Was Jodie Foster’s ‘Coming Out’ a Step Backward for Gays and Lesbians?

Ms. Foster’s speech brought unexpected tears, not because she made a mess of it, but because every time one of us comes out it’s a moment of profound courage and vulnerability.

Comments: 76

  1. I propose a new TV program, to be called Coming Out News (CON), which could provide a forum for liars like Lance Armstrong, racists like Mel Gibson, water-closeted gays like Larry Craig, trail-hikers like Mark Sanford, and all the the others who need to bare their souls.

  2. Beautifully written Steven. I'm wondering if the angry people are younger? They haven't a clue what older gays and lesbians have gone through in making "gay" much more palatable for straight America. They can't appreciate the fight that was waged for them or the nuances in how that fight was fought. I applaud Ms. Foster for her bravery and for the battles she fought. Judgment should be reserved for this woman, as we know not what she's done in her private life. As for being Mel Gibson's friend, I think it is most telling. She is a loyal person, who can forgive her friends and still love them and keep them in her life, despite their flaws. I wish Ms. Foster's critics had more of what she's got. Thanks Jodi.

  3. hello "TheGoToGayGuy"- thanks for your post and the compliment. i thought hard and long whether her critics were primarily younger -- or not -- and they don't seem to have been. if i noticed any divide, it was around gender -- more men than women lobbing criticisms her way. i think worth noting and exploring.

    sp

  4. I agree with Steven - no coming out is a step backward for the community. I believe that there are people who do not necessary do the reputation of the community "good", but that is often separate from the coming out process.

    Often in the media, suspicions of gay or lesbian identity and accusations of shirking that identity put shame and fear around coming out. I think that Jodie Foster's coming out - and the clumsy way that she did it - is reflective of the challenges that the media and society imposes upon LGBT people of her generation. The flow of her speech feels easily explained by the rough waters that closeted LGBT people are forced to swim. In her speech, it seems that she still carries the weight of her internalized fear and shame, but attempts to move through it nonetheless. Not only does Foster clear a path for others to come out from behind their fear, but it clears a path for them to do so in a way that is not so uniform as we see in TV and film.

    Additionally, I think it is important for an American public to experience the coming out process as progressive. Too often I have seen colleagues and friends (both straight and gay) "out" others, thinking that when you're out to one person, you're out to everyone. LGBT people come out on their own time to different people in their worlds for reasons that outsiders do not always get to understand. Whether one by one or on the stage at the Golden Globes, it is all part of an evolving process of our identities.

  5. hi emily, this is an important point that you make:

    "Too often I have seen colleagues and friends (both straight and gay) "out" others, thinking that when you're out to one person, you're out to everyone."

    sometimes we're out to friends and not family; family and not co-workers. it's always wise to ask someone who has come out to you whether it's ok to share this info or not.

  6. steven, most people don't need to know.

  7. Many of my early 'heroes' were gay and just never made a big deal out of it, but this was before the 'civil activism/social revolutionary' craze began in the '60's. I look back fondly to the days when elegance reigned. Then again, as a gay person, I have always been rather fond of superiority over mere 'equality'. So, one can complain that Ms.. Foster was not politically correct...she was glamourous, amusing and eloquent about her loves and her family. What more does the rabble expect, storming the Bastille?

  8. I found your article beautifully written and touching. I agree that any time anyone comes out, it is a moment of intense vulnerability that we, as gay people, can all relate to and empathize with. I think it's also worth recalling that Jodie Foster had a fan attempt assassination of a president to gain her attention -that would make anyone a bit more reserved in revealing themselves don't you think?

  9. ainsleywaken- i certainly do think that john hinkley's attempted assassination had a great deal to do with her subsequent decisions. while none of us can walk in her shoes, i can say -- for myself -- that i'd certainly have raised the curtain on my own privacy (and my kids) if i were in her shoes.

