I’d say im pretty resilient, I don't let people talk about me behind my back, or let them do other mean things. The only time im not resilient is if the other person is like twice my size and I cant do anything about it, or if its someone I know is joking because they always do.
I think I'm resilient when I'm going through a hard experience like when my parents are yelling at my brother for his bad grades, a family tragedy or and other hard time i always manage to get through it and just move on.
I think it depends on the situation, if its something you really want or though you would get it could be more of a set back.
The older I become the more resilient I am. This is from learning from experience and the support of my closest friends.
Talking about your failures can make you happier and more productive in the future, but it depends on your level of maturity, who you talk to, and what action you take.
Yes, I have discussed struggles with my closest friends. Yes, I learned that it is ok to fail and that it is not such a big deal. I have also learned to use the experience to reflect on what I would do differently so I am more prepared next time. Yes, others have opened up to me about their challenges too. I find it more helpful than trying to resolve the problem by myself.
Social media can do both. It depends on which social media groups you follow ie. support groups or groups which can depict false personas like facebook. I also believe as we get older we have a better understanding of what is real and what is not.
Yes, I can recall a time not that long ago. I felt I had two choices: 1. to focus on the failure or, 2. to focus on moving on and getting closer to where I want to be. The advise I would give is don't waste too much time dwelling on a failure, instead see it as an opportunity for personal growth. Keep moving forward and your failure will soon become a distant memory.
Give yourself 24 Hours to Deal with Failure and Move On;, Patrick Allan
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@Noeleen McGrady I totally agree, the more older you get, the more resilient you are.
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Resilience is a way to show how strong you are. You never stop learning
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I am not resilient I don't think anyone is I think we are all weak corruptable humans
I think its in the human nature to sometime be resilient.
i don't think i'm resilient because every body has they own type of persona and no body can really be resilient
I believe that small failures are the ones you can learn from but a massive failure like on a big project or something very important can hurt your self-esteem and will make you less likely to try something similar in the future.
I don't think i'm resilient but people can be resilient means to recover from a condition.
It makes me feel sad i am not resilient at all
I honestly feel like i dwell on a lot of stuff. Like how the article give the example about how a presentation and how you worked really hard and at the final moment everything just really goes bad and you feel bad but for many people they can just forget it but many people dwell on it knowing the could've done way better and i do that alot but thats what makes a person grow and learn and i feel like i makes you think how could have i done better or i there something i could've done better so that next time that wouldn't happen. I feel like we have a enormous pressure now with social media because it give an image of how everything should be perfect or at least the best but i feel like we have to stop giving an image like this and that we should be able to accept and move on
@Emily Adams Everybody has flaws, social media is just a platform where tons of people brag about themselves. In the real world nobody is "perfect". Our flaws is what makes us, us.
my resilience has change with age. when I was younger I welcomed all challenges and never feared to fail and get input. because to me being a child was meant for learning and failing so you can learn more and more. but as I grew older and less Interested in the world I started to steer away from challenges and not wanting to know what went wrong. after reading this article I wouldn't say knowing what you did wrong would make you happier. but it can solve your problem so that what happened doesn't happen again. but not all people are looking for an answer to what went wrong.
Sharing struggles doesn't happen a lot these days. but me personal when i was younger i always asked my friends for advise. but as I got older I kept it to myself. I found it somewhat helpful to reach out to others but for smaller things because being told what you did wrong doesn't always mean you can do it right just cause you know where you went wrong. I believe social media does have a lot to do with why younger generations are finding it harder to ask for help. why ? well social media is where people spend a good amount of time in with very little security. A lot can happen. that is why there is cyber bullying.
every time I have overcome a big challenge. one thing is the same. I ignored everything and focused my all into what i was doing not giving up for a second. knowing that if I worked hard now it'll pay off later and I can be lazy once again and do nothing but sleep.
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Truthfully, I’m not resilient when it comes to dealing with setbacks or challenges. I often dwell on my mistakes and have difficulty moving on from them. It takes me awhile to process the situation and the outcomes.
I’m not 100% convinced that talking about my failures would make me happier and more productive in the future. In fact, I have difficulty opening up about my mistakes and tend to keep things bottled up. I think that talking about my struggles would make me feel worse about what I’ve done. I would get mad at myself for not doing what I should’ve done.
I’ve shared my struggles with my close friends but I have difficulty doing so. I don’t want them to pity me nor do I want them to worry about me. I don’t enjoy sharing my problems with trusted adults because I feel awkward and I don’t want to be a burden to them. When my friends open up to me, I tend to be as comforting as possible. I believe that I’m very empathetic and sympathetic. I learn how to be a good listener and I’m able to help them, which I enjoy.
I believe that social media plays a big role when it comes to our inability to admit defeat. It makes us less resilient. There are multiple successful people on social media and they often show their success to others. We as people might not want to show our failures and tend to avoid displaying them. And we might not want to admit defeat due to our pride.
Growing up, I used to strongly believe that every single step in my life had to be perfect. This thought that had been imprinted in my brain caused me a lot of struggles and anxieties as I went through hardships, never being able to understand the simple that everyone makes mistakes. It took me awhile to grapple the daunting subject, yet when I got to high school and made my first B, I realized being perfect is not what life was really all about.
In the article "Talking About Failure Is Crucial For Growth. Here's How to Do It Right", the author states how "taking the time to reflect on and communicate about unwanted outcomes can go a long way in creating more congenial, trusting and ultimately productive workplaces". I believe this is true for individuals as well, taking time to review your mistakes and finding what you can learn from them makes a big impact upon your life. This can also apply to taking time to understand that not everything is going to work out the way you want it to, and that is okay.
