boys were able to come over last weekend. Also, yes I have disagreed with my parents on the situation but overtime I came to terms with it and agreed it would be better to stay in for a bit. I’m not sure honestly for the couples during this time maybe communicate as much as possible and spend timw with each other on things like facetime. I would also say that everything is going to be okay, that soon you'll be able to be togther soon. Try to spend as much time with your family as you can, this is your chance to be with family without any distractions and with a lot of time to do so.
I do have a significant other, and I also hangout with a select group of people. Not being able to hangout with people has been a bit difficult, especially because I am a very social person and like to be doing activities or hanging out with people almost all times of the day. My parents let me see my significant other and hangout with a select few group of people, because they know I am going to be safe and protect myself.Quarantine has been a very good life lessen to me, and it really brings out peoples character and how they respond to a real world problem like this one.
i’m not dating anyone right no but if i did my parents wouldn’t let me hang with them because of the virus i could understand that they don't want me to get sick so i wouldn’t totally disagree with them. its not to late to give up on someone you love, there is always a way for love top be seen.
I do not have a significant other, but I do have my Boys. Not being able to hang with them has been rough but I've been able to play video games with them all day. This has brought up my moral a lot and I'm ok with the quarenteen.
I am not currently dating someone but I can relate to this type of situation. Because I really want to see my friends and to hangout with people instead of staying in my house all day. I have asked my parents to hangout with my friends before and they have told me no but I do not argue with them about it.
I would say if you are really in love then you can make it through this and I would say call each other everyday. Also to the parents I think you should let your kids go out one and awhile. Yes I would but only if they wear a mask and take precautions. Also the people they are going to see cannot be sick in any way.
I would say it has been a little stressful and difficult being in a relationship in the middle of the pandemic. I don't get to see my boyfriend all the time like I am used to, but I do get to go see him sometimes. I think that with us talking all day every day, it hasn't been as bad as it would've been if this happened before phones and social media, no access to each other. So I am grateful that I can still have some way to be with him everyday.
One of my best friends is not allowed out of the house because her parents want to keep her safe. My parents don’t mind who I hang out with but the girl I want to see most is stuck at home. I know her parents are mostly trying to keep her safe but it still feels so frustrating for us. We have used Netflix party and facetimed as well but it just doesn't feel the same.
My advice would be to just stick through it. Although it is difficult now, the rules your parents have are to keep you and your friends safe in this tricky time.
I would let my kid out if i was a parent. I think friendships are hard to maintain sometimes and being quarantined makes it even harder. I think seeing friends is a good way to keep your mental health where it needs to be and now is no exception.
I cannot relate to any of this article. I do not have a significant other, but I can hang out with my friends pretty much whenever I want. I feel bad for Ms. Valeii and her son for wasting so much time/energy following the stay at home order. It is really sad to see someone fall victim to the smudged numbers and unnecessary precautions. They are 15 years old making them not a deadly threat to the virus. A cough will go away but the time wasted away fro each other will never come back.
I currently get to see my boyfriend, but for the first few weeks (the end of March to the beginning of May) I didn’t get to see him. I never disagreed with my parents, if they said no I completely understood why. My advice to struggling teens: Just listen to your parents. You’ll get to see your boyfriend/girlfriend eventually. Don’t lose hope, the virus will go away soon!
I currently get to see my boyfriend, but for the first few weeks (the end of March to the beginning of May) I didn’t get to see him. I never disagreed with my parents, if they said no I completely understood why. My advice to any struggling teens: Just listen to your parents. You’ll get to see your boyfriend/girlfriend eventually. Don’t lose hope, the virus will go away soon!
I am not currently dating anyone so that aspect has not been a struggle for me. On the other hand, I have disagreed with my parents on the topic of hanging out with my friends. In the beginning I was not allowed to at all because they didn’t want me to get a ticket, it was hard to understand at first but not I understand. My advice would be to stay connected and keep communicating. That way you are still talking about your day and keeping the connection between the two. As far as families, I would say stay patient with each other. It is a stressful time, but getting frustrated will only make things seem longer and harder to handle.
I can relate to it because I can't see my girlfriend out of work. But our managers scheduled us the same to work together most of the time.idk, i feel like i get to see my girlfriend more than most of them, but it will go away soon. yes, because I haven't seen much effect from the virus. But if i was a parent i might have a different opinion because i would be at higher risk
I can relate to it because I can't see my girlfriend out of work. But our managers scheduled us the same to work together most of the time. idk, i feel like i get to see my girlfriend more than most of them, but it will go away soon. yes, because I haven't seen much effect from the virus. But if i was a parent i might have a different opinion because i would be at higher risk
I believe this mostly true but this only the better half their couples that could not overcome this and it's not only affecting us, teenagers, there couples breaking quarantine this not only a virus pandemic but a social pandemic
I have not been able to meet any of my friends in public or in private. It is confusing to me because my parents bring me and hang out with family and we have gone to see their friends and not mine. I have video chatted with friends and called but that is no the same as an in-person meeting.
I believe that if your teenager is in love and they want to see each other they should see each other maybe not every day but once a week. If you still want social distancing then back 2 cars up and sit on the back end and talk. I have never had a special other so I do not know everything that may feel but allow some sort of in-person connection would greatly help them.
If I was a Parent I would let them go see them but set a time of 2 to 3 hours and supervise from a distance and I know that may sound controlling but to keep both of the teenagers safe is to limit some of their time. But I would not say no after how long it has been for them and how much they may be hurting.
Advice I have for the teenage couples I read about is that things may be hard right now, but you should not give up on a relationship too easy. Things will get better eventually, and you do not want to regret giving up on a relationship just because of the distance. Advice for their families is that you should make sure that you are keeping your children safe, but you should also allow them some time to see their friends and significant others. Otherwise some serious social issues could come out of it, things such as anxiety and depression. So, families can have their restrictions on when to see friends and significant others, but they should not just say no to being able to see people that make your life better.
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Of course I relate to the article because I have a girlfriend named Alli, it was very difficult to transfer from seeing each other every day, to not seeing each other for over a month. We were only allowed to be together once school started because Alli is athletic and I needed someone to workout with for speed and strength. We still had to stay apart of course (we didn’t) until another month went by and we were finally allowed to hang out close to each other by our parents. I would have done the same thing if I was in the situation of my parents, the only difference is that I wouldn’t believe that they’re staying apart for so long.
The only part of the article I relate to his being able to only see your girlfriend. My parents for the first month and a half would only let me see my girlfriend, which isn’t bad. We are allowed to meet in person and I think we have seen each other everyday for the past two months, except for a couple of days. Our parents are pretty relaxed and do not mind us hanging out so it is very easy for us to keep and grow our connection. Overall I have not really disagreed with my parents about the situation, because currently it is benefiting me.
I’m currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We used to attend the same school together but his sophomore year he moved to Pennsylvania. When we started dating, back in July, we knew it was going to be hard. Little did we know that waiting 90 days before seeing each other next turned into 130+ days. With already having to cancel two trips to see each other, we are hoping our parents will agree to let me fly out and see him.
Currently I am not allowed to see my friends who I normally see when I am at school. But if I was a parent right now I would say no because there is a chance you could catch this virus. Even though I am very sad and jealous of others who get to see their friends, it's for the best that I don't get sick right now.
I am 18 years old and I live in Canada. I am an international student from China I met my girlfriend on a social platform, but we can't meet now because of the pandemic. I tried to want to meet with her because we live is not far away, I even want to secretly to see her at night, but my family doesn't allow me to go out, forcing me to stay at home, I would like to make up a reason to go to see her, but my family said that it will bring bad effects of the other children in the house because these are unpredictable, many things can only meet to solve it, I feel very powerless, many contradictions can't find a sensible solution, I am helpless in the face of the feelings at the moment.