  10. Beautifully said. Thank you.

  11. I watched her speech after the fact, and was pleasantly surprised because of all the negative coverage. In fact, even her public confession of friendship with Mel Gibson made her point (he disgusts me): be loud and proud even if others don't agree with you or share your worldview. I thought she was quirky and funny and smart. And looked great in that dress.

  12. Personally, I don't think real progress will be made in the "total acceptance of all people" arena until people stop labeling themselves or others as gay or straight. We don't label ourselves based on hair or eye color, do we? It's like racism of the 60s all over. It's like trying to pinpoint a race on someone who is obviously multiracial. She acknowledged her partner, isn't that good enough? She's not "hiding". Why make a big deal of it?

  13. What a silly remark about labels. I'm gay. I'm not straight or bi or confused. I'm gay. Why shouldn't I label myself as such? When I was younger - many years ago - one of the excuses I had for not wanting to be out to everyone was that I didn't want everything I said or did or believed to be seen through the prism of "Oh, that's because he's gay." I can still find that annoying, but I've also come to realize that being gay has in fact profoundly influenced virtually everything I have done or said or believed. It also influenced how the rest of the world regarded me whether I was "out" or not. How could it not? Every single day of my 61 years has been experienced as a gay man and so I wear that label proudly. That does make me different than my straight brothers and sisters both because of my life experience and because of something intrinsic inside of me which I cannot explain. The problem isn't the label. Rather the problem is how some people regard the label.

    That being said I do agree that people should get off Jodie's back. I think she's terrific. Her speech was awkward and endearing and real. She is a celebrity who has been in the public eye her entire life, but has remained unscripted and unowned.

  14. jim, why do you feel the need to be labelled at all? If you didn't have a label, like one of those Hi My Name Is tags they give out at conventions, would you not know who you were?

    Gore Vidal used to say we should speak of homosexual acts, not homosexual people; and many of us have been, in the course of a lifetime, fluid in our sexuality.

  15. I don't feel that I "have" to be labeled anything, but I am what I am and if the label fits one might as well wear it. No, I don't greet each person I meet with "Hi, I'm Jim and I'm gay." Nor do I meet and greet as "I'm a union supporter" or "I'm an Irish-American" or "I'm an agnostic" and yet I am all those things and I'm perfectly fine with being labeled as such. I suppose saying that I'm human is also a label. I'm a fan of the Cowboy Junkies - that's a label too. It's not a matter of knowing who I am without a label - rather it's a matter of acknowledging and owning who I am. You speak of some people being "fluid" in their sexuality. Well good for them. If they do not identify as gay and do not want to be identified as such that is their right and their business. I never suggested imposing labels on anyone, but, for me, to deny the label "gay" would be a denial of who I am and to suggest that it is akin to racism is offensive. Certainly gay is not all I am, but that is not a problem with the label gay, but with the narrow mindedness of people who can't see beyond it.

  16. There is still a lot of unconscious and subtle homophobia out here, even in the era Barack Obama. Recently when I suggested to my 28 year old liberal niece that her brother-in-law, who committed suicide a few weeks before his marriage to a woman, might have been gay, the expressions which came through her face would have been appropriate had I suggested that he might have been a pedophile. It has been a long time since Sir Ian McKellan told Hollywood to came out, few have. Coming out still poses a serious risk to having a major Hollywood career as an actor. Even for a Lesbian. Remember that their career's are international as well as national. However she did so, Miss Foster had the real courage to come out before an audience of many, many millions of people. Lets celebrate her courage... before the backlash to all this current acceptance and respect arrives.

  17. hi toby- in all fairness to your niece, timing is everything and yours seems a bit off considering this terrible tragedy. but i agree completely with the rest of your post. thanks for chiming in.

  18. Judgement of Ms Foster aside, I long for the day when everyone's focus, including the speaker's, at such a time, might be on what is said and why it is being said, and not the sexual orientation of the person speaking.

    If the purpose here was, indeed, to come out, such use seems somewhat disingenuous. This is not to imply any inappropriateness whatsoever in thanking anyone, but any coy subtextual "Oh by the way..(wink, wink)" supports a position that being gay is something that needs to be presented with oblique reference rather that what it is: normal.

