That being a mensch is a news story makes me very sad.
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Heartwarming! A lovely story of two kind people- Fred Rogers and Tom Hanks- with a kind-hearted journalist as a bonus.
Readers might enjoy a video of yet another kind soul reading a letter Tom wrote in his younger days: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ier5GyfDa4U
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This is the best article I have read in so long. Uplifting, personal and just plain nice.
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I would just like to tell Ms. Brodesser-Akner thank you. A fine piece of writing, about a fine man. That final sentence is brilliant.
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Good article on a terrific person. A silly, sophomoric, icky-poo headline and sub-head. Readers are not widdle children with a boo-boo who need to feel "less bad". "Less bad?" Why would readers avoid an article about a good person? Fatuous and condescending.
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@beckystout - Know that you’ll be in our hearts today....it’s so tough to say goodbye. I’m so sorry for the tough decision you will make later today. I’m sending you extra hugs. :)
This was a really good article.
The thing that makes me nervous about it, and about Mr. Hanks, is that he is human and we know him in the present time.
When we look at actual saints, their edges have been ground down by the centuries and only the stories of their virtues remain. That is more or less what makes them praiseworthy, their flaws have been forgotten and their virtues grown louder through the passage of time.
I think that some day we will find out something about Mr. Hanks that is deeply disappointing and we(meaning the general population) won't be as forgiving as he would have been.
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Really?? You read this article and come away believing that something dark will tarnish his image in the future? That's sad.
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Lately, I have begun to not only turn off the radio in the car when the voice of the current occupant of the White House plays but to also choose to read far fewer articles printed (in this paper and others,) about the daily machinations which masquerade as the work of our current government. Reading this article is time worth spending.
Thank you.
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That picture of President Obama, Tom Hanks and I believe Melinda Gates made me so nostalgic for good people that I felt overwhelmed with sadness. The current occupant of the house has wrought so much toxic hate and corruption onto this country the past three years. He MUST be defeated in 2020. Or I fear this great nation may not recover.
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Makes sense:
Obama got Nobel Peace prize: the original prize was called for by Alfred Nobel, to be given to the person who had done the most in favor of international peace in previous year(s).
Obama got his for merely being elected US President.
Had he refused to accept it on the ground that he had done nothing to deserve it-he might have been partially deserving.
Instead, he took the medal ( claimed to refuse the cash).
So, why is giving another meaningless civil recognition to a movie star with a good sense of civil responsibility seem unusual?
Once, most Americans were raised-instructed both by their families and schools, friends and social groups like "Boy Scouts", 4-F clubs, Future Farmers of America and others to help people cross streets, to stop and aid people in need of help and read to little kids.
So Obama was making a special and now socially rewarded act out of what was once considered ordinary good manners and the expected behavior of all people in society.
A whole lot of hot air for for doing what everyone ought to do, anyway, all the time , without benefit or need for a bribe.
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Apparently the author never watched "Nothing in Common". #metoo
I wanted to take a moment to thank Fred Rogers, Tom Hanks and Taffy Brodesser-Akner. Mr. Rogers was a life saving presence in my childhood. He was an example of a man who could be gentle, kind, giving and respectful. I carried his influence into my parenting and shared him with my children who also loved his show. He was my hero. I have watched Tom Hanks since his Bosom Buddies days, and my whole family love his movies, especially Forrest Gump. It was with anxiousness that I read the article “Tom Hanks is a Warm Hug”. I just didn’t want to hear how these two men weren’t what I had hoped and needed them to be which is a weird thing to feel about two strangers. I was both relieved and revived by the beautifully written article and am looking forward to the movie “A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood”. Thank you Ms. Brodesser-Akner for renewing my faith in both men and giving me news that doesn’t make me want to scream with frustration. It wasn’t a boring article it was a much needed respite from the awfulness of right now.
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About 20 years ago, we had occasion to stay , along with our son and his wife, at the most lovely old historic inn. It is located in the foothills above Santa Barbara and is a super private but very luxurious place. We did note a few very identifiable celebrities in residence---and mentioned to an Inn staffer that we supposed it was a popular place for folks who wish to avoid notice and/or comment from other guests. He chuckled and said that Tom Hanks often visited along with his family and that while a guest, Mr. Hanks insisted on being addressed as Mr. Johnson at all times. The staffer said of course, no one was fooled, Mr. Hanks being such a famous actor, but that everyone just smiled and went along with the ruse to please him. I thought it was an amusing story since this particular inn is not a place where star struck folks would dream of intruding on the famous. Just not done.
This article is really really good!! I’m also glad for the subtitle because I probably wouldn’t have read it otherwise. Hooray for the wonderful journalists at the Times!!!!
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I get uplifting is the aim here--would love NYT to have stories about kind things people have done anonymously--sure it would be abundant. It's just a laid on bit thick here. I know Hanks is compared to Jimmy Stewart but Stewart, a humble man, would cringe at such publicity
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We need more people like Tom, Hanks, Mr. Rogers and Taffy Brodesser-Akner.
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Much too long and very romanticized - you lost me half way through your article
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Thank you for this uplifting story. I laughed and cried as I read your words. Tom Hanks is such an inspiration and I thank you for sharing him with us.
My two daughters were raised watching Mr. Rogers and Sesame Street and both are the better for it. They made my job much easier.
Great piece - made my day. In a world of seemingly never ending disturbances, this article helped me feel some fleeting hope and satisfaction that my generation did more than destroy the planet and pervert democracy. My generation produced Tom Hanks!
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I normally don't cry at weddings, funerals, or movies; especially movies. However, I cry every time I see that last 3 minutes of Captain Phillips, when the Navy medic is checking the Captain's condition (the "You're safe now" scene). I couldn’t have performed at that level had I actually experienced the trauma the character had just gone through, let alone simply acting it out for the cameras. Tom Hanks can make me cry like a baby and I thank him for it.
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This is a dreadful interview, although I use that term skeptically. It's not really an interview with Tom Hanks. It's just a romanticized reinforcement of his accepted persona. He's not even the main player in his own interview. Taffy Brodesser-Akner is. She inserts herself repeatedly, sometimes for rather long stretches, spilling personal information like SHE'S being interviewed on television by Oprah Winfrey. It's amateurish "Me-Too" garbage that marginalizes her subject and ensures that the only subject that comes out more informed to her readers is HER. Hanks, unfortunately, remains a sycophant in her undeserved background.
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Taffy, beautifully written.
I too copied that “parenting” paragraph, but your article was more than only that.
And yes, thank you Tom, as well.
We can only hope the decent people run the world someday, but that’s the paradox, isn’t it?
This brings to mind the lines from a Donald Fagen song. “IGY” —
“A just machine to make big decisions.
Programmed by fellas, with compassion and vision.
We’ll be clean when their work is done.
We’ll be totally free, yes, and eternally young...”
I'm sorry, but Tom Hanks does NOT bear any resemblance to Mr. Rogers.
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Tom Hanks is a kind man. He is also a very funny and smart man. If you haven’t read this short story by him, you absolutely must!
http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2014/10/27/alan-bean-plus-four
I came away from this article feeling happy. Truly happy.
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Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson donate generously to NPR stations in Los Angeles, challenging listeners to contribute to a “match.” That guarantees I’m a fan.
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I am no Tom Hanks, nor am I a Mr. Rogers, but seventy-four years of living in this world has taught me only one thing:
Nothing in Life matters, except- Kindness, Compassion, Tolerance, Sympathy, Empathy... Love. Everything else in this life is either Business or Bull___!
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What a great article. It seriously made me well up in tears after having stomached a couple of articles about Impeachment, a few tRump tweets, and having watched a couple of Sunday news programs. Thank you, Taffy. I'll keep it in my back pocket for a while, for sure.
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Come on you guys. I get it. Tom Hanks is a nice guy and a fine actor. He's still a human being and doesn't walk on water.
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When I read the line, "Wilson's head was bobbing" at the Kennedy Center ceremony, my mind immediately came up with a picture of the volleyball "Wilson" from Castaway. Took me a second to realize you meant Rita Wilson! Lol
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At a birthday party in a restaurant in Malibu, a friend's daughter (10-12-ish) spotted Mr. Hanks and really, reeealllly wanted to meet him. Swallowing my pride, I followed her to his table. I said, 'Mr. Hanks' and he spun around to find that he and the girl were face to face. He chatted with her for what I thought was longer than necessary, but I didn't get any inkling that he'd had enough. When I felt we'd interrupted his dinner long enough, I thanked him, nodded thanks to his dinner companions, and took the girl back to our table where someone asked if I'd said 'Hello' to the Spielbergs too.
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Really well written and not at all boring. We need more Mr. Rogers and Mr. Hanks in the world. My only comment is that one is never too old for Mr. Rogers. I watched him as a kid (in the 60's and 70's. I was not a young kid) He was mesmerizing and soothing then, and even now he still has the same effect.
What a really neat article. Thank you for taking the time to do it right. Well worth the read.
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We never had a television set till our children were in high school, although we borrowed one when they were younger at Christmas time to see "A Christmas Carol". They missed out on Mr. Rogers and Sesame Street, as did we. But we will see that movie and recommend that movie to them. Thanks for writing the article as you saw it. I know people like Tom Hanks and lives like this need to be celebrated. They give me hope.
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Thank you for this story. Kindness is a choice. I’m touched by the kindness described in this article, and not only by Mr. Hanks. And, yes, you’re never too old for Mr. Rogers. Looking forward to the film.
Uplifting. Good to remember that decency is out there.
Twenty years ago, at a fundraising event for the Late Ted Kennedy which Tom Hanks attended, I had the chance to tell him how much I enjoyed his movies and that in particular, “Splash” was one that my then young daughters and I enjoyed watching together. A very rude guest barged between us forcing his camera on me and demanding that I photograph him with Hanks. Without missing a beat, Mr. Hanks took the man’s camera and with an impish smile took a photo of the man, handed him back his camera and said: “That will have to do.” He returned to our chat, thanking me for sharing the memory with him. I’m not sure how the rude guest felt about Tom Hanks, but I will always remember how Mr. Hanks immediately saw my discomfort with the rudeness and stepped in to defuse it. We need more people today who, like Tom Hanks, will defuse rudeness with kindness and humor.
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Why, in order for a story to be interesting, does it have some dark thread, arc? A story about good, about nice is interesting. It was the first article I read today, and may be the only one. Good and nice have an arc, albeit not the arc favored by most journalists. More nice and good stories please, because, for crying out loud, we need them.
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I loved this piece. It was so moving I was weeping at the end.
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Two kinds of people say resonant things: for the first kind, it represents a ceiling of their understanding; for the second, it is a platform or a base upon which there is both depth and a springboard for application to a host of other insights. In a nation currently led politically by the first kind (and discouragingly followed by far too many), it is so refreshing and reassuring to have Hanks as a clear representative of the second...and I'll take a second helping of whatever he is serving on kindness.
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For those who can’t get enough of Tom Hanks...the Audible version of the wonderful (and sometimes bleak) new novel The Dutch House was recently released, narrated (or, more appropriately, performed) by Tom Hanks. It would have been interesting to learn why he chose to do this.
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Not into religion but am a staunch believer in TheGolden Rule and practicing it. It does matter.
Tom Hanks is as kind, good and joyful as anyone can be. He passes it on.
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Thank you for this wonderful description of an amazing human who actually walks among us. Living as we do in, what seems, an increasingly hostile and dark time, with thoughtlessness and cruelty radiating from the highest levels of our government, immersing ourselves in a story of the thoughtful grace of Tom Hanks refreshes the soul.
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Correction: no one is ever “too old” for Mister Rogers.
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If it wasn't such a cliche, I'd say Taffy Brodesser-Akner is a national treasure. There. I said it.
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Thank you so very much!
I had no idea. Reading the other comments I am not alone.
Thanks for mentioning the app.
We can all carry a little piece of Tom Hanks around with us now.
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I don't know when I've been so "taken" with a movie review. I have always liked Tom Hanks' movies/characters/acting. You have made him even more real and I'm so very glad there are still human beings like Hanks who are nice because that's just the right thing to do. Thank you, Taffy for a wonderful story.
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I am beside myself with every emotion. I copied several parts of this beautiful article into my journal.
I’ve never done that before.
Thank you both, Everyman and Genuine Journalist, for this documentation of humanity. Best to you both.
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I did the very same thing! Emotions flowed while eating sushi and reading this. Then, I opened my journal and wrote down a few lines. Bravo, Taffy! Bravo!
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Tom Hanks. The official antidote to Donald Trump.
Thank you, Ms. Brodesser-Akner, for this lovely in-depth article. I always enjoy your writing.
And thank you, Mr. Hanks, for being you.
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Not so nice. A Hollywood Globalist who looks down with disdain on "Deplorables". Don't be fooled by his Mr. Rogers demeanor.
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People haven't we all been here before? Remember DECADES of worship for Bill Cosby and many others who have fallen very, very far from the high pedestals we set them on? Tom Hanks is nice guy, I get it. I want Hanks to have been my dad. I love him to be my boss, to say nothing of my president, but really? All of the good deeds in the article are things ANYBODY should do, all the time when no one is looking. Most humans are somewhere on the spectrum between St. Francis and Hitler. Hero-worship is for heroes. Hanks isn't one. He's on the spectrum with the rest of us. I'm thrilled he's seems nice, but lets stop rushing to make celebs into gods when we don't know them at all. To be a fan is one thing. To allow a star to change your mood is "extra" as the kids say.
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God knows we sure do need Mr. Rogers these days.
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Had a north Pittsburgh youth pastor once challenge our high school youth about transforming “Won’t you be my neighbor” into an emphatic “I will be your neighbor!” As a radical Christian ideal. Hope we are not leaving the Presbyterian Ordained Pastor’s Ministry to transform the world out of all the isn’t it nice to be kind and wasn’t he super nice guy rhetoric.
Check out The Pittsburgh Project and maybe try a local church of your choice again. It might just be the meaningful way to engage with the world you were looking for.
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This would have been in Rolling Stone in HST's time, but it would have been a Janis Joplin actress crying out these blues, not a Times writer.
Puzzle:
"...he went into the Mister Rogers story looking for who Fred was but came out knowing only what he did. He stared at all his reporting for a long time before he realized that the doing is actually the thing we should be paying attention to. "
Existentialism is discovered here, late, apparently, and it's not the revelation this suggests. Revelations get teased out by interesting, irresistible questions.
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Ms Brodesser-Akner you were right! I feel less bad. Thank you for this.
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There was a man with Tom Hank’s kindness in my life, his name was Lew. He was my best friend Jill’s dad. Lew was a WW II infantry vet and engineer at NASA/Ames in Mountain View CA in the 60s and 70s. He was married to Eunice, they walked around holding hands for over 50 years. Lew had a smile, a joke, a hug, hands to help with a neighbor’s project. When my own dad died when I was 14, Lew and Eunice made me feel more secure. Lew lived to be 90, it was still a shock as he was up and about until he passed. When all your neighbors, co-workers from decades past, family and all your kid’s childhood friends come to your funeral to tell “Lew” stories, that is a live well lived. RIP Lew and Jill.
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Okay--great guy. Nice. But what's mentioned that's exemplary--not really that amazing. Sure he's a nice guy but what about as an actor going out on a limb. Even Henry Fonda was willing to play villain-against type. That's what great actors do--risk. And the timely mention of Obama? He actually is playing villain--going against Warren and Sanders--not my favorite right now.........
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I can watch all of his movies. He's never had a bad one!
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This was lovely, thanks for writing this piece. As a side note, I have a best friend from China who learned English from Tom Hanks. She would watch Forrest Gump over and over since he spoke so slowly that his English was easy for her to follow. She ended up with a southern accent for a while. Anyway, she eventually went to Yale and is now married to an Englishman in the UK, and they frequently paraglide all over the world. Thanks Tom Hanks!
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Tom's kindness to Taffy in a low moment made me weep. Kindness and love and compassion is always, always needed.
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Me too. Touching article and interview.
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What a welcome respite from the storm of reality. Thank you for being willing to share the story of a good person.
That is more than enough.
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Thank you. I think it’s the first positive article I’ve read that made me cry. We needed that.
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He's a distant cousin and I adore him. Excellent article.
What a lovely article. Thank you for making my Saturday a little more wonderful. May your umbrella remain upright, and if it should falter, know that it will right itself through acts of kindness.
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Incredibly good to read this the weekend after the 1st. Round of the impeachment hearings and a reminder that we become the characters we pretend to be all through our life. I especially liked reading about someone who feels the need to charm their room and see’s it as clearly as Mr.Hanks does. We need more people with such determination to be a positive force in their daily comings and going.
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It is hard sometimes to not get discouraged with humanity, modern society and the people in it. The world is supposed to be closer with the connectivity that we have created, but it feels like our souls have been lost along the way. I haven’t felt very proud of being a human being in a western world lately, but it is so good to see when those of us in a privileged position haven’t lost sight of what it really means to be a good and honourable creature on this planet. Thanks Tom, I needed that.
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Reading these comments has brought tears to my eyes and hope to my soul.
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Refreshing. Shades of Nora Ephron. More, please!
