The Sound of Silence

Dec 27, 2018 · 36 comments
HJB (Brazil)
Maybe my comment will help other people that like me tried all sorts of environmental noises, white noise, mechanical noises, "sleep music" and various other "noises" without success. What makes me fall asleep is to hear people talking not in my native language. By listening to some talk shows or documentaries in English, I am able to relax and fall asleep.
Harper Hatheway (Coronado )
When I was a child I was fascinated by listening to the radio at night. First with the simple type of just a crystal, grounding clip and earphone. Later I used many types of radio, earphone or low volume, depending on being with a partner or alone. Podcasts now offer an unlimited supply of sound and entertainment to lull me to sleep! I can certainly empathize with users of white noise.
Humphrey (Los Angeles )
Solution: stop using electronics and any light whatsoever at least an hour before bedtime. Also, an air purifier and blackout cutains solves the noise and light pollution.
JH (Los Angeles)
I've used a white noise machine for 10 years. I suffered sexual abuse as a kid and am hyper vigilant in bed. For a long time I couldn't sleep with my wife in the same room. Now I use it everywhere I go, and strongly believe it played a major factor in my wife and I being able to share a bed and have a more intimate marriage, both physically and emotionally.
Nancy Pogadias (Albany, CA)
I am an avid birder. Moving to Central London several years ago posed a big sleep interruption-The British Robin, whose lovely little song begins particularly in the winter months around 3:30am! I purchased a Marla’s Dohm sound machine and it sits on the floor next to the bed, plugged into a timer. I love it! Masking those early morning shower sounds and banging doors while traveling, I use the Soundly Sleeping app on my iPad or iPhone.
Suzabella (Santa Ynez, CA)
I have been using a white noise machine for years. I always travel with it. It's compact enough to pack easily. It also has several frequencies of sound. I do find that at times the sound I'm trying to mask varies in frequency so this addition is a big help.
JSPS (California)
I suggest that you check out of Bose noise cancelling headphones. They are comfortable, and work well to dampen noise. You could use them along with your white noise apps. PS. I do not work for the Bose corporation.
vacciniumovatum (Seattle)
@JSPS I always travel with Bose noise cancelling headphones. I don't know how people survive on an airplane without them. It also works great if I want to sleep in and a neighbor is doing outside work (lawn mowing, as an example). And at work, it dulls the annoying group sounds. I don't work for Bose either.
BobMeinetz (Los Angeles)
A self-discovered sleep aid, requiring only some concentration for the 30 seconds before you fall asleep: slow your breathing, while regulating its amplitude (depth) to take the shape of a sine wave. You can google "sine wave" if you don't know what one looks like. In theory, it forces brain waves into harmonics of the same fundamental frequency and reduces anxiety. Getting drowsy, just practicing it right now.
Jeremy Hoffman (Mountain View, CA)
White noise machines are effective, energy efficient, and harmless (assuming the volume isn't turned to 11). Seriously, try them out! Adults and kids can always benefit from more restful sleep.
ivanogre (S.F. CA)
Seeing both the Marfan and the Sound+Sleep Mini in your illustration pleased me. I wish I'd have bought the Marfan 30 years ago, it works so well. The S.S.M. is almost infinitely adjustable and the volume can be turned way up. They really work.
SMD (San Francisco)
Just FYI to the author, “data” is a plural term. ;)
Scott Werden (Maui, HI)
@SMD Yes but common usage is for it to be treated as singular with the net result that it sounds odd to most people when it is treated as plural. This is where a style guide, which I am sure the NY Times has, sorts out whether to treat "data" as singular or plural.
vacciniumovatum (Seattle)
@Scott Werden Datum is the singular term.
Nreb (La La Land)
Have a few beers and get some rest.
Wheaton (Wheaton IL)
To fall asleep, my husband and I use the Lectrofan white noise machine along with a regular box fan on low speed (he has tinnitus). But if I wake up at night, my mind starts buzzing and I have a hard time falling back asleep. What I have learned is to do the adult version of a lullaby - an Audible book. I have an old phone I kept and I listen to the very same Audible book every time so that there are no surprises and I know what will happen next. I use comfy ear buds (so I don't wake my husband) and put the phone on the lowest volume setting and do a 15-minute Audible timer. Nothing works better for me. When I travel, I do the same thing in hotels.
Steve Matter (Decorah, IA)
The piercing back-up beeps that are being installed on an increasingly number of trucks and vans. There are safer, less obstrusive options
vacciniumovatum (Seattle)
@Steve Matter The same mandatory feature exists on hybrids. This will only get worse. It's better than car alarms, though.
Marion (Florida)
Fortunately, or maybe unfortunately, noise isn’t a problem for me because when I remove my hearing aids at night I can’t hear anything. My problem is I need total darkness, almost impossible without unplugging or turning off everything that emits light...clock, humidifier, router, power strip...