I am very gracious for understanding at a young age how normal it is to mess up and how much I was taking life for granted. Incessant worry is never healthy, and I am glad I overcame that struggle in my life, and I only hope the same for others.
I have been faced with so many challenges in my life, especially in high school. I have learned to move forward and most past the hard times and I know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I haven't talked to anyone about my struggles. I keep most things bottled up inside and don't talk it out, which isn't healthy. I think that when things are hard you learn and grow as a person. You become stronger than you were before. I think that high school is just a tiny blip in my long beautiful life. I can't really focus on now, I have a whole life ahead of me; filled with beautiful and amazing moments. I have so much to look forward too.
@Alana Aw I'm sorry you keep everything bottled up inside. But I suggest you talk it out with a trusted adult or a really close friend or even a bestfriend. I hope you're doing good!!
I sum up my personality as a whole to be easy going. No matter what happenes, good or bad, it doesn’t get to me. This personality trait is very useful in such a high stress society we live in. Whenever I fail something, which tends to happen often, I ask my self two questions. 1 question is: will this matter in 5 years? Most of the time I find my self saying no to this question, but in the case where I decide this will matter down the road, I ask my self what I can do to fix it. In my opinion, life is a war, and even if you “fail” and lose a battle, there is always a way to win the war. I feel the best way to deal with failure is to embrace it, and then do something about it.
I think I am resilient when it comes to challenging, but I often get frustrated at myself for a lack of inability. However, a lot of my failures have been limited, such as embarrassment, or ruining plans, or accepting defeat. In general, I think I am good at accepting failure if I have something to move on to. The more I can move onto something else, it often becomes much easier to talk about my failures. As for social media, I am not too sure. I don't use social media that often, but I get why some people would be put off by it. For example, I have had a lot of homework this weekend and I messed up some plans I was trying to set. Then my friend more California was posting on his social media about how good things were going from him. It really made me feel cut off at that moment. However, again if I find something to latch onto, it can be a lot easier to get rid of these frustrations.
To start this off, personally I do not bounce back fast from failure but I do bounce back a lot stronger. The author says “The embarrassment and blow to your self-worth can manifest in unlimited ways — and sometimes it feels like it’s manifesting in all ways”. I can really relate to this, although I don’t get embarrassed a lot and when I do I usually wipe it off, but when I have a blow to myself esteem it will manifest in my brain for a very long time. This especially happens during lacrosse, when I make a mistake I think about that mistake for the whole practice, on the way home, the next day and it evens comes up during the next practice. The article says “Even though most people prefer to process failure internally and quickly move on for fear of causing a scene or seeming unprofessional” I definitely don’t fit this subscription at all, I want to the be the best I can be to prove to myself I am good enough. I don’t care I am causing a scene to the people around me or if I seem unprofessional.
When it comes to challenges, bring it on. Sometimes I struggle and sometimes I fail, however I can learn from it, and make success from failure. I move on, and when I realize I’ve done something wrong, I make sure I don’t make the same mistake I did. From this article, learning that “our bodies’ response to failure can even mimic that of physical pain,” does make me a little nervous about failure and possibly even scared to make mistakes, but I know I shouldn’t be, because of course without failure, there’s no success.
I’ve learned that even sharing my defeats with friends and sometimes family can actually help me get past the problem. In return, I give and get advice, because they like to share with me too. Point is, I think I am pretty resilient when it comes to failure, and you have to remember what comes in the long run, success.
The majority of high school students agree when I say that your teenage years involve many mental and academic struggles. We tend to lose motivation and when we miss a deadline, go through emotional detriment, or just have a bad day; it can tear us down, causing a domino effect. One late assignment turns into a few more, turning into a low GPA, which causes a lot of stress. I would like to say failure makes me more productive, but when you battle with self esteem issues, it is hard to hold value in other important things when one goes to waste. The issue with talking to adults or other friends about it, especially in high school, is that, in adults case, all they tend to give is a solution rather than understanding why these responsibilities are weighing on you. Other students often try to "one-up" your struggle; they can't relate to you, they just need to show why their life is harder. I believe social media gives us a platform to make up a story for how great our life is going. It is like a mask that you can hide your anxiety and struggles behind. When I face tough times, specifically at school or work, I make a list of things that I don't want to do but need to get done and a list of self-care type things I can do to calm myself down. I like to rank these by importance to me, and alternate between necessity and self-care. It is not the most efficient way of going about these things, but I find it wears less on your mental health and helps to get things done.
Everyone experiences setbacks and challenges at some point in their life. Everyday we face minor challenges and some days we will face tragic and more complex challenges. What matters is how we deal with the challenges and get through them. Personally, I tend to dwell on what went wrong opposed to accepting the outcome. Whether it was my fault or not, I want to fix the problem. But I have learned you cannot fix everything and sometimes you just have to accept that it is what it is. The weight on your shoulders after creating the issue feels dreadful in the moment. Something that I have to remember is that everything will work itself out eventually. I believe being resilient is important. We cannot let small inconveniences alter our mood for the whole day. I think I have been more resilient lately by learning to let go. Yes, it is easier to let go of some things than others, but learning to let go is a really great thing. It allows you to be more resilient and not dwell over every little thing. Resilience is a significant part of life.
I believe that everything happens for a reason. I think that’s the mindset that keeps me resilient towards obstacles. Rather than dwelling on the negative, I find the silver lining and go from there. I also like to think of famous resilient leaders who went through obstacles, such as Martin Luther King Jr., Rosa Parks, Nelson Mandela. Talking about your failures helps with getting rid of the “dwelling”, personally it helps me, rather than leaving it all bottled up. People have talked to me about their failures and how they got over it, and knowing that people have most likely been through the obstacle I had to overcome helps me keep peace at mind. On social media, we get to choose what we post so people can only see what we want them to. Pride is a big thing in social media, or creating the false pretense that your life is perfect. Social media, in a way, makes us less resilient.