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What a fantastic article. Brilliant writing Taffy...
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I'm a perpetual skimmer but I read every word of your article, so unusual for me. I didn't want it to end. It wasn't just because you wrote about a man who embodies niceness in an age where we can all use more of it. You 'got' him and you found a way to both personalize your experience and show not only yourself but also a side of Tom Hanks that not everyone gets to see. He's as nice as I hoped and I thank you for the beautiful job. You made my whole day a little brighter.
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Wonderfully written. Thanks Tom for being you...and Taffy for your honesty in your experiences with him. Bravo.
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I rarely read articles about actors. After all, they are actors, acting, are they real? But for some reason I read this one as, well, it is about Tom Hanks, need we say more? This is one of the most uplifting and genuine article I have ever read. Both you and Mr. Hanks deserve an applause, we’ll done.
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Not to be shallow, but what brand of glasses is Mr. Hanks wearing?
I truly appreciate his views on parenting and can't wait to see this film.
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“Saintly Actor Playing Saintly Public Television Children’s Host Mister Rogers Is Saintly” is not a great story.
Actually, it is!
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Could have done without the smear of St. Teresa of Calcutta. She was revered by the people she served and highly honored with a state funeral attended by millions in India and countless tens of millions around the world. Hardly fake news.
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@Garry Just Cruel
That comment about Mother Theresa is based on an atheist polemic which has little connection to reality. I wish photojournalist Mary Ellen Mark was still around to shut down that evangelical atheist's hit piece. I'm no Catholic and don't go around defending that problematic institution. But I can't stand by and let that get by without a check.
Talk about not getting the point of this whole nice thing...
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I think Tom Hanks is one of our very finest actors in that he can play so many different types of roles and make them all believable. He can do comedy and romantic comedy such as “Big,” “Splash,” “Sleepless in Seattle,” and “You’ve Got Mail.” He can do drama such as “Philadelphia” and “Sully” and “Captain Phillips” and “Saving Private Ryan.” In many of his films he recreates a wide range of people from Walt Disney in “Saving Mr. Banks” to Ben Bradlee in “The Post” to Jim Lovell in “Apollo 13” to Charlie Wilson in the brilliant and important “Charlie Wilson’s War.” He even proved able to make believable his character Chuck Noland in the altogether sui generis film “Cast Away,” and magically transforms a volleyball into a cherished companion on an isolated desert island.
Tom Hanks never ceases to amaze me. When I saw that Sam Mendes had cast him as a gangster in the film “Road to Perdition” I thought “oh dear, even Tom Hanks won’t be able to pull this off.” But he does, making his character believable and sympathetic in yet another brilliant piece of acting in yet another brilliant film. I believe he should have earned an Academy Award nomination for best actor for his work in this film.
I do not believe Tom Hanks is so much an Everyman as he is one of the most incredibly versatile actors in the history of motion pictures.
That he is also a sweet-natured and kind human being, as is brought out so clearly in this beautiful profile, makes him that much more admirable.
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...and Bridge of Spies.
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One day there will be a movie about the life of Tom Hanks based on this article.
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This is a study of integrity, character and kindness that should be required reading for anyone teaching today - from grade school on up to graduate school, especially for ethics and leadership classes. Not only is Hanks the quintessential embodiment of a good person and beloved cultural icon, but the reporter so poignantly made us feel her every genuinely visceral reaction to Hanks’ empathy for her and for those who worked with him throughout his career. Beautifully written and a beautiful story that gave us an intimate view of the writer as well as this beloved person.
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Thank you Taffy. This gave me a little lift out of my despair
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Lovely article about a lovely man. I’ve been a big fan of him since Bosom Buddies. However, I would like to point out that Mr. Hanks is not that extraordinary. Here in the Midwest, I’ve met many who are as kind, loving and generous as you describe Mr. Hanks. They just aren’t famous. Maybe, that’s how he’s extraordinary? A kind, generous, and loving celebrity.
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Thank you for this uplifting piece. It made my day.
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I actually have had the privilege of working with Tom Hanks. And he is exactly as this article describes. Kind, generous, and treats everyone the same. I was a PA for a one day event that Tom was a part of - I have two favorite memories from that.
1) First glance. I was lead PA backstage and had been ensuring that set up was happening and that crafty was good to go. As I send another PA on a task I approach crew crafty I see a man with white hair, in basketball shorts and a windbreaker, grabbing a cup full of ice from a cooler. I offered to get fresh ice to the gentleman, still not registering who it was. I blame the white hair. Because he stood smiled and with a quick wink ambled off to talk with the director. Only then did my brain actually re-engage. That was Tom Hanks. (White hair was because he’d just finished filming Sully)
2) Same event, pre table read. As myself and another PA were scrambling to finish the table set up, Tom saw a couple of tables already set up and just needed to be moved. I say “oh no, Mr. Hanks, you don’t need to do that,” when I caught the A-Lister heading with intent towards the tables.
He shrugs “You all have been working hard for hours now (we really had been), me and Anthony got this” he said, while a wide eyed Anthony Mackie nodded his head and promptly grabbed the other end of the table that Tom had commandeered.
“Thank you” is all I can think of to say, so I let it happen. 15/10 would work with again.
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He is the only actor worthy of playing uality the lead in the John Wooden story.
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"In exchange, my story would be boring."
But no: fascinating and hopeful: thank you!
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“I don’t know if Fred was the mask or the mask was Fred" Is it not possible that there was no "mask" involved? That Fred Rogers was simply a decent man who was as he appeared?
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We've never had Mister Rogers over here, but oh how we need to be reminded people like him and Tom exist. Thank you.
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This could be my favorite piece on the NYT ever. Thank you Taffy (that paragraph about being a parent is so richly authentic and beautifully tormenting) and thank you Once in a Lifetime Tom.
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Ok he is great, but I really love Taffy!
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Me too!
My husband and I have voted for Tom Hanks (as a write in candidate) numerous times when the listed choices just didn’t measure up to our standards. Just wish there were more of this wonderful “everyman”. Our world would be a much better place to live.
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Please run for president, Tom. You would be a shoe in.
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A cancer survivor was staying at my hotel a Few years back was in town to see Hanks on Broadway. Hanks met him many years ago and stayed in touch with him through the years to see his progress through. Hanks personally invited him the opening of the broadway show and stay in NYC. He had no relation to this man, he had no special connection, he just wanted to do something nice for a guy who went through hell. Thank you for this article.
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I thought one of his best was the Road to Predition with Paul Newman one of his best and one of my favorite movies because of the acting writing and directing. The whole caboddle.
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At last! A chance to play the pedant!
We got the concept of Everyman from a medieval "miracle" play of the anonymous "Chester Playwright" who had a character called Everyman who was visited by Death who tells him he must go on a long journey. Everyman asks if he can take someone with him and Death says "Of Course." Everyman asks a number of other characters, who have names like "Goodfellowship" and such, but is turned down by everyone.
In despair, Everyman asks "Who will go with me?"Then a character called "Good Deeds" comes on stage and says, "I will go with you," and they both exit.
The moral of the story is that the only thing that goes to judgement with you are your good deeds. It was a situation comedy.
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Thank you for this and thanks for the comments.
Tom Hanks next hero role: William B. Taylor Jr.
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I am wondering ....
Wouldn’t he be better and more suitable to become the president of United States than Trump? :)
I just don’t understand why the greatest country on the earth picked the worst human being when there is a role model like Tom.
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@Jungyeon Cotter; That comment certainly doesn't reflect the truly wonderful men and values both Mr. Rogers and Tom Hanks exemplify, but it does reflect how intolerant most everyone seems to be, especially when things don't go the way they wanted them to in the world.
Let's embody the sentiment Mr. Rogers was known for by this quote of his, "I like you just the way you are.” despite all of our perceived flaws. This is a concept we all can adopt.
We need this article today to show that there is some goodness left too in the same location where other sad event happened today
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I am a Democrat. I always vote. I'm looking for that one person, who is a good person; who has empathy; someone who would be a great fit for the office of President . The "slew" of Democrats wanting to be on that ballot leaves me wanting more. Upon reading this great account of Tom Hanks makes me wonder - where is my "Tom Hanks", the Democrat? Yes, I would definitely vote for a person with Tom's values and love of the common man.
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I have NEVER taken the time or felt so compelled to comment this way, but I just wanted to thank you for writing an honorable story that still manages to have your voice! In a culture obsessed with sensationalism and choosing sides, I was so pleased to read a story that reminds us, through Tom's and Fred Rodger's example, to try and be our best, kindest selves. It's what I try to live by and it's what I try to teach my 5 year-old son. Acts of kindness should be celebrated and your work does just that, so THANK YOU, Tabby! We need more of this in the world!!!!
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"They said when you were talking to Fred, you felt as though you were the only person in the world that mattered to him." I had that exact experience as a 9-year-old kid in SeaTac airport in the late '70s. Mr. Rogers was the only famous person I'd ever seen in my short life. With some encouragement from my mom, I shyly approached him where he stood, in one of the terminal's waiting areas. I didn't say anything until he noticed me, then said, "Are you Mr. Rogers?" He immediately knelt down so he was at my eye level, and said, "Yes, I am, what's your name?" I can't remember any more details from our short conversation (likely because I was so beside myself at meeting Mr. Rogers in person) but what I can recall is that he did give me his entire focus and it wasn't something I often experienced with adults at that point in my life. He truly made me feel special.
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Absolutely beautiful. Sometimes the story changes the writer telling it.
"He stared at all his reporting for a long time before he realized that the doing is actually the thing we should be paying attention to."
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What can I say that hasn't been said already? Thank you for such an insightful article. I started it this morning and had to finish when I got home. It was well worth my time. I read many of the comments as well.
I teach adult ESL and have recommended watching Mr. Rogers because he was such a kind, decent man, and you could always learn something from his shows. Today in class we were talking about the Miracle on the Hudson and several students has seen Sully. So maybe I need to recommend all of Tom Hanks' movies, too.
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I feel fine and didn't read the story to make me feel "less bad".
But while I admire Tom Hanks' acting ability, I don't look to actors or other entertainers including those who play ball or other sports for anything other than entertainment.
I certainly wouldn't look to Hanks for history lessons. He's not a student of history, either today or during his high school years. Why do I say that?
Because a few years ago he said the USA went to war with Japan because "they were different........."
"Back in World War II, we viewed the Japanese as 'yellow, slant-eyed dogs' that believed in different gods," he told the magazine. "They were out to kill us because our way of living was different. We, in turn, wanted to annihilate them because they were different. Does that sound familiar, by any chance, to what's going on today?" (Source: https://www.cbsnews.com › news › tom-hanks-wwii-comments-spark-contr...)
Appears he didn't remember Pearl Harbor. Perhaps he hadn't made a movie about December 7, 1941......."a day that will live in infamy".
When Hanks was called on his statement, he said, "What do I know? I'm just an actor."
Exactly.
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@Azalea Lover
You sound fun!
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Thank you so much for your very personal reflection on Tom Hanks.
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After reading reviews of this piece I expected to get choked up a little at some heartwarming Tom Hanks tales. I did not expect to be in pieces from your paragraph about how & why children can drift away.
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Taffy,
I don't know if you read all of these comments. But I hope you do and I just wanted to say thank you for writing this.
-Terry
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What a delightful article! It is true that the current social climate in the United States seems dictated by the elected leader of the free world who regretfully happens to be a narcissistic sociopath with no respect for others. His appalling behavior seems to have given permission for everyone else to be crass, greedy and hateful. We need to be reminded that society functions better when humans are kind to one another. That decent human beings can be successful; you don't have to eat all the other dogs to get to the top. Thank you, Taffy, for showing how one decent person can inspire all of us to do better - with our families, with our colleagues and with perfect strangers.
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Taffy was depressed which she felt the need to share with her subject to make it, you know, his problem to solve.. She had altitude sickness and it was so severe she needed to go to the hospital but rather than cancel the appointment just moved it --- was that the one she moved earlier or the one she moved later. Taffy feels insecure about herself as a parent and needed parenting advice. Taffy cries in the middle of interviews.
Taffy does a few more silly and unprofessional things which involve constantly changing meeting times and showing up somehow physically ill or in some not-ready-to-work mental state.
All this to say she must have truly pinched the man's last nerve -- possibly trying to get a rise out of him so she wouldn't have to write a boring story about a "boring" actor?
So the point of the whole, excruciatingly long exercise, is that Tom Hanks has the patience of a saint. Or maybe the story is that there was no way he was taking the oh-so-obvious bait? Yes, these actors do get paid well but is there no limit on what they are subjected to promoting their projects? Interviewers literally crying about their personal problems on the job? Good lord!
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I was unaware that Mother Teresa got canceled. That makes me a sad panda.
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I'll say it again, Taffy is the best writer at this publication.
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Lovely article I went to school with Tom Hanks in high school in Oakland it was a rough time to grow up - he was Funny and nice and I am so happy to hear of his success.
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Tom Hanks is not only America's Everyman, he is also the one of the most accomplished actors in Hollywood and a role model for everyone who wonders how to treat other people.
Thanks for publishing this.
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Cutting down your typewriter collection? Say it isn't so Tom!!
All these years I've remembered my parents' ancient Royal that must have been of pre-WWII vintage, must have weighed more than 20 lbs, and had little glass windows the sides where you could watch the incredible complex mechanical linkages move.
They traded it in on a new Smith Corona electric portable in the early 1960s. But I often fantasized that if they'd kept the Royal, and if I still had it... I'd give it to you as my personal thanks for all your wonderful work over all these years.
But they didn't and I can't. You're a class act all the way Tom!!
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Thanks so much for this well written article. Just wanted to echo so many of the other comments that focusing on the kindness and caring in the world (and there is much of it at the personal level), helps us all understand why it is critical to our society. Hatred, meanness, name calling, ridiculing of others really brings us all down. Kindness sells movies and TV shows, and sells papers, every bit as much as the focus on the rest of it. Yes! to Tom Hanks as well - for 'seducing' us, with an honest, caring attitude.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you... What a perfect antidote to the times we live in. Made me smile, well done Taffy
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Tom Hanks for president? He would get my vote in a heartbeat and I am sure those of many others. I am guessing he is a Democrat and I am not but I would make an exception and cast my vote for this outstanding man. How about it Tom Hanks? Please run.
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Well, Ms. Brodesser-Akner, you and your article have affected me in two ways: I teared up at your final realization, and I feel better about the world. Thank you. And thank Tom Hanks for me if you have the opportunity.
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This article was amazing and showed the sheer essence of who Tom Hanks is and why he is the favorite of so many people! Thanks for showing us, again, why most of us love him!
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Tom Hanks and I were born within an hour of each other, adjusted for time zones and daylight savings. He was born in CA and I was born in PA. Even if you don't believe in astrology, it's astonishing how much alike we are, from what I know. Of course, I'm not a celebrity - I chose a different career path.
Collecting old things is typical of those born under the sign Cancer. He may have hoarded typewriters, but it wasn't just because of his childhood. My house is full of old furniture and decorative objects because I love them - the way they look and feel. New things don't cut it - they have no history, no soul.
The kindness and love of children are also attributes of Cancer people. We love animals, too, so I wouldn't be surprised to find out that Tom has pets.
The article said nothing about Tom's taste in food or his ability to cook, but Cancers love to eat delicious food and are also usually good cooks. And they love to feed anyone and everyone and make excellent hosts.
There are more lots more typical traits of Cancer-born people - you can easily find them online.
I'm not much of a movie watcher, but I've seen more movies with Tom than with any other actor. My favorites are "Forrest Gump" and "Sully." I will be watching this new movie when it comes to a streaming service.
In the meantime, I wish him the best. He has a wonderful family and life and, I'm sure, many good friends. This year I'm going to send him a birthday card. Maybe he'll type a reply!
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I read this article on the train home from work and smiled out loud several times; reading this article made me want to share that, too.
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Thank you for writing this story, Ms. Brodesser-Akner. I really enjoyed it and it made me stop and think.
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What a wonderful, raw, personal piece this is. Thank you. I have loved reading it and, as others, have shared the article and its quotes with friends.
You are always right when you work to make people - or the world - feel or be just a bit better.
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This is the most remarkable and utterly human article I have read in a very, very long time. If papers printed more articles like this I would pay again to buy The Times. (It doesn't hurt that I am a Tom Hanks fan and that I have an old old typewriter in my living room.) Thank you so much for being willing to help the world see that there is good in the world, you just have to be willing to notice.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I loved this article about Tom Hanks. I have always enjoyed and appreciated Tom Hanks but only "knew" him through his movies. It is heartening to know that he is authentically a kind and caring person. That is news worthy and something I am truly interested in. I read the entire article instead of skimming and moving on to something else like I usually do. I can't take the gloom in it's entirety anymore. I read the sound bites and move on. The problems, the evil, the lack of civility too large, too overwhelming to know what to do. So, I move forward in my day with kindness as a guide. It is comforting and a validation that Tom does this too. Kindness matters.
I felt a little bit irritated w/the author for suggesting that this story about Tom, the story he was writing, was boring. Why are characteristics like being a genuinely nice human being considered boring? Is this comment an attempt to guard self against the criticism of cynics?