I myself also have a significant other and we could not see each other for the first 30 days. We also went through tough times like the article said and we basically communicate through facetime and go for socially distanced walks. Relationships aren’t always going to be easy, so stick around and don’t give up on your partner. Like it said in the article, take these relationships seriously as a family. Yes I definitely would but with boundaries. There would still be restrictions on minimal touching and if it was an inside activity. I say that because I am teen and your family gets boring.
My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship which the pandemic has made really hard on us. Although we are used to not seeing each other everyday, before all this we were still able to cut out time to go visit each other, and obviously we haven’t been able to do that. With everything being so hectic in the airports we had to sit by and watch all the dates we’d planned to visit each other pass by without a second thought. We’ve definitely been missing each other like crazy during this pandemic, but I think we’re finally getting a handle on it. We facetime every night and talk about our days, watch shows, laugh, and etc. Finally, after five months of not seeing each other our parents have agreed to let my boyfriend come visit me for two weeks which is awesome! In the end, the extra distance was worth it because it’s made us closer and is making us appreciate the time we get to spend together even more than before.
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This whole pandemic has been such an eye opening experience and reminder to check in with our loved ones. I think we all learned to spend more time tuned in with the people around us rather than keeping our noses in your phones, and learned to never take in person conversations for granted again. Even though I am not in a relationship, I understand how difficult this must be for those who are. I think that this pandemic is like the ultimate test to see how strong couples are. I have seen many couples fall apart and struggle to stay loyal to each other during this time, but have also seen couples become even closer together. If you and your significant other make it through this together, I personally feel like you can make it through anything which is something you should look forward to. My advice would be to continue to communicate. We are so blessed to be able to talk to our loved ones with the technology we have today, even though it might not be the same as physically being with them. There's even a way for people to stream a movie on Netflix together and communicate on the side as well. There's so many things you can do even though it's not your first choice, but you just have to make the best out of it, push through, and remember things will get better.
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Older generations have always criticized teenager’s attachments to their devices, but now they have become an even more integral part in our lives- a life line to our sanity of sorts. As we endure this pandemic and seek to upkeep our social habits and our emotional needs, our screen times are through the roof. It’s not satisfying to me, nor is it for my boyfriend or friends. So now, as we have all been at home for 2 months, I look forward to going on walks. I beg my parents and he begs his and we are fortunate enough to be able to see each other, and in such a beautiful environment at that. Stealing away for hikes seems to me as the least risk involved interaction, and for us touch deprived teenagers, necessary to remain content. We long for sitting in fast food joints and going over to each others houses, but we thrive in the lack of pressure to socialize now. I adore seeing a few friends at a time promoting a more intimate and relaxed atmosphere. Essentially surviving a long distance relationship is a testament to my friendships and my relationship, and it just makes me appreciate and love them all the more. I cannot wait to embrace them all when this nightmare is over, and never again take a night out for granted.
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Some advice that I have for distanced couples is this: Communicate constantly, whether it's texting, emailing, facetime, or letters, just don’t give up on one another. Love is worth fighting for, and if you truly love someone, you will do whatever it takes to have them in your life. These past couple months have been hard, but your bond and the love you share for each other is stronger, so fight for love and hold onto it until you can meet again.
Older generations have always criticized teenager’s attachment to our devices, but now they have become an even more integral part in our lives- a life line to our sanity of sorts. As we endure this pandemic and seek to upkeep our social habits and our emotional needs, our screen times are through the roof. It’s not satisfying to me, nor is it for my boyfriend or friends. So now, as we have all been at home for 2 months, I look forward to going on walks. I beg my parents and he begs his and we are fortunate enough to be able to see each other, and in such a beautiful environment at that. Stealing away for hikes seems to me as the least risk involved interaction, and for us touch deprived teenagers, necessary to remain content. We long for sitting in fast food joints and going over to each others houses, but we thrive in the lack of pressure to socialize now. I adore seeing a few friends at a time promoting a more intimate and relaxed hangout. Essentially surviving a long distance relationship is a testament to my friendships and my relationship, and it just makes me appreciate and love them all the more.
I think it is really important for people to do what they feel they are most comfortable with. Everyone has to decide for themselves if they are going to be around other people or not. You can stay in your home and have no contact with other people, and still end up getting this virus. Living in a bubble does not prevent you from getting Covid. My family feels that if we get the virus we will be able to build up immunity. Also my family knows that God is in control and we have faith to rely on His path for our lives. Eventually we will all get Covid at some point in our lives. We feel it is important to be careful and cautious but not live in a bubble.
I can understand their feelings, I am also upset with the pandemic because I can’t see my friends. My parents allow me to meet my best friend. Recently, it was my friend's birthday, my friend came to our house, we had a little party for our two small families. We sat on my bed and watched the movie. My mom is in contact with her mom very day and we trust each other that they have the same rules as us, so we feel safe together. Here in Canada, it is safer because we have less cases, however, we still have to be careful. In my group of friends, if the parents don’t know each other, they will not let the kids hang out together, even if there are a couple. I think my mom should let me go a bubble tea shop near my school with my friends, but she won’t let me.
This pandemic has affected everyone in so many different ways. If anything, this should be a reminder of how important it is to check in on your loved ones. My advice would be to continue talking and engaging in every way possible, and to continue to make your significant other feel loved. For many, social distancing could be the biggest trial of a relationship. If couples can make it through something as serious as this, It will only bring them closer.
Even though I am not dating anyone, I miss hanging out with my friends and doing the crazy fun night we have. We have all been able to stay inside and play video games with each other all day so we are still all communicating and virtually hanging out. I agree with my parents being cautious with what I do during these times due to having a health condition that I have that was listed in the be extra careful list. My advice to teenage couples is to have a talk with their significant other and plan something out that works during these crazy times in case you cannot see each other. To the parents, you should open your homes to your children's significant other and family because your child should be able to see another face that is not blood related and be able to talk about topics that children sometimes aren’t comfortable to talk to parents about. If I was a parent I would let my child go to other people's houses or have friends over and that is it. During these times I wouldn’t let them go out in public due to having a higher risk. I say that because children get tired of their parents and some have closer relationships with them then others. Parents are flexible in other categories where others are and may anger the child if they’re around them too much and make them angry.
Even though I am not currently in a relationship, I do understand their struggles. When the lock down first started I was extremely upset with my parents for not letting me leave my house to see my friends. As time went on and my parents have gone back to work, they now let me hangout with small groups of people outside of houses. My best advice to those who still can’t leave their houses is to stay in touch! FaceTime, iMessage, and Snapchat are always a great way to stay in touch over the phone! Don’t give up because a lot of people are currently going through the same struggles! If I were a parent I would allow my child to go out to see friends. I know how important it is to stay in touch and how negatively it can affect mental health. As long as they are being safe and staying away from others, I don’t see a problem with it.
It must be so hard not to see someone that you love. Yes there are ways to communicate but it is not the same as seeing that person in person. I would say to the families understand that it’s not easy especially since we are young. Teenage relationships are new, exciting, and one of the best parts of growing up. Understand that it is hard and we need your love and support during this hard time. I do think Mrs. Valeii understands; She feels like a monster because she has to constantly remind her son of the rules, and even though she did not create them. She feels obligated as a mother to inform them, no matter how much it may hurt her. I like to believe all parents feel crushed that they can not help their children during this difficult time. I have not seen my best friend since my birthday in March and we have been on lockdown since then. I have not seen her in months and I remember almost crying to my mom about it. At that moment, looking in her eyes I could see how terrible she felt. There is nothing she or other parents could do except hug their children and try everything in their power to bring them joy again.