When it comes to dealing with setbacks and challenges, I feel like sometimes I have a hard time accepting the outcomes. I find myself dwelling on what went wrong and that it maybe could have been my fault. I do think that talking about your failures could help you learn from them and be more productive in the future. However, for some people it may be hard to talk about those failures even if it is supposed to help them. Whenever I find myself struggling, I tend to turn to my mom. She is someone in my life that helps me put situations into better perspectives, and helps me not dwell on the negatives. I find that talking to a trusted adult or even close friend is very beneficial. With social media being a part of many peoples lives, I personally feel like it makes us less resilient. Sometimes, social media can show you things that will make you dwell on your setback more or make it more difficult for you to overcome a condition. Some advice that I would give to others that are experiencing tough times is to surrounding yourself with people who want to support you. This allows you to turn to them when in times of need.
The article mentions presentations and talks about how difficult it can be to come back from that, but when I think resilient I don’t think about presentations and school. Education has been a large focus in my life and I have been taught to be resilient in school, but it’s harder to be resilient outside of school. When I think resilient I remember embarrassing moments playing repeatedly in my head. People often think back on things that they could’ve said or done and how they could have handled things differently. Resilience is taught in school. If you fail a quiz, study so that you won’t fail the test, and if you don’t feel confident on a subject ask for help. It’s harder to teach how to be resilient in social situations such as; public rejection, embarrassment or even things like death.
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Everyone experiences setbacks and challenges at some point in their life. Everyday we face minor challenges and some days we will face tragic and more complex challenges. What matters is how we deal with the challenges and get through them. Personally, I tend to dwell on what went wrong opposed to accepting the outcome. Whether it was my fault or not, I want to fix the problem. But I have learned you cannot fix everything and sometimes you just have to accept that it is what it is. The weight on your shoulders after creating the issue feels dreadful in the moment. Something that I have to remember is that everything will work itself out eventually. I believe being resilient is important. We cannot let small inconveniences alter our mood for the whole day. I think I have been more resilient lately by learning to let go. Yes, it is easier to let go of some things than others, but learning to let go is a really great thing. It allows you to be more resilient and not dwell over every little thing. Resilience is a significant part of life.
In her article, “Talking About Failure Is Crucial For Growth. Here’s How To Do It Right”, Oset Babur talks about the 3 aspects of dealing with talking about failure. Her main point being how to “Use Your Failures to Make Friends” which means that you must make connections with people who experience similar failures as you do. This can be beneficial to your progress in talking about your own failings because typically it is easier to admit to something that you weren’t successful at if the someone else admits to the same thing first. Alison Wood Brooks was the professional in charge of this idea. She helps to show how this is useful in the workplace for making coworkers “approachable” and easily interacted with. This is also useful as Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Men succeed when they realize their failures are the preparation for their victories” which means that through collaboration men can figure out that their failings are ways to move forward and succeed in the future.
Being an athlete, resilience is a basic fundamental of the winning mentality. Not only do you face adversity and challenge, but you expect it. To be a strong-willed, winning-driven player; resilience is your motivation. I personally feel ignited when I am faced with a setback, I feel motivated to escape a default mindset, referencing David Foster Wallace's "This is Water", and focus on the passion and adrenaline pushing me. Everyone is faced with challenges every day, resilience isn't only necessary in sports but also in every day life. I feel very resilient, whether it be in athletics, academics or life; dwelling on the outcome of a situation is pointless and leads to no progress in your struggle. When I was ten years old, my father accidentally overdosed and passed away very unexpectedly; I questioned "Why me?" "How is this possibly in God's plan?" and "Why so soon?" for many years. But, eventually I realized that the resilience my father carried was admirable and was my driving force to quit dwelling on him being home but to celebrate his time here. Not only do I believe that resilience is necessary but I also realize that becoming resilient is difficult. Dwelling is the easier road; but, resilience is the right road.
I tend to be fairly resilient when it comes to dealing with embarrassing failures because I usually forget about these incidents a few days later. However, this past October: October of 2018; I dealt with too much failure. Not necessarily failure that makes you feel embarrassed, but failure that makes you feel disappointed and/or hopeless. October is my favorite month because it is the essence of Autumn, which is my favorite season, not to mention Halloween is my favorite holiday; so the month had a lot to live up to.
When October finally arrived it was just one devastating failure after another, each one a little worse than the last. By the end of the month I couldn’t hold myself together any longer and had a panic attack. During my panic attack I was in a state of extreme shock; I couldn’t speak, and I was shaking and sweating uncontrollably.
The day after, I stopped eating and putting effort into my appearance. I gained a lot of acne due to the amount of stress I was dealing with, I never left my house unless absolutely necessary, dark circles formed under my eyes, my skin became more pale, and I physically became sick.
I never really talked to anyone about my situation, because no one truly cared. Over time I was able to pull myself together and get my life at least partially back on track. I feel as though it is better to overcome obstacles alone because it make you stronger and prepares you for the next failure.
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Failing is natural, it’s something that everyone has to experience in their lifetime to learn and grow as a person. I agree with the article that we shouldn’t hide from our failures, but except them and learn from it. I feel like I am pretty resilient when it comes to class work and if I do bad on a test I know I need to work harder next time. However, there are just somethings that I am not good at and if I work really hard on something and then don’t meet my own expectations it does take a toll on my self-worth.