Keep up the good work. Cry your tears, feel inspired...write more about this. We are starving to find a way forward amidst all the darkness. Thank you for being courageous in this writing about a kind man. Thank you to the NYT for publishing this window of hope.
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Yes we are in an era where it seems like Mr. Rogers and Tom Hanks are rare people! Considerate, thoughtful, kind, and paying attention.
Yesterday the candidate that I volunteer for sent out a 'Rules of the Road" reminder about what kind of people we want to be as representatives of the campaign. Here they are;
Respect
Belonging
Truth
Team Work
Boldness
Responsibility
Substance
Discipline
Excellence
Joy
When I read them and thought back through the past weeks actions and realized I had a lot of room for improvement. I have been pretty saddened by what I have seen from people in the last three years, like the author of the article says I too have been pretty depressed. But something that has happened for me lately is that I have been volunteering for a cause that I am excited about, and which gives me hope for the future. A future that I can see because of a candidate who understands the feelings of not belonging and who knows that more than anything else there is a Crisis of Belonging in this country.
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In Pittsburgh in the 1950's I watched The Children's Corner; Fred Rogers was the puppeteer and Josie Carey was on camera. By the time I had my own daughter Mr. Rogers had his own show which she thoroughly enjoyed. Please tell me who's carrying on this wonderful tradition?
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Love Tom Hanks, but hated "Forest Gump." Thanks for the LONG article, even though my fingers got numb scrolling to the end.
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too bad our politicians can't adopt his perspectives and thoughtfulness... i would imagine the american people would be much better off... frankly the world would be much better off
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I remember watching him in Family Ties where he played Elyse's brother who was struggling with alcoholism. Two scenes stick out in my mind - one where he's desperately drinking a bottle of vanilla from the cupboard and one where he shoved Alex to the ground when confronted with his addiction. Come what may, he is a great actor, and always has been.
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There are very few actors that I admire today but Tom Hanks is one of them. I have never heard anyone say one bad thing about him. They all say how nice he is which is a rarity in his business. The world needs more Tom Hanks and oh what a wonderful place it would be. I will definitely see his new movie about a wonderful man (Mister Rogers) portrayed by another wonderful man (Tom Hanks). I hope Tom Hanks never stops making movies as there are so few who display the quality and kindness that he does.
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Boring? You were afraid this would be boring? I read the parenthood paragraph and spent the rest of the morning sobbing uncontrollably over my own upbringing. I spent 15 years in therapy and one quote by Tom Hanks is all I ever needed to heal. This article has literally changed my life.
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I'm going to cry the first time I see Hanks donning that cardigan on a big screen. And I'm going to cry like the boy in that viral video after someone gave him a puppy.
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I used to work for a movie magazine in the 1990's and asked our editor "why do we do so many stories on Tom Cruise and not Tom Hanks?"
she replied that Cruise is a mystery and that Hanx is someone everybody knows and likes.
I liked this article very much ...and I think she was wrong ...
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Live Tim Hanks. Mr. Rogers? Not so much. Don’t really like dogs, either.
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Thanks for reminding us of the goodness in this world.
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What a wonderful article about a truly decent and beautiful man! It makes you want to start the day with the small notion of just being kind... thank you for sharing this
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Photographer Daniel Dorsa did a superior job capturing Mr. Hanks' huggable-ness.
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Wouldn't it be disgusting to find out that Hanks is, really, not a nice guy, but merely a p.r. dream come true of someone who can pull off the "really nice guy" bit. Yeah, it is nice to know that he is a nice person, but is he really? BTW, am I the only person who was moved to tears by the movie "Forrest Gump?" Curious.
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No, you're not alone. Even watching it for the seventh or eighth time, I cried.
Great article on one of the best actors of his generation. I would pay to watch Tom Hanks read from a telephone book.
A great artist and on top of that a great human being.
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"“I hate doing disingenuous press. The stuff that you have to essentially perform through the whole damn thing”
Hell yeah. And I hate watching it.
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Wonderful article, beautifully written. Thank you!
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The piece was wonderful, but I have to say reading the comments and about a dozen stories people tell about Tom’s kindness was the best part
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As an actor, I confess I've always been a little jealous of Tom's career and roles, but in the hopes that either the writer or Tom is reading this, please know that I am inspired by his advice as a father, his example as an actor, your humanity during the interview and this beautifully written profile of you both. I'm not as jealous but rather more grateful for everything I've been privileged to do.
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Yes this article did make me feel much better. And it gives me renewed hope for the power of kindness in the world.
I especially loved the idea that each letter typed on a typewriter is a work of art.
Thank you for this article.
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Thanks for warming my heart during what feels like a truly cold blast of news.
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What's not to like about Tom Hanks? How could one human being have so many talents yet remain grounded, humble, and nice? Reading articles about him is like digesting those inspirational quotes people love to post on social media. I feel really good after and want to be more like Tom Hanks. I love reading Uncommon Type and hope he writes another collection of short stories. And if he wants to gift me one of the typewriters, I'd be happy to accept.
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Dear Taffy,
We all make choices. You chose to report about a good man and not deep dive to balance the story; somehow with negative attributes. I congratulate you. Sometimes a good man is just that, a good man. Not a perfect man, a good man. You did a really fine job with this writing.
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This is an article that I needed to read.
As a guy blessed with two beautiful kids, I am given such worry with the world of late. I don't know if it's always been this grim and I didn't see it for lack of maturity or age, or if it's just gotten that much worse. But I am mournful of the difference between the world I inherited and the one I fear I will leave to my son and daughter. And I'm too often saddened by the sense of futility I feel about changing any of it.
This article, though, has put a dent in that sense of futility. There are still "helpers." I expect this piece will be widely shared and, in advance of holidays likely to be fraught with talk of policy and worse, inspire a few people to go and do some good things. I'm thankful for that, and for this author's adherence to Fred's pillars of journalism. Especially #3.
And with that I'm going to go have a better day than I would have, had I not read this piece. Thanks, Taffy.
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Dear Mr. Hanks,
Should you, by some miracle, read the article and these comments, please accept my cordial invitation to come to my home for dinner. My husband and our dearest friends who also live here in Paso Robles, California, often play a dinner game in which we create a table of dinner guests we would dearly love to entertain. You, Tom Hanks, are always included as is Abraham Lincoln. We couldn’t conjure Mr. Lincoln, but he would be here in spirit should you honor us with your presence. Plus, Paso Robles is a delightful area to visit!
In all sincerity,
Barbara
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Tom Hanks is one in a million. I am sure one day they will make a movie about this fine actor. It certainly would be well deserved. It is so refreshing to read about a nice actor especially when there seem to be so few.
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If I can keep reading about people like Tom Hanks and Memo the marathon runner (“two rules: work hard and never give up!”), I may just make it to Inauguration Day 2021. Thanks for the emotional lift.
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@MH Key
Couldn't agree more . . . and this author! The author's honest reflection of Life and Growth are also heart-warming. His heart always was an umbrella!
Just what I need :)
We're all in this together.
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@MH Key Me, too! This story does make me feel less bad.
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This article contains the best parenting advice I've ever read. I've copied and pasted his quote as a compass for how to raise my child. It encapsulates everything I hope to do as a parent. Thank you, Taffy and Tom!
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@Christina
I did the same thing!
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@Christina Me, too! My mother used to say that we all need at least one person in our life who thinks we are PERFECT, no matter what.
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Yes. I copied/pasted that same quote and sent it to my own children! Perfect way to begin the week.
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Inserting yourself into the story is never a good idea. It didn’t make it more exciting and I skipped over most of her neurotic self-pity. But more upsetting to me was that she thinks her children are too old for Mr. Rogers. That told me that Taffy totally missed the point of the movie Tom Hanks made, the persona of Fred Rogers, and her meeting with Tom Hanks. That she thinks she’s too old for Mr Rogers is even sadder than her self-pity.
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Fascinating how an interview with a media personality about a film centered on how a journalist who interviewed a media personality came away a better person ended up the same way. Perhaps years from now, someone will make a movie based on the interactions of Hanks and a certain NY Times reporter.
I love Tom Hanks as an actor, I agreed with Ms. Brodesser-Akner's observation that he is just as nice as I think he is, and I read the article anyway because she asked me to. And it was so good it made me cry (along her her, apparently). Thank you for accurately reporting this uncontrived good news.
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Your finely written, insightful article made my day more beautiful. What's boring is the constant drone of bad, sad, and disappointing news about people with little to no redeeming qualities. Thank you for making my day.
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I met him in DC as a teenager when he was filming a movie. "The Man with One Red Shoe" (a real clunker with Dabney Coleman and Lori Singer (of "Footloose" fame), shortly after Splash had made it big (mid-80s). He talked to my cousin and for a while, drew a "picture" of me (a smiley face) and signed it. He was awesome, funny, kind. Fan for life!
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This was a really looooooong article, But I'm very glad that it was. I hope a lot of people read it. Get it published somewhere else too.
A brilliantly written article about a diamond in the rough.
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So you know how 'they' say ~1% of people make the content, ~10% interact with it, ~90% just observe? I'm very much in that 90%. I don't think I've left a comment or review on a YouTube channel, news article, blog, gym, airbnb experience, etc. etc. maybe ever. But I felt like it was important to thank NYT for publishing an article that didn't have controversy. This isn't the normal economic model. This is more of what we need.
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Thank you for writing such a beautiful story. Not only did it make me cry but I got so absorbed in reading that I missed my morning yoga class!
I have always loved Tom Hanks and I'm so happy to read he's even better than I thought.
I can never eat those tiny little cobs of corn without laughing remembering him in Big.
How blessed you are to have gotten to know him and spend time with a real mensch.
Thank you for a beautiful piece of writing!
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This old guy was deeply moved by this article and many of the comments. I'm surprised but pleased at the same time.
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Thank you for writing this article. I didn't know how much I needed this story in my life. I read (and love) every article The Times writes about Hanks. My husband and I seldom make it to the movies but we make the effort to go to every Hanks movie. We could use a little more Hanks and Rogers in our lives.
P.S. I love your tagline imploring people to read this article anyway. It worked. You got me to click.
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This is a great story. Not at all boring. I like that it is just not about Tom Hanks and Fred Rodgers. It's about how both of them can/could affect people in transformative good ways.
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Tom Hanks playing the media like a fiddle: bravo. A fine performance.
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What a lovely story. I can assure you, you weren't the only one crying.
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I truly enjoyed your article. If was very insightful and honest.
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Wonderfully written. Thank you.
I saw A Beautiful Day in The Neighborhood last night, and was touched and moved by the movie, Tom Hanks, and of course the depiction of Fred Rodgers.
Read this article along with Tom Junod’s 1988 Esquire article, Can You Say...Hero?. They capture the essence of two men who exemplify kindness.
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IT WORKED!!! I think I can get outof bed and get dressed now. I honestly did not feel that way before I read this story, but now I see that the next 24 hours offers unlimited opportunities to do the best I can. Thanks ever so much.
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What a wonderful article—thank you, Taffy Brodesser-Akner —it made me tear up several times. I've been a fan of both Fred Rogers and Tom Hanks for decades, what wonderful human beings and role models.
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I love the part where the journalist is moved to tears and the interviewee acknowledges the moment. Truth on both sides. Opens the reader’s heart— like that umbrella. Thank you for a fine story, Taffy.
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Life is like a box of tissues when reading a Tom Hanks profile. Wonderfully written.
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Two memorable people came out of Winter Park, Florida. One was Mr. Rogers, who went to college at Rollins College in Winter Park. The other was Ed Gurney, a US Senator, who practiced law on Park Ave., down the street from Rollins College.
Mr. Rogers definitely wins the title of "Mr. Nice Guy" and is the one fondly remembered by old-timers of the Winter Park/Maitland neighborhood.
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When Tom Hanks plays a character, you know that at his core, the character has integrity. That's Hanks' greatest attribute.
Another actor who filled that place in the movie industry was Gregory Peck. Of course, Peck was physically more imposing and could play leading romantic roles also, but he always had integrity - see Roman Holiday.
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Wonderful, wonderful profile. A virtual pot of gold under this rainbow of a narrative arc. Fred Rodger's lived a quiet if not inspired life gazing out at the many glorious views of the Atlantic ocean from his cottage on Madakat beach, on Nantucket Island. He timed his days to startlingly beautiful sun rises, and spectacular rosey-hued sunsets. And although he never missed a Sunday in the same pew at St. Paul's Episcopal in the center of Nantucket town, nature surely inspired his gift for seeing and appreciateing the beauty in life and all of its creatures.
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One of the best pieces of journalism I have ever read. Thank you for bringing it to us.
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Loved the article. More than I have loved any article in a long time. Thanks for telling us about Hanks. No shock, but he is a personal favorite. And thanks for the candidness on your own journey. It made the story better; authentic and interesting.
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Tom Hanks for President.
Of course, I still wish Senator Mark Warner would run. Then Hanks could play him in the movie about how President Warner returned the United States executive branch to normalcy.
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I cried more than once reading this. My biggest takeaways: Get my typewriter out, use it. Check out Hanks' Kerchiefs. And go watch That Thing You Do!
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To me the crux of "getting" Tom Hanks is this quote:
"It isn’t easy being a parent, not for any of us, he said. “Somewhere along the line, I figured out, the only thing really, I think, eventually a parent can do is say I love you, there’s nothing you can do wrong, you cannot hurt my feelings, I hope you will forgive me on occasion, and what do you need me to do? You offer up that to them. I will do anything I can possibly do in order to keep you safe. That’s it. Offer that up and then just love them.”
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Every month, I look at my budget to determine what I can cut in order to make it work. I’m retired & my health care costs are edging toward doom. Included in my line-item budget is the NYT.
Every month, NYT survives the cuts because of stories like this. It’s a bit maudlin to admit that this story made me cry. But after watching jacket-less Jim Jordan screaming into a mike for hours yesterday, I needed Mr Rogers & Tom Hanks today.
Thank you, NYT. You have no idea what you mean to me. And you’re gonna survive the next round of my budgetary cuts. If I had to live in my car, you’d still survive.
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There was a Fresh Air interview in which Hanks had a crazy childhood, with a series of stepdads of completely different religious backgrounds. He had to be highly adaptive and keep a sense of humor just to keep sane. Talk about boot camp, aka Saving Private Ryan. The experience could have broken him. Instead he developed a high level of emotional intelligence. Lightning numchi.
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This is totally off topic for a wonderful article about Tom Hanks, but if you look closely at the side by side pictures of Tom and Fred, you'll see that Fred's shoe has been re-soled. Doesn't that kind of say everything you need to know about Fred Rogers? To me, it's not just his kindness that was important, but how at his core, he tried to take the full advantage of everything he was given, and tried to teach that ethos to children. And you're right. This story did make me feel better. Thank you.
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This epitomizes what’s wrong with the press - print, tv, social media, FOX, NYT, all. They can’t just write about a great person and let that stand for itself.
They have to lament that there is no controversy, no public spectacle, no crime, drug addiction, no rehab. Because that’s what the press really wants - dirty laundry to sell ads.
SAD.
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Not boring! With my new age media ADD, I rarely finish an article. I finished this one.
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Lovely interviewee, lovely movie topic, lovely writing.Thank you!
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So many positive comments here; this story, and the comments, a great way to start the day. Someone else might have mentioned it, but I just finished listening to Ann Patchett's latest book, The Dutch House, read by Tom Hanks. It was like listening to an old friend; his kind voice verbalizing Patchett's perfect words. Truly a double treat.
Thank you, NYT, for this story perfect for my ailing spirit.
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Spectacular article. Tom Hanks makes me want to be a better me. Applause to the writer... and thanks for sharing your own raw emotion about Tom.
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I want to thank the author for this article. It did indeed make me feel better, and more hopeful! And God bless Tom Hanks.
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This was a great article and wonderful insights into one of the most unique and humane actors and human out there today.
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What an uplifting story. It has immediately changed my perfective on dealing with the world. It made me cry and laugh and reevaluate how I can better deal with people. It causing nothing to be nice but you get so much more in return. Thank you for such a great and inspiring article.
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I teach 5th grade, so my students are 10 and 11 years old.
I recently asked them if they knew who Mr. Rogers was?
None of them did.
I'm wondering if he resides on YouTube?
If he does?
Put your pencils down kids.
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@Scott Franklin
Well, they're going to be able to see this movie; two good guys at the same time. And your students are richer for YOUR appreciation.
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I think both Tom Hanks and Mr Rogers are wonderful people. I enjoyed the article. Tom Hanks and his typewriters always cheer me up. And I was a devotee of that neighborhood of Mr Rogers'. To paraphrase a meme, be more Tom and Fred.
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The first day of the Trump impeachment hearings are over and I find my self trying to tamp down a kind of cocktail made up of equal parts sadness and disgust. Other then taking my perpetually happy dog for excessively long walks and watching the complete series of The Great British Baking Show, (even the Holiday Episodes!) I find myself brooding about something totally out of my control.
