• A dog or dogs have established a bridge between us and started us off on a note of GOOD FAITH*.
"The more I see of men, the more I admire Dogs."
~ JEANNE-MARIE (MADAME) ROLAND
(1754 – 1793)
French revolutionary, salonnière and writer.
• Because we love dogs, we can’t be all bad.
"The best thing about a man is his Dog." ~ FRENCH PROVERB
A TOTAL OF 25 OF THE 45 U.S. PRESIDENTS HAVE HAD DOGS -
POWER POOCHES
Washington owned 10 Hounds
Jefferson, a Sheep Dog and instituted the first dog license
James Monroe, a Spaniel.
Abraham Lincoln, 2, Fido & Jip
Ulysses Grant, Faithful
Rutherford Hayes owned an English Mastiff called Duke, two German Shepherds, Hector & Nellie and a Greyhound, Grim
Grover Cleveland a Poodle
Benjamin Harrison had 5, including a Spaniel called Manchu.
Woodrow Wilson was the first to shake hands with a Dog, Stubby, a Bull Terrier.
Warren Harding owned Laddie Boy & Oh Boy.
Calvin Coolidge owned at least 12 Dogs.
Herbert Hoover at least 9
F.D.R. had 7
Truman, Feller and Mike
Eisenhower had a Weimaraner, Heidi
JFK owned 8
LBJ, 7
Nixon, 4
Gerald Ford, a Golden Retriever, Liberty, who had nine puppies
Carter gave Grits to daughter Amy
Reagan had, Rex & Lucky
H. W. Bush, Millie and her puppy Ranger
Clinton, Buddy
‘W’, Barney & Sunny
Obama, Bo and Sunny
"You want a friend in Washington? Get a dog." ~ HARRY S. TRUMAN
Trump is Dogless and friendless. Maybe he should get a Dog and learn to scoop poop.
Then, PITY THE DOG!
* EMPHASIS mine
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After 45 years in marketing communications, I was ready to retire. I don't mean "kill the grass" retire. I was just done with spending so much of my life persuading others to do things, and buy things and services they may not even have wanted or thought much of.
It is a career path sardonically referred to as "the world's second oldest profession."
Little wonder it burned me out. Which is a long-winded way of endorsing of Frank's column today. The fact is, I have enjoyed the company of dogs and cats most of my life. They brought me comfort after a stressful day on the other side of my front door.
I'm also filled with the DNA of a family with liberal values going back to the early 1800s, values today's Republicans find outdated, without merit, and unnecessary. Ours was a somewhat "Christian" family till I came along 75 years ago. But the thing of it is, the values of empathy, compassion, and unconditional love has not worn out its welcome for our family.
What makes Frank's column so applicable to our contemporary world is, he and his dog, Regan, offer up the perfect metaphor for what ails our country. The monumentally vile Newt Gingrich got the ball rolling with his accusations of treason and lack of patriotism for anyone who dissagreed with him. The Republican Party has been carry Newt's water ever since.
Did Trump find the Republicans or did they find him? They are now dovetailed in hate, racism and power above all else.
So, thank you, Frank and Regan.
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Some great advice I was once given:
Every morning before you leave home, go to the one you love, hug them and kiss them and tell them you love them.
Then when you are walking out the door, you can wipe the dog hair from you mouth.
:-)
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In my therapy office, I would see patients of all ages wanting to meet new friends or people to date. It makes sense get a dog or a cat. They’re great company to begin with, and you meet lots of good people in the vet’s waiting room and out walking. Worked for more than a few.
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This is not exactly related to Frank Bruni's lovely vision of America, but to the real object of his affection: Regan. Man's friend, the saying goes, is a dog's; but a dog's best friend [say loving dog owners] is another dog! Regan deserves a canine friend. I know, I've owned 2 --sometimes 3 -- dogs simultaneously for over 25 years....
Can we learn a lot from dogs? Absolutely: be in the moment, don't complain, trust in your Human, and don't worry about cleaning up after yourself -- a responsible owner will invariably take care of that.
As to the rest, the conversations with strangers in the park -- pleasant, frequent, but awfully superficial. Sorry, Frank.
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This country has already gone to the dogs. Pooches ain’t gonna fix it.
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Yes! Exactly!
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OK, I read your column and I've read about 50 comments, almost all of which appear to be enthusiastic responses from 'dog people.' I first noticed the phenomenon that you're pointing out, which is that people relate to each other more easily when the wheels are greased with a dog to ease the way. I first noticed this when I lived in Brussels 16 years ago. Brussels is not a very friendly place, partly because it's a single country populated by people whose language and cultures differ. Maybe not so different than Austin and New York.
I long for a world in which we don't need dogs as a way for us to communicate with each other, to be friendly, to be courteous and interested in one another. To get over our own self-consciousness. This is especially true since I don't have a dog and don't intend to get one. I suppose friends who say I'm not a 'dog person' are right. I like dogs, but I don't like living with animals. I raised three children and have cleaned up enough poop to last me several lifetimes. I will also say that I don't appreciate people's badly behaved dogs anymore just as so many people don't appreciate badly behaved children.
I guess what I am saying to all of you 'dog people' is that we who choose not not to have a dog are also worth the time, a smile, a greeting, or a nod. And, just as not everyone needs or has children, not everyone needs or has a dog.
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“Frank Bruni gets it wrong,” meows my cat, Wag, with Velma, his buddy-cat, purring in agreement. “Cats are winners,” they both say.
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Nice but meaningless. Hitler loved dogs and was a vegetarian to boot.
There are plenty of dog lovers who are fine with caging children, are too brainwashed or stupid to believe in climate change, and so hate-filled and ignorant that they demonize others based on race, sexual identity, or religion.
Dogs can't do anything to redeem those people or make them into human beings.
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Two thoughts to ponder...
When has the White House has it’s occupant not have a canine companion?
What kind of country would we have if people had more canine companions than guns?
Now, about Raven, she looks like a Border Collie ( I don’t trust DNA tests ... and for good reason). Having had three I’m a good Judge. I remember a very good veterinarian doubt that my second, a smooth coat border collie with papers, was doubtful because he didn’t have a long coat. Anyway, Regan, sounds like a wonderful companion... enjoy
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Dogs serve today the purpose served by coffee shops in the 18th century.
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It seems to me that what you are talking about in this lovely piece is community. Our dogs help us create community - whether it's with other dog lovers at the local dog park, or out in our neighborhood with people who might otherwise walk right past us, eyes averted. Our dogs give us an entry point for connection that feels less risky than just making eye contact and saying hi.
When I moved to my neighborhood 15 years ago, I brought my two senior dogs with me. I was blessed to land in a place that is known for being welcoming and friendly. But, I give full credit to the pups for the fact that I knew many of my neighbors by name within a few days, and within just a few weeks could feel ok about knocking on a neighbor's door if I needed help. Today I walk daily with my lovely, friendly dog, and she has taken on the role of helping me connect with the people we meet along the way.
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This is the most refreshing and encouraging column I've read in too long to count. Dogs are the incredible social lubricants they are because of many factors, but high on the list is their universal appeal. Yeah, I know there are those who don't like them, but I mean that they appeal to people from all walks of life, all occupations, religions, races, ages, political tribes, abilities and idiosyncracies. They are themselves, and appeal to human analogs, introverts, extraverts, sober rationalists, mad-caps, and all the permutations of the Myers-Briggs types. I suspect it is their very uninhibited ways of being forthrightly themselves that allow us, when we encounter them, to shuck off a few of our own. Maybe this is why they can serve as bridges across our carefully defended borders. No dog ever respected a security checkpoint.
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While I know many here, and probably Mr Bruni himself, will disagree with my thoughts, I hope some will find it worth considering. There is an ancient Greek play called Oedipus Rex by Sophocles. This play depicts a people, indeed a whole country, in the midst of serious problems. Plague, starvation, and therefore possible extinction. Nobody can understand why or where or what to do about it all. As it happens, the source is discovered and has everything to do with those governing the country. Without going into the details (for those who don't know), the kings and queens are morally so compromised that one king can no longer go on, so he finally uses a pin to gouge out his own eyes.
I know so many here will think that I am somehow refering to our current President. That he has said some things that are really so awful that our entire society is rotting, or as Mr. Bruni puts it, we need dogs to help us repectfully reclaim our democracy.
I am not suggesting President Trump is the source of our civic rot. No, not at all. The source of the rot was merely hinted at just two days ago. And everyone here knows full well what I'm referring to. When the whole story finally comes out, when proof is presented and cannot be refused, then maybe our country will start to heal.
As it stands now, our country is sick and the source of the disease is going to be exposed. This paper will try and hide it, for sure.
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@Len: OK, Len - help me out here. I spend a lot of time walking the dog, so I miss a lot of the news. To what (or whom) are you referring?
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Are you referring to the report about Comey???
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@Len
I have a very boring life. I am intrigued. Please give us a few clues, so that we may, at least, guess. Please tell me it does NOT involve Zombies.
Seriously.
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Very timely column for all of us stressing daily about our politics.
I have an 8 yr old Australian Shepard who is clearly my boss. But, she has a big herd and spreads her love equally. When I come home she has a dance of happiness that I have once again returned. If I have the nerve to leave without her she has a mournful look that hurts. And, she is smarter than I.
Sometime I agree with the person who says "we don't deserve dogs". Thank you Frank.
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Courage, Frank!
Regan will never allow Trump to wear you out.
Whenever your spirits flag that really beautiful optimistic creature will always be there for you - as are all our wonderful dogs!
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Frank, our "narrowest selves" are awaiting Cat 5 Hurricane Dorian to strike the Florida peninsula. Scary enough to step out of our broken lives and see what Mother Nature and Father Time have in store for us tomorrow. Looks like the Bahamas are taking a terrible toll now. Hope people will stay safe during the coming week of heavy rains, harsh winds and flooding here on America's East Coast. PS Your dog, Regan, looks like a sweetie-pie, and we all agree with you that dogs may help fix our broken lives. Cats, too.
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Great piece in what Dickens would label the worst of times. Thanks, Mr. Bruni, for making my day.
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There is something wrong with anyone who doesn't love animals. You can be a dog, cat or bird person (or anything else), but you are missing something if you don't love animals.
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Once again, thank you.
J.R. Chappell
Springfield, Mo.
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Broken by guns, broken by debt, broken by destruction of environmental science, broken by lies. Thankfully, my little cockapoo, Riley, is happy to greet me when I open the back door. trump needs a dog to help him become less of a vulgar, violent animal.
(p.s. Riley was born in Bogota, Colombia. I hope Steven Miller doesn't try to deport her.)
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Thank you Frank..and you others, as well..for using poop bags. One of my most frequent gripes when I lived in NYC was the dog walkers who didn’t use them
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After my son died in 2017 his dog lived with me. I'm not comfortable thinking about what my life might have been like without the big, black dog. I might still be under the covers. There's no denying he needed to be walked in the morning and evening. So I get up every day at dawn, get dressed and go out. At first it was up and down the road, but there's too much traffic for the Ferg. So, I took him to the beach. There's a small contingent that I can find there every morning. And, just as they accept all dogs, they accept all people too. They are easy. No pressure. You don't even have to give your name, mostly they call you so and so's Mom or Dad. There's no disagreement on the beach, and no fill in on anyone's life. It's entirely up to you what you wish to share. Judgement you can have elsewhere, there's no place for that with the dog walkers. We play and chat, learn a vast array of things, pick up after our dogs and pick up any stray trash too. Nobody's in charge - except the dogs, they are wiser than we humans anyway.
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Last year I took my the oldest of our three rescue dogs, Albie, on a 9,200 mile trip back and forth across the USA, mostly along the route John Steinbeck traveled with his poodle Charley. Like Charley, Albie opened up countless conversations with strangers. We found a country that still has a large reservoir of common decency, even in these divisive times. At the risk of self-promotion the book I wrote about that trip, "The Dog Went Over the Mountain," will be published on Tuesday by Pegasus Books in New York. Frank Bruni is spot on here.
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If you carry with you a 3 gallon bucket of water to pour over the place where your dog urinates, that's great. Otherwise,urban dogs do unbelievable damage to the environment with their concentrated urine day after day after day after day.
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Think dogs are good for mingling ,try kids. More mingling more diversity...but public mingling spaces are clearly a good idea
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What’s happened to us? Can we no longer walk a woodland trail, visit a park, stroll a quiet beach, gaze upon wildlife, drive a car, and be lost in our own thoughts, reflections and memories - - without a dog? Without its incessant pooping and peeing, without our need to have it off-leash because it needs to run, without fattening the wallets of the burgeoning pet industry, without feeding it gourmet chow when children are starving in our country, and without bragging it’s a “rescue dog”? Sure, many people need and benefit greatly from dogs, but do many more just need a life?
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Dogs for Congress!!!
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Just to add my voice to the consensus, I'd like to report that during hundreds (thousands?) of hours (over 6 years) spent with my dog in a Chevy Chase, MD, neighborhood park, I talked to countless neighbors and made more friends than during the preceding 30 years. In the park, we chatted about the heat, the cold, the gnats, and the mud, protected the puppies and old dogs, shared stories about children and travel, ignored differences of age and circumstances for the sake of a good conversation, and much more. Particularly fun was looking out for each other to warn when the park police were coming to ticket us for violating the leash laws. The park was my "third place," enriching life in countless unexpected ways beyond the familiar pleasures of having a pet.
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As a resident of very conservative “red” state, I can say unequivocally that my dog Stella has served in a very similar role that Regan does.
Her ability to generate casual small talk about something other than the contentious issues of our time is proving to be an indispensable tool while living in the belly of the beast. Three cheers to all of the dogs of the world who help us keep an even keel and some sense of optimism!
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Quite a while ago I moved to Barcelona with nothing but my 1-year-old golden retriever. We wound up spending 4 years there. She and that city and its love of dogs and their owners healed my soul that had been traumatized by multiple griefs and losses. Dogs can rebuild you from the ground up and reintroduce you to the joys of the world and its people. That dear dog lived 14 years and rested her head at last on the gentle hills of New England. Her work was over.
I have had many goldens, and have the dearest one now, but this dog and our walks and coffees at Barcelona cafés and all the people we met returned the greatest gifts to me: hope and gratitude and myself.
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Talking to strangers while walking your dog and having a good exchange of whatever it may be - medical advice,
shop assistants, the police, potential work colleagues, love interest and more..Is a win win thing.
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Note on dog's name. Regan was the middle daughter of King Lear in Shakespeare's famous play. She was on the evil side, not quite as bad as the eldest Goneril but no sweetheart. Former owner maybe had insight into her darker side.
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I am envious. Although I'm too old to look after a dog and do have a sweet indoor cat, I still tend to feel as as though i were living on an asteroid.
People don't make eye contact or tend to speak to one another. Whether at the supermarket or on the street, they are glued to their phones -- you have to be careful not to walk into them.
And in making purchases, you are more often dealing with a "robot" -- human or electronic -- than with a person.
We are constantly implored to BUY MORE THINGS but not encouraged to think, feel, or interact. I tend to believe that people buy all these useless things just for the sake of exercising "agency," since there's little they can do about quite realistically feeling depressed. Christmas is coming with the promise of yet more buying sprees. Will that help?
Finally, even in my pleasant little suburb, there is no sense of community (unless one is attached to a church or synagogue, and I am not a believer). Too many people are alienated or just "blowing in the wind."
The culture is dying. "Things fall apart; the center cannot hold." Those are Yeats's words, written exactly 100 years ago.
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@Cassandra I believe Yeats was quoting from the I Ching.
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My 83 year old husband is a man of few words who usually speaks only when there is something important to say. About 2 years ago he started taking our 3 pugs on morning walks in a nearby park. This introverted man has accumulated more friends and acquaintances in the last 2 years than in the prior 81 years of his life.
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I have two Australian shepherds and I can attest to their love of exercise and nondiscriminatory attitude towards anyone/anything with whom they encounter. I've grown up with dogs all my life and while I cannot imagine living without one we all have the ability to get outside and meander- regardless if it is in a public park or our own neighborhoods. Engaging others is good for all of us because it mainly promotes commonalities, not differences.
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There is a wonderfully lighthearted three-part British documentary, "Secret Life of Dogs," that surveys behavioral, genetic, and other research to show how dogs and humans have co-evolved and why we feel so connected to them as members of the human family. Their brilliant emotional intelligence, their ability to detect physical maladies such as cancer, their life-saving guardianship of people with disabilities such as diabetes and epilepsy, are awe inspiring. They outshine many humans.
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When I used to walk my beloved scotty in Greenwich Village in the seventies I would frequently meet another dog walker from the neighborhood. One day he confessed to me that he had three groups of friends: his wife's friends, his friends, and his dog's friends. Then after a pause he allowed that his dog's friends were his favorites.
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Thank you for a lovely breath of fresh air amid the devastating headlines. It was beautiful!
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Great column and Regan is very comely! Aussies are super dogs so I imagine part-Aussie making a great companion! Astute observation about our culture--we are in enclaves which are so limiting. Thank goodness for dogs and all animals...and trees and nature...
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Four years ago we moved from five acres outside town to a retirement village on the edge of town, one with a range of prices and even an area of rent-controlled apartments. We had a dog, and within a few weeks I knew the name of every other dog in the place. The people still tended to be identified in my mind by the names of their dogs, e.g. Albert's owners. Evenings my wife and I spent a lot of time visiting a woman who lived in an apartment, because she loved our dog. I'd rented a garden space, and I began to use it to grow beans, which I dropped off at the apartments. For the first time in over two decades we were part of a community, one that wasn't defined by income.
We now know the names of a great many people too, and for a variety of reasons; but we're still best known for being out and about with our dog, and a surprising number of people know the dog's backstory. They know we're on our third dog in four years because the dogs we've had have been hard cases, usually old and unwell when they come to us. More and more we find our neighbors are not only tolerant but touchingly willing to help us reassure the dogs that they're among friends. I don't know how well it's worked with the dogs, but it's certainly worked with me.
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Hi and this is just great. I do not have a dog, but several of my neighbors do and when I walk around, seeing the dogs gives us all something to say to each other. It is indeed sweet courtesy!
I have also just joined the library and love walking through the door..what an open and cordial atmosphere!
Thank you so much for crystallizing such small but wonderful everyday contacts. Don’t we all feel better when we have just said even a few words of greeting and perhaps getting a smile??? We are the better for it. Thank you again!
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Mr. Frank...I love your writing and sincerely hope you’re doing well and can keep going for years. Thank you!
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The amount of positive comments is so lovely. Dogs do bring the best in people. Mine does for us and as I can see for the great majority of people. It’s been a while since I’ve read the comments on the times and did not feel my head was going to explode.
To the few people who don’t like dogs - as a dog owner I can only say I will do my best to make sure you are not bothered - be well.
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Thank you Frank Bruni for this article..and opening to more
readers the truth of dog walking .. we all need to open our
lives and minds to the good in others ..sometimes when
we/I don't expect to find that.
Love the photo too.
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I love this column. I love my dog. I love the absolute simplicity on how dogs communicate with us thereby letting us lower our guards and just 'be'. Like many folks have said here, with a dog, there is no judgement they allow for us to connect with people sans the labels and distrust. Dogs can be a natural detente'.
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I don't know about fixing democracy but dogs do cause people of all kinds to interact directly in kindly, friendly ways. They spark conversations and friendships -- I know because I was a NYer with my nose to the ground until I got a dog. Then my neighbors with dogs came to see my puppy and helped me raise and train her. Central Park became our back stoop and we are all still friends today decades later. Though we live in different places,, have lived our lives, have said goodbye to our beloved pets and gotten others to care for and have care for us - our bond has remained. I thank my first dog, my yellow lab Daisy for that and now that I live in Florida where that NY interaction just barely exists - I miss my home and the relationships and benefits I got from them. So thank you Frank Bruni for stating this so well.
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Excellent article. I frequently go to the dog park and it usually brings me in contact with various people from all walks of life. I love it. It is enriching and makes for a good day.
Thank you Mr. Bruni for your article.
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I live on a dog-walk street but get few chances to interact. The dogs seem willing but the owners are all on their cell phones looking or listening to someone else.
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We lost our 16-year-old Border Collie mix two years ago. I do miss the daily interaction with dog owners at a local dog park, the comments from pedestrians and the idle chatter with neighbors and strangers that naturally comes with walking my dog down the street. Someday, when we're done with traveling and exploring the world, I look forward to settling into life at home, adopting an older Border Collie, and resurrecting conversations that as you state so well, wouldn't occur without the presence of our wonderful canines friends.
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Yes! ❤️
Parks and gardens are the emotional hearts of cities, great and small. It is one of the attractions that I seek out when I look for places to travel to. Lady Bird Lake was what influenced my choice of hotel when I visited Austin, TX. The memories of my walks and runs through this park amongst my warmest memories of my visit to the city.
Going for a run through and around a large park or waterfront lands is one of the first activities that I do when I arrive in city. Going for walks is not only the best way to explore a neighborhood, but it is also to meet the people. Having a dog with you, always seems to make it easier to meet people and start a conversation.
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Bravo, Mr. Bruni! We have four cats who believe that we live to worship them. Little do they know that 7 days a week I point my car to Whatcom Falls Park to commune with dogs and their people. I admire, pet, rub the sweet spot on various haunches, and am rewarded with histories, civil discourse and humorous, loving tails-er, tales. In ten, years, after my felines go to the great catnip dispensary, I will gleefully take my rescue dog and join my fellow human beings on the trails, proudly participating in the divine.
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I adopted a rescue dog two weeks ago and am already experiencing the social benefits of dog ownership. I'm 66 years old and single. Lonely no more!
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Well, some of us just don't like dogs. And what I really dislike are people who just assume that I'm going to be delighted when their "best friend" comes running right up to me.
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Recently I was in the parking lot of Old Faithful in Yellowstone Park with our little pomeranian. As I walked across the parking lot, I was met by many people who wanted to meet our little friend. The one little girl imitated his prancing way of walking, and a number of other women stopped to pet him and talk to him and coo over him. Even their boyfriends/husbands gave in to the cuteness of our little dog. It was if a ray of sunshine had been sent to specifically brighten our day and to bring us all together even if it were just for a brief moment.
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Sunday morning. Sipping tea and listening to Mozart (or trying to.) Door open to the beautiful morning. Accompanying Wolfgang, ...bark, bark, bark, bark, bark, etc. Thank you dog loving neighbors. (I am a dog loving/non-owner).
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Why are all the comments only from people? Just another case of a marginalized, often exploited group being talked about, but not being encouraged to speak for themselves. Well, my pound hound will have none of that! As her paws have trouble with this keyboard, she has asked me to pass on the following.:
Woof !! Woof woof. Woof woof woof !