Shannon (MN)
How about a comfy black silk face mask?
Karen (New Rochelle, NY)
@Marion There is a something called LightDims Black Out Edition - Light Blocking LED covers / Light Dimming Sheets for Routers, Electronics and Appliances and more. Blocks 100% of Light. You can get them on Amazon. The package contains several common sizes. I have blocked all the lights on our devices in the bedroom. So much better!
Rhyta (Utah)
@Marion Try a sleep mask, have used one for many years and it helps block those led lights and other distractions really well. My husband has used one for over 5 years now and swears by it.
Chuck Burton (Steilacoom, WA)
My condo on the Pacific Coast of Mexico provides its own white noise, the gentle (or not so gentle) sound of the surf 24/7. A little noisy and discordant for the first few fall days after my arrival, it soon settles into a beloved lullaby for the next six months. Mother Nature knows best.
Frank (<br/>)
And for those of us who can only visit the surf, there are white noise machines, including the app mentioned early in the article, that have ocean surf sounds.
Kathryn (New York, NY)
My husband and I are addicted to our sound machine! No waterfalls or rain forests for us. We like the setting called “City.” Our sound machine has been a godsend.
Roxanne Henkle (Jacksonville, Fl)
I would like to believe that the upsurge in using white noise to lull you to sleep is due to the inability to stop all electronic usage at a reasonable hour. We cannot wind down our brains. We stay up way too late, stimulating our brains. I stopped playing video games a number of years ago because of the intensity of play right up until bed time. Then in the course of the night I can recall video game imagery. I have since added a do not disturb section on my phone. I have lived with tinnitus since I was twelve and do not know silence. People who can go to the country to experience the silence, in my head the noise is deafening. In my area we have trains that pass through the night, after a rain, frogs make their presence known to potential mates and to anyone else in the area. Your brain can get used to the everyday noise that surrounds you. It is up to you to figure out what you can live with and what will annoy you. My house hums constantly. The Mini split runs, a real clock that ticks the seconds, a kind of loud refrigerator, a 24 hour gym across the street from me. (that took some time to getting used to) My main issue is light pollution over noise. More and more my neighbors have added glaring and blaring white/blue lights that cancel out the dark. My city changed the street lights to a white/blue led lighting that also adds to the eliminating of the night. Rox of Spazhouse, Intuitive Research
david (<br/>)
@Roxanne Henkle i'm with you on the light thing. i live in a tightly spaced residential neighborhood and everyone has front and back lights and some people leave them ob all the time. i have my front light masked so that it only illuminates the door. the guy across the street just installed horrendously bright lights over his driveway that illuminate the front of my house. what to do? down in the cellar i have an old reflector spotlight that has a bulb a foot in length. once i fix the power cord, i'll show them. for the noise, i've slept with a fan for years.
Anthony White (Chicago)
I don't need any gizmos, I just need complete darkness, and as little noise as possible living in Chicago, thats very hard. Sirens all times of the night, and the light pollution is insane. I almost resorted to a blindfold and ea plugs, but wearing that would also inhibit my sleep.
ivanogre (S.F. CA)
Get blackout curtains for your bedroom window and opaque bits of tape for the leds in the room. If the curtains can't be done find something you can spray or paint on the glass to make it light-proof. A small towel can go at the base of the bedroom door. Sweet dreams.
RMS (<br/>)
The last two paragraphs spoke to me. We are in the midst of an on-going suspense story which makes it difficult to stop engaging with the media. And we (or, at least I), definitely do not move enough during the day to wear myself out physically.
JacksonG (Maine)
I live in a town on an island in Maine's Penobscot Bay. It's wonderfully quiet most of the time, especially at night, so no white noise is necessary for me. The worst noise problem here, at least in my thinking, is what I call the red-neck muffler, the muffler on a car or truck that is installed to intentionally make the vehicle exhaust noise louder. Some people actually like noise, for some mysterious and complex psychological reasons, and the companies that manufacture those things probably have lobbyists in D.C. and in State Houses that keep the noise laws in communities as ineffective as possible. I put a bumper sticker on my car that says, "Honk if you [heart] noise." It's meant to be ironic, of course, but the irony seems to escape most people.
Laura (S. Africa)
@JacksonG I live part-time in Camden, Maine (probably not far from you), and the town clock's hourly ringing drives me nuts. When I requested the clock keeper (a volunteer) if they could shut off the hourly ringing from 12 - 6 am, he was thoroughly offended... He said it would be "unethical" ... I disagree.
Jim (PA)
My favorite white noise generator while sleeping is a purring cat smooshed up against the side of my head.
JARenalds (Oakland CA)
@Jim Nice. Can I borrow yours when you go out of town?
northcoastcat (cleveland)
@Jim I am lucky to have a cat who loves to purr all night with her head close to mine.
fpjohn (New Brunswick)
Surely, the number of gizmos needed given darknress is exactly none.