This was a long way to go to say thank you for your Tom Hanks interview. Not sure how long this feeling will last but for a while at least, some unidentifiable tension has been lifted from my shoulders. It’s marvelous how just a slight insight into Tom Hanks can make things seem so much less sad. I will am going to hold onto this feeling as long as possible. Thanx.
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I cried twice reading this. It’s a great story about Tom Hanks, a bit about Mr.Rodgers, but a more amazing, inspiring by example show oof kindness. Keep your umbrellas open!
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How very nice, and soothing, to read this long positive story in such a dreadful time in our country. Thank you.
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On a sad protest filled Hong Kong day this article was just what I needed. Thank you. I loved it. So beautifully written.
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Contrary to what most people think being a jerk is the easy choice being nice is certainly the harder choice and make no mistake it is a choice. Sometimes we all need to be reminded of this fact thank you Mr. Hanks.
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Being nice is never harder and takes less energy
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Thanks Taffy, it wasn’t boring. Quite the opposite compared to rest of NYT these days as you note. I enjoyed your lens on Tom Hanks.
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It takes tremendous courage and a very strong belief in oneself to be kind and decent like Tom. The reason why most people can’t , is because most people are unhappy with their own existence so they take their unhappiness out on others. Tom Hanks, David Attenborough, the Obamas belong to this class of rare individuals.
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How nice is Tom Hanks? He agreed to put in an appearance in this article about the precocious Taffy and her many maladies!
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A friend who is now a retired paparazzi photographer likes to tell the story of running into Hanks in the park while both were walking their dog, about 15 years ago. My friend had his camera with him and snapped off several clandestine shots of the star and his dog, hiding in the bushes all the while, hoping to stay hidden and sell them to a tabloid.
My friend was rushing off when Hanks called out to him.
“Hey, don’t run, I wanna talk to you!” Hanks shouted to my friend.
Busted, my friend slinked over to Hanks, tail tucked firmly between legs, for what he expected would be a tongue-lashing. Instead, it was the opposite.
“I want to find out what makes you tick,” Hanks said, asking, “Tell me about your life. Why you do this. Who you are. Give me reasons to like you.”
My friend proceeded to download about his life and career to a legitimately interested superstar. It was, my friend related to me, among the most enjoyable 90 minutes he’s ever spent with anyone in his life. They laughed and shared stories together. He came away with a newfound love and respect for one Tom Hanks - who is even nice and genuine to the paparazzo!
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I love the concept of the story but as a journalist I urge the author to "tighten up" your copy! Otherwise, good job on a most worthy subject.
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Thank you Taffy for this heart opening piece of journalism.
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Mr. Rogers was my very first seven-years-old crush. The man I told my mother I was to marry. Did anyone else experience this sensation, or am I just a freak? hahahaha.
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At the height of the Me Too revelations, it seemed every day brought a new and shocking story about someone who I never imagined was a creep, a perv, a misogynist, etc. Each time I read a headline that indicated I was about to get shocked once again, I would hope it wasn't about anyone I admired. I remember saying to myself, "Who is next to be outed? Mr. Rogers? Tom Hanks?". I held onto the image of both of them as exceedingly nice guys who would not dream of mistreating a woman. I told myself that if I heard either of them was named the latest Celebrity Jerk, I was going to give up on the world completely. I would have faith in nothing and no one. Thank you, Fred and Tom, for not allowing me to give up on the world and for instead inspiring me to be a kinder, nicer person. Thank you.
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Sitting in my grandparents’ suburban Pittsburgh house on long summer afternoons in the 1980s, my grandmother always had PBS turned on to keep us grandkids occupied. We grew up with the reassuring voice and calm presence of Mr. Rogers, who was of course a local celebrity and Presbyterian minister from nearby Latrobe. What a treat to have another star, Tom Hanks, from my favorite childhood movies such BIG, Forest Gump, and Terminal, play him. I simply cannot wait to see this film!
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There are a few actors who, when you see their name associated with a movie, you know you will want to see that movie. Tom Hanks has been in several of my all-time favorites (Big, Sleepless in Seattle, You've Got Mail.... and others).
There is something very special about him.
We moved a year ago and had an antique Smith-Corona typewriter to make plans for; I suggested we try to find a way to give it to Tom Hanks. Having no idea how to accomplish that, we gave it to a young man in the neighborhood who wanted a typewriter for his writing projects. It has had a good life and will continue to type on.
We are grateful that someone like Tom Hanks has been part of the "public's life" and has given us all so many wonderful movie moments.
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I’m sorry, people will hate me for saying this, but this article and all the comments feel like inspired propaganda. We’re all supposed to cry, thank the author for warming our hearts, and heap praise on Tom Hanks. It’s creepy.
That’s cool he’s a super good guy. But let’s be honest: it’s a lot harder to be nice when you’re struggling to survive and feed your family, when the world is stomping all over you everyday, and when your acts of kindness are interpreted as a sign of weakness.
Good for him and the people he has touched. He’s blessed. I don’t think he needs people fawning all over him though. Or maybe he does, but in a really nice, Everyman way that will make us all break down and cry.
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'News of the World' is an outstanding book. I highly recommend. And look forward to seeing TH in the role.
What a wonderful piece of writing. Thank you for taking us along on an amazing experience.
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Great piece! Tom is absolutely my favorite and even more so after reading this. Please also watch Apollo 13 with your children... they will get a glimpse of how our country used to work together to solve problems.
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It always warms my heart and makes me cry when I read about and see a man who is so good to his fellow human beings. That goodness and civility are alive in his performances and interviews that I have witnessed.
Respect Mr. Hanks. Respect.
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This was wonderful. Thanks for your candidness and vulnerability and for profiling his kindness.
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I have always found Tom Hanks a bit tiresome as an actor... too himself in every role... That said, I have also understood that he is a great guy. You can see it in his eyes, and anyone who is married to Rita Wilson is okay in my book.
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At a couple of points in the article, I'm not certain I know who exactly was interviewed here, Taffy. But I'm sure after watching this guy since 'Bosom Buddies'-days and thinking of him as about the most approachable regular guy persona in all of film - without exception - I'd probably be inclined to look for some personal insight as well were I given an opportunity to talk with him at length like you were privileged to. Thanks for the up close interview.
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It's true! He's super nice. I was waiting tables in Sun Valley, ID on Valentine's Day about 10 years ago. When I turned around and saw Tom and Rita at my table, I was a nervous wreck. I had just moved to the ski town and wasn't used to all of the celebs yet. On top of that, I was newly pregnant and was feeling miserable. They were just the loveliest people, and went out of their way to find me and say "thank you" before leaving that night.
When I tell people I waited on Tom Hanks, they always ask..."is he really as nice as he seems?" Yep, he really is.
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Dare I note that all of us here are unanimous in feeling good about an article? We needed this, didn’t we?
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Yes, we certainly did!
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When I realized Tom Hanks was a brilliant actor as opposed to just a talented movie star was in Cast Away, when Wilson the volleyball fell off the raft. I was absolutely furious at him for allowing that to happen. In a movie about living on a desert island he'd made me care about a volleyball as much as his character did and I felt he was sloppy about tying it to the raft. It took a long while before I realized on an island you might not have all the equipment you need and a raft is not the easiest of venues on the open sea.
So I'm not mad at Tom anymore for losing Wilson. But my dept of feeling was manipulated by a brilliant actor. Without appearing to, he inhabits all of his characters and seemingly most at ease of all, is being Tom Hanks.
A really good article capturing someone who is probably not that easy to capture. Thanks for the read.
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Amazing!
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Fantastic article and NOT BORING! Thank you!
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Taffy, thank you. Just - thank you.
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Tom needs to save our country by running for president.
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Thank you!❤️
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Not Boring!
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This set of NYT comments feels like a family exchange. I wish you all were my neighbor.
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I bet tom Hanks really is nice. I don't know. Never met him. But whenever I see him on a talk show, he seems super arrogant and really full of himself. It doesn't jive with stories like these.
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Is this an article about Taffy written by Tom Hanks or is an article about Tom Hanks written by Taffy? Hard to tell.
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Thank you — for a piece of work that finally warmed my heart, sparked some hope, and made me smile.
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The last sentence is backwards. And I loved reading this!
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”When you were talking to Fred, you felt as though you were the only person in the world that mattered to him.”
Same with Hanks.
In 1997 I was living in Tokyo and somehow – though totally unconnected to either movie-making or journalism – I got invited to a press conference Tom was doing in a fancy hotel ballroom to promote “That Thing You Do.”
At one point a mike was passed around for the Japanese journalists to use in asking Tom questions. It suddenly landed in the hands of the only Italian-American in the room – me.
I asked my question (about the translated title of Tom’s film) and soon found myself in a very entertaining back-and-forth with my favorite movie star – a dialogue that was moving so quickly that the translators couldn’t keep up!
Then, when the press conference ended, Tom – miraculously – came directly over to me to chat.
And yes, for the couple of minutes, Tom Hanks – a man of relaxed good will – made me feel as though I was the only person in the world that mattered to him.
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This profile is the most joyous, uplifting thing I have read in the Times in months. Last week, I texted my adult sons and asked them to see this movie with me over Thanksgiving weekend. It seems important. This article confirms it. Thank you, Taffy and Tom, so very much.
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Isn’t it wonderful that kindness is something we can all provide each other? In this gloomy period in when things seem so hostile on the planet, we have Tom Hanks. We had Fred Rogers. And we have humanity. I was three when Mr Rogers first aired and spent months in the hospital as a severe asthmatic on and off for years. I was lonely, and behind in school. My Rogers was my personal hero. And of course, Tom Hanks. Thank you for this inspiring article.
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Great, now I’m crying, too... Both Mr. Rogers and Tom Hanks seem to have that ineffable quality of decency plus kindness without sanctimony. That combination is a balm for most of us, who feel complicated and broken, but wish to be better. These so-called Everymen are our ideal: mirrors of our best selves, with the ability to make us feel special and interesting/like the only ones in the room. Just like that Everyman, Clark Kent, these men possess a superpower.
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This article was lovely. I didn’t want it to end. A high point was when I was halfway through it and noticed that I’d only read half and there was still half left! Thank you!
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I don't know if you will even see my comment, but I feel the need to let you know anyway. I have to say that this is one of the best articles or should I say story, that I have read in years and years. I am emotionally moved and I could only wish to have met and spoke with Tom. I have to admit that I am jealous! Lol Thanks for the wonderful insight and the shared emotions. Dave
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Classic Tom Hanks.
Classic Taffy!
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I felt like I spent time with you in the process of writing this article: the research, your discoveries and revelations, your experiences with Mr. Hanks. I feel so grateful for our time together.
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Great article. More of this!
One of my favorite Tom Hanks quotes was around the time he filmed Sully, He was asked about the historical truth of events in the film and he commented that film makers try to get the bones of events correct but they still only get about 15% of all the events right — then he said that with Sully they’re going to go for the grand 20% try, in essence admitting that the rule also applied to him. I paraphrased of course but that honestly impressed me to no end. Who does that? Not many people.
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What a relief this article was to read. A surprisingly deep one too,considering its topic. Poignant and uplifting. A reinforcement of the adage,"deeds speak louder than words", and yet words do have meaning, as Fred Rogers believed. A great subject written about wonderfully.
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I loved this beautifully crafted and revealing essay for the same reason I love reading the stories and the comments upon them which appear each week in The Times’s “Metropolitan Diary.” My favorite Diary entries are the ones which recount acts of kindness and generosity of spirit. This week’s Diary has a story by a writer who recounted how a driver in the car in front of hers in a hospital parking lot went out of his way to protect a parking spot so as to save it for her. Another recounts the efforts made by a woman who sought to find a way to repair the lining of her friend’s much-used and much-loved handbag. I believe such small acts of kindness are not small at all, but very big in that they immeasurably sweeten our days and brighten our lives and make us all feel better about the human condition. This lovely profile of Tom Hanks reveals him to be a kind, empathetic, and compassionate human being, sensitive to the needs and feelings of everyone around him. How sorely all of us need to try to exhibit these qualities, especially nowadays in order to counter the toxicity and coarseness corroding the fabric of public life.
I increasingly find myself skipping the headline stories because they are so uniformly distressing and depressing. What I love about The New York Times is that it also provides articles like this one, which are a joy to read, informative, beautifully crafted, and that leave one feeling better about life, just like so many Tom Hanks movies.
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I loved reading your story and I was sad when it was over. It actually felt good to read something that was positive, heartfelt and sincere. What a privilege for us (the readers) to be witness to the interaction between two lovely human beings. Thank you :)
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He sent our public radio station dozens of delicious pies during the pledge drive. He’s amazing!
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Masterly written piece. Conveyed true, uncluttered, heartfelt thoughts. Yes - bring us more, more, more "news" of these humble and very nice people.
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Glad to see the mention of "Road to Perdition." Hanks was great. It was Paul Newman's final movie, and he was terrific too.
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I never used to like Mr. Rogers or Tom Hanks that much to be perfectly honest. I tend to have more of an affinity for witty, sarcastic, urbane types. But in the age of snark, I grow weary of the constant sniping. This article reminds us how far we’ve come from admiring what used to be called decency. Maybe kindness is the counterculture now.
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What a beautiful piece. Ms. Brodesser-Akner - you have transcended the "star profile" to give us a portrait of an American gentleman, in a time when his example is desperately needed. Thank you, also, for sharing your vulnerability with us. My umbrella feels lighter as well.
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Thank you so much for writing this. It’s what we all need right now.
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“Saintly Actor Playing Saintly Public Television Children’s Host Mister Rogers Is Saintly” is not a great story, says the author. I disagree. When I wake up in the middle of the night and can’t get back to sleep, I read these kinds of profiles to knock me out. Well, I read this one at 3:37 this morning and made it all the way to the end wide awake. I’m excited to see the movie about one of my favorite people played by one of my favorite actors.
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Celebrity interviews are usually boring. This one is inspiring. Thank you!
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As Hanks himself said once, what has he got to complain about? At least he has the grace to know it, and not complain about the usual things that the 1% (which he now is) routinely complain about. As I've said before in these Comments pages, how is it that we designate wealthy actors to be the one group of people on the planet whose thoughts and opinions we are supposed to really, really care about? Witness this obsessive disgorgement of a couple thousand words trying to illuminate why Tom Hanks should be considered to be a really, I mean really, good guy. The better question is why do we care to read about him one way or the other? Are there no good and interesting people in our world who live a little closer to what most of us would think of as "reality," other than this movie star who we'll never meet?
Lovely article. Thank you for opening yourself to Mr. Hanks and then sharing that experience here.
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Sorry, this is too sweet for me...I am having a diabetic attack.
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Mr Hanks, please run for president!!!
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Taffy, I love the ending to your article.
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Nice article Thank you
Tom Hanks is one of those rare actors you know in your heart is a rock solid, good man. He's also a talented actor who's always a delight to watch perform. Thanks for Mr. Rodgers and all the other terrific films Tom.
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I too have recalibrated a bit, after reading this article. It was enough. It was more than enough. Thank you for this moving and honest piece, which turned out to be about much more than Tom Hanks and Mr. Rogers.
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I wish the world held more men like Tom Hanks, Fred Rogers, Jimmy Carter, my husband, and my dad.
These men make the world a better place. They build up instead of tearing down. They are kind and strong. They help people - even weak, poor, and sad people who cannot offer much in return. They love their families. They respect women and protect kids. They create amazing art. They aren’t afraid to speak up.
This is what a man should be. I am so glad my kids have role models like this.
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nicely said.
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Indeed....nicely said!
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A perfect day for this story. Thank you Mr. Roger's and Mr. Hanks. There is still kindness in our world.
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As a young reporter for The Ithaca Journal in 1986 I was assigned to interview Fred Rodgers at a local grade school. It's a day I've never forgotten. He really was as nice in person as he was on television. He asked most of the questions; I was overwhelmed by his gentle nature and charm. Where have people like Fred Rodgers gone? Maybe they live on in people such as Tom Hanks.
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Taffy: What a nice article! Normally that wouldn't sound like much of a compliment but after reading your article, the word "nice" has been elevated. I am thrilled that you depicted Tom Hanks, as is. No need to create drama or scandal. And that is so unusual today that I had to write and thank you. An authentic and lovely man deserved an authentic and lovely person to profile him.
My Best,
ML Sirianni
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The other night we were watching Jeopardy when one of the contestant bet his money to say that we all loved Alex. We all teared up because Alex means so much to us and is part of our family, even though we will never meet him but he has a presence of goodness in our lives.
Mr. Rogers reinforced kindness, character, community love etc I am sure Mr. Hanks will honor him in the movie. I remember how we felt when we realized that Mr. Rogers had passed away.
There will never be another Mr. Rogers however he always inspired us to be a little bit better each day. In these dark times I think of Mr. Rogers and our neighborhood often.
I hope the movie is very successful and more children learn who Mr. Rogers is and keep his wonderful memory of good works alive.