To add my two cents, even if it is not as spot on and articulate as that of my pooch: the same sense of community occurs when you take Amtrak long distance trains. They are probably America's most patriotic institution, as people from across every conceivable spectrum meet as a community, and with no expectation of seeing each other again, people are open, honest, and will talk with rather than at each other. (Maybe that is why Washington is trying, sadly with some success, to destroy long-distance service.)
Hitchhiking, especially cross country, provides much the same dynamic.
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I own a rescued greyhound and terrier mix. If you want unconditional love, stress relieve and pleasant rewarding encounters with other people in real time rescue a dog.
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I used to love dogs. Then, I moved to Seattle and the dog owners have me to a point where I don't believe in owning pets.
I have been bit sitting at a coffee shop. My daughter found her left wrist firmly in the grasp of a pit bull after the owner told us his dog doesn't bite. Dogs in the grocery stores, restaurants, Home Depot, good grief. And do they take the dogs to the dog park two blocks away? No, they insist on letting them run free in the parks ignoring any leash law and cleaning up if they feel like it.
I was ecstatic the other day when I walked into the grocery store and a big sign stated that come January no dogs other than bona-fide service dogs are allowed. And it specifically said that emotional support dogs don't count. Now, if they can just ban all of the snotty nosed kids playing tag in the aisles, there will be peace on earth.
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My experience with dogs has been different: they are utterly self-centered creatures who sense any point of vulnerability and go for it.
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@Orthoducks What a skewed view of dogdom you are burdened with!
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Dogs are amazing. I’ve made several good friends whom I’ve met while walking my dog at the great lawn.
Dogs force you to be sociable and get out of the house, and I agree at 3am when it’s snowing and your dog wakes you up bc they need to go, you are no more special than the guy that also had to do the same in Queens. Dogs bring the best in most people.
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Dogs are smart. A friend had his service dog off duty and I have always wanted to pet him, but haven’t. Off duty, the dog came right up to me and laid on my feet.
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"Odoriferous bequest". Wow! I wish I could write like that. Thank you for making my day, and I am sure others share this. Now, if only her name was Reagan. Sorry for injecting politics!
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Democracy is doomed if people remain tribal. Using other species to fulfill our emotional needs is just a another way (read "addiction") of escaping the challenge of channeling our basic drives to deal with each other so as to reduce the inevitable "dictatorship of the majority" that is the Achilles heel of democracy.
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Bravo Frank ! And there's even more dog-benefits than you've mentioned. Dogs are natural comedians ,able to turn a mundane situation into a laughing matter with ease !
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As nyc park and dog-loving (and librarian!) mom of two pups, love and live the sentiments expressed.
Regan’s sprinkler play is safe, but keep your dogs out of ponds - see:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2019/08/25/nyregion/toxic-algae-nyc-parks.amp.html
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As an agnostic, I am not sure that there is a heaven waiting for us when we die. But as the owner of a Bichon, I am absolutely sure that there is a heaven waiting for dogs when they pass.
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When a friend's dog recently died, I said to him: "I'm sorry. Dogs are almost like people you know."
To which he shot back: "No they aren't. They are like the Best People you know."
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“In order to really enjoy a dog, one doesn’t merely try to train him to be semi human. The point of it is to open oneself to the possibility of becoming partly a dog.” – Edward Hoagland
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Giulia, my black lab, loves everybody -- everybody! She is particularly grateful to the U.S. government for putting a letter carrier on every block to play with her.
She greets strangers I wouldn't dare speak to. People tell me they can feel their tensions ease and their blood pressure drop after a few seconds in her company.
Yes, get a dog, but only if you understand it's your privilege, not hers.
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Well, people used to send their kids to the neighborhood public school and be involved in that. But I guess now we'll have to make do with dogs.
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Not everyone has children. And frankly, the people who are having children are often the ones who should not be. For many reasons.
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@RJR
Sure, and the same goes for people who have dogs. My point is that even for those who, let's say "should" have children, they should send them to public schools. This is a better way to engage with your community than walking your dog.
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Having children can do this, too.
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My dog dislikes this circus as much as I do. Going outside is irrelevant. Turning off news works well.
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Dog owners are some of the most entitled and self absorbed people I know. Just look at the phenomenon of “fake” support dogs — buy a vest on the internet and pretend your dog is trained to provide ADA assistance so that you are not inconvenienced by having to abide by the usual no-dogs-allowed rules. And the failure to pick up after their dogs is famous. As is their cluelessness and even annoyance when they meet someone who doesn’t actually enjoy being licked and sniffed and jumped on.
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Another fine piece by Mr. Bruni. But I can't promise not to wear my "My Dog Is Smarter Than The President" t-shirt, a gift from my son, when I'm out with our incredible and over-energized Jack Russell.
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It is said that the French will treat you as their own if you walk down the sidewalk with a dog. No longer an expat, wrecker of their mother tongue, you are of profound interest and the recipient of cosmic bonnehomie. However, it is said, walk down the sidewalk with a baby in a stroller, and you walk alone.
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I've never been to NYC but I've never heard anyone say skip Broadway, go for the dogs! That said, Mr. Bruni, this is the most pleasant article I've read in the times maybe ever. You not only chose a topic that might get you fired (not kidding) for being too placid, too welcoming and friendly, the article itself reads like a walk with a dog. Probably the last thing a serious writer wants to be known for, but a reminder that we had a spring this year, sunshine all over the world, seasons with tulips and snow, and not once did dogs go on strike, they didn't abandon their long standing tradition of wagging the tail no matter the spelling on Twitter. Great job!
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Love, love, love dogs. Now if we can train their people not to leave their business on the sidewalk!
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"Dogs make us human." -- Dad
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Thank you! Yes! Absolutely! My tail is wagging (metaphorically).
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People and their dogs--sheesh! I got better things to do with my time than walk a dog 3 or 4 times a day.
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That is one seriously cool dog. I hope you have many happy years with her.
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I'd like to see Blondie encounter a dog (except for the poor dog's sake). That would be cringe-worthy and probably infuriating, like the rest of his affect, but revealing for anyone who has the eyes to see. Maybe those MAGA types would loose the rose-colored glasses and see Himself for what he is. The dog surely would.
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Mr. Bruni,
Great Story!
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Dog bless you, Mr. Bruno!
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Darn spell check, Mr. Bruni!
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Oh Frank! Why did you have to make me cry this morning!! I’m owned by 2 dogs of the Mutt kingdom and 4 delightful cats that rule us all and not a day goes by that we all don’t experience a great moment of unconditional love and respect of one another. My connections when I’ve gone to the dog park resemble your experiences as well as all who have commented. We certainly do need to learn from these glorious creatures about love and respect. Thank you for such a wonderful column.
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We rescued a Pit Bull, named Duchess three years ago.
My husband pleaded to rescue a dog after our Cairen Terrier
passed away. I pushed back not wanting to go through the heartache of losing another dog, and the frankly the responsibility.
I said to the universe when you send me the dog to rescue, I'm in!
Sure enough the husband says he is going to the local Humane Society to start looking, 48 hours later Duchess is in our lives.
She is perfect, all kinds of people will stop or even get out their cars to discuss Pit Bull love and how misunderstood they are as a breed. I talk all day in my profession as a hairdresser, so to have a
a walking buddy who is strong, resilient, and silent is heavenly.
I have observed that after 20 minutes of dog walking, your mind
clears and you can observe all the beauty and complexities nature has to offer. Hooray for dogs, which spelled backwards is God.
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I'm 74 years old and dogs and horses keep me believing in a loving God.
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GReat photo of Regan: Alert, self-possessed, calm. The column was pretty good, too.
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Regan is a fine looking dog!
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Nice column Mr. Bruni – exceptionally encouraging and inspiring. Trump would discard your comments as “ridiculous” - he hates dogs - another primeval bond that Mr. Trump lacks.
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Sadly, another young woman just lost her life to dogs. More than 30 Americans, many of them children, have been killed by dogs so far this year. I pray for the day that this dog worship madness ends.
https://www.knoxnews.com/story/news/local/2019/08/31/adrieanna-oshea-19-dies-after-being-attacked-pack-dogs-south-knox-county/2178426001/
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Hmm. How about some perspective. 30 people killed by dogs this year and 53 people killed by mass shooters this month. I’m more worried about access to guns than access to dogs.
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@Sprogita
What do guns have to do with it? Nice deflection. You would just rather think about a different problem entirely than address the problem of dogs and their owners.
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The main thing degrading the conversation is twitter facebook and anonymous sniping online. full stop. things you would never speak out loud is easy to post online
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I can't speak for women but Im certain its the same: there is nothing more genuine than the love a man has for his dog(s)
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Allow me to be one of the very few here who dissents. While I completely agree with the notion that we need things to bring us together, dogs are not the metaphor for how to do that in my eyes. When I see dogs I see human arrogance and entitlement.
Behind every comment here that shares some saccharine story about their rescue dog there is a story of betrayal, abandonment, and sometimes violence about how that dog actually became a “rescue”. It isn’t sweet. Dogs wouldn’t need to be rescued if we hadn’t taken a powerful and wild beast and deformed it to fit into our lives simply because we can. It is arrogant to think dogs are better off because of us.
People look aghast and fume with rage when a PERSON, usually with severe problems, urinates or defecates in the street yet we gush and fawn over animals who are doing the same thing multiple times a day. It doesn’t make any sense. People look at me with utter confusion when I ask them to keep their dogs, which are also unleashed, out of the children’s playground which has a big sign on the gate that says no dogs. “But I’m cleaning up after them!” Meanwhile I don’t see people who don’t own dogs using the dog parks and making a mess out of them. That is entitlement.
Many dog owners are considerate but enough of them aren’t to the point that it makes their presence in cities a detractor. Maybe we should be smiling and talking to each other’s children instead of an animal we should have left in the wild.
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Recently, I overheard my seven dogs plotting. Apparently, dogs and cats have decided to form a political party, the “Wag the Tail” Party, also known as the “WITS” (COPYRIGHT 2019)Party. Their slogan is “we’ve been witless in Washington long enough, vote WITS!”
Their policies are….. repeal lease laws, neutering only by consent, and a whole chicken in every bowl.
They are planning a Four-Million Paws March on Washington.
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Bruni ,a dog lover, who would have known.Stay away from my Biden.How many people of color do you encounter in CPW?Or for that matter in your favorite parts of Brooklyn? Oh, none of course, because very few of them can afford your favorite haunts. My dog might like yours,but let me repeat:stay away from my Biden, and we might elect a new President in 2020.
O, that Frank Bruni, you know,
He writes from the heart and so
We wiggle-room in with him
To share his dog-lovers ken.
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Great article, Mr. Bruno! Dog bless America! We've also had many fun conversations with total strangers everywhere we went with our (rescued) angels (1 Yorkie, 2 "whatever"). We've learned a lot of new variations of "cutie poochie" in several languages when we travel with them. In sure such outcomes wouldn't have happened without the doggie connections.
People, go forth and rescue! But don't hoard...
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I don't want to be a spoil sport but there may be few places in the 50 states that is more homogeneous politically, socially, even economically, than Manhattan. Still, it is true that dogs provide a way for strangers to make chit chat, albeit mostly about dogs. Sans puppy, anyone approaching strangers in Central Park and starting a conversation out of the blue would be regarded with suspicion, in some cases fear.
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Refreshing commentary and oh so true!! Just returned from a visit to Scotland and loved reacting to the locals adorable pets and striking up a brief conversation. Such lovely, friendly people and pets. They even have their well trained dogs accompany them on a golf round. Perhaps that should be a new requirement for Congress to bring their dog/pet to work facilitating some discussion at the very minimum.
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I was heartened by Frank Bruni's essay about the civilizing effects of dog ownership. I have been having these thoughts a lot lately, but haven't quite found the words to express them as well as Mr. Bruni has.
We are relatively new dog owners, and our family wasn't entirely prepared for this change in our social life. In fact, no one had really warned us about it. But here we are. Now we know our neighbours. We've befriended people (as well as dogs) that we would otherwise never have had the opportunity to talk to.
Last weekend, we went mall-shopping with Oscar. I found myself repeating, over and over, "This is crazy" (in a good way), as shoppers, sales people and cashiers dropped their frozen mall faces, broke into broad smiles and started up spontaneous conversations. It was crazy.
Regarding the suggestion that maybe dogs can help civilize an increasingly uncivilized world, I think Mr. Bruni might be onto something. But it could take a while. In the meantime, small pockets of canine-induced sociability are springing up everywhere, making life's larger incivilities a little more tolerable.
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My friends I bid you beware,
Never give your heart to a dog to tear.
----Rudyard Kipling
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I hope you are not one of those dog walkers who does not pick up dog excrement and who allows your dog to urinate on other people's property. I hope you are not one of those dog owners whose dog barks loudly early in the morning. I hope you are not one of those dog owners who abuses fellow passengers on planes and diners in restaurants by falsely calling your pet a service animal. I hope you are not one of those dog owners who uses a long leash on sidewalks to entangle and trip other pedestrians and whose dog likes to lick and nuzzle strangers who don't want to be licked and nuzzled.
Frankly, I wonder about people who seem more attached to their pets than to other people.
And before other readers offer their opinions that I am a miserable pet hater, let me say that I like well-behaved pets except cats, because I am allergic to them, and except that I don't want visitors to bring their dogs uninvited into my home. But, I don't like the often inconsiderate humans with the pets.
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Tell that to Stalin, Kim Jong il & Hitlers canine companions.
At f irst I thought, "oh no, a dog story" but it is SO much more than that - just beautiful. THANKS.
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I like dogs just fine. I should say I like other people's dogs just fine. Better you than me. If I'm retired and alone one day, I'll go adopt a dog. Until then, I'm content to avoid trading in doggy bag karma. I'll sit for you as a favor. After about three days though, going outside in the morning to pick up dog poop gets old. I encounter enough strange people at work. I don't really need the social assist.
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Without my dog, I am just another New Yorker scrambling from one place to another. No eye contact or conversation, twisting and weaving through the crowds.
With my dog, the universe shifts.
Time slows down. People stop to chat and pet the dog. Doormen yield their hidden dog treats. Stores allow us to take shelter from extreme weather. You notice the daily changes on the street and Madison Square Park. You notice the homeless guy and try to keep a spare dollar or two in your pocket. The dog also has a magnetic attraction to women; her name choice of Lucky seems prescient.
You see the world as the dog does (except for that fabulous sense of smell) and you exist in the present. The worries of the moment fall away and you just breathe and have a little adventure. No politics, no agenda. Just a man and his dog open to whatever might happen (including pee and poop, of course).
There are 2 thoughts about dogs that, albeit cliches, are fundamentally true: First, “be the person your dog thinks you are”; Second, “dogs live much shorter lives as they have already learned all one needs to know”.
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Very nice piece about the charms of dogs.
I get that they're wonderful to pet and love.
I get that they help people connect with each other, but we can't always have dogs at our side to help with that (e.g., in the office, or the grocery store, in the subway, bus or train). The ability to connect with other people is an important skill to be learned independent of whether or not a dog is there.
I get the pressure to get a dog from the huge and multi-scaled dog industry and even people in my family, but I resist... why?
To be anything but the cruelest dog owner, dogs are a lot of work. One has to be persistent in training the dog to just stop behaving like the dog (s)he is, and conform to human society instead: don't poop inside the home, don't bark, don't bite, don't hump the human neighbor on the leg, don't whine or beg for food, don't startle people with licking them in the face or giving them an enthusiastic butt sniff.
Dogs are bought and sold, transported or removed, strategically bred with other dogs or sterilized, put down when they get old and sick, and kept on leash in public. They just want to be the dogs that they are, but mostly, they can't; they are slaves to their humans.
The most ridiculous and disturbing thing I see is when people pretend and talk publicly about their dogs as if their dogs were human children or family.
Nope, no dog for me. I like people better.
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I love all God's creatures, especially dogs, but let's not pretend that we need to have them around ALL the time. Do dogs really need to eat in a restaurant? Do dogs beg to wander around a grocery store? Do dogs clamor to go to a movie theater? Many people have a fear of dogs. Some, like myself, have horrible allergies to cat and dog dander. And, I am not too fond of having to pick up dog poop from my yard or sidewalk that some lazy dog owner left behind. Dogs have their place in a civilized world. So do people who just don't want to be around them all the time.
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I certainly don't feel this when my neighbor(s) allow their dog to poop in my yard and garden, and sneak off without cleaning it up. This is MOST dog walkers.
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A dog park, a people park, a library, green spaces of all kinds are part of the heritage of our Commons. Those spaces and places We the People all own together. Places and spaces we all use together. We gather, we chat, we laugh and cry, we fall in love in these places.
So why have we stopped building them?
Why have we stopped building infrastructure all together?
The republican party believes that a small government for the people, alongside a big government for their donors and the military industrial complex (mostly the same people) is the key to a prosperous Nation. But like so much that comes from that side it is a lie.
Building the infrastructure we need to prosper will lift all of US up, including those donors, but that might show the People that government, indeed, does have some useful purposes that will benefit all of US. That is the little secret they want to keep from the majority.
In the meantime, get a dog.
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Unfortunately, there is no easier and surer way to draw the ire of the crowd than to express disdain for the canines among us. Dog owners are so sure eveyone loves their pooch and it just ain't so.
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I am sure Mr. Bruni, and readers know it, but John Steinbeck's 1962 "Travels with Charley in Search of America" found much to be true about dogs, people and the necessity for interaction and communication in a successful, civilized society. The America of 1962 may be long gone (for better or worse), but we might find the better America of 2019 while walking our dogs (We have two).
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As someone who shares their life with a loving and preternaturally smart feline companion, I am acutely aware of the "disarming" superpowers possessed by those with four legs and tail. I am convinced that not even adorable babies in strollers possess the ability to elicit as much of the stranger fawning, cooing and awing as one of our furry and diaper-less companions. Who doesn't like meeting and talking to nice and caring strangers once they are willing to pull their face away from their inseparable and loyal smartphone companion to actually talk, emote and interact face to face, in a throwback to simpler times.
I wish it were as easy to walk a cat as a dog. Minus canine support, my flashing a quick smile to a passing stranger is most often ignored or met with a look of terror and quickened steps. So, a tail-wagging enthusiastic, yes, Mr. Bruni, everyone should be given or loaned a dog to walk on a regular basis to make America nice again.
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I don't know if this is a true story, but there was a vet who went to the home of one his patients and his family to euthanize a dog with terminal cancer. The vet was struck by the family's young son, who seemed to take the departure of the dog serenely.
When the conversation turned to why dogs don't live as long as people, the young boy already knew the answer. He explained, "People come into the world to learn how to live a good life, to love all people all of the time and be a good person, right?" He continued, "Well, dogs are born already knowing all this, so the don't need to stay as long as we do."
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Thank you Frank Bruni for this! Some of my dearest friends are "dog people". It is how I have met my neighbors in Chelsea. It almost forces you to talk as you stand around watching your dogs play, wrestle. You share tips about raising dogs and that leads, well everywhere. I know that if someone is kind to their pet, that at heart they are good humans. Henry, my cairn terrier is my passport to great conversations, connections and friendships.
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My wife died at Christmas, and several months later, a sage friend gifted me with a puppy. She's spirited and sassy, curious and ever smiling...exactly how I haven't felt. Her innocence is an antidote to all the political toxicity around us, and she gets me up and moving and takes me out of myself and into a broader world of strangers and neighbors. She also offers me unconditional love at the time I need it most.
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your wife. May you and your dog find comfort in each other.
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I've come across you a few times in the city and you always seemed so guarded and aloof. I hope things are better now with Regan.
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Ouch
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Dog people have lower blood pressure, lower heart rates and live longer (or at least that’s what certain studies say). Maybe dogs also give people a reason to connect. Not a bad thing.
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A few years back, my husband and I adopted a high energy pit bull mix. (Totally saw the increase in interactions with my neighbors!). This dog needed a job and eventually we stumbled upon dog-powered sports (canicross, bikejor, scootering, skijoring, sledding).
That discovery was life changing. In addition to moving to NH and getting six purpose-bred pointer mixes, we also became part of the most politically and economically diverse community I have known. We all, of course, love dogs and the outdoors and for the most part we can argue our politics without vindictiveness. It's a small sport, so someone who may be 180-degrees my political opposite may be the person helping me on the trail next weekend or taking care of my dogs if something should happen to me.
Sometimes I see members of the community make mean-spirited posts on social media and I have a hard time reconciling that with the person who I have only experienced kindness from in person. Sometimes it's hard to know when, and how, to engage with people you don't agree with, but perhaps it's better to have that struggle than dehumanizing and dismissing them.
I wish my town were so tolerant. My husband is leery of putting up any non-Trump political signage on the lawn or on cars. And other residents of my town are joking about bringing pepper spray to a Sanders campaign event today (so his supporters can feel the burn).
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Our dog Calee, who only has eyes for my husband is very shy. I love walking in west Moreland Park with her and chatting with children. Otherwise I might appear kinda creepy. Kids love that she’s shy, a little anxious. It’s a wonderful part of our day Frank. Thanks for the acknowledgment. Also, my adult children have experienced tremendous grief when their stay at home pets have died. “She was always there at the end of the day...”. (Mostly cats though).
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I lived near the Ballard Locks and botanical garden, a place that’s crowded with visitors in the summer. My little dog loved walking there because of all the attention he’d get. It seemed as though every few steps we’d take, someone would stop and greet my dog. It was a great way to strike up conversations with people from all over the world. I think the world would be a better place if we used dog diplomacy.
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As everyone has noted: so true. When I lived in the DC area my dogs introduced me to long-lasting friendships with — dare I say it? — Republicans. But these interactions are only the beginning of the good that dogs can do for us. Unending affection is no small part of the bargain we make when we allow the four-footed to adopt us.
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I lost my 14 year old Scottie to cancer almost two weeks ago. Cohbe was a rescue dog and was eight years old when I got him so I only had him for six years almost exactly. I never found out where his name came from.
Dogs have been a part of my life since I was a child and Cohbe's death is doubly hard because he was the last dog I will ever have. Although I am only 81, I have developed physical limitations that preclude walking very far and especially walking on ice and snow.
Interacting with fellow dog walkers provides a respite from the things that divide us and when we get home again our dog will listen while we mutter about the latest tweets at least until he gets bored and retreats to his bed for a nap. Perhaps there's a lesson for us there.