  19. Priceless. Isn't Mel a Christian? I guess Jody didn't realize what an absolute ridiculous choice Mel Gibson was given his by now well-dcumented oppressing views and ethnic slurs and Christianity's view on homosexuality. And oh yes, BIG SURPRISE on her being a lesbian. Is everybody in Hollywood continually out to lunch?

  20. The sad part is that anyone cares whether she is a lesbian. The leftwing LGBTQ whatever 'community' is every bit as intrusively fascist as the right with regard to presuming it has the right to tell other people how they should conduct their personal lives, and even more so in that they feel Foster has some kind of obligation to come out. I wish she'd just slapped their sense of overweening entitlement in the face and said, 'you got nothin' coming'.

  21. I agree on all fronts in terms of the "coming out" - my big issue was more that it was a lifetime achievement for her work as an actress...at the Golden Globes...I know she's gay. We all did. I didn't really want to hear a 6 minute speech about privacy, etc. I wanted to hear about her work as an actress. Her work with incredible directors and writers. That's what would have made a great speech.

  22. Having Mel Gibson as her guest ("date?"), I was hoping to hear her say, "Yes, YES...I can't hide it anymore.....I'm JEWISH!!!"

  23. Very funny.

  24. I love Jody. But she should have asked Bruce Vilanch to write it for her.

  25. roz, that's funny -- and i think you're joking but maybe not? i thought the power in her speech was that it was raw and authentic -- which would have been lost otherwise.

  26. I loath Mel Gibson, but I'm not going to condemn Jodie Foster for finding the good friend behind the public monster. I've certainly had a few friends in my life that I wouldn't want to be linked with in the pages of the NYTimes. I can't believe that all these people weighing in on who she should and should not be friends with have never had a relative or co-worker or school mate who they came to know and care for and perhaps love in spite of or perhaps initially unaware of their faults. Have they banished their parents and aunts and uncles and cousins and siblings who have expressed some less than pc opinions or behaved at one time or another in some indefensible way? I don't know Mel, I wouldn't ever want to know him, but Jodie knows him and she has found something good there. This speaks to her good character and who knows perhaps her friendship can influence him to be a better person.

  27. And 'The Beaver' was a good movie. And Gibson was good in it. Some truly detestable people may also have great talent. The majority of artistic and scientific geniuses were people you would not want to have lunch with; and it is my firm conviction that if you talk to anyone - ANYone - long enough, he or she will expres a firmly held belief that will make your jaw drop open. Foster's loyalty speaks well for her.

  28. Douche. Stop apologizing.

  29. Wherever, however and to whom anyone one comes out as gay is their decision alone. No one, and I do mean no one, has the right to judge another person in that regard. Jodie Foster's speech made a statement and contributes to the ongoing evolution toward openness, acceptance, respect and equality of lesbians and gays. I'm sure there were at least a few clueless folks to whom her speech was a revelation, and in that regard, every celebrity coming out does some good. But the true heroes are everyday folks: not rich nor famous, from decades past and today, who don't live and work in liberal bastions like Hollywood & NYC. By coming out to friends, families, and colleagues, often at considerable personal risk, they bravely paved the way with the lives they lived, and live, for Jodie's speech at the Golden Globes.

  30. We all have to make our own decision, each to their own time,own way, own words, to "come out." That is such a personal decision, and it can not be done wrong, What's right for you is right. None of us owe it to any group or organization, to come out by their "Rules". Just be true to yourself. Go Jodie. Break the mold. As with everything you have done in your life, you made your OWN mold. Then broke that one too. Every one gets to make their own. It's not "one size fits all." You are an incredible role model, One Class Act.

  31. I found her speech all over the place and sometimes downright bizarre. I just wish she had come out in an interview on a talk show or in print rather than on an awards show that was honoring her career in film. Or if she was going to do it in her speech, do it in a less rambling manner. I thought she might be on drugs.