I think I need to talk more about my failures and not let them tear me down. I believe that people would be a lot happier if they did confide in others about their failures. Maybe even ask for advice about how you can improve. Not only could it make you feel better to talk about it but this could also make you more successful in the long run.
But some people might not want to talk with other people and I think that’s okay too. Maybe they just don’t feel the need to share their problems with others. I have felt that I didn’t want to talk about that type of thing with my friends before. The important thing that I think everyone should learn from this article is that you just need to understand your mistakes enough to do better instead of letting them bring you down.
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Everyone fails from time to time. It’s life, we move on and live past it. It’s normal to make mistakes, we learn from them. Sometimes when dealing with obstacles or challenges, it could be difficult to be resilient.
My resilience is based on what I am trying to overcome. Most of the time, when I’m struggling to overcome a certain situation, I view it from a different perspective and try to understand how I could learn from my situation. If I cant seem to overcome the situation, I try talking to someone about it to help me through it, or else I would feel stuck. I try not to over analyze my struggles and mistakes, or else I’d put myself down about it. In the long run, I know I’ll be fine and that my situation isn’t as bad as I believe it is.
I think I am quite resilient when it comes to facing challenges and i don't like to dwell on my failures. But that is a very difficult question to ask. Every situation is difficult to handle.. But most of the time I try and keep pushing through it and keep smiling through the pain. I can get over a step back or a challenge. I just have to look at the situation in a different perspective. But whenever i'm faced with a challenge I can overcome it. I have discussed my failures to my mother and that has helped me push through them and know I can do it. When sharing with friends or family members it brings you closer with one other and makes you feel a lot better.and bouncing back from that failure with a mindset that will prevent it from happening again is key. Trust me this is a hard thing to do but u have to have the correct mindset and you have to know you can do it.
Personally, I would like to think I’m resilient, but I am probably more carefree and lazy. If I can’t solve a challenge or am setback, I will give it a few more tires, and give up and move on if I still can’t fix it. I disagree with Mr. Saats, we do learn from our mistakes, and having to cover them up is part of learning from them. In their example, if you were to mess up a presentation you have been working on for weeks, you will know to take more time to rehearse so you don’t get embarrassed by the same mistake over again. I am not convinced to start openly sharing my mistakes because I doubt that that would make me happier. It does always feel great to get a secret or something I’m hiding off my chest, but my mistakes don’t bother me enough to really impact my emotional health because most of the mistakes I have are out of my control and have already been made, so there is no point on dwelling on them after the lesson has been learned.
When I am faced with a challenge I tend to do my best to solve it but don’t spend a whole lot of time dwelling on it. I like to move onto the next problem because I know there’s one out there that I should solve.
Throughout Middle School I liked to keep my failures and problems to myself and that caused me to put a lot of stress on myself. Now that I’m in high school and am taking a on heavier course load I have started to find friends that allow me to talk about my problems and failures.Tasha Eurich, a Denver based psychologist said “I believe that almost everyone can benefit from sharing and hearing another perspective,”. As I share problems with my friends and they share problems with me it help me see other perspectives and learn other ways to cope with failure in my life. Sharing my experiences allows me to not let my failures build up inside me which results in me exploding over some dumb little thing that doesn’t even matter.
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Resilience is an important part of being a teenager or an adult because dwelling on failures and embarrassing moments could cause you to lose faith in yourself building off of those challenges. I do see myself as a resilient person and I try to strive from my mistakes, although there are moments that impact me extremely and cause myself to breakdown. Nobody enjoys failure or rejection and in the moment of the occurrence, it feels like you are not able to bounce back from these conflicts.
As a high school student, resilience is an important thing to acquire because you cannot always have the mindset of failure and that you will always do bad. Being able to process a challenge and understand how the failure occurred and quickly move on from it can help well with success in school.
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I feel that I am resilient based on the problems or failures I have had to face but compared to other people that I have witness face a problem and how they reacted to the problem I am not really that resilient. There are going to be many times in your life where you are going to fail and most likely you are going to think at the moment that it is the worst thing that could happen to you, when in reality there are worse things that could happen and just like the article said the likely that you are overreacting or being melodramatic is very high. This is why I feel that when you fail that you can't just fall in to state of self pity but step back and look at everyone else and take into consideration that they could be going through worse and something worse will happen to you at some point.
I think I am quite resilient when it comes to facing challenges and i don't like to dwell on my failures. But that is a very difficult question to ask. Every situation is difficult to handle.. But most of the time I try and keep pushing through it and keep smiling through the pain. I can get over a step back or a challenge. I just have to look at the situation in a different prospective. But whenever i'm faced with a challenge I can overcome it. I have discussed my failures to my mother and that has helped me push through them and know I can do it. When sharing with friends or family members it brings you closer with one other and makes you feel a lot better.and bouncing back from that failure with a mindset that will prevent it from happening again is key. Trust me this is a hard thing to do but u have to ave the correct mindset and you have to know you can do it.
I think I am quite resilient when it comes to facing challenges and I don’t like to dwell on my failures. I would much rather learn from them and move on. Yes, I do believe that we should talk about our failures, so you are not keeping all that embarrassment inside of you and some people may even learn from your mistakes. I personally have not had a large enough failure to go to a friend and open up about it however if I do, I’m sure I would consult a friend or an adult instead of letting the shame build up inside of me. Social media may limit one’s resilience because people are very harsh and will sometimes make fun of you and this will cause people to be less willing to admit defeat. So yes, social media may inhibit a person’s willingness to admit defeat. I can recall a time when I overcame failure, and this was in school when my computer died and my essay that I had been working on got deleted. I was able to overcome this by working hard and making a new one that was better than the first one. My advice to people that are facing failure is don’t get discouraged and try again.