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So true Mr. Bruni. Whenever I walk our 8 year old Vizsla, Sofia, people stop, cars sometimes stop to ask what breed she is and how beautiful. And sadly it’s true, I know the names of the dogs in my neighborhood alas not the names of the people. What a lovely column, thank you.
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Well, Frank here is one thing which might unite us, thanks to cats, but I’m sure it has affected the dogs, of Republicans and Democrats, alike.
I’ve never been a water drinker, in fact, I vomited when asked to drink the required amount of water for a sonogram while pregnant, years ago. But recently, with my state’s initiative to drink more water, (I’m now close to sixty years) I attempted such. I ended up with, never before experienced, repeated UTI symptoms. When a friend was admitted to the hospital with a 10mm kidney stone, and another friend was being treated for bladder cancer, both avid water drinkers, I went looking.
It seems life expectancy is closely tied to areas of hard water. My local water community no longer softens the water. I asked for data from my local representative, but never received any. When I realized access to human data was limited, I knew animals might be affected, also. Look to the cat study, where an uptick of urinary problems amongst the cat population occurred and scientists could only find hard water as the reason. Those who set our water standards are not only causing disease in humans, they are causing disease in our pet populations, Republican and Democrat, alike. You might not like your local partisan, but surely you can have a heart for his dog or cat? Oh and then there’s the local community downstream which rendered their water source contaminated, and is drilling new deep wells — it just happens to be my water source.
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@rebecca1048
And, I don’t know what their latest additive to the water is, but clothes I have had and washed for years, now, come out of wash in tatters. And I use Dreft.
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What a wonderful column, from a "daddy" of our long gone silver grey mini poodle Tiki, and our recently gone bolognese Zoe. Unfortunately, biped "parents" forget about the civility their quadriped "children" foster when they vote.
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I would expand that social comity to grandchildren and urban parks for kids, such as Fairyland in Oakland where you see an enormous variety of people and hear many different languages and all the kids playing together obeying internal rules of courtesy and generosity. The parents and grandparents talk freely with strangers because its assumed that anyone there is family friendly and a decent sort. I've found that to be the case. Going there with my granddaughter always renews my sense of common humanity in the midst of great diversity. Not that kids are dogs but this column made me think of social spaces where we are simply people.
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I do not know what happened to my previous comment, but the deluge of love expressed here in these comments for our animals and the way they bring us together is a testament to love and its possibilities. Perhaps that is why they are here on this earth, to moderate our hatreds and fears. In this they seem to be a bridge to a better, more caring world.
Is this an over statement? My heart over flows when I hear the stories of others for their companions and brings me to remembering the long string of these companion and their unconditional love. It is a gif t, a gift.
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Great article. I'd love to stop and talk to Regan. For 42 of our 46+ years together, my wife and I had purebred dogs, from Keeshund and husky to Rotweiller. We now have two mixed breed rescues. OMG, the best dogs ever, and much better at striking up conversations with strangers, often as in, "What is it?" All dogs are special, but there is a unique piece of the heart that goes with adopting a rescue.
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I would love to agree with the chief premise of this, that taking a dog on a walk is a great way to engage with strangers, but our mostly border collie has leash anxiety so it's better to cross the street than confront another dog. She does love dog parks but we're the type who keep moving because she'll try to break up other dogs frolicking together. So, every dog does not engender the same level of human engagement.
The proximity to nature and to parks is key, though. Wish city and regional leaders would keep that in focus when approving construction. We're seeing the green spaces disappear in our neighborhood as multi unit apartments with no outdoor space take up what's left.
Also, if people walking got off their phones and took out the earbuds and said Hi occasionally...
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I've always had a dog, and loved every one of them. But there is nothing, and I mean nothing, as loving and sweet as an Australian Shepherd. Hi to Regan from my dear Catelyn:)
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Broken Democracy? You mean the "fake" democracy, right? Ain't nothing democratic about authoritarian leaders and the people who follow them. Why do we not impeach this president because he does not embody the principles of democracy? Americans are anti-democratic.
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Perhaps you count yourself among those “anti-democratic” Americans?
Thanks for this column, Mr. Bruni. Your take on enclaving with like minded people perhaps explains the brouahah these days when a college invites to speak someone who doesn't share their collective view.
In my time, it was expected that all points of view would be given ear. Debate might be razor sharp, but we were courteous. I miss the comity – and the learning experience
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Thank you for this, Mr. Bruni. This may just be the best column you've ever written and you may have Regan to thank for it! I loved every word of it, even if it reminded me of how much I still miss our bassett hound who died 8 years ago. I miss having a dog!
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This is a major reason why I love Elizabeth Warren!
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UNSTOPPABLE:
Populist AlSisi of Egypt, who was mutated to a religious authoritarian, about four years ago on commencing his reign, addressed his threat to Egyptians: "who can defeat GOD, can defeat "us"". Populist Trump campaigning said: "I'm unstoppable". Last month he transformed the "I" to "we" saying: "we are unstoppable". Last week, populist Farage picked up the thread and said: "a coalition of Brexit Party and Tories would be unstoppable". Of course after GE by which Tories would be downed and cannot stand the challenge alone because of no-deal Brexit, his prediction. He meant him and populist Johnson, revealing the plot that the latter is "unstoppable" in delivering Brexit "do or die".
So the "us" and "we" were meant by populists everywhere. Can any one defeat GOD, so he can defeat populists and stop them from attacking, breaking and ruining democracy of the free world?
We need understanding the underlying reasons of abuse before fixing.
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Dogs have it figured out. We are way behind. Who is domesticated?
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At this point a box of mentally challenged hamsters could probably run this nation better, but I’d be willing to let dogs give it shot...
At least it would be mostly cute and entertaining.
Yes, I read the article and got the point, but I’m sticking with the implication in the article’s title because the thought of a washed up Spuds Mackenzie running for office is no less ridiculous than anything we’ve seen recently involving washed up 80s celebrities getting into politics.
As far as I’m aware the framers of the constitution never actually said dogs, cats or even suitably attired penguins can’t hold office... we’ve gone the human route already and let’s be honest, it ain’t looking promising... let’s give dogs a shot, and if that don’t work out, move on to other animals.
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Mr. Bruni, you lived in Rome. Have you forgotten? Its not your dog (although Regan is lovely), its communal space. Its piazzas. Where everybody goes. The piazza is the soul of an Italian neighborhood. And you can bring your dog.
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Dogs are great conversations starters. So are sidewalks and front porches. And buses and trains. And the coffee shop up the block, next to the dry cleaner and across from the park.
We have spent the last 75 years constructing a physical environment that is alienating in the extreme. Don’t put the solution to all of our problems on my dog’s slobbery head.
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Just out of the Army, struggling both to re-adjust to civilian life and start grad school, I was rescued by a German short-haired pointer named Satchel. I didn't plan for it to happen, but when he hit me with those deep brown eyes and reached out a paw . . . . Switching from side to side in the car back seat heading to his new home, he tested the breeze from the open windows and whined softly in excitement at his sudden freedom. Then, with no prompting at all, he sat down behind me, leaned forward to rest his chin on my shoulder, and stayed there until I pulled into the drive. That was the start of a fifteen year partnership so wonderfully rich that I still weep at the memory.
Older than my classmates by five years or so, the only vet in my cohort, alone in an unfamiliar setting, I put up all sorts of barriers. Satchel forced me out from behind them. Our daily romps in the park got me back in the outdoors to watch the changing seasons, stretch my legs and re-charge my spirits. His wagging tail always encouraged people to stop to meet him; chatting with them drew me out of my shell. And then, towards the end of his life, Satchel befriended an attractive young woman with green eyes and a sparkling laugh. He canine intuition sensed something, for she and I have been together now for over thirty years.
I wish you and Regan a long and happy partnership, Frank.
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@John
Great story! My Katie was the glue that helped me, great
dog for her 16 years! Best wishes to you and yours!
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The first paragraph of your post is so beautifully written that I wept too. We know this is the last summer for our 14 year old beloved Yellow Lab Chelsea and it is hard to imagine life without her. Dogs help us learn how to love unconditionally ... and about loss, letting go and remembering what matters.
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Dogs add more joy to life than anything. Regan is beautiful-it's great that you found one another.
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beautiful....and 3 cheers for public libraries!!!
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Zoe's vet has a sign; "life without a dog is possible but pointless"
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I never read an opinion piece that generated so many comments that have touched my heart. All of them, actually. Something about dog and cat lovers.
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My wife and I recently moved from California back to a new neighborhood in Brooklyn. Our dog Von has made it incredibly easy for us to ease into the community at parks, playgrounds and on any street corner. In fact, our dog has earned the name @themayorofbrooklyn ... not only does he delight us on a daily basis, but he also he delights everyone he comes in touch with. What a joy to have him in our lives!
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Mr. Trump is one of our few dog-less presidents. By all accounts he just doesn't understand their appeal--much less Harry Truman's advice ("if you want a friend in Washington...").
Arguably, FDR's Fala speech was his third most memorable, after "fear itself..." and "a day which shall live". Imagine Alec Baldwin's Trump listening to a recording of it, totally bewildered ("opponents lying, ok, opponents lying about a dog???").
Even better, imagine having a president who has a dog, and a sense of humor about both himself and the dog.
PS...The dogs of the Green Bay area (at least the two in our house) are inviting Regan to the dog swim next year. The city of Depere has a beautiful swimming lake next to the Fox River, and every year after the human season ends, it goes to the dogs for a whole day.
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The sign at the entrance to Boise’s Saturday morning market reads:
Dogs Welcome.
People Tolerated.
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@Nat Ehrlich
If this is a market which sells produce and other edibles, dogs (except service dogs) should not 'be welcome', any more than they should be 'welcome' in a supermarket or restaurant. Sheesh, people, show some common sense.
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Charms, such as the one Bruni achieved here with Regan can be too quickly cut short. It didn't take more than reading a couple of comments before Trump was brought up and then again. Bruni afforded us some weekend relief and the pleasure of seeing Regan herself. Perhaps many of us both hate Trump and are addicted to the hate. Take another look at Regan, she's a beauty.
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Like my home state senator, Sherrod Brown, I long ago learned that what the world really wants most from me is more dog pictures. In my case, a drop-dead adorable, aging basset hound. And my walks in my own "microclimate of privilege" regularly confirm that nothing is a more surefire conversation starter than a dog companion. Which I believe is proof that most people want more connection with neighbors and strangers than they have, but don't quite know how to initiate it. Especially in a time when headphones and IPhones wall us off.
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Timely piece, but I’m having the opposite conclusion right now. My beautiful serene and safe neighborhood is being overrun by dogs. The overall quality of life is massively degraded because there are too many dogs here now. And this is a rural area, dogs are never leashed and freely roam, no matter the temperament. For the first time in my 30 years here there’s been a massive influx of flies. Used to be able to have our doors wide open, not we’re shut in our homes. Used to ride my bike everywhere, but now I get chased, harassed and even bitten. Even our little neighborly walks are difficult - you’re either being barked at or chased. It’s no longer safe for the littles to freely roam. These owners are the height of selfish and anti social, I think because they already have someone that loves them, the dog, and they don’t need people. Not only is the insane increase in pets here ruining our way of life, don’t get me started on the cats and their evil spray, they are also degrading our fragile Hawaiian ecosystem eating native birds and such...
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I lived in Paradise Park, and found the same thing. On our daily walk my dog and I passed three houses every day where there were dogs who would have tried, without exaggeration, to kill me if they’d ever gotten loose. It seemed I was reading about a dog attack every month.
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Dogs require training and proper socialization to live happily with other people and other dogs.
Familiarizing yourself with dog behavior prior to obtaining a dog would go a long way toward ensuring a calm, happy dog that fits in well with your family and society.
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Trump has never had a pet. That says it all. Thanks for this today , Frank
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This is one of your best columns. Dogs make us better and your column is a terrific tribute to the many benefits of having one, or more. Our rescue dog was one day from being euthanized when a humane foundation worker intervened. Our guy gives us much more than we can ever give him. He never asks for anything except our love. To be worthy of a dog is no small feat.
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2 part Aussies, 1 purebred. All now romping together in doggie heaven. The first probably could have learned to count. Smarter than most humans. The second, a quick learner, but docile due to the rough life we rescued her from, also bossed by #1. Came into her own after death of the elder and was a joyful big sister to a new human baby, untill her death. Next came the dog sibling for the "baby" boy," by then age 7. Smart enough to learn to play soccer with her bro, and later to participate in cross country warm ups while wearing a team t shirt. She was our "bring along" girl. Lived a year after her human boy graduated from the college she only got to visit. Besides smart, all 3 were good nurses, rather like Nanny in Peter Pan! Enjoy your Regan, Frank, luckily missing the A in her name. She will be your helper as you go through your eye troubles. It's the Aussie in her!
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Lose the dog. Get a kite, roller-skates, a picnic basket. While you're at it, get a good personality. Works wonders.
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New York isn't as diverse as New Yorkers think. Yesterday when I was out hiking with my dog on remote trails in Northern Arizona, I encountered hunters in camouflage from head to toe with cross bows and rifles (no semiautomatics) hunting for deer bucks. Most of whom were growing frustrated and seemed cheered by my dog.
In a dog park in Phoenix, I met a group of whites who were making good-natured fun of Hispanics and a group of Hispanics who were responding in kind. I have also met many who use DC as a curse word and have no reason to believe that is controversial.
This is to say that Trump supporters like dogs too, but New Yorkers would not know that.
Beautiful dog, wonderful column. Thank you, Frank Bruni.
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What about the uncute pitbull attack dogs that live next door? They justify one's choice to wear sidearms in public, permitted in this state, simply to enable giving one or both of them the coup de grace at any encounter with their unlovable canine presence. I work as a law enforcement officer and rely on canines to detect drugs, money and people so know their value. But to baste their image over and over with cutesy treacle, not possible in my own experience.
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Mr. Bruni thank you a great article on this long, holiday weekend!
First- Regan is beautiful dog. Like America she is the best of a mix of breeds.
Next, anytime we can use the lessons and behavior from our “best friend“ from the animal kingdom to teach us something- I am all for it.
Last, it is well known that dogs respond best to single syllable commands like “sit”, “stay” and “heal”. Let’s hope you can teach Regan to “vote”.
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Always had dogs growing up and I raised my kids with the goofiest dogs we rescued. Today they are all dog lovers and have their own. This article was so simple, yet powerful...... We always need people to connect with, but since 2016 we YEARN for it. Great great article!!!!!
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Great column but just a start. In a host of ways, we need to focus on what unites us, not what divides us. What i wouldn't give for one of the Dems to go to a ballgame, walk in a park, attend a book club discussion, milk a cow, attend a concert, go to a museum,tell a joke,..get out of the house and out of the town halls.
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If I sit on a park bench dog-less, and heaven forbid, perhaps start a conversation with a stranger, the discomfort and nervousness of the other person is unmistakable. Unfortunately, sometimes I get just as weirded out by the random chit-chat from strangers as well. Too bad, kinda sad.
Frank,
You are on to something.
I hope your readers and the rest of America notes that Donald Trump doesn’t like dogs. If America knew that on November 7, 2016, surely he would have lost the dog constituency, their owners’ votes, and the election.
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So right! I meet all sorts of people walking my husky/samoyed. And I never ask them what party they are in or how much money they make. They ask me how old my dog is and if she is friendly. (She is.)
Life is better when a dog loves you.
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Dogs are truly wonderful. What they give to us is beyond measure. It has been said that if you give a dog your heart it will give you its soul. Dogs are a persons best friend. They are always there for us. I grew up with {Rough} Collies and though they are long gone they remain alive in my heart & memory. Dogs have an empathy that unfortunately far too many humans lack. Looking at you Trump. A world without dogs would be a sad place indeed.
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Living in DC the message of this article is even more on point - and important. I have neighbors whose politics I know I deplore, but who are so kind to my dog that our conversations are always incredibly friendly - and policy-free.
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So here is the key that can help to solve the human problems caused by lack of consideration (not o say love) that a significant part of the human beings have for they fellow humans. Since everybody (even I do!) loves dogs, everybody must own one, walk it,she or he, everyday and agree with all the passersby on the right policies and social actions! I will start walking my granddaughter Clio not only occasionally but everyday and most important, I will Respond more positively to the passers by that always try to establish some kind of dialogue with them.
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When I was 32, I decided that a void in my home life could be filled by adopting a dog. A veterinarian neighbor suggested that I search Animal Medical Center, who had a post-hip replacement female black Labrador available for adoption. She loved to walk, and despite her size (90 pounds) she struck most people as friendly because of her breed.
We were regular evening members of dogs and their owners who gathered in Seravelli Park. Indeed, a few years after her passing, we were at the Taos Inn two thousand miles away when the desk clerk remembered me as the "guy with Tracy"!
Miss Tracy was a wonderful way to get to know neighbors and make friends of total strangers in my West Village neighborhood. One evening, we were walking in front of the Village Vanguard on Seventh Avenue South when Clint Eastwood was about to cross the sidewalk to his limousine. Tracy looked up at him, he looked into her eyes. Mr. Eastwood patted Tracy, shook my hand, and said "Nice dog!" Tracy and I both smiled in our ways.
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Cat lovers could give you similar stories of how a beautiful animal can show one how communications between animals and people can change the world. Of course it is different because cats are more independent and not pack animals. My wife and I have two "house cats" and communicating with them is amazing and cat lovers know what I mean. The are often trying to tell you something and you learn what it is. And they demand very little. Those moments when they purr and try to tell you something are amazing interactions and one starts to think of their level of consciousness and what they might be thinking. The two of you have arrived together on earth and are sharing your life and the attempts to read each others mind are profound. We feed several feral cats (and are working on the catch, neuter and release plan) and that is another interaction which shows promise and hope for human communication in the sense of understanding the natural world and human-animal communication. We have watched tiny new feral kittens, who didn't look like they stood a chance, grow and smile at us as we fed them outside on our deck. Tiny little things that would have been doomed without us; one now growing into a healthy, little meowing creature. Save by us, always to be "outside" living in her little colony. But she smiles now, and meows at us and wags her tail. Never to enter our home, at least physically she demonstrates the human-animal interaction and teaches us so much. Enjoy your pet and learn
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Not anti-cat, but I think you missed the core point of Frank's article. Cats don't really get folks out in public where we experience random social encounters initiated by our/their dogs.
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@Buckeroo
No I did not miss his point. His point was obvious. I took our interaction with cats to be similar to dogs in our intellectual-emotional experience with animals in general; mammals in particular. Dogs and cats present us with transformational experiences. And in both cases, we have responsibility for both species because we have breed them, artificially selected them for domestication and moved them around the world away from their natural habitats. I did not miss Bruni's point.
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Beautiful essay. Dogs are social workers all day long . Ringo trots around the airport weekly as a therapy dog giving high 5’s to anyone willing to make eye contact . He never says no to people reaching out to pet him, plops down so kids can snuggle him. Dogs are diplomats wearing sustainable gear .
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Bravo !!
A wonderful and dare I say -- old-fashioned column -- good for you and better for us!!
Thank you
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Dogs? I like dogs. But if Frank Bruni thinks that getting a dog offers a remedy for our nation's ills, he severely underestimates those ills.
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I'm crying and it is because I feel good. Thank you for a beautiful column, Frank Bruni.
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This wonderful column reminds me of a story some of you may recall. Just before the 2016 election, a pet food company dressed a volunteer in a Hillary Clinton shirt and sent her to a Trump rally with an adorable “lost” dog. The Trump voters got past the Clinton shirt because they wanted to help the dog. The same thing happened when the volunteer wore a Trump shirt to a Clinton rally. My heart swelled. Who’d have guessed Americans were about to elect a president who insults people by comparing them to dogs? Regan for president!
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I’m the proud owner of a French bulldog who helps me stay active and occasionally creates unexpected encounters between us and beings with both four legs and two legs. Not only are our dogs our “best friends,” but they keep us attuned to the variety of flora, fauna, and creatures around us...
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Aussies rule! I've had them since 1981, and they are the smartest, sweetest, most amazing breed ever! Once you've had one, you won't want anything else.
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I love you, Frank Bruni, but I'm a little disappointed. I thought this was leading to a bigger point about the dispute about the off-leash dog park in Chevy Chase, Maryland and how it's become such a flashpoint for class snobbery and insulation. Missed opportunity!
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I have been greatly influenced by the writings and conferences of Franciscan Father Richard Rohr of the Center for Action and Contemplation (as apparently has the NYT David Brooks). Father Richard writes poetically about the love he experiences in his beloved dogs. I have met his black Lab Venus at a few of his conferences, reclining on the stage as Fr.Richard speaks his wisdom. Unfortunately, Venus had to be put down several months ago at age 15. Fr.Richard writes about how devastated he was. Happily he has a new dog, a Jack Russell, named Opie (the masculine for Oprah).
Here is Fr.Richard's dedications from two of his recent books:
Eager to Love:
.... To the three canines in my life—Peanut Butter, the miniature poodle; Gubbio, the Alaskan husky; Venus, my present and beloved black Labrador—who every day in every way have always been “eager to love.” (The only people who can say that dogs do not have souls are those who do not know what a soul is or who have never been loved by a dog!)
And his latest book, The Universal Christ- Dedication
I dedicate this book to my beloved 15 year old Black Lab, Venus, whom I had to release to God while beginning to write this book. Without any apology, light weight theology, or fear of heresy, I can appropriately say that Venus was also Christ for me.”
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@ron caldwell.
As Will Rogers said: if dogs don't go to Heaven, I want to go where the dogs go.
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Thank you for a wonderful commentary. Like the author, I adopted a five year old male border collie cross about three months ago from a family that was moving overseas. The woman who owned him cried tears of both joy and sorrow when we met because she could see that I fell in love with the dog — his name is Blitz — yet felt, quite understandably, like she was giving up a child. Blitz is an intelligent, even sentient creature, and after being without a dog for the last five years since my divorce in 2014, his entry into my life has been transformative.
I promised the owner I would keep in touch with photos and videos, and I eventually created a Facebook group where friends and dog lovers can read about his adventures. Please visit, Blitz loves meeting new people.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/mydogblitz
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Thank you. That was nice. I see and experience this in my town. Me and the dog, we love each other unconditionally, I am working on that with humans.
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My local dog park brings together the guy who drives a huge pickup with an NRA decal and a Prius-driving psychic healer who won't buy electronics when Mercury is in retrograde (whatever that means).
They have nothing in common other than being dog owners, but that's enough for them to wave to one another and chat amicably while their dogs play.
As the saying goes, wag more. Bark less.
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Dogs chose us thousands of years ago,
and we have benefitted ever since.
How did we get so lucky?
You will never be more loved,
you will never be so attended to.
I can't imagine life without a dog.
