After reading this article "What Rites of Passage Mark the Transition to Adulthood in Your community?" I personally find learning how to drive is considered a "rite of passage" into adulthood because it is transportation that many adults today use to get to work or go school with. It defines you as more independent because you are not dependent on a carpool, a public transportation, but allowing you to drive independently and how you don't need to rely on someone to go somewhere. It is really important to be independent than dependent on others for things. Not to mention that learning how to drive takes you another step into adulthood. For example, you can get to work without having to be dependent for a ride there. Also when you learn how to drive, you also obtain a license which proves your age if you are turned away because they think you are underaged. and it opens a whole world of Opportunites.
How important driving is to me. I want to learn how to drive so i don't have to ask for rides and i can go were I want.
The Transition from adolescence to adulthood for me is that you can live on your own and take care of yourself I believe this because everyone thinks that you can drive and have freedom but I feel that is not getting teens ready for adulthood because there is to many things to learn.
The rite of passage, for me, is when you get a sustainable income. When you're able to buy a car and sell off the first. When you're able to buy the stuff you want and not have to worry about money. Money is the force that drives us, and when you get that income, you become someone. That is the rite of passage.
It is very important to start driving in my old town and when you got to drive by your own it was free to things you couldn't with your parents. The talk with your parents could be weird and funny sometimes the things with change after the talk. The things will be very different in many ways to think about later in life.
I believe that the rite of passage to adulthood is important in many ways because the active driving shows that you have freedom but not complete freedom.
What it means to be an adult is more responsibility towards you and then your going to have to things on your own someone becomes an adult when your 18 and when you live alone I feel like in the USA the age your considered an adult is 20
I believe there are many things that mark the transition from adolescence to adulthood, whether we're ready for them or not. Sometimes children have adult-level responsibilities forced on them at a young age or home situations that require them to mature quickly.
Others come more naturally such as just becoming old enough to drive graduating, and getting your first job. Each event might have a positive or negative feeling but gives the same result. That leap into adulthood.
These are things that many people might not realize. For a while, I used to believe being an adult was paying taxes and all that. It's really not though.
For me, the thing that marks adulthood is being 18. I don't think there are any big moments past that. Sure driving, and having the talk, and being away from home makes me feel independent but being the legal age is what really does it for me
I'm 16 years old and out of my 5 older siblings 1 of them drive. I don't think driving is a "rite of passage". What I think makes someone an adult is having a job, being more independent, and being able to provide for yourself.
I have participated in driving because I have my permit and im about to get my license and the experience I had was me knowing I have a lot more of responsibility. And when you finally drive by yourself it really his you.
learning to drive to me is important because it means i can finally be free and live my own life it make you feel like an adult and your finally getting older and you can do your own things and you dont have to sit at home anymore you can go out and do things with your friends i think it is considered a ride of passage.
Learning to drive is important to me personally, but I dont think it id for my family or hometown. What I mean by this is that I would love to be able to drive experience the freedom and the ability to go almost any where whenever I wanted, but that doesn't mean that I need too if I couldn't drive I could just take a bus or walk I my family sees it this way too its not necessary to learn to drive but it can be important
I think the right of passage to adulthood can be a mix of things depending on the person. But for me the most important one is graduating high school or getting your GED because its a passage into the real world.
There are many ways into adult hood. The way i sort of came into adulthood is when my grandparents started to get older i had to step up into a bigger spot in life and start helping out with the kids around the house and helping out with whatever they need.
Driving has not been an important thing that I feel I need right now. My parents have been pushing me to do so, but I just don´t find it important to drive. I do believe though that driving is a step closer to adulthood because driving takes a lot of responsibility.
Learning to dire is very important to me because, coming from a separated family, it makes many things a lot easier. Driving marks the time my family starts working and making appointments for themselves. It is when we start paying for things alone and gaining responsibility.
I believe that the right of passage to adulthood can be many things. Driving, first relationships, sweet sixteen, all of these can highlight growing up.
it can also be enduring things that children shouldn't have to endure. arguing with parents, seeing loved ones at an all-time low, these things can force a child to try to become the more mature person.
Learning to drive is a very important thing to me. Driving brings freedom for teens, and leaving childhood behind.
To me getting my license is a sign of growing up because it gives that responsibility and freedom to go where ever you want, but also it gives you a responsibility that whenever your driving you have to worry about the people around you and keeping yourself safe
I know based off personal experience that when you find that one person who means the world to you, you know you should change for the better to keep her/him in your life. Its not something you think in your head about Its just something you do because it means a lot to have them in your life.
I think that driving at the age of 16 is very important to me be its the first step to going and being out on your own. For me, because I am 17 driving for I is letting me get from point A to point B. I don't have to depend on my parents or other family members to take me places that I need to go or be at.