I am not dating anyone, but if I were to, my parents would not allow me to meet them in person. I would suggest creatively finding ways to connect. A lot of people are writing letters and using Face Time. I think sending care packages is an excellent idea. The advice I would give to their families is that it is okay to be frustrated and communication is important. I would calmly address the situation to my teenager. I would discuss the pros and cons of seeing their friends and significant others. I would mention my suggestion that it is risky to see people in person because respiratory viruses are very contagious. I would listen to their concerns or suggestions. I would compose a compromise that best fits the situation. I think Ms. Valeii understands her son’s emotions. She says she feels like a monster because she feels unsuccessful in the role of a protector. I interpret that line as Ms. Valeii is struggling between protecting her son and her son’s frustration. I think a lot of parents feel that way about rules and the difficulties their children face social-distancing measures. I think a lot of parents find it difficult balancing the role of the protector and meeting the wants of their children.
i relate with the way that it feels like every single thing in my life has been taken away and i had no moment to adjust. i went from seeing my partner daily at school, our shared sport, and hanging out to not seeing her at all. we had no moment where i could acknowledge it’d be the last moment of physical affection for at least 3 months. i went from practicing my sport daily then we had nothing between normal life to “your season is cancelled”. school was taken away and i think a lot of the advanced/ap kids can relate to this one: when they cancelled school teachers immediately jumped on us with a crazy amount of work. i had no moment to adjust and figure out how to remote learn, it was sink or swim for myself and my gpa. i got my drivers license the day before california got shut down. i know it’s trivial but i’ve dreamed about this period of time for months since my first attempt at the test. the summer was supposed to be so nice cause i now had the access to a license which is a huge deal when you live in the suburbs and nothing is in walking distance. since the pandemic i’ve taken drives alone to no where cause that’s the only time i can be alone. i miss the solidarity of sitting in my home alone, just being able to decompress in beautiful silence. and i miss not having to play homeschool teacher for my sisters. i think overall i miss the solidarity of even just the half hour i got each day and i miss physical affection. but i know this pandemic will come to an end.
I can relate to wanting to see peers, and not being able to. I have several friends that it would be nice to see and some of them even continue to hangout. I don’t disagree with my parents because my Dad works in an ER which makes him more susceptible to contracting COVID. As weeks pass and COVID diminishes my parents will become more lenient.
Some advice that I would give to other teens is that this is hard, but try to keep yourselves as occupied as possible to somewhat suppress the pain in not seeing your significant other. For their families, if your teen has an opportunity to see their S.O. personally, please let them see each other otherwise, the pain that they feel would only get worse.
I was dating someone during quarantine and we were not allowed to meet in person, because his parents were not allowing it. I did agree with my parents, because they were letting me after a couple weeks of quarantine. I mean you got to do what you have to do. If your parents won't let you go out you have to get more creative. I would not for the first few weeks, because it's new and I would try to help stop the spread as much as I can, but where we are now with quarantine, I would let my kids go out because they are still kids.
My advice would be to make plans for after quarantine so that they have something to look forward to. I would also really exaggerate the point of making sure there is a lot of communication so that no one in the relationship feels left out.
I can relate to being used to seeing your friends and cherished people every day. Suddenly not having the ability to see the people you are used to seeing every day is tough. Though, I haven’t disagreed with the current regulations and rules and I personally think that we need to just tough this situation out. My advice is to just make the most of the situation. If you can, you can Face time the people you like to talk to and, if safe, perhaps see them every once in a while. I would be very skeptical and would want to take the safest route. It would all really depend on the situation I was in, like if my child could really be affected if they were to get the virus. Overall, I probably wouldn’t let them go out much. This is mainly for their own safety. I think she does understand her son's emotions; it’s obvious that she truly feels sad for him and that she wants him to just be happy. I think she feels like a monster because she’s the one keeping him home, and it is bothering him a lot. I think that most parents should take this cautious approach and play it safe.
I advise teenagers to take advantage of the amazing thing that is FaceTime. This is what saved our relationship in my opinion. It’s the best option that we had with the circumstances that we were under.
To their families, ease up on them just a little. At the end of the day, even though they are kids THEY STILL HAVE STRONG, VALID FEELINGS. Allow them to hangout outside while practicing social distancing, it’s the least you could do as a parent.
I don’t really relate to any of them because I am not dating anyone but I guess it’s similar to what happens with my friends. Now in Spain we can hang out with people so my parents are not worried about that. I would advice to the to try to talk to them everyday or facetime them, but also be socially responsible with the situation. I think their parents have the right to decide if the teenagers can see each other. I don’t think I would let my teenager see their significant others until the government explains that it is safer to hang out but I know my teenager would be mad about it. But, we all should be practicing social distancing.
Although I cannot relate to anything in this article because I have been able to go and see who I want when I want I am bale to give some input of people who are going through relationships right now. Some advice that I would give to teenage couples during this time is to not make impulsive decisions. If a fight or disagreement happens do not be quick to jump the gun. Disagreements can happen with a lot of time apart and seeing each other again in person can make that disagreement disappear. I would also say to try and remain connected as best as possible while giving each other some space. Do not try to FaceTime every hour of the day because your significant other may want to do something else.
I relate to a lot that's happening in this article. I do miss my friends, but I miss my boyfriend as well. At the beginning of this quarantine my parents were really tight on the rules and I wasn’t to go ANYWHERE or see ANYBODY. In May, it was my boyfriend's birthday. After nearly 2 months of being locked up with no interaction, my parents started loosening up the reins, and let me go see him. After his birthday, I was pretty much allowed to hangout with whoever, just not in a big group of people. All in all, I don’t think that this pandemic should hold your relationship accountable for breaking up, and I don’t think you should let it hold that power over you. Breaking up vs staying together is no different, you would still not be able to see each other, and the breakup would add onto that emotional damage. This isn’t a permanent thing, and it will be over soon. Just fight through it and find alternative ways to keep in touch.
The one advice I'd give Jessica and her girlfriend would to just make the best out of every situation, including this one. You can still make memories and you can still enjoy each other's time through different platforms, like calling each other, writing letters and video chatting. Think about those who do long distance already, if they can do it, then Jessica you can too. If you guys truly like each other, then you would do anything to keep your relationship afloat, even if it means taking a break from each other and giving each other space during something like this. Relationships are not always meant to be lovey dovey, like portrayed in the media, especially during a time like this. It’s okay to go through quarrels together, it just makes what you guys have stronger. As for the families, these are sensitive times and if your kid wants space then give it to them. Find an in between to what's okay and what's not okay.
I believe its time for us to start migrating back into society. There are obviously limits but this virus is dying and we’ve already flattened the curve, so I believe it's okay to start seeing each other again because it's not okay to be locked away this long.
There was some drama going on in my friend groups about dating. I remember my two friends were about to go on a date but quarantine screwed them over. They said they were going to date long distance but the reality of it caught up to them. The thrill of dating someone just wasn't there, and they split up. I shouldn't lie, those two friends had the exact same situation as me. Those two friends are in the exact same situation as probably many other couples in quarantine right now. Me and those two friends didn't have it nearly as bad as the ones in this article, but we understand what those people are going through and it is hard. We all wish we could see them once again, even just friends, but we can't. But it is for the better, to be honest.
I relate to disagreeing with my mom about the social distancing part. At first I didn’t really get why we were social distancing so much. We even started social distancing before the stay at home order was even a thought. Now, I do get it. I think that it is very important to social distance. I still see my boyfriend once a week, but we keep the rules. I think that what my parents did was a good thing. It is better to be too safe, then to be sick.
I think it can be really hard not being able to see those that you love the most, especially since the weather is starting to get nicer, which makes it even harder to stay inside. I would tell the teenage couples to stay strong, and keep fighting. Eventually restrictions will become loser and things will go back to somewhat normal, so just keep thinking of that and being optimistic. I would tell the families to really listen and take into consideration what their teenagers are saying, think from their perspective and then assess the situation.
One aspect that I can relate to is how it feels to miss someone you are close too. Having to be apart from a person that you share a special bond with can be tough mentally and can affect your emotions. Even if you are apart, stay connected somehow.Being without a way to connect with your significant other during this time will make it especially hard on a relationship. As for the families, try to support them as much as possible. An act as simple as this might go a long way. Yes I would. I feel like being able to connect with others during this time will improve your emotions and help teenagers stay sane. For a lot of teenagers a friend or significant other is an outlet that helps them cope with tough times.