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A wonderful column! Warm and fuzzy, just like Regan!
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For sure, dogs are the best of us.
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Working at the local airport I ran across a group waiting for their pilots and paws ride, mostly elderly women. Totally disorganized, didn’t have the crates required to fly so I ended up doing what no one else thought of, spent $250 buying travel crates so they could fly to their forever homes.
These women had good intentions but their planning was pathetic. At the moment $250 is a lot of money to me. A couple of freelance reporters were there, I came into and left this situation without anyone even asking my name, watched from my hangar to make sure the takeoff went ok. The plane was definitely heavy.
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I don't think it is at all coincidental that the current POTUS does not have any kind of pet nor does he ever seem to have had a pet. There is something not right about that and Frank's column and the comments demonstrate why.
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Frank, just wanted to say that Regan is beautiful.
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"This is a mutt-and-switch."
Bravo.
Megan Rapinoe said it, "we have to be better."
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Thanks, Frank. It was so nice and so welcome to not see an editorial about you-know-who. A breath of fresh air if ever there was one. I encourage your counterparts to take a lesson from you and refrain from writing yet another editorial about you-know-who (there are only so many ways one can say "yuk" anyway) and instead write about something that makes us feel good.
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Absolutely wonderful as to both points: dogs pulling us out of routine and isolation and the need for more public spaces. And your Regan is beautiful! Welcome to the dog club!!
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Dogs may fix our democracy, but they cannot fix the Chinese Communist Party. I was horrified by this: “It's estimated that in China alone, 10 million dogs and 4 million cats, are slaughtered for the dog meat trade each year”. Google the Yulin Dog Meat Festival (annual event, one of many). Another reason I will not buy anything made in China until the country becomes a noble state actor.
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LOVE THIS!
Whenever I take my two elderly pugs Sandy and Lucy for a walk, we are followed by their feline brother Apollo. This threesome garners quite a bit of attention, and many of the kids in the neighborhood have overcome their fear of dogs because they can't resist those adorable wrinkly faces. As a result, I have met many of the parents and our conversations have expanded from pets to children to schools and the like. Pets can indeed be great equalizers.
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total fresh air article. thank you. i have Charlie and he is the best dog in the world
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Oh, how I would like to give Regan's ears a gentle rub - something all mammals like.
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Well stated. And absolutely true!
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I don’t currently have a dog, but it’s kind of a hobby of mine to strike up a conversation with a stranger. The person behind me in one at the grocery store, someone waiting next to me for the dentist, or another shopper smelling the melons. My point is, you don’t need a dog to talk to people you don’t know. If the stranger seems unreceptive, I back off. But most everyone I speak to is happy for the human interaction. I recommend it!
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What a wonderful article! While I agree our canine companions can break downs barriers created in recent years which segregate and isolate us, I've noticed something else as well. It's fear. The general fear and mistrust prevalent in society carries over to the dog world as well. While I enjoy the conversation, pets and shared experiences of dog lovers, I've noticed the others: those who recoil in fear when a dog approaches and act as though the boogie man himself is walking down the street on a leash. Small children who seem they've never been exposed to the joys of a family pet or even grown adults who hug the wall or cross the street to avoid a canine encounter sadden me. I think this is reflective of our changing society as well. Sigh*
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For dog lovers who also enjoy entertaining books to read may I recommend the novels of David Rosenfelt. Funny and interesting with a clear passion for dogs, especially golden retrievers. And such a New York sense of humor!
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Frank, I wish I lived near you and could have your lovely Regan meet my two wonderful labs. After working as an English professor for 30 years, I have retired and become a dog walker, among other things. Dogs are the best, and it is telling that Trump is the first president in 100 years who had not owned a dog. I give gratitude for my dogs every day, and I am so happy—but not surprised—to find out that you are a dog person too.
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My Scottish Deerhound Leo, most perfect creature of heaven, (per Sir Walter Scott) definitely fulfills many of my living needs for now. If only he could drive and perform a few caretaker chores for my post chemo needs. I have had a continuous Scottish Deerhound family member since I was 22, Leo being number six in a beloved line of them, now almost ten years old (a very impressive old age for a giant breed), seeing us through raising two wonderful human daughters and now a somewhat compromised aging process. Dogs are the best and the people who love and care for them are blessed. Thank you for your essay, Frank.
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At age 91 I live in a retirement community. Here I have discovered an entirely new community. It is not based on pets. It is based on finding ways of knowing one another's state of health, and caring. We learn of others' hopes and concerns and fears that literally can include life and death matters, and we learn of some of each others' wounds and uncertainties. We are learning new ways to be human.
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Having tired of my kids being grumpy and self-absorbed early teens, at the dinner table one night I suggested that we all take on doggy disposition. Our beautiful little dog would greet us with kisses and joy. She wanted nothing more than to love and be loved. Never in a bad mood and always forgiving. She died one year ago and our home is not the same. Dogs are the best people.
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Dogs are social lubricators, helping people connect when and where they otherwise might not. I tend to judge people by whether or not they smile--or at least soften or show interest-- when they see my dog and I practicing our tricks and obedience exercises during our walks.
It is disturbing however, to see adults and children who actually run into the street rather than walk past or near my dog--who is totally black. There is, unfortunately, a large bias against black dogs, and I always move her to my other side if I sense someone is uncomfortable--even if my dog is fully ignoring them. I deal with it by putting colorful bandanas on her, but that does not always have the desired impact.
Dogs improve so many aspects of our lives and interactions--we owe so much to them.
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My husband and I have 9 rescue dogs and 3 rescue cats (we don't live in NYC!) and we understand the bond with others who care about dogs. It is a great place to start connecting with others---and we really need to make it happen, make our world a little kinder.
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When I adopted my first dog, Jacob, in early 2003, I began taking him to Congressional Cemetery in Washington, DC, which long had been known for its dog-walking program. I quickly learned that places where people congregate because of dogs are great equalizers. In DC, many people define themselves by their work or politics, and some acquire fame, power, or both as a result. However, at "the Cem," it didn't matter whether someone was famous or powerful, and their occupation and politics were way down on the list of discussion topics, because those things weren't what brought you together. Some of my most important friendships, with people I likely otherwise never would have met, were formed because of my dog-walking ritual.
Bonding with other "dog people" across party and demographic lines was only one way in which dogs transformed my life. Jacob and his younger pal Amos also taught me what devotion and loyalty look like in practice, the value of not judging and not holding grudges, the value of living in the moment without worry about past or future, and, ultimately, about unconditional love. My dogs showed me how to be, and I was incomplete as a human until I loved them.
I don't know if dogs will fix our democracy -- although the story of how dog walkers saved Congressional Cemetery and helped transform it into a vibrant community gathering spot suggests there's some hope for that -- but I am certain that dogs can save us as individuals, one person at a time.
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While a loving testimony to how dogs can make a difference in individual lives and society, the reality is if you are not a “dog person” some of these people who are so delightful to one another communing over their dogs act like there is something missing from a person who is not part of their universe. I do not stop to pet or admire other people’s dogs and I do not like when they lope over to me to lick my feet to win my favor. I do not feel that I am not a good person because dogs do not fit into my life, yet I can feel marginalized and uncomfortable when walking past people on the street or in a park chatting, admiring, basking in the comfort of their homogenous community of dog lovers. So I find your article ironic in that you are trying to say dog people are the throwback answer to a better time when in reality you are just favoring your own choice of a community and making others- across economic, racial, age and political lines- feel excluded. My dream is to imagine there is some way we can just enjoy being in whatever communities we find for ourselves that make us feel whole, and leave one another alone- not try to convert others to one’s own preferences.
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When I adopted my first dog, Jacob, in early 2003, I began taking him to Congressional Cemetery in Washington, DC, which long had been known for its dog-walking program. I quickly learned that places where people congregate because of dogs are great equalizers. In DC, many people define themselves by their work or politics, and some acquire fame, power, or both as a result. However, at "the Cem," it didn't matter whether someone was famous or powerful, and their occupation and politics were way down on the list of discussion topics, because those things weren't what brought you together. Some of my most important friendships, with people I likely otherwise never would have met, were formed because of my dog-walking ritual.
Bonding with other "dog people" across party and demographic lines was only one way in which dogs transformed my life. Jacob and his younger pal Amos also taught me what devotion and loyalty look like in practice, the value of not judging and not holding grudges, the value of living in the moment without worry about past or future, and, ultimately, about unconditional love. My dogs showed me how to be, and I was incomplete as a human until I loved them.
I don't know if dogs will fix our democracy -- although the story of how dog walkers saved Congressional Cemetery and helped transform it into a vibrant community gathering spot suggests there's some hope for that -- but I am certain that dogs can save us as individuals, one person at a time.
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I'm very happy that you have a good relationship with your dog, Mr. Bruni, and I'm very happy for all of the commenters who have testified to their good relationships with dogs, and to the benefits they've seen other people get out of relationships with dogs. It appears that dogs and humans have co-evolved to get along together. However, I don't think we can draw any political conclusions from these relationships. Some extremely unpleasant, extremely nondemocratic people also have had good relationships with dogs. That they did so isn't a criticism of getting along with dogs, it just shows that the urge to bond with dogs is deeper than our political drives.
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beautifully said Frank, and all so true about dogs, green space, and common ground.
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I think dogs are one of the worst things in human society. In my view, they don’t belong in our society. And I’m not alone. No other animal on the face of the planet causes more harm to humans, human relationships, and our environment, than dogs. And this harm is entirely self-inflicted, because humans are breeding dogs and bringing them into our environment to live. Just last week, a 9-year old girl was brutally mauled to death by 3 dogs in Detroit. But, dog lovers will never blame the dogs. They always try to rationalize how it must have been the owner’s fault or the child’s fault, or both; never the dog. They will tell endless stories about how sweet their dog is and how it will never hurt someone. They all say that.
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Actually, the single most dangerous vertebrate to humans is not dogs; it’s other humans. Millions of people, for example, died in World War II. If dogs generally make humans less dangerous, then let there be more dogs to tame their humans.
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@Mark
Huh? Dogs cause more harm to humans than any other animal on the planet? What?
Dogs cannot possibly match the methane production of, say, a cow. Nor does a dog take up valuable farmland that could be used for more-sustainable vegetable crops.
Dogs make wonderful therapy animals, and of course it's dogs who are trained to be assistance dogs for those who need them. There are dogs who work with the police.
And of course dogs give you love and loyalty.
It's unfortunate that some owners don't train their dogs properly, and they must bear the cost of any damage. And yes, there are breeds that tend to bite more often, and more dangerously.
But most dogs are just happy to meet you.
You must have been bitten by a dog somewhere in your past,
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@LauraF
"It's unfortunate that some owners don't train their dogs properly.."
That's the rationalization I was talking about. The dogs killed the child, but it's not the dog's fault in your view. The child is dead and it's just unfortunate in your view that the owner didn't train the dogs not to do that.
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Excellent article and one I have personally observed as well. For all the whining about the political divide no one offers even a cursory solution in our various media, but this is a refreshing change. I feel news should come with actionable items at the end. If you cared for this story, here’s what you should do at the end, sign a petition, vote for X, write your congressman, plant a tree, and such.
We dog sit for a friend and have a young child and in both instances have been brought closer to people of all stripes through them. On a recent trip to another state, I couldn’t help thinking how kind everyone was, striking up a conversation with us brown-skinned Americans, complimenting our baby’s hair and eyes and sharing their life stories simply because we had our daughter along. I personally feel America is far kinder than our reflections in our media and politics. It makes me hopeful for one.
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(By the way, watch out, Frank. Your op-eds are too stylistically perfectly sculpted, poetically articulate, trenchant and mellifluous. It can't work to keep writing immortal-sounding essays. Something has to crack eventually.)
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Over the years, I have often been asked, “Is that dog yours?” The reaction to my response, “We live together”, is the surest indicator as to how much fun the ensuing conversation (if any) will be.
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Mr. Bruni !..What a perfectly wonderful piece.....I feel uplifted and hopeful....I think I'll take Ethel for a walk and enjoy the beauty of life !! Thank You...
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I am 5’10’’ and got to 215, long time before meeting
“Wilson,” who takes/insists/whines we go for a walk
at least daily.
Lil Orphan Annie’s Wheaton terrier has a twin doppelgänger, and my weight is now163, and
didn’t die from d stroke after all.
In other words the canine saves masters/friends
life. My wife still transports rescue dogs and cats.
He was
apparently found in
middle ja ja approx three to five years ago, and caged in Griffin or wherever.
Apparently they couldn’t locate the owner, and
the first two families who got him did not want to keep him
because he was not a child’s dog like they say
a Lab relates well with kinder.
Thank deity he relates well to an Alta, aged empty
nest couple now with two other adopted rescues.ail
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A lovely essay!
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I just love your joy with your pooch. It's such a welcome relief from the odious atmosphere now insidiously infecting our nation.
Keep going.
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just wonderful. and thanks for not mentioning what’s-his-name, who dislikes dogs.
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Also, the very best smell on Earth : clean Puppy. Just close your eyes and imagine it. You’re 6 or 8 years old, and your life is a blank slate. It’s a happy childhood, in one sniff.
I really needed this, Frank.
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Maybe, just maybe, it's more significant that most people realize that our so-called President has no pet.
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Middle-upper class urban professionals in their 20s and 30s are replacing marriage and children with dogs (and cats). Thus "fur-baby," "dog mom," and "dog dad".
I find this disturbing, not hopeful.
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@ted
Less children means less burden on resources.
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Our little Coton de Tulear does the same for us as your Regan does for you. My wife tells me that more people talk to me when I am with Mia than talk to her when she is with the cute puppy!
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Dogs see through our shells. That's why the ultimate litmus test for qualification for President of the United States should be a pack test; if dogs don't like you and aren't willing to accept you into even an ad hoc pack of two, you can't be trusted. In dog we trust . . .
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Dogs enrich your life many times over if you let them. I can always remember the name of a dog but forget the name of the owner be it friends or neighbors.
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I don’t like dogs. And I find it very sad that we need animals to interact with people who are unlike us. How about coffee-shops, pubs, debating clubs, or any other public spaces that function in other countries as places to meet, and talk to, strangers? Americans seem to be really bad at social graces. If you approach me with a stinky animal on a leash, I’ll turn away or request that you move on. But if you approach me with a smile and tell me you want to talk, I might smile back.
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@Mor
Common social graces in most countries are often absent here. They come easy to those who are sensitive and care about others. Another casualty of a hyper-competitive consumer society....
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Not so sure I’d want to chat with you.
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@Mor
Roger that. And if your darling little ankle biter is running loose while I'm out enjoying my walk (without a dog) and starts yipping at my heels, be on notice that the temptation to drop-kick it back to you might overwhelm me. If your larger dog running loose acts threatening towards me, be aware that I also have some rocks in my pocket . . .
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Pity for us human dogs. If some one takes notice of us it's never for anything good. Maybe if I got a dog and named it Trump, people would say what's wrong with you naming a dog trump. Then I'd lie and say, well he's a rescue and it's the name he had. Maybe I'd teach him to growl at the name of Donald and I could become friends with the talkative people I meet because neither me, my dog or them like Donald Trump.
If I got a dog, it probably wouldn't like me and think I'm a republican. Besides you can't talk politics with a dog.
That door blocking routine--she's herding you. She's also from the photo gorgeous.
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So long as dogs still love us, I think there's hope for the human race. When our canine companions give up on us, mankind is truly doomed.
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@ShallBe Your dog doesn't love you. That's is a projection of your feelings onto an animal that has been bred to respond to you in certain ways in order to maintain a codependant bond, the impression of "love" in exchange for sustenance and the unnatural replacement of the dogs natural pack.
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The park-based social networks of dog owners that let their dogs play together off leash or "dog groups" are great places for affluent urban liberals to safely meet their non-professional neighbors - and vice-versa, to a lesser extent. (High society is covered far more in our media... and it's surprisingly base and shallow). Here, even the conformist and ethically righteous or "PC" dog owners quickly learn that projecting their values onto their dogs is futile (and some even learn that it's idiotic.) The way that dominance relations structure the group dynamics in dogs offers many insights for their owners. Once again, the lines of who is teaching and who has domesticated who are fuzzy with dogs.
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Mr. Bruni, I've long enjoyed your column and couldn't agree more with this one. Both my husband and I are dog lovers because they have no hidden agenda and are thoroughly democratic in expressing their love and leanings. Many people say (and forgive the echoes of the Dolt-in-Chief here) that they can tell if someone is a good person if their dog likes him. I know of no more accurate barometer myself.
And I'm delighted you love Austin as much as we do. If you (and Regan) visit again soon we'd love to walk the Lady Bird Lake trail with you, then take you to our favorite Tex-Mex hole-in-the-wall. The outstandingly messy nachos and strong margaritas will make you forget your problems and our president, for a short while anyway. In the meantime, may you and Regan continue to make friends wherever you go and that you share your adventures with us.
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I have had dogs all my life including a little snugglebug that is helping me get through a difficult time right now. Frank and all the commenters are right as far as their wonderful qualities. What has always struck me though is how different they all are. They can be high-energy or couch potatoes, whip smart or, as they say, dumb as dirt, happy or grumpy, outgoing or shy. Every dog is its own dog. They're all wonderful.
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The simple truth is, most dogs are vastly more agreeable than oh so many humans.
How many people are simply overjoyed by a 20 or 30 second massage and scratch?
Dogs, I love them, and speak woof fluently, as they have been great teachers.
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Central Park has off-leash hours?! That’s awesome!
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I almost wish you hadn't mentioned public libraries. In these parlous times of budget cuts and disdain for government, their continued existence is something of a miracle, one I attribute to their being overlooked by grumpy libertarians.
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I got my dog Daisy from the shelter three years ago when she was nine years old. I don't think she had ever been properly socialized in her puppy years, as she throws herself, frothing and snarling and barking, at any other dog that comes near.
Usually I pull her to the side of the path when I see another dog coming and bend down and hold her collar tight, and I try to help her stay calm, but once I didn't see the other dog in time and she actually attacked an elderly golden retriever. (Daisy is only 30 pounds and didn't do any damage; the beautiful, cosmic golden did not engage.)
My point in all this is, never once, in all of Daisy's upsets, has another dog person bawled me out or told me off. Everyone nods at my heartfelt apologies and keeps on walking. They can see that Daisy and I are both doing our best, even if not good enough. A big lesson there for the twitter universe that piles on anyone who shows the slightest real or perceived moral failing. Dogs really do bring out the best in humans.
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The old adage, “lie down with dogs, get up with fleas” may apply to politicians, but when the rest of us head out with dogs, we end up with friends, of both the four and two-legged kind.
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In 15 years we’ll have robotic dogs that you don’t have to feed but you will need to plug in. They’ll walk themselves while their owners work 12 hours a day coding.
Long ago I used to have a parakeet that I trained myself. I guess that doesn't count. But I know in London there's like a "speaker's corner" in a park, and anyone can prepare a little speech to express their views on a subject that they need to get off their chest. A crowd customarily gathers with various "blokes" getting up on a soapbox to speak. That is encouraging IMO, and a good way to spontaneously share with others.
(Friendly) dogs are pretty great, though. And although I'm not trying to be presumptuous here, I also feel they can read your thoughts, and sense your emotional state right off. If you're talking to them, they always seem to be paying careful attention
to what you're trying to express. I know that's crazy, but I just get this feeling just the same. Then it's time for a biscuit or two for being "so understanding".
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Thank you so much for this!
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The loyalty my dogs give elevates my life above the pettiness I encounter in everyday life. They are noble souls.
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I live in a nice suburban neighborhood. A neighbor has a dog that maniacally bays (a sort of dog scream or yodel) throughout the day, every day. From across the street it is an annoyance even inside my house. I feel sorry for the neighbors across his fence who live with this noise a few feet away.
I have another neighbor who walks his two dogs up onto people’s front yards to do their business. One morning I told him to take himself and his dogs off my property. He stood his ground and argued with me that it’s the dogs who decide where to go.
One morning before work I was walking and a woman passing let her dog jump up and put its paws and nose on my freshly showered legs and clean clothes. Seeing my efforts to back away, she sniffed “I guess you’re just not a dog person.”
Taking a walk the other day, I saw a woman with a German shepherd off leash arguing with a concerned dog walker that her shepherd was “under control.”
Dog ownership (often called “rescue”) seems to have ascended to a holy calling in this country. But courtesy toward other people has suffered under the new cult of the dog.
Dog owners, please realize that as the number of dogs among us grows, so must your awareness of the comfort and rights of your fellow humans.
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Disclosure: I owned a wonderful dog; I like dogs and know a lot about them; and when out walking I stop to pet dogs and chat with their owners.
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Agree. Someone I know wants to sell their house in a hot market area but there are constantly barking dogs next door, a situation that stunningly has gone on for many years and wasn't addressed in order to "not cause conflict or negativity, " while they've been silently fuming about it for almost a decade. The dogs patrol their own large partially wooded property and bark at length at the slightest provocation, which is not only loud but echoes even more loudly. No idea how this property is going to get sold without the value getting seriously dinged.
There was a recent story about a dog park that was installed in a DC neighborhood that has shattered the area's valuable tranquility and ability of residents to enjoy their properties in peace as they'd previously been able to. One resident is fighting to have the park closed and I hope is successful. Toward the end of the article, interviewed dog owners tried profiling her as a privileged NIMBY Becky. Yah OK. For good reason, most zoning laws are consistent in requiring animal shelters to be located far from residential areas because of the barking noise in the exterior runs, and that logic that would naturally apply to dog parks.
Went for a hike in a park popular with dog owners who know the leash law isn't enforced. Turd Sanctuary.
I love dogs and it's true how they lubricate connection among strangers, but it's a castle built on sand. This was a nice fluffy read but my apt building entrance reeks of dog waste.
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Happy to read you have discovered the total joy of a dog.
If only all people could open themselves up to the unconditional love of a dog.
Anyone who does not love a dog is someone who truly cannot love life and humanity.
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@davey385 - What can I say. I don't believe in owning pets. I know I wouldn't want some species neutering me and telling me to hold it all day while they go off to work. And dress me up in a pink knitted sweater with antlers for some stupid Christmas card? No thanks.
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@davey385
Isn't receiving unconditional love generally the easy part?
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Whoof from Germany!
Fine reading on Sunday mornings.
Cordially yours, dachshound Gipsy
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How dare you write “...Lady Bird Lake, which is the name for a dammed stretch of the Colorado River...” and discuss the importance, dogs aside, of beautified public spaces in healing society without even a mention of the woman behind the name who first made their benefits relevant to us.