The biggest right of passage is graduating because with a diploma you can be a respected part of our society. Having a diploma means you can get a job and be over with school like an adult .
i think graduating is a right of passage and going into the work force because at that time you can take care of yourself and become independent.
To me, driving is extremely important. In my area driving is very important and represents adulthood and freedom.
Driving really isn't that important to me. I'm sixteen and I still don't have my license. And yes I guess it is a rite of passage into adulthood because when you were a kid you had your parents drive you to birthday parties and drive your friends to the mall. Now you have freedom and you can go places and drive other people.
I think that driving was a right of passage to me because once i learned to drive my parents let me drive to different places and i get to do more things because they dont have to drive and ll they have to do is sit next to me i fell like if you cant drive then its hard to get around
I have been driving for a year and a half now and it has tough me a lot of adult responsibilities like getting to places on time is now something I have to do all on my own managing when I leave the house or plan on there being traffic. Time management has been something I have really learned in the past year.
To me driving is very important because then you can go anywhere and do anything you want. And plus you cant do it as a kid so it represents adulthood in my area
I think driving is a important step in life because you have responsibility of peoples lives in your car. Driving is important because it gets you to places you need to be, like your job to make money. Driving is a big responsibility because you have to be careful, and pay attention to the road at all matters.
When it comes to driving, I do not believe that it is a rite of passage into adulthood. It's more of a necessity than anything else, though it can also display a responsibility that you have and shows off some maturity me and my family don't consider it a rite of passage.
I am looking forward to these moments of independence however at the same time I am nervous because there are some big decisions that I will have to make. I have never been one to like making decisions but as I mature I begin to dislike being under somebody's power. I am excited to take on responsibilities however I'm scared to mess things up.
Learning to drive to me isn't that important but in my hometown and culture, it is because you can't go many places without driving now.
Learning to drive is somewhat important to me but I'm not excited to do that and accept all the extra responsibility that comes with it like paying for gas and Insurance. In my community, it is considered to be an important signal of coming of age but, it comes with a lot of responsibility I would like to put off.
i think driving is a rite of passage because it shows more responsibility for yourself.
Learning to drive is considered an important step towards young adulthood in my family. It means more responsibility it leads to the next stage which is getting a job. It's another step towards becoming an adult in my family and to me personally. You become responsible for getting yourself to and from school, if you need to go somewhere its your responsibility to get yourself there.
After reading, "What Rites of Passage Mark the Transition to Adulthood in Your Community? I began to believe that moving into adulthood is a choice and its one that I tried to make as soon as possible because the rite of passage into childhood changed me into a more responsible person. I always believed that I wanted to stay a child forever, but as I grew older, the choice grew on me and I started to understand that life will get harder if I don't grow up, I'll never understand true adulthood.
I think diving is a right of passage but in my family is different we don't embrace social norms.
To me learning to drive is a "rite of passage". This is a big accomplishment for because I'm mentally disabled. To me driving means a lot, it represent things i thought I could never and the independence I might have never had.
It's important for me to drive because it was my dream since I was 10 and makes me feel complete as an adult because I learned something new as a teen and I can't wait to pass it on.
It is very importent and you could help more people wit a car, pick up friends or family if there car brakes down. Or pick things up for them if they don't have the time!!!
Some rites of passage that I consider to mark the transition from adolescence to adulthood would be when you turn 18. When you turn 18 you get the rights to vote, join military, work full-time, purchase and use tobacco (Depends on the state), live on your own, and many other rights. But learning to be able to drive would be one of the important rites to mark the transition to adulthood in my community. Being able to drive gives you more freedom to go out and do things you would like without being accompanied by your parents.
— Have you participated in any of these events yet? If so, what was the experience like for you?
I have experiences like this a lot now that im driving, i feel the freedom behind the wheel to go where i want. I understand the feeling on not being free because i only have my permit so i cant drive on my own yet
Personally I am looking forward to more independence as I reach adulthood. There is not much I can do at 16 and I feel limited. I already want to go and explore my place in the world and make my own decisions while not being dictated by my parents. I have just started to drive and I already feel my shift into independence. Driving has been a way for me to feel free and has ultimately been preparing me for my future.
There aren't really any rites that transition me into an adult in my family, except for just getting out of high school or something. My older brother never had a formal job in a way, just dogsitting around the neighborhood and all. I haven't considered driving yet, and he began practicing before his freshman year in high school and by the time he was a junior he was able to drive himself to school. I guess by the time I turn 18, I'm an adult, but there are some factors to that, considering that you have to be 21 for alcohol and other things and that your brain still is developing until the age of 25 or so, early adulthood is kind of a vague definition.
It is important to me because i can go were i want to go and i know were to do. When you drive you have to take adult like responsibilities.
So you can follow the rules you could do what you need and you need to save the lives of the people around you.
