I think that everyone has to be careful with who they are going to be with,because they can get sexually transmitted diseases. Having intercourse with a person you don’t know has a lot of risk to your life. You don’t know the type of person you are getting involved with. It is a risk not to use protection when you go to a party and drink alcohol or do drugs.
Gregory Amenta
I think consent is a firm "yes". If either parties says "no" or "stop" the other person has to stop. If both people are drunk (like in article) it really depends. This is a real gray area. But, both people should probably be prepared for this. Being prepared could be discussing whether or not you want to do it or bringing condoms. If one person tries to have sex with his/her partner without consent (especially when they are drunk) this should be considered rape, in my opinion. A lot of people think that the #meto is ruining sex. If more people start relying on consent, there will be less stress and consequences.
After reading the article and all these stories from all over the country, I think it's pretty obvious that rape cases are becoming more common not just in the US but the whole world and most people nowadays do not even care anymore to be honest. To those who have shared their story in this article kudos to them because it takes a lot of courage to do that and I think it was hard for them on what they've gone through I don't know them but I wish them the best of everything because they did not deserve to be treated like that. For me, it breaks my heart knowing that there is someone out there being treated like that and no one is helping them. Also, I think that this could be prevented if people have some respect for their partner's decisions or if their partner refuses to have sex with them they should take it seriously until they are ready. I have sisters, friends, and relatives that are female and the thought of anything happening to them just makes me enraged. one day, I hope that we would find a solution to this problem and would not have to worry about it anymore.
If their is no consent, the answer is no. Make sure your partner is always ready before you even get it in, you don't want to feel pressured or nervous in a situation like that. If it's a yes, then make sure it's an actual yes.
I believe if there isn't a verbal "YES" then the answer is no. This goes for males and females. Society is so quick to pin guys as the ones with issues hearing "yes" that we forget about women in the same boat. Always wait for an affirmed yes before you even start attempting it, and always use protection
After reading the articles i feel that everyone should respect if someone is not ready and says no. That goes for both males and females . Always use protection also, because i know a guy who threw away his used condoms at the girls house and the girl retrieved the discarded condoms and using a turkey baster injected herself with the semen. She became pregnant and now the guy that was supposed to be going to college for football had to stay home and take care of his new family. Also always take your condoms with you as proof that you didn't rape the female because my dad once was accused of raping a female because he didn't want to go to prom with her. When he told the police where the used condoms were and they found them he was let off because the used condoms showed that he didn't rape the female who accused him.
You should always know if your partner wants to have sex. If they indicate that they are not in the mood or say no, THEN KEEP IT IN YOUR PANTS. Sex is not worth a rape case or traumatizing another person because you want some. You should be able to easily tell if the other person wants to do naughty stuff but if they are holding back, ask them how they feel and see if they still want it.
When I read this I thought it was a sad. There are stories in there about women being the aggressors, about coercion in gay relationships, and of course coercion by men. This is not a witch hunt this is the reality for many people. also if you are the boy in the relationship and you are pressuring the female and she agrees to have sex with you you better make sure she really agreeing with it because you never want to force anything.
I feel that as humans growing from generation to generation, we must address the importance of consent. School and parents also should take part in kids/young adults understanding of who they give their consent to. It is important for people in general to know not just what it is but the importance of it, because many people nowadays would look right past it. Especially the type of situations nowadays teens put them selves in based on the nowadays trends. I know that no means no and I also have the respect to give a female, and myself for who I give my consent to.
consent is the green light in society. After reading the articles of these college students some of theses dudes are creeps. When under the influence and both of you are no thing and you have sexual contact, it is better to talk about it after and see if their okay with the fact that you had sexual intercourse. Do not enter an women's private space without consent because that will be consider rape.
In the era of today sex is taken to lightly. Everyone wants it but not everyone can say no to the stress of being put under the pressure of sex. Even thought they say "Yes" doesn't mean that's what the person really wants. In the era we live in, young women in high school and college are pressured to say yes due to the status of "if you don't have sex your not going to fit in." This stresses the younger generation that follow the older generation as that is what they are taught. Men are pressured to have sex also or they get bullied for not having sex or being a virgin. Consent ISN'T CONSENT when your are drunk or under the influence of drugs. This can be considered as rape. We as a young generation need to set a status quo that it is understandable to say no to sex. Not say yes due to peer pressure of drugs, but speak from the mind of what you really want.