The lake is named for Lady Bird Johnson, the First Lady of Great Society pioneer President Lyndon Johnson. It was she who, more than anyone else, championed the social benefits of public investment in America’s parks, abandoned lots, open spaces, and more.
“Lady Bird...saw her conservation and beautification work as deeply interwoven with President Johnson's Great Society agenda.
"’Getting on the subject of beautification is like picking up a tangled skein of wool,” she wrote...’All the threads are interwoven - recreation and pollution and mental health, and the crime rate, and rapid transit, and highway beautification, and the war on poverty, and parks - national, state and local...’
“Lady Bird also saw her beautification projects as helping soothe the nation at a time when the Vietnam war, civil rights and other highly charged political topics fomented division...[and] that a cleaner, more beautiful country could calm people and bring them together.”
(https://www.pbs.org/ladybird/shattereddreams/shattereddreams_report.html)
I’m kind-of gobsmacked you overlooked the relevance of the lake’s namesake to your essay. So typical of men, ignoring the great women behind their ideas.
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welcome to the loving world of dogs!
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We best not share this column with the NRA: they’ll suggest we arm our collies.
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So true!!! We have lots of doggie friends in Riverside Park.
You’re in two tribes: the tribe of dog owners, which keeps you away from people who don’t want their crotches sniffed or to walk through the field of feces you call a dog park, and the tribe of New Yorkers who, even venturing out of NYC, have to compare everything to NYC.
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We need dogs in the halls of congress, and the White House! Every office should have a dog, and the elected employees therein should have to walk them each day, at the same time, and visit with the other elected employees, allowing their dogs to mingle and play. Showing our elected employees that there are no solid and sound reasons for all the enmity.
Let them run loose in the halls of congress, let them disrupt the committees, and the closed door meetings.(doggie doors!) Let them be spoiled, let them seek out bipartisan belly-rubs, and petting's and treats from whom ever they wish, have them fetch balls and play tug of war, and do all the things we know they do for us miserable humans.
In fact, lets make it a rule that every candidate has to run for their office with a qualified, rescued canine partner!
Let the dogs run thru the halls of Government! Let them run the government!
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You had a DNA test on your dog? Why?
This is a lovely article and rings so true. My advice to any one is get a dog. Dogs are a big part of the fabric of my neighborhood here in Scottsdale, Arizona. I know all the dogs by name and personality. I may not remember my neighbor's name at any given moment; but, I do know their dog's name. Sasha, my female poodle, is in love with Simon. Simon is a big, white German Shepard. Freddie, Simon's dad, dabbles in photography like me and is from Belgium. Freddie is a physicist. Before he adopted Simon, you never saw Freddie outside. Laguna, a personal favorite, was picked up on the Apache Reservation and put up for adoption. She almost didn't get out of that shelter alive; but, Peter saved her life and gave her a home. She has matured into a wonderful companion. Peter needed her as much as Laguna needed him. Sasha and Laguna hate each other like the French hate the Germans I always say. Peter and I laugh about it nearly every night. I get a giggle a dozen times a day because of my dogs. I would not get those giggles without my dogs, so get a dog and start giggling as soon as possible.
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Thank you for sharing Regan's inspiring photo. We're still grieving the loss of our beloved canine companion. Your words ring so true. Our determination to remain dogless and to finally have freedom to come & go at will (after 30 years of having children and then dogs to care for) is beginning to fray at the edges as we greet neighbors with their companions and see photos such as Regan's. And yes I miss having the easy interactions with those whom you never would have stopped to converse with without the facilitation of these beautiful creatures!
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Thank you Frank, for reminding US that we are more naturally drawn to being united, than not.
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My husband died suddenly 11 yrs ago. My daughter was 10 and distraught. My neighbor came upon a 6 mo old cairn puppy in need of a home and paired us. This dog has seen us thru middle school school, high school, college, drivers ed, boyfriends, breakups, job changes, home renovations., holidays, sleepovers, etc. which is to say, he expands our lives in so many ways. We have met the best people, including our legendary dog walker. He still barks like a terrier. He knows every mailman, fedex and ups driver. He is family forever.
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When I read the title to this piece, I thought you've got to be kidding me. But the article focused on an important concept, that being the we as a society have become very isolated from genuine heat felt interacction with one another. This trend can prove a stumbling block to unity and respect for each other regardless of differences.
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Absolutely right. And thanks for the shout out to public libraries, who have for a long time served as community centers, and who deserve committed taxpayer support.
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Dogs in American life today?
They remind me of drugs, alcohol. There is so much pressure to socialize, conform in American life (what a myth individuality today), to fit into a Group Which Pays (work dominating one's life) that all other thought, emotion, socializing amounts to drifting off in front of the television, holding pets, or drinking and drugs, or eating to excess.
American life seems increasingly organized like sports organizations where you join a team (workplace) and compete against other teams but then again we're all united in the broad organization called America, and when we're not playing for our team we're all trying to find some connection in similar ways, or at least arguing about whether this or that outlet apart from work is an acceptable part of American life.
I'd like to read a report which lists all the ways humans have organized, had community, social groups, hobbies, etc. over human history and how much America, the land of freedom, the most powerful nation in the world, actually permits today. Count the workplaces in a city and by type; count the hobbies/associations people have when not at work (whether on or offline); count all the time actually spent in front of the television, sitting with a pet, etc.
I bet the tribe people identity with most is their workplace, that the pressure is enormous to find work and make it one's tribe from which one never wants to retire, but if one fails, or work is erratic, one is left with...the dog?
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Good Morning, Frank,
I'd like to add public pools to the mix of public libraries and parks that you mention in your most excellent article about the joy the dog experience in New York City.
I've been swimming in the public pools of our fair city for years and exactly the egalitarian experience you describe is for the taking there, where people of all ages, body types and socioeconomic background share locker rooms, decks and the cool, clear waters of the pools.
I also volunteer at the New York Public Library, Mulberry Street branch, teaching a Writer's Circle which began in 2016, and cannot be a more joyous or egalitarian experience.
And dogs...where to begin? Suffice it to say, my family has rescued two dogs in the past 15 years: our beloved Bess, who lived to age 14 and loved opera on the radio, and Mr. Milo, a handsome shepherd mix who is regularly mistaken for a coyote or wolf, especially by young children on the street. Mr. Milo goes everywhere we can take him and is always the most popular creature in any social situation he finds himself in. He is, quite simply, a rock star. And like rock stars with the common touch, he is egalitarian in his ability to absorb troubles and give joy.
If there is any hope for our city and our country at this moment it is exactly in the public spaces you describe where people of all backgrounds come together and are united by our shared experiences, not our jobs or the wealth we have accumulated.
Sincerely,
Anita Bushell
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Then why are dog owners/walkers always apologizing to me when their dog is interacting with me? Did they expect something bad to happen? I assure them that all is well and that's the end of it.
Then I go home to my cats who are waiting eagerly for me at the door because they know I am due to return at that very time.
I’ve noticed that a not-small number of people seem to be afraid of dogs, or at least disinterested. I typically apologize if my nosy dog approaches/sniffs someone who looks like they’re not welcoming of the encounter. It’s a bit sad that grown adults are afraid of my 30-lb dog, but the apology is offered to make them feel more comfortable. Which is the point of manners and etiquette in general.
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@cl - One day at a street corner, a young Husky puppy came over and started sniffing my pants. So, I reached down and petted him. Well, his owner, a young woman read me the riot act for not asking first.
Since both my daughter and I have been bitten by other people's dogs, I should have read her the riot act for not better controlling her dog.
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The truth of your column is illustrated at my local farmers market every Saturday morning. There are dogs galore and everyone stops to pet and chat. It’s glorious.
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@WesternMass
And then there's the vendors' perspective. "Everyone stops to pet and chat". As a vendor, you watch that activity and then see those same 'petting hands' picking over the produce you worked so hard to grow and clean so that it would be both tasty and safe to eat. I still remember the time a dog lifted its leg on a crate of lettuce I had placed in the shade under my table. The dog's owner thought it was funny. I lost the whole crate of lettuce and wondered "what if I hadn't seen that happen, and sold it ?"
I've had customers literally hand me the leashes to their darling dogs and ask me to hold them while they shop. I've broken up dog fights and cleaned up poop from around our Market picnic area. What's not to like about all that ? Eventually, we banned all dogs except service dogs and things are much better now.
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Regan is a beauty. Great picture of her!
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My rescue dog brought me out of a deep depression, I always say she's done more for me than I've done for her.
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Lovely article. Our dog passed away a few years ago and I not only miss him a lot but I also miss the daily interaction with total strangers from being out and about with a dog. You meet some very nice people that way.
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I am convinced that my sweet but irascible Lhasa Apso, Tenzing, is at least a part re-incarnation of the grandmother who raised me in India so long ago. I am a 71-year-old widow and while Tenzing permits me to have "friends", God forbid any of those friends should display a whiff of romantic interest! Tenzing senses it immediately and drives them away with the same, highly effective, stare-down tactics that my grandmother used, to scare away any"unsuitable" (meaning not of my community or religion) potential love interest. The only difference now is that I don't mind! My children are grown and living happily with their own families. Tenzing and I are a happy family of our own!
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After a blissfully quiet week on a remote shore of Lake Superior with my dog and no connection to the outside world, I opened the Times with some trepidation. Thank you for easing me back into things with this lovely piece. And by the way, it should be against the law to be as cute as Regan!
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Central Park dog culture is a reflection of a highly stressed and well developed society. I miss that. Out here in L. A. the dog does get me more social contact, but it's a huge struggle with the leash laws. There's an inverse relationship between leash laws and the general level of social responsibility in the town you live in. You can quickly spot the areas where you might profitably interact with complete strangers by looking for a few dogs playing off lead.
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My last name happens to be Regan, so I was drawn to your essay by virtue of that.
Just this morning I was walking my dog, who we call "Milo-Poodle-Regan" at Crystal Cove State Park in New Port Beach, CA. I live in a University enclave where we are pretty much all in for the Dems, but NPB is where many rich republicans live.
Milo and I got to the end of the path (Pelican Point) and were greeted by a guy with a MAGA hat and T-shirt. I wanted to be uncivil, but I wasn't. He admired Milo, and I was nice. I thought the same thing you wrote in your piece: over dogs, it's best to stay nice.
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Mr.Bruni, Thanks. After reading your Editorial Boards’ efitorial about Trump ruining America’s resources, your article made me laugh out loud and was genuinely appreciated.
Many years ago, lived on West 89th Street off Riverside Drive. Had a Welsh Terrier, her name was Raisin. She loved fetching branches when we went to the park. The further I
threw them the more she loved retrieving them. One day I lay down on the grass and for some reason dozed off. When I awoke I saw that she had gone and collected many tree branches and placed them next to me ! Also there was a small crowd of folks standing around watching her activities !
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@John Taylor
What a wonderful scene you conveyed. CP is almost my next door neighbor. The park nourishes so many tastes as it refreshes the spirit and provides us with an umbrella of nature. Let's give Central Park our thanks, too.
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Cute column. But the sad truth is we DO need dogs to oil civility and communication. Except in the Midwest And Texas.
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Thanks for this column. Love to you and regan
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I’ve had many dogs over the years: Whitey, Peppy, Goldie, Sadie, Belle, Fluffy, Julie, Sophie, Cindy, and Percy.
They’ve made life worth living.
And yeah, I have children too.
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I think this wonderful article points out that we are less divided than we think we are. It is depressing to read so many news stories or letters to the editor or comments that just drip of “I am right and you are wrong.”
The reality is that most of us have far more activities that have nothing to do with the ranting that passes for political opinion.
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I have grieved for Mr. Bruni lately because of the way his emotions and perspectives have been captured by current NYT orthodoxy--which is political propaganda and joylessness every day, all the time. It's as if Bill Cunningham had died a thousand years ago and there was not a trace of his joy left. But Mr. Bruni returns with a dog. Well done, sir! I was once pulled out of a pit of despair by a dog. He's ten years old now, and he's a friend and neighbor to many. He, too, draws strangers together. Simple gifts. And joy.
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“But this column isn’t really about Regan, so go easy on me.”
How about devoting the next one to her, then? She sounds like a great friend, she’s cute as anything, and you’ve got us interested in her!
Besides, we could all enjoy shifting our attention from heavier topics to our four-legged friends.
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Cats want you to be ok but dogs climb up on the couch to investigate why you're not.
Cats want you to understand what's going on but dogs look surreptitiously at what's happening and then look back at you to see if you get the point.
Cats, in short, expect you to do your job and dogs think you are their job.
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@K Yates
Pfft!
Cats greet you at the door when you get home from work. Cats know when you're down and climb on your chest to snuggle with you. Cats listen to you intently when you talk to them. They curl up beside you in bed and purr you off to sleep. They lick your face to show you they love you. They miss you when you're gone and dance a little when you come home. And they love to play chase and catch as much as any dog.
I love dogs, too, by the way.
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Another reason why Mr. Trump would shape up to be a bad President- he did not own a pet.
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Regan is German for rain, so there's a good good story to tell people.
I used to think that dogs were a bridge for friendly human interaction, and I really enjoyed my daily time with dog park friends. But I no longer find that cozy dynamic to be true. The world has changed, at least where I live. I no longer take my dogs out to walk among crowds of humans and dogs because my boys have been attacked by too many unleashed, untrained dogs (with clueless and aggressive owners). Some years ago, a deranged transient slammed a plastic object on the ground right in front on one dog’s face, so that the object shattered inches from the dog’s nose and eyes, and my dog (a puppy at the time) was traumatized. He is still fearful of strange men. And then there are the parents who tell their little kids to run up and pet my dogs (absolutely no, you may not grab my dog), and the adults who do the same (one guy pulled out his phone and took a flash photo of my dog, up close). Manners, common sense and respect have gone down the drain in the last 20 years, even where dogs are concerned. Maybe it’s a reflection of where our country stands.
Don’t worry about my dogs, though. I’m like a pit bull when it comes to keeping them safe. And they get plenty of exercise running in the countryside.
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My GF has two Corgis and I have Max, a maybe Schnoodle. They make us more friendly, and make friends for us. Go canines!
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All political debates & meetings should have puppies present.
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Comment I made at the dog park yesterday: I am almost grateful for the hurricane since it allows newscasters less time to talk about Trump.
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Loved this, Mr. B! As you said, I started out thinking, "Oh good, another article about dogs"! Alas, another affirmation that we are willing to overlook so much to have an opportunity to discuss our canine besties! They will save us!!
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Fantastic article Frank!! I too have a dog. I have had the same experiences as you. I have met people, conversed with people and even become very good friends with some people...that would have never happened if it were not for my wonderful dog.
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Dogs can also cause us to hate and resent our neighbors. If you are on a public path with your dog, please make sure it is on a leash at all times!
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@Dr. O - We have a couple here in the building that pretty much has the ire of the entire building. People have moved out because of their dogs.
They have a boxer-pit bull who was obviously raised for fighting and they also have some 150 pound Mastiff. Both are aggressive and the pit bull got free of the owner one day when another man was walking his Lab in the parking lot and it was ugly. The young man had to run upstairs to get a lawn chair to beat away the pit bull while the owner tried to wrestle the Mastiff who wanted to join in. I witnessed the whole thing and told the landlady that those dogs need to go and how the moms in the building were afraid for their children. Then I found out a month later that the owner of the dogs was the maintenance man's sister.
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What can I add to all the comments except that I look forward to all of Frank Bruni’s columns and I’m glad he shared his dog with us, including a photo.
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This bonding over the love of dogs seems to offer some relief in these stressful times. The old saying suggests they make others no better than second best friends.
The dark side of animal domination is ugly.
Bruni is right: Regan is smarter than Donald Trump. Actually, almost any dog is smarter than Trump.
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You could also say her name is homage to Shakespeare - Lear’s daughter.....
No truer saying, 'the more I know people, the more I like dogs.' PS. I would vote for Regen before I vote for Trump.
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You are writing about something wonderful that we love to do: enjoy a walk with our dog in our communities.
Thanks. Now our President will want to ruin that too.
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An excellent piece. I highly recommend that each of the NYT editors, especially those responsible for the loaded headlines, read it.
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She's lovely! Aussies are wonderful dogs. Don't be surprised if you are having some guests over and find yourselves in a circle! She is after all working dog.
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I don't know how guilty I should feel about my, self-imposed, isolation. I was recently telling some younger relatives a story about a friend I worked under for 20 years and how racist and antisemitic he was and they were shocked to find I could make common ground with such a person? Joe Biden stepped into it when he said accommodated all types of Senators in an effort to pass legislation, including bigots and racists. The difference between now and then is that then, Joe Biden and I were dealing with a phenomenon (racism) that was on it's way out, had been mocked openly since, at least, "All in the Family" and would surely pass away, with a whimper, any day now under the weight of it's own stupidity. Now the fever has returned, the social mockery didn't solve the problem, it drove it underground. Now that the Trump supporters can be, fairly, broken down between racists and people who tolerate that racism, I don't know why or whether it would be in my best interests to make, or remake, their acquaintance. Man's best friend may end up being truer than we meant it. Release the hounds.
Mr. Bruni, I believe in Dog and that He/She will lead us to the promised land, even if it's just a fire hydrant down the block.
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Dogs love their owners unconditionally and that is what is so appealing. When one comes home sad, mad, and beyond comprehension of how bad work/life can get, a dog with his tail wagging and so excited to see you, puts life in prospective. You are their life, they are your commitment for life.
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Frank
love the column!, but two things.
how are you going to bring her to Austin with you?
if you do be sure to take her to Austin Dogtown for the most fun she’ll ever have
secondly, she doesn’t need a big huge collar like that, at 48 pounds she just needs a little thin slip collar. If that second collar is a flea collar, those don’t work as well as the pill you give them once a month.
Sounds like true love she’s very pretty
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Thank you for this. Just yesterday I chatted with a woman who wanted to pet my wheaten terrier. I think she was probably a little lonely. She asked if my dog would get along with guinea pigs! “ Gosh” I said “ No “. He is my introduction to so many worlds.
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I have a mastiff. Lovely guy, though a bit on the drooly side. He keeps me sane.
I strive to be the person my dog thinks I am.
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Beautiful column! Thank you Frank.
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I have a gorgeous tuxedo cat who is black with similar white markings to Regan's. My cat Cleo has a white triangle on her chest, chartreuse eyes, a white belly, four white booties on her feet. She has a small round dot of white on her chin. She manages to be both cute and gorgeous.
Most amazingly, and unlike most tuxedo cats, all her white spots are symmetrical. The result is that she looks like Japanese Anime. Moreover, Cleopatra is a brilliant cat, having been to Harvard and Yale. It's hard to believe that a graphically spectacular natural creature - from a cat rescue center in Boston - can be so beautiful and amusing. She is empathetic but never slavish. She doesn't cease to exist when I'm not around but (reportedly) will tolerate anyone who feeds her properly and gives her some loving and outdoor exercise.
It's better to think, read, and write about almost anything other than Orange Man and the Kleptocracy which has devoured our democracy. Thanks, Mr. Blow.
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Fewer Guns, more adopted Pets.
2020.
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Yes!
Thank you for this column Frank!
Love everything about the sentiment!
Cute doggie
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We met our neighbor carrying her spaniel up her driveway. ‘That’s not much of a walk’, I said. ‘She sits and won’t move when she is done with her walk, I have to pick her up or we don’t get home. ’ said the neighbor.
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“We are alone, absolutely alone on this chance planet: and, amid all the forms of life that surround us, not one, excepting the dog, has made an alliance with us.” - Maurice Maeterlinck
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@Rob Simko - lol, you haven't met the mother plants in my bedroom closet.
I don’t think no dog can beat Mr. Trump directly, because he is moved by no animal love. Once he was reported (by Gail Colins herself) to have said of her face as resembling that of a dog, and she wrote back in her column in saying he did not mean her big friendly eyes. Bruni meant here dogs can win over Mr. Trump to appeal to constituencies. Ok, every reader already had got it, except me. Sorry. The core part of my comment is about the Central Park (NYC) and dog and me. Years and years ago, before the advent of social media, I as a visitor was on a bench in the park. A walker with his dog came by. Very affectionately with a maximum friendliness, I addressed to the dog, because I knew the dog’s name. Milou! Milou! That set off the dog owner’s alarm, it seemed. But, by that sort of spontaneous event or encounter in the real world, the dog democracy can (or may) unite all people beyond different nationalities.
A round of applause for Frank, all the commenters and their dogs!
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Lacking her red, but the spitting image of Katherine Hepburn, in bone, bearing, and alertness in ease.
I guess one can read anything these days which has nothing to do with the disgusting politics and the slippery slope the nation is being dragged down on.
In the worst days before the dawn of fascism, feuilleton writers filled the pages of serious Viennese or Berlin papers with all sorts of diversions.
Why not Regan? Except sharing the name of Reagan’s Treasury Secretary, Chief if Staff and a former CEO of the now defunct Merrill Lynch, the dog looks adorable.
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If not for my 3 "adorable" Britany Spaniels, this middle-aged man would likely never have the pleasure of chatting with all the beautiful 20 something women prancing around my neighborhood in yoga pants. Makes all the dog food, vet bills, etc. well worth it.
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Just beautiful. DOG = GOD and not in a religious sense; just LOVE.
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Dogs (and cats) are wonderful for all the love and joy they bring, but there is two other qualities especially dogs have that are very useful is this day and age with all of its deep fakes and casual lies.
First, they don't dissemble. You know exactly where you stand with dogs; they don't treat you arbitrarily and won't treat you badly unless you have done something to deserve it.
Second, and related to the first, they are phenomenally good judges of character. This may have something to do with their amazing scent abilities, but I absolutely trusted my late husky's opinion of particular people--she always turned out to be right in the end.
It's no great secret that the current inhabitant of the Oval Office despises dogs. From what I hear, they don't like him very much, either. (Which only confirms my impression.)
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The same thing happens when you take Amtrak long distance trains. They are probably America's most patriotic institution, as people from across every conceivable spectrum meet as a community, and with no expectation of seeing each other again, people are open, honest, and will talk with rather than at each other. (Maybe that is why Washington is trying to destroy long-distance service.)
Hitchhiking provides much the same dynamic.
It seems only fair for my dog to stick in her two cents. As her paws have trouble with this keyboard, she has asked me to pass on the following.:
Woof !! Woof woof. Woof woof woof !
What a wonderful column you have written.
I am always surprised by the lessons that my dog, Max, a Westie age 12, has taught me.
l know that other dog owners have observed this many times before me. But the lesson must be learned personally.