I am looking forward to the day that I get to drive and have some freedom in doing what I want
it is super important to drive me so i can get to school and home without being able to drive I just sit at home and do nothing or walk for a few hours to get to school
i say i dont care when you turn 18 your 18
Driving is very important to me because it gives me a sense of freedom and growing up, it also allows you to go to places that you always wanted to go and to go on adventures that you where
never able to never do.
There are many rites of passages in the transition to adulthood that I know of. They are all different for different families. Legally, turning 18 also signifies adulthood because it is the law. Pretty much everyone recognizes one as an adult when he or she turns 18. Being able to drive is definitely one that most people recognize in my community because it means that you don’t have to rely on your parents to get places and do things. This gives freedom to the parents too by them understanding that their child is responsible for themselves to an extent. Getting a job also signifies the transition into adulthood because it demonstrates responsibility to get to work on time and work hard for an income because that is a taste of real life. Having a job means that you are getting your own money which also takes responsibility to make wise decisions with. Most of all the rites of passages that signify adulthood involve the freedom and ability to be responsible for yourself.
In my culture, turning 18, or 21 is considered a rite of passage. At 18 you are legally an adult, you can now live on your own and you can be charged as an adult for crime. At 21 you can legally drink. This is seemingly a rite of passage in my community. I haven’t reached these milestones yet, but in my young life, I have encountered many other milestones. I wouldn’t count these experiences as a rite of passage, but definitely as significant growth, separating me from adolescence and bringing me closer to adulthood. More recently, my life has begun to change significantly in the sense of transitioning from adolescence to adulthood. I obtained my license and immediately got my first job less than a year ago. This meant that I am now responsible for a car payment, buying my own clothes and health products, and paying for things like gas, oil changes, and tire rotations. This was huge. Getting my license and a job granted me freedom from my parents. I no longer was depending on them to help transport me, or buy me things I need.
Learning how to drive is very important to me. I agree that learning how to drive comes with a lot more freedom. Though in my opinion, there is not one definitive "rite of passage" to adulthood. I feel like it is more of a journey with a lot of little achievements along the way. Turning 16 in my town is a big milestone. Many people in my town have Sweet 16s or do something special for their 16th birthday. I know a lot of people who get cars for their 16th birthday so that they have their own when they get their license. I have not really experienced any of this yet but my 16th birthday is coming up and I am excited to get my permit. Other than that, I am indifferent to being viewed as an adult and gaining more responsibility because I know that it will happen eventually and I want to enjoy where I am in my life right now.
I agree that driving is scary in its own ways. Adulthood is a gradual transition, not something set at a particular age. Although, when you turn 18, the society now recognizes you as an adult. The society puts pressure on you to ‘act like an adult’. On the other hand in reality, you have not quite reached adulthood yet. Most likely, you will still be at home living with your parents or in college trying to adapt to a new lifestyle. Yes, there are more responsibilities that come with getting older, but adulthood is about slowly gaining more independence, knowledge, and becoming your own person who can navigate the real world on your own. For some people, there are specific rites of passage that make you an adult. For example, getting your license. However, being able to drive does not make you an adult; it is only a step along the way.
Adulthood is what all teenagers want to be because their parents set them limits and do not give them enough freedom. However, the passage from adolescence to adulthood is not easy at all. Becoming an adult mean, a lot to me even the rites of passage that mark the transition of adulthood in my community is to be 18 year is old and be able to vote .The transition to adulthood is more than to be 18 year’s old. I would say it is means sacrifices, autonomy, and financial independence, decision-making and be someone who have the maturity to move toward in a new horizon. Adult is knows and recognized our responsibilities. In the society, there is a specific age that they give us decide that the labor market is open to them and that they have the possibility to fulfill certain conditions.
In my opinion, adulthood is a period of time when we understand the values of things as the people who are around of us and our financial status. At this period of our life, we also begin our own family and we get responsibilities. I have met people who are worry about being an adult and they take responsibilities that they are not supposed to. However, the most fun period of our life is childhood because at that moment is when we have less worries and everything is about having fun. Therefore, we should be patient and does not rush adulthood because it will come to us with time, like when we make mistakes and learning from them.
Become an adult is the most important step of everyone’s life. When you are an adult you have more responsibilities to do things by yourself. I believe when you are able to help your parents to pay their bills you are being adulthood because you do know how you can handle things without permission of anyone.
Driving is very important in New York. As a new yorker when I go to work or somewhere, need a car to drive. Eventually, New York has subway but some places in New York are too far from subway. Therefore, driving is essential for these kinds of place. There are many cities in U.S. that has no subway. Therefore, there are not any other options to drive in these kinds of cities. The culture in my country driving is not important because there are many alternative way like Rickshaws or Bicycles. On the other hand, cars are too expensive in my country and people cannot afford it. In addition, parents are friendly in my country and children can discuss any part of life. I can also discus with my parents about what I like and what I do not like.