I relate to not be able to hang out with anyone my age really. It has been tough but I have managed to convince my parents to let me go on bike rides with friends and be able to play basketball with them as well.I disagree with my parents on allowing me to go over to my friends houses. I feel like if I know the person is not sick and they are stuck inside there really is no way of getting covid.
Even though I am not dating anyone, I can relate to others when they said they miss meeting each other in person. I miss hanging out with my friends. I have had to resort to texting my friends since my parents don’t allow me to see them in person. Although I understand that my parents are trying to keep me safe by not allowing me to see any of my friends in person, it has been difficult to adjust to this new lifestyle of staying home. I think that Ms. Valeii does understand her son’s emotions and she knows that it is hard to adjust to this new lifestyle, especially with no transition period. She says she feels like a monster because she is not allowing her son to see others. She realises that this makes her son upset and she feels very guilty when she has to make her son stay home. When she says that she is mostly afraid of traversing the in-between, I think she means that she very hesitant to allow her son to see his significant other because there is a great risk that he gets sick. She might be afraid that she would let him see his significant other when everything may feel safe enough, but he might still get sick. My parents do not feel the same way about upholding the rules. Having to stay home does not bother me that much, but it does start to get boring sometimes and I think that my parents are aware of that. If things seems to be relaxing, though, they still might be hesitant to let me go out.
Although I am not dating, one thing that I relate to from the article is trying to stay connected with friends through the internet. I am constantly playing games online with friends and chatting through social media. Some advice for the teens is that they should try their best to cooperate with their parents. If they say they can’t go out, then let it be. Majority of them have some sort of technology, and they should be taking advantage of that. For the parents, I get that they worry, but they should give their kids freedom in what they want to do. If they want to travel, make a compromise like once every 2 weeks. If I were their parents I would let them go out to see friends. I believe that at their age, they should be given freedom in what they want to do, especially if they can drive themselves. I do believe that Ms. Valeii understands her son’s emotions because she stated early in her essay that every time she has to reinforce the social distancing rule, she feels the guilt behind it. I think that she said she feels like a monster because she is truly unhappy seeing her son so unpleasant. That she is the main reason why her son is so unhappy. I think the line means that she is worried that her son keeps getting more frustrated while she is only trying to protect him.
I started dating someone the day before lockdown began. At first we called each other a lot and texted each other every day. Our parents allowed us to see each other a few times in person. It was difficult, and we broke up about two weeks ago. I think it would have lasted longer if we were not in quarantine. I relate to the part about seeing people being important for mental health. The days that I don’t go anywhere I feel trapped, and my anxiety can easily take over. At first my mom and I disagreed because I wanted to go places and she would not let me. She realized this was not going to end anytime soon, and she feels it is too extreme to be completely isolated, so now I am allowed to see a few of my friends.
I am not dating anyone, but I can relate because I miss seeing my friends. It's hard having to stay at home all the time, but I do understand the reasons behind it. My parents were really strict about staying home in the beginning, but now with the order being in place for almost 2 months they are starting to let me see my friends again. I feel like my parent have been being a little overprotective but with good reasoning.
I can relate to the fact that my parents have been strict in going out and hanging out with people. I started hanging out with my neighbors at the beginning of the pandemic but my parents were not really cool with that, which I understand why. I'm not in a relationship so I can't relate to not seeing my significant other. As for couples and friends, I've been seeing lots of people hang out in small groups at parks, beaches, and houses. But for me, I facetime and text my friends now and then, but I haven’t been asked to hang out with anyone, allowing me to social distance at home. Overall, my parents would rather have me staying safe and healthy. For teenagers who are social distancing by staying home and talking to friends online or through social media, keep doing what you’re doing. For teenagers or anyone that are going out to interact with others, I would say please ask your parents first, and if they say no, please listen to them because they want what’s best for you, which is to stay safe and healthy. If they say yes, please keep a safe distance from others (6 feet) and wear a mask when going into public places. Remember to your wash hands with warm water and soap to keep yourself clean, safe, and healthy. Please consider all your options before making a decision. This pandemic is a situation that we did not see coming and we should do what is best to keep everyone safe so, in the future, we can share and create moments with the ones that we love and care for.
I understand how these young couples are feeling, it's annoying. I have been allowed to meet with some of my friends, so the rules in my household are a bit looser. My advice for teenage couples is to not stress so hard over being apart, there are many ways you can stay connected and happy. I understand the physical or together aspect of a relationship is important, it isn’t a necessity, and maybe if you or your partner thinks that it is, that will help you evaluate your relationship. Use this time to think as well, whether it’s about plans for after quarantine, or just connect with and learn more about yourself. If I was a parent, I would let my child go out, not to super public areas, but if they were just with one or two friends and stayed safe I would feel better about them leaving the house. I can also say that I don’t have a child and I would also expect my answer to be different if I did, being protective is completely understandable and I get why my parents were more strict during the start of the pandemic. I believe that Ms. Valeii understands her sons emotions, but still wants to keep him safe. She feels like a monster because she can’t assist her son in this pandemic, she knows he feels frustrated to have his plans shut down, especially when you’re young. The way I interpret that line is that she is scared of how her son is going to react to her following the rules and trying to keep him safe.
I don’t truly know how to answer that seeing as I’m not dating
I can relate to the couple not being allowed to see each other because of the pandemic and social distancing, because I am not allowed to see my significant other, and it’s not that I have disagreed with my mother about it I just don’t ask because I know its a solid “No” even before this pandemic occurred. My advice for them would be to simply just have hope and find some activities to kill time with, and if they know they have something real going then they shouldn’t have to worry, as far as their families, just to try be understanding and put themselves in their shoes. Friends come and go, but if my teenager knew they had something special with that person then yes I would but only to their house and vice versa with hygienic precautions.
Although it is hard for me to understand all of this because I am not in a relationship, I still feel the same way because of missing out on fun adventures with my friends and my extracurriculars. I know it is tough sometimes not being able to be together but the advice I would give would be to not give up and continue to have hope that things are going to be okay. Also find something that you are passionate about at home and find ways to facetime and do things together through technology like reading a book, watching a show, or even playing a game together!
I believe social distancing has changed certain teens. Some teens have realized the severity of the pandemic and choose to stay inside and take all the safety precautions. While on the other hand, there are still teens that have not taking it serious at all. Teens are still deciding to go to parties with way more than 10 people there. Also are going to places without masks and touching random objects.
When I was dating my boyfriend in the beginning of that stay at home order it was very hard because my parents would not let me see him at all. But after 2-3 weeks my parents allowed him to come over. I was feeling pretty sad so I decided to break up with my boyfriend and it was the hardest thing I have ever done. My parents have allowed some of my closer friends over and have been easing the situation as time goes by. For teenage couples, keep communicating and stay active together even if you aren’t side by side. This will help out situations a lot better if you didn’t talk with each other. Make a plan to do something creative like how Jessica and her girlfriend wrote each other letters. With families, I get that they can get pretty annoying especially siblings. I have a younger sister and I have to be around her all the time during this pandemic. I suggest playing more games or eating more with your family and have more bonding time. For example, my mom and I work out together everyday and my sister and I made some dog collars out of rubber bands for our dog that just had puppies.
I do think Ms. Valeii understands her son’s emotions. She seems to understand how hard it is to transfer into not seeing anyone so fast. No warning or “transition”. I think she says she feels like a monster because like she said, she is the enforcer of the rules. Her son can beg and beg but his mom makes the choice and as much as she wants him to be able to see his significant other she also wants to keep him safe. I think she means that she is afraid of hurting her son because there is a risk either way. He goes and sees his significant other, there is a risk of getting sick. He says home and there is a risk of mental health issues. Yes, I think my parents feel that way too. It’s hard to keep everyone happy and safe and your parents are responsible for how they go about that. It’s a lot of pressure on them to make the “right” choice.