Well, Max, as other dogs, lives by his sense of smell. And, when I leave out my dirty laundry, I often find him with his muzzle buried in the parts that contain the stinkiest smells.
My sense is that what smells bad to me contains a chemical message that makes Max feel good, possible secure, but surely some sense of acceptance of me, because of, not in spite of, the smell.
I love him so much for it.
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When my mom called me, she would always asks how is Walter? I sometimes protest that never asks how I was. She would say if Walter is okay you would be too! Walter was my golden retriever.
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Dogs are worth everything.
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I walk my dog four miles every day. This is by necessity as he is half ACD and requires a LOT of exercise.
He is a very striking dog and people stop their cars in the street to ask me about him. Workers stop what they are doing to pet him, and other people walking by stop and admire him. He of course revels in this attention-dogs aren't idiots and they know when they are being complimented.
My dog makes conversation easier and less forced. I spend an hour and a half outside every day regardless of the weather and I am a better person for it.
I see the good parts and bad parts of my community, and I meet all kinds of people.
In the end I my dog is not only my companion and sidekick, but a communication portal. He enhances my participation in the wider community.
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2 American Akitas - (135 LBS male and 100 LBS Female) but they are very territorial and very anti-squirrel, anti-rabbit, anti-possum. They are so far to the right, they are reactionaries.
Regan is such an adorable good doggo!
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Our dog is an excitable border collie/Australian cattle dog mix who barks at joggers, cyclists, and sometimes (worryingly) small children. We’re working on it. He’s generally very friendly and curious about absolutely everything. I adopted him less than a year ago, and appreciate how much smaller he’s made the city. Few can resist a cute puppy. And he is much more outgoing and sociable than his parents are.
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I love to read your columns because they help bring some sense and understanding of the often complicated issues we face each day. This column especially brings home the reason I love my adopted and gifted dogs. All the dogs in my life seemed to level the playing field and restore reality to mind and body. Not just mine, but my children too. We often altered plans when my daughters said “we won’t go if the dog couldn’t go.” The trips were better for the family with the dog along for the ride. Life was better too.
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Yes! Living on Boston (not the friendliest city), because of my dog, I know my neighbors who have dogs and are dog lovers. This would not be the case without my 11 1/2 lb cairn terrier and dachshund mix. She is so small and cute, that even people who do not stop to say "hello" often smile when we walk by. Dogs are the best!
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Let me add the sport of Pickleball to a list of activities that appear to draw people into a venue where friendships are quickly acquired and, when resting, conversations wander all over the place---rarely into political talk. What is interesting, that as a former tennis player--that sport was very exclusive and very competitive. There was no idle chatter on the court or sidelines, and, no resting with groups waiting for their turn--you played the prescribed number of sets at the right skill level---no talk, just play. I should add some of Pickleball players bring their dogs along, which, as pointed out in this article, adds another social dimension to off-court conversations.
Nice to see Mr. Bruni feeling optimistic about something! I am currently mourning my state of petlessness, but I will remedy that as soon as I can. So many pets are abandoned. If you can't have a permanent pet, you can volunteer at a shelter, foster a dog or cat, donate to the humane society.
Always spay and neuter!
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Nice pup!
Regan is an absolute darling!
A dog would never tweet classified satellite imagery.
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We've had a hard time in Northern California for humans and for animals. In the latest spate of wildfires no one asked for a political affiliation. We only wanted to save lives....of all kinds. It is important for us to understand our shared humanity and how we can help and defend each other. My favorite image is of a woman in a small car with her horse stuffed in the back seat, fleeing from firery destruction; no one ever asked about her politics or that of her colt.
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Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant - thank you. To quote John Steinbeck from “Travels with Charley,” “A dog is a bond between strangers.”
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Our old Golden "Indiana's" life is nearing the end. It was a fabulous 13 years... So wise and caring and... stuck up. Yes, he's a beauty with perfect manners, never barks or chases other dogs... he does have a strange fascination for tennis ball though. It's easy to go on about Indy... good nite by fellow dog lovers.
I hear you and pats to Indiana. My Sophie is a 13 year old border collie who is also on the decline. I try to console myself her arthritis is the result of a life well lived as we’ve hiked, biked, boated and driven thousands of miles together. Thanks Mr. Bruni for a lovely tribute and for spreading the word. Urban dog owners have recognized this value in their lives for years but it does seem especially vital for our country these days.
I love to read anything you write, Frank. You outdid yourself today; and boy did we all need it.
Dogs are O.K. but not on my front lawn, please.
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“Dogs are the meaning of life.”
Thank you so much for such true wisdom!
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Since Trump was briefly (the briefer, the better) mentioned, it may be noted that Trump is dogless, one of the rare presidents to be without, more evidence of his inhumanity altho one mutt in the White House is probably enough.
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When I saw the title, the first thing I thought of is that Trump hates dogs. My TDS must be getting to me.
I love this. I was thirsting for this. Thank you @FrankBruni
You need no apologies for writing about Regan-she deserves her fifteen minutes of fame.Dogs are a part of our politics but in a very tangential way.Who can forget Roosevelt”s “little dog Fala” or Richard Nixon’s “Checkers” or Barbara Bush’s “ Millie” and more recently Bo and Sunny who delighted visitors to the Obama White House.All Of These dogs made their owners warmer and more relatable.The White House without a pet is just an important building but not a warm and welcoming residence.Has anyone seen any pets roaming the White House during the Trump era? -it would be unthinkable!
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Cute pup!
I usually avoid reading Frank Bruni's column, because I usually disagree with him. Not this time. Even Maggie, our 9-year-old Standard Schnauzer, reacted to the column with a "Good Boy!"
The same thing happens when you take Amtrak long distance trains. They are probably America's most patriotic institution, as people from across every spectrum meet as a community, with no expectation of seeing each other again. People are open, honest, and will talk with rather than at each other. Maybe that is why Washington Amtrak's Delta C.E.O. is trying to destroy long-distance service.
Hitchhiking long distances is much the same.
It seems only fair for my dog to stick in her two cents. As her paws have trouble with this keyboard, she has asked me to pass on the following.:
Woof !! Woof woof. Woof woof woof !
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Trump doesn’t like dogs. That sums it all up
perfectly. Too bad for him. As one former president said “if you want a friend in Washington, get a dog.”
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Regan is 38 and 1/2 in dog years. Was she born in the US?
It may be worth noting, Trump does not have a dog.
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Awwwwww. Who's a good dog?
I grew up with dogs and cant spend a moment away from them. In a world of such extreme hate, it is refreshing to open my door and have unconstitutional love. To have someone nuzzle me when I am feeling down.
Even if you try to have a conversation with other dog walkers you encounter people who feel that they do not have to even be polite. Most of the better than everyone else are not even from NY but some unknown city but they are better than everyone else. Tis a shame to be ignorant
New York City has a surplus of entitled fools and walking a dog doesnt make then human just more obnoxious.
A lovely column Frank---thank you from all of us who appreciate dogs and how intuitively they understand their humans.
I laughed out loud at "mutt and switch" but the most hilariously descriptive and mellifluous sentence I've read in an op-ed in ages has to be:
"When you’re about to bend down and scoop up your beloved’s odoriferous bequest, there’s no snobbery and no timidity, only solidarity." Write-on!
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Frank Bruni’s columns are wonderful!
Dogs make everything and everybody better. Woof.
Better dogs than gods.
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Spell Dog backwards. There you have it, unconditional love.
Dogs are a common denominator, like the ocean. We are all equal before them.
Dogs rule, humans drool.
If there are no dogs in heaven, then when I die, I want to go where the dogs go...... Will Rogers
Another LOLA (Little Old Lady Alone) with a cat - but this is about DOGS. I love walking with a friend and her husky/who-knows-what pooch, and there's nothing quite like the apolitical socialising with almost everyone, we can barely walk down the street without being stopped, all types, from kids to the homeless. IMHO larger dogs are best - not so far to bend down to pat and awesome for the very young - it is an extraordinary thing to bond over a large soft eyed Heinz 57 variety...whose very creation was democratic and is available to everyone at the shelter. .
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How many of the candidates have dogs?
Trump No
Warren Yes
Bennet Yes
Bullock. Yes
Others?
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I just got adopted a little unwanted French bulldog and I have a yes
Hi, Frank. The nature of your Regan appears to be nothing like that of Shakespeare's Regan. (See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Regan_(King_Lear).) Next time you're in Austin, you might want to check out the Auditorium Shores Dog Park if you haven't already done so. It's just a tad west of Lady Bird Lake, Ann Richards bridge, and the Stevie Ray Vaughan statue. Dogs jump off a pier to retrieve balls from the river while owners chat. My granddog, Luna, socializes but won't jump off the pier. However, she challenges all comers to outrun her. Haven't seen her lose yet.
A dog under every congressional desk! Should do the trick. Relax some of that Pardison stress and anxiety.
I loved this! When I first moved to the Bronx from Mississippi in 1983,I was lucky enough to have Max, a German Shepherd mix rescue. He was my buddy that allowed me to go to parks, meet people and not be scared witless!!! He was always with me. One night after dropping a friend off, I got completely lost. It was midnight, in an area of the Bronx I was totally unfamiliar with - but because I had Max, I knew I was safe (and eventually figured out how to get on the Deegan and get home! Then there was Samantha - my vet called her a Disney dog because of her beautiful, long, yet fluffy hair. She and I visited my Mother every weekend when she was in the hospital. She knew to be gentle when we visited. I now have a Yorkie-Poo, Ginger V. She is the fifth as she was my Mother’s 5th dog and she named them all Ginger. When Mom was unable to care for her after her first year, she became mine. I am lucky enough to take her to work everyday! I am a therapist in private practice - she knows how to be there, be supportive and yet not intrusive to my clients. She somehow knows who needs a toy dropped in front of them (this has only happened once but to someone who needed it), and other times she knows to just be a loving presence in the room. I find in the office building, EVERYONE knows her name - mine, not so much, but it doesn’t matter, there is a wonderful connection because of Ginger. Mr.Bruni, I’ve been a fan of yours for years, but this is my favorite!!!
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Frank, we have a dog named “Libby” (short for Liberty) that was a rescue. She is definitely a Border Collie but is an exact copy of your pet. She’s even got on the same collar! Sounds like the same personality, too. She doesn’t tolerate cats, though!
Our coonhound Daisy Mae came from Kentucky and ended up in the women’s prison rescue program. Our neighbors hear her distinctive howl and refer to her as “the Truro wake up call, and may forget our names but all remember hers. We like to tell her all in all things worked out pretty well for her
What’s happened to us? Can we no longer walk a woodland trail, stroll a quiet beach, gaze upon wildlife, be lost in our own thoughts, reflections and memories - - without a dog? Without its incessant pooping and peeing wherever it decides, without our need to have it off-leash because it needs to run, without fattening the wallets of the burgeoning pet industry, without feeding it gourmet chow when children are starving in our country? Sure, many people need and benefit from dogs, but many more may just need a life.
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You had your dog's DNA tested?
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You can't measure the love of your dogs they give it back thousand times, my journey in life have seen many times throughout the years dogs golden retrievers five of them from spunky, Max, Jake, Bruno and gizmo.
I was sick last year and how my dogs gave CPR they went to my side on the ground licking me in the face all around me barking I haven't seen so much affection that day from dogs they were worried about my well-being.
And when you feel sad sitting in my chair or upset my dogs are by my side , wanting pat on her head, telling me everything will get better thank you God for wonderful creature.
Dogs are great. But don’ t forget to tax such a luxury, please. In most circumstances they’re a guilty pleasure, and one not without a substantial ecological and carbon footprint. No issue with dogs, but I. An overcrowded world ruined by humans dogs are the mascot to our own recklessness.
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What a heartfelt display of social intercourse (yes, it includes us humans too, if willing). Although personally dog-less, but with family members having multiple dogs, I can appreciate the intrinsic value of having man's 'best friend' you can trust your most intimate moments...and know you have your back covered, and always with a smile and tail-clapping upon your arrival. But, even while walking around, one must be blind and deaf not to appreciate the emotional exchange of dog talk and human relationships, dormant before, come alive thereafter, and hereafter, to our relief of so much daily unrelieved stress...that disappears as per magic. Magic indeed.
I'm 65 and got my first dog five years ago. It's the best thing that I've done other than getting married. Now to my point. I didn't get married until I was 44 and of course felt the wrath of my parents and friends for being single so long. I'm fully convinced that if I had a dog when I as in my 20's I would have been married so much sooner. When I'm outside with Rudy (my handsome and regal miniature poodle) the amount of strangers and acquaintances with dogs that I converse with is just amazing. I would have easily met the right woman so much sooner. My advice to every lonely single person, get a dog.
Nice love letter to a dog and its social contacts.
But not everywhere in the world do dogs bring unalloyed benefits.
Like cats, they are getting some bad press.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/the_americas/the-dog-is-one-of-the-worlds-most-destructive-mammals-brazil-proves-it/2019/08/19/c37a1250-a8da-11e9-8733-48c87235f396_story.html
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Dogs are expensive and having one signifies that you have the money for yearly vet bills, doggie day care if you work during the day, making arrangements if you go away for even one night, etc. This country has gone barmy with dog love while humans get treated worse than dogs. I had a pit bull for fourteen years and I adored her, but she didn't turn my brain to mush. Don't get me started on the plague of unleashed, untrained dogs that infest my local park. The cat, on the other hand, is a civilized animal that will sit with you quietly and purr while you study and improve your mind.
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Your best piece on our walled society ever. And there's a dog in it too.
Always love you Frank and now your darling Regan.
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What an insignificant topic for a column when there are so many terrible problems in the world. I read it while my Sadie is looking at me- her eyes are just the color of caramel- with her nose two inches from my slipper. She’s a rescue hound dog who.....Um, what was I saying? I lost my point.
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Yes yes yes yes yes! I work as a professional dog walker in NYC and I keep saying to my wife, “Dogs can unify us all.” People of all beliefs are dedicated to their dogs. The unconditional love of the dogs and cats who live with us ripples out to everyone around. I have great conversations with other dog people whose other views are opposite of mine.
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Andrea R, how on Earth do you professionals manage eight, ten, twelve dogs? I go batty trying to manage four.
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@Andrea R
Thank for mentioning cats, who do not seem to get enough recognition in this paper.
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@Andrea R
So glad you mentioned cats. Admittedly they don’t usually get you out and about like dogs, but they get us out of ourselves
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Animals keep us human, period.
Regan is a beauty and she is posing like a supermodel. That's all I've got
I say never trust anyone in the Oval Office who doesn't have a love for dogs. 'Nuff said!
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For the first time I can remember, there is no White House pooch.
That tells you all you need to know about Trumpian values.
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Genesis 155:3: God put dogs onto the earth to encourage people to mingle. Just as Frank suggests. Do you ever wonder about why dog spelled backward is... I digress.
Thank you, Mr. Bruni. And please give Regan an extra biscuit for me.
Has the current occupant of the White House ever owned a dog? If not, I blame his parents for our sad civic state.
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Donald Trump doesn't have a dog. Just saying.
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I bark my approval!
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It's a radical act.
Smile and say hi to anyone who walks past you. Dog or not.
Eye contact.
Smile.
Maybe you and I aren't so scary after all.
But, caution too.
Women know men get the wrong impression sometimes. What a pain. Stupid men.
I just think we can do better.
As for dogs, I like 'em well enough.
But, remember they are the number one cause of neighborhood noise disturbance.
In countless neighborhoods.
When ours barks for even 15 seconds outside, we're on it.
No way! Get in here!
If you leave yours out all day or, all night, (hope not!) you care little about your neighborhood and less about your dog.
And, you don't deserve to have either.
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@Paul King - You must live in a better neighborhood. While the dogs in my building are out of control bark-all-day beasts (ever hear the dog next door bark all day long on a Thanksgiving) they are quiet compared to a single-mom's "baby-daddy" who yell and scream in the parking lot until people from across the street come out onto their balconies to see who is going to start shooting. It quieted down after the U.S. Marshalls came and arrested the woman leaving the man behind.
You’ll never see Trump or McConnell with a dog. No dog would have them.
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Your dog is lovely, Hubbell.
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I’m sure most people didn’t get that, but I laughed out loud!
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Every morning, Obama cleaned up after Bo, and the country knew it had its common man and family in the White House.
No one cleans up after Trump, and look where we are.
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I love you , Frank Bruni.
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Pets are wonderful things.
Dogs are human's best friends.
....as one of the most petless Administration and petless Presidents in American history continue to run us into inhumane ground.
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/politics/trump-is-the-first-petless-president-since-the-1800s/ar-BBTzBL5
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MASSIVE dog lover here. I feel at a cellular level and know to be true every bit of Frank's description of community and barrier breakdown dogs make possible.
Our dogs are 10 and 9. In the past decade, there has been a force at work in my town to be narrow and punitive about where dogs are allowed and how. A decade ago we could gather, let the dogs romp -- jaw-jousting to their hearts content. We could walk with them off leash just about anywhere on trails. Vibrant. Friendship. Fun. Not now.
Signs everywhere that dogs are prohibited, or must be leashed at all times. Why? Everyone picks up the doo. It's not like the town ever was awash in dog excrement. Dog owners are responsible souls. I know, as I've lived here for 30+ years.
The ease and the friendship was good for man and beast. But like so much in our society, the "powerful" think they must control us peons lest we and the dogs run amok.
Irony is, this is in Lexington, Massachusetts home of our country's Revolution and the fight for liberty and freedom. Alas, it's become a small punitive place getting more and more devoid of trust and graciousness between citizens and neighbors. Our dogs are the canaries in the coal mine of a growing lack of civility here, a place where it once flourished.
Central Park dog life is one of life’s great gifts. Where else can you spend time with all types of people and dogs in good will and cooperation? Doggies uber alles
I’d lived in the same subdivision for 12 years and neither my husband nor I had taken the times to interact with let alone learn the names of our neighbors, until Jaxx. Jaxx is our 12 pound Yorkie Poo who brings joy wherever he goes. Since the adoption we’ve met neighbors and have been generally more engaged and aware of the goings on in our neighborhood. When Jaxx and I are in parks or other places I’ve had random conversations with people from all walks of life and I’ve enjoyed it more than I would’ve ever guessed. Perhaps it’s time for America to deploy a Pet Corps that will go around bridging divides and bringing us together.
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Frank, beautiful in all respects - but have you considered changing Regan's name to Barry or Barack ?
Hi Frank,
Please give Regan a hug for us from Lynchburg VA.
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There’s a reason why this narcissistic misanthrope presently occupying our White House does not have a First Dog, or two. Then again, would the D.C. Chapter of the A.S.P.C.A. respond to a complaint of ongoing animal abuse occurring at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue?
Pretty dog!
Frank, lucky you and lucky Regan. From reading your columns, I'm not surprised you are a dog lover.
Regan for president 2020!
As my Southern colonel of a father used to say, "Dogs are good people."
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What a beautiful doggy ! Can I pet him?
He is so adorable !
The common scene of the most profound stupidity in the USA .
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"And technology both speeds us to people who think precisely as we do and filters out anyone who might challenge us. We can click, scroll, sweep, share, like and favorite our way into a meticulously tailored and reliably validating tribe. There’s no real surprise, no true spontaneity, no actual serendipity."
It's all okay if you live with and around smart multi-cultural people -Like in blue states.
Once descending into red state rural areas no dog on earth can save you from thei rimplacable ignorant inane and ignorant inbred racist certitude which is ground zero for American dystopia.
Sixteen years ago I wrote an essay called “How To Bury A Dog” in an obscure magazine loved by analysts and new age types. I have been ripped off by movie producers and stalked and had my life threatened by animal rights and anti-abortion fanatics ever since. I never published using my name again. Go at it, BRUNI.
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You made my morning, Frank. As I was reading this, Gus, our 7-month-old Bernedoodle, was enjoying his bowl of kibble. We’ve met so many new people since he joined our family. A wet nose on the back of a stranger’s calf is a great conversation starter.
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I’m remembering some old cartoon in which dogs and owners bore a humorous similarity. Funny, because it’s true. Canines are the ultimate mirrors; we see in them our best (if selfish) selves. We impart to them human traits which we divine without the benefit or distraction of language.
Dogs are Man’a best friend because they never argue..at least not on a philosophical level. Our true relationship with them is based on highest order needs. Perhaps stripping relationships down to the fundamentals of shelter, water, food, and physical companionship is great exercise for us to improve our lot with other sentient beings too.
“Hey brother, can you spare a poop bag”, feels like small beer given the current state of American life. But hey...all forward motion is progress. We can’t afford to wait any longer. We desperately need to seize every opportunity to remember and practice what truly makes America great. At a physical or metaphysical level picking up the poop is a good a place as any to make a start.
Politics has polluted our culture. The time has long passed to put Washington DC back on a leash...and perhaps a muzzle.
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When my husband declared that we ought to get a dog, I cried. I didn’t cry because I always hoped for a dog, I cried because after years of parenting I saw the crushing wave of responsibility approaching. We were on the crest of being empty nesters for God’s sake! Wait!? WHAT? But now, 3.5 years later? I actually know the first and last names of most, if not all of my neighbors. We have lived here for fifteen years. We live in a city suburban neighborhood. There are no sidewalks. It was the fifties when this neighborhood was conceived and constructed. It was the American Dream to have an attached garage and a backyard. No more sidewalks and front porches. No more neighborly greetings. Just pop the car into the garage and shut the door! Thank you, Cooper Noodle. Thank you for bringing us into the fold, for showing us true companionship.
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My eight-year old dog takes me for a walk four times each day. I can count on one hand the days when someone did NOT pet her and say a kind word. She really adds joy to this world. I'm privileged to know her.
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I went from the poverty line to a six-figure income in the space of a few short years and I still live in a high-crime, impoverished area. I did get dogs, but so far they haven’t helped me make any social inroads with people at my new income level. The people who interact with me because of my dogs are the same poor people I’ve always interacted with, and poor people tend to interact a lot. I doubt I will ever move to an upscale environment and discover the malaise this column is referring to. But Regan looks like a good girl.
Congratulations on joining the ranks of dog people. Though I grumble when I have to walk my dogs in miserable weather, it does step me out of screen existence into nature, and into the pleasure of meeting other people. Dogs are consistently charming, calming, affectionate, and funny; memories of my first dog still make me smile. Please consider a new cultural development in dog ownership; two dogs are better than one. Walking two dogs is slightly more challenging, but it's worth it because having a buddy will make your dog less lonely and anxious, and you may save another dog's life in the process. Watching two dogs playing together, or snoozing side by side, is sheer contentment. Viva la dog park!