In my opinion, when teenagers become an adult over 21 most of them experience new feelings and responsibilities. However, being an adult is not easy by the reason that we have to be in charge such as paying bills or be aware of everyone at home. In addition, I think this is a big step of everyone’s life because one day it going to be our turn to take the lead. However, until that day comes we have to prepare ourselves and be mature to any situation in life. One day I would become an adult and I will be concern about that, but I must be devoted on now because the things we do today are the plans of tomorrow. I am just eighteen years-old, but I want to make my best until that day comes and I know that my life is just starting; however, I am never going to give up and do my best day-to-day basis. In fact, we should stop thinking like kids and start putting our feet on the ground and face being responsible of ourselves and people around us.
I do not think of adulthood as a race where the finish line marks the transition over. Adulthood comes with experience and maturity and it differs between every person because it is not established by an event but rather one’s mindset. Social expectations define the noun “adult” at the age of 18. For some that may be correct, others their own idea of adulthood may have come before that or their yet to come. Adulthood is a developed feeling of independence that is a product of many different factors that are a part of each individual’s lives. I believe becoming an adult is a label that needs growing into for each person in his or her own way, which cannot be slowly determined off one thing.
Adulthood is not defined by age. Adulthood comes in many different forms as in your behavior because I know adults who behave not according to their age. I have seen many cases of adults who, instead of setting an example, have a bad influence on some young. Furthermore, I meet young people who behave as adults and are more responsible than adults are. However, they live alone, pay their bills and make their own decision. You are consider as an adult when you take responsibility for your actions. So far, I have my own job so I can help at home and I can pay my basic needs. But more than that, I can recognize my obligations and what is good or bad for me. That is the reason why I want to become a responsible adult.
Adulthood does not magically arrive at 18 or 21 years age. Being an adult indicates that you have moved into a new stage in life in which you take more seriously your career, relationships and future. For example in my culture have a driver license does not necessary mean that you became an adult. In my community some common rites of passage that mark the transition from adolescence to adulthood is having an identification card at the age of 18. It is also considered for a female after her 15 birthday that she is becoming an adult, as well when someone graduates from high school. I believe that the perception of adulthood is a subjective experience that varies in accordance with the amount of responsibilities or certain important events or experiences in the individual’s life and not with age.
Before I can drive a car, I need to pass a driver’s license exam. Obviously, I think I can’t drive my car and I felt so scared because some cars on the street can hit me. In addition, the driver’s license exam is too challenging because I don’t understand very well and I spend lots of time. For adults have some steeps are they need study those practices how to drive professionally, learn different traffic signs, how to decrease the speed, etc. I should like to drive with my partner, I don’t drive myself because I can have a car accident. My priority is study for driver’s license exam to pass it and I will get my new license to drive my car.
Since I was little until I was sixteen years old, I used to live in Ecuador and over there if you are a girl they celebrate “quinceañeras” when it is going to be your 15th birthday and that event marks the transition from childhood to adolescence. However, they do not consider getting your license or graduating from high school as a rite of passage to adulthood. Our culture consider if you have a job, you have your own house and you pay your bills; you will be consider as an adult. This is supposed to happen when teenagers become eighteen years old. In my country, most of the parents that owns any kind of business prepare their children by taking them to their job or giving them responsibilities at home.
In my opinion, when teenagers become an adult over 21 most of them experience new feelings and responsibilities. However, being an adult is not easy by the reason that we have to be in charge such as paying bills or be aware of everyone at home. In addition, I think this is a big step of everyone’s life because one day it going to be our turn to take the lead. However, until that day comes we have to prepare ourselves and be mature to any situation in life. One day I would become an adult and I will be concern about that, but I must be focus now because the things we make today are the plans of tomorrow. I am just eighteen years-old but I want to make my best until that day comes and I know that my life is just starting; however, I am never going to give up and make my best day-to-day basis. In fact, we should stop thinking like kids and start to put our feet on the ground and face being responsible of ourselves and people around us.
My family think that once I learn how to drive, I will officially become a real man. However, I do not think that it is true. Men do not become a man just by learning how to drive a car. There are plenty of reason of why I do not want to learn how to drive. I would not like to be stuck on traffic when I go to work or school. However, I think that you can tell when somebody has become an adult once the person knows how to be responsible, and when the person has gained the necessary experience to keep a stable and organized life.
Many people think that you become an adult at certain age but I think you became an adult when you have to work to sustain yourself and no matter how old are you. For example, I was seventeen years old when I came to this country. I felt much depended from my father but later on I had to work to pay my rent, my clothes, my shoes and other stuffs. Furthermore, I started feeling different from before because I was being independent. From that moment, I felt like I was an adult and behaving as one. Another example is about a young girl called Vivian from the book of the orphan train, she has to make the shores at home and take care of her younger siblings. Even though Vivian is very young, she is taking a role as an adult.