This generation females don't know how to use the word "NO." Sex is advertised everywhere in ads, movies, tv shows, social media. Sex is seemed to be as a normal thing which will peer pressure someone into having it because they see it as normal and everyone no matter what age group does it. Sex use to be seen as an intimate thing, something special you enjoy with one person you want to spend the rest of your life with and this generation changed that everybody gives it up so young and have it with multiple partners.
@Ariana 2775 TEC
Not all men or women are pressured into sex. I agree with you that sex is advertised in TV and movies. Teenagers are not using protection. It is weird that teenagers are not doing the right thing. I think teens need to be aware of what is going to happen.
After reading this article I think everyone should be respected with their consent and others. I feel like females should be honest to males if they are feeling uncomfortable in any situation.
As a christian, i've always believed in abstinence until marriage, i've never been in the position to be told no or even be in the position in the first place. i believe that no means no, anything that contradicts that is wrong, if she/he says no, stop there. people make mistakes, advance to far, and then make stupid decisions, but when you hear the word no, it shouldnt be taken lightly. this world advertises the idea of sex to the young generation like never before, exposing us to the possibility of a situation where we may be faced with the opportunity to say yes or no. people just need to speak up, use their voice, if you dont want it to happen, take the steps necessary to prevent it, because if you say yes when you really meant no, youre just as guilty. this is a serious issue that we need to bring to the attention of our youth, in just hope it isnt to late.
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Consent is an agreement between participants to engage in sexual activity. There are many ways to give consent. Consent doesn’t have to be verbal, but verbally agreeing to different sexual activities can help both you and your partner respect each other’s boundaries. Consenting and asking for consent are all about setting your personal boundaries and respecting those of your partner and checking in if things aren’t clear. Both people must agree to sex every single time for it to be consensual.
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What constitutes sexual consent is whether or not the person is willing to have sex, consent means agreeing actively to sex. In other words, consent is a choice you choose to agree or disagree to sex and it shouldn't be forced. Forcing one to have sex would be considered rape, or forcing someone into trying to be sexually active is causing them peer pressure. In this generation, what we lack is patience. One another should be patient with the other person, if they're ready and willing then that's the right time. If they're not ready and unwilling then it shouldn't be forced upon them to have sex, when they're uncomfortable.
growing up in the generation sex is avertised almost everywhere, from movies and shows evn commercials , to music and videos , i believe a big part of this is due to how social media shows it, its attracting earlier than later, causing teens to feel the need to experience new thing including sex, but even if ur ready to experiment your partner may not be, know if they are interested before making moves
After reading this article I believe everyone should respect one's consent. Consent is a choice that we all make its something you shouldn't look over.
American culture is very, very confusing.
America advertises sex everywhere. No one is safe. Everyone knows what Victoria’s Secret is. Everyone has seen the covers of Cosmo in line at CVS, eyes awkwardly catching on a line that is just enough to make you look away and suddenly become very interested in the candy bars just below the magazine racks. Movies always have the one character that’s thrown in there merely for the sake of being eye-candy. Nearly every YA book features a girl and a guy who probably definitely have a physical relationship.
But American culture also shuns it. Blushes when body parts are mentioned. Squirms at teen pregnancy. Heart begins hammering in chest when health class mentions sex ed, or contraceptives. God forbid someone actually calls a body part what it’s actually called instead of some cutesy name.
In my opinion, this is why young people feel uncomfortable leading up to, during, and after sexual encounters. Even after consensual ones. Because you have the feeling that you did something wrong, something that someone will shame you for later. I can’t speak for guys, because I’m not one. But girls are taught that if you do, you’re a slut. If you don’t, you’re a prude.
Parents and educators, despite what you think, you do have a role. You hand your kid the facts, straight-up, untainted, and you let them navigate it. You cannot live for your kid. Let us actually get there on our own. And don't, for the love of all things, be squeamish.
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Sexual consent is something that is expressed when there have been clear boundaries set, or if the two individuals have a conversation about sex and that they both consent to having it with each other
If someone says yes to sex, but doesn't really want it It's not rape, nor is it rape if both parties are drunk. Regret is not an emotion you can use to call out rape. Unless you were forced or didn't say "no" then you may report it. I think rape or sexual assault is an issue for both genders. As in many cases they've been women who've falsely accused men of rape. Which then damages the real cases. I think the reason why hear mainly from women speaking up is because, Men don't want to seem "unmanly" to admitting to any kind of abuse. To me the #metoo movement should be a reason/tool for men to speak up and be included into the conversation. Truth is men have societal issues of being looked upon as the aggressors. Especially in Western culture...