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I've found a stronger sense of community in our local dog park than anywhere else I've been. People talk to each other while the dogs play. It is the highlight of our day.
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My husband and I are Smiley’s pack. When my dog walker 75-year-old husband prepares to walk Smiley she rushes to my side licking and nuzzling me often successful in getting me to join in. At meal times she lies between our chairs. At bedtime she rushes her stuffed puppies onto the foot of the bed and we retire together. It’s always a great homingcoming with her there to joyfully greet us. SpeedyJane the cat waits at the door beside Smiley then immediately turns her back on us to walk off into cat oblivion. We’ve always had dogs and cats, but only in retirement have we become grateful pack animals.
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This column makes me wish I still lived on the UWS. Visiting the north end of Central Park every morning was my favorite part of the day. And although I am a birder and not a dog walker, I thoroughly enjoyed my relationships with the dogs and their people on the Great Hill.
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Chilli Pepper is our 9 year old Cairn Terrier, she is beautiful, she invites many comments and encounters. Her name charms everyone, and she rolls over when anyone engages with her.
She is the love of our lives.. Our previous Cairn died at the age of 17, we were heart broken, and our lovely neighbour arranged for the adoption of Chilli Pepper, a fortuitous set of circumstances. Chilli Pepper landed in our laps and our hearts.
WE are respectively 79 and 89 years old, she gets us out four times a day, and has facilitated all kinds of pleasant encounters. She is the light of our lives
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@Lolita
bless you
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I have no pets, but in the spring I adopted a small patch of bare earth on my Upper West Side block and began to garden. The flowers demand more than a little TLC, and I’ve found myself chatting with strangers who happen upon my minuscule effort toward brightening the block. I didn’t expect pleasant conversation with strangers as a side benefit — but there it is as I water and weed. Thank you, Frank Bruni, for casting a whole new light on this kind of impromptu outdoor interplay. Maybe a new mantra for those us of a certain age should be “DO talk to strangers.”
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@Fred DuBose
Have no domesticated pets, either, Fred. But I have gardens, a small pond with frogs. Also rabbits, a couple of foxes, and a herd of deer. As we (the critters and I) have regular conversations, they are not a bit afraid of me as evidenced by their ability to devour plants without the least bit of hesitation as we converse.
If I had a dog, I'd call her Wagatha--Waggy, Wags and the Wagster interchangeably.
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@Pinesiskin If you've been that lucky I should try talking with my flowers. Wasn't communicating with plants a 'thing' a few decades ago?
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@Fred DuBose
Yes. I am a member of a community garden in my apartment complex, and we have built very nice friendships around our mutual passion for gardening. People from all over the world are memnbers, which just adds to the interest of different vegetables being grown, and shared. We water for each other when we are out of town. It's a really wonderful little community.
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We lost our beloved older dog two weeks ago. He appointed himself my guardian through my bouts of prolonged illness - he would under lie beside me watching alertly, occasionally putting a lion-sized paw on my frail leg or arm, only with the lightness of a feather. Dogs represent the best of us - loving, funny, loyal, intuitive, forgiving. There are plenty of people I like but very few I like more than my dogs. I am so glad you rescued Regan but I suspect, in the end, you may feel like she rescued you as well.
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@We Shall Overcomb so sorry you lost your beloved pup.
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Bill Murray said, “I’m suspicious of people who don’t like dogs, but I trust a dog when it doesn’t like a person.”
I’m glad you’re part of the pack Frank. Everybody would find their place in the pack and act appropriately. There’s room for everyone.
My dog and I are a therapy dog team. We were certified two years ago and volunteer at a children’s hospital. My job is really just to drive the car and hold the leash. She does all the work and is very perceptive at figuring who needs attention, what kind of attention, and how much attention. She doesn’t discriminate because of any of the patients’ attributes. Not race, not religion, not size, not physical deformity or injury. She’s ready to address every person in exactly the same way. With love and respect.
It’s very rewarding to me because I see the impact she has on the people we visit. I don’t think another person, not even a doctor, can get the same results. Even the staff benefits. I can’t imagine what the children, their families, or the medical professionals are going through except that it’s difficult.
If people feel better after we visit, the it’s worth every minute.
People aren’t going to behave like dogs and shouldn’t, but we could all learn something by watching them.
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@Steve Ell
Then I think the very people you need to be more acquainted with are those very people. Shouldn't they be part of your conversation as well? Some of them may have had bad experiences.
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@Steve Ell
I don't like dogs, does that make me someone to be suspicious of ? Not everyone is canine crazy ! For me,
dogs are too needy. A cat, however, can be left home alone for a weekend with nothing more than the basics
and (if it's a well behaved cat) will be perfectly fine and probably asleep in the same spot as when its owner left.
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In 2000, Robert Putnam's now-classic book about "social capital", Bowling Alone, traced the deterioration of American communitarianism but never mentioned the presence of dogs as catalysts that bring people together. Lisa Wood at the University of Western Australia corrected this a few years later and found that people with pets trust their neighbors more, feel safer, vote more often, use public spaces more frequently, and have more social capital. Frank Bruni's observations are spot-on about the amazing power of pets to bring people together: a dog is a conversation waiting to happen.
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Nice column.
I live in the mountains in rural Boulder (CO) county, and walk my adopted dog an hour daily on county dirt roads, forest service roads, and trails, and have countless conversations with people I run into, some with dogs and some not, and have had the same conversations and experiences that Bruno describes.
This morning, my girlfriend and I (aging hippies in our sixties) and our dog were coming down from our daily walk up the 9000-foot peak that we live on the shoulder of, on a dirt road that gets one car every 5-10 minutes, and the county sheriff's deputy driving his truck down behind us, stopped and struck up a conversation--I honestly believe with no other agenda than to be friendly with someone he'd seen (with the dog) several times, as I'd seen him, and he had surmised we lived nearby. We had a pleasant conversation about various local issues (rain, wildlife, compliance with fire bans, homeless encampments, how his workload increases over Labor Day weekend). Something I sort of knew, but now I know in spades, is how thinly stretched law enforcement and USFS rangers are over a huge terrain. Boulder County is enormous extending from the suburbs of northwest Denver to the top of 14,259-foot summit of Longs Peak in Rocky Mtn National Park, and there are only two deputies for the 56-mile long stretch of mountain Boulder County. A conversation I probably would not have had at Whole Foods or the yoga studio, and that left me with sympathy and affection for him.
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@John National Forests are a gift to America and thank you to those that work on their behalf. Just for those, outside of Colorado, I'll be hiking to "Bison Peak Monolith" in the Terryall Mountains this September with my Great Dane and doing an overnight (I hope folks Google it). While not overly religious, I call it "going to church" and will be doing an overnight to ponder the stars under moonlight. And yes, dogs bring out the best in humanity, they both protect and civilize.
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I adopted my dog 12 years ago, and my life has been enriched every day by the idle conversations with strangers (who admire her). I meet my neighbours, some who have dogs, others who do not. We don't go deep, but we share our humanity. I might add that dogs provide great models for human behaviour most of the time.
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As someone who just adopted a four-year-old Yorkie who was used as a breeder in a puppy mill, I can tell you the greatest asset of a dog--all love, no talk. Oh, she communicates for sure, but with profound and absolute sincerity. What a refreshing change from humanity.
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@Fester
The best part is you obviously know how to listen to her. This from a long lived dog lover. Thank you!
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brevity is beautiful . and generous.
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Seven years ago I adopted a one-year old Westie who had been rescued from a puppy mill. Ruby changed my life in more ways than you can imagine, but especially how I engage with people. I had lived in the same house for 20 years. But I’m a bit of an introvert, so before Ruby I only knew the neighbours on both sides me and across the street. After Ruby, I know many people within our 12-block hood, and they know us.
Dogs are people magnets. Everybody wants to talk to you when you walk a dog. I’m biased but I think Ruby’s cuteness and her sweet, calm, nature makes her even more compelling. They ask about her breed... “Isn’t that the dog in the Cesar dog food commercial?” Women (and some men) often comment on how adorable she is. Toddlers want to pet the puppy. University students talk about the dog they’re missing back home. Seniors tell you wistfully about dogs they had a long time ago, and how much they miss them. Even street people who can seem scary, soften in her presence. They stop to pet her. Next thing you know, you’re having a conversation. Some of these people have become my friends over the years.
Three months ago my sweet Ruby was diagnosed with cancer and is palliative. She has lived longer with this than the vets expected and I know we don’t have many days left. I only hope that when she goes it will be painless and peaceful, and that I will continue to go out and walk and engage with people like she taught me.
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@Khoy
You sound like such a kind and loving person. I’m sorry for the illness of your beloved pet and wish you understanding and kindness from everyone in the coming difficult days.
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@Khoy
Westies are the BEST! Our third is now an old man....All three have been such great dogs.
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@Khoy
Ruby sounds so very sweet. Hoping you both enjoy her last days and that the ending is loving and peaceful with you there to hold and comfort her.
Yes, we learn so much from our canine companions.
After 9/11 I used to take our rescue dog down to talk to the workers who were taking breaks from dealing with the ruins of the Twin Towers. They enjoyed seeing a tiny bit of normal life. Dogs enrich our lives.
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Hear, hear! I've had a series of rescue mutts who have done more for me than all the care I lavished on them. All three had the telepathic senses Mr. Bruni describes. My children called my last angel my "Dog Wife" -- which I hope will not be construed as PC impertinent because I adored her almost that way. I lost her to a canine cancer last year and miss and grieve for her still. I've put on weight and am spending too much time alone. Now I'm thinking there's another pooch out there who needs me as much as I need her -- or him. Great column.
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@Sam Kitt - Yes! Yes, Sam, there is another one out there, waiting for you. I think it’s a testament to your deceased dog that you can find love in your heart for another canine companion. Each dog has their own cute ways and quirks and funny behaviors. And, they live to love!
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I understand everything you're saying, Sam Kitt.
But the quickest way to get over the loss of a dog (or cat) is to get another one, pronto. It won't wipe out your good memories, but it will fill a gap - and heaven knows there are LOTS of dogs who need a good home.
You'd be doing both of you a favour.
p.
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@Sam Kitt Please find your pooch, Sam. She or he is waiting for you right now!
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city dogs are friendly and social and play well with others -- they use sidewalks. make way for others, stop and sniff, and exchange pleasantries. suburban dogs are possessive and fearful and guard their yards and bark at strangers.
city digs are blue.
suburban dogs are red.
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@No name
Such callow
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@No name Sorry you felt the need to turn an uplifting and enfolding article that let us grasp something good, both animal and human, into another political divide and bring us back down to earth with a bang. You might like to find a dog to expand your emotional horizons.
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Beautiful and needed, Frank. Thanks.
Now my dog story: Pedro and Pierre are Bicheon Frise'. Named because the breed originated in the mountains between France and Spain. Pierre, 3 months older (both adopted on then same day) is smaller but still the alpha dog, and I have given him the persona you see in my identifier, for he writes for me.
The initials are very useful when we meet strangers in the park and they ask the dog's names. Pierre's B.F. is pretty obvious, I say, and his W.S. , when I explain it, is a great conversation-starter. For it means White Supremacist, and I say that if they don't believe it they should ask Pedro. Great discussions follow.
And for a morning attitude adjustment, go to the Twitter feed "Thought of Dog." Guaranteed to help.
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Besides liking your column a lot, I am just going to say that Regan is a sweetie. :-)
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Really nice looking dog. Can’t say I think as much about the columnist or the depth of thought or writing.
I want to wager in Vegas that Bruni will never see that this column is but the latest iteration of exactly the indulgent thinking that led Bruni to help sell Bush to Americans a sin for which Bruni will never man up.
If Regan were truly telepathic, she would be able let you know how ugly she thinks that pink collar is.
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Just Yes!
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This column was eye-opening in a way I hadn't expected. When the president was elected he promised to do his duty in the Oval Office. Now we know he meant something that rhymes with duty, and that requires a large supply of bags be ever at hand.
Who knew?
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Bravo!
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Did everyone notice that, with the exception of one tin foil hat wearing soul, nobody ranted about this column or went off at a weird tangent? More dog and cat columns please. In fact I move Regan write one a month.
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Welcome to the doggie community!
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DOG is GOD spelled backwards.
What more needs to be said? :)
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At our local Long Island dog park, people of vastly different political opinions manage to get along pretty well -- provided our dogs are getting along! The most significant source of conflict is an owner's failure to pick up the poop.
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I for one am worn out on "dogs". They have sucked all the air out of the city.
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I hate to bring up the dog versus the cat debate, but I must, for I don’t have a dog but I do live with two cats, an old one and a younger one, Velma and Wag. They bring me happiness.
Velma was picked up as a kitten from the Humane Society in Salt Lake City. Wag was found on my front porch, a wild, scared, ball of gray fur.
Velma is wise. Old age allows her to view the world slowly. She has seen it all. She loves to taunt Wag. Wag, a survivor, named after Wag Dodge, the smokejumper famous for surviving the Mann Gulch forest fire in Montana, tries to put up with Velma’s put-downs.
I hear the roar as dog lover’s whine to complain against cats. Cats kill birds. They are brutal murderers of robins and sparrows. Cats only love themselves.
Wag and Velma have killed and seem to be narcissists. They have killed little birds. John Audubon shot birds; he killed them so he could paint them. Jet planes suck birds into their engines. Fred Koch, father of the Koch brothers, died of a heart attack while duck hunting in Utah. Everyone seems to kill birds.
My two cats give me solace. I talk to Wag and Velma.
Hemingway, surely “a man’s man,” talked to cats. Read the chapter in “Islands in the Stream” where Hem has a long philosophical talk with his cat, Boise.
There is room in the world for Regan, Wag and Velma. They can make us less insane.
Wag just jumped up onto the table. With inquisitive cat eyes, he asked, “Tell me, what are you doing?" I will tell him about Regan.
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"... a man, well, he'll walk right into Hell with both eyes open. But even the Devil can't fool a dog!"
from The Twilight Zone episode "The Hunt"
Written by Earl Hamner, Jr.
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There’s good and bad to everything. I do appreciate the good mentioned in this article. But my own dog experiences are bad. I actually avoid the park I used to spend time jogging in. I now do my four runs a week on the streets surrounding the park because after repeat attacks by unleashed dogs and the subsequent arguments with their owners who are violating the leash laws, I gave up. I’ve seeing young children reduced to tears after being knocked over by stranger’s dogs and someone always ends up with dog poop on them during the soccer match. Most memorable was the guy who seemed to really enjoy watching his wolf look-a-like hound terrorize kids trying to launch there model plane. He wouldn’t leash the dog even after it had destroyed the plane (He did get the dog leashed before the police arrived). And then there is this: https://www.deerbusters.com/blogdogs-becoming-threat-to-wildlife/
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A sweet story by a sweet man. However, The Dogs of New York are not sweet. They are generally poorly trained and poorly handled and as a result behave poorly. I have seen horrible dog fights in Central Park because some owners thought their dogs should be off leash. I’ve also seen small dogs get attacked by large dogs. I have seen countless piles of small poop and large poop left in the middle of the city’s side walks. Evidently the words curb your dog are lost on the owners. The owners need training just as much as the dogs. I’m sorry to rain on the outdoor dog show but the dog owners of NYC need to get their leashes together and tighten up their behavior and their dogs behavior. Likewise, our president needs to tighten up and behave himself as well. Any home training was lost on him, he needs a refresher course and numerous reminders, just like all those dog owners in NYC.
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We've had numerous rescues in the last 30 years, including two AKC registered pups (Lab and Doberman) and a discarded kitten that jumped out of the woods at our 3 dogs as we walked (Lab, Doberman mix and our 'Fluff Butt'). Nervy little thing lived 20 years indoors and out. We live in the country and have this bounty in our own land: grass, large trees and a pond. We have no need of poop bags and our walks are not much use in socializing except that dog loving will out and we share photos of our furry friends at work or on line. All my pets have enriched me till cat allergies and the needs of our bird sanctuary intervened. Now it is just the ill behaved but friendly to all Doberman (he hunts and eats toads and is not perfectly house trained) and our 'AKC registered Mongriel' who seeks people out. What touched me was my immediate urge to share this link with my recently departed suburban sister and BFF who had to be guided away from animal shelters as did Greek sailors from the Sirens. Toby will miss her.
Yeah but what’s this thing about bringing dogs to retail stores? I was at Lowe’s Hardware the other day and saw at least twenty dogs. Two of them got into a fight. Saw one at Costco the other day. This all started with the absurd “comfort” dog on the airplane scam and it has devolved from there. Hey folks, your dog is great but don’t bring it to a store or airport where many other people are not interested in interacting with your pet or seeing it poop in the middle of a grocery store.
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@Cliff - Here in Seattle I have even seen restaurants have dog bowls inside for their patrons and they are welcomed. I won't eat at those places but they are welcomed. I have already been bitten by a dog at a coffee shop and my then 2 year old was told it was okay to pet the dog 'cause "he doesn't bite". As she reached to pet the dog, he grabbed her left wrist and would not let go for a while. The owner was shocked, he said, just shocked!
I was happy to walk into my grocery store recently and see a big sign stating that at the first of the year, ONLY bona-fide service dogs would be allowed in. Comfort dogs were mentioned and will be banned.
Now, if the stores can just ban the snotty nosed kids playing tag in the aisles, there will be peace on earth.
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As always, eloquent, spot on and moving. I’m a dog- lover and am hoping to adopt a furbaby this coming year. I’ve been weighing the pros and cons , and your piece is tipping the scale strongly towards the “pro” column. I was especially touched by what you’d written about dogs taking us out of ourselves ( paraphrasing, obviously). And should my future fur ball and I ever be lucky enough to run into you and Regan at the dog park, I’d be happy to offer you a poop bag!! Thank you.
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Woof ! Woof woof. Woof woof woof !
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@Steve Fankuchen
I agree!! LOL!!
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I love the mutt-and-switch tactic, Mr. Bruni! That said, the mutt part was beautiful in its own right!
I've had dogs and cats both over the course of my life. Two years ago I lost two cats I adored--both in the same year. The pain of losing them was amplified by the terrible Trump presidency--yes.
Anyway, to me, dogs are pets who are eager to work for you, and as a friend once said, they often look worried, as if you might fire them. Cats? Get real! You work for them. Both console the heart and soul, and pleasure of all pleasures is to pet and hug and sleep side-by-side with either of them--a lot.
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What a wonderful and timely piece. I tried to read it to my Belgian shepard, Greta. She tried to take my tablet and hide it.
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Every time solo walkers pass one another in the park without acknowledging each other's presence, I am reminded that dogs are the superior species. If dogs don't "say hello" upon passing, they at least make eye contact:-)
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Sorry, but after decades of relentless sex harassment while walking on the sidewalks of NYC, I learned to avoid eye contact with (male) strangers.
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So true! When I take my dog to the dog park in my rural very conservative county, I've had all kinds of friendly interchanges, such as about gun regulation with gun lovers--smiling interchanges after talking about our dogs.
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I love dogs too, but given the substantial time and money required, it seems dog ownership may increasingly be a trapping of privilege. Discuss.
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@Frank M
Of course you can buy your dog $100 bags of dog food, fancy collars and leashes, and get them groomed at fancy places.
Dogs don't care about these status symbols-they are equally happy with a nylon collar and a $1 pet tag. They are equally ecstatic with the cheap nylon leash you get off the hook in preparation for a walk. And they will be equally miserable at the self serve washing tub at Pet Supplies+.
Dogs force you to find time for them. For most people that time already exists, they just don't realize it. You get a dog and suddenly you do find time to walk them and play with them and talk to them. Dogs intertwine themselves in our life in amazing ways.
Vet bills are a real expense, but even there are low cost clinics available.
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@Frank M;
I have yet to hear anyone, until now, connect dog ownership to 'privilege'. Anybody, and just about everybody, can and does own a dog these days across all socioeconomic classes.
And by privilege are you specifically referring to 'white privilege'?
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I live in a town dominated by commuters to a nearby college town and where the is a large salt mine. The truckers (red) often treat the state highway as an extension of the salt mine and that often leads to conflict with the commuters (blue).
The other day I passed one of these trucks rolling down the state highway at 25mph, which generated the typical angry response from the trucker.
Two miles down the road was a White Newfoundland, standing in the middle of the highway in a rainstorm. He was lost and asking for help. I stopped to recover him and get him to safety. While I was doing that I noticed the traffic had stopped ... 1/4 mile up the road the once angry trucker had seen, and blocked all traffic. But that was not all, later as I got the large soaking dog into the car, another truck stopped traffic again. Clearly the first trucker had sent out a radio beacon telling others to help mind the situation.
It was at that moment I realized the dog had cut thru all the human nonesense. Everyone was aligned and united in common purpose. America is not as divided as we might think. It takes no more than lost dog to get us all on the same side.
Later I was able to help the dog find home. That was one smart puppy, he knew how to ask for help and he got plenty of it.
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@deanx Good on you!
We had a similar experience in which a divided highway was choked off in both directions by cars whose drivers joined together to protect a dog running along, crossing the median and back. Finally someone was able to capture it, and we were all waving and cheering. It still makes me feel good.
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Thank you for your consistent advice to venture out from what is familiar and comfortable, to reach out to someone who may be different from yourself. Hearing you speak the same message to the Middlebury college students last January, I thanked you then and now for being.
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Nice, I love dogs too. More articles like this would be nice as well.
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Yes. This is also very true in Seattle. For me a trip to the dog park is resetting my humanity. Long ago, dogs helped feed us food. Now they can also lead us back to community. If we let them.
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The public square is disappearing because of air conditioning, Amazon and modern electronic devices. People are living most of their lives in their homes with very little need to go outside.
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The public square is disappearing because of air conditioning, Amazon and modern electronic devices. People are living most of their lives in their homes with very little need to go outside.
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Beautiful thoughts!
I was always afraid of dogs,growing up.Until I was cajoled into getting one when my children were young.Our dear little Rusty who lived to aripe old age of almost 19.He converted me totally.
I am in agreement with every sentiment expressed by you & more.In today's busy world we don't have time to connect with even our neighbours.But our four legged friends have opened up a whole new world of knowing your neighbour.On my long walks with Brynn,complete strangers stop to chat.Even sometimes those pulling out of their driveways.
Man's best friend has broken down so many barriers and we claim to be the SUPERIOR species!!!
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We got our dog, Izze, 13 years ago when our daughter was young. Despite my initial reluctance (full time job! young child!) he has been a wonderful addition to our family, and has connected us more deeply to both our neighbors and to the many others who bring their dogs to the open space near our home to run and play. Dogs won't solve all of our problems, as noted in another comment, but any little thing that brings us closer together or makes us even just a bit friendlier to each other is certainly for the good. Wishing you many happy years with Regan.