I don't really relate to anything, I'm currently not dating someone. Just go hang out, because all though this is dangerous the chances of you getting it are pretty low and its not worth losing your teen love life in my opinion. Yeah, I'd trust them to be safe enough to stay together and obviously just do whatever they want with precaution. Id probably make them wear a mask when in public though.
Although I’m not dating anyone, I can connect or the fact that I do miss my friends. Adding on, I’m also separate from my father at this time and a lot of times I want to go see him, though my family says otherwise. Luckily, my father comes over from buying groceries so that’s at least something. And so my advice for teenagers is that it may be a rough time, but there’s always a way to communicate - FaceTime, letters, whatever, just don’t think it’s over and give up. And if I were a parent, I’d probably allow their significant other come over if they’re careful and probably because I can’t get over the guilt, allow my child as well if they too are careful. However, I don’t think I can allow them to go out every time to just see their friends as a significant other is a different story. And lastly I don’t really think Ms. Valeii knows what his son is thinking. Nobody does besides the son himself. But I do think Ms. Valeii is on the right track however in her thinking.
I do not relate to the first question because I am not dating anyone. My step brother is though and they are struggling because they cannot see each other in person. They do however talk on facetime for hours on end every single day. Responding to the second question, I think it is equally important to stay safe and be able to spend time together. However there are people who do not share my view. For those who don’t believe that safety and quality time with a significant other are equally important I say only this. Compromise! That's right, a compromise can be found for any scenario regardless of the seriousness of that scenario. Finally, for the third question I would say yes I would allow my kid/s to go out. As long as "proper safety precautions" are taken there really is nothing to worry about.
I can relate to the article, on the fact that it's difficult to have so much taken from you at once. As a junior, I lost my last Interim trip, prom, and the opportunity to see my friends. My parents are strict to the stay at home order rules, so I can't go out at all. What makes the situation worse is that the only way to talk to my friends is via social media, where a lot of them are posting about hanging out with friends during quarantine, which I am unable to do. My advice to the couples would be to keep doing what you're doing, because it's probably the best you've got for now. For the parents, Let them see each other, but make sure it's a low risk situation, because this hits us all hard, so try to make it easier for them.
It has changed not only dating but life now and years after this, I think politics have ramped this up way to much and it's not good for our health, were being weird about this whole thing, the first couple months everyone is scared to go out, but now were bored so we feel like doing whatever we want.
As a single pringle, It is hard for me to think of this. At the same time I can, I have a lot of friends that are in serious relationships. It is most likely a hard time, especially with the lockdown circumstances, and quarantine. The couples I know are always in touch with each other, they will Facetime, text, and I know some go on social distancing walks. They will send each other letters, gifts, and stand outside out of their house just to see them. All this chaotic news, makes the couples miss each other more, and more eager to be with each other. I would tell the couples not to give up because it is currently very difficult on us; Emotionally, and mentally.
I think couples still spend quality time together during this time. I believe most people make way to see their significant other especially if they know they aren't sick. The things you can do outside the house are limited because of lockdown but couples still play games, watch Netflix, cook, and even workout together during this time.
I would say I relate to the article “Miss Your Friends? Try...” because I am also in a relationship. My girlfriend and I used to only be able to hang out outside a couple times a week, but after a couple months both our parents were cool with us hanging out inside again as well. I actually have agreed a lot with my parents' decisions, they have been very fair and understanding during this quarantine. My advice to families would be to spend more time with each other and get to know each other more. Fortunately, I have been able to spend a lot more time with my family throughout this pandemic. For couples I would say to stick together, find new ways to have fun and know that this is only temporary. Also if they are not able to hang out just know that their parents just want to keep them safe.
If I were a parent, I would let my children go out only once a week. Before they go out, I want to make sure they wear face masks and bring hand sanitizers. I would have restriction but not absolute restriction, so my teenager would not feel insufferable.
All my friends are in serious relationships. This may be a hard time to maintain your relationship considering the fact that people are in quarantine and states are on lockdown. Couples can't go out. However from what I have been able to see, the social distancing orders makes coupes eager to go out together again and it makes couples miss each others presence more. Being on the phone often and video calls make social distancing a little easier.
If I were a parent, I would not let my teenager go outside during quarantine unless I knew the person they were going to the house and their parents were also okay with it. Even though I want to be a responsible parent and a good one, I also want to allow my kids to have fun and live their life as a teenager like I once did before. I don't really know if I would let my teenager see his or her significant other because I might not know what they are specifically doing or are planning on doing. I say all these things because being a responsible parent means I have to think the best for my children and what I can do to ensure that they live a healthy and safe life, even if it means doing things they don't agree with.
Yes, I strongly relate to this article I am currently in a relationship with my girlfriend of a year. I have been lucky enough to see her a select few times, I hurt for the other couples whose interactions have been hindered by Covid-19. I have disagreed with my parents, we both have, while I do firmly believe quarantine is important, when neither of us have left the house since March it begins to feel unreasonable. Though I do understand that this is unknown territory for all who are experiencing this.
I would let my child go see their friends and significant other. I believe this virus is more of a political push by the government to push ideals that were previously shut down when things were “normal” rather than a serious concern. Look at the other viruses that we have had that were nearly as bad as Corona is perceived.
I am allowed to meet with my boyfriend but not allowed to go inside. We can go for walks or get takeout to eat outside together but nothing else. I disagree with my parents about it but they won’t let us until the order lifts.
I would tell teenage couples to not give up. There are other ways to have fun besides being next to each other. You can still FaceTime or Skype call each other, everyday if you wanted to. You can write notes, sends gifts, watch Netflix watch parties, start your own book club, send each other new recipes, play iMessage games, the possibilities are endless. You just need to get creative.
My boyfriend and I used to hang out almost everyday. But when the coronavirus first locked us in our homes, I was no longer allowed to see him. My parents were worried that he would bring the virus into our home and it might make my younger siblings very sick. Now after a lot of convincing, I am allowed to see my boyfriend usually once or twice a week. At first, my parents were still uncomfortable with the idea. So my boyfriend and I had to stay outside and away from my younger siblings. Now, my parents have gotten more comfortable with the idea of my boyfriend and I hanging out. So he is allowed to come inside now. We watch movies and play with my younger siblings.
I do relate to them. I have a girlfriend that I'm not allowed to see because of our parents' restrictions. I barely get out of the house at all and it's lonely all the time. I think that total separation is a bad idea for the parents to keep them under. High School students are some of the most stressed people on earth and keeping us away from the people we care about kills us. But for the teenagers, understand that your parents just want to keep you safe.
I relate to the teenagers in this article because I have a boyfriend and it's really hard not being able to see him. I’m not allowed to meet him in person at all because my family is keeping a strict quarantine and even though I really don’t like it I don’t disagree with it. It's hard not being able to see family and friends but it’s more important to keep everyone safe.
From the article “Miss Your Friends? Try…” I definitely relate to the mentioned teenagers and their parents. My parents like so many of theirs are being extremely cautious and not allowing me to see friends as well as if I was in a relationship, my boyfriend in person. I don’t necessarily disagree with them as I understand the severity of the situation; though, it can be easy to get discouraged when you see others hanging out. I think soon as restrictions loosen up I will be able to practice social distancing and see my friends which gives me a ton of hope!
I'm not in a relationship and neither are my two closest friends, It's been hard enough to not see them because I before I used to see them all the time. Through this quarantine, I've found myself less interested in guys. Like I'll find some dude attractive or whatever but I won't go out of my way to speak to anyone or even think about relationships. I just miss my friends, and I wish I could have fun with them and mess around, the longer this quarantine goes the less interested I get. I think part of it is because I can't go out and see people or talk to people as much as I could before without really getting bored, so all I do is read these terrible things or see people saying stupid things and it makes me not want to talk to anyone.