I do think differently about sexual consent now, i already knew no means no and that if a girl is drunk or under any influence that doesn't make it okay. Hearing all of these college stories make me sick because i have sisters and cousins that are females and the thought of anything happening to them makes me mad. I feel like every guy should have to know they need consent.
what constitutes sexual consent is an agreement between two people.and sometimes a person thinks they just had sex with someone but really it was rape and the partners self will or self esteem was so low that they said they didn't want it but let it happen anyway. i agree with the comment the person named Reason made, because it really is sad how these situations can be avoided. its best to make sure the feelings are mutual before sex.
This article sates a real-life situation which sadly happens a lot nowadays.Females now days don't seem to know the word "NO" because most of the time the female will let the male do something and then turn the table and hold it against the other male for him doing it.If it get to a point where you feel uncomfortable with someone then you need to separate yourself from them and go find something else to do.The man in this situation had the "basic mindset" of a male human being,if a female gives fuel for your fire then it will grow and he male will start to think its good like that and start acting a certain way or thinking some things are OK. And sometimes "best friends" do end up having sex because of that.I think parents need to tell their daughter that's the answer to everything in that category is a "NO".Be smarter.
The idea of consent is clear to me. If someone says no that means no. Mostly saying that it can lead to pure pressure. Forcing should not have to occur I think parents have to show their kids good examples of being consent. Learn how to handle the situation with respect. Even when intoxicated people should know their limits or else they will act out.
This article did not seem to be about consent as much as it was about regret. Parents need to teach their daughters how to be self-possessed, and how to say no, and how to get up and walk out the door if that's what is needed. So sad how all these situations could have been avoided.
This is an issue such as this pollutes the American news networks and it seems that everyday, there is a new story to tell, an new victim to pay respect to. The sad truth however, is that men and women alike need to understand that this issue needs to take immediate precedence over some of the other issues which we deem as more important. The truth is that one's body should not be used as an objectified item for one's selfish pleasure. This has been an issue in the life of the American people for too long. This is not an issue of being branded, 'cool' or 'not'. It is an issue about ethical 'right' and 'wrong'.
I think some people get confused with I'm good or no with I'm playing hard to get. It's not like they are always trying to hurt you but we haven't been taught otherwise. Growing up adults told us that if boys mess with us that means they like us, so that makes me wonder if I break someone's arm does that mean "I love you"? No it doesn't violence is violence not just some sick way to love someone. People's boundaries are people's boundaries not some fun game for you to try and beat.
This article hasn't cleared much up for me because I feel that the message of "no means no" is pretty clear. Consent is only valid when both people are of clear mind. The reason teens that have awkward sexual encounters is because they aren't open about their feelings and where they draw the line. It should be just as simple as talking about it beforehand.
The idea of consent is clear to me. When someone is telling you that they do not want to do something, then respect their decision and listen to what they have to say. With not being respectful to their decision and doing it even when they are telling you no or stop are not always good things. You can end up in a lot of trouble if you do something with out consent of the opposite sex.
An agreement between two people to have a sexual encounter with each other is what constitutes sexual consent. It is not consent if the other person does not want to have a sexual encounter with the other.
There are many factors that go into having sex. Peer pressure, drugs, alcohol, and force. There are sometimes signals that some people give such as a certain hand gesture near a certain area, and the person could nod yes or no. Some people may say yes but will change their mind later, then their partner would try to persuade them otherwise, thus peer pressure. Sometimes they may be at a party and someone could slip something in their drink inducing either lustful desires or a sleep inducing state. Those are obviously drugs and alcohol. Then of course is when people cannot control their urges, they think of nothing else and they force their partner to do what they, whatever their decision was. And that's force otherwise known as rape. Some people say they got caught up in the moment, others don't even remember what happened, and a certain lot never had a choice of when and where they wanted to do it.
The story that stood out the most to me was the story James from Pennsylvania wrote. Both him and the female had sexual activity, she did not want to admit how James was acting. Which led to James read back the old messages between them and made him realize how he was acting. James apologized over what happened that night, which was the right thing for him to do for what happened.