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Perfect column. Thank you.
Thank you, Mr Bruni, what a beautiful piece to read this morning.
Regan is quite handsome and must attract a lot of attention!
May I add International Diplomat to the resume of dogs' in Central Park.
My mixed breed rescue Charlie has coaxed many a belly rub out of tourists lounging on the grass in Central Park culminating in pictures that now have been sent all over the world as a reminder that there is beauty in this world and it often starts with a dog.
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I experience New York not as a resident, but as a frequent visitor. We stay in a hotel near the park so we can get our exercise, but the great joy for me in there is not my work out, but the dogs!! and their owners! The dog walking spectacle gives me a huge rush of happiness, and it makes the city a much better place--it really stands out as part of my impression of New York. I have to add, however, that I am saddened by the increasing number of dog walkers talking on cell phones...please don't think your dog doesn't notice or care. Put your phone down and talk to your dog--it is likely to be a better conversation!
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This column reminds me of a discussion I had with a friend of many years the other night. He a Trump supporter and me a Sanders and Warren supporter. I asked him why he voted for Trump and he answered me honestly. Instead of arguing with him I listened and asked further questions. I found that in opening up to really listening and respecting his answers and him paying me the same respect we agreed to disagree on some points and agreed with others.
In doing this I learned a lot more as he did about our respective views on life in addition to what we value. We were not that far apart. The main reason he voted for Trump was that Trump was not Hilary.
I think we need to remember that it was not voting for Trump but voting against Hilary that was the primary push for a lot of voters
By the way, this is what we need to remember in 2020.
Trump and this Administration will be shown the door as well as most of the Republicans in Congress because of their support of their donors well being instead of the every day voter.
Even the Business Roundtable has realized that they had better start treating their employees and consumers more humanely if their businesses are to survive and thrive. Just a peek into the future.
It is called enlightened self interest. Very much in the spirit of Henry Ford who paid his employees a living wage so they could afford to buy his automobiles.
Let’s not give up hope. Let’s start seeing what we have in common and also bug our respective politicians
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I just returned from 10 days in NYC with my son, his family and their two dogs. They live in an apartment and the dogs (one small, white and fluffy; the other large, dark and sleekly muscular) needed to be walked several times a day. Though more a cat than a dog person, I became an enthusiastic dog walker—for all the reasons Frank mentions with the bonus of it occurring on the wonderful streets of my favorite city.
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Dogs are less intelligent than humans by virtue of a smaller brain. They lack opposing thumbs. They rely on instinct. They were domesticated and evolved from wolves. The symbiotic relationship they have with man is necessary. Could we not learn from that in how humans should treat one another? Instead we defy our true instincts, even having phrases like "dog eat dog world." Dogs and wolves are "pack animals." So are we. They rarely fight with one another and only encourage a member to leave the pack when food is extremely scarce. Man has not truly evolved. Just created a more stressful and complicated order.
If you love dogs, (even more so if you don't) go and see "The Art of Racing in the Rain." If you don't learn something, you can have my pity.
@USNA73
When I recently told my Fox Terrier that I was superior because I had an opposable thumb, I thought I could hear her say, "My opposable teeth could easily neutralize your opposable thumb"
Seriously, she has a great effect on all kinds of people we encounter in public. When I die I want to go where dogs go.
@old reprobate Mongolians believe that they return as human. A better form of course.
Beautiful meditation on the oases of community space that draw us out of our distracted, overstimulated, solipsistic lives. I went to university in Austin, and lived there for 13 years until it became too expensive. At the time, Lady Bird Lake was still called Town Lake. Every Saturday and Sunday, I walked a four-mile circuit on the hike and bike trail, probably more for the people-watching than the exercise. Even then, Austin was a decent sized city, yet I regularly ran into people I knew. Once, I encountered former Gov. Ann Richards, whose blinding white Big Hair was visible a quarter mile up the trail. I loved seeing the cliff swallow nest colony on the underside of the Mopac bridge, and the cormorants, pelicans, egrets along the shore.
Enough reminiscing. Where I live now has plenty of parks, but they're either relatively small, inconveniently located, or don't have the open vistas or the openness to human experience of New York's Central Park or Austin's Zilker Park and the hike and bike trail. Not surprisingly, my town seems to be somewhat lacking in community spirit or community pride. I can't quite put my finger on it. I have two dogs now, and they do facilitate social interaction as they walk me around my neighborhood. Still, I'd rather have dogs and public spaces. If I could afford to live in Austin again, I would go back. I am encouraged by Frank Bruni's column, whose takeaway is that wherever you find yourself, dogs can make your life more human and connected.
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Re several of the comments: I’m sorry, I didn’t realize that love of non human animals and compassion for human ones was mutually exclusive. In fact, in my experience, they go hand in hand. Thank you, Mr. Bruni for your wonderfully allegorical column.
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Olmstead's vision of egalitarian spaces is alive and thriving in Central Park. You and Regan and the companions you meet are so lucky to have such a spectacular place to share.
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Mans best friend is also mans best teacher. I couldn’t agree more with Mr. Bruni.
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My dog Slater changed my life. How could I have known that the day we rescued Slater who had lived his life for 9 years at the end of a chain, that I would transform into an activist determined to end the commercial sled dog industry
Slater was a sled dog pulling tourists for nine years oblivious to his tortured life kept carefully hidden from public awareness
But when I found out the reality of the sled dog industry and the inhumane treatment of these dogs, I was determined as a documentary film maker to expose it. And so I did. With my documentary Sled Dogs. And here I am 5 years later, 7 years after my beloved Slater died, transformed into an activist determined to end the commercial sled dog industry and the brutal idiatrod. All this because of the power of love between myself and my beautiful dog.
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Frank, your column today is well said, and well written, and does invoke a hopeful note into our consciousness of those around us.
Sadly, it's not particularly salient in light of the serious and profound matters that face us as humans on our beautiful speck of dust (Planet Earth) that we aren't truly caring for.
Dogs can't fix the fundamental issues we confront as a species, for any number of reasons, not least of which is the propensity of humans to be religiously divisive, tribal, and most of all, creating societies where education, health care, and housing are reduced to a Darwinian rat race.
The human species is rife with people, and especially leaders who seek only money, power, fame, and and the ability to exercise their dominance by war, crime, theocracy, and punishment.
The soporific of connecting with others via a bridge of canine fellowship can lift spirits, and promote fellowship, but those moments of solidarity won't address the profoundly serious and grave problems confronting us a stewards of the Earth and our own destiny as a species
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Amen, Mr. Bruni. Another way of reaching across boundaries is through music. I sing in several choirs which probably contain people of both political persuasions, though we never discuss politics, so who knows? The only thing that matters is the music.
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I would offer an alternate view--that dogs and cats are destroying our social relationships/compassion for each other, as well as damaging our food supply chain. I love non-human animals, and I want to live in harmony with them in the natural world, but as humans encouraging the unnatural population explosion of predators is unwise. How many people spend their resources (including emotional ones) on kitten rescue while children suffer in cages and seek donations to pet charities while the elderly can't afford to live basic lives of dignity. Vegans won't have children because of the impact on the world ecology but do not see that every pound of meat grown for pets contributes to climate change and social inequitiy. Need a hug? Hospitals, old folks homes, and even the apartment next door might have someone who would benefit--and reciprocate--from some love.
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@Samantha Post I often think of these things when people rave on about "the poor animals." I love dogs and cats myself, but the obsession with pets over people is discomforting.
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@Samantha Post, I think there's room for both. I also think that children who grow up with a pet to care for learn compassion & responsibility, while experiencing a lot of joy.
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@Samantha Post
This zero sum argument seems to presuppose that a person can care about only one thing at a time. There are oodles of us who care about humans, non-humans, and the environment, and attempt to improve the dire situations of people living in poverty and the unjustly caged in whatever little ways we can.
Whataboutism is a weak response.
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Dogs are truly humanity’s best friend. They give us love and companionship, they are happy to see us when we come home from work or any other reason that we left them. They bring out our caring side.
That being said, our current president not having a dog speaks volumes about his character.
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@Scott, some people should not have dogs and I think our current president is one. I would not want to be his dog.
@Dawn Fosnaugh
I agree with that. But, again, that refers to his (lack of) character and innate decency.
Perhaps Bruni could have added how much human beings could learn from dogs in addition to their being a medium for socialization.
My family and I continue to learn valuable lessons from Charlie, our dog, also a rescue, that have implications for how we can become better human beings and can make the world a better place to live in: incredible patience, satisfaction with just two meals a day, empathy for smaller and weaker dogs and those who are in distress, and never judging other dogs on the basis of
their looks or colors.
Think of a what a better place this country would be if we simply follow these traits.
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Might I add I love the idea of dogs and the humans they own being social together in bars and restaurants . We spend our Summers in Maine, just last Friday night on the patio at our favorite place about a 1/3 of the customers had their dog with them some actually had two dogs. The dogs were of course a huge topic of conversation ,and to a one very well behaved. Frank is correct dogs do help man cross many cultural and political divides.
I am happy to see this trend take off it reminds me of Europe where from large cities to small towns no matter the time it is an every day sight to see owner and usually a small dog sitting at a cafe relaxing over a beverage of some sort, or a meal . We Americans need to learn how to work to live not vice versa , perhaps our dogs will help us learn to do so.
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Dogs are magnificent and life changing in the most ordinary of ways.
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there is imo constant miss-use of the word “tribe” including in your article- at least using common dictionary descriptions. “tribe” or “tribal” does not describe a siloed world willfully unconnected and ignorant of other groups or experiences in a negative way, but rather natives or groups with shared interests or lineage. i question if the anthropological word “tribe” ever had good intentions towards indian people but today, most specifically, and in-the-u.s. constitution-politically 3 times, “tribe” refers to american native groups.
while we in native groups differ on what we find appropriate to call ourselves, and ill likely stir resentment of political correctness, i just gotta say something finally. hearing “tribe” or “tribal” used consistently in a pejorative manner is not useful for promoting a positive perception of native groups, disrespects our treaties, and borrows inauthentically from our u.s. constitution.
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@RJ Thank you for writing about that. It was a point of view I hadn't heard. I agree with you and that's one of reasons I read the NYT.
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Thank you for writing this article. I agree with everything you wrote about how dogs can and do change our lives for the better. When I lived in the City, I had a little Yorkshire terrier and we met so many interesting people on our walks, I always felt refreshed and renewed when we returned home. Needing to take Hank for a walk was a wonderful excuse to get out of the box in the sky I called home, and mix and mingle with humanity.
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Great insight on the isolation that so easily occurs in urban settings and how to break that isolation down. And have fun and great companionship in the process.
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@Rosslaw
Unfortunately isolation is every where not just in Urban areas. We all need to reach out to each other.
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Mr. Bruni, you are so right about the joys of getting out to the park and interacting with our fellow creatures, two-legged, four-legged, and even winged. Going to our local park -- at first for physical well-being, but now for mental and emotional recharging as well -- means so much to me, and it is always my goal to go there daily, if weather permits.
The main local park in our community has walk and bike paths, a skate park, a basketball court, soccer / baseball / softball / lacrosse fields, pavilion and picnic areas and a lovely pond the city stocks with fish for fishermen. Ducks, geese, and other waterfowl -- and sometimes a blue heron -- are there. Squirrels and sometimes deer live in the park.
The city provides "mutt bags" for the dogwalkers in two strategic locations. In the summer, you can rent "character boats" and paddle across the pond. There is an ice arena for hockey and ice skating competitions, and an outdoor stage for concerts in the summer and one city festival in the summer and an international festival in the fall.
I don't have a dog (I have cats) but I have made the happy acquaintance of many dogs as I walk through the park and have had some great conversations with their owners. We "regulars" at the park seek each other out for conversation and "walking buddies."
A beautiful park can keep you sane in tough times. Yes, everybody, please stop and smell the roses. And feel the breeze. And look at the trees...
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Congratulations! Regan is beautiful. I have read your column in the past because you seemed to be an intelligent, kind man who made me think more clearly about issues which concern us all. I have never met you and am not likely to ever have the pleasure. I will now, however, read your column and also be happy and concerned for you and Regan’s life together, wishing you the best each time. It is a wonderful thing to care for and share your life with a dog buddy. All the best to both of you!
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All this is true and well said, but two points could have been made that complicate your essay. If you are a female alone walking that dog in a public space, you have to keep risks in mind—assault being one of them. Dogs might offer some protection, if large and fearsome, but it is still a legitimate risk depending on circumstances. The second point is dogs are expensive and a huge commitment. (My dog right now needs a $1k dental cleaning that I can’t afford.) Dogs in fact need a lot of time and financial resources over their 10-15 year lifespan. Believe me, I love dogs but they’re a lot of work. It’s not all peaches and cream, and people should know the what they’re getting into when they get a dog. It’s way beyond having chats with strangers in public spaces.
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We recently adopted a puppy and I had the exact same reaction you write about here. If we all had dogs we would all get along.
We don’t deserve dogs but I’m forever grateful we have them.
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That is wonderful that you and Regan have discovered a new community. Some people who rescue dogs have the exact opposite experience, sadly. Our dog Figaro arrived so unsocialized that it is really hard to try to take him out into public. For people who are trying to help a damaged dog have a healthy, happy life, the road can be very long and challenging. So I have a favor to ask of anyone reading this. The next time you encounter someone walking a dog that barks and lunges, please don't assume that the owner has done a bad job with him/her. They may be saving an animal that no one else wanted.
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A lovely piece in honour of our ever-faithful companions and the positives they bring out in their humans. Thanks for including the photo of Regan: she is beautiful.
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We have found farmer’s markets to be a similar gathering place. All kinds of people with dogs and children, filled with the promise of meals to prepare, chatting about coffee and kale and what the rest of the weekend holds. When we travel, it’s fun to see what the local fare is, and always in any location the dogs and children bring a good energy to a Saturday morning.
Thanks for sharing your dog and your thoughts!
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I have said to my friends one of the biggest problems with Trump is he has never had a dog.Thank you Mr Bruni for this wonderful article. I am sitting at my sisters house on the beach with my 3 children their wonderful spouses and 6 fabulous grandsons and 4 fabulous granddogs. Life doesn't get better than this.
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@Camilla Blair Trump's problems go far deeper than lack of dogs, and even if he had a happy canine face to greet him as a friend, it would not change the profound mental illness, and the malignant narcissism that drives him to bigotry, revenge, cruelty, and being an immoral monster
@Camilla Blair Trump, No dog, Thank God, I mean Dog. He has no empathy and would never get dogs , its a good thing thing for he does not own one
Having Dogs in my life for the last 40 years has made it one of new friendships and better personal health. My wife and I have bred and given much happness to many people in many parts of our Country with our pups gift of love and joy to their new people. We receive pictures and updates of their lives and advantures with their people. It makes all the work and love we put into breeding these wonderful creatures worth the many hours that is needed to do this. Thank you for your opinion Mr. Bruni it is spot on.
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We have a little rescue dog, Mya - a yorkie-miniature pinscer mix and she is, of course, adorable! All the neighbors know and pamper her and she has special doggie friends - and others that she doesn't tolerate (because of fear, I think). She's almost 12, so gets tired easily and since we take long walks, we ordered a stroller (for dogs!) for her. She LOVES it - and the attention she gets. Especially from older people and children. She props her head on the edge of the stroller and watches the world. We all lucked out with this wonderful doggie (meaning Mya TOO).
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So true! I've had my little rescue pup for 3 months, and in that time I've met more people in my neighborhood than I had in all of the 32 years I've lived here. People of all ages and colors love to stop and pet my little guy, and I find myself wondering how I ever got along without him. Thanks, Frank, for connecting this experience to larger societal challenges.
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Lots of good feelings flying around, including the tears that came to me as I remembered the pug Bandit that my son begged for, that I loved, that I held in my arms on the way to his “put-down,” that added to our lives like a brother or sister, and that was named with no knowledge of my own childhood hero Jonny Quest. But what person with any cursory knowledge of Shakespeare would name a pet Regan?
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I wish I wasn't allergic to animal dander, because that precludes having a dog, which is one of two ways (having kids - none of those, either) people in our insular suburban neighborhood meet and interact. We have good friends in many places but just acquaintances on our street. Thanks, I guess, for pointing out what we're missing. ( I should note that we love dogs and are grateful to play with other people's for the short time before my allergies kick in!)
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I grew up afraid of dogs. My mother would melt in terror in their presence as she had been bitten by a few in her childhood. I was a paper boy when there were no leash laws and had to contend with some menacing canines along my route. One owner used to let his particularly aggressive dog out each morning to chase my friends and I through the streets, nipping at our heals all the way.
Two years ago my wife brought home a rescue dog of 10 lbs. and cairn terrier descent. His previous owner left him on a leash and ignored him. He used to growl at me whenever I came in the door and when I turned in at night - the ever present sentinel at my wife's side. He even scared off an adult black bear on a walk with her.
Lately, he's taken to jumping up in my lap for a good pet, licking my hands and arms as I do. He doesn't growl at me anymore, and I must say, I don't growl as much either. His presence and unconditional love, despite my fear, has helped me to relax. Feed, water, walk and pet and you get a good dog and a better person.
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I live in the south, in a college town. Here everyone has two things: a front porch, and a dog.
Of an evening, my dog Thandi and I love to sit on the front porch to catch the cool breeze as the sun sets, and to greet all the—literally dozens—neighbor dogs strolling by with their owners attached. We know them all, although occasionally a new dog comes by, especially as now at the start of a new semester.
And you are right, Mr. Bruni. I feel a sense of courtesy, of commonality among strangers and neighbors alike, I seldom feel any other time. Maybe a dog’s fundamental humanity—I say that without irony—gives us hope.
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Sweet, lovely article, Frank. I agree that dogs are such wonderful little creatures -- angels on earth really. Our 14 year old Sheltie was such a source of joy. She made us laugh every single day. Her sweet, beautiful face smiling, yes smiling, up at us, would make us simply melt.
The commonality that dogs bring us is truly a wonderful and yes, rare, thing these days. But not so long ago, we had another great commonality -- Oprah Winfrey (being a supreme dog lover herself, I hope Oprah will see my comparison in the way I intended.)
With Oprah on TV, we were our better selves. We all came together at 4:00 to experience something every day. Husbands asked their wives what Oprah was about that day. It was real life that everyone could relate to: informative episodes with Dr Oz; fun episodes with stars from new movies; books everyone loved to share together -- and, yes, even difficult episodes about bigotry. This was absolutely Must See TV. In my opinion Oprah is the best interviewer ever -- she listened and cared about what people said, not just on to the next question.
Frank, I know this will sound very naive, but I think the country would be in a very different place if Oprah was still on the air. She brought us together. Our similarities were way more evident than our differences. She gave us the commonality you describe with dogs. I really miss her, you know. . .
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About 40 years ago, I read in a scientific journal about the discovery of the remains of a prehistoric human child in Israel. What made the discovery so remarkable was that the skeleton was intact and protectively cradled in the arms of that child werer the fossil remains of a prehistoric puppy. Dogs have been with us since the dawn of time. They came to us because humans had food in their encampments and they could eat the scraps. Over time, they worked their way into our homes and our hearts. They evolved with us and became the friends that Bruni describes. It is no wonder they seem to have a preternatural understanding of humankind. And we are the better for it.
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There is not enough space to give our best friends their due. In exchange for your being a decent alpha, you can welcome a dog, and preferably two if you live in the country or are out a lot, into your pack. You will always receive protection, companionship, loyalty, unconditional love, and yes, entertainment. And once you understand that welcoming a dog into your home means that you are now part of a pack, you can appreciate life from a dog's perspective. And in that you will see there are truly no bad dogs, only humans with the wrong expectations. There is only one downside and that is their short lifespans for I have grieved as long and deeply for my four-legged companions as for many of the people I have lost. Anthropologists will tell you that without making the bond with dogs, the human race would probably not have survived its early days. Thank you for pointing out Frank, that without dogs we might have forgotten what it means to be human.
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Thank you Mr. Bruni for a great column about how wonderful our dogs are. They do fill a void, they make us laugh, they make us more responsible, more fit, more social and I believe more human. Until last week we had two Rhodesian Ridgebacks and just had to put down the younger one due to osteosarcoma. She was only two and a half but my husband and I believe that we gave her a beautiful summer as she gave us some great moments until it was time for us to let her go. Between a surgery in may to remove the tumor on a rib and the seizure she had last week she remained happy, hungry and a love ball despite the treatments and being tired. A big decision, a heavy responsibility. In these unusual and tiring times when we see our democracy unravelling before our eyes by the misdeeds, lies and tweets of a demagogue and his cronies, having a dog is better than any medicine or therapy. We still have our older Ridgeback, ten years old, with some sore muscles and a grey muzzle. She keeps us going in these days of mourning for her little buddy and the state of this nation. Yesterday we took her on a boat ride and a picnic here on the cost of Maine. The weather was beautiful and the three of us found the peace we had been looking for. Even if the pain is still with us there is hope and light at the end of the tunnel.
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My dogs always force me out to walk and explore the world and stop watching TV. Those that like people and dogs are so sociable and seem to draw people who start talking to me, even if briefly. There is a connectiveness that I agree with Frank Bruni we really need. But why do people have to be reminded by their pets that we are all equal in a democracy and all are loved by their Creator? Why do we elect leaders who espouse the opposite? Who bring out the worst in us? Dogs also simplify our existence and remind us of what is important, just being out in nature and connecting to the universe. Cats are great, too. I know some dogs and cats can harm people, mostly because they have been mistreated or are sick, but it has been my experience that they enrich our lives. Right now, my dog is barking so I have to go!
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Yes and yes - world peace through dogs. After adopting my dog 2 years ago, I have had wonderful interactions with people I would normally avoid - including an exchange with a fatigued wearing, burly man with a pick up truck replete with bumper stickers espousing guns, military might and the like.
Dogs live in the moment and don't judge. They encourage us to do the same. We have a lot to learn from our best friends. I know I learn something from my "good girl" every day and oh, by the way, she makes me laugh every day too.
Priceless.
Thank you for the column!
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I do love the dog part of this uplifting column. My cockapoo goes to the Mall to walk with my husband and draws so much love and interaction! I would love to hear more about public spaces and their importance in creating community. We will need to be building so much infrastructure in the coming years and it would be wonderful if public spaces could be incorporated where ever possible. Thanks for your column today!
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Regan looks a lovely dog. May she bring you joy and enlightenment for many years to come. People who own dogs have richer lives, I think. Thanks for your thoughtful and lovely essay.
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