In my opinion to be an adult is to have more responsibility, because when we are teenagers or youngsters the only thing that we have to care about is studying. Sometimes we work and study at the same time and we can realize how difficult it is to have more responsibilities, I also think that in order to become an adult it is necessary to become a mature person to be capable of facing all the obstacles that we will have.
Before I can drive a car, I need to pass a driver’s license exam. Obviously, I think I can’t drive my car and I felt so scared because some cars on the street can hit me. In addition, the driver’s license exam is too challenging because I don’t understand very well and I spend lots of time. For adults have some steeps are they need study those practices how to drive professionally, learn different traffic signs, how to decrease the speed, etc. I should like to drive with my partner, I don’t drive myself because I can have a car accident. My priority is study for driver’s license exam to pass it and I will get my new license to drive my car.
At a certain age, many people think that they are still young or child. However, it just needs something happens to know who are you exactly. Ordinary in my community, at 18 years old it is enough to be adult or to know what the right things that you do are. According to me, get driver’s license does not mean you are adult .The most important thing that shows someone is an adult, it is about your dreams and how you are focusing on them. The second thing it is being married and the last one it is about how you act or you argue with your friends in any situations. These are some examples that show the maturity of someone in my community.
According to “what Rites of passage Mark the Adulthood in Your Community?” I believe that passage “Mark the to Adulthood.” It comes in different ways because many people say that when you start working and help the family with household expenses that means you are an adult. I believe an adult is a person who makes decisions without the intervention of their parents. Depending on what kind of decision. In my case, I help my family with household expenses and sometimes, I have some issues making some decisions. However, I want to obtain the driver’s license. In this decision my parents do not disagree because it is important since it is an official document before the authorities which indicates that people can drive a vehicle within the city, in many things my parents agree.
An adult is a person who is fully grown or developed, therefore, be independent but responsible about his/her actions. To become an adult means taking responsibility for your life, think reasonable, try to avoid mistakes that you did it when you were young. For example, learning to drive is important for adults when they can be responsible about themselves like have work, paying their bills, and go to college or graduate from it , but drivers whatever their ages they should be careful and do not use their cars to put others at risk. When adults use cars, they are independent to go wherever they want, but not to use their independence at the road, because they share the road with others. The adults needs to learn all that in steps from their parents and their community. An adult is the person of future so, he/she needs to be ready to take responsibilities of life, and have a good behaviors forward others. The adults should show respect for who are old of them and prove that they grow up with their actions and decisions.
I considerate that driving is very important, not only because you can go wherever you want, also is a privilege that not all the people can do. In my family driving is important and it is consider a rite of passage into young adulthood. My father told me that you can drive for work and you can hate it but also you can also love to drive and make it a way to relax yourself. That is the reason why I consider that driving is a privilege. I know how to drive since I was a child, my father used to put me on his knees and let me take the steering wheel, I really feel excited and that is why I love to drive. Because he taught me in the loveliest way and I am really proud to be his daughter.
For me was very important learn how to drive. It was important because I wanted go out by myself with my friends and my family. Of course, in my family, culture or hometown is it considered into young adulthood because adults has a lot of responsibilities and how to handle carefully is a big responsibility. We need to learn all the rules how to drive careful and in the right way. I drive now and I really know how cautions we have to do. Drive is something serious is not just hanging out with friends.
In my opinion, learning to drive is considered a “rite of passage” into young adulthood because it is an experience that young people pass when they start to be an adult. Adulthood is something serious when the young people start thinking about their future and they start to take care about more responsibilities. Adulthood could be defined in different ways, moments and experiences in life. In my case, start driving is that every young people do when they want to feel independent as an adult. I’m not a driver but I think that it could be a little hard because when you drive you have to pay attention to everything around into the car and out of the car. That’s what I think because I use to be nervous at the moment of doing important things
It is true that learning to drive makes you more independent, which means that you’re not more a child and you’re an adult, even if you have !7 years old. Driving can give you a different life perspective and more responsibilities because you can go and do things by yourself. Besides this, when you are driving, you need to be more careful, because you can put at risk yourself and the other passenger life too. I agree that this is one of the steps that make you an adult, but is not the only one, there are different aspects that can make you an adult like cooking, working, living by yourself and other ones.
When I was a child, my grandfather taught me how to drive. He had a standard car and some people say that a standard car is harder to drive than an automatic. He allowed me to drive but only slow and that was the condition to me. Even though I was only 13 years old, my grandfather used to lend me his car. Personally, I think that parents must not lend their cars to their children until they obtain an adequate age. It is important that more than one member in the family knows how to drive. It is also important having a license because there are many people, who drive without any permission.