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We had, when our children were small, a friend who wouldn't allow his children to watch Mr. Rogers because he thought Mr. Rogers was gay. His reasoning was that a man that gentle and soft-spoken couldn't possibly be a REAL man. The father who rejected this wonderful experience for his children was in fact bipolar, and would not take medication because it was not MANLY. Sad for the children, sad for the dad, who might have learned a lot about himself. Our kids devoured the program, along with Sesame Street, and are as close-to-fifty-year-old husbands, kind, accepting, progressive, loving men. I am so thankful to Fred Rogers and Jim henson for loving the children.
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Thanks for the wonderful article. It brought tears to my eyes. I don't know if they were for you or Mr. Rogers or Tom Hanks, - probably for all three and for the love of life and humanity you all show.
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AHHHHHH, I feel so much better now. This was a nice antidote to the impeachment hearing today and bad traffic and grim news and...thank you!
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Hanks has made a cottage industry out of playing real life characters and misrepresenting them.
It seems that every movie he makes some family member brings up over dramatization and inaccuracies.
I would rather see a good documentary.
I won’t watch his films but I heard that the Apollo movie erroneously blamed one astronaut for the accident to gin up the drama and that the movie was sued by the family.
Something bothers me about this guy.
I don’t know why so many people allow Hanks to be a vehicle for their fantasies.
Wouldn’t you rather be Atticus Finch, Indiana Jones, Obi Wan Kenobi?
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@Coureur des Bois
Interesting that you named three fictional characters that you presumably would rather be. Real: that’s Better.
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Mr. Rodgers - err, I mean, Tom Hanks - for President.
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I'm around Tom's age and I'm not really sure the "nice" thing is even news?
Gosh, we needed a story about kindness and about kind men (Hanks and Rogers) today. Cannot wait to see this movie.
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Yup, I feel less bad.
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In 1997, a friend of mine was vacationing in the Hamptons and taking a early evening walk along the beach. He noticed a large, impressive house with a lot of people mingling about at a party. There was a man working the grill. He noticed my friend, who waved, and the man waved back and yelled out, “Hey! Do you want a hot dog?” My friend approached the man, and said, “You’re Tom Hanks!”, to which Tom replied, “Yes, I am!”, with his usual charming smile, and handed my friend a hot dog. Seems there was a screening party for “Saving Private Ryan” at Stephen Spielberg’s beach house, and there was the leading man, working the grill and as pleasant, generous, and happy to share with an otherwise ordinary passerby. For my fortunate friend, truly a brush with greatness, and goodness.
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I am almost on the opposite pole. If "The Report" bothers to come here I will make every effort to see it because I am so thrilled that Jon Hamm lent his name to anything with a social conscience. That whole shameful episode in American history emphasized that you are a witness even if you can't be anything else.
OK, perhaps it's just a personal preference, but I don't like when journalists insert too much of themselves into a story. If we cut out most of Taffy's ramblings, I would enjoy the article much more. This may be a 2019 version of gonzo journalism, but it's boring. "He wants to save my story from being boring."
I realize most readers will disagree with me.
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You are NOT too old for Mr. Rogers. None of us is too old for Mr. Rogers.
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When my son was in constant motion at two years, I found it very reassuring that he could sit still and be entranced during the total time Mr Rogers was on. I was later privileged to meet Mr Rogers at Chautauqua Institute and what you saw on TV was what He was in real life. RIP Mr Rogers .
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So enjoyable to read the depth of your article from your personal, private perspective. Beautifully written.
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Thanks for the wonderful article. It brought tears to my eyes. I don't know if they were for you or Mr. Rogers or Tom Hanks, - probably for all three and for the love of life and humanity you all show.
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Just reading this made me feel better. Thanks. Nice to know that there are good people in the world at the top...must be few and far between.
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Great reminder that kindness is not weakness - you have to choose to be nice and the world does not make it easy to do so! Niceness is not a default state. I feel like I spent an hour with Tom Hanks. Thank you for this article, and I look forward to seeing Mr. Hanks in “A Beautiful Day” as well as many more roles to come.
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Tom Hanks is my favorite, again.
Now Taffy Brodesser-Akner is also my favorite.
In Nietzsche's diary he says, "Don't forget your umbrella!"
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Saw the trailer for his new film and it made me cry. Such a wonderful actor and have been a huge fan since his days from Bosom Buddies. A natural and a wonderful person.
Keep doing what you're doing Mr. Hanks, I've never truly see him give a bad performance.
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I had the opportunity, in the 1980s, to meet Fred Rogers through a boy I was dating at the time. Fred was Fred. What you saw on PBS was the person who greeted you at the door. I can only imagine and pray that Tom Hanks is that same person - no matter what you see - his essence and his purity are true. "There are three ways to ultimate success: The first way is to be kind. The second way is to be kind. The third way is to be kind."
Fred Rogers - chose to be kind.
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Thank you for this story and yes, it did make me feel great comfort in reading of the kind, thoughtfulness of Tom and Mr. Rogers. And then I thought of those whom I have met in different circumstances who also had elements of wisdom and kindness. These are the blessings I am greateful for. I only wish I still had my father's early Underwood typewriter (after reading of Tom's collection).
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Thank you for this article. I do feel better. Keep making those movies Tom Hanks!
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Nice guy finishes first. Thank you. I do feel better.
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It is refreshing to see an actor who has become an artist in our time. Becoming progressively better in his films, Mr. Hanks is no longer the "Jimmy Stewart" of our time, but has become a current icon for true and personable humans captured on celluloid. Sit back, relax, it's a Hanks movie.
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I was born in 2005 and didn’t grow up watching mr Rogers, however I just watched it for the first time a couple of months ago and was completely wrapped up in the episode till the very end. The way mr Rogers speaks is very enthralling and Tom Hanks was perfect for the role. Glad to see something positive on the news for once and also nice to see an article titled “Tom Hanks is as nice as you think he is.” That isn’t the case for a lot of celebrities and a good job by the NYT on reporting such a positive and true story.
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@Walker Magrinat I grew up with Mr. Rogers and the one takeaway, he never talked down to children. And he introduced jazz and empathy to a whole generation. Not bad.
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Thanks for this wonderful article. Love is alive in spite of what is going on all around us. We'll done.
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Tom Hanks is going to star in News of the World? Best news ever! He’ll be great.
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Wow, really needed this good story about good people. Thank you to Mr. Hanks, Taffy (such a great name), and the NY Times for daring to tell a simple but true story.
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It is nice to hear that the nice guy persona Tom Hanks projects in most of his roles is a reflection on him, even if the roles are not him. I remember him talking (with glee) about playing Jimmy Dugan in "A league of their own" and in preparation from it being able to eat what he wanted, not shave and so forth, it was a little kid in a candy store, it is something you can't fake.
Is Tom Hanks perfect? I doubt his kids, his wife or he would agree, and I am sure at times he has been less than perfect (though when I hear about contractors complaining about a client, well, given my knowledge of contractors, that is like the used car dealer complaining about consumer protection laws), what this interview showed is he is human, albeit seemingly a decent, nice person. I would bet you Fred Rogers, if you told him he was perfect or an angel, would tell you he wasn't,I think he and Tom share something in common, understanding they are human, and as a result, are able to overlook the flaws in others, they take to heart the meaning behind criticizing the mote in your neighbor's eye if you have a log in yours, something a lot of the supposedly religious people seem to forget in their vitriol and hatred towards others (Fred Rogers was a religious person, deeply so, but I never heard him quoted as demonizing anyone).
I am eager to see the movie, the one thing I think Tom and Fred Rogers have in common is they likely both were/are uncomfortable with being seen as a perfectly nice man
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Tom made a spectacular presence in Hollywood by being good, not very good. As a comedian he wasn’t a schtick routine, but always very sensible. Philadelphia was an opportunity for greatness and he followed it with an even greater act, as Forest Gump in a movie that stands the test of time as true and approachable art. When Julian Schnable said Cast Away made him want to commit Hari Kari, I was intrigued but I didn’t see the movie for approximately another decade. I was moved. As for Mr. Rogers, I never liked him. I wouldn’t say I saw through him, but it’s close. He seemed to elicit discomfort through his sincerity, and I stayed away. The documentary recently released on him seemed to have a very astute trailer, and the grown up me was intrigued. I guess there’s something to even the most marginal players in our past. I’m glad Tom is taking his chances as an actor, because altogether, his filmography is right up my alley.
So Tom Hanks tipped a girl guide, returned someone's lost ID, did an honest day's work in 1997 and helped a bride get to her wedding. Are we really that starved for good men in our culture that these are worthy examples of niceness from more than 20 years of a man's life? Would we mention these anecdotes if it were a famous actress? This article made me profoundly sad. The bar we hold up for men's behaviour is so, so low compared to the standards we expect of women. Do yourself a favour and watch the recent documentary about Mr. Rogers called Won't You Be My Neighbor? Fred Rogers was a brave, kind man. Tom Hanks is a good actor but he is no Fred Rogers.
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Bah humbug.
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Tom Hanks is from Oakland! Don't forget! We get to claim this wonderful man.
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I've never been more convinced not to have children.
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If I'm clicking through the channels looking for something to watch, I always stop for a Ton Hanks movie, even if there's only ten minutes left. No matter, I've seen the movie before and I'll surely watch it again.
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That was just a great read...
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We need a man or woman with Hanksian values to lead this country. How refreshing that would be.
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@Steve Cohen
We had that with Jimmy Carter. Let's hope for his speedy recovery.
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My wife and I loved Bosom Buddies and were regular watchers when it was a first run show. We knew then Tom was something special.
Years after the show was off the air and Peter Scolari had Newhart under his belt and Hanks was a huge star, I sat, by chance, next to Scolari on a plane. I told him how my wife and I loved the show and that we had been regular watchers. He wryly said, “Oh, so it was you two who were watching the show.” It was instantly obvious to me why he and Hanks had great early comedic chemistry together.
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I suspect that if Tom Hanks were nice to me on a bad day that tears would only be the start, and someone would probably have to wipe me off the floor.
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You really get to know what kind of person an actor is when you spend three days with them locked inside a small hotel room doing a press junket.
Actors and directors are not paid to be there, although contractually obligated to show up, and many arrive late, leave early, and are (to be kind) not very nice people. In thirty years of working on junkets, there were maybe a couple of dozen in total who understood that it was not only their job but to their benefit to promote their projects to the press
There's a fresh reporter injected into the room every four minutes (literally - every four minutes) for eight hours, and they pretty much all ask the same inane questions while fawning over whoever is sitting in the actor's chair.
This goes on for one to three days, and some actors lose it as soon as the first first hour. I have endless stories, but this is not about them.
I have worked on MANY junkets, and spent three days in a room with "Please, call me Tom" in New York for the junket for Polar Express. From the first interview on the first day to the last interview on the last day, Tom was kind, generous, attentive, funny, and smart, and was that way with the crew even when the cameras weren't rolling.
A three day junket can get very tedious, but I kept wishing it would go on for one more day, that's what kind of experience it was working with Tom.
A true gentleman and gentle man, he is one of my heroes.
Thank you, Mr. Hanks.
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A magnificent article!
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I have an idea: Why doesn't the NYTimes start a new weekly feature ~ Stories That Will Make You Feel Less Bad. Dedicate it to Mr. Rogers, Tom Hanks and Taffy Brodesser-Akner. It could recount tales of the kindnesses that random people around the world exhibit. We need more of this to realize all the good that is in the world.
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@Jacci Nice idea! You might check out the Metropolitan Diary column right in this very newspaper. There are always so many positive comments on the brief anecdotes in the column. It's really refreshing!
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Tom Hanks read New York 2140!! OMG!
Taffy Brodesser-Akner just does not disappoint. This was so much better spiritually than your last stab at this topic and might make me mildly interested in the movie. I am just not interested in any actor playing Mr. Rogers when I did not see the documentary yet.
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I. Needed. This. So. Much.
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A liberal who turned into an elite... but still claims to be a liberal..
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@Aaron That word "elite" -- what does that even mean?
Some people I know think I'm an elitist because I have a four-year degree, teach high school, and I like to read and travel. We might be different, but I hardly think I'm elite.
Care to clarify...?
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@J.
Well for starters.. He eats meat! That is a classic sign of an elitist! Vegan and liberal is the only way...
I needed this.
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I had not intended to read this article, but somehow the fact that the author included the phrase "Please read this article anyway," seemed out of place and oddly compelling.
After reading I have a bit more understanding of the immense power of a kind word.
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This article is way too long.
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Ugh. Why is this writer so desperate to insert herself into this story?
It reads like a Dear Diary. Focus on your subject!
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Thank you.
Thank you for this wonderful start to my day. Junod was absolutely correct about human behaviour, 'it's the doing that matters'.
If anything of politics has been proven true in the last few years, it's that 'talk is cheap, it's the doing that we are measured against.
We admire people like Tom Hanks, and Fred Rogers for living their innate kindness, for caring, for their service to others.
So why do we elect people who have never done so, but promise us essentially that they're going to change, that they suddenly care about their fellow Americans?
We need to get smart, and act accordingly.
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Tom Hanks is an extraordinary person who is in an extraordinary position to do pretty much anything he wants. That he often -- and quite honestly and sincerely -- chooses kindness is simply our good fortune. Perhaps the most extraordinary thing of all is that more who are so blessed do not follow his example.
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Thank you for writing this wonderfully positive and uplifting article. Reading this just made me smile.
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Fantastic interview. And pretty vulnerable in a completely relatable way (I mean you, Taffy).
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Tom Hanks is one of my fave humans (and actors) and it's not necessary to find out why he's so 'nice' (the running gag of his career) but just accept it. He's a wonderful man and a true class act. Not unlike 2 of my other heroes - Jimmy Stewart & Paul Newman (both sorely missed) - Hanks, and yes Fred Rogers, are what the world needs now more than ever. Just Be Kind. Thanks for the article of Tom Terrific!
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Thank you, Ms. Akner. This story opened my umbrella, too.
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As I read this beautiful article I found myself wishing that somehow I could meet Tom and spend 5 minutes with him. I have always loved his movies. But now I truly know that my world would feel better. (And my world isn’t all that bleak). Thank you.
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Kindness should not be something that goes out of fashion, much like truth, it must be learned early and carried through life. Hanks has plenty of reasons to resent his upbringing, but instead he shows empathy for his parents recognizing their limitations
at an early age. Forgiveness and understanding may very well be the foundation of civility and kindness toward others.
This piece was both uplifting and calming in these turbulent times.
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I don’t expect this comment to be very popular, but here goes: With the exception of Philadelphia, I’ve never been a fan of Tom Hank’s movies. Hanks’ explanation of the aria, La Mamma Morta to Denzel Washington is an amazing scene. It helps to erase the atrocity that is Forrest Gump from my conscience. Can anyone honestly suggest who else might have been in contention to play Fred Rogers?
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@Molly Bloom I've never understood the appeal of Tom Hanks. He's so flat and predictable. I cannot imagine watching him try to play Fred Rogers so I am skipping the movie. Watch the recent documentary about Rogers and skip this movie. Daniel Day Lewis could have played Mr. Rogers with integrity.
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Thank you for this uplifting article. And thanks to Tom Hanks for being the kind of person we can all aspire to be.
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So lovely. Thank you to you both.
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How. Nice. Is. He? I saw Mr. Hanks in Lucky Guy on Broadway. And after I wrote him a note, in care of the theater, thanking him for taking me back to the newspaper world I was once a part of. A world I wanted to live in because Nora Ephron lived there, too. The note also briefly described a highlight of my life — a chance conversation with the woman herself. Days later his hand-written note arrived in the mail — thanking me for my thank you note :-)
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Forty years ago Cat Stevens stopped by a children's agency to play some music, and a friend of mine was so excited to see him. My heart is pounding, she added, and now after all this time, so is mine but with joy. Thank you, Mr. Hanks and wishing you and your loved ones a happy Thanksgiving.
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Just so you know. I liked this article, and read it all the way through. I do feel I have a better idea of who Tom Hanks is at the end, and you gave me some things to think about too - things about how things are as they are - you know, philosophy and stuff
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A friend met Tom Hanks after a Broadway performance backstage. My friend said they talked about parenting and their kids.
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He's an average at best actor who for whatever reason scores the best roles. His movies are very entertaining, but he's not a particularly good actor. He's just pleasant to watch.
I'm tired of hearing how nice he is, too. That's likely just another "role" that he plays.
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I surrender. Tom Hanks is a nice - OK very, very nice - guy. I didn't really ever doubt it. But that doesn't make me want to watch him do a version of Fred Rogers which is bound to be slightly off-key. Just by way of reminder: We've got a zillion feet of footage of the actual Fred Rogers.
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It's hardest to be cynical when confronted with genuine caring and compassion. It's easiest to be cynical when alone or afraid. I actually auditioned for an extra role for "Road to Perdition," which was casting in Chicago. It's one of the few Tom Hanks movies I haven't seen. My favorite is probably "The Green Mile." I grew up with Mr. Rogers, and my dad is a lot like Mr. Rogers. The PBS Studios remix called "Garden of Your Mind" reminded me just how special Mr. Rogers was. He combined learning and caring in a truly unique way.
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25 years ago my beloved aunt spotted Tom Hanks at her favorite housewares store in Santa Monica. She drew up beside him to say how much she enjoyed his movies. “That’s very kind of you to say,” he smiled back. He’s been my favorite actor ever since.