I am not dating anyone but I do get to see a couple close friends and neighbors. When we see each other, we do not stay 6 feet apart, but we do not hug or share food. I think this interaction is good in an area with relatively low cases to keep immune systems from plummeting. My family has mostly let me make my own decisions on who I see or what I do. I don't think that seeing a significant other should be forbidden because it could just be looked at as extended family.
I am not dating anyone but I do have a lot of friends who I haven’t been able to hangout with a lot. There are a few specific friends that my parents allow me to hangout with because I’ve been around them a lot. I am not allowed to have sleepovers which I disagree with my parents frequently about because if they are letting me hangout with them in the first place I do not see the issue with me being able to spend the night.
I'm relating to this situation by not being able to see my best friend, I've never dated anyone before so I can't give a solid response on how to handle not being able to see your partner. But I can only assume it's not the same talking on the phone all the time rather in person. I've agreed with my Aunt on many situations but I did have to push a little just to go to the park to see my best friend, yet there's still so many rules I have to follow and I understand! Like wearing my mask, staying a safe distance apart, the typical. Nobody knows exactly how to handle this situation since it's a first time for many, the most parents can do is try to meet their kids in the middle. However if I had a child dealing with this situation I'd also implement rules such as my family did, I'd never want to keep my child trapped at home and sad but I'd still have to make sure they're safe. But I still think teens have to realize that the rules were put in place for a reason, it's hard but it's just something we have to deal with until it's over. Hopefully most can still be in contact with their friends and partner.
I relate to this because not being able to see my friends or my girl Natalie. But I know the risks of hanging out and coming in contact with people and possible getting the virus. That's why I have agree with my parents on this one since they both are working in the hospitable. As for families my best advise and even me and my family going through this is to stay positive and help each other in need and go out and exercise and get so fresh air and just relax. I would let my teen go out but social distance and where a mask so that it prevent some of the toxic air that is circulating, as well know who their hanging out with and if their friends have been in lock down too to show that they haven't been out often and only to see certain people. While people go out it it makes it harder for the virus to stop spreading and affecting more lifes.
Sometimes I am allowed to meet people in person, but there is a limit on how many I can see a day. I wish to not argue with my parents because this is fair. Honestly, I have no Idea what its like to not see your significant other for a long time, but yes If I were a parent, I would definitely let my teenager go out to see friends. but there has to be a limit on how many per day she can see. Just like how my parents are doing it.
I relate to not being able to see a lot of my friends because of the danger it may bring. I am not dating anyone and have agreed with my parents most of the time on the situation. I think that the teenagers need to realize what the big picture really is and how they can be selfish sometimes. I think families should listen to their children and figure out what is best for everyone at that point in time. If I were a parent, I would let my teen go out during quarantine because social distancing and constant sanitation makes immune systems weak. While we think that we are protecting ourselves, in reality we are making ourselves more vulnerable.
I have never been in a relationship ( after all I'm only 14 and that's not high on my priority list) but I have seen lots of troubles with friends (Girls especially ). Lots of girls have been leaving others out in text and some of them I am not surprised they would do that. They text cruel things to each other. I've even seen it with my sister (10 years old). We just need to stop and grow up people. If you are one of those mean girls one day you're going to be mean to the wrong person and there going to fight back.
What I got from this article is that it's really hard for all of us. Not being able to see are friends and not being able to hangout but you know why we can’t because I see on people's story all the time that there hanging out with friends not listing to the rules and they don’t care well guess what your whole summer has just been canceled because 4th of july has been canceled and coast guard has been canceled so to anyone who was out thinking it was a good idea not to listen there's your summer for you. And that makes me so frustrated even though I can still go boating this year of boating never going to be the same for us and we can’t do anything about it because we couldn’t just stay home so Tbh this is on the teenagers a little bit.
My advice would be that distance can often help relationships and bonds become stronger and although it seems awful in the moment, it will truly help in the long run. It also gives the individual's time to focus on themselves. For their parents I would say it is 100% their decision whether or not their child sees their significant other, however, I believe life is short and that they should be able to see their boyfriend or girlfriend.
@Avery Drennan I totally agree with you, life is short. I feel it could strengthen relationships as well and help each person to focus on themselves. I would want to see the person I was in a relationship when I possibly could.
At the start of this all my dad wouldn't let me out of the house unless i was going to get food. But now i'm basically allowed to do whatever. It was hard for my girlfriend when we had to go two weeks without seeing each other in person. I was alright with it though, because we hung out everyday before then, and it was a nice break and I got back into my training full time and got into shape. Now we see each other everyday except for the days I need to do my homework. It has made quarantine pretty great and keeps me from going crazy. My advice is do what you feel is best to stay safe and healthy, maybe have both families get tested for corona and limit the people you both interact with. I considered doing this then I watched youtube videos on how you get tested and it didn't look so pleasant, so my girlfriend and I decided to just take the risk. If i were a parent I would definitely not let my child out to see their friends or significant others. I say this because as a teenager I see most kids are not listening to a single rule and meeting up in large groups going all over and hanging with everyone. So to keep my family safe i would say no to going out just to be safe.
I believe that Quarantine has indeed changed the way people handle their relationships. People are not able to leave their homes and spend time with their significant others. They will have to communicate on the phone. Communication is very important in a relationship. Talking to your significant other over the phone is the best way to make sure that them and you are safe.
To be honest i rather have my child out doing stuff then being stuck at home because when your at home all the time what are you accomplishing nothing so when your out with your friends you can go do someone like take a walk or drive around. But on the good side to stay safe and healthy i also wouldnt go be around them because they might have older parents that could catch and if you can you can just ft call
Some advice I would give teen couples is to stay in communication with each other. It can be really hard at this time in our world but even if you can’t see them face to face, being able to text or facetime is just as good. I feel like when I talk to be friends, it starts to feel normal again even if I can’t see them in person. It can also help you if you have fears about the virus and our world. To have people to talk to can really help. Advice for the families would be to try and understand that teenage couples are going through this just as hard or even harder than their family members are. Most parents have jobs to go to as their everyday thing, but teens have school where they interact with their friends and significant others. If your teen needs some space, be okay with giving it to them. They are most likely going to cope with this change in a different way that their family would.
Even though I am not in a relationship, I have experienced struggles through my friends. In my opinion, communication is essential when committing to a relationship. Because of quarantine restrictions, friends have not been able to see each other. This leaves talking through social media or via text messaging which can be toxic for any relationship. Not being able to see each other in person can put a strain on relationships and eventually lead to heartbreak. In my opinion, quarantine is not the best time to be in a committed relationship.
In my experience, I grew closer with my best friend and it eventually turned into something more. I find that having more time to talk to each other, and not be with one another, has made it super easy to connect. Although I miss everyone that I can't be with, distance makes the heart grow fonder.
I personally am not in a relationship at this time but I could imagine what it would be like. I imagine it would be a lot of facetiming, maybe some activities that are 6 feet apart, and for the parents who are not strict the couple will probably still be able to hang out.
I’ve been in a thing / relationship during this and it’s fine we go on bike rides we face time and we still get social time if you have a will to be with that person you will make it easy to see that person and it shows that even tho there’s a virus you still wanna see them
I'm not in a relationship but my brother apparently has "no relationship" at least that's what he says. Anyways the only way they can talk is through video calling and texting. They still sort of go on dates together. They just can’t leave the house, what I mean is they play video games and watch movies together. It is hard for them to not get to see each other face to face but they actually are getting even more time to spend with each other. Without worrying about school they can have a call that will last them all the way until one in the morning. I admit it gets annoying sometimes especially when they are very loud at night but I least they are having fun through these hard times.