I believe that what makes you and adult is more than learning how to drive. I think it is more based in your own experiences and when we cut off from rely in our parents and become more independent. In addition, what make us an adult is the way that we look at your problems and the way that we solve them because if we are independent and we cannot handle any problem by ourselves that means that we are not independent enough or mature enough. I am not saying that learn how to drive is not important because it is a fact that some problems require our driving ability, because in order to solve some problems we must know how to drive even though we do not own a car. Some events in our life force us to become more independent like losing our parents or going to college in another city. In my case, fortunately, none of that happened. I had to grow up mentally before other children from my same age because my mother went to live in another city so I stayed practically by myself and I had to learn many things in order to survive. I do not blame my mother for left me on the contrary I thanks her because it made me be more mature and independent.
After I read the article “what Rites of Passage Mark the Transition to adulthood in your community”. I am looking forward to gaining more independence assuming more responsibility. When I found my first job, I started to become an adult. I started working I know then I can able be to pay my own bill and to go to college have an own house or apartment become myself sustainable. I starting to get my own money and stop relying on my parents that they do for me. I figure out how to open my own saving account to put money for my activity I want to do.
I believe that the passage to adulthood comes in many different shapes and forms for many different people and communities. for me, the passage to adulthood begins when one can start taking care of things in their own. Some may say that becoming an adult begins when you start paying bills, go to college, get a job, own a house or apartment, or becoming self sustainable. I felt like my own passage began during my freshman year of high school when I started getting money in my pocket and stopped relying on my mom to do things for me. I had to figure out how I was going to get to school and back home, what my days were going to plan out, and opening a savings account for me to put money into for any activities I wanted to do. This was my steps into my adulthood because I beginning to make life choices that affected how I was going to live. If one relies on the parents or guardians to do everything for them, than they would have never really grown up despite having the age. I see being an adult as having responsibility, and knowing that you can get through the toughest of challenges without needing that much help because that it was the real world is like. If you are going to make it or go somewhere in this world, you and only you can make that happen. Becoming an adult starts when you feel like you need to become more independent as a person or in some cases being forced to become independent. At some point you need to go out and make your own bread and a life for yourself.
I believe what makes you and adult is when you're cut off from relying on family for money and shelter. Knowing how to drive a car doesn't automatically turn you into a adult. Being able to rely on yourself and to build from that is being an adult.
I agree that driving is scary in its own ways. being able to put peoples lives in your hands is a scary thought. I started as soon as I could because I wanted the freedom to do what I wanted and go where I wanted to go. Driving for me in a way is therapeutic. Things and situations in my life has cause me to grow up much faster than I would have liked too. I realized this when I thought about the fact that childhood isn't forever. Although I think there are bigger moments that cause a mental shift into adulthood. Getting a job, paying for gas, taxes, bills, car payments, etc. are all things i've had to do before the age of 17. I miss the days when I didn't have to worry about those things. I love the independence, but sometimes the lack of reliance can put you in a state of mind that in a way drives me insane sometimes. My advise, stay young as long as you can. There's no rush to grow up.
Learning to drive, for me, was terrifying. Knowing that I was holding the lives of myself, my passengers, and everyone else on the road, in my hands was absolutely horrifying. Though driving is a basic "rite of passage" in Danvers, I just wasn't ready. I didn't feel like getting my license was the mark of my accent into adulthood; I already knew I was there. I didn't need a little card to tell me who I was or my role and status in society. I decide that on my own. Though I eventually got my license, and have now been driving for a while, getting it didn't feel all that important. I'm glad I waited until I was ready for the responsibility and I'm glad I didn't let the pressures of society's "rite of passage" determine when I felt comfortable getting behind the wheel.
Being able to drive means more independence, freedom & is a rite of passage into young adulthood, mainly because of the responsibility you have when you're driving & engaging in road traffic.
Other rites of passage in my community can be moving out & living by yourself for the first time, certain experiences & challenges from which you're growing, or simply the way strangers talk to you, conversations adults include you to or the amount & significance of the responsibility you're entrusted with.
A very significant turning point in Germany is when you aren't addressed by the informal "Du" form anymore, instead adults start addressing you by the formal and very respectful "Sie" form. This happens usually around the age of 16, it depends on your behavior & appearance.
I personally have experienced it already, it started with strangers like shop assistants or tradesmen, then quickly evolved to when I met friends of my parents, they asked me if they were allowed to address me by the informal form. Using the formal form is a way to express your respect toward adults or people of higher positions. When I was younger it kept a certain distance, maybe even a certain hierarchy, between me & the adults. Now, to be treaten equally, as a respectable person with a respectable amount of knowledge, to be treaten as an adult, is a very new, unusual, exciting, encouraging & maybe also a little bit scary feeling.
In my opinion, there are many different factors in which make up the attributes of an adult. For starters of course, there is a point of your life that’s called “coming of age”. This happens in a certain point in a teenager’s life, impacting his/her maturity. Now, there are many different ways where that may be unimportant... Say if a child had required to be mature from a young age due to her different living conditions. Nonetheless, maturity is a major factor in my opinion. Then, comes the official title of a legal adult when turning 18. Though, in my list of important adult factors, that doesn’t have much relevance. Yes he/she is able to vote, and pay taxes, and go to college, but he may not be responsible for such requirements. Overall, great responsibility and maturity to make life impacting decisions is detremental in being an adult.