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And now I’m crying. Thank you Taffy, and thank you Tom (I feel like we’ve all shared enough to be on first name bases for a moment). This was absolutely lovely.
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This article, and the responses to it, give me hope.
Sometimes there are little things that portend a change in our culture. The US hockey team victory over Russia in 1980 brought confidence to a nation that was reeling from the loss of the Vietnam war, the Iran hostage crisis and a host of other problems.
As Trump and his band of grifters attack, insult, lie and just try to make life harder for everyone but themselves, I think Ms. Brodesser-Anker showed us that kindness is actually more powerful than hate.
Thank you, Taffy, for this thoughtful article. I hope it ushers in a new era of confidence for those who truly wan to make the world a better place.
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@Mark Not everything in this world is about Trump.
It has long been family lore that we are related to Lincoln through his mother’s sister. (An ancient relative - at least he seemed so when I was a child - remembered playing with one of Lincoln’s sons.) And recently - in the last few years, anyway - the link to Tom Hanks became known to us. None of us have been exactly brave enough to have our DNA tested to see if all of this is true, but having this acknowledged by Tom is pretty cool.
I loved the article...and while it was about Tom primarily...the description of the journalist’s path with Fred Rogers and the prayer brought me to tears more than anything else (not to discount the tears from other parts).
Thank you!
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The way I'm reading this, maybe Tom Hanks missed his other calling as a clinical psychologist.
I too heard a story about him: my friend met him while she was visiting another friend behind the scenes of a Saturday Night Live show he was hosting. Music, from the band segment, was playing, and as he walked past my friend he stopped and started dancing with her briefly. Made her night even better, of course.
I enjoyed that you mentioned TH was in “Bosom Buddies." People like to act like that never happened, but it was the beginning of his career!
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@Diane
Yes, and no. He can reach more people through his art. And there's no waiting for an appt., no co-pays (or worse) and no hassle.
I'm a huge Tom Hanks fan for all the many and varied reasons -- and films - mentioned in this article.
Fortunate to have him in this / our generation.
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I used to watch Mr. Rogers with my daughter Patty years ago. His speech delivery was very slow and it confused and frustrated me at first. Why couldn’t he speak a tiny bit faster?
Then I looked at Patty completely enthralled, and realized he was speaking to her and other young children. And once I did that, I relaxed and enjoyed his show so much more.
As for Tom Hanks, I’ve seen almost all and enjoyed his movies very much. When I finished this article about these two very nice men, I felt very refreshed and uplifted. And we can all use that these days. Thank you.
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Here is the link to the 1998 Esquire article mentioned but for some reason not linked in paragraph 11:
https://classic.esquire.com/article/1998/11/1/can-you-say-hero
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Mr. Hanks once hold the door open to me as we were walking into a Santa Monica, CA store. When I turned around to say “ Thank you” I realized it was him!!! The summer I make sure I related it to everyone I encountered !
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This isn’t boring, it’s beautiful
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Lovely article. Thank you for your strength in being honest about your vulnerability.
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I was very fortunate to have grown up with Mister Rogers and was a small child in the early 1970s. Along with the other PBS (Children's Workshop) programs, "The Neighborhood" was integral in some ways to the person that I became. Long after becoming an adult, I would occasionally follow the program and see how the old man was doing. It truly did seem that I lost a relative when Fred Rogers died in 2003.
I remain fortunate to have seen Tom Hanks' career blossom from his days on "Bosom Buddies." I "discovered" him on "Nothing in Common," Jackie Gleason's last film. To this day, I remember certain scenes from that film that highlighted the complexities of family relationships and the meaning of loyalty.
I think that it will be a treat to see Tom Hanks play Fred Rogers. I always thought that Fred Rogers was one of the greatest Americans of the 20th century. Tom Hanks is the one person worthy of playing him in the movies.
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Thanks for including the photo from Bosom Buddies. Most journalists skip it and I often wondered if it was because Hanks himself doesn't wants it excluded. It was such a hilarious show though and my husband and I will still crack up talking about it, things like "That brave woman is a blind dentist" or the love dot tattoo.
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Thank you for a lovely article. It made me cry the way the good romantic, sad movie makes you cry. I'm glad for people like Tom Hanks and Fred Rogers who remind us how to be good.
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To read that Tom hanks is a nice guy is no surprise, to think anything else just doesn't work. Great article.
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I'm the oddball who has never liked Tom Hanks. His nice guy persona seems... forced and somewhat aggressive to me. Or at least boring. But I know I'm in the minority here.
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Wilson agrees. Tom Hanks makes the best out of not much.
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Not boring. Even without the morsel at the end. Well done, Taffy.
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" I never wanted him to be doing an imitation.”
How could it be anything but? Hanks is PRETENDING to be someone else. That's his art/craft/job.
I understand they're promoting the film, and I wish it well, especially for all those unknown names in the credits, but
GET A GRIP!
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Thank you Taffy, for telling us that us that nice & kind are never boring, just lovely. Thank you Tom, for showing us.
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What a great text. Thank you.
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all I know is Mr Tom was aloof & approachable on the set of LOTO & while Madonna, Rosie, even Ms Marshall were friendly "real people", all the extras had explicit orders to "stay away from Mr Hanks...don't get close to him don't talk to him don't even look @ him! We shot a week in Huntingburgh and had the best time EVER, but Tom Hanks is not a nice person.
Great piece again, Taffy. Thank you. Just one question: why no mention of the amazing documentary of Mr R?
A true gentleman and hero in the Age of Trump.
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I truly likeTom Hanks, but couldn’t stand Mr. Rogers.
Turner and Hooch: Tom + dog = my kind of movie!
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Ms. Brodesser-Akner, if you wrote a magazine article about how to set your microwave clock, I would buy that magazine, and read your article, and it would be amazing. I'm not saying you don't have good material here. You do. I'm saying that you are a writer that I will always read, even if I have I no interest in the subject matter. Tom Hanks is nice, we all know it, and I never would have read this article if someone else had written it. I read it and I'm really glad I did. Thank you.
PS it is really hard to set the microwave clock.
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Total smile!
I never thought I would ever wish for another actor as president of the US, but I stand corrected... Mr. Hanks, please run!
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If the NYTimes wants a backstory on Mr Hanks persona, it should investigate how he treated his builder in Sun Valley. A lot can be learned about a man, by the way he treats his help. Needless to say, Mr Hanks does not have a good reputation amongst the locals in Sun Valley, Idaho.
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OMG, click the link to ”the last three devastating minutes” of Captain Phillips. Tom Hanks is not just one of the nicest guys out there, he’s also one heck of an actor!
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Mr. Hanks:
Old journalist here with a strong attachment to typewriters solidified by many years of pounding on a manual one in newsrooms.
Now that I'm retired I've been looking for one. Just one.
I'll give one of yours a good home if you're interested.
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Funny, I just watched 2 movies with Tom Hanks in them this past week. I was never much interested in him before and then I suddenly developed a crush on him. And I thought, “ This is a good sign. I think I am ready to be with a kind, good man that is there for me”. As a woman who was abandoned by her father at a young age, I have always been attracted to unavailabe men or pushed away the ones who were interested. I find myself no longer wanting to convince someone of my worth. Anyway, just wanted to thank Mr. Hanks for stirring up those nice feelings in me. 🙂
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How do we know Tom Hanks is a great actor?
No one else could have made grown adults cry like we did when "Wilson," the blood-stained volleyball, drifted away in "Castaway."
He made us cry over a volleyball.
Master thespian!
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Given what hangs in balance today in Washington D.C., maybe I was ready to cry today anyway. But this really brought tears to my eyes.
Nobody’s perfect, but-- without trying to burden Tom Hanks too much I’d say he’s gotten pretty close. I admire his ability to be kind and thoughtful of others, his appropriate-for-everyone’s consumption sense of humor, and his genuine enthusiasm for learning more about himself and the world around him. I’d like to invite him to get a Coke with me, which to those of us from Northern California means any sweet, fizzy thing to drink.
Now I have to get another Kleenex . . ..
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Why there is no photo of The Bridge of Spies?
I hope you add one to this article when it goes in print of this coming Sunday New York Times.
The Bridge of Spies is one of my top 10 movies of all time, anywhere.
Thank you Tom Hanks and Stephen Spielberg for making The Bridge of Spies!!!
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@Fashion Fun Lover, I had forgotten that movie, but you are correct, Bridge of Spies was really excellent! Tom Hanks can play a full spectrum of characters.
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I keep reading this over and over and crying...and as he says, "It's good to cry".......“Somewhere along the line, I figured out, the only thing really, I think, eventually a parent can do is say I love you, there’s nothing you can do wrong, you cannot hurt my feelings, I hope you will forgive me on occasion, and what do you need me to do? You offer up that to them. I will do anything I can possibly do in order to keep you safe. That’s it. Offer that up and then just love them.”
Great Article!
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Boring articles don't bring tears to your eyes. Thank you for this.
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Nicely done.
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I don't get it - this article felt incredibly self-indulgent on the part of T B-A (and I'm otherwise a fan of her writing). This piece was way too much about her (though I understand, I think, the technique and reasoning) and shed little new light on any aspect. of Hanks, the film, his thinking, his life.
I know I'm in the minority here (and I'm not a troll).
Not my cup of tea; wish there'd been a TL:DR.
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I'm still glad Hanks didn't get MeTooed. I remember thinking, if he gets MeTooed, there is truly no hope for us. He's a pillar of morals and decency.
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I also visited Santa Fe, did not know how high it was & why that mattered (higher than Colorado! everyone crowed at me eventually) and got altitude sick. Huge bummer.
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beautiful
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To the writer...patella...really?
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How thoughtful of the author to include a mention of Tom Hanks in her autobiographical memoir.
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Why can’t Tom Hanks stand as a nominee from the Democratic Party? Tom and Elizabeth joint ticket?
Thank you.
Tom Hanks for President!!!
Can we have a break from him. Some people are overexposed.
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"Being nice is a choice."
I don't know how many times I've read Junod's original piece--three times at least--but it made me cry each time. Then I read Junod's new piece in the Atlantic. Tears again. Now this, and my face is wet again.
What's going on, besides the fact I'm a softy? I think it's that the world is starved for grace. We've gone from a president who preached a sermon on grace in the face of unspeakable tragedy--and even sang Amazing Grace!-- to one who's the negation of grace. Not merely devoid of grace, but its enemy.
He's not alone, of course, and now even decent people think it's appropriate to counter hate with hate. But it doesn't work; it doesn't even make you feel good. You feel worse, but it seems so easy and so natural you begin to think it's your only choice.
But it's not. Being nice is a choice. Grace is a choice. It's also a gift, not to others, but to yourself. It can perpetuate itself just as easily as hate does, but without gnawing away your soul, and without adding more hate to a world that will always have more than enough.
Thanks for the reminder, Ms. Brodesser-Akner, and for the joyful tears.
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Great, pointless promo piece! Keep those journalistic standards high Times!
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Note to a NYT reporter: I don't want to see the word 'I' in your report.
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My favorite Mr. Rogers memory was when he was on the first iteration of the David Letterman show. It ran in the mornings about 9AM. David being his snide cynical self, tried to poke fun at Mr. Rogers and his gentle spirit and quiet tone. And Mr. Rogers, anticipating this behavior on Letterman's part, brought out two of his hand puppets and forced Dave to interact with and interview the puppets. Utterly disarming and completely derailing Letterman's crass attempt to make fun of Mr. Rodgers.
I read that Junod article when it first came out. I made my students (college) read it too. It made for a much better semester.
Good for Tom and good for Fred.
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@pigeon I watched Letterman a lot back then but must have missed that particular Letterman show. I remember how harsh Letterman was to his guests in the early 80s, and what you describe surely does sound like a monumental feat was achieved by Mr. Rogers.
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@pigeon
there's a good chance that was prearranged, i would think.
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@brupic , if you knew Fred, you'd know better.
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I never cared much for Mr. Rogers but after reading this article I can't wait to see this film.
As for Tom Hanks, again, I was more into darker characters. He seemed like a "nice guy" but nothing special .But now, having read this really fine article I am looking at him with new eyes...of great appreciation. I can see now that being a genuine "nice guy" is indeed something special.
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Thank you for this article! I don't know why exactly but it put tears in my eyes. It's so sad that a very nice man is extraordinary just because he IS nice, considerate, kind, thoughtful. Tom Hanks is a treasure. I'm looking forward to seeing this movie.
I remember the day I started to appreciate Mr. Rogers. My 4 year old daughter, who watched it every day, came up to me with her eyes shining and said,"Mom! Mr Rogers is my *friend*!" He was talking right to her, telling her that she was all right just the way she was.
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Yes, Tom Hanks is a nice guy. But I knew that before reading the article. So does most everyone else. But let's not forget: he's also an actor. And no, my heart would not be broken if he played a really mean villain.
Mr. Rogers and Mr. Hanks remind us that kindness is a Superpower. It is our greatest strength. Bless them both!
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I just read this article and most of the comments. Brought tears to my eyes. I would advocate for a write-in campaign for Hanks for our next president but the vision of him being sullied by the likes of trump and his minions is just beyond thought.
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My only question: Where did get his typewriter ribbons? Do they make them still? (Yes, I could google, but choose to be a Luddite instead.)
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In the run-up to "Saving Mr. Banks," there was a lot of talk about the Disneyfication of children's literature. Can we talk about the Tom Hanksification of 20th century American history?
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We should all be so lucky to live a life worthy of the prose and humanity of this profile. Bravo!
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I was not going to read this article but you asked so nicely I felt compelled to do so. Because I am a nice guy. And, yeah, it made me feel good. Much better than watching the hearings are making me feel today.
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I was on the board of a Bay Area Gilbert & Sullivan troupe, Lamplighters Musical Theater, when a talented cast member, and also the celebrated costume designer for the Company died of AIDS. The Company, always in precarious financial condition, needed a costume shop. Knowing that Tom Hanks had attended high-school in Oakland with this individual, and specifically mentioned his name in his acceptance of his Academy Award for Philadelphia, his 1993 film portraying a lawyer with HIV, we saw an opportunity for fundraising. We contacted the Hanks organization and got a positive response asking for a letter detailing the request. We identified the salient elements and the need and was turned down with no comment. No? Nothing? Why Tom? You can make amends even today as the Company, Lamplighters Musical Theater founded in 1952 remains alive though struggling and still needs a costume shop.
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There's something about your writing, Taffy, that is so wonderful. I finished this piece and then realized it was written by the same person who made me pause and learn and feel and reflect when I was reading about Melissa McCarthy. Thank you for reminding your readers that we can connect to others - celebrities, even! - by respecting their integrity, selflessness, and humor.
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I do have one quibble: you’re never, ever too old for Mister Rogers.
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@SWD :-) CASE CLOSED!
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@SWD So true! I just said the same thing.
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@SWD Amen!! Just look at the faces on these folks.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Upm9LnuCBUM
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This story reminded me of my best friend Monica. We've known each other and been friend since first grade, which was a long time ago. Monica is just as wonderful as Tom Hanks. Thanks for reminding me how lucky I am to know her.
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To riff on the title of one of Hanks' movies, kindness is the thing that you do. It's not a personality trait but a behavioral choice. We can all be kind, just as we can all be cruel.
I've always tended to be polite but reserved with strangers but as I've gotten older and less shy, I've been trying to do tiny kindnesses to strangers when it seems appropriate -- giving them a compliment, asking if I can help with something they seem to be struggling with, or simply making eye contact and smiling when we pass each other in the street.
And it's amazing how happy people seem to be when a stranger does even the tiniest kindness. Well, amazing and sad, because it also suggests how unusual it is. The cruelty we see in the current leadership of our country has been trickling down to our fellow citizens in terrible ways, but we can't give in to it. We have to fight back with its opposite.
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@Nelle Engoron beautifully said...
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@Nelle Engoron You might be interested to know, this morning at my usual Safeway Starbucks, after I ordered my usual espresso macchiatto, I was informed that it was free, because a patron was buying everyone's drinks this morning, to celebrate World Kindness Day. Naturally, I was thus inspired to leave a $1 tip!
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@Nelle Engoron your comment is so lovely to read, and basically echoes what I too have been striving to do as a direct repudiation of the crass cruelty that seems to be permeating all around us.
For thirty four years, as an elementary teacher, my classroom guidelines were simple. We show kindness and respect. We listen. We help each other. In these dark times I am trying extra hard to remember those simple rules by just doing the very things you mention-a small act of kindness, a smile, just making eye contact with a stranger, making myself a better listener. Your simple, profound comment and this lovely piece on Tom Hanks will stay with me, and hopefully guide my own interactions with the world. Thank you!
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I would be hard pressed to think of a finer human being that the likes of Tom Hanks. He is just so full of compassion, concern for others, integrity, humor, and such graciousness.
He's just an ordinary guy who is exceptional at many things, especially being kind and thoughtful of others.
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Fred Rogers was a magnificent and complex human being who died too soon. His frequent comment that "I like you just the way you are" is important because it implies that your flaws are recognized but you remain liked and accepted. This is a concept we can and should all internalize.