  32. I thought Ms. Foster's speech was funny, thoughtful, courageous and touching. It brought me to tears when she mentioned she was nervous, when she acknowledged the crews she worked with, when she told us that she has been lonely and that she loves her mother.

    Oh...was it a coming out speech? I thought it was a good bye and thank you speech by a talented woman who happened to be a lesbian and apparently has been facing a lot of criticism and pressure to come out publicly.

    Astounded by the criticism.

    But then, I'm a fifty yearlold straight clueless person.

  33. I've always seen Foster as someone who's beyond such silly labels as 'gay' and 'straight'. Her intimate relations with both males and females of various ages are well documented, going back to her early to mid teens. I think only in the US, where a certain prepubescent prurience and nosiness seems to linger into adulthood, does such personal trifles hold any relevance.

  34. I feel sad and resentful that she felt she had to say anything at all. If the 'movement' is, or should be, about anything, it's that other people's sex lives are none of anyone's damn business, and *that* is what I wish she'd said.

    I'm a 58-year-old predominantly homosexual female, and arrogant tantrummy reactions like these to Foster remind me why I walked away from the 'community' and do not identify as 'gay', 'lesbian' or any of the other alphabet soup. God spare my my 'friends' and 'brothers/sisters'!? :P

  35. Ms, Foster made her sexual tastes public some years ago. I thought everyone knew by now, An excellent actress in neutral roles, her absolutely asexual personality comes across ringingly in heterosexual characters. No one really cares what adults do in private. what where, It´s people´s own personal choice and thank goodness, a minority choice for had it been a majority, all humanity would have all died out 3 million years ago. We would never have been alive for someone to write this article or for anyone to read it or comment on it. Nature decrees men and women to make more humans. Fuill stop! Anything else is Nature being interesting.
    That said, all adults should be able to live according to their natures, as long as that does not present danger to others, such as children.But according to international police statistics, pederast and pedophile rings present a constant danger to children world over. So, what adults do in their personal lives is their business. Just protect the children and spare the rest of us hearing about it. There are no lyrical tales of Romeo and Julio, or Adam and Evan because Nature´s model is for opposite sexes to fall in love, mate and breed. Basta con la pasta!

  36. What do being homosexual and being a pedophile have in common? Absolutely nothing. You're nothing more than a rank homophobe who thinks they know how to write well. Your comments are silly and pretentious.

  37. @Angel - I beg your pardon! Both homosexuality and pedophilia are perverse.

  38. There is no coorelation between sexual ORIENTATION, and child molestation: NONE, NADA, ZIP, -0-!

  39. Last comment. On the person who triumphantly trompeted the adjective ¨gay¨. As a translator, I bewail the fact that the language has lost a perfectly good adjective that originally meanit jolly or up beat. What made homosexuals choose that particular adjective to describe themselves? They are definitely not jolly or upbeat. In fact, as historical outcasts, many have suffered from depression. What´s wrong with the adjective homosexual?
    I understand the aversion to using the opposite of the adjective "straight", but couldn´t some other more suitable adjective have been found?
    Perhaps they adopted "gay" meaning womanishly giggly or giddy. Why gay, for heaven´s sake? There are those who do giggle, dress up and act like a parody of a woman, but not every homosexual is like that, so what set that particular adjective up as a suitable category lablel? I don´t think it dignifies homosexuals, but instead give them a sense of emotional instability. I wish all people of whatever orientation well, but come on, now, a permanent description of lightheadedness?

  40. After reading your two comments it seems clear that your problem is less with word usage than it is with who is using the word.

  41. As a heterosexual adult woman, which I will assume is also how you would label yourself, I have to give you kudos, sandra, for a two-comment performance I doubt Ms. Foster could outdo.
    I honestly don't think I've heard such rank homophobia, such smug arrogance, such outright merde, couched in such a faux-delicate, aren't-I-charming? manner.
    No anti-gay, diehard Mississippi evangelical preacher-politician bigot in a frothing harangue has said anything much uglier than you've just managed to spew.