Be resilient can be very difficult.
I don't really know how resilient I am. I'm someone who can be very sensitive. Where something hurts me a lot happens, very likely to cry, that's the way I am.
If I'm mad, sad, afraid or even exhausted, I will cry. Otherwise I'll act like I don't care, because I really don't.
I always try to act like I'm strong outside, in front of my family or my friends, and sometimes It works.
The worst is when they understand that something is wrong, because at that moment I literally blow it.
How resilient am i ? A very difficult question ! Every situation is difficult to handle for exemple every failure, rejection... Most of the time i just try to forget or just keep smilling. All I do is cry behind this smile and try to act like i'm strong outside but in fact it's just a mask and i'am weak and just need help.
But i'am always positive and just keep breathing !
And I think the best solution is to talk and stay strong because your not alone! Don't forget to talk to your mother or your father or your dog if you doesn't have any of it you really should talk to your lamp!
Queen Bey.
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I feel as if Instagram and other social media give us a fake persona or a figure that we aren’t since you cant see what people are actually doing its easy to lie about what is actually happening but some people do see it as a way to show their struggle with the world instead of keeping it private and the people that don’t do that seem to make their lives look great or better than other people’s when In reality they are going through the same or worse struggles as the people that show them
I had faced a failure not to long ago where I was in a position of being in denial or facing reality it turns out there was no changing the outcome and that I would basically have to be resilient which isn’t very normal of me I tend to keep feelings in side of me so letting this go was hard but I had to come to terms with it and it helped me learn a lesson my advice for others is to move on while you can because while your worried about something that has already happened you could be having the time of your life.
I personally think I am more resilient than what I present myself to be. But I can get over a setback or challenge, I just must view the situation from a different perspective. But I tend to over analyze the outcome and end up putting myself down. But eventually I can just make light out of the situation and laugh about it. I usually share my struggles with an outside party, but normally people come to me with their struggles because I am very good with giving advice. It often feels like a weight gets lifted off my shoulders. I’ve learned that its good to open about your struggles and get help where its needed. When it comes to social media if you say your failed at something people tend to say that they have had the same problems and even joke about it, its just good to see that people have their flaws and that failure isn’t as rare as you think it is. So that helped me be more resilient. The last time I was able to overcome a failure is when I had a presentation to do, I was worried about messing up. But then I thought about how I felt about someone that messed up, and I realized that they would probably feel the same way. So when I got up there I was less nervous. The advice I would have for other people is to fake it until you make it, if you have a friend in that class or group then ask them to give feedback.
When it comes to me personally, I find myself in situations more often than not where I am facing challenges and possible setbacks they may or may not deter me from being successful in the given situation. Challenges that I encounter may negatively affect the amount success I achieve in what I am doing. When I am faced with a challenge I can’t overcome, failure may occur. Failure is something that I am not fond of, and avoiding it at all cost is something I try hard to do. Though when, or if I fail, I know how important it is to not dwell on my failure. As difficult as it is. Coming to terms with failure, realizing why you failed, and bouncing back from that failure with a mindset that will prevent it from happening again is key. That is not easy at all though. I myself have felt failure, throughout sports, and as much as it sucks to lose, dwelling on it will only lead to losing more in the future.
When it comes to dealing with setbacks or challenges it is a bit difficult to be resilient. In the moment I am upset that I have failed but, once you begin to process your failure you begin to think about how you can improve the next time. I do believe that talking about your failures can make you more productive in the future because it enables you to really hear what exactly you did wrong which makes a person less arrogant, therefore benefiting them in any work environment. I have discussed my failures with my mother before and it made me feel more open-minded to failure and how to overcome it. I believe social media restricts people’s resilience because people begin to feel more ashamed about their failure as social media is a place where people are constantly posting their success. Growing up I have overcome the challenge of public speaking by practicing and learning from my mistakes.
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When it comes to dealing with setbacks and challenges, I’m not resilient, but it also depends on the situation, but most of the time I’m not really resilient. If the challenges have a good or bad outcome, I would be able to accept it, but it’s a bad outcome then I won’t be able to move on easily. If it’s a bad outcome, then I would be determined to know what are the right choices that should be made to have a good outcome. After reading this article, I’m not very convinced on talking about my failures would make me happier and more productive in the future because I’m more of a shy person and wouldn’t want to embarrass myself intentionally. But I have shared struggles with a friend and adult, and I also have people that open up to me about their challenges. When I share my struggles to a friend or adult, it’s like getting to know each other more and create a closer relationship, and sometimes they would give advice that I would learn from. I think sharing your struggles might be helpful to some people, because it can help build relationship and sometimes it relieves some stress when you believe that someone is there to support you to overcome those struggles.
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I think the social media makes us less resilient because sometimes social media can get out of control and start scandals or sometimes truths that can ruin one’s life. People these days tend to be on social media all the time and if bad things about you are posted and went viral, then it would make them less resilient because people need support to overcome situations sometimes. There was a time I was able to successfully overcome a failure, I tried my best to work my hardest to not make the same mistake again. And I think as long as you try, you can overcome almost any challenge.
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With the overall issues I’ve had, I don’t think that speaking to someone I trust has fixed what I was struggling with, but I do think that it helped me get some of my own thoughts out of my head. Being stuck with this idea that you’ve failed wasn’t the greatest mindset I had, and I think letting your thoughts out can help relieve you of the anxiety. Even typing about these thoughts that I’ve had before is difficult, despite it being vague of the failures I’ve gone through. Social media, even without me wanting it to, has played a huge role in my life. It’s been a way for others to speak without having the uncomfortable reality of being face to face. Negative or positive, social media finds its way within communities and can truly affect someone’s attitude. I think social media has shown people how to fit in to whatever social norm they fall upon. It builds this resilience that’s not always true to self.