I am not in a relationship, but I did have a thing with this guy. I ended it though, quarantine got in the way and I just realized I don't need to be in a relationship anytime soon. If I was in a relationship my parents wouldn't let me go see him or hangout. They barely let me go out for a run or outside with my neighbor to have a conversation. It bothers them mainly because of this pandemic. People nowadays just mess with each other's feelings and are looking to have fun, not many want a serious relationship at the moment like these couples who have been dating for quite some time. “The coronavirus pandemic has prevented many teenagers from being able to see their significant others in person”. Reading about these couples and the way they feel after seeing their significant others makes me happy for them, it reminds of a romance movie or show. When the characters see each other after being apart for so long, it's cute. It makes me glad there's people in relationships getting through this pandemic together one way or another whether it be facetime or going over. I think this pandemic really tests how strong people's relationships are, some may get through it while others can't handle it and break up. I think that says something about a person if they aren't able to handle it. Then again that is my opinion.
@Alondra, I agree with you the pandemic has ruined some relationships. But the ones it hasn't ruined will grow stronger from it. I'm sorry to hear that your relationship didn't work out. At the very least you can still be friends while going through these hard times.
Quarantine sucks.
Since the quarantine me and my significant other, who I have been dating for almost three years, haven't been able to see each other in person at all. Both of our parents aren't letting us go out anywhere except to either pick up groceries or go to the store.
Luckily we live in a time where facetime, zoom, and other live video calling platforms are a thing because without them I would be going insane right now.
During the pandemic I've had to take on a lot more responsibilities that limit the time I get to spend with my best friend/girlfriend and if anything made me realize the amount of time me and her spend together on a day to day basis instead of making a stronger relationship with our parents and siblings. So me and her both agreed to balance our time a little better instead of looking at my screen time and realizing that I spent almost eighty hours last week just talking to this amazing person.
So if anything this pandemic is actually helping our relationship because it's letting us realize how much we love each other instead of taking each other for granted.
@Ashton Gray even though you and your significant other are apart the time away will build up the joy you will have when you see her again, the time away will also make your relationship stronger.
this article is totally relatable. I just broke up with my boyfriend, and I am so In love with one of my other ex's. he is now dating my best friend, but that's beside the point. every time I think about my ex, I almost cry thinking about the fact that he cant be mine. it is different though when im at school and can see him and talk to him because he is still a friend of mine, but I feel like I actually am still a part of his life at least.
I believe dating during quarantine is ok but I wouldn’t suggest getting in a relationship because it’s a lot of stress and it would fall sort faster than it lasts
I think that people should be cautious but also respect the relationship that others have with their significant other.
I think that people should be cautious but also respect the relationship that others have with their significant other.
Although I am no expert on this topic of dating, the idea of going out to meet friends or significant others is not something I agree with. To teenage couples, I would say to think of the situation the world is going through at the moment: we are in a global pandemic. It may be very difficult to maintain distance from significant others, but it is important to understand that we are doing this to keep each other safe. By seeing each other, you are putting him/her, as well as your family at risk. Many people are losing their loved ones to this virus, and the best thing you can do is to prevent it by social distancing. To the families, please understand that in our generation, social interaction is a crucial part to our lives. At school, we are taught to engage in discussions and increase participation and collaboration. We have been encouraged to do so since our first step into school. It is a very difficult time right now, but the most important thing is to be safe, but also understand how it has affected different people.
I have dated about 6 people and I’m not proud of it. Although I am not proud of my past actions I do not regret them, as they helped me learn about myself, my choices, and, last but not least, my connections with other people. The one relationship that I value the most is a boy who I have been dating on and off for around 2 years. When I get to go see him we just sit outside 5-6 feet apart and talk but it’s still really nice and relaxing to just see my best friend.
Although I am allowed to see this boy, I understand how hard it can be to stay away from the people you love. However, sometimes it can be a learning opportunity. Facetime and call each other and use the pandemic to get to know each other better. Sometimes we get all caught up in doing things together and forget to just talk. It is important to keep good boundaries to avoid infection but there are ways to safely see each other in person.
If I were a parent I would let my kid choose two or three friends that were being very careful and let them hang out every week or two. I think social connections are one of the primary and most important ways that teens learn many real-world skills and even develop a sense of self. These kids that are being so highly affected by quarantine have their whole lives ahead of them, but they only have so long to figure themselves out. We need to give them that chance.
@Chloe Mason I also have been able to see my boyfriend during this quarantine. I as well do not understand what people are going through when they can't see their significant other, but I can only imagine how hard it is. I do think this quarantine has been good for everyone, we can learn more about ourselves and others. I do think it is sad that some people have not seen their loved ones in 2 months, but with things opening back up, I hope they will get that chance.
“The coronavirus pandemic has prevented many teenagers from being able to see their significant others in person”. This virus has prevented couples or any relationship with a significant other from being able to hang out or “spend time “ with each other. I think that the corona virus has definitely stopped relationships from actually working out. The matter that couple can’t go out or spend time together or even go on adventures really ruins their experiences together. I feel as if for example in school couples had an advantage to see eachother everyday but now that there is no school or the ability to be with one another just ruins everything. I feel like it’s definitely distancing couples a lot especially since all they can talk through is a device. Sometimes in high school not a lot of kids had phones and just were able to talk in school and that where everything falls apart. Also I think it is much more difficult talking on the phone or texting. I think seeing the person in person is so much better because you get to actually talk to them and just enjoy their presence. On the other hand couples are really struggling to spend time together due to this pandemic.
@Wendi
The pandemic has definitely ruined a lot of couples, my brother included, but I wouldn't say it ruins the experience you have together.
Me and my girlfriend weren't allowed to see each other for an entire year after we first got together back in 2017 and of course it stopped our relationship from growing as quick as others but at the end of the year we were still together and still growing. If anything not being able to see her made me really think about the person she was on the inside rather than what I saw on the outside and ultimately made me respect them a lot more and appreciate them a lot more than I would have.
Although I am currently not dating anyone at the moment, I can still experience what it must be like to not be able to physically be with your lover. The stress and loneliness while being isolated must be painful to begin with and to not be able to see their partner must have increased the amount of anxiety. Yet, I can't say the same for my friends because even though social distancing has been placed, they will still go out of their way to visit their boyfriends. Now, If I was a parent, it will be extremely difficult for me to allow my child outside because of the pandemic. According to Ms. Valeii, she emphasized how guilty she feels when her son pleads and begs to let him visit his girlfriend, "I didn’t create the pandemic, I didn’t devise the rules that determine safety as isolation from the ones we love the most" I understand how difficult it is for her to allow her son from visiting his girlfriend, she is pressured into saying no and feels like a monster when she feels guilty when seeing the sadness in his face, but then again, she needs to take precaution to keep her family safe.
I can relate to Gabby and Kai's story. My boyfriend and I are unable to see one another everyday because of social distancing. Him and I often speak on the phone for hours at a time just catching up and trying to make the most of the situation. It's definitely hard not seeing him everyday but I hope that this will all be over soon. My friends and I try to do weekly video chat calls via Instagram. Our conversations often consist of how much we miss one another and the things we'll do together when social distancing is lifted. While we look forward to a time where social distancing is over, we hope for strong safety measures to be put in place so everyone can stay healthy.
In this article, I can definitely relate to what these teens are experiencing, because I’m going through the same thing. My boyfriend and I started dating only three weeks before quarantine started, so the timing really couldn’t have been worse. I’ve been quarantining for over two months, and we haven’t been able to see each other the entire time, because my parents aren’t allowing me to leave the house or see any other people. Additionally, both my boyfriend and I struggle with mental health, and isolation has taken an obvious toll on both of us, and put a big strain in our relationship. We’re finding it really difficult to maintain a healthy relationship with boundaries that work for both of us, while being far apart with limited contact and intense stress from school, with no certain end in sight.