  42. Sorry Flo G. but sanda above makes perfect sense. I too have occasionally bemoaned the confiscation of the adjective "gay" by the homosexual community. Many folks of that particular bent are indeed anything but gay given the many problems of the homosexual life style that resultant in a decreased life expectancy and a lot of unhappiness. Lets take back a perfectly good english word gay when the aptly descriptive homosexual exists. Goodness knows how the phrase like "the gay ninties" will be understood in the future.

  43. Jodie Foster made the speech her own. She's so talented and bright, and her comments about privacy in the age of the Kardashian monster resonated with me. Here's a woman who has accomplished a great deal, who's been famous since she was a child, and yet she has never used her fame for self-aggrandizement or shameless self-promoting.

    Ms. Foster has also never denied being gay, never hid her self. She just did not want to make her life a public spectacle and her sexuality the first thing that came to people's minds when they thought of her. I respect her values.

    She is an actress (and director) after all, and when I think of all the thespians who tweet, who spill their guts on Oprah or who encourage the paparazzi to document their lives for the tabloids, how can we not love and admire Jodie Foster's courage and dignity. This was her decision to make on her time.

    Was her speech a little messy, a little too rambling? Yes, but it was also brilliantly unrehearsed. Let's not attach our own agendas to Ms. Foster's life. Let us celebrate a woman who happens to be gay.

  44. I think it took good old fashioned ‘guts’ to come out in front of the whole world. Who cares how she said it, she took a stand. More power to her.
    It probably will sound funny but, in my family, we’ve been so used to my nephew Taylor being out that we almost forget how hard it can be on someone. We were all sharply reminded of that this past December when Taylor brought his new partner Shaun to share Christmas Eve at my brother’s with all the family. Shaun hasn’t been out with his family very long at all and he was a bit over whelmed that we’re all just used to everyone being their self.

  45. Bizarre. Check out the expressions on the faces of the audience: Julia Louis Dreyfus at ~1:38. Hahahahaha.

  46. It's amazing how the two opposite sides of the spectrum resemble each other so much that they are basically mirror images of each other.

    On the one hand, you have conservative (evangelical) Christians admonishing more accepting/liberal Christians for not being "a good/true Christian"... and when Jodie Foster comes out, she gets trashed for not doing it "the right way" or not being "direct enough" or not phrasing it in the way some people in the LGBT community would have liked.
    Is it now to the point where if people don't come out according to a pre-established template, they are actually "setting the movement back". God forbid people try to assert their identity and come out on their own terms.

  47. Perhaps the 'movement' neeeds to recognize the individuals involved. I would not compare J. Edgar Hoover with Ellen DeGeneres; she has more talent, appears smarter, and is better looking.

  48. Miss Foster should have kept her confused sexual preferences to herself. Her marketability and professional latitude have been diminished by the admissions she served up last week. Seeing her in any role will now be unavoidably coloured by the knowledge that she prefers women to men and thats a step backward for any artist and their reputation for common sense. Homosexuals and lesbians are unaffected.

  49. Jodie has never been confused about her sexuality. Not sure where you got that from. Foster will never be diminished. And it is obviously your own homophobia that is effecting you. Do us all a favor and stay in Europe.

  50. You misunderstand me jenk264 - in my opinion as a result of her speech admitting that she is lesbian Miss Foster is confused ipso facto. Homophobia has nothing to do with my opinion as I see no reason to be frightened of homosexuals. And thanks for your suggestion to remain in europe. I might do so if folks as confused as yourself come to have an overriding say in american sexual politics.

  51. I am finally getting around to viewing the video of her speech after having read the transcript. I thought her comments beautiful and was moved to tears, especially when she was speaking to her mother. Who cares about her sexuality? I certainly don't. And no one else should either. She's a great actress and producer who has accomplished much professionally, and I commend her for living her life on her terms. In the end, it isn't about who we loved, it's about having loved.