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When it comes to challenges or setbacks those are things that I usually to try to be as resilient as possible with. Sometimes I can accept the outcome, other times it is hard to move on and I keep looking back at the challenge that I couldn’t overcome and see what I did wrong and regret the outcome repeatedly. Talking about the failures can help sometime but, they bring back the emotions that are put away so that they aren’t seen again. Most of the time, when I look back at my failure’s I can change the way I react to those types of situations in the future. Sharing my struggles may be the hardest thing to do. Usually I share my struggles with my mom and some close friends but, it has become harder. After learning from the past of having horrible friends who couldn’t have my back makes it hard to share my struggles. At times it is still hard to admit to my struggles, no one as well as myself ever want to hear that we are wrong. So, talking about it makes it even harder. Although it is hard for many to admit to their struggles but, social media plays a role into it as well. People use social media as an outlet which can be helpful but, with social media comes the public people who are followers who have opinions which may be negative. The negative opinions give the person who shares the challenge feel less resilient and less likely to push through the challenge.
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Resilience; the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. Resilience was never something I was confident in having. I’m generally a reserved person; not extremely shy but not one to voice my opinions right when they come to mind either. I don’t tend to let it show that I had a setback but inside my thoughts consume me to the point where I can’t stop thinking about what I could have done better. Eventually, I do seem to get over complications but there’s always something lingering in the back of my head as if I had failed.
Again, being a reserved person- I don’t usually talk about my failures. I think that talking about them would change the way how I feel depending on who I’m talking to. Weirdly, I feel like it’s easier to speak to a stranger about my failures, maybe because it’s because they believe that this failure was meaningless when really, people who knew who I was as a person would know that I’d beat myself up over it. So, I don’t think happiness would be a word to describe how I feel after opening up about my experience with failure, rather, a feeling of relief that someone other than me knows.
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One big challenge that I face almost every day is having older siblings that I must compare myself to. I must do just as good or even better than what they have done which adds a lot of pressure. This pressure can sometimes be something I cannot handle but, every day I push myself to overcome that challenge and do my very best to do what is best for me. As a person who struggles a lot it is best to talk to someone as you go through it. Make sure that the person that you talk to is someone you can trust, and you know will help you through the process. Also, reflect on the times where you were able to pass those challenge and the ones that you didn’t get through but, don’t be harsh on yourself about it. You reflect on them to help you get through the next challenge in life and that is the only thing to hope for.
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No matter how strong anyone can act on the outside, we never know how they truly feel. It seems easy to say that opening up would solve anything, but it’ll always lead to judgement in some way or form. I can’t say that I've ever completely successfully overcame a failure. To be honest, I’ve either forgotten the challenge or days go by where I still think about what I could have changed. I can’t seem to recall a time where I had a pep talk within my mind where overcame an unresolved issue. I do think that people can overcome their challenges, and maybe I have too without myself even realizing it. This wasn’t written to be negative in any way, but more of as a reminder that not every comment must be overly positive. I tried to keep this to a bare minimum of both truth and reality. The human mind is illimitable, and I’d like to say that with an open heart and mind.
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I think I take failure mentally and don’t show much emotion when I have done something wrong. Failure is a mental challenge for me and it’s something that’s hard for me to get over. The reason I say this is because instead of just moving on I keep the pain internally and it stays in my head for a long time which is frustrating because everyone knows the feeling of thinking you could have done better or knowing you could have done better.
After reading this article I feel happier to express my failures because I know now that they are more acceptable than success in other words people like open people rather than people who show that they are the best at everything.
I have shared my struggle with my peers but I always felt as they thought it was a way for me to make them pity me or feel bad about my life and what happens not knowing that’s not my intention I wouldn’t ask anyone to feel pity for me because everyone goes through their struggles I feel as if anyone that I tell a failure to should look at it as a sign of trust and faith.
When it comes to resilience of myself, I would say I am very resilience. I am also able to accept the outcome with the challenges that present me and be able to move on. Although I sometimes pounder over some challenges that do confront me, I usually don’t think about it too much and move on because I have much more important things that I need to accomplish in my life. Talking about your feelings with someone else does help you be more productive and happier in the future cause it helps you to know that you have a group of people or a person that cares about what is wrong and would want to help and comfort you when you feel upset and down. Yea I have shared my feeling with someone, it felt good to finally let go of what was inside of my head and let go of my feelings and not let it cloud my head anymore. I learned that you can trust people and yes it was helpful so that you can improve yourself and feel relived from the feelings that clouded my head. The role social media plays in this is that we are constantly being challenged and confronted about our opinions and how we are reacting to it making it impossible to let our feeling in fear that people around us will bully us and feel like the world is out to get us when it's just in our minds. One challenge that I could recall is learning how to play the guitar it was challenging cause it would hurt my figures and it was hard to change notes since my fingers would always be hurting but with practice and hard work
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When it comes to dealing with setbacks/challenges I am very resilient. I have been through many setbacks and challenges to where they motivate me to become more resilient. I can accept the outcomes and process it and move on. This is because when you face so many setbacks/challenges it gets easier. After reading this article, I am convinced that talking about your failures would make you happier and more productive in the future, but it truly does depend on the person. I believe this because everyone is different, for some it may be good to get it out and be related to and for some keeping it to themselves can benefit them. I have kind of shared my struggles with friends and people have opened to me about their challenges. The experience was very loving I would say, and I felt better after ranting and opening up to someone. When people open up to me I help them often offering advice and just generally making them feel better. When you can relate to the person it often benefits you both as you may be able to heal with the person or that person knows it happens and they aren’t alone. The role I think social media plays in our inability to admit our defeats is it is very negative. I think social media tends to make us less resilient. Although, it does depend on what pages you are on as social media brings a lot of negativity and hate in this world.