I don’t have any advice for the teenage couples I’ve read about who are struggling, because I don’t know how to cope with it either. I just suggest putting lots of emphasis on communication. For their families, I suggest they treat the teenagers with empathy, patience and understanding, because everyone is struggling with this in their own way, and discrediting their problems doesn’t help in the slightest.
Amid a pandemic, the best thing we can do is hunker down at home to prevent hospitals from reaching their absolute capacity. As a parent, I would not allow my teenager to see their friends or significant others. We live in an interesting time where most interactions can be completely virtual. However, the truth still stands that having someone physically in front of you is a vastly different experience than a facetime call. Back during the 1918 pandemic, people were unable to have any contact—virtual or physical— with their loved ones nations away. Even though today's situation is not ideal, and yes, social distancing has and will continue to deter and buffer so many intimacies prevalent in romantic relationships, I believe all we can do right now is capitalize on today's technology to abate some of the loneliness that is surfacing during quarantine.
If I was a parent, I would let my child see their friends and significant others in quarantine with restrictions. I would let them only stay outside and keep a little bit of distance. I would let my child do this so they can start to have a normal life and not go crazy inside the house. Right now, I was very bored staying in the house, but on nice days I am allowed to go on bike rides with some of my friends and stay outside. Parents are put in a very hard position during quarantine.
@elle I totally agree & love your opinion. I would love to see my bestfriend, but I’m not allowed, and it’s bugging me. It is very boring in quarantine, and kids like me are actually starting to get bored on their phones. Usually, our parents complain about us being on the internet so much, but now we’re doing the complaining. I really wish i can see the people i want to see, and quarantine is driving me crazy.
@elle I completely agree with what you are saying. I would allow my kid to start seeing his or her other with certain restrictive on it and as things slowly got back to normal so would their normal hangout schedules. As a teenager it is extremely difficult for them to stay cooped in the house all day with the only people they see being they’re own family. They need to have some type of social time even if it is sitting outside someone’s house while they are at the door.
Would I let my kids go out during quarantine? Why?
If my kid was 17 or older I would because they are almost an adult and the choices that they make will reflect on them. However, if rules for the town or state were in place they would have to abide by those first. If they are 16 or younger they would not be able to leave the house unless it's accompanied by me Because I would have to drive them places or be in the car with them. I feel depriving children of interactions between friends and loved ones will hurt them if the timeframe is too long. But I recently read a story about a mom pulling her son out of school for about a month because his mental health was becoming unstable. And when he got back in school he was thriving because he was at a good place in his life and mental state when he started something. I feel many kids who go to school have many mental health problems and need to take time off to relax. If seeing a friend or boy/girlfriend can help them feel better, I think they should meet and hang out. As long as it's only 1 or 2 people and they respect the laws and current rules about masks and 6 feet apart no one should get infected.
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@Sara Cox
I completely agree with your approach to social distancing. I feel children should still be able to see one another and maybe go on bike rides. It is important that they still get exercise and sunlight.
Interesting question to be honest. As of now I do not have a specific interest but I know people that do have relationships and I do not believe it has a negative affect on their contentedness. In fact, I believe it makes people collaborate more because they want to check up on each other twice as much especially now. I feel this way because with this virus going around I would check up on how they are feeling. Things like if they are sick or not would come up in our conversation. Just to be sure if they are okay. I would even go up to them and wave from a distance if it came to that just to take even more measure. Very nice article.
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Gabby and Kai's struggle is one that I can definitely relate to. My girlfriend and I aren't able to see each other, so the only way we can communicate is over the phone, which is a difficulty in itself.
Quarantine has been difficult for both of us, but especially for her. This past year she has been recovering from a series of concussions that left her seriously injured. She had to relearn how to read and walk, and to this day she has issues with long term memory. Things were just starting to get better when the virus hit. Now she's stuck in her house, unable to get the space she needs. She has been isolated from friends, and can't do the things she enjoys when she needs them most.
The hardest thing about this pandemic has been seeing her struggle. I wish I had the power to obliterate this virus, if only to save her from what she's going through right now.
I miss her a lot, and I'm counting down the days until I can see her again.
Social distancing can be hard for dating teens because of how they have no control of their hormones. Teens have high sex drive that can lead them to go “insane” without their partners. While at school, teen couples are so used to seeing each other everyday and having human contact and now that we are in quarantine we have none of that. In the article “Miss Your Friends? Try Being a Teenager in Love,” by Alexandra E. Petri states, “Teenagers, like nearly everyone, have had their lives upended by the coronavirus. They’re cooped up at home with parents and siblings, unable to let off steam by participating in extracurriculars, deprived of important milestones like graduation and prom. And they can’t even expect to enjoy the summer freedoms of going to camp and the pool. For those in love, heartache caused by separation is another excruciating element.” I totally agree with this quote because of how many can relate to being separated from their partners. It feels like eternity that we have been separated from our partners. We all need human connection to survive and if we don't get it we will become comfortable being alone. Many find that as a good thing but if you really think about it you can develop mental illnesses without even noticing and in the future you won't feel comfortable talking to people about it because you perceive it as normal. Teens especially need contact because we are about dive into adulthood and we have to cherish the left over time we have as teens.
I do not have a s/o at the moment! But many of my friends, and people who I know of have a S/O. By seeing their stories about missing their partners I feel bad for them. Yes they do FaceTime and text. But not being able to see your S/O regularly, definitely makes it harder to stay positive. But also it is very important to stay inside and social distance from each other because the more you stay inside and keep safe, the sooner you will be able to see the people you miss!
Under unfortunate circumstances, my boyfriend got put into a detention center two months ago for reasons I won't describe but if that never happened then we probably would have been still seeing each other. We also probably would've been texting each other still and facetiming too once and while in a group chat. My grandmother wouldn't care if we saw each other as long as it was just him coming over to hang out. I don't know if she would let me go out to hang out with him and friends.
The advice that I have for other teenage couples is to stick with your significant other, regardless if you can see them or not in person during this time because you chose to be with this person and this pandemic will clearly show if you truly care about them or not.
If I was a parent, I would let my teenager see their significant other as long as they're at home and not going out somewhere.
social distancing has been hard for me especially being in a relationship because you can t see your significant other as much as you would like to and it gives both of you time to think and time to question each others loyalty. This pandemic has really put couples to the test.
What, if anything, in the article do you relate to? Explain. If you are dating someone, are you allowed to meet in person? Have you disagreed with your parents about the situation?
I don't relate to anything in the article since I am not dating anyone. However, I have friends that get into arguments with their parents because they wanna see their boyfriend/ girlfriend. Often, my friends are allowed to see each other though.
If you were a parent, would you let your teenager go out during the quarantine to see friends and significant others? Why do you say that?
If I was a parent I would not allow my children to go out. The whole point of social distancing is to stay away from other people to try to mitigate the spread of the virus. By allowing my child to visit friends and partners I would be responsible if they got the virus and began spreading it to people who are at risk (the elderly, people with preexisting conditions, etc.). Another reason I would not allow my child to go out and hang out with friends like it is normal is for their safety. In the early days of COVID-19, it was thought that children were not affected as much as older people. In recent weeks it can be seen that in rare cases children can die from a syndrome developed by the virus.
What advice do you have for the teenage couples you read about?
The advice I would give to couples my age is using the tools you have such as Facetime or Snapchat to talk to your boyfriend or girlfriend. It is essential to social distance if we don't want hundreds of thousands of people to die from this virus. You hanging out with your partner is not as important as human life. The last piece of advice I would give to couples my age is don't be selfish. Just because you are together doesn't mean you do not have to practice social distancing. I'm almost positive that you can go a few months without seeing your high school boyfriends or girlfriends.
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Reading this article during Covid-19 is very surprising because of the fact that certain people are still able to see their significant others during a time of crisis. I mean me being 17, me and my girlfriend Bethany are still able to see each other sometimes but, most of the time we talk over the phone and face time just because our parents are worried about us. But, in the end we love each other and we care about each other especially during a crisis like this.