  52. How selfish of U! This isn’t about U. This is about Jodie & her letting go of what has obviously been a burden. Could U imagine feeling the need 4 whatever reason 2 remain so private about everything, not just her sexuality, 4 so long & being famous at the same time? How much has Jodie shared about anything in her private life? She speaks of her life through the movies she chooses, if people would take the time to really watch & listen. This is a woman who grew up in the same time period as I did. I’m 48. The idea of being out has evolved so much over the last 20 years. I work in mental health & I see kids that are just out there from as young as JrHigh. NO ONE dreamt of doing that when I was growing up. We were pointed at & whispered about behind our backs in the 70’s/80’s & I’m sure Jodie felt it as well. Famous or not, the general attitude of the public that gay people are not normal or natural seeps into your inner core & it burdens you. I truly believe that this was Jodie’s coming out & although it was a bit disjointed at first, I believe nerves had a lot to do w that. She sat there 1/2 the night thinking about what she was set to do for the 1st time ever, in public. Everyone fears rejection no matter who you are. I felt for her that night & I am still so very proud of her. But most of all, I’m happy for her. Not for us, but for HER! This is a big moment for her. Her new beginning, new chapter of not being so lonely. I am a bigger fan today than I was before!!

  53. I was referring to the original writer of the letter when saying they were selfish, not Steven. Just to clarify.

  54. jenk264- thank you for the clarification; writers are neurotic and i thought i was passed my 'selfish phase!' anyway, i totally agree with you. sp

  55. Dear Steven,
    I was moved by the generosity of your spirit in analyzing Jody Foster's speech. However imperfect her public coming out (in this speech and previously), you could certainly feel the many conflicting emotions underlying what she said and how she said it. All of us of a certain age have been there, even if it was a very long time ago. We owe Jody Foster and people like her a compassionate and warm welcome. Thanks for reminding us of that.
    Best, Eric

  56. eric- thank you for your generous words and for those unfamiliar with eric's important books, i highly recommend "is it a choice," a fantastic primer for those coming out.

  57. At first it was a bit confusing, then it was a bit rambling, but eventually I thought - well, she's being as simply human and genuine as she can be, not giving a prepared speech but just talking about who she is. Especially in Hollywood, and in this day of marketing lives for cash and calling it "reality", it's pretty refreshing to hear someone - especially someone with so much talent - just share so much of themselves with "us."

  58. cheryl- sometimes it's hard for us to see 'authentic' -- especially if it happens in hollywood (as you say). maybe that makes us uncomfortable?

  59. I actually thought her 'coming out' was dumb on so many levels. First off, way too late. We already knew for a long time Jodie. Secondly, you'd think a person with all the power and accolades as she has...that they wouldn't care what people think. Why'd it take so bloody long? If I were her partner I'd be very disappointed in why she kept me such a secret for so long.

  60. Jodie Fosters speech was neither "a mess"' nor "clumsy ". In fact, I was moved by her spontaneous use of beautifully phrased language and the skill with which she used it. And, in the midst of this flow of expression, she displayed a remarkable sense of acceptance of and pride in who she was. It was one of the most eloquently performed out comings I have witnessed. The bar has been raised.

  61. I find it sad that we still live in a world in which it matters whether a person declares her sexuality or not. I truly wish it didn't matter any more than admitting, for example, that one is a natural brunette, or craves chocolate. I hope I live to see that day.

  62. I'm not at all interested in the private life of this great actress. Good luck, Jodie. I hope you keep making wonderful movies.

  63. Is there a templet one must follow when 'coming out'? I think Ms Foster has no obligation to follow any guide lines. She should do whatever she feels is right.
    I'm a hetro so I don't know if 'pc'wise I should be commenting.
    Right on Jodie!

  64. If Jodie prefers privacy, she should keep her sexual behavior in the bedroom and not annoy others with her lusts.

  65. Fair enough. But please do not express your opinions here about things that annoy you. Save them for the bedroom, where there are no secrets.