It seems that Tom Hanks has a similar personality. Perhaps he should run for President. Wouldn't it be wonderful if all of our politicians exhibited goodness.
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@Old Hominid - I'd vote for him.
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@Old Hominid He'd have my vote!
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@Old Hominid He would win. He’s the antithesis of Trump.
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Grim reading. I comfort myself about the terrible stories in a newspaper by thinking they are the exception -- that's why they are "news" right? In this story the "news" is a nice guy...has that become the exception?
Good writing, thanks for the article.
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@Richard Brown reminded me of Jimmy Stewart. Once when Stewart was in Spain, the hotel had misplaced his reservation and the person waiting in line nearby witnessed the polite and gentlemanly way in which Stewart handled this issue. Quiet, patient, never a complaining tone, and though the clerk did not recognize Stewart, at no time did he declare "Do you know who I am? I am James Stewart and I want to see the manager" or anything similar. When the poor clerk found the reservation he also realized his error and began apologizing----Stewart quietly assured the poor clerk that there was no problem and thanked him graciously for resolving the issue.....
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Thank you for this beautiful article. It gives me hope. After watching the Mr. Rogers documentary I was so depressed, because it seemed like his kind, humane approach had ‘lost’ and selfishness and power-madness were ascendant. Like basic decency was in the dustbin of history. But people like Tom Hanks give me hope. He is a person who deserves all the admiration he receives and more. I aspire to be this kind of person: “a human” who “treats everyone like people.”
I can’t wait to see the movie!
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I am not much of a film buff though Tom Hanks has a fan following even in India and even I have seen some of his films ! But it was truly a delight reading this profile. It almost seems I have known him much better than I actually do ! What a wonderful man he must be and what an honest portrayal this is ! As a journalist and editor myself, who reads a lot of garbage, yes, I can say that I am feeling much better after reading this profile. We still have hope ! Thank you.
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All I will say about Tom Hanks is that he appeared in at least a couple of movies that delighted my elderly dad when he was homebound and had to rely on videos not just for entertainment but for connection to the outside world. ("Sully" in particular.)
For that I will always love Tom Hanks.
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Mr. Rogers affirmed I have a soul and that everybody else does, too. More than that, he affirmed that the Golden Rule is the way to live in order to be truly joyful.
Tom Hanks lives that way, and I celebrate him for it. More than that, he brings humanity into his on-screen characters in a way that winks at our souls.
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@DK Nicely put
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I saw a great exhibition of Tom Hanks 'typewriters at the Los Angeles Library a few months ago. It was part of an exhibition about odd collectibles and his was the only contribution from a famous person. Telling about the fact that he accepted to display his collection in such a context that is not about the prestige of the provenance...
I did not know all the nice anecdotes this article mentions but I have always loved his films, his diction, his presence. His performance in Philadelphia brings me to tears every time I watch it. Once in Soho, I walked by him: he was sitting on a stoop on Greene Street and it made my day!
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A number of years ago, my co-worker and good friend was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. During treatment, her team of doctors at Memorial Sloan Kettering asked her if there was any one celebrity she most wished to meet. Her response, Tom Hanks. She came to work the next day and joked that she was now in the hospital’s “make a wish” program. We all gathered around her desk, laughed and cried with her, but out of earshot, said, “sure, right, good luck with that.”
Well, sure enough her wish came true. MSK reached out to Mr. Hanks, and he graciously agreed to meet her. On a night when the actor was scheduled to appear on David Letterman’s show, our friend was invited back to the green room where he met with her, and husband, and a close friend. They brought him homemade cookies which Mr. Hanks ate several while joking and talking with them. As he received his stage call, Mr. Hanks gave my friend a few code words, and told her that when he said them on the show, it meant he was thinking of her. He also posed for pictures with her which she shared with her friends at work. She looked radiant in all the photos.
My friend lost her battle with cancer not long after this.
Tom Hanks had no previous connection to my friend, but when asked to do an act of kindness, he delivered. He found time in his very busy and demanding schedule to meet with a lady who loved his work. Truly a great man and a national treasure. Given a choice, my friend picked Tom Hanks.
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@CeceliaR
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story.
I am deeply sorry for the passing of your friend.
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@CeceliaR thank you for sharing.
We all think we are busy, but most of us aren't and just use "busy" as an excuse. I am guilty of that as much as anybody. It comes down to priorities.
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And now I’m crying.
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A terrific guy who brings great joy. Doesn't get much better than this. Thanks, Taffy. Tom made me cry, too.
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My guess is that a recitation of the preamble to the US Constitution came out of a conversation about children's television during the Mr. Rogers era. Schoolhouse Rock was nothing less than amazing. I, too, can recite the preamble to the Constitution. I know that a bill is only a bill, and it's sitting on Capital Hill. I've been to Conjunction Junction, and a noun is a person, place or thing.
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@Greg Me too! As soon as I read your comment the melody popped into my head! (Thanks a lot, now I’ll be humming it all day...)
I sort of met Tom Hanks in the head at our son’s graduation from Stanford in 2017. We had been sitting across the aisle from him and his family and he and I went to the head at the same time just after the marvelous black graduation speaker completed his salutations to the graduates. Our eyes met while standing next to one another. Wanting to break the silence, I simply said, “Great speech, huh!l. To which Tom loudly responded, “That was a stemwinder!” Every one in the man’s room broke out in hilarious laughter. For a moment he was one of all of us! Salodos to you Tom!
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I was captivated by this article. I'm speechless after reading it, and the only thing I can say is - thank you.
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I agree with others that this is a very welcome story today of all days. It reminds those of us who reside outside of the US that there is a multitude of principled, self-effacing, and unpresumptuous Americans. Sadly, it seems the dreadful ones are the ones that often get the lion’s share of the press.
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Not boring at all. In fact, came back several hours after reading the article to share I thought about it throughout my morning. Thanks for profiling one of my all-time favorite actors.
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How so? Another very wealthy, albeit nice" actor. Just what we need to make the world a better place.
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I had no idea Tom Hanks was this nice of a guy, he was really never one of my favorite actors, but after reading all this. I will make a new effort to watch all his movies and projects.
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My all-time favorite Tom Hanks role was his brief turn as the British gangster in "Cloud Atlas," when he murdered a man by throwing him from a tall building. In "Road to Perdition," he was a homicidal gangster, but in that movie he was the closest thing to a hero. "Cloud Atlas" is the only movie I know of with Tom Hanks as an out-and-out villain. It's refreshing.
We all know Tom Hanks is a nice guy. Fred Rogers was a nice guy. I'd like to see how they can get any drama out of that. And someday, I'd like to see Tom Hanks in the kind of deliciously villainous role Basil Rathbone and Claude Rains (both nice guys in real life) used to play.
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After watching the documentary about Mr. Rodgers earlier this year, I found myself asking out loud, when faced with a decision of any substance: "What would Fred Rodgers do?" Inevitably, the memory of this good man's work faded and life continued on. Reading this article about Tom Hanks reminds me of that feeling that I felt after spending some time with Fred Rodgers and his core beliefs and daily practice of generosity and kindness. To be kind is a constant effort that should be the goal every day. So when I hold the door for a person in a wheelchair or help a woman by carrying her baby in a stroller safely down the subway stairs, I try to do instead of thinking about doing. I find, at least for me, that if my brain starts to decide whether I should do good things for people that it prevents me from acting and the moment passes me by. I also happen to be a Tom Hanks fan all the way back to Bosom Buddies. I think I've seen almost everything he's done.
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Just from the title I had guessed Taffy was at it again
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Wonderful feature.....I cried too! I hope this wins a prize!
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It is interesting that this article came out. For whatever reason, I have been rewatching old Tom Hanks movies with my kids; A League of Their Own, Big, etc. I used to also watch, with my siblings, Bosom Buddies, which we found Tom Hanks hilarious.
As I have been watching these old Tom Hanks movies, plus seeing the promotions for It's a Wonderful Day in the Neighborhood, I was wondering whether Hanks is actually as nice of a person as he comes across. It is heartwarming to learn that he is. It made me cry a little. People have been disappointing of late, particularly people in positions of power, so I think I needed a reminder that there are some powerful people that are indeed also gracious, thoughtful and kind.
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I attended a public interview with the poet Mary Oliver at the Herbst Theater. During the audience questions, one woman could not finish her sentence because she began crying.
"It's okay. It's good to cry," said Oliver. "It's a good thing."
It wasn't just her words. Oliver made it an "I and Thou" moment. She made room for the audience member to drop her mask and to feel no shame or embarrassment for being a hurting human. It was healing to watch.
That's what this story made me think of.
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Really well done celebrity profile! I am no big celebrity lover— but it was refreshing to read about someone nice, and to read real personal examples how Tom Hanks lives his “niceness”.
I wonder if other celebrities might read this and decide to give common courtesy and humility a try. This is of course something that needs to be genuine. But obviously it results in genuinely good press which is followed by genuine public admiration.
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Love Tom Hanks and Saving Private Ryan one of my personal top 10 all time movies. But, let's be honest: Trump would have crushed Tom Hanks or Mr Rogers in an election or in a business deal. What does it say about us collectively as Americans that we publicly profess such admiration and respect for Rogers/Hanks and yet we elect Trump and our weekly #1-3 TV shows are usually the very violent and overly machismo NFL games? I think part of our youthful collective consciousness wishes for Disneyland, but the adult reality is pretty bleak.
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Thank you for a beautiful piece of writing that so perfectly reveals Mr. Hanks's authenticity and humanity. At a time when fakery and dishonesty seem to be overtaking us and diminishing us, your writing reminds us of what being a human being can be about, what we can strive for, if we choose to. Thank you so much. My favorite Tom Hanks film is Steven Spielberg's "Bridge of Spies"; I think I've seen it a couple of dozen times...truly flawless acting.
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Personally, I never cared for Mr. Rogers. I found him boring. But my kids loved him so that was good enough for me. Still, I am looking forward to the movie. I never find Tom Hanks boring.
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@Queenie - Personally, I always thought he was creepy. But my childhood was full of adults telling me NOT to talk to old men:) And who on earth wears a tie at home, changes shoes, and puts on a sweater? Its too Martha Stewart for me:) Every adult of my childhood came home from work, dumped their shoes on the floor, lit up a cigarette, and either made a cup of coffee or cracked open a beer. Every adult on television smoked and drank.
Was there a Mrs. Rogers in the neighborhood? Or was he just an old gay guy like me who hangs out in a leather bar? To look at me, you would never guess that next to the cardigan in my closet is a leather harness.
I read part of this to my son this morning and showed him the picture of Mr. Hanks walking the bride and her father to the church for the wedding. I told him, that’s what I would like him to be like when he grows up. It says something when acts of decency and treating other people as fellow humans are seen as remarkable, but that seems to be where we are these days.
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I know people that are as kind as Tom Hanks and Fred Rogers. (I like to think that I am one of those people). I know that my best friend is one of those people, she really is like a female Tom Hanks, warm, funny, personable, with real star-power. And extremely generous. Everyone that she comes into contact with has a better day, or a better week, or in my case a better life, because of her.
But such people are rarely ever celebrities. They (we) do not pursue the spot light. They do not run for President (Carter and Obama and the dear late Robert Kennedy being the exception). They do not become rich and famous. And if they do it changes them.
Fame did not change Tom Hanks or Fred Rogers. And that is, perhaps, the greatest miracle of all.
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@Brother Shuyun
This comment really got to me. I met Jimmy Carter on one of his book tours but also know how kind he was to my grandmother, who knew him when she managed a restaurant in Macon long before Carter became Governor of Georgia. I met Obama early in 2015 when he first decided to run for president. And I worked in Robert Kennedy's 1968 presidential campaign every afternoon after I got out of high school and took a bus into Washington. I once saw Robert Kennedy do a campaign event at a D.C. public school in a very poor part of town where Kennedy spent a long time going around speaking to every one of the children - he coaxed several of the very bashful ones into laughing with him - and then played tag with some little boys who had run up and told him he was "it."
We seem to be in a very dark place in this country. It's good to remember the very kind and good people who have run for office. Carter, Obama, Kennedy - we were blessed to have them in our lives.
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How very appropriate to cast Tom as Fred. And how very appreciative I feel that a film like this has been made at this time in our lives. I'm so hungry for simple kindness, compassion, and respectful behavior. We need more Fred Rogers in our world. And I've always loved Tom Hanks - the Jimmy Stewart of our age. He is such a true actor (as opposed to "star"), with the ability to play a range of characters in movies like Big to Road to Perdition (a brilliantly played villain). Kudos to Tom and crew - I'll definitely look forward to seeing this film.
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Here is another Tom Hanks story for you. I met Hanks years ago as I worked on the movie A League of Their Own (wrote the story). I told Tom about a friend of mine in Ireland who's sister had cerebral palsy but was a painter none-the-less. I get a call from his office asking for her name and address. A week later - to her great delight - she receives a signed glossy picture of Hanks with the note - "From one artist to another." How many "stars" take the time to do this king of thing? Great guy.
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@Kelly Candaele Thanks Kelly. The photo hangs on my nieces wall. It has been there for 18 years. In our house Tom Hanks is not a movie star; he's just a star. Super star. Coolest message ever.
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@Richard Kennedy Just beautiful! Thank you for that story.
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Moved to tears in the best possible of ways. As this piece touched my humanity, which is somehow what always moves me about Mr. Hanks and now moves me about you. It takes courage to weave your own details, truth and vulnerability into an article and it’s that very same vulnerability that makes a film jump off of the screen or a piece of writing jump off of a page and into your heart. There is great grace in authenticity and perhaps even deeper grace in wholehearted kindness. Seductive too, but perhaps seductive because at our core what we most long for is to be truly seen and heard. And I believe Mr. Hanks chooses a way of being in the world where there is no “invisible” person in his presence and that makes space for our own humanity to thrive. Thank you...to both of you.
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Taffy-
That may be one of the best interviews I have ever read- mainly, I think because you convey so well the effect this man’s’ work has had on so many of us.
Were I to ever meet Mr. Hanks, I would enjoy shaking his hand and telling him “thank you. Your work has improved my life.”
And Taffy- hope you feel better.
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Wow. From "Philadelphia" to "A Beautiful Day . . ." What a Guy and What a Career! Initially, I cringed when I saw previews of the Mr. Rogers movie--I had just seen the excellent documentary on Rogers and was concerned Hanks' effort would seem just derivative. I am pleased that his new movie has turned out so well--I shouldn't be surprised. Hanks is a national treasure--but that's not a Hanks movie. Thanks for the article. I was not aware of the biographical info on Hanks.
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Thank you for this article. Joy in the midst of tears. Touched me.
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Thank you.
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i read junod's piece when it came out.
my kids used to watch mr rogers so i was well aware of him and what he meant to children.
i've seen most of hanks' movies.
my late wife and i were in antiparos, a greek island in the aegean sea in 2004.
it is a tiny island. it was october and most tourists were gone for the season.
i asked the waitress at the restaurant if anybody well known ever visited the place.
she replied that tom hanks and brad pitt had been there earlier in the year with their wives--rita and jennifer. i believe rita wilson's family background is greek.
i asked what how they were.
she said pitt seemed nice, but wore a hat and sunglasses which actually had the opposite affect of not noticing him.
she added that the european soccer championships were on and hanks used to go to one of the local spots, sit with the locals drinking beer and cheering for greece.
one of my strong memories of hanks was an appearance on the michael parkinson show in england years ago.
he was charming and after he was done and was being followed by david bowie, parkinson thanked him.
hanks was supposed to leave, but he looked at parkinson and asked him politely if it was ok to stay so he could be with bowie.
he looked so sincere and like a fan, 'my god i can meet david bowie!'
he sat for the entire interview and looked pleased as hell.
and bowie, being bowie, was brilliant. told a story about mick jagger before he was famous that broke up the audience, parkinson&hanks
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I loved watching Mr. Rogers and I adore Tom Hanks. Thank you for writing this article and making me alternately cry and smile over my breakfast. Goodness is not boring.
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It’s none of my business who Tom Hanks “really” is. Reading about him and watching his performances REALLY makes me feel good and that’s enough. Thank you!
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Tom Hanks as "Everyman"? No, you're wrong. Tom Hanks is a far too rare kind of person... to all our detriment.
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Seriously, Taffy, you're the best profile writer. Thank you for this and for allowing yourself to be vulnerable with someone who could clearly handle it.
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Wonderful article , thank you very much!
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Well, that's another whitewashing adulation of Hanks, for sure, complete with the "Everyman" comparison.
Tom Hanks is like all of us, a walking contradiction. He's got gobs of decency, and enough smarts to keep his dark side away from the public.
Do I like him? You betcha. Why? He makes a huge effort to be decent. That's plenty.
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About Norman Rockwell.
Rockwell took a bad rap for being a racist.
"He began working for the Post in 1916. More than 300 covers over four decades is impressive indeed. They created a visual history of the nation’s culture during the depression, two wars and the advent of the automobile, telephone, television and the airplane. Our experiences in small town USA at a time when folks prayed and pulled together. These images were burned in the minds of millions who bought the Post or a print or any number of reproductions over the years. These images created lasting impressions of the 'ideal family' or the 'ideal community.' And just what did these images tell us?"