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Social media can also tear people down to make them think their opinions are wrong and make people more self-conscious. The time I can recall I was successfully able to overcome a challenge was when I was injured for 4 months from sports. When I got back to the sport I was struggling and wasn’t seeing the improvement I needed and then with motivation and being resilient I was back to where I needed to be and saw improvement. The advice I have to those facing tough times and may even be reading this is stay strong, don’t give up, it will get better I promise, and you are not alone and you are loved by many.
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I would say that I am not a very resilient person. I try my best to produce perfect assignments and face all challenges with an open mind but sometimes, things do not go as expected and I am left with a feeling of failure. I agree with the article that when I do mess up, instead of learning from that experience, I try my best to cover it up or, forget about it completely. I admit that instead of talking about my mistakes, I try to internalize it so that I won’t look unprofessional or dramatic. I think that the article is correct when it says that talking about these mistakes can cause a more open, trusting, and more productive environment, and I feel that if people, including myself, started to feel more open about talking about their mistakes, they could become more resilient and confident.
Me personally I am a very resilient person when it comes to dealing with challenges. I like to face those challenges and do what I can to fight and get through those challenges. I might not always get through some setback, but I will get to a point where I am okay with the outcome. I try to learn from my mistakes and not think to much on what I have done wrong. No, I don’t feel convinced that about talking about failures I will become more happier and more productive because as of right now I have not talked about my failures and I am still here pushing through what I have to do to succeed every day. No, I have not opened to anyone other maybe my parents once or twice because sometimes I don’t feel like I need the help, sometimes I don’t want to drag people in, and other times I just don’t fell like people care enough so I keep it to myself. As well as no one that I know of has really opened to anything I would be willing to help if they did but no has yet. Social media can either play a role in helping help us to revolt against defeat or bring us down against defeat it all depends where and when you are on social media. It depends social media can help as well as destroy us in being resilient, it all really depends on who you are as a person.
I consider myself resilient when dealing with obstacles or failure, but only in the moment. I tend to disregard problems when they arise, and somehow find a way to quickly get around them, or just ignore there is an issue all together. This works fine until my oblivion gets the best of me; and I find myself drowning in the challenges I once laughed off, however this time they are not as funny.
I agree that talking about our failures can help us feel happier and work more productively in the future. It takes humility to openly talk about your issues when it seems that everyone around you is doing just fine. It’s interesting how the article says to have face-to-face questions about our failure rather than on social media.
The article says to say “Can you help me with this?” to a colleague, framing a positive outlook on the matter, rather than going on about your failures helplessly. It says that sharing your failures with others helps you get their input and assistance, makes you feel less secluded, and helps both you and the other person learn from what you did. Even if you don't share your failure with others, it is still beneficial to reflect on it personally and consider what actions you could have took. I was shocked that rather than being so focused on competition, some companies are even sharing their failures with other companies to learn from each other. I think we should all try to do this more often, to humbly and resiliently learn from our failures together.
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Failing is something we do daily. It is a normal thing, no one should be embarrassed if they fail. I see failure as a learning experience. For example, in sports if you mess up it only benefits you in the long run. You learn from the mistake and the next time it happens you can fix it.“I believe that almost everyone can benefit from sharing and hearing another perspective,” said Tasha Eurich, a psychologist. “It’s healthy to ask about what went wrong in a meeting. You have to engage other people in that process of learning.” Talking about failing can be a positive thing. The more people you talk to about it, the more answers you'll get. You will end up having many solutions to solve the issue. Failure is always a positive thing, if you don't fail at some point in your life you're doing something wrong.
I like to think of my self as pretty resilient when it comes to problems. I treat the problems I am having like a learning expirence so if I have a similar problem in the future it can be solved better.I think talking about your failures is good because you can get some advice from a adult or a trusted friend. Me personally I like to talk to my parents about some problems because I can get a more straight forward answer.I think social media can affect people if there abscessed with it.They will probably rely mostly on there social media and I think that is not very healthy or makes anything better. One time I had a bad grade on a test in math and it broke me. But I was determined to get a passing grade in that class so I studied hard and my grade went all the way up to a B.
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There have been many challenges in my athletic career between injuries nt making a time being tired or having to much on my plate. I usually have to find something deep down in me to push myself, get help from someone, or make time or do what you feel like you have to do to get over that hump.
In school, we are faced with failure and rejection constantly. When it comes to dealing with challenges, I am not very resilient because, I tend to get stuck and dwell on the smallest details, which ends up meaning that I spend more time on simple tasks, leaving me with less time for other work that needs to be done. Sometimes if a teacher grades an assignment super harshly I won't let it go and then I have a negative attitude towards the teacher, which doesn't help raise my grade. I can usually get over my bad attitude if the teacher explains to me what needs to be fixed or if I find out people got similar grades. I believe resilience is not just how fast someone can “bounce back”, but how fast someone can change their attitude to improve an incident. Mr. Babur tells us to talk about our failures with friends. In school, when getting a grade back I talk to my friends almost immediately to see how I did among them if we got a similar grade, and then I think of better study techniques for the next test to try and get higher.
In my opinion, sports are when you have to be the most resilient. While doing Cross Country, the first mile everyone is doing relatively well, but then the second mile is the worst because you are in the middle with what seems like no end in sight. Finally, the third mile and you are pushing yourself to go as fast as possible. Running shows resilience because halfway through, you want to just quit, but in the end, you are proud that you finished strong.