  66. I didnt know she was gay... I dont follow the lives of celebrities that much. what i knew of her came from watching her in movies and watching movies she directed. ive always though she was immensely talented. Who cares about what she does in bed?

  67. Where to even start with this. No one's using the word gay to try to convince you we're so happy. I've never even heard of that. At one point in time, "gay" meant promiscuous. So maybe THATS's how it came be a synonym for "happy"! Also, we're not mostly depressed. Not sure where you got that idea--Maybe old 1950s novels or soap operas or something, because I think that's about when that cliche died. Finally, thanks for pointing out that not all gay (men, I guess you meant) giggle and dress like women. Seems rather obvious, but ok. At least it's accurate. Sigh. You are a tool. How's that for a new meaning for a good old word?

  68. Am I the only one who was more annoyed that this was supposed to be an acceptance of a lifetime achievement award for her work in cinema, but she talked almost nothing about that? The fact that what she DID chose to talk about was rambling is just "icing on the cake" that the fundamental problem with her speech was that it was not only "incomplete" but irrelevant to the occasion.

    I thought it a show of disrespect to the academy that she barely even acknowledged the great honor paid to her by the organization. Who cares whether it was a straight or gay woman that did it.

  69. This is the most beautiful, moving, honest, I could go on and on acceptance speech at any awards show. Jodie Fosters' coming out speech and her goodbye to show business - 43 years she has been on a stage and she wants to move on as a person, to be herself and let people know the real person.

  70. There is or was a radio station in Northern Indiana that used the identity phrase
    "we're here, we're queer, get used to it". It appears they did a good job in twisting the language to suit their purpose, aided by Barney Frank, et al.

  71. Go girl ! love it! do your own thing and be happy ! except one thing... http://goo.gl/MuCMG

  72. I wonder if John Hinckley had known that Jodie Foster was a lesbian if things would have been any different.

  73. I´m happy for Jody Foster´s happiness...if she is happy. She did not give that impression at the awards: If she´sp proud and happy about being homosexual, then why all the nervous awkwardness? She´s been a professional actress since childhood, she´s been homosexual most of her life...so what for all the hysteria? As a pro actress she should have been able to at least mime security and pride. What she DID convey was nervousness and shame at "coming out". I though everyone knew. In films where she supposed to be the love interest she comes across like a dead piece of haddock. Never convincing as a woman woman. Humanit has always feared and detested the unnormal and has thus segregated homosexuals from society, wrongly or rightly. As an aberration they cause fear. It should be categorized not as a sin, but as a disability, like deafness or blindness, or the lack of a regular human faculty. Anything that is not the norm, is not normal. But it is human and should thus be honored. I repeat the final verdict is that had humans been homosexual, the race would have died out 3 million years ago, There weren´t any test tube babies and in vitro til the mid 20th century, remember.

  74. What a strange point of view....'had humans been homosexual the race would have died out...'
    Why not say if all humans had been men, or only women.
    Nature planned the human race to reproduce, right? Many people think homosexuals might be Nature's way of controlling the population.
    How insulting to say homosexuality is a disability.
    Sandra, whoever you are, you should be ashamed of saying that.
    It IS natural, that is why it exists.
    Scientology, too, claims homosexuality as an illness that they can "cure": maybe you should join that?

  75. Also, why is this conversation still going on? I was shocked to see it continuing after many weeks...if not months, It´s a sticky wicket as the Brits say, And, I´m in Europe for the beauty, culture and my professions of music, translation, languages and writing. This topic is divisive and should just give place to more enlightening ones.
    I wish Ms. or Mr. Foster all the happiness in the world. Her/his life is HER/¡HIS business, not ours.
    Could people just go on to other topics, please?

  76. I think most people thought this 'coming out' was many years too late, i.e. everyone knew she was gay by last Oscar Night, so there was no news value or even courage about it. I think the brave part was admitting to 50!
    I would say either keep your private life private, or come out at 21.