"Turns out Rockwell was forbidden to paint people of color in any role other than that of servitude. One painting shows an older black male waiter standing near a traveling young white boy as he figures out the tip he will give to that man who is benevolently smiling down on the boy. Isn’t it nice that he’s such a happy, content oppressed adult who doesn’t mind that his position is lower than an adolescent white boy?”
It was only during the Civil Rights era that Rockwell painted his own pictures not determined acceptable by the Post. It was of a small black girl being walked into school with angry white people and a tomato smashed on the wall of the school next to her.
Perhaps this is the MAGA Trump talks about. When only white folks in small towns represented the USA.
That was 55 years ago!
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Enough already of "sainted" Tommy Hanks. I would like to see Hanks' portray tRump in his next movie role.
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@Michael W. Espy - I'm sorry but not even Donald Trump can play Trump as well as Alec Baldwin does.
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Tom Hanks is a classic codependent; and codependents are the nicest people in the world.
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Tom Hanks, Christmas, Mr. Rogers.
Are we done now?
@David Henry
I hope not.
Thank you, Taffy, I’m right there with you, crying. And despite that, I feel better, uplifted.
We women, psychologists and historians will tell us (I am a history buff and reader, too), are too often attracted to the bad boys who exude excitement and danger, and even, sadly, vote that way. Men do this too but they don’t marry them.
We have been burned a lot, most of us. That’s why we keeping looking for the bad to come out. And then there’s #MeToo and we think bad guys are everywhere. So we are surprised to see someone who has made it, successfully, and is just nice. Playing someone else who was just nice. There are men like that, people like that. I married a man like that second time around. My mother wishes we could clone him.
The great thing is we can all enjoy Tom Hanks in the movies he makes and the books he writes and through wonderful journalists who share him and themselves with us with such a fresh breeze of honesty.
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Taffy writing a Tom Hanks profile is the best of everything.
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I like Tom Hanks' work, but you might as well have just printed the press release issued by the film distribution company. I think this is the most soft-ball piece I've read in a while, and the author inserted herself into the story way too much.
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@Debra I totally agree.
@Debra
Or is it Debbie Downer? Actually, this article is an excellent description of two lovely men. Yes, such people do exist. Cynicism is so much less appealing!
Kick me that I've watched Cast Away so many times! I love you, Tom Hanks.
(Thanks, Taffy!)
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"At one point, I can’t remember why, he recited the Preamble to the Constitution. "
You can't remember why? If he ever reads this, he will be very depressed about journalism today... as am I.
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Stop it right now! The last thing this world needs is another idol to bow down to and put us to shame. I’ll save my praise for the one I’ve never even seen nor heard from.
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Thanks for this beautiful article. It's really a perfect read for the Thanksgiving season. I'm grateful for Mr. Rogers, Tom Hanks, and Taffy. How wonderful if we all committed to being kinder to each other.
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Excellent article, Hanks is uplifting in every way, it seems. And glad to read that Hanks will be starring in News of the World (excellent book). He definitely looks the part of Kidd, who reads the news.
Dear Taffy,
I was crying right along with you as I read this on the bus. Thanks for an uplifting article.
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It is interesting that this article seems to mirror the premise of the movie and of the magazine article that it is based on. The interviewer was profoundly affected by the person he was interviewing.
By the way, the quote on child rearing is perfect. I've kept a copy in my "words to live by" file. Wonderful.
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Thank you. We need articles about good people, past and present. It helps equalize all the negativity that seems to burden our lives presently. A well-written and honest reflection of a man and the writer is so refreshing. Again, thank you.
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When I saw that Tom Hanks was playing Mr. Rogers I couldn't think of anyone at this time in our culture who could pull it off. He has made it a life long goal to respect other human beings.
Mr. Rogers is cool. The reason he is lampooned is that those belittling him are uncomfortable with how well he relates to all human beings when in it seems like they are having trouble doing it.
The greatest thing is that Mr. Rogers is better understood as you become an adult than when you are a child watching his show as I did growing up.
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@Ed C
The wonderful documentary about Mr. Rogers told us everything we could want to know about this admirable man. We saw his face, heard his voice. What purpose does it serve to watch an actor portraying him in a movie?
These wonderful attributes the Mr. Hanks possess are not lost. I know many people, in fact most of the people I know have and cherish the same values. If you can’t say the same you need to change your acquaintances.
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Wish I could make every Republican member of the House and Senate read this, see the film, and watch some of Mr. Rogers' programs! Also the president although I think that he's a hopeless case, and yes, I realize Mr. Rogers would not agree with me.
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There are some people who really ARE that good. I've known two of them. They're both dead now, but just knowing they existed fills my heart to bursting.
I've been so lucky, so very, very lucky.
And thanks for this story. Lord knows we need it.
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"Look for the helpers. There are always helpers." Mr. Rogers learned that from his mother and passed it on to his listeners. Tom Hanks is one of the helpers.
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I have to admit that I read this because of the title, and it met all expectations. Thanks so much.
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No one questions or doubts that Tom Hanks is a terrific actor and quality person in real life.
But, why the need to make movies like the current one of Fred Rogers? There are thousands of hours of existing Rogers' tapes, and the recently released real life documentary story of him, that is marvelous.
We, whoever that collective is, have insatiable needs to be visually entertained by actors and actresses, especially those whom we like and admire. Mr. Hanks and others are ever ready.
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@fsa
I did not grow up with television. You’re making a broad assumption that we ALL watched thousands of hours of existing Rogers’ tapes.
The only thing I know about this show is that it was parodied on SNL with Eddie Murphy.
Please don’t speak for others. Many of us were desperately poor and I was performing farm chores while both my parents worked. Dad came home after WWII and we seven children’s only luxury was books from the library and a school bus to public school each day.
I still have never seen one of his shows. Too busy working two and three jobs growing up.
So I look forward to this movie by Tom Hanks.
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@Nuschler But there is a documentary you can watch that shows REAL footage of the REAL man -- instead of watching an actor portray him. I generally dislike biopics for this reason.
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I was delighted that the first paragraph was not a description of what Mr. Hanks was wearing and the place it was in. And then the delight grew, paragraph after paragraph.
It is rare to find celebrity profiles that are worth reading. This is wonderful – fun, moving and edifying at the same time.
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Would that the world had more Tom Hanks in it - and we could have indeed have "beautiful days in the neighborhood". How rare a person Tom Hanks is. He embodies the same generosity of spirit and genuine kindness that Mr. Rogers did. Thank you Ms. Brodesser-Akner for this moving piece of journalism. It lifted my spirits.
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@Diana
There are MANY people who are kind and generous! We just happen to see Tom Hanks in movies and on TV in interviews.
We are so enthralled by movie stars that we fail to see the nurse aide who works night shift while her children sleep. We had an aide working in our ICU who came over from Germany after WWII. She had been a nurse but as happens she could only do “lesser” duties here in the USA. I say “lesser” with a laugh. No RN could make patients as comfortable as “Sammy” did. (Irmgard Samman). While RNs sat at the desks chatting with residents on call, Sammy was always in a room. Helping folks sit for the first time, stand and walk, massage their backs, talk to them, get them to eat.
When I first started there a cardiologist said “Try hard to get Sammy to care for your patients...she has a gift.”
No one else seemed to notice, but as an intern I worked with her whenever I was on call. No school taught what I learned.
There are SO many folks we take for granted. The janitor who gets our floors cleaned and waxed; the hotel maids who clean up after us; the food workers in restaurants never seen and being paid almost nothing.
Young mothers without outside help. Housewives... what a scurrilous moniker! Yet it would take a husband $120,000 a year to replace all the jobs she does.
We MUST quit putting celebrities on pedestals. Tom Hanks’ net worth is $350 MILLION. Folks are just as kind but not rich.
Yes I love Tom Hanks. But WHY do we elevate him?
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"this generation’s Jimmy Stewart or Gary Cooper".......an apt comparison, but that really does Tom Hanks a disservice.
I noticed him during his "Great Lakes Shakespeare Festival" days.
It's a minor thing, but I was always impressed how Tom had something silly or novel to say during his appearances on David Letterman's show. His charm and preparedness made him one of the best guests. It reminded you that Tom Hanks is a true movie star, and gracious.
On top of everything else, Tom Hanks is the biggest fan of the Dave Clark Five.
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Thanks for this. Tom hanks is clearly a great person and I admire him. I do muse, however, with the thought that Tom likely earned as much money playing Mr Rogers as Mr. Rogers made in a lifetime of ministry and pbs budgets.Not that it would bother Fred Rogers and it shouldn’t bother me. Excellent article.
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Fred Rogers was independently wealthy. He didn't need to work at all, yet he devoted his life to communicating with and for children.
Money buys things, not happiness. Once you have security and all the things you need any more stuff is just baggage.
Fred had almost no interest in shopping. Tom is giving away his prized collection.
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It seems Mr. Hanks expression of self knowledge here, that he is nice as a form of manipulation, only works if others are not so nice. Which, might explain the conflict with Mr. Winkler. Nice guy turf war...
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There's at least one person who doesn't get along with Tom. I'd really like to know the real story behind him getting Henry Winkle fired from "Turner and Hooch" and the decades of bad blood between him and Tom ever since. They're both supposed to be likeable, easygoing guys, so how did two rights make a wrong?
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@Brooklyn Codger yeah I can't see Hanks's face without thinking of Henry Winkler, whom I adore. would love to know the real story there.
Sigh. Like so many of us reeling from the news this was just perfect. Truly. Taffy, Thank you for the brief but delightful respite.
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Hanks belongs in the pantheon of our great actors, like Bogart, Brando, Grant, Muni, Olivier, and Tracy! His performances are always gripping! In fact, he stands alone at the top of the craft today!
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Kindness rates high with me. My sons, now in their 50's watched Mr. Rogers, me too and my own father was the kindest man I ever knew. And now I will watch the impeachment hearings on television and wonder what happened to America. Kind Republican is a oxymoron. The GOP talks in New Speak, Bribery is no longer impeachable, if the president is a Republican. The president is above the law and the AG decides what the law is and that the interests of Putin defines American foreign policy.
There are people who care for other people and those like Trump and is supporters who care only about themselves, DJT is the opposite of Mr. Rogers. Ignorance and self interest rule the date.
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@Sheldon Bunin yes, Trump is probably the standard for mean spirited, petty, small, narcissistic, misogynistic racists who have become emboldened by his Presidency. We could all use a little Mr. Rogers right about now.
Wonderful article. Heartfelt, honest writing by a gifted journalist. What a great exchange between two people sharing just a moment in time. Breaks the mold of what a good celebrity profile can be.
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I don't know why this made me tear up.
In this age of nasty internet comments and just general nastiness, it's so nice to read about good people like Tom Hanks and Keanu Reeves. Decent men.
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Indeed. After so many #MeToo revelations I began to wonder if there was a single man with power who wasn’t despicable. Thank god, there are some.
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Thank you for this article.
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Every time I see Tom Hank's he makes me feel "less bad."
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Dissing Saint Mother Teresa— really? In an article in which you stress Hank’s message about focusing on the good that people do, not the reasons why they do them. That was unnecessary.
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"This Tom Hanks Story Will Help You Feel Less Bad"...truer words were never spoken. Thank you Taffy.
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Reading this is a very nice start to a day that will most likely be much less kind.
The link to Junod’s Esquire article about Mr. Rogers -
https://www.esquire.com/entertainment/tv/a27134/can-you-say-hero-esq1198/
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Clone Tom Hanks 100 times over and send him off into the world to bring joy, honesty, intelligence, common sense and calm to as many people as possible. The sooner the better.
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Loved the article, and no, it is not the least bit boring. Can't wait to see the Mister Rodgers movie.
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Let me sing the praises of Tom Hanks too: who you think he is, he IS that guy, the nicest, most present guy in the world. I had the privilege to work with him twice on the set in my position of teleprompter operator. Somehow, he and I got into a conversation about Greece. I told him I’d never been there, and he said to me, ”Here’s what you do: get to Greece, and then get to an island. And then go to a farther out island. And then you go to an even farther out island, and you just keep going for as far as far as you can. It’s amazing.” So within a year, my husband and I did exactly what Tom said. Best vacation experience ever!
Thanks, Tom!!
Bev Feldman, La Canada California
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how sad that this article's author had to tell us that there was fiction in the movie. i sense that if you took that fiction out, and played the reality, the movie would have been not just better, but true. you actually spoiled the movie for me. how sad.
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My high school graduation present from my parents was a manual typewriter. My dad drove a truck and my mother worked part-time at a department store; I got into college on a partial scholarship. The typewriter was an inexpensive model, but was quite a splurge for them. As I clacked away on my very first college essay, the typewriter's carriage mechanism broke. I had to hit the spacebar after each c[spacebar]h[spacebar]a[spacebar]r[spacebar]a[spacebar]c[spacebar]t[spacebar]e[spacebar]r[spacebar].
My parents were so proud of me and had worked so hard that I couldn't bring myself to tell them about the faulty typewriter. Instead, I used it all four years--character, spacebar, character, spacebar. I drove my roommates insane; they would leave the dorm whenever I started my slow, incessant typing procedure. I graduated magna cum laude.
I got a job on a magazine, located right down the street from the Cleveland typewriter repair shop where I later learned Tom Hanks bought his first good machine. I loved to go into that shop and look at all the models. I wish I had gotten my college typewriter repaired, and that I had kept it. But it is long gone.
Anyway, I've always felt a certain kinship with Tom because of typewriters. My kind of guy.
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What a great profile that makes one want to be, well, nicer. I've never watched Mr. Rogers, only seen the send-ups on various comedy shows. My kids weren't that interested, and weren't quite the right age anyway. But now I'll try to think of Tom Hanks when I get depressed with headlines about the exact opposite sort of man who lives, incredibly, in the WH. Great work by Taffy Brodesser-Akner.
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Just thank you. That's all.
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This may be aboring article, but, I read it to its conclusion. Way to go Taffy.
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Wow. Wonderful piece. Getting misty over here. The world needs more Tom Hanks's, and More Taffy Brodesser-Akners too.
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What a rare treat, to have a hero to look up to. Thanks for the fun story and the charming portrait of a good man.
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When it comes to typewriters, there’s nothing like an Olivetti Lettera 22! I had one for years. I taught myself how to type with it at age 19, sitting on the floor of my tiny apartment in Chicago trying to memorize the keyboard while my eyes were glued on whatever printed material I had around. The typewriter was borrowed (filched) from my big sister who had left home for her own adventures. I thought it would help me find a job in the big city. It didn’t really help on that occasion, but it traveled with me to Berkeley, then Pittsburgh, briefly back to my hometown Cleveland, then finally to Vermont. At this moment I can’t tell you where it is. Maybe I still have it.
It’s not always having the things from your past by your side, but the memories they create. Yes Tom, maybe it’s time to lighten the load.
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@Susie E If you find it I will buy it from you :)
"I told them that it doesn’t matter why you do nice things; all that matters is that you do them."
Great writing. Thank you. And Mr. Hanks for the inspiration.
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The impeachment hearings started this morning and I am as despondent today as I was elated when Barack Obama was elected in 2008.
This article made me cry and gives me hope. Well done.
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Thank you for this interview. We need more people of the caliber of Tom Hanks ~ goodness should not be confused with boring!
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I thought I should share this story related to me by a cousin.
In the southern California community of Pacific Palisades (adjacent to Santa Monica, there was a dinner party hosted by a neighbor of my cousin. One of the guests looked very out of place with an out-of-control beard, and exceeding thin. Guests were rather alarmed by his appearance.
As it turned out, to everyone's gleeful surprise, it was Tom Hanks. He was on a short break from filming "Castaway," where his weight had dropped precipitously for the sake of the story. The beard was real, rather than a prop from the film's makeup department.
The heart of this story seems to be, Tom Hanks loves his friendships built over the decades. We should all be so lucky to live in the sphere of his friendship.
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I don't need Tom Hanks to make me feel good about the world. That's an internal job.
Besides, nice people are not a dime-a-dozen, but a nickel-a-hundred if you take time to look.
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Good lord, this seems like such a set up, like hearing a sports announcer say something like, "This pitcher has not allowed a homerun in a World Series game." Then, of course, the next batter dings one. Is the Tom Hanks scandal story far off?
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I think we just found our candidate for president.
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I lived this interview with you, Taffy. Your writing, not just the things you've written about, sure felt like a reflection of Tom Hanks.
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Is there a Taffy Brodesser-Akner Fan Club? Can I be the president? What a voice! Taffy, you did Tom proud.
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I glanced at the impeachment headlines this morning and, feeling a deep physical nausea in response, kept scrolling. Then I reached this story and read the entire thing, smiling and feeling happy and light and nourished the whole way through. Thank you, Taffy. Thank you, New York Times. And thank you, Tom Hanks!
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@S.G. Very much the same here. I very rarely "chime in", but this article really gave me a respite from the current train-wreck, a reminder of "the real stuff", a much-needed spiritual/emotional adjustment.
Cheers.
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