Everybody fails. Everybody. It's what makes us human, but to say that we learn from our mistakes is an understatement. We are built from our mistakes. The way we bounce back from our falls emulates the kind of people we are.
In "Talking About Failure Is Crucial for Growth. Here's How to do It Right" the author talks about how most people try to deal with failure internally rather than to communicate it with others. The risk of embarrassing ourselves further prevents most people from communicating their failures but communicating them can be beneficial. Not only can it ease our worries about our failures but it can also strengthen the bond between our friends and classmates.
Our failures are the cornerstones of our personalities. Without failure we learn nothing. But the way we retaliate from our failures is a choice the reflects the way we go about our lives. Do we hide in the shadows, waiting for them to pass or do we face them head on, fearlessly.
When I am faced with challenges or setbacks, I tend to dwell on what went wrong and think about it for a long time. When I fail at something it's frustrating because it's always at the back of my mind but overtime, I can accept the outcome and move on. Talking about your failures can make you feel lighter because it's like a weight would be lifted of your shoulders. Bottling up your failures would only hurt you in the future because instead of receiving the help you’ll end up making the same mistakes over and over. When someone shares their struggles with me and comes to me for help I feel trusted and happy that people can confine in me. I’ve told my close friends my struggles before and it really helps you feel less stressed. One challenge I was able to overcome was riding a bike, advice that I would give to someone who is struggling with something is talk about it.
I have been through a lot of adversary in my life. Most of these instances have been small, and have not damaged my ego. But recently in America a much bigger issue has really impacted me, this issue being vaping. If you talk to pretty much anybody they will tell you that vaping is bad and people who vape are dumb. That hurts. As a vaper myself, I can admit that things began to take a turn for the worst in late 2018, when teachers began to crack down on students like me. I have had strangers yell at me in public, posters insult me with statistics, and I have even witnessed countless peers jump on the ani-vaping bandwagon. It is painful to know that you don't belong, and that there are people out there who will make you their enemy just for one small action. I feel dehumanized and rejected. Why is it that here in America, the land of the free, people don't want me to do what makes me happy. So how am I supposed to handle this situation? How am I supposed to continue living my life, hiding the fact that deep inside I am not living at all? What do I do to move on? I vape.
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This was a very inspiring comment, I really am able to understand your struggles in life and how you are forced to deal with them. You are stronger than you think. You’ve survived all your challenges to this point… And you will survive whatever is coming. But next time a struggle comes I don’t want you to curse the skies. Know that it was sent for a reason and a lesson. It might be to make you stronger, it might be to teach you patience, it might be for you to show others your spirit, there is a reason. So don’t you give up. You have a purpose in this world. And you will only find it if you keep going and keep GROWING.
When it comes to dealing with challenges, I’m not that resilient but, I persevere regardless after stressing over it a little. I am able to accept the outcome and move on, however. After reading the article I do believe that talking about your failures does help if you tell someone you trust, because telling someone you don’t trust could only make it worse rather than make you feel comfortable like someone you trust would. Yes, I have heard and told challenges. To listen to the challenges/ failures I feel bad and want to comfort people and be there, but I also feel awkward not knowing how to respond. When I am the one telling no matter who it is, I feel vulnerable scared that they could use it against me or react in a bad day. Depending on what is being told it could be helpful. The role social media plays in us admitting defeat is a non-supportive one. When people admit defeat on social media they are usually seen as losers and are made fun of for it. Depending on the person social media could make us resilient if an insecure person admits defeat and social media begins to attack it, they will be more insecure and even depressed. If a strong person does this, they may just let it pass or ignore it in general. A time I overcame a challenge wasn’t long ago and the way I overcame was focused on what I was there for and not let what others say get to me. If you are facing tough times focus on the people that care about you, and on yourself in general.
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When dealing with challenges in my life, I tend to be very resilient. I never dwell on the same topic for a while due to the fact that it isn't good for your mental health. I always move on and think of positive things rather than stressing over the same challenge over and over.
After reading this article, I do believe that talking about my failures will make me happier and more productive in the future. The reason why I say this is because I will not have any built up stress and anger. I will be able to talk to someone and receive empathy.
I have shared a struggle with my friend, when I was talking about my soccer team, and it was when I wanted to quit. My friend gave me advice that was helpful, and told me to push through the rest of the season because it is the right thing to do.
Social media makes us less resilient due to the fact that if you post your challenges people might have or not agree with you.
A time I remember is wanting to quit my soccer team. My friends and family told me to continue with the season because I made a commitment. They morally helped me push through the season and actually winning a championship.
People face rejection often, maybe more often than anyone would like. Perhaps I feel rejected often because I am very critical of myself. In my perspective, rejection comes in many different forms. Rejection can be obvious, such as not being accepted into a college. It can also be very subtle, such as being spoken to in a passive, aggressive, or dare I say...a passive aggressive tone of voice. I am very familiar with the latter form of rejection. Because of my familiarity with the experience, I can be very resilient to this type of failure or dismissal. In the moment I have no trouble ignoring this rejection or even biting back, but more often than I would like, I have a hard time forgetting it. I constantly remind myself of things that I have said or of things said to me, and I can not help but think, “I should’ve done/said that differently.” Obviously there is no way to change the past, and most times the easiest thing to do is move on. Even then, although it is the simplest action to take, following through is not easy for me. There is no one inside my head to remind me, “What’s done is done,” or “You don’t need to worry.” So maybe I could be considered resilient by those around me, but I do not think I could ever be resilient enough for my own standards.