Adulthood is a gradual transition, not something set at a particular age. Although, when you turn 18, society now recognizes you as an adult. Society puts this pressure on you to ‘act like an adult’, when in reality, you haven’t quite reached adulthood yet . Most likely, you will still be at home living with your parents or in college trying to adapt to a new lifestyle. Yes, there are more responsibilities that come with getting older, but adulthood is about slowly gaining more independence, knowledge, and becoming your own person who can navigate the real world on your own. For some people, there are specific rites of passage that ‘make’ you an adult. For example, getting your license. But being able to drive doesn’t make you an adult, it's only a step along the way.
Adulthood is not defined by a moment or a specific event. Entering the adult world and leaving behind adolescence is like walking through a series of doors; there is a final destination that is slowly realized as you get closer and gain more experience along the way. Learning to drive is one of the earliest events that lead to more freedom and life experience. Driving gives people the freedom to come and go as you wish, although that doesn't apply to most teenagers it is a limited liberty. I consider driving to open up opportunities to drive myself to work and school without relying on my parents. It is an exciting time to be eligible for my license, but I understand that none of this makes me by any means an adult. There are thousands of milestones, big and small, that will build up to the time when I will be completely independent and responsible.
Adulthood is not something I look forward to. The horror stories I have been told are endless, all the taxes, responsibility, tireless efforts - it’s not appealing. However, as I can see adulthood creeping around the corner, I have no choice but to think about it. With pressures of college acceptance piling up, it seems like everything is a buildup to when you leave college. The legal age of adulthood is 18, but the assumption is that you are not a “true” adult until you graduate college. This is probably just a bad case of tunnel-vision on my part (being a current student), but I still feel like this widely accepted in my community. Even with the understanding that college is not for everybody, it is still engrained in my mind that life, until you get your first job, is school, more school, and then the ultimate goal of getting the job of your dreams. Things like driving are little chips of independence as a teenager, but I don’t feel like it defines adulthood. It certainly can seem like it makes you an adult as a teenager, but adults on the road will see you as a teenager regardless. Perception of adulthood is fluid, but personally it has always been when you graduate college, or more broadly, a matter of when you can provide for yourself (I personally connect this with college, as I believe some of the most providing jobs are obtained through a college education). Once self-sufficiency is possible, that seems to be the point in which you are as an adult.
In my eyes, being an adult means when one feels that they no longer need the support of their family anymore. Not mentally, of course. One will always need their family. But financially, when they are ready to be on their own. Typically, I think 21 is the age of actual adulthood as opposed to 18. 18 is like a pre-adult, post-teen age. Smoking, buying scratch tickets, and getting a tattoo without parental consent is legal at this age, but most 18 year olds are either at college, which their family is most likely paying for, or still at high school living in their childhood home. I don’t think a particular event marks being an adult, because I think there are many. Moving out, buying a house, having a full-time job, having your first (legal) drink. All of these and more are like what’s on the other side of the entrance to adulthood. When I was younger, as most children do, I wanted to be older. Always. I wanted a baby, I wanted a husband, I wanted to live in my own big house with my own two dogs. But now, that is the last thing I want. Now that college is getting closer by by the day, I want to stay home in my bed in my room forever. I don’t want to grow up, I want to stay a child with my parents and my family. I do look forward to some experiences; getting married, decorating my house, having children. But that can wait. For now, I’m going to savor every moment I have in my room, in my home, with my family.
When it comes to adulthood, I believe there are small moments in our lives that get us closer to it, but I don't think one specific moment marks such a huge moment. I think that you become an adult when you experience living life independently, paying your own bills and living on your own. Adulthood is when you can think for yourself and have your own opinions in spite of fear of what other people think, not instead of. Adulthood is when you realize that sometimes you can't always do things on your own and it is ok, but you still try. Adulthood is not just relying on yourself, but letting other people rely on you too. Adulthood is also knowing that you will make mistakes in life, some small and some big, and that does not make you any less of an adult. The experiences that we go through that bring us to this point are not the actions themselves, but what they entail for our character. When you learn to drive, it is not the action of being behind the wheel, it is following the rules, relying on yourself to get places, and knowing how to budget money to pay for gas and insurance on a car. Being an adult is understanding that you can never meet all of the qualities of adulthood, and that is good, because that is life.
In my own personal opinion, there is no specific mark in anyone's life where you all of a sudden become a responsible adult. no matter the amount of effort put into your maturity, it slowly increases within time. One day you're responsible, mature, yet you can still be a child. Yet it works both ways, I believe you can become an adult at the age of 17 and BE more of an adult than one who is 25 with no job no money who is lazy. I believe that there is always a time for everyone, simply that some come later where as others come earlier.
Becoming an adult is a lengthy process that everyone will go through. It is significant because it is when you join the rest of the world as an autonomous person and an individual who is in control of their life. Being an adult means becoming responsible and developing one's character to a certain level of maturity in which you are able to handle situations that you will encounter in your life. It is tough to define specifically when a person becomes an adult; for some people, it will be when they leave high school. For others, it will be when they leave college. But for everyone, there is a certain point in your life where you learn, through a situation or experience, what responsibility is and how to be responsible. This is the point that I believe to be a mark of becoming an adult.
In my house driving doesn't necessarily mean freedom, I won't get my own car and my mom won't just let me go off whenever I want. So, adulthood is marked by high school graduation, because living a dorm away from home you have to start to figure things out for yourselves, away from your parents. I am looking forward to going off and branching our, however I am also scared of having to live by myself and being on my own.
In my opinion, I don't think of adulthood as a race to where the finish line marks the transition over. Adulthood comes with experience and maturity and it differs between every person because it's not established by an event but rather one's mindset. Social expectations put the phrase "adult" at the age of 18. For some that may be correct, others their own idea of adulthood may have came before that or has yet to come. Adulthood is a developed feeling of independence that is a product of many different factors that are a part of each individuals lives. I believe being an adult is a label that needs growing into for each person in their own way which can't be solely determined off one thing.
To be completely honest, learning to drive isn't very important to me. Sure, it's nice to have that freedom, but I'm in no way, shape, or form trying to rush my childhood. I've spent most of my life trying to act like an adult. As the oldest child in my family, I've always tried to be responsible, independent, and mature. But now that I'm about to cross into actual adulthood, I wish I could go back and relive everything as a child-trying-to-be-a-child, not a child-trying-to-be-an-adult. I used to be so ready and excited to go to college, to experience the real world for myself. But right now, I just want to slow this whole experience down. Most rights of passage happens when one turns 16, 18, or 21: a sweet sixteen, becoming a legal adult, being old enough to legally drink. But I don't think turning a certain age marks a right of passage. I think you have to be able to feel when you're ready to become an adult. There are people who are only 18 years old who are ready to take on the world. On the contrary, there are people who are 25 years old and aren't ready to be independent. People might be the same age, but everyone grows up at different rates.
After reading the article, "What Rites of Passage Mark the Transition to Adulthood in Your Community?" I am looking forward to gaining more independence, assuming more responsibility or being viewed by others as a grown up. The article states," My life has been marked by moments in cars, from the joyful (road trips where my mom and I would compete against each other in a never-ending game of Yellow Car, keeping score of every non-taxi yellow car we passed on the road), to the tempestuous (like when, at 17, I flung open the side door of my mom’s minivan to tuck and roll down the highway, though I changed my mind), to the surreal (when I drove for the first time two summers ago)." Based on the text, I am looking forward to exciting moments like those. To sum up, I am looking forward to growing up and gaining more independence for myself.
I don't really understand this concept of "Coming into adulthood" or looking for a defining moment as if it will help speed up the process. I feel like, "adulthood" is more so a state of mind and a label more than anything. It is placed upon people by their own society. Obviously by ages 18-21 people expect to be adults, but what does it really mean to be an adult? We can't ever have a definitive answer because it means different things to different people. Therefore, different people will "come into adulthood" at different times depending on their surroundings. I think we've all been obsessed with the idea of adulthood that we rush the natural process of growing up; and usually, most people who force their way through the door into adulthood tend to miss their childhood, or teenage years more than ever. I think adulthood is just an excuse for people to try to prove their own self withheld inadequacies to a society who doesn't care about them to begin with. I personally just want to roll with the punches because there's no point in trying to prove something that's not needed. Adulthood, in my opinion, isn't what we think it is, of course it's a time in our life where we finally aren't looked down upon. But, that's only when other people give us that privilege. In conclusion, adulthood isn't something you can bring upon yourself, nor is it something you can force yourself into. Mainly because in the end, it's a label and level of respect that is granted rather than earned.
To me, learning to drive is extremely important and I cannot waiting 2 more weeks for my license is going to be hard for me. Getting a license is a whole new level of freedom, where you have the ability to go where you want when you want without having to count on your parents to drive you. However, this isn't the start of adulthood in my opinion. I believe that you become and adult when you are put into the real world out of school. If you go to college, adulthood is when you graduate and have to fight for yourself to survive. If you don't, then when you are our of high school is when you are forced to hit that adulthood. To be an adult for me means to be in the real world with no one to really help you. I am far from adulthood because I have a little over 1 and a half years of high school left and at least 4 years at a college to still be a kid. Though I am scared to really become an adult and be on my own, I think